Wilson Phillips' Wendy Wilson asks Supernanny for help! | The Wilson-Knutson Family | FULL EPISODE

foreign [Music] Studio City California let's take a look at the family we've got here hi we're the Newton family I'm Wendy and I'm Dan and we have four kids I'm from the band Wilson Phillips and in the early 1990s we did concerts around the world people think that I have a glamorous lifestyle but it's really not I am a housewife and a mom we live and breathe children and that's what we do Leo is four Bo is three and will and Jesse are twins and they are six weeks old going from two to four kids overnight is a whirlwind well I gotta feed the babies I'm in shock it's like a circus here you know they're Wild oh my goodness they get rambunctious and they get loud you add twins to the mix and it's just absolute lunacy sometimes so in musical terms this family would be slightly off key the way I grew up was the polar opposite to the way Wendy grew up my Father Brian Wilson of The Beach Boys when I was growing up wasn't around you know for the most part he just wasn't able to parent my sister and I we were allowed to do almost anything we wanted to do as children I think that structure was was missing in the household I think that that influenced me because I tend to be more liberal with my children and Dan is just quite the opposite of me and you know it does come into play with our parenting and we do have conflicts because of that hey don't throw an apple on the floor what are you talking about you smell poop do you have poo poo no he's got poo poo in his underwear again you got some poo poo in there buddy before the babies arrived I was resolved that Bo our three-year-old was gonna get potty trained you gotta go poo poo on the potty oh my God he refused now there's poo poo in the water usually when he hide behind that table he's going poo yeah I'm over this oh [Music] monkey it's springing a leak in the backyard out and then bedtime I'd like to see Wendy be able to put them into bed and be able to come out and let them fall asleep on their own and then between 12 and 2 A.M they make their way to our bedroom now that we have our twins it's hard to get any quality sleep at all it's an hour past your bedtime buddy I tend to Baby the kids I'm just gonna move your bed right into their room oh this family cell you need some rest that's for sure geez in a couple of months my sister and I have shows planned that we're going to do around the country I'm just a little concerned about not being with my older kids for that amount of time because I've never done that before [Applause] no we've got some dates lined up and four children is not easy and two newborns Dan's working she's gonna work we're all working so this is the challenge Super Nanny we we're overwhelmed please help us handle our children Mom and Dad yes certainly got your hands full I'm on my way to help foreign [Music] I was concerned I was going in to help a family regardless to whether they'd been in the Limelight or not I was welcomed very warmly by Wendy and Dan which was lovely oh two toddlers yeah twins yeah quite a bit right oh yeah lots of sort out and lots to be done it's one thing to have two young active boys but to have newborns as well it puts Wendy into one of the toughest challenges a parent could ever be in I'm talking to you right now the first thing that I see is the boys riding outside and Mum desperately trying to get them inside but they're just ignoring her hey stop you guys don't stop you're gonna go to a timeout I felt extremely mortified I have to be honest with you I was like my kids are not listening to me and I don't have the respect that I should have for my children Leo this is very embarrassing I believe that that the way you're raised influences the way you parent I was raised with a very unstructured type of Lifestyle we were allowed to do almost anything we wanted to do as children let's start putting puzzles away okay you want to help me come on come on I love the fact that Wendy admits that she's a pushover and that when the boys play up she leaves it up to Dan to deal with the discipline hey Leo you need to start picking up if you don't start picking up at the count of three then you're gonna have to have a timeout because this is getting silly let's get moving please thank you very much now get that puzzle put in its box and don't stop until you're finished Wendy and Dan both have very different parenting Styles and that's okay but knew that I would have to get them on the same page if they were going to see eye to eye I I do try to implement you know discipline with the kids but I know that I I can be pushed yeah I'm the pushover and he's the more strict parent yeah I have less tolerance definitely so I I know that that's something I need to work on any regression yes there has been regression yes we got Bo to the point with potty training where he was going on the potty you know every day and then he started going in his underwear regression is very common with toddlers when there are newborns around it's basically when the older child goes back to behaving how they did when they were younger and no sooner had Wendy told me about beau's potty training problems Stan caught him in the ACT what are you doing in the office come on out of there are you going poo poo let's go on the potty let's go to the potty I think you're going poo poo right now come on let's go to the party I almost done Dan hates changing diapers I mean it makes him gag oh Bowie oh boy this is horrifying buddy these aren't real accidents that Bo is having because he's already been potty trained he's just regressing because he knows he can get Mom and Dad's attention because right now they're giving it all to the newborns you know what if you didn't have man-sized poops it wouldn't be so disgusting foreign [Music] looking at what I see around me I mean you're a very successful talented woman in the music industry and is there is there a piece of you that wants to get back out there doing it to be honest with you my children are going to be my priority forever you know that comes first for me