"Being Emotionally Healthy" | POWER HOUR | Ep.50

[Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] hello gorgeous par are people it is a glorious and wonderful 24th of June I actually don't remember what day of the week is waiting I have to look much I Wednesday just delighted to be back with you I've got the gorgeous Sam and Nate with me today and we are on being emotionally healthy and so I see we've got Australia Africa a hot ho releves Albania I think I know there too will not will not do all the nations in alphabetical order but good to have you with us you guys are awesome and you know I am really loving reading some of your applications for the miracle clinic what an intelligent gifted anointed love you are so I'm looking forward to working with you more closely as we jump into miracle clinics later on in the month so and Meg you just said this morning you woke up to completed healing that started when we were praying in episode 14 wow wow wow wow wow so hallelujah Jesus for just spontaneous developing miracles more of that so Sam Nate how are you yeah good the glad to be back again obviously we were on yesterday we messed you Emma I Det try and to spite my head as high as I possibly could gesture day and it doesn't work so normal service has resumed for my hair just known average height and while everyone was saved as much as they loved that I can't say Power Hour rate which is weird because I think we see power over the right way but no Emma your way of saying it has become the correct way of both those words so next time for next time I'm hosting I shall practice even more power are are absolutely and get the power our mug from our website hard Nate yeah Paul asked where I got my haircut my lovely wife did this actually haircut I could I turn the top and she cuts the size i'm pretty blessed with that we act well it's quite a skill actually yes it's that fade that we've not gotten perfect so after a day or two it looks better that first day it kind of looks a little rough so you just kind of don't show anybody up close luckily on camera it always looks good I guess to some extent you can see the fine you know knit T no of that so already for a beach day later today taking the kids to for me absolutely Baltic and Scotland bowls it means it's really cold today the beach I totally agrees the day so it's gonna be nice and warm here in weather you know man so my children and were regaling me this morning with them that their most random facts and so if you have got a most random fact it must be like properly random at please type it in the comments because we want to hear your most random flats I'm sorry this is not deeply spiritual but Samuel my twelve-year-old Walter did this morning and said this make mummy do you know that cows Moo in regional accents I don't know whether there's a farmer who can you verify that cows Moo in regional accents followed up by and mummy fish and cough so there we are we're all greatly at Samuel as a fountain for the most unusual facts ever every time I'm a and I see him and he talks he comes up with some random fat I've never heard of my life before boy well you remember his favorite one we did gone to his favorite one which is this I actually wrote them down he said mommy do you know in the century the Danish army only had seven men in it and you've heard that one before that is one of it and Peter not to be outdone his big brother said mummy 50% of our DNA we share with bananas so and there we go oh this doesn't have mammary glands oh it's not just goes from this can I like this we could have a whole session Samuel was right Scott cause I'm completely different in Canada and Australia yes we are let's help the where's educated biblically at the end of the arse we are in our honorable Olympics yes the unicorn is the national animal Scotland and get this Lisa the word unicorn is in the King James Version of the Bible I think about five times so that is fascinating is there I think in most of our modern translations it's translated as something to do with em either hippopotamus and actually the word unicorn is in the King James Version of the Bible woohoo at least this was a whole lot of questions doesn't it my daughter loves it like she loves unicorns I'm like I'm not sure if you're allowed to like unicorns but but when she when I showed her in the Bible she's pretty pumped about it so bananas brings up flavor no David said this one is too dodgy to share but he's your only wish anyway it's a way it's a well-known fact that dogs who in alignment with the Earth's magnetic field apparently dogs will not go to the bathroom in an east-west direction so if you lose your compass just follow it a defecating dog and he will show you which way is north side everybody knows that I've never heard of that before why would I know that I don't really pay that closer to oh my Colleen is a bite right shall we shall we start to become wonderfully wonderfully spiritual it is our 50th power our God 50 episodes it's you know I kind of feel like I didn't think we have that many words in us and we are still talking so something good is happening but in other wild news and we have just today sent it-- our 2500s lion bite our team here over nearly 10 years has written two thousand five hundred daily words over nearly a decade and david says that we have is attacked eczema here we have sent over 12 million lion bite emails around the world in in those years and we reckon a minimum of about 23,000 people read them every day by our estimate so it's absolutely incredible and some people say they they love the lion bites if you don't get them sign up for free in the website to make sure you could get the daily words I remember it starting Sarah Jane and I and you know we were very