Evil Mother In Law Made My Boyfriend Her Emotional Husband Because She Has A SPECIAL BOND With HIM

reddit has anyone ever gotten a divorce over your mother-in-law my mother-in-law had a health scare a couple of months ago nothing too serious in the end but everybody was rather worried the logical thing for us to do was go see mother-in-law when she was at the hospital but she pulled the oh no don't bother coming i'm okay here all alone with my husband card so we didn't go visit her play witch games but a few weeks ago my boyfriend was all like it's been a while since we visited them maybe we should go so we hit the road one beautiful saturday morning and made the five hours trip with a puppy in the back seat my boyfriend loves his mother but has a strained relationship with his father he tried to explain to me the reasons why in my opinion but i have been known to be wrong sometimes i think his mother did everything in her power to screw their relationship no moms for another post and made my boyfriend her emotional husband he doesn't like going to his hometown because he gets bored there's absolutely nothing to do over there other than watch the grass grow but he does it to see his parents the visits don't last more than 24 hours thank god back to the story we get there let the puppy out to play in the backyard boyfriend starts talking with his father and i go inside because p mother-in-law is in the kitchen playing the role of sick woman of the year never mind she planned a trip of 10 days with some friends in another country and will be leaving in less than two weeks time i ask her the usual suspect questions how are you feeling aren't you tired shouldn't you be in bed etc and then she goes all my son is the best son of the world on me i know son was really worried and that's the reason i didn't want him to come and see me when i was in the hospital i didn't want him to see me like that and add to his stress okay i guess it can be for a good enough reason you know his job stresses him so much i can feel it sometimes we have this symbiotic relationship and no one will ever be able to come between us i can feel him inside me sometimes well i don't know about you but i threw up a little in my mouth when she said that but i kept my poker face on i can feel when he's not well or sad and he can feel when i'm sad too i was on the verge of asking do you feel when i make him come too because that must be awkward but i refrained myself instead i smiled and said yeah i can feel him inside me too i guess we share a special bond boyfriend and i and left to pee later at lunch she goes the same route again how no one can come between a mother and son and how she knows she is my boyfriend's first priority because you know symbiotic relationship and all and that's when my father-in-law who's a quiet guy speaks you know wife a mother is important in a child's life but comes a time when his first priority will be his partner and their children if they are blessed to have any boyfriend is starting his own family and his priority is now opie you should respect that and be happy that our son found someone who makes him smile again i almost clapped standing ovation and all and for the first time since i've known them all my boyfriend actually agrees with his father he showed some sexy spine and said i'll always love you but father is right nothing else matters more than the family i'm making with op i almost jumped him in the restaurant mother-in-law goes all oh yes of course i didn't mean it like that you misunderstood i just looked at her with a nasty eating grin on my face yes mother-in-law i'm sure all of us misunderstood what you were saying the mysteries of miscommunication will always amaze me i'm currently pregnant with my second and final child with my first i had an epidural and a pretty routine delivery with this child i'd like to have a completely unmediated all-natural birth since this is my last child i'd like to be fully aware of what's going on and fully experience it all the pain delayed cord clamping everything since it'll never happen again without getting too detailed my husband and i will most likely be separating in the near future before our baby is born his family has made some choices recently regarding our first child that i simply can't and won't abide and have made it clear to my husband they will no longer be involved in my or our children's lives his family thinks they've done no wrong and want him to leave me this puts him in the awkward place of having to choose between the family he was born into and the one he's created it's starting to become apparent he'll choose them and i can't hold it against him as i know how close they are on to the meat of the issue i've made it abundantly clear that if we're not together at the time of me going into labor i don't want him in the delivery suite until our son is born and the doctors have done what they needed to do and i'm decent again like i said i plan on doing delayed cord clamping and so he'd still be able to cut the cord and spend the entire hospital stay if he'd like to but i don't want him in the room as our son enters the world he's enraged telling me he's not missing his first and only son's birth he's going to be in the room with me whether we're together or not and i'm only doing this to force him to be with me or hurt him for choosing to leave i understand why he'd feel that way but it's not about hurting him though like i said i plan to have an all-natural experience if we're not together he's just going to be standing there spectating he wouldn't be helping me through the process comforting me supporting me etc which is fine because he's there for his son not me but i don't really want him just standing there watching me sob in pain throw up and poop myself as i struggle to give birth it would make me super uncomfortable to have someone who's not on my team so to speak just standing around watching that update my husband and i had a long talk about everything and i showed him this thread as well as responses of people who know the incident he sees now that sweeping it under the rug just isn't going to happen and has agreed to confront his parents and attend one therapy session to see that it's not for crazy people this will likely result in no contact or low contact from both of us because i doubt they'll take it well since we'll be all but disowned i don't care if the flying monkey snitches so here's the incident they were watching my daughter for the weekend and his stepmom was giving her a bath first