now but I do want to do something and I want I mean my sister and I are planning on doing shows this winter and it's a lot of fun and it makes me feel great to be performing again you know working and that's another aspect of myself that I don't get to see very often I went from career woman to full-time Mommy but I do have an itch to work again as well because I need I need time for myself too and it's important and and when I work you know I'm gonna I'm gonna need to be away from them for a little while I mean that I already know myself once I start rehearsing I'm going to feel guilty that I haven't been with my children even if it's a couple hours I start feeling that guilt feeling that trepidation now I'm really excited for Wendy because she's excited about going back on the road and doing what she's passionate about with her music and that brings more and more to the Forefront of how they need to get things organized and in place so that she can feel confident about doing that so Anna what happens around this kind of time you know is it just you just grab your brakes when you can or you know is there any kind of structure or any kind of not really I spent the best part of a day with this family and it seemed like there was no set time for anything with regards to the kids or the newborns and that they just kind of did things when they felt it should be done are you hungry did you eat you didn't eat okay maybe we should plan dinner yeah you know what I gotta cook dinner what am I thinking I wonder if I should bathe them have bottles ready that would just be a little too much for right now I think Wendy and Dan haven't kept track of the baby's feeding schedule throughout the day when was the last time they referred um was it 10 what time were the baby supposed to eat who knows at this point that's what I'm saying whether your babies due for their feet apparently soon yeah probably [Music] typically a lack of routine will follow into bedtime and now what we're seeing is the kids get up in the middle of the night to go into their mom and dad's bedroom so what time do the kids normally go to bed eat eight get back yeah we try for eight that's their bedtime we call it a soft date a soft date so then what time would you say early hours in the morning you have company two or three two or three so two or three you fill a foot in your face oh yeah there you go I've been kicked in the head so many times in the middle of the night oh boy it's tough enough when you're getting up in the middle of the night because you've got babies who constantly need to feed but now mum and dad have got boys who are jumping into their bed as well this family need to sleep bedtime boys bedtime to your bed you know what I can't find your pacifier because it's not where we asked you to leave it today do you know where one of your pacifiers is First mom and dad had to hunt high and low for Bose pacifier something I think a three-year-old shouldn't have anyway is working out great Dan this is very odd I don't see them so if you don't remember where the past is that's it you're out here hunting yeah it's pretty much it's come to this before bed I know I know I know that you want passy I know that I found one Achilles heel of bedtime once Bo got his pacifier he went straight off to sleep but then I saw Leo demanding more time for mum and let's face it we still got two babies to deal with you and chill okay I'll be back soon to check on you Wendy feels really guilty about leaving Leo alone so she engages him what she must do is set limits leave the room and not allow Leo to make her feel so bad I love you One More Kiss One More Kiss we can only hope for him to just finally you know fall off into Oblivion [Music] so many children that I don't have I don't it's like I can't I don't have time for all my children at once you know I have to pick so we have a family here that have got no routine little discipline and not much sleep so I'm gonna head off for the night and make sure that I come back with a good plan for mum and dad get as much sleep as you possibly can in between feeds so that we can have a good chat tomorrow thank you it's been a very good observation day thank you for everything this family's got a lot of love in it and really good principles for them moving forward but there's a lot that's got to be put in place if moms to feel good about going on tour thank you [Music] so what I want to start off talking to you both about is structure all right structure you mentioned is something that you both have been very uh free with however that lack of structure hasn't led to you now as parents to have framework with your own kids there's no consistency well the the key to being able to have the consistency is a routine because it relates to so many different things it relates to a consistency with sleeping it relates to meal times and that is also linked with behavior so you see everything fits into a puzzle and the boys do need structure and they're not brilliant at wanting to listen they've got selective hearing yeah they really do they are blatantly ignoring you but if you think they're doing that now at four and three what do you think that's Wendy because you've both got very strong opinions and views of how you were raised and what you feel is necessary but neither one is is willing to step back or to push forward and that's where we get the good cop the bad cop yeah yeah right yeah where do we find that happy medium for us and that's something that I'm definitely going to be doing with the peer review throughout our teaching now obviously the the newborns have come into the family and and the boys are wondering where they are in the mix of all of this you know oh we were the Apple here and we've fallen off the cart you know yeah yeah it's adjustment for everyone not only for yourselves but for the toddlers as well and what we see is the potty training it's not something that we have to over be dramatic about but it's there it's a natural thing for some children that occurs when there are new additions into the family but the pacifier can definitely say will need to