young mountains at the time and we couldn't travel and we just thought you're oh you know what we'll just write a we a we prophetic thought we don't know whether it will go anywhere because we're at home with the children and we sat down to write it with no idea how it would turn out and here we are a decade later 12 million emails and of course I look I don't know what the numbers are for Facebook at all so and and Micah even a number of leaders of lion bites over the years but Micah an American on my staff who is gorgeous rights and collates and makes all the grammar amazing you used to do it for a while didn't you some you would have two and a half years I think after Ava de nada the grammar and the heresy hunter champion absolutely good it's amazing yeah very very exciting who would have thought so we're going to talk about as you can see in the title and emotionally healthy and I think well this is something that we really want to land on a bless you today and strengthen you today my belief is that as we enter the billion soul harvest and as we enter these radical changes in the church it is going to require a new door to your and a new sort of Christian because of the sheer numbers of people getting saved and the sheer mess that that is going to create and the fact that it is only sustainable by leadership and Christians who are emotionally healthy enough to steward the changes that God wants to bring and we are so quick to talk about character versus gifting or those are good conversations you know but actually I don't know that we are as good at talking about my emotional health and my emotional intelligence versus my spiritual sharpness and I think we get so much or you put so much store in my spiritually shock I mean spiritually mature am i spiritually bright am i spiritually firing on all cylinders with the gifts and those are good questions that we do not have the same level of conversation of what am I feeling and how am i navigating my emotions and where are my emotions and what are my emotions doing today so that actually we can have some gifted leaders in terms of their spiritual open who at the same time can create emotional messes behind them and almost they are in emotional intelligence and their spiritual sharpness do not use at the same level of maturity and most of the masses that I get yo-yoed into to deal with in churches are are I mean sometimes their moral failures but most of them are issues of relational pain from emotionally unhealthy people or people who have not learned how to deal with the this way of emotions that come to us and so I would like to put it just this afternoon that we don't talk about feelings enough and particularly in our Presbyterian minded you know the back Rimes we cease feelings as something negative we see them as something volatile we see them as something unnecessary we see them as something negative and embarrassing and that the less we talk about feelings the better is in the church and I want to say that is rubbish and so we want to talk about navigating feelings honoring the gift of emotions that God gives honoring the fact that God has given you a range of emotions both negative and positive by which you steward life on planet Earth right now we are seeking to release you from spiritual numbness spiritual stuckness where you don't know how to feel and actually bring you alive to the wonderful adventure that is emotional health and emotional intelligence okay so right right now and I want to start by saying that where you are shutdown registers to you the ability for God processing of emotions right now we need a good about emotions yes absolutely now before we jump straight into what Sam saying let me share a verse with you and it's 3rd John 1 verse 2 3 John 1 verse 2 and it is in this verse let me just actually read it to you is easier to search John wondrously dear friends I pray that you may enjoy good health so he's talking about your physical body and that only go well with you even as your soul is getting along well and what not verse doesn't know whether David you can put up that's 3rd John 1 verse 2 is it the Word of God slams together the concept of how your heart is doing with how your physical frame is doing it says look as it is with your emotions so it is with your body are you hearing that that actually sometimes your physical frame and its weaknesses and it's sicknesses and its worry and its fatigue is directly biblically linked to your emotional well-being but when you steward emotions well your body biblically marries up and is in better physical health there it is in the Word of God he and John is saying look you can enjoy good health even in accordance with how your emotions are and that word soul comes from the word psyche in Greek New Testament and it means your heart it means the seat of your affections and really what someone is shouting at us here is your emotions need to be bright your emotions need to be managed your emotions need to be processed your emotions need to be owned your emotions need to be communicated your emotions need to be not suppressed because your emotion form the bed drop even of how your physical frame is Wow Wow Wow okay so where I wax lyrical too much longer Sam kick in with some thoughts of my emotions first place yeah I mean so good Emma and just everyone saying just know the every single day they turn up and God just knows what they need to hear and that you can feel just around so many of you that are watching and just the emotional horror wind of the last few days just that the last few days have been marked by am by your emotions feeling a little bit out of control and as I said we are so uncomfortable and the church when it comes to talking about emotions really uncomfortable