Your mind has to seek discomfort. It has to seek these difficult tasks you have to enjoy it and you have to figure out a way
to make your mind enjoy those things. Some people it comes easy
and some people it doesn't. Some people it takes a long time. I always tell people the best thing you could
ever do is force yourself to a schedule. Just write it down. Like today I have to do
an hour on the treadmill I have to do an hour, no matter what
even if you're walking. You're doing an hour on the treadmill. The next time you're going to do it just okay, you did an hour and this
is the amount of miles you got in next time you're gonna
you know, add 3 miles. Put- put an extra 3 miles in that one hour and just keep doing things like that. Write down, today I’m going
to do a 100 push-ups, I’m going to do 100 sit-ups
and I’m going to do 100 chin-ups that's today and then force yourself. Force yourself to adhere to a schedule. Make a Monday, Wednesday, Friday
workout schedule give yourself some time to- off, you know. Like don't, don't even crush yourself
to the point where you can't do it. Make it so that you really appreciate
those Tuesdays and Thursdays but on Monday, Wednesday and Friday
you're gonna get after it and this is what you're gonna do. Most people just try to go work out and you're kind of aimless and you show up and like when you pick up the jump rope
and you drop a little rope maybe you hit the heavy bag a little bit,
maybe you do some curls but you don't really have an aim. That's why people like to hire trainers
because the trainer will tell you what to do. Well, you can tell yourself what to do if you don't have money for a trainer
you don't even have to have equipment you know, with bodyweight squats,
sit-ups, chin-ups, push-ups you could give yourself a brutal
full body weight workout. And you could find these
for free on YouTube there's a ton of them. There's a ton of these body weight
workouts you could do. Just force yourself, write it down
Monday, Wednesday and Friday I’m going to do 100 push-ups,
I’m going to do 100 chin-ups, I’m going to do 100 sit-ups. Even if it takes me all day. Even if I have to do 10 and 10 and 10
and keep going all day just that's what you do 10 push-ups, take a break
for 20 minutes do another 10. But get those 100 in. I don't believe in half-doing things This life is short you know, if you get into
something, get into it and if you're not into it don't be into it. And I think that insanity and- and greatness are next-door neighbors and they borrow each other's sugar that's- that's my...
that's what I’ve always said there's- there's something about
mastery, like, true mastery that requires you to shut off
massive areas of your life. There's a lot of people that are scared of
their ability to do something that's difficult I don't know if I could force myself
to be disciplined. I don't know if I could force myself
to take that kind of action. Well, if you do force yourself
to take that kind of action you don't have that question anymore. That question,
"I don't know if I can do it" Well, you're doing it. So you obviously can do it,
can you do it tomorrow? You did it today,
why can't you do it tomorrow? Just do it. You get so much more benefit out of
a struggle that you choose to embark in versus a struggle that
life throws upon you. Get out there and go do something just go- just go and then in the middle of doing it
it'll become easy. Even if it's not easy, even if it's hard it's easier than not doing it
and wishing that you had done it. Oftentimes people confuse
discipline with focus and this is what, why that's important. There are things that... some people can excel at because they're focused on them and because they're drawn to it
and they have an incredible passion for it. Versus like, you tell a guy like, hey you know, you're going to study
to be an electrical engineer and he's like, I don't want to be
an electrical engineer. Well, you got to have discipline. And so they don't have the drive and they don't, they don't
get excited about it and they don't do it but
if you tell that guy whatever you're going to be a golfer and he loves golf and he's practicing every day
and he becomes a professional golfer. You say well, I thought that guy
didn't have any discipline. Well, it's not that
he didn't have any discipline he's just not interested
in that other thing. I was never a disciplined kid but I was... I would find things
that I loved and I was obsessed and I always felt embarrassed by it because people would say,
Oh, your son.. like to my mom your son is so disciplined and she'd be like- My son is crazy. Like he's not disciplined, he finds these
things and that's all he does all day long. Like it's not really discipline because he doesn't clean his room, he's- he's lazy there's all sorts of things he's supposed
to do. I never did my homework. There's all that..
But if I had a thing that I was into - I was obsessed
- You were crazy about it but it would bother me
that I didn't really have discipline. Like if I had jobs that I had to do I didn't do a good job with them,
like in the construction jobs that I had. - But when it came to martial arts
- How did you find those things though? How did you find those things?
