(upbeat music) Hey Psych2go family! Welcome back to our channel. Thank you all so much for the
love that you've given us, your ongoing support has
helped us make psychology and mental health more accessible
to everyone, so thank you. As a quick note, we wanted
to say that this video is for educational purposes
only, and we're not suggesting that you need to end your relationship if you're familiar with
any of these reasons. What's important is to sit down with your partner and talk
about any issues first. We also encourage you to
speak with somebody you trust, who can provide support,
with that said, let's begin. Being in love can feel
like one of the most amazing feelings in the world. Even though you and your partner are very much in love with each other, it doesn't necessarily mean
that they'll stick around. Sometimes you can be in a relationship with someone who loves you and that person can still
wind up leaving you. That feeling of abandonment
can really hurt. And it does because you
know that you had love within your grasp and you
still let it slip away. It can make you question
your entire relationship. Like why would they so
willingly walk away from love? To help you get some closure, here are six common
reasons why people choose to leave the ones that they love. Number one, they don't feel respected. Do you respect each other
in your relationship? At the foundation of any kind
of relationship is respect. Your partner may love you but they will never
allow themselves to stay in a relationship that
didn't have mutual respect. A person's dignity is
always going to come first and it's best to stay
mindful of that notion. Number two, they don't
feel emotionally supported. Are you able to be vulnerable
and open around each other? The bulk of what makes
up a good relationship is the emotional support
between two individuals who love one another. Neither one of you wants to
feel slighted or cheated. The rough patches are common and having to be vulnerable
can be difficult. Vulnerability opens up
the possibility of pain. And if your partner doesn't feel that they're being supported
emotionally, it's less likely that they will allow themselves
to be vulnerable with you. Number three, your relationship has experienced a loss
of physical intimacy. Have you ever been in a
situation where you still love and care for your partner but you're not attracted to them anymore? Physical affection is much more than sex. And as part of the glue that holds the relationship together. Research has found that
non-sexual physical intimacy is key to longterm
happiness in a relationship. And that held close, skin to
skin contact, releases the same bonding chemicals in
your brain as sex would. Research has found that
humans have an innate ability to interpret emotional
messages through touch alone. In a 2009 study conducted by Hertenstein, blindfolded people were able
to correctly interpret eight distinct emotions, such
as anger, fear, disgust, love, gratitude, sympathy,
happiness and sadness, solely through the touch of a
stranger, with 78% accuracy. Loss of physical intimacy
is often the first step towards a loss of emotional intimacy. It's such a critical part of our relationship that when it's gone, you or your partner may be tempted to look for it somewhere else. Number four, they don't feel adequate. Believe it or not, a
person is always at risk of leaving the relationship
whenever they don't feel like they're enough for somebody. In a relationship, your
partner wants to feel validated by you and
desires to be appreciated. Over time, if they don't get
the appreciation they deserve, they may feel inadequate and choose to leave the relationship. Number five, they don't feel listened to. One tip you always get
is that communication is very important in a relationship. However, we might take that to mean that we need to be doing a lot of talking in the relationship, but
it's more than just talking, it's also about listening. Do you truly listen to what
your partner has to say or do you listen just for
the sake of responding? Healthy communication consists of both listening and speaking. If your partner doesn't
feel properly listened to and like they don't have much of a voice, they may feel that they
can't express themselves in the way that they'd like to. And number six, they no longer
feel an emotional connection. Studies have shown that the love and passion that comes
with the initial boost of marriage, has a tendency to wear off after about two years. This is why the best
relationships are the ones that have genuine
friendship at their core. Emotional connection
is often what sustains a long lasting relationship. And if that is no longer there, this may be another
reason why people choose to leave the person they love. Did this video help you find closure, or if you've left someone you loved, did you relate to any of these reasons? Let us know in the comments below. It can be difficult and overwhelming, especially when making the decision to leave a relationship
that you're invested in. We hope this video was able to provide some insight for you, please like and share this video if it helped you and you think it could
help someone else too. The studies and references used are listed in the description below. Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and notification bar icon
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