when it comes to talking about emotions yet this book is a book of emotions so when Moses in Exodus chapter 34 asked God show me your glory God turns up and reveals his emotions to Moses and you know the Lord the Lord compassionate and gracious God slow to anger abounding in love he's faithful he maintains his love he forgives wickedness rebellion and sin but it doesn't leave the guilty unpunished and the an essence when Moses says show me your glory God turns up and says here are my emotions my feelings and so we've got to get used to talking about this and we really have to see emotions I am going to be reintroduced to you in the way that God originally intended you to be you see we have a fear of emotions I think I'm actually the word emotional has become a bit of a curse or you're just so emotional don't be so emotional you're just an emotional character you just have that emotionally weak personality and emotional has somehow been taken I and tarnished and made to be a weakness rather than intrinsic to who we are as those who are made in the image of God and God has given you the gift of emotions let's just stop there even at that my emotions are a gift I mean what a crazy thought God you've given me my emotions as a gift they are being given to you as a way to colour your life and that thought of your emotions being a gift is radical Emma yeah I just think it's important that people type that my motions are a gift and and we talk more about being stuck in them or not but actually they are a gift of God that reflects the nature of an emotional God and as you're speaking about emotions not being negative you know if we think God is emotional some of us want to go oh no no no no oh no no no you you know you lot are talking nonsense because we think emotions as negative God is an emotional God my emotions are a gift that sorry someone yes yes all right and I think what we need to say though in the realm of emotions just to set them in proper context is this although emotions are a guest emotions make terrible gods but they make wonderful servants come on motions make terrible gods but they make wonderful servants and all of us have a pain when it comes to emotions because at some point in our life they have become gods and they have dictated to us how we act and there's been pain and there's been anger and there's been heart and there's been frustration they haven't been servants that serve our call that serve who we are that serve our destiny and I think you know for me even personally going on that journey from emotional numbness and to being emotionally alive the prayer that you know God emotions are a gift from you help me love my emotions without being ruled by them help me love my emotions without being ruled by them because that is where the inner comes and that is where the pain comes and emotions when emotions become more God's I am NOT and then we then get our our marching orders from our emotions and we don't get them from God's and that ultimately at the end of the day that sees what I would say emotions are Ganges are not gates that they are meant to report to you not dictate you there are ninety say that again emotions are their gauge ease not gauged I make to report to you not DECT eight you what I mean by that I don't follow my emotions I don't take their lead and the sense of they tell me everything they tell me I do they gauge where I'm at I understand where I'm at they let me know what's going on they report to me how my NSAIDs are doing so I can be healed and whole but God is my gate the Word of God that's my games truth is my gate and truth and God that take me not emotions and so we have to really I think get to that place where emotions are friends and actually you know it's coming to mind and partly because I've been going through it in our conversation I had with you a couple of years ago and it was before I was gonna move out and actually and you I don't even know if you remember the conversation but we were talking about no wait what we're talking about you know living alone and what that does to your heart and the actually loneliness is an emotion that is so often you know I hate loneliness get it out of me but you said these words to me Sam you've got to be okay with setting on the couch the soul for the city whatever you call it with loneliness sat next to you when it becomes a friend to you and not an enemy that you fear that I actually and that emotion of loneliness you can faint Jesus you can say wholeness you are not uncomfortable it doesn't ruin your life etc except for etc and that rather than loneliness becoming an enemy are something that you try and fight to resist it becomes a friend that you learn to process and steward and I cannot tell you how important that thought has been to me even in the last few weeks as we've gone through lockdown you know that actually they become frame not gods well sorry I don't remember that conversation alright okay conversations advice anyway okay okay and and they jump in here because there you were talking in before we came on air about some emotions that almost overwhelmed you in that process it's not wrong to have them it's important to have them but it's important to know how to balance them I'm Frank that for us yeah I think before I get there too if you know I love the part about emotion is is it makes up you know so much of our relationship with the King and if we forget that the fact you know cuz I've heard so much like as you know I'm very emotional like I'm kind of always just you know overly whatever you want to call it charismatic loud you know whatever and but with that is like you're over to emotional well well emotion is the very thing the very fabric that connects two people together in unless you motions