You stumble upon them? I just got lucky, I just got lucky.
Martial arts, I just got lucky. And it clicked with me
like almost immediately. I became obsessed. You know, and I wanted to be..
I wanted to excel at it and so I was just doing it all day long. And I think the more you choose
to embark on these struggles especially physical and mental struggles because I consider both martial arts, yoga and actually even trail running I consider the mental struggles
as much as physical struggles. Like, because I could stop anytime I want. I'm halfway up the hill I can go screw this - I’m walking the rest of the way.
- Yeah I call my dog over, put him on the leash
I’m like, we're walking, buddy. You know? But or you could say, no,
this is what I’m doing today I have a...
I have a very clear plan in front of me my plan is, we're doing four miles today this is where we start,
this is where we end this is what we're doing. Sometimes when things are really hard to do you think, oh, my god
I gotta stop doing this but once you do it and you complete it
you have a satisfaction. This sense of satisfaction that
you did something really difficult, that is irreplaceable. Some kids never get that and they just
stay fat and stupid their whole life. And some kids they get these little lessons and then they realize like you can
push yourself and you can get somewhere. You know, some kids get real lucky
and they get involved in sports or martial arts early and one of the best benefits
of sports is you realize that through hard work you get improvement, through improvement you get success, through success you get
that big dopamine rush. - You get that good feeling
- Confidence - You get confidence.
- Yeah - You get this knowledge
- You get the girl Yeah, you get- sometimes-
I didn't but you get this knowledge that
you can do something that's difficult and you can overcome
even though it feels like you can't. You're gonna have days where you suck but those days are so motivational. I mean that's the bright side of tragedy. So when you come through it you really will have an appreciation
for the moments without tragedy. You don't really feel it
unless you- you get, unless life burns you. You don't really feel it. It's one, one of the things
that I tell people all the time because a lot of people have
a hard time defining themselves. They define themselves by failure
because they failed but I’m like, you're not your failures,
you're you. Okay, your life is a series
of lessons you've learned. Now, if you just dwell on the failures like that's not, that's not healthy. It's not smart and it's not empowering. What you got to do is look at those failures
you go, well, now you know what not to do but you're not that, you're you. You know, you could have done
the stupidest things ever but it's not you, that's not you you're- you're a different thing. You're the- the being that's
experiencing all these failures and if you know that they're mess-ups then you've learned. Okay, if you repeat them
over and over again well, then I can't talk to you. You know, if you keep going back and doing
the same stupid stuff over and over again well, you got a deeper issue. You know, I don't know what it is
but I don't have the time. Building up that ability to endure things that's also a very important mechanism that you could apply to everyday life like that- the mechanism
of understanding how to endure like Jocko Willink, perfect example, you know, he has that thing on his.. If you go to his Instagram page,
almost every other photo is a watch and it's a watch that says 4:30 in the morning because that's when he gets up
and he works out and he earns the sunset. And he does that, he's so disciplined and he's got this saying
that's a great saying "Discipline equals freedom" and it's true because he's able to force himself
to do that every single time there's no excuses. There's no breaks, there's no days off. It doesn't happen so because of that,
you're like, you're not scared you know that you can keep doing it you know that you can continue to perform. There's a lot of people just
running from discomfort they're running from it,
they're just avoiding it it's so easy to and like if you get distracted for a second you're like, yeah, let me check my phone you just start going through your phone
and looking at stuff and you're just distracting yourself from
the tiniest frustration of boredom - Just a little-
- Yeah we don't get bored anymore or if we get bored we get bored for these tiny amounts
of time then you get distracted. So your distraction is eliminating your boredom but
the problem with that is like, there's certain thoughts
that only come to you when you're thinking, when you, you don't have
any input coming in. When we're constantly looking at our phones the only input you're getting is
input from other people. And sometimes that's good. Sometimes you get good stuff out of that but it's like a diet of only fruit. Don't think that you're that person
that made those mistakes you're the person who's learned. You know, and to have that attitude
is a really important thing and to not say why am I doing this now?
I could have been doing this my whole life. Well, you- you weren't so... how is that gonna help? - Yeah
- You know, you gotta just- you gotta not think like that. You just gotta be happier doing it now.
