- [Narrator] Hey Psych2Goers and welcome back to our channel. Thank you so much for all the
love that you've given us. Your ongoing support has helped us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone, so thank you. Now, let's continue. Are you doing something that
might make others dislike you? I'm sure you're often being told that you shouldn't care
about other's opinions as long as you're happy with yourself. However, your mood and emotions can still be affected by
what others think of you, and that's okay. After all, we're all social beings that rely heavily on each other. We want to be liked and
desire approval, appreciation, and acceptance from others. With that in mind, here are six behaviors that
can make people dislike you. Number one. Sharing too many photos on social media. Have you ever been on
Instagram and felt annoyed by that one person who floods
your feed with pic after pic? Although sharing photos can be helpful, while building up an
interpersonal relationship, research has shown that
sharing too many photos can have the opposite effect. According to a study done by David Hutton, your real life relationships
can be hindered because people won't relate to you as well if you're constantly
posting photos of yourself. Additionally, friends might not like it if you post too many family
photos and vice versa. To avoid hindering your
interpersonal relationships, thinking about how the photos you post are being perceived by everyone and being mindful of that
when making your posts would be beneficial. Number two. Humblebragging Imagine this. Your friend complains to
you about how swamped she is in her newly elected role
as Student Body President. She says that she's so stressed. In fact, that she's lost 10 pounds and can even fit into her
old jeans from ninth grade. As a listener, you translate your friend's
series of complaints and deduce the real
meaning behind the brag. She's proud of her new role and know she looks better than ever. This is the art of humblebrag,
and it's not attractive. According to a working paper
from Harvard Business School, they chose the job interview
for this study setting. Independent research assistants were asked to determine who they would be more likely to hire. The results showed that three quarters of
participants humblebraged, and that the independent
research assistants were more likely to hire the people who were honest and didn't humblebrag, and found them to be more likable. Since humblebragging is
a turnoff to most people, it's advisable to avoid
doing it as best you can. Number three. Not smiling. Are you someone who does not usually smile or finds it hard to keep a smile on during parties or family get togethers? If this sounds like you, you might not be getting
approached very much. A study conducted by the
University of Wyoming found that a smile is very influential in how likable you are, even more than having
an open body position. The main reason is that when other people see you
smile, it makes them feel good, naturally attracting them towards you. Try to smile whenever you can and whenever you feel like it. It'll make you so much more likable, especially when you're
first meeting someone. Number four. Constantly criticizing people's choices. Do you hate I hate when
people question your decisions just because you didn't do it their way? A study published by the
Journal of Consumer Psychology confirmed that you won't like it when someone criticizes
your own decisions, making you more prone to disliking them. You naturally compare yourself to others and decide to build relationships based on the similarities and
differences you see in them compared to yourself. This comparison is magnified when comparing ethics and morals, since these are an essential
part of your identity. Therefore, if you're constantly
criticizing, judging, or being closed minded
about people's choices, chances are, they'll not like you simply because of the
disagreement that exists on a fundamental level. If they're open to talk to
you about their choices, it would be wise to ask questions, to understand where they're coming from and their points of view, instead of shoving your
opinion down their throats. Number five. Suppressing or faking your emotions. Do you have trouble expressing
how you truly feel to others? Do you go along with
something you disagree with just to avoid conflict? If so, this behavior might
cause others to dislike you. This is because people can tell when you're being inauthentic. According to a study by
the University of Oregon, people who suppressed their emotions were perceived as less agreeable and more insecure about relationships. As human beings, we look for people who are likely to
reciprocate our investments. So, when we detect that someone
is hiding their emotions, we may interpret that as disinterest. And number six. Writing a formal email
with a smiling emoticon. Have you ever thought about
adding a smiling emoticon in a work email that you're
about to send to your boss? You might wanna rethink that one. Research has suggested that, although smiling in person
will make you more likable, adding smiling emojis
can work against you, especially in a formal setting. To back this up, a 2017 article by researchers in Israel
and the Netherlands found that adding smiling emojis in emails makes you seem less competent. Giving people the impression
that you're not competent will most likely result
in them disliking you as people tend to gravitate towards people that they can rely on. To avoid this, try to
maintain a clear separation between how you write your formal emails and your casual emails, while keeping in mind
that adding smiling emojis will not have any real
impact on how warm you seem. Did you find this video insightful? What other behaviors do you think might make others dislike you? Let us know in the comments below. Please like and share this
video if it helped you and you think it could
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