then there's no connection in in it's it's those those moments when you open up with a friend you're getting emotional with each other it's a tough conversation either it's because you're you're dealing with an issue or you're just you know laying out your life before them in but because of that you're on you're becoming so transparent and just unloading everything it comes to a place that the relationship builds and the same thing is one of my favorite verses which I read the other wake is is from Mark 12 and 29 when it knew the most important Commandments all of this really has to do with it emotions Kathy says look you ought to love the Lord your God with all your heart with every passion of your heart with all your energy beam in your thought within you and all your strength but I love the word passion because passion is like to me passionate emotions kind of like if you don't have emotions if you're not showing your emotions you're not showing your passion and you miss that connection with connecting with people at this level but for us and you know even our journey from moving from America to England or the UK or Europe our you want to say it but movie over here there were so many emotions and even in the process of moving here it was tough in in being able to hang on to what God was saying but with that these emotions of of you know as we see in with the children of Israel in numbers 14 when they're like you know they're there they're supposed to go in the Promised Land and they're supposed to go into this place that God has told them and when they came out of Egypt God's like I'm taking you to the promised land and so they've been on this journey and you see God show up and answer the call and answer all of these things but then they get down and they're like the Royce voices rose up in verse 2 in a great course of protests against Moses and Aaron if only we had died in Egypt or even here in the wilderness they complained why is the Lord taking us the country only to have us die in battle and it was it was this overpowering place of emotions that actually has D tilted them from the truth from the facts I mean for me I look at the children of Israel and I'm like frustrated half the time because you're like dude God just showed up he just took care of you he parted the water and you walked on on dry land but you're letting your you know your emotions overtake you overpower you to where you're not even holding on 1/2 the history of what you've seen God do and the facts but as well as hanging on to the promises and for me you know you have to hang on to the very promises the very that the very fabric of God of not only in Scripture as we look through the promises you know we look through proverbs and psalms and these empowering scriptures and and we look at you know all of these things that God has said that sowing to having greater things we're gonna see these things and but we're like God why haven't we seen this why haven't we done this and sometimes we will let that emotion of sadness or that emotion of frustration overtake us just as it did the children of Israel in a place that they could go to the promised land but because they let their emotions overtake them they never even got to see the Promised Land it was their children and so but with that because you're making such a good point let's dine out on it the fact that the emotions are important but in their rabids nests on occasions well actually hinder the walk into the promised land because they overwhelmed our ability to hold the promise and so there is that sense of of a prayer that says God I see your promises and I feel my emotions do not kill my emotions and put them away in the hope your promises would rise because actually if I am emasculate myself if I tear my emotions from me I am too stunted to walk into promise are you people if I if I will hide and suppress and push away my emotions and say I don't like you you you you are troublesome you emotions you're troublesome if I do that I will walk started and not hid my promise yes on the other hand if I let them come up and overwhelm me I will also not hid my promise and so the prayer is God help me process God may I be a good emotional processor god I do not want to deny my grief my sadness my pain my joy my fear my disappointment you know I don't want to leave that unprocess god help me process my emotions and can I tell you I did actually recently I pray for a lot of people who lost loved ones and those are tricky prayers to word and my common prayer as I lay hands on people who have lost loved ones and it's part and parcel of ministry life my common prayer is this God would you help them walk the process of grief and not have grief on them but may they own it and know what it is to journey it and I also pray that grief would not become something that Rob's joyful remembrance that we must be able to have joyful remembrance of our history not have a history ruined by overwhelming emotions and so it is that that sense that we have to say God helped me be a good emotional frota some of you need to say that God helped me be a good emotional processor and I think maybe what you're hitting us between the eyes so helpfully with is that that horrendous moment in numbers were the emotions of a nation know are so unresolved that they miss the Promised Land well and it's that flipping like like the the issue is here is like they're they're using their emotions against themselves but actually if they were to tie into and flip that in the place that I'm so in love with God I've seen God moved it before and because of what he's done before in the motions of that excitement of that relationship with that then actually all of that thing that drove them the other direction that if they