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(drawing) (pinging) - [Narrator] Hey Psych2Goers,
welcome back to another video. Thank you so much for all the
love that you've given us. Your support helps us make mental health and psychology more
accessible to everyone. Now, let's begin. As the ancient Greek
philosopher, Aristotle once said, "Even a god finds it hard to love and be wise at the same time." And he certainly wasn't wrong. Though we'd all like to believe that we're too smart to let
our hearts rule our heads, too often we let our emotions
cloud our better judgment. Especially when it comes to dating, but learning how to
recognize the early signs that our relationship won't work out, or that someone is incompatible with you, can save us a lot of pain
and regret down the road. So, rather than simply
forgiving and forgetting, like we often do, here are
seven red flags in dating you need to start looking out for. Number one, they always agree with you. Does your new bae like all
the same things you like, or share all the same
views and opinions as you? While it's certainly nice
that you get along so well, you need to be wary of people
who seem to agree with you on just about everything. They may not be telling you the truth, or showing you their real selves. It's likely that they're just
telling you all the things to make you like them
more, because the truth is, no two people will ever see
eye to eye on everything, because no two people are
exactly the same and that's okay. Differences are what makes us who we are. And if the person you're dating feels the need to change who
they are just to please you, then it's never gonna work out. Two, they hide things from you. Does your partner hide things from you and struggle to communicate
properly with you? It's a definite red flag
if you can't be open with each other about how
you feel or what you think. Do you notice your partner avoids talking about their feelings, or doesn't share much about themselves? Do they keep you away from
their friends and family, or always leave you guessing
about what they'd been doing? While everyone certainly has
a right to their privacy, you can't emotionally connect with someone who's afraid to be vulnerable with you. Three, they don't prioritize you. Does the person you're dating seem too busy for you sometimes? Do they spend most of
their time with work, academics or their other relationships? Do they often cancel on
you at the last minute, or take forever to return
your calls and messages? While you certainly can't
demand anyone's time, dating someone who can't fit
you into their busy schedule, isn't going to be easy. And the fact that they're
already struggling to juggle so many other
priorities in their life, is a clear sign that they're not ready for a serious relationship. Or, they're dismissive of you. Another warning sign
you need to look out for is how the person you're
dating talks to you. Are they encouraging and supportive, or condescending and dismissive? Do they always have to have their way and assert that they're right? Or, are they open to
listening to our ideas? Having a partner who talks down to you and doesn't take you serious, isn't something you want for yourself. And even though they
might try to pass it off as "knowing better" and encouraging
you to "just trust them" and "go along with it", you deserve to be with someone
who respects your opinion and gives you a say in the relationship. Five, they easily get jealous. While it's never something
we want ourselves or our romantic partners to feel, sooner or later, jealousy
is bound to find its way into our relationships. It's not a deal breaker, in and of itself, if your partner feels jealous
or insecure sometimes, but what really matters,
is how they deal with it. And if you're dating someone
who seems to get jealous all too easily, you might wanna watch out, because there's a good chance that it'll soon make them
paranoid and controlling. Six, they make you
second-guess their feelings. Most of us know when you've
just started dating somebody you need to be careful in
how you navigate the waters. You don't wanna come on too
strong or seem too needy, because you always want to
leave them wanting more. But at a certain point
in your relationship, they need to start making an effort to show you how they feel. Because if they don't, they're not ready for
a serious commitment, or they're just not as invested in the relationship as you are. Whatever the reason may be, dating someone who plays
with your feelings, is never a good idea. Seven, they talk badly about their exes. Do they constantly bring up
their ex during conversations and compare you to
their last relationship, or tell you all to private details about their last relationship? You need to remember that
if you and this person ever did become serious
and eventually break up, there's a good chance they'll
treat you the same way. And the fact that they feel
the need to bash their exes and make them all out to be "the bad guy", just goes to show that
they're still hurting over their most recent breakup and could be looking to you for a rebound. Do you relate to any of the signs we've mentioned on this list? Have you ever dated someone who showed some of these
very same red flags? Let us know in the "Comments" below. Please "Like" and "Share"
this video if it helped you and you think it could
help someone else, too. The studies and references used are listed in the description below. Don't forget to hit the "Subscribe" button for more Psych2Go video's and as always, thanks so much for watching. We'll see you next time.
Ah yes psyc2go. I have been using there videos to realise my abuser was likely suffering from npd ( narcissistic personality disorder) it doesn't make it OK how she treated me but now I know what to watch out for
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