7 Signs of an Incompatible Relationship

hey and welcome psych2go community thank you for all the love and support you've given us your ongoing support and desire to assist others with psychology is what helps us continue delivering quality content tailored just for you now let's get into this week's topic love partnership soulmate so many of us spend a good chunk of our lives looking for the one but what happens when we actually find someone how do we know if they're the person who's right to spend the rest of our lives with or even if starting a relationship with them is the right choice while compatibility is no guarantee of longevity studies show that it is directly related to the quality and satisfaction of our relationships simply put the more compatible you and your partner are the happier you're likely to be with them everybody has their own ideas about what qualities and traits their dream partner should have but rarely do we ever find someone who's a perfect match instead we learn to compromise where we can and grow to love people in spite of their flaws and imperfections however it can be hard to differentiate normal differences from incompatibility so if you're wondering whether or not you and your significant other are incompatible here are seven telltale signs that you probably aren't right for each other one you don't get each other right from the get-go this can tell you a great deal about how good of a match you and your partner make if you have a hard time understanding how they're feeling what they're thinking or what they need then they might not be the one for you and vice versa it's better to be with someone you can be in sync with someone who picks up and understands your non-verbal cues they can discern your tone of voice and get what you're trying to tell them otherwise miscommunication and misunderstandings can pile up in your relationship two you're too different from each other while it's technically true that opposites do attract every solid healthy couple should share at least a few similarities with their partner this doesn't mean having to like all the same music or movies that they do or even share the same hobbies as them in fact it can even be refreshing to be in a relationship with someone radically different from yourself sadly though the excitement won't last forever if the similarities are too scarce or non-existent once the new and shiny effect wears off you're both left with someone who doesn't share the same humor interests values ideals or principles making it difficult to relate to one another in any meaningful way three you try to change each other not grow and learn together the hallmark of any strong healthy relationship is having a partner who gives you the drive and motivation to change for the better and that's the point it must be something you want for yourself your idea not theirs alone despite your partner expressing irritation or dissatisfaction with the current you it's generally ineffective and not sustainable if you're forcing change on yourself solely because they want it and you don't you have to want it for you and this goes for many things whether it's the way you dress speak or who you hang out with only you have the right to decide who you want to be if you don't feel comfortable showing your true colors to your significant other even in a private setting this is a definite red flag for there is constant or highly frequent arguing it's perfectly normal and healthy to disagree with your partner about something from time to time especially if it's over something that's important to the two of you we didn't choose this person so we could be with a clone of ourselves the disagreements become a problem however when the arguing is constant and over the tiniest of things it's even unhealthier if the fighting is dirty shouting name-calling humiliating each other holding grudges and emotional blackmail being in a relationship with a partner who tends to bring out mostly the ugliest side of you is never good five you attain peace by avoiding all the problems it's all about moderation while constant fighting is obviously not ideal it's also not good for a couple to never disagree about anything you need to be honest and communicate openly with one another about how you feel even if it's not in agreement with the other person constant pretending everything is okay or blind agreement to the wants of the other person does not make the relationship stronger and may in fact result in a catastrophic blow up later conflict can be a positive bond building event if it can be given and taken constructively it then can lead to personal growth and deeper mutual understanding six your socializing is isolated from everyone else do you find that when you and your partner go out it's nearly always only with each other no friends no parties or group hangouts do you never spend any time with their friends have you even met their friends is their family still a group of mystery people you've never been introduced to even though you've been together for a while if you answered yes to any of these this could be a potential problem it's important that you spend time with your partner's loved ones and get to know them better couples who make the effort to be close with the other important people in their partner's lives tend to have longer and happier relationships and 7. you're not attracted to them lastly but most importantly even when everything seems perfect on paper if you don't have any romance or chemistry it's simply not going to work without even an inkling of those factors you might have a best friend but not necessarily a significant other the result is that you will naturally be drawn to people you have that more than friends attraction to the triarchic theory of love by robert sternberg even states that although intimacy and commitment are present without passion the love you share will only be platonic like the love shared between you and your friends and family in the end there's no such thing as a perfect relationship everyone has doubts or disagreements at times with the person they love a strong healthy relationship takes ongoing effort dedication and also time for it to grow what's important is finding that someone who to you is worth the effort first impressions and initial choices do not seal your fate learning to know and recognize compatibility versus incompatibility will save you much heartbreak and possibly avoid more serious scarring so take the time to evaluate your relationship with these key points in mind and honestly ask yourself is my partner right for me we hope you enjoyed the video and learned something new about yourself and others please like share and give feedback or comment below let us know what you'd like to see next don't forget to subscribe to psyc2go for more psychology content and as always thanks for watching and taking this short psychology journey with us

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Published: Mon Jun 21 2021