could learn how to steer the emotions in the right direction would have drove them right into the center of the promised land because then they would have been like I can do this because of Who I am with Christ and because of what I'm doing you know it's so obviously they didn't know Christ at that time because Christ wasn't there but because of God and so it they could flip that and so I so many times it's like we always want to drag on the the negative side of the motion side but there's such a fruitful side to the amazing side of emotions that connects us with God yes Sam Jones I've been there before I start to get real practical and give you all homework yeah for sure and just a couple of things around him what Nate was seeing so helpfully there we don't have time to go through a lot of different scriptures but I would challenge you and to go and have a look at Sam's XT name which i think is one of the most emotional emotionally charged passages our son in the scripture and I want you to look unless any of that Sam the various emotions that you see David represent and could you imagine if someone turned up what have we turned up on top our our and started to share in the way that their Sam was that actually David was very comfortable with expressing his emotions but he always landed his emotions and let the air Thunder you know the heavens praise him that he always landed his emotions even if they were unresolved in that place of worship but I think what I would love to say is let's just look at a couple of thoughts about Jesus I you know that actually Jesus is highly emotionally alive and not afraid to demonstrate how he feels so look 1941 Jesus weeps and Luke 10 verse 21 he's full of joy isaiah 53:3 he's called the man of sword or who's acquainted with grief matthew 26 22 he's sad very sad look seven thirteen great compassion Hebrews 12:2 more joy mark 1434 he's overwhelmed the score marks x verse x he's very amazed that actually in Jesus and that's only a few verses that I quickly took notes of before we came live we see the spectrum of emotions that he's super comfortable and experiencing and so we've got to then because Jesus was emotional abolish the lie and it is this that emotions are sin because at Jesus there is no sin Jesus had no sin and hem so how f emotions are sin coming Jesus experienced all these emotions and I mean I just want to cheer because we have so screwed so screwed this up and here you are saying Jesus I'm quoting you back to you Sam Jesus was not afraid to show high he felt and there no sin in him antimatter we push the entire dynamic of our church culture in tune I am afraid to express our feeling because it is seen as something outside of Scripture boy we have not read the book properly totally totally Nate you had something on our denying of weakness that's all I've written what you said to me unpack it yeah there's there's two things in that I really kind of you know which kind of goes with the you know motion covers so many things but I think for me personally is the last five years I'm speaking from personal experience is the the emotion of almost a sad emotion a depressed emotion or a frustrated emotion and I think there's two things that if we're not careful we need to maybe even like the first one is we deny our weakness or our trouble and one of the these are two things that if if we you know how often do we just like we just shut ourselves off nobody understands us nobody's on a list and nobody's gonna do this or gods not gonna hear me or this or that and in first I will say this I think first and foremost and we look in scriptures and job like that when job was I mean if there's someone in the Bible that can grief I mean its job you know but you see him he's like he said he fell to the ground to worship I came naked from my mother's womb and I will be naked when I leave the Lord gave me what I have and the Lord has taken it away praise the name of the Lord and in this you know the thing was is he came in grief II tours he tore his his robe and grief but he came to the Lord but that's the the key factor is he came to the Lord and with that it wasn't he wasn't blaming God but he was coming to Lord the Lord answer for me is we have to be willing to deny our weaknesses are not denying we have to be willing to give our weaknesses we have to be willing to be transparent in a way that God I can't be a bad anything like this without you I can via you know a provider I can't live life without you I can't I can't breathe I can't be a pastor I can't be a leader or I can't be you know a CEO of this company I can't do this without you God and and just being breaking down and sometimes there's been many times that I've I've done everything but cus you know like you know like you're just like god this is ridiculous but you have to get to a place that you're willing to show your emotions and be totally transparent you know I think it's bill Johnson that makes this a minute if you don't pray prayers that move you you won't move God and in that in the same way of our emotions we have to be willing like to to just take everything off and go before the Lord that's that's number one and so we have to be willing to lay down our weaknesses so first go to God lay down your weakness so right now maybe you type in there you just say God I I'll a to have my weaknesses I lay down and maybe you can't be as transparent on here because you don't want everybody know your business but maybe just say it right where you're watching and number two is that which kind of ties in this is we don't open it we don't open up enough we don't give it to God and so you know we're denying our weakness we're denying the trouble or we're denying that oh well I'm too strong and I think as a male figure