go okay okay just thinking about him makes me laugh sometimes so I'm feeling really positive about the things that can be done here we out for it good oh yeah ready yeah we better start some work then all right okay Wendy was raised with an inconsistent routine and that suited her family down to the ground but with her own kids she needs to establish a consistent routine so let's place in a routine here one of those cornerstones which are the kids meal times all right seeing the schedule and makes me know that we don't have to live in the chaos anymore the baby's first feed is at what time in the morning okay up here was a lot of clutter and when they started to place down on paper how they could help themselves started to empower them what an ideal time for dinner I say six but it's not like a sit-down formal thing I would for the children right with the children haven't eaten I would get into the habit of having them at the table what are your thoughts on that that sounds like like it's pushing it in the right direction because that's certainly something I I've noticed that when I grew up my parents wanted me home for dinner you know it was very important and I had the upset we didn't really sit down for dinner I mean my mom did with us but it was never a family ordeal I was raised with a very unstructured type of Lifestyle my father is Brian Wilson of The Beach Boys and my dad was was pretty much absent whether he was home or not he was absent so you know we were craving normalcy so let's go and stick it up and make it happen you did really well very cool you did really well when we made the the day schedule it really became apparent you know how we were going to make our lives sane friends once we had finished work on the family routine Wendy's sister Connie came around to rehearse oh hi Khan [Applause] oh her little girl this is my daughter Lola hi Lola look it's JoJo can you say hello pleased to meet you Wendy and Carney needed time to rehearse so it gave Dan the opportunity to bite the bullet and give the girls the quiet time that they needed so plan of action we've got all these kids and what we want to do is set up something for the kids to be able to do perhaps in the backyard or in here when I was prompted to go watch you know the children I definitely felt you know this is a situation that I have not been put in before Oh I'm alone with y'all foreign [Music] you guys doing okay and and who's doing Melody me or you me okay well first of all I've never been in that living room without screaming children running around it was probably the first time we had any quiet time on there it was almost awkward oh God no oh immaculates right modulates yeah um well there wasn't really a lot of interaction with our father as a child Carney and I would try to play piano with him you know and he would teach us little things and that's pretty much our real Connection in life don't you know there's a change things you guys are gonna you're gonna need sunblock aren't you what do you got going on I was expecting a little bit more trouble from the whole lot of them than really ever materialized one hippo to one kid it was refreshing to have that moment to myself and to be with my sister and do what I do because that's a passion of mine and that I've kind of pushed under the rug and I think I need to embrace that a little bit again [Music] foreign before I went home for the night I wanted to tackle Bo's attachment with his pacifier there's no need for him to have a pacifier he has a blankie and it's an emotional crutch really for him it's going to be heartbreaking for me I have to tell you when she said that we're going to have to you know break the habit of the pacifier I had no idea what she was going to do [Music] and when she sees that there are boys in the house that are very big boys and they have patties what she does is that she asks them okay to put their passes into the very special envelope and to post it so that she could give them to babies that would need them no and he kind of looked at me and I thought to myself is he gonna do this or not I didn't know whether he was really going to pick up those passes look at you Penelope is going to be so pleased to seal that down nice and tightly I was really excited that he was just really engulfed in this whole story you gonna put it in the mailbox when he took those pacifiers to the mailbox I just felt very proud of him he's growing up when he does that it felt like we were in in a storybook in the morning to the mailbox and you're going to get at your very special own envelope you know it just goes to show you when you're really confident and you can bring A Touch of Magic into the situation that they actually take that in their own stride and know that everything must be okay then okay one two three [Music] hello when I arrived the next day I was curious to see how Bo had slept without his pacifier so I asked mum great yeah oh if you've been outside oh Penelope the fairy's been here can have a look and he went outside and he saw the feathers and the Glitters to fairies oh my gosh and when he opened up the mailbox and saw that parcel his little face he was so excited that he'd been left something here I hope you guys wow the fact that Joe is able to get him to part with those pacifiers I I bowed down to Joe I was pretty surprised that she was able to do it [Music] with the pacifier gone it was time to get Wendy and Dan on the same page with regards to how they were going to discipline the boys and to do that they need to discuss the limitations they feel as parents because they both had different upbringings so what we are going to do today is to write down the things that we feel limit us I've never done anything like that before but my children are at stake here I want to have control over the kids and always have but in such a way that I don't end up being the bad guy or the sergeant I feel that in the end I'm going to alienate my kids to some degree and I wouldn't want that why because it happened in my life so your limitation here would be the word control I think that comes to mind with