Inside The Nursery For Troubled Toddlers | Our Life

[Music] welcome to Britain's naughtiest Nursery The Last Resort for exhausted parents and their tiny Terrors it's been set up to tackle the behavior of some of the UK's most challenging children aged five and under the parents are coming to this Nursery at their wit's end they feel as if their lives are being torn apart by their children's behavior and that there's nowhere else to turn a team of experts and specialist teachers will be working with the parents to try and change the lives of these unruly kids [Music] it's the start of a new week and the naughty Nursery is open ready for some new arrivals Daisy stand up there for me come on don't be silly Frankie Frankie and Tegan Tegan come here teegania Tegan getting it now but it seems teacher Jules along with assistance Lucy and Darwin may be in for a rather long wait for their pupils taking the same for neck now come on it's looking like it's going to be a bad day with Tegan don't says you know please don't do that no no no no please don't do that Susie no eventually this week's intakes start to arrive hi Frankie look well they joined the nursery's other pupils all here because of their difficult Behavior [Music] keeping a watchful eye over them all is child psychologist Laverne antrubus we're here on hand working with parents so that we can really shape children's Behavior so that they can do much better in school and for their learning and clinical psychologist Jess almost I think this is a great space for the children to come but it will be a challenge for the children it's a new situation for them both will guide the children and their families through this important Journey before they start school but outside four-year-old Tegan is continuing to run circles around mom Shannon Teagan get in now come on come on [Music] go to your bedroom Tegan single mum Shannon and baby Malachi live in Loughborough Tegan is like a tornado like a Tasmanian devil she will destroy anything that's in her way calm down [Music] if she don't get anything she wants that's one of her main triggers removing Tegan's comfort blanket Sparks melting but that doesn't stop her eventually getting her own way if she wants something and you don't do it right then and there no she will kick off you can only have at night time you can't have that when you go to school babe mum knows that she has to wean Tegan off her comforters before she starts Primal school she will throw absolutely anything she can get her hands on at you Pat it in too good she's very much a bit like she's possessed sometimes nobody can stop it it's when she wants to stop it she's exhausting she'll just keep pushing you and pushing you and pushing you she can't have a Nana when she goes to school after a tricky start to the morning Tegan finally makes it to the naughty Nursery how are you this morning is it really important to you to keep that blankie would you like to hold it when you take your coat off okay you hold it tight that's great Tegan has been brought to the nursery because of her Tantrums at home particularly when her comforters are removed to prepare her for them not being allowed at Primary School Tegan also finds it hard to integrate with other children at her Nursery in Loughborough often playing alone and since arriving she is immediately separated herself from group play withdrawing from others and focusing on her comforters to make her feel safe in this new environment really good to get back see them taken away yeah because it will give her the ability to really engage be a bit more chatty right to come should I go and find somewhere really safe for that so Jules is negotiated taking the Soother from Tegan put it in a safe place we'll stick it on here so it doesn't fall down right so I'm going to put similar on it beautiful stick it there happy with that Jules has removed Tegan's Soother to allow her to start talking and integrating with the other children it's vital these barriers are removed to give her the best start at Primary School let's take a gun now she's not quite joining everybody else is she she looks a bit sort of out of it not sure I think you're right it's like she needs a bit of space to settle she's got her comfort blanket as well she's giving up her Suva but not quite her blanket maybe she needs that in this new place Tegan is making herself very isolated and quite separate from the other children in situations like this where children can feel a little bit anxious one can see why that comforter might give them the support they need what I need to do now is find out from mum Shannon what she's like at home he's quite loud and in your face at home don't shower pattern but then Nursery she's held back a lot in how she is so she's got a different confidence at home yes definitely I'd say nursery and home life are two different sides to Tegan um two different Tegan's yes yeah it's like she has two different personalities and she can swap and change into them okay well I'm gonna obviously keep observing her over the next few days hopefully you and I and Keegan will do some work together so we can sort of discover slightly different path so we'll just keep working taking away this Soother this comforter it's the only way to really help Teagan connect up with other children and stopping her having this sort of barrier around her so that she really can be with