sometimes it's easy to say well I got this taken care of and so you ever you ever meet someone and to their to your to what you see of them they look like they've had a good day but then they react to a situation and you're like what is going on and as a prophet you're kind of like okay there's they they look like they're orderly on the outside but they're dealing with some stuff on the inside and they're not willing to say I I'm weak you know I'm not strong and so for us even in the journey I you know I have one of my good mentors growing up as my youth pastor Todd Martin and like gosh we would always call it like I'm sorry Todd like I know I'm peeing in your ear again but you know but he always listened to me I know that's a vulgar thought that you know okay but like there's been times in our life even in ministry you know when we're at it you know working in ministry and I would call him every day this is what's going on what what can I you and I'm still honoring trying to honor leadership and I'm like God why is this happening why is this like this and if this is what ministry is this is not what anyway I call him every day and I'm like dude I'm sorry I know I just keep as I said be it in your ear but it's that thing of like but he was willing to listen but now me and what was my youth pastor but he wasn't my youth pastor at that time has become a good friend but it's open a relationship that now we can pretty much you know talk with each other you know and be just very commune spirit and so we have to be willing and if you know me very well I'm just pretty transparent way we just need to pray that we're willing to pee in people you know but but can I say it does not translate well in the British culture okay sorry guys I don't know any time we'd call each other and just like there was honestly there was months and in very months and maybe even years that I would call him I felt like every day and just whine and complain to him you know and it's like so it's a way of saying you know hopefully we will not forget that phrase as a reproach okay focus riff that is the very fact that we have to be willing to become very vulnerable one with God but then with our closest friends and and in the people and they the key is with this is even in our transition of moving to England one of the things that I think we struggle with so much is some very people clothes that were dear to us we knew we couldn't be vulnerable with we couldn't lay down our weaknesses like god we're struggling with this we're doing this but we had to know the correct leaders that were godly leaders that could see the bigger perspective and help us on the journey to deal with the emotions that we were feeling is yeah you need safe places I mean it I'm gonna take from that you need safe places good needs to help you process and that is absolute that is absolutely right I don't know whether we want to pee in each other's ears but I think do needs somebody saying it's an Ohio things we're going to reach with it redeem this okay focus so let me just give you a talk to thank you for that I think when Mark when Mark 12:31 releases that thought of love your neighbor as yourself can I say to you that is far more than just a concept of self acceptance that whenever God says look you you actually cannot love somebody else until you can love yourself we have to ask the question of how do we you love I love by processing I love myself by allowing myself the space to process and I love myself by allowing myself to go through the mechanisms of stewarding my emotions and when I have done that then I am able to love somebody else in their emotional process and could it be that we are so short of safe places and Nate in that story is really landing us in the concept painting had a youth leader who was a safe place but that youth leader must owning has become a safe place because he was able to love Nate why was he able to love Nate because he had understood how to love himself and may it be that we have shot dine the emotional means within the church and we have done it because we have not given ourselves permission to go on a journey when love and self-love looks like kindness and gentleness and space and rest when you need it and tears when you need it and it looks like a giggle when you need it and it looks like a scream of pain when you need it but when I love myself I give myself the capacity and the space to do all those things and that when I have let myself off the hook in tender kindness I then can love my neighbour home as I love myself and maybe I have not learned how to process my own emotions so I have no hope of letting anybody else process their emotions and so we just love your neighbor as yourself oh maybe that as I be nice it is some deep deep stuff there so I'm gonna give you some homework okay and you're going to have to start with loving yourself and personal vulnerability and personal permission to process your emotions and at the point you love yourself like that you will shift the culture of your church at the point you know what it is to hold a place where your emotions are okay to be seen and heard even by yourself it is there that church culture changes we cannot always go you need to be a nicer friend you need to be a nicer friend you need to help me more you need to understand me more I mean I've got no safe place why do you have no safe place because you were not even a safe place for your self so I'm gonna give you some homework you know all of the kind slang that we do and I find it an interesting question to ask how do you feel and an awful lot of people have very little understanding of how they feel hmm and so what I have learned over the years is to help people create walls of the ocean and what the wall of