6 Reactions When You Go No-Contact With a Narcissist | No Contact With a Narcissist

hey everybody I'm dr. angel storm I'm the founder of ashes to beauty ministries and today I want to give you six common reactions that narcissists will have when you try to go no contact these are very important if you are planning to go no contact with a narcissist soon have these in your the back of your mind so you know what to kind of expect as you break away from the abusive cycle that you're in so number one is to expect manipulation this can come often in the form of begging crying apologizing admitting that they were wrong even momentarily or agreeing to go to counseling if that was one of your stipulations everything that you had been asking the narcissist to do or to take care of in the past months years decades of your relationship all of a sudden now they are going to be willing to fulfill all of these things overnight this is a tactic obviously this is nothing more than manipulation these are just words again something that I always teach my clients to do is if they're not sure that they're dealing with a narcissist or not I tell them to stop listening to all of their words don't pay any more attention to what they say and only look at what they do because you're going to be able to tell what's behind those words if they're just empty words they're just speaking out something to kind of calm the situation and placate you for the moment or if they're actually serious and making a heart change so pay attention to their actions and not their words if you're finding that this is the case for you after you've gone no contact number two is to expect them to reach out to your family and your friends and tell them how much of the victim they are so they're going to try to recruit more of your supporters onto their side this is very common I've experienced this my own self they will reach out to your very closest family and friends and try to use that against you and they'll even see it say see your own family says such-and-such or they're siding with me and so you must be the crazy one so be prepared to be isolated even from people who have been with you even your whole life and if you have the opportunity try to warn your fee million friends that this is going to happen sometimes this can be difficult I have a few videos that talk about how to address what people have been seeing versus what you've been living so that you can explain what narcissism is how this takes shape behind closed doors and things of that nature that you can check out after this video there'll be links to those in the description of this video if you need that kind of help but if you can warn them ahead of time that this is coming and you're gonna be able to show more like see these the patterns that narcissists follow in terms of their behavior are very predictable and so just alerting them that this is going to happen can help convince them or help show them or prove to them that they the person that you are leaving is the narcissist and that you really need their support and their help right now number three is expect them to contact you either through messenger through social media or through text messages or email or whatever and send you cryptic messages where you can't really make sense of what they're actually saying or what their actual intention is it probably doesn't make much sense at all and that's what they're hoping they're hoping that like you'll respond to it it's just bait to get you to engage again with them usually so that they can make another point about how right they are or whatever the case may be but you taking the bait can even give them hope and that will make them even more aggressive in their tactics so be aware that this is going to be one of the things that they use to try to lure you back into their abusive cycle number four is be prepared for them to commit horrendous acts including destroying your property trying to break into your house any kinds of things like this that include physical violence or destruction of your property this is because narcissists cannot imagine you leaving them what they are the center of the world and don't you know that and look at the power and authority that they can exert over you they can destroy your things they can reach you in your home so expect that when you try to rebel or to unhook yourself from certain narcissists they will feel the need to physically their power and control over you and even if you feel like oh no my type of narcissists that I'm involved with won't do that it's always good to have a back-up plan so make make it known to a friend or a family member that you trust that you are gonna leave the narcissist and that this could happen just to have somebody who can help you maybe stay with you for for a few days or a few weeks after you leave the narcissist depending on how serious your relationship was and so that they can be there to witness any of this stuff should you need to file a police report or take action in court number five is expect some sort of grandiose gesture this could be such as a proposal or some big vacation announcement or a vow renewal or something like this to try to win you back they're gonna profess their love that they can't live without you that they're nothing without you all of these things are and they don't usually be again not just with words but they'll use their body in a manner like maybe they'll get on their knees in public they'll start crying in public they'll use a loud voice and be confessing this and so other people are more likely to side with them like oh look at that isn't that sweet why isn't that woman you know falling for this act or whatever and so be prepared for this to be another thing that they use this is again nothing more than manipulation these are empty words followed by grandiose gestures that are actually Hollow they don't actually intend to make any lifestyle changes and finally number six expect them to replace you with a new supply and expect them to be very vocal about it expect there to be pictures everywhere on social media expect all of your mutual friends and family members that you may know to be talking about this and how great it is it'll usually go from your relationship to immediately being engaged or whatever I'm married and on a honeymoon already so they do this to make you believe that you're the one who has the issue and in the back of their minds they're hoping that they can still use you as a supply because although they might have even gone through with a new marriage they aren't able to maintain only one a one-on-one relationship a monogamous relationship and so they are going to be seeking other supplies once the honeymoon phase of that new relationship wears off so prepare your hearts if you are still attached emotionally to the narcissist to see these things and to know that this is all part of an act and it's a very a thought-out methodical way to hook you and to keep you in the trauma bond that they've created so I hope this video has helped you again I have a free course called life after narcissism you can access it by looking in the description of this video it's 12 videos and it takes you through all of the basic steps that you need to do in order to rebuild your life after narcissism I'm dr. angel storm and if you haven't already be sure to subscribe to my channel below [Music]

Channel: Angel J. Storm, Ph.D.

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Length: 7min 35sec (455 seconds)

Published: Fri Nov 08 2019