[Upbeat Music] Hey Psych2goers and welcome back to our channel! Your love and ongoing support have helped
us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone. And we want to
thank you for that! Now let’s continue! Do you believe in the idea of soul mates? Do you
think that in this world of 7 billion people, there is someone out there who you’re destined
to be with? If it sounds too good to be true, psychology is here to tell you that it probably
is. Years and years of research on healthy, long-lasting relationships have taught us
that soulmates are created, not born. That kind of love doesn’t just happen overnight - it
takes a lot of patience and dedication. Studies show that a couple’s compatibility is directly
related to the quality of their relationship, so the more compatible you and your partner
are, the happier you’re likely to be. If you think you and your partner don’t have the right
compatibility, you risk holding each other back by staying in an unhappy, unfulfilling relationship
with the wrong person. With that said, here are eight important warning signs that you
and your partner may not be right for each other. ONE. You can’t be honest with them. Do you feel like you just can’t be
honest with your partner sometimes? About how you’re feeling, what you’re
thinking, or what your opinion is? Maybe it’s that you can’t speak your
mind because it might upset them. Or you’re worried they might not understand
or judge you for your thoughts and emotions, so you hide it from them instead. Keeping
secrets and having difficulty communicating with your partner shows that there is a lack
of trust and respect in your relationship. TWO. You’re constantly on and off again. Have you and your partner ever broken up,
only to get back together some time later? Do you rarely stay broken up or together for too
long before you do it all over again? Being in such an on-again-off-again relationship
can not only be emotionally draining, but it can also turn toxic. This kind of
instability shows that you both lack the maturity or compatibility to make a relationship work.
Though you might think it’s endearing that you and your partner always find your way back
to each other, it could also mean that the two of you are stuck in a dysfunctional pattern of
unhealthy behaviors you just can’t seem to shake. THREE. You don’t have any shared interests. A problem can arise if the ONLY thing you and
your partner have in common is that you love each other! You don’t have any mutual hobbies;
you don’t have the same taste in anything; you have opposing views and opinions, and you
have wildly different personalities. Even though opposites do attract sometimes, most of them don’t
stay together for very long because psychological studies have shown us that every couple
needs to have at least some shared interests in order to maintain a strong and well-balanced
relationship. If not then you’ll most likely just end up doing your own thing, arguing with your
partner, and eventually drifting further apart. FOUR. You run in different social circles. Similar to sharing interests, having mutual
friends, and befriending your partner’s loved ones is also an important part of making a relationship
work. If you don’t run in the same social circles, and neither of you is even willing to try, then
it’s most likely not going to last. If you’re living two separate lives, then your relationship
doesn’t get to be a part of each other’s world. FIVE. You want different things. Have you ever heard the expression, “I met
the right person at the wrong time?” Well, just like with chemistry and compatibility, timing is another especially crucial ingredient
in any successful romantic relationship. Because the truth is, no matter how much you love
someone or how badly you want to be with them, it just isn’t going to work if you’re both at
different points in your lives and unable to meet in the middle. Maybe you’re young and
still looking for excitement in your life, while they’re ready to commit and settle
down. If you’re in a relationship with someone who wants different things from you,
then the relationship is on borrowed time. SIX. Your relationship is not a priority. Maybe you do love your partner and like spending
time with them. You find them charming, funny, and interesting to talk to. You like being their
significant other, and the relationship is easy. But your relationship will eventually be put
to the test and you’ll need to prove just how much your partner means to you. Can you honestly
say that you would be willing to drop everything and come running when they need you? Are
you willing to stand by them through times of struggle and hardship? Or do you only
want to be with them when it’s simple, easy, and convenient for you? If neither of you
is willing to make your relationship a priority, then that’s as clear a sign as any that
you two just aren’t right for each other. SEVEN: You don’t satisfy each other’s needs. Do you know what your partner’s love language
is? Do you know what their attachment and communication style is? Whether it’s affection,
attention, intimacy, space, encouragement, or praise, you need to be able to give your
partner what they need to feel like they’re being emotionally fulfilled by you and your
relationship and also vice versa. Do they want to spend more time with you but you need a lot
of space? Or they want you to be more romantic but you show them your affection through gestures
instead of words? If you and your partner just can’t agree on how to express your love for one
another, then the relationship might not last. EIGHT: You have a lot of doubts. Finally, if you’ve had a lot of doubts
about your relationship from the very start, then that’s definitely a bad sign. Though you
could always chalk it up to a fear of getting hurt or anxiety about the future, having a lot
of doubts about your significant other could mean that you subconsciously fear that you are pursuing
a romantic relationship with the wrong person. Do you relate to any of the signs in the video?
Have you had any of these same doubts about your own relationship? While no relationship is
perfect, it’s important to realize the difference between one that’s worth fighting for and one
that’s just not right for you. Like and share this video if it helped you and you think it can
help someone else, too! The studies and references used are listed in the description below.
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