of all she filled the tub up to my one and a half year old's chin then a movie came on downstairs that she likes and she heard the opening music or whatever and rushed downstairs to see if it was on leaving my daughter alone in the tub she knows she's not supposed to get out on her own because she's too small and slippery to do so safely so she sat and waited for her to come back but stepmother-in-law completely forgot all about my daughter and instead left her sitting in the bathwater for over an hour while she watched the entire movie by the time she remembered her the bath water was frigid my daughter was shivering and started to get sleepy had she fallen asleep in the tub or even tried to get out she could have been seriously injured or even died stepmother-in-law mentioned to me that she left daughter in the tub for only a few minutes to go get her a change of clothes because she forgot it but it still annoyed me off my brother-in-law still stays in the home and told me privately that she'd actually left my daughter in the tub for the whole movie not just a few minutes my husband and his mother i just can't stand the two of them at the moment background info mother-in-law is a 78 years old widow with too much time on her hands and a full never-ending deck of victim cards she has two sons my husband and his brother who is married to our brother-in-law i'll call my husband's brother brother-in-law one and his husband brother-in-law too for future reference i never knew my father-in-law he was in a car accident when husband was 12 and suffered brain damage he died over 15 years ago when husband was 30 years old brothers-in-law mother-in-law and us husband me our two sons seven and four all live one and a half to two hours drive away from each other in opposite directions brothers-in-law are doctors and have a huge house we often do sleepovers and that's exactly the thing my husband and mother-in-law absolutely love these sleepovers and can't get enough of them and while i don't mind spending a day with family every now and then i hate the sleepovers brother-in-law 2 is amazing and always a good laugh and he's really the only thing that make family visits not something that make me want to pull my own fingernails out with rusty pliers he's had his own beef with mother-in-law but he's a good guy and they don't have kids she will never have any upper hand with him plus he works part-time and they travel a lot so they can just pick up and leave whenever they've had enough so husband and i have had many fights over the sleepovers over the years they're not so bad when we stay at brother-in-law's house because it's huge and there is lots to do in the area so there are things we can go out and do but i hate when mother-in-law wants to come to our house and spend the night yesterday i was at work and husband sends me a text going i wanted to run something by you but i know you'll be tired when you get home so i'll give you a heads up this way i spoke to brother-in-law one and my mother is having trouble getting to the funeral by public transport so i was thinking of having her come over tomorrow and then she can come to the funeral with us and by the way i've ordered sushi for you tonight your favorite with a bunch of smiley and heart emojis yes it was a sushi bribe but then i had a migraine so i went home early and hours later when i started feeling better he tried to test the waters regarding his mother and i told him i think it's such bull that she has to come over again this is not some remote country public transport is fine she can come to the central station and we can pick her up there and go to the church there is absolutely no need for her to come spend the night you just want her to come over and he said he wanted to show her the renovations we've done to the house new bathroom i told him to be spending his two sleepovers a year more wisely because the boys celebrate their birthdays in the summer and then there's christmas and that i know for a fact that if she comes now the two of them will make up excuses for the summer and then christmas and probably a dozen times more he said he's not going to and i don't believe him what annoys me is that he says he wants to discuss her coming over with me but in reality i have absolutely no say i feel treated like a child he wants her to come or she wants to come and so she comes when i say this to my husband he'll say that every time he asks i say no so he pushes the matter or he won't ever see his mother i've told him time and time again to go visit her without me but he won't i'll tell him he's lazy for not doing so and he says we the kids and me want him home too so now the witch is sitting here on the sofa again happily chatting away with husband and ignoring the crap out of me which is fine because i've said two words to her since she's been here i'm so annoyed with my husband i can't even describe it i don't get along with his mother and he knows why she's a manipulative boundary stopper who loves to patronize me in front of my kids and who wants to relive the glory days of her own family through mine without any regard for what i want or need but the more i try to get him to see my side the more he ropes his umbilical cord back in she can do absolutely no wrong in his eyes long story short my future idiot husband and i broke up i finally hit my breaking point with his unwillingness to communicate or respect a single one of my wishes and cut my losses in a relationship that had felt like i was raising a man-child more than starting a life with a man the whole thing came to a head when i asked him to please not bring up a single topic with my father and he went out of his way to start a fight with my dad over aforementioned topic y'all apparently the apple does not fall far from the tree when it comes to ex-future husband and ex-future mother-in-law and the need for constant drama i moved out and took a couple of months to myself before meeting to my complete surprise a great man with excellent communication skills and a mother who is not satan incarnate since this isn't just no so let's get to the part where my now future ex-husband reaches out to me to let me know that he is now back in contact with his mommy dearest which was not at all a surprise to me since his spine was only ever an apparent facade from keeping me from bailing i already knew this though as i had to remove myself from his phone plan shortly after the breakup and in the process of going to wireless carrier many many times had the manager ask me what my