yourself Wendy well I mean there was no consistency in in hardly any boundaries in my family so that led you to feel what as a child it made me feel a little like um lost and out of control insecure insecure insecure I'm constantly trying to make sure I do everything that I'm supposed to do as a mother and I don't want to mess up um so to please for everything yeah needing for the children to to accept me or acceptance you know acceptance that's the one that had to do mostly with um with my relationship with my parents well first of all when you have one one parent not there you want their approval and their acceptance my father is Brian Wilson of The Beach Boys and he's sold millions and millions of Records in his time growing up was fun I mean we got to go on tour but it was also very lonely times because we grew up in a really huge home and my dad was was pretty much absent whether he was home or not he was absent so it was hard for us because we really lacked that fatherly love and that figure in our lives with my father I guess I never got the validation I needed he's a very elusive you know person I think that the world got more from Brian Wilson than I did yeah I mean but I kind of realized that he just wasn't able to do everything and that's what he focused on I've really moved on honestly you know and I don't I don't dwell on things like that I'm not as judgmental because now I see it through my children and I feel like I can forgive I guess in the beginning of the exercise I thought how is this relevant to our situation why do we have to get so sappy right now but then I realized it really was crucial and essential to the whole process we're going through [Music] getting Wendy to really open up about how lonely she felt as a child really helped her to realize how difficult it is to leave her own boys at bedtime can I put your pirate pajamas on you can see that I'm a little anxious about it but we really need our bed back in our in our sleep back then she just might put herself away and it would make bedtime a lot easier if they really want you now okay what they're going to do is they're going to come out you ain't going to do the stay in bed technique which is to take them back into their bed and say it's bedtime darling the second time they come out you say bedtime put them back in and the third time you say nothing and you take them straight back into their bed okay so that they're not rewarded with communication because there has to be a cut off limit you know bedtime is bedtime now it's you so remember no conversation okay what's the first thing we say bedtime darling [Music] [Music] [Applause] so this is what's going on right now they're in their beds and they're used to calling calling calling all the time and you're going in Wendy was strong and she simply LED them straight back to bed and even though they cried within 20 minutes they were fast asleep the question remains however will they get up and go into their mum and dad's bed so I curled up on the couch to find out I'm fine Nanny Stakeout when I went to bed um I was dreading the whole process because I knew that you know this was going to be like cold turkey for them you know I knew that they were going to have to actually sleep in their beds the whole night [Music] sure enough Leo and Bo got up and headed to their mom and dad's bedroom however as tough as it was for Wendy she led them straight back into their bedroom so it was a major victory for this family you know it was hard for me it was really hard for me to be honest I had to change my ways and do it and it was it was for the best and I'm glad I did it first time in a long time and slept in their own beds I know yeah I think they're gonna sleep better too the last time Dan and I slept alone [Music] remember to be on to be honest with you family snuck in bed it was time for me to leave but if Mum and Dad don't keep up what we've put in place then it just might come tumbling down but only time will tell [Music] after leaving went in down alone for four days I was eager to see how they did it's my favorite part my friend [Music] um in your bed now get in your bed now Bo you put that book down right now oh look at me [Music] did you hear what I said yes then lay down sleep well [Music] it works what a marked improvement huh incredible really I just love the way you've just been able to you know switch and change you've gone from being very calm and reading stories as soon as they get up out of bed you change your tone they say no come on that's enough well done come on guys don't argue just do it together Leah wanted to do it the other day oh my goodness get hang out right now do not hit your brother ever you never hit him like that never you're gonna stay in this chair because you hit your brother put you in this time out because you hit your brother and that was not acceptable no you're gonna you go apologize to your brother all right thank you for doing that Leah because she did the right thing his brother of course he was going to go on that naughty chair so Leo and Bo recognize I do this and I end up time out on the naughty chair very good thank you well I'm feeling frazzled because I'm not getting enough rest we're trying to stay on the schedule but the babies are making their own schedule so I'm figuring 10 45 maybe we'll feed the twins I wouldn't necessarily wake him up to feed because if they can end up on that 12 3 6 9 schedule that would be best okay all right this is proof that I really uh I have a big question mark over my head I want to get on schedule I don't know how when I did your schedule it's a free hourly feed and they're going to start to sleep longer during the night and go through with that and if it means that they wake up at seven great you're going to start your three hours from then we still have really tried to stick to the schedule and even if we're off a half hour it still seems to be like a wonderful thing you know and it's been really it's been great for us for two people that had no schedule it's been good for the pair of you with kids right even with the schedule it's very a demanding