6 Subtle Behaviors To Make Others Like You Instantly

hey psych2goers welcome back to our channel your support helps us in our goal to spread awareness about mental health and psychology so thank you for your support now to the video sometimes making friends can be hard have you been through this scenario you start your first class it's your first day back to school a new semester a new schedule new people anything could happen the student you end up sitting next to could be your next best friend the possibilities are endless for friendship that's what you think your first day the next day the hope is still there it lasts the week maybe the month but then you soon find your hope dwindling down as you haven't seem to make an impression on anyone and you start to wonder do people like me don't worry odds are others just haven't gotten to know more about you and what makes you great because we all have something that makes us great to someone out there you may just need to develop some likable behaviors and habits that get others to notice you enough to want to find out what those great qualities are so to help you become an even greater person here are some subtle behaviors that can make others like you hey you may even find yourself liking you a bit more too number one call them by their name no not call me by your name call them by their name although that is a great film have you ever perked up at the call of your name perhaps someone across the room mentioned you at a party and instead of saying hey you they said well your name we love our name so much that we can even pinpoint our own names being spoken by someone in a loud crowd or party this form of selective attention is related to the cocktail party effect while in a crowd or loud room we can hone in on a specific conversation of our choosing more importantly if our name is spoken nearby even when we're focused on another conversation we immediately perk up and recognize that someone is talking about us think about it it not only makes you focus more when someone says your name but it makes you feel better knowing they actually bothered to remember it try taking a mental note of each individual's name when you meet them and think of a related image to help you remember them number two give genuine compliments when they cross your mind everyone loves compliments and we can usually tell when they're genuine next time you meet someone and notice something you like about them don't hesitate to tell them it's best to let others know the great things about them wouldn't you want to know if someone is thinking highly of you when we speak of others in a positive light people will associate the traits we use to describe that person with ourselves this happens when we talk about someone to someone else this is called spontaneous trait transference and it occurs when communicators are perceived as possessing the very traits they describe in others according to several studies published in the journal of personality and social psychology researchers found that when we describe someone with a certain trait to another person that person will associate us with the traits described so it doesn't hurt to give someone you just met a compliment like your lab partner derek who always aces the quizzes or the student sitting next to you with a great sense of fashion what was her name again you better remember ah suzy go ahead and tell them their outfit looks great and even tell your lab partner derek that susie does indeed have great taste he may even associate that compliment to how great you are in the process i'm sure they would love to hear nice things said about them wouldn't you number three spend more time with them want a secret to getting someone to like you try spending some time with them this doesn't necessarily mean you have to ask them out right away if it doesn't feel quite right or natural but it can mean sitting with them at lunch or perhaps you want a co-worker to like you get to know them by having a quick coffee chat with them it never hurts to try it's best to make socializing with others a habit if you want to make friends according to the psychological study by rb zazonk the mere exposure effect is a psychological phenomenon in which people find themselves preferring someone or something simply because they developed familiarity with them when a person is repeatedly exposed to a certain stimulus that person develops familiarity with the stimuli and therefore prefers its presence this is why certain products and ads are constantly being repeated during your favorite program's commercial breaks the more familiar you are with something the more you'll start to notice it and if they turn you down when you ask them out it's definitely their loss anyways number four you don't need to be perfect there's no such thing you may think that you have to appear perfect to attract others your way how could your friend possibly like you if you don't ace every single test how could they admire you if you don't look extremely fashionable every day props to suzy though how could anyone ever get to know you if you don't have the perfect vocabulary well i hate to break it to you well actually i want to break it to you but people don't actually care that much while you might think otherwise often people find this so-called perfection intimidating distant or unattainable yeah i know not even perfect is good enough in fact people may find others who aren't superbly perfect and who even possess the rarity of these so-called flaws as more attractive in a study researcher elliot aronson had people rate fake test takers based on their attractiveness test takers would either do great on a test mediocre or poor the imperfection some test takers would act clumsy and spill coffee at the end of the interview after their scores were revealed people raided the test takers who spilled coffee at the end of their interview the highest on the attractiveness scale meaning people want to see that you're intelligent and capable but that you aren't perfect as the research paper states a superior person may be viewed as superhuman and therefore distant a blunder tends to humanize them and consequently increase their attractiveness poor test takers mediocre test takers and even great test takers were still rated lower than the superior test taker who scored great and spilled coffee at the end others may be intimidated if you come across as perfect and make no mistakes they want to see that you're human but when you show you're capable and yet still relatable as a human being who makes mistakes people tend to like you more number five look to the positives first you know that one person in a group who always has the nicest and most positive things to say do you ever feel an aura of happiness and peace when around them they never seem to complain and when they do it's only because of a particularly important reason like there was a hair in my taco salad order something like that they seem to emit this bright positive energy that makes others gravitate towards them why can't you do the same a research paper from the university of hawaii and ohio state university suggests that many individuals can unconsciously tell what mood you're in just by being around you seems fair right so if you display positive emotions others are likely to mimic your happy facial expressions and gestures therefore they're likely to feel positive emotions around you and want to be with you more meaning if you go ahead and try to look to what makes you happy first others will like your company and ultimately you all you have to do is make it a habit to look to the positive of a situation before the negatives because others love to be near someone who is happy and if you can find the light in any dark situation isn't that something to be happy about number six you actively listen and let others talk about themselves too when we try to jump into a conversation and interrupt someone with our own thoughts on the subject prematurely it can backfire as much as we humans love to talk about ourselves it's important to realize others want to talk about themselves too which means if you let them they may just like you a bit more harvard researchers discovered that taking the time to talk about yourself can have its rewards in one of the five studies subjects sat in an fmri machine and had to respond to questions about either their own opinions on a subject or another's regions of the brain associated with reward and motivation were most active while talking about their own thoughts on a subject as opposed to others in fact the need to talk about ourselves is so strong that in another study conducted by harvard researchers some subjects even declined money to talk about themselves more as the research article states self-disclosure was strongly associated with increased activation in brain regions that form the mesolimbic dopamine system including the nucleus accumbens and ventral tegmental area moreover individuals were willing to forgo money to disclose about the self so go ahead and let your company talk about themselves for a while they'll enjoy their time around you more and increase dopamine as long as you make sure to listen and not doze off it's a habit worth practicing next time you know you've been talking a little too much try to remind yourself that the other person is dying to express their opinions as much as you are and they may have something interesting to say so what do you think are you ready to start practicing these behaviors in hopes they become a natural habit maybe you already possess some of these habits yourself try them out and see if you make any new friends and be sure to let us know in the comments what happened and if you did make any friends using these habits you're not alone susie and derek have been practicing too and now they're the best of friends they're just so positive fashionable and intelligent and clumsy with coffee too 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Length: 10min 9sec (609 seconds)

Published: Sun Dec 27 2020