emotion is is just a list of every emotion that you can think of the good the bad and the in-between so you would start with a pen and paper you would put it on your fridge door I actually have a blackboard wall that I've painted up for my children I do this with my children too so there's no age you know constraint on this and will write all their negative emotions on one side sad disappointed upset because some of us don't even know the difference between sad disappointed and upset angry terrified fearful dejected disappointed and flat exhausted and then you know I feel in love I feel pride I feel happy I feel content I feel at ease I feel peace I feel worried and just that sense of brainstorming on a good day every emotion that you can think of and I would say particularly to my boys who I think I don't want to over generalize but very often men can struggle a little bit more with an identifying of the emotions so I've started mine a very young age and I stood make my my children in front of the wall of emotion point to one so you don't need to think how to feel how you feel how you feel and get panicked in I do I don't know what you know and the question how do you feel sometimes that can be terrifying that can be overwhelming I don't know how to answer the question how I feel and so there is the this this this wall of emotion and my children have been able to go and point and say mommy I feel and they point and there is a sense of oh right once you have understood what it is you feel you have an overwhelmingly better chance of medicating it rightly okay I feel in love okay I feel fear sadness alone I feel isolated I felt rejected today okay and somebody's saying it's like emotion cards they do students who struggle to explain what's going on yes yes and I think yeah and actually Jillian Craig miner 12 13 and 17 and and I've done it even younger with with my boys than that and I have done it for let me give you example I've done it for depressed people who I've been kind slain who are starting to get better and are coming out of a real shock deines as many do with mental health battles and they need to start to reconnect with emotions how do I feel that I've done it with families maybe where the husband or the wife has left and the family is in shock and they're starting to go we need to connect and process how we feel and this wall of emotion actually is a very important tool I think I find for the well-being of family units and even for the navigating in the counseling is set up i must know how I feel I must reconnect with my emotion so if you've struggled to connect with your emotions I would suggest that you get a book and that you have this wall of emotions and you start to write down at the several emotions that you feel in a day and then as Nate said you then go with that to God you don't deny how you feel but you start to say God I need to process this with you if I do not says this I know that it will come back in the future and bite me probably harder than it does right now that is often the way with emotions so god I need to process worry I need to process the fact that I feel abandoned but I didn't know until I undertook the emotion war that that was actually what I felt God here is my abandonment what do you say back to me in exchange so that's real real practical help I think in that there will be some top tips alongside that and David prays often restore the emotion of my salvation restore the emotion of my salvation restore the joy of my salvation and sometimes in the stress of emotional negativity that we often face we must learn to pray that prayer restore to me the emotion of my salvation the joy of my salvation or another prayer that I get people to pray some of you just need to take notes on this restore the the emotion of my salvation and in fact something they probably need to type it just to help you remember it restore the emotion of my salvation the other one is restore the desires of my heart oh that is really important restore the desires of my heart so restore desire is very important to God because why God wants to give you the desires of your heart but he also wants your desire to be awake so that you can desire Jesus sake I to Jesus the desire of Nations restore the desires of my heart in other words restore a right balance of desire where I'm not desiring you know I don't know inappropriate things but restore godly desires to my heart from where I am shut down okay as great one to pray if you're emotionally shut down so um some made any other thoughts on that before I continue yeah just a couple of thoughts I cracked it clear and as as you go yeah I think Ephesians 4:26 great verse about why emotions aren't sin and just like Emma you were saying they're about desire it says in your anger do not sin so you're able to feel anger and not saying you're able to have an emotion and not sin and lots of our fear of emotions comes from them being wrongly used in our life so I tarnish desire as a completely negative thing because in the past I desired that which was you know sexually impure or and over lust for food or or entertainment except except when actually we need to come back and say God recalibrate my emotions I'm sorry for where they've been used wrong but please rebalance them and welcoming God and that you know Emma was talking about rating though for me I do that a lot actually and I do it a lot before bed and what I would tend to do before I go to sleep and is take a piece of paper like this and write down everything that's inside in my head just get it on a piece of paper everything that's there everything that's inside because I know that boxed up emotions boxed up feelings boxed up thoughts won't sort themselves out and I think some things we think you