relationship with ex future husband was as she was under the impression that ek's future mother-in-law was his wife as my ex only referred to her by her first name gag after recovering mentally from that imagery i informed the manager that the incredibly unpleasant woman she was referring to was my ex-future mother-in-law and that i was glad i had dodged that bullet there is nothing like a stranger's observation to make everything click i had always been the other woman to my ex-future husband even though he would call future mother-in-law every nasty name under the stars and swear that he would never talk to her again he always would the second things got hard he would turn to her fully knowing the absolute chaos and destruction she brought into our lives i was never his first priority and it took me too long to realize that it was not okay i blocked him a couple of months ago and haven't looked back since although it was hard and sad to call it quits on a four-year relationship realizing i would never have to deal with his mom or family ever again took a weight off of my shoulders that i didn't realize i had been carrying around with me never again would my heart skip a beat wondering who was pounding on my door in the dead of night never will i have to open up my social media to find snarky comments and gossip about myself never would i have to dread a holiday or birthday because of their antics i am free i gave birth to mine and my husband's first child a week ago my husband and my mother-in-law have since then been acting like i'm extremely fragile and should be on bed rest i really don't feel as fragile as they think i am i can do mostly everything i used to do before getting pregnant just now with some mild discomfort and pain downstairs i've gotten through the worst of it by now due to having a newborn and with everything going on at the moment my husband and mother-in-law have been lecturing me if i try to do anything other than stay in bed with our newborn if we need anything from the store or have to take care of anything that requires for us to go outside my husband will be the one to run out and take care of it i've only been out less than a handful of times since giving birth and these were just for occasions that i absolutely had to be there for today my husband and i decided we were tired of eating unfrozen chicken broth and neither of us had the energy to cook so he went out to get us some takeout he came back an hour later with no food it should have taken him 15 minutes max as the place he was going to was fast food and like a three minute drive from our house mind you he left his phone at home because it was uncharged so this entire time i had no way to contact him and ask where he was at when he came back he told me he had been downstairs at my mother-in-law's apartment the whole time she's our neighbor mounting her tv and getting a few things done for her he asked if i still wanted takeout i was obviously annoyed that he couldn't at least come back upstairs and let me know he'd be taking care of his mom's apartment first and had me waiting for him thinking i'd be getting some food by the end of it i told him no i'd go and get my own food now and that i'm tired of sitting at home just because he and his mom say i should as i was leaving he asked if i didn't feel bad leaving our newborn i told him that he obviously didn't so why should i the thing is i do feel guilty and i don't know why i feel like we should both be with our baby right now even if he thinks remodeling his mom's apartment is more important due to health reasons my essos mother-in-law moved in with us those health issues for the most part have gone away mother-in-law do not and will never get along i have tried very hard to make peace in the house but i have failed with my so being constantly caught in the middle at one point my mayeso said if the mother-in-law living with us was negatively impacting our relationship to let her know i did 18 months ago and then again six months ago to complicate things our child loves our mother-in-law dearly for the most part the mother-in-law is great to the child besides spoiling her with toys and what not weekly i told my esso that i cannot have the mother-in-law here anymore and my esso needs to be the one that asks the mother-in-law to leave my so basically said no i can't do it you have to do it i feel the so needs to do it because we need to be united instead of me being the constant villain of the story my 24 female husband 26 male and i met when he was studying in my country we were classmates we started dating five years ago and we got married six months ago in his country where we currently live together before we got married i traveled with him to his country to meet his mom we've traveled approximately four times to his country and it's not a secret that she hates me the first time she saw me she said why is your skin so pale aren't you from latin america and sometimes she mocked my accent i don't speak english very fluently yet my husband and i always speak in spanish since he learned that language when he went to study in my country since we moved to this country she has not stopped saying horrible things about me such as you just married my son to get the green card my husband used to say mom stop saying that or i'll leave and she stopped but lately she has been ill and now my husband spends a lot of time at her home she lives alone and in just a few weeks he changed a lot now he speaks exactly like his mom the other day we had a fight and he yelled at me i'm tired of you this is over then he accused me that i was using him to get my green card the same words his mother said and when i started crying he left the apartment i don't know what to do his mom ruined everything we built in five years of relationship and the worst part is that he let her do that and to top it all off i'm 15 weeks pregnant but i haven't told him anything yet i'm very thin and my belly already shows and i don't know how to hide it from my husband today in the morning his mother called me and said in a few days dear husband's lawyers will contact you and you will go back where you belong if we fill the divorce papers i will have to go back to my country and i don't want to do it my husband came to our apartment to take some of his things and he looked so miserable he hugged me and told me he was sorry but he left anyway and now i don't know what to do

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Length: 19min 7sec (1147 seconds)

Published: Sun Aug 30 2020