everybody else in the nursery back in the classroom Jules is trying to integrate a withdrawn Tegan something I'd like to play pretty girl do you know what I love these do you like the way I feel I wonder if it's technically on your toes as well no just taking up your roll I'd like to sound feeling positive about today but it all depends on how to Tegan's Behavior goes I think it is hard for child professionals to understand I'm not too sure if they've met anyone like Tegan before quickly around here shall I Try by engaging her on a one-to-one basis Jules has given Tegan the confidence without having to hide behind her comforters to join group play with another new pupil Frankie four-year-old Frankie has been brought to the nursery because his mom desperately needs help with his hyperactivity oh you'll choke Frankie lives with mum Natalie and baby brother Oscar in stockton-on-tees Frankie seems to it just doesn't sit still the age get really hyper and be spinning around jumping up and down sometimes he hits himself as well which is a worry he's just a bit wild stop it he has no fear whatsoever of everyone enough thank you Frankie the minute and when we're out and about he'll just run he can't walk I'm back in the car park even around the corner where I can't see him he hides as well sometimes and I can't find him no not again [Music] and at the nursery Frankie continues to run Riot demonstrating to all his hyperactive Behavior quite excited and maybe he doesn't quite know how to hold the limit of it and judge it always some help to kind of bring himself back down again so clinical psychologist Jess wants to get a better understanding of Frankie's hyperactive behavior from mum Natalie I thought now's just a chance for me to kind of get to know a bit about you and and Frankie and hear about some of the concerns that you've got this behavior is just really hard to control you just won't listen you just won't settle is just hyperactive which is constant did you have anything in mind that you would want help with I'd really like him of a general understanding of him if I knew what was going on with him I'd be able to focus a bit more like what I'm doing because I worry that I'm doing the wrong thing for him my name is Jess Frankie your mum was saying that you like drawing wondering if you might be able to do us a picture what you're gonna draw if you could draw Oscar thank you and I think we do the drawing on the paper not on the table Yeah I think we do no okay it's just really it's really difficult to control Frankie yeah who's gonna clean that well does this happen at home much yeah what we've noticed about Frankie is that can be quite hyperactive and his behavior can be quite difficult to manage we need to help mum natally with some techniques which should really help Frankie Focus over at the nursery finding Frankie's hyper off switch and involving Tegan without her comforters [Music] the nursery experts have got their hands full [Music] this is Britain's naughtiest Nursery run by child psychologist Laverne antrubus and her team of experts in my experience early intervention is crucial I'm going to take this ball so opening the nursery is an ideal opportunity to be working with parents who are really struggling to find different solutions to their child's Behavior is everybody's fall [Music] today they are armed with creative tasks team building exercises and games up their sleeves to try and understand why these children's Behavior has become so challenging this week the nursery is welcomed all controllable Frankie and a withdrawn Tegan right well I'm gonna go and draw a rainbow I'm coming with oh another new arrival to catch the attention of Laverne is three-year-old Daisy who's been brought to the nursery because of her constant stroppy meltdowns what's wrong Daisy think that she wants the bed Daisy lives in nuneaton along with dadley Mom Cali and big sister Lily from her being two weeks old she's been very hard work [Music] you know constantly screaming she doesn't you know doesn't listen excuse me the car is here come here please you need to listen stop running off and it's just got worse as she's got older there is cars now stop at first I thought oh maybe it's a case if she's got no understanding he has [Music] no I said no please don't she definitely understands Daisy it's the not listening [Music] but there's just no reason why she does it Daisy can you stop it please no yes a lot of it is she wants something you tell her she can't have it she then has this Almighty Paddy she'll took herself to the floor and she's kicking and screaming and then next minute you know she's literally on her arm biting herself it's like a switch she sometimes it is almost like she turns to a different child and you just think how on Earth have we gone from you know having this Almighty paddy [Applause] [Music] to then be in really cute and innocent at the nursery Jules is trying to get the kids involved in a group activity but Daisy isn't listening and decides to ignore teacher Jules Daisy [Music] there was Daisy deciding that the carpet was done for her and she took herself off I think it's really hard for children absolutely when there's so many other interesting things to look at and Daisy is still very little understanding the boundaries around the activities will be difficult for her she needs that physical holding that Jules is doing there