know if I just keep it in and I just internalize it it will go away and and and some things that happens when you're in a place of prayer but most of the time you need to get it out of your system in some sort of way and I would then look at this paper and I would then say God highlight to me what what what is just obsolete it's done it's out my system and then show me God what I need a little bit of help to process wet and then really go through that with God and I think then from that what I would what I would say another kkeok top tip that has helped my life and as from Galatians sex 28 glacial sex - and it says carry each other's burdens and a mess we you will fulfill the law of Christ and then verse 5 just after that says for each one should carry their own Lords and that's verse says you've got to understand when you remain to carry your own burdens but also when someone else is made to carry your own burdens and a key question whenever you're in that highly emotional place or that place of just uh I'm weight than God is this for me to carry or do I need a little bit of help and that's burden bidding moment and I think it's really interesting I was reading a study recently about depression and anxiety and the reason for the rise of that and lockdown is this because relationships this is what the article said relationships are more effective in the recovery for those who struggle with depression and anxiety and extreme Watty than prescribed medication as that was the conclusion of the study and that face-to-face interaction acts like a vitamin for depression a vitamin that kills depression that that's what belonging does but he questioned their God is this my burden to carry or do I need to pack up the phone and I need to speak this up because it's some I need a little bit of help and this burden carrying moment I did have a n lofty thought about Elijah to share but I'm seeing an increasing number of comments I'm really glad that you you're so honest that are talking about sex drive and emotions that almost are sexually am so charged that you are struggling to get a handle on the more sexualized emotional thoughts so rather than a lofty thoughts on Elijah let me comment on that I think one of the top tips I would give you for emotions that you know are pushing into sin whether that's unrighteous anger whether that's an unhealthy jealousy when you are stewarding and sometimes a vileness inside or a defiled nasur and a perversion and you know those emotions you really just want to shut them up and make them go away and we all have moments where their emotions in us and thoughts in us we want to shut them up and we want to make them go away and so it's important that we comment on that the more I say yes to Jesus Jesus I say yes to you Jesus I say yes to your tris Jesus I say youth yes to your morality Jesus I say yes to your standards James as I say yes the more that you can in those moments say Jesus here is my yes so what I don't want to do is I battle that thought aha now there are moments for that but sometimes you just don't have the energy for that and a better way sometimes doing is Jesus Jesus I say a big yes to you the very second I am dealing with emotions that are not good and not holy not a good process Jesus I say yes to you why is that important because the more I say yes to Jesus the bigger my yes becomes the more surrendered my heart the more magnified my yes Christ is the more diminished my yes to sin is I have to say a big yes to Jesus rather than put my yes to Jesus am i yes - let's take sexual perversion because it's the one that's on the screen here you know that people are asking but I have to I can fight if I could Jesus I have a yes to your standard Jesus it's a big yes and my yest Jesus with his help starts to take over when I am stuck in issues of emotional perversion and is these the sense of I want to give you top tips here because if anybody says that they don't have those feelings well deliver them of a lying spirit quite honestly because we we all do it there's never quite us lying about it we all do so it's those top tips of here are my emotions here is my big yes to Jesus here is me laying my weakness and Jesus knows your weakness and he is happier if you share it with him and I break shame off you because very often there is a sense of here is my list of mice might my my sin but my shame stops my honesty and what do we say earlier you must process those so I banish your shame in Jesus name that you may be an honest processor hmm with a big yes to Jesus well we covered some grinds today including some weird American expressions but I think in the middle of this and I will and finish the finish line do not be scared that your emotions may need processed in sleep in sleeping and eating and repeating and Elijah understands how to eat and how to sleep and how to repeat that do not rush in your processing but make sure that you take the time to eat to sleep and to repeat as you need to Wow okay have permission to go at the pace that you need to go remember that scripture that I said love your neighbor as yourself is much more than simple self acceptance it is about loving the process of stewarding your emotions if we get this we will revolutionize the church so wow what a journey we're back tomorrow who am i back with Nate you're back we too are and Sarah Jane Sam it's your turn to have a day off and and bless you make sure that you've got a copy of my book if you've not makes sure that you have em warmed for miracle clinic if you want to be a volunteer we're still receiving applications and thank you gorgeous people for going on this adventure with us we'll see you tomorrow [Music]

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Published: Wed Jun 24 2020