7 Reasons Why Modern Relationship Are So Fragile

the mysteries of love romance and how relationships work in general has been studied by psychologists for years there have been countless studies surveys and theories all dedicated to enlightening us on the matter in spite of their best efforts it seems that we're still generally somewhat clueless when it comes to matters of the heart in fact there has been a startling rise in separation and divorce rates over the past decade this has us shaking our heads and wondering why are modern relationships so fragile let's try to find some answers here are seven key reasons why most relationships nowadays fall apart so easily one you're not ready yet all too often our relationships dissolve because you're simply not ready to be in one yet maybe your needs at the time are to keep things casual and fun not in a state of serious commitment a strong healthy relationship is all about positive compromise dedication patience and sacrifice modern relationships seem to have a lost sight of that the unrealistic standards set by mainstream entertainment and social media train us to think that a perfect relationship should be one where we're always happy with zero conflict and we're perfectly matched for our partners we need to understand that this is like believing in heavily filtered instagram photos it's not the real or full picture once we can accept that we can move forward towards being ready two you're too busy to settle down modern society values success hard work and accomplishment so people nowadays have become more competitive and ambitious than ever it feels good to be the best in class at work being the most popular to be the best there is a drive to get into prestigious universities or be promoted to the top of the corporate ladder with so many other priorities in your life romantic relationships may simply not match in importance three you're confusing any need for interaction with the need for romantic love what is love really can you define it can you solidly list out things that will tell you 100 yes this is love not something else if you're not totally sure or you found yourself asking how do i know this is love you're not alone and this confusion is another reason why modern relationships have become so fragile maybe what you feel you need isn't actually love perhaps you're interpreting your need for excitement or companionship for romantic love truth is love isn't always going to be intense passionate or exhilarating it's also about mutual trust respect and partnership 4. you want something now not tomorrow ever heard something like good things come to those who wait or even the song you can't hurry love there's a ring of truth there a mature healthy strong relationship requires time to blossom and room to grow the problem is we live in an age of instant gratification and same day shipping we're not used to or practiced in patients many of us can relate to the guilty trait of wanting something but not wanting to put the time into it we do the same with relationships we rush in then rush out when we think we see something better shinier and more immediate we're suddenly treating relationships like a toy instead of a treasure 5. you find the effort to be too much speaking of immediate gratification and new toys ever tried reading a new book or starting a new hobby and thought why is this so difficult don't fret you're normal and fine thank our modern conveniences for the frustration it can be difficult to remember that a solid lasting relationship isn't instant ramen it's a gourmet dish requiring time and care hitting that first relationship bump now results in scrapping it and saying thank you next rather than working within building something with the current partner the result of this expectation of easy makes for ingratitude to what we already have we cheapen love and become dismissive of the good that is in front of us these expectations set us up for a string of disappointments 6. you're too guarded do you let your head rule your heart most of the time do you talk yourself out of the things that you want and let fears keep you from being happy when people build too many walls around themselves it can be hard to reach them being 100 clinically logical with matters of the heart may result in never truly falling in love because sometimes love is illogical and unexplainable sometimes love means taking a leap of faith and opening yourself up to someone wholeheartedly you need to put aspects like time distance compatibility or practicality on the back burner for a bit and allow yourself the freedom to be with whomever you want no matter the first impression problems or complications and seven you're too dependent on technology last but surely not least being too dependent on technology might be one of the key reasons why most modern relationships don't last are you wondering if you rely on technology too much let's try a little experiment ask yourself how you'd feel for a full day without your phone seriously from the moment you open your eyes imagine your day step by step without your phone do you feel a little uneasy or that something is not right while technology may have brought us all closer together it's also keeping us apart with the world wide web at your fingertips you can be so caught up in your virtual life that you forget to live your real one texts chats and voice calls have replaced physical quality time with the ones we love when your whole life is already chronicled in an instagram story or a twitter thread it can leave us with very little to talk about as you can see there are a number of reasons why modern day relationships may be struggling to survive and thrive and these are just a few of the most likely ones we forget all too often to make time for love in our lives relationships are now treated as nothing more than a casual convenience societal influences have molded us to want immediate gratification with as many different options as possible the truth is love never comes easy and no great relationship happens overnight manage your expectations discuss and work with your partner spend more time on what's truly important to you and be grateful for all the people in your life who love you did this touch a note with you do you see yourself or others around you in any of these situations if so please share this video with someone who might benefit from it please like share and subscribe as the great laozi once said being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage have strength and be courageous my friends see you next time you

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Length: 6min 57sec (417 seconds)

Published: Tue May 26 2020