day but yeah still it makes it a little more doable do you have poo poo in your diaper nope really let me have a look okay because if you're dirty and want to change it you have a big load in your diaper [Music] let's take off the this is where diapers are changed and you're wearing a diaper [Music] it's because you demand that you're not gonna go poo poo in the potty [Music] okay well we're good at that now it's on [Music] it's like clean again with this and what I'm going to do is just very clearly give you some guidelines but I want you to just be able to start from the beginning and finish so I'm going to be working on those particular things with you and I'm going to be tweaking everything so are we good with what we've seen yes yep any questions okay so I'm eager to get cracking so let's go okay okay mum and dad have become more confident so I want to be able to show them how they can step outside the box and handle any situation if it arises this is what we're gonna do we're going to have an experience of taking the whole family to a restaurant one of my bigger affairs with having four children is going out to dinner I'm going to teach you guys on the get-go once we're there things that are going to make family to the rest Dan was actually himself getting tense like what is this going to be like you're so quiet maybe they should hang out all right eat their bottles on the sidewalk with the traffic so we pulled up to the restaurant and I could see that Dan was a little nervous so the first thing that we could do is set up expectations so Leo Bo we'd like you guys to stay in your seats okay we don't want you running around and we don't want you yelling out and making big noises okay for Dan it's more about he he doesn't want to disturb other people don't do what that kid just did lemonade thank you Chloe I don't want you to play with the silverware anymore so please don't make any loud noises hey let's not play can you can you sit and just be without playing by implementing the direct talking approach you know you get down and you look at your kid in the eye and you tell them what you're expecting of them that that makes all the difference what happens yeah well your choice is this sit still and be quiet or you can eat your quesadilla [Music] go to behave myself a few times he had to make it very clear that throwing silverware was not on the menu this is your last chance this is your last chance to to do what we're asking I'm voice Dan now you sit straight in your chair and you stop playing with silverware and you eat your quesadilla I was proud of how Dan spoke sternly and directly to Beau and I know that as long as his family are armed with techniques then they're always going to be able to eat out in a restaurant with confidence and in peace Dan what came out of today give me all the positives that have come out of the experience of being in a restaurant today um well I think the Wendy and I are learning how to handle situations that arise every time we go out to eat yes and we're going to get to a point where they know whether we actually mean business and we're going to be consistent with with the things that we tell them before Joe gave us the tools to work with those things it would have just degenerated into don't do this don't do hey stop doing that pick that up I just you know and we would have gotten nowhere it would have been just you know a constant struggle family have done extremely well but the one thing that I haven't been able to address yet is Bo's potty habits so I want to be able to leave them with a few tips for when I'm gone he feels ashamed now oh he lies because he doesn't want to get into trouble and that's because we've gone the route of being nice and then scolding him for doing that you know if you speak to Beau like the big boy he is because he's very capable and able to go to the toilet no doing poo poos in your pants you're a big boy now okay so that he realizes that you know that he can do you gonna go to the party are you gonna go to the pot no just after I explained it Bo go up and he marched straight into the bathroom it was great and a real surprise oh my goodness you're on the party surprise me by getting in there and doing his business my little bow listens to everything and he wanted to show everybody what a big boy he was and I was so proud of him I really was I'm Gonna Leave You guys just keep up the work okay all right just keep up the working thank you Joe changed our lives we've really been given tools to really help our family that Joe really helped us a lot already and I'm looking forward to reaping the rewards in the future how are you living alone Wendy and Dan were both raised very differently but it hasn't stopped them from recognizing what they needed to do for their own family and that's what's important they make a great team take care take care bye boys bye bye [Applause] [Music] it's been such a rewarding experience for us and meeting Joe and I think we've we've gained so much from this and I wouldn't trade it for the world [Music] blow your yard I'm definitely noticing a change in my family um specifically Leo and Beau [Music] boys have grown immensely in this such a short period of time it's incredible we have grown because we had to look within and see how we parent and how we're affecting our children are you going to play in the sand too I really appreciate the way that she related to Wendy because Wendy really really needs that kind of a person if you were my duckling and I were your mama duck I paddle toward the shore at Sunset and you'd follow right behind I really do believe that we're going to continue with this journey that we're on with the boys I think it's working for us I mean why why stop a good thing One More Story and then it's lights out really she's set us on a path to success in a lot of ways because it's all there if you're ready to learn overall it's it's just a huge positive [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] foreign foreign

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Length: 38min 50sec (2330 seconds)

Published: Fri Jul 07 2023