which is no actually we're staying on the carpet area I think that's an important Point actually the the physical touch helping her follow the instruction rather than just words but without jules's one-to-one guidance Daisy wanders off and doesn't listen Daisy demanding cures his individual attention yet again so we've got it again and I do think we should get Daisy's mom in yeah I think that would be helpful definitely come on then let's go and sit on this table to that so Kelly we thought it would be helpful to get you into to observe Daisy in the nursery setting okay um just to see really the the help that she needs to to stay on task Jules has shown Cali that with physical one-to-one touch Daisy's attention can be brought back and is now compliant yeah amazing listening you don't get to see it very often she's incredible because you know she's interested and then she's got she sort of flips off yeah and then Jules has had to help her come back I don't want to get her to listen what are the worries that you have about her when she's at Nursery it's mainly the idea herself it's the frustration the responses yeah if Daisy doesn't want to do it that's it that's when she starts to have her moments on the positive side Daisy is very inquisitive but she's at the age where she's having to learn about following instructions and listening to people in Authority I think she understands far more than she lets on so I'm going to keep my eye on her like in the classroom Daisy has been showing the staff her alternative method of getting noticed Hurst drops come on foreign about what sparks their daughters stroppy meltdowns at home what we were noticing was she didn't maybe want to follow what Jules was saying no and she would start to resist by either kind of laying on the floor but she'd often check back and look at Jules to see what her reaction was going to be yeah and I was wondering at home when that happens how the both of you respond a lot of the time it's take a step back don't know just leave me to do it I think she sort of plays up because she knows she can play us off each other but it's not just the strops that are causing concern for Daisy's parents I wanted to ask a bit about the biting yeah and Lee I wondered what your thoughts were on Daisy biting I haven't seen a lot of it to be fair it's been mostly while I've been at work and obviously you've had a bit I've seen a obviously like a bruising like when she has a bit herself like after the nursery and stuff she's having this Almighty Paddy over the fact that she's went on a feet and she was late she was laying there on the floor she grabs her shoe and she's biting her shoe but she's shaking in anger I wonder if there's a way of us helping Daisy in those moments finding other ways for her to express it yeah the last thing I wanted to do is buy herself you know because she's frustrated I don't want to hurt herself we haven't seen Daisy bite herself yet but Kelly and Lee are clearly worried about this habit we're going to need to find alternative ways to help Daisy work through her frustrations so this biting doesn't become habitual [Music] in the classroom all the children are engaged with a group task Laverne and Jess have noticed that Frankie is the most focused he's been since his arrival [Music] at the start of his time in the nursery Frankie was identified for his hyperactive Behavior [Music] finding it impossible to sit down and focus but teacher Jules has managed to engage Frankie focusing his attention top when Frankie's standing up isn't he I don't know what Frankie's about to do he's engaged now yeah it's really interesting to notice the the switch and now Jules has sort of engaged him in the group and he really does look engaged Frankie sit down [Music] I don't know whether he wants to join in wanting to find out if this is typical Behavior Laverne and Jess call in mom Natalie we noticed it he stood up for quite a long time and and he sat down now and engaging but it did take him quite a long time I think he was stood for probably about 15 minutes he doesn't usually sit down really yeah so to eat or anything he'll sit down for a couple of seconds and he stood up okay he just really doesn't like sex great for you to see them yeah this is nice to be able to watch him like this it's really interesting yeah this gives Natalie encouragement for when Frankie starts school knowing that with help Frankie can sit down and focus [Music] I'm wondering whether we're gonna observe any of the behaviors that you're worried about in the nursery today yeah I think it depends on what's going on or the type of activity even might have an impact on it and what sort of activities do you think might set them off perhaps anything physical which he does love doing but he sort of just it to the extreme yeah anything that he is my liking to get more excited and yeah okay we'll watch out for that um okay okay Frankie really excelled with a focused activity in a calm environment even sat down which we know is usually quite difficult for him now it's play time it's a very physical time of day so we may well see Frankie slip back into more of a hyper state after a spell of calm as predicted Frankie's Behavior has regressed becoming hyperactive as soon as he enters a physical environment [Music] come on going forward Jess and Laverne now know that Frankie needs focused activities in a calm setting [Music] otherwise he will easily revert back to his uncontrollable and boisterous ways [Music] so far the children's emotions have been running quite high so we've been able to see what the parents are having to deal with what we need to do now is give these parents the right skills so they can tackle their children's behavior and get them back on the right track [Music] foreign [Music] 's naughtiest Nursery run by Laverne antribus and staffed by child experts to help parents get their Tearaway tops back on track before they start school intervening early can make a real difference for the children and their parents this really is the last resort for these stressed out families taking this ain't funny it's looking like it's going to be a bad day with Tegan this week the staff have seen Frankie's hyper Behavior begin to settle with a focused activity Daisy's stroppy meltdowns are being monitored by the nursery staff and Tegan's isolation is being addressed by removing those self-imposed barriers her beloved comforters but it'll be really good to get back to soothing taken away yeah because it will give her the ability to really engage be a bit more chatty right come should I go and find somewhere really safe for that come on then as outside play begins Tegan's comforters have been left inside with the hope that she will integrate and play with the other children but when Tegan realizes that her comforters are inside the nursery and not available to her this Sparks a tantrum [Music] thank you [Music] I can see that you're really angry [Music] crossed Jules tries to settle Tegan but knows to immediately back away after that help is refused ah it's really just trying to get Tegan to understand how she's feeling and when she can name those feelings um and understand that things aren't going to change then we can help her through it right it is a valuable insight into Tegan's Tantrums at home when her comforters are taken away and when she doesn't get what she wants wanting to understand more Laverne catches up with Mom Shannon so when you sort of started to worry about tea and when was that approximately when did you start to think oh I'm not sure what's going on probably from when she was about one one and a half that's when her tantrum started and then it's just got worse and worse as the years have gone on just the anger [Music] she'd just goes so red and just fume and like just a holder or just to stop it was it was hard work for a child that young and how do you feel because that's it's quite a hard relationship to be in yeah isn't it it's difficult because I want to spend time with her but then when she just starts winding me up I'm like right go to bed do you know what I mean just go away and I don't want it to be like that we could see that taking away her comforters was really difficult but actually it's a way of stopping her having this sort of barrier around her so that she really can be with everybody else in the nursery after playtime the children and a now calm Tegan with no comforters in tow gather on the carpet ready can you see Tegan okay so this is the traffic lights game I think Jules is giving them an introduction to which colors mean what Laverne wants to see how well Tegan can join in when given fun Alternatives distracting her away from her comforters you ready ready go okay here goes the running this game explores the confidence of each child by the ability to direct their peers big voice big hands something that Tegan would have shied away from at the start of the week well it really feels like Tegan's in the group now it's such a change who do you think should be stopped Tegan so with invested time from jewels and fun distractions Tegan has forgotten about her comforters and joins in Jules has worked really hard to help her feel comfortable in the group yes and we've seen Tegan haven't we find her confidence might be really good for Shannon to know [Music] I think Jess and I were thinking about you know the shifts in her from those sort of hot spots where things haven't gone so well for her when she was a bit quieter had all her sort of comfort things with her she's given them up today and it's allowed her to get a bit more involved yeah she's not if you think Josh she's managed to keep connected to the group and the activities much more so today much more so and I think it is that kind of sense of having a place in the grooves you're gonna be in charge she's now taking charge and she's on the chair can you see her she's liked feeling really involved and maybe that's something that you know we can play around with just to see how if that if that shifts something as well in how she is with you yeah because that's not how you experience her at home no no definitely not definitely not showing Shannon how far Teagan has progressed gives her the reassurance that her daughter's behavior is changing for the best how does it feel for you to see her like this involved it's really nice um I really enjoy watching and playing with other children and you know not playing up yeah it's nice to see again involved it's such a nice change yes yeah it definitely is to see the potential in your child yeah and what they're what they're capable of yeah I'm starting to see a different side from when we first came here it made me really happy to think that she can get along with children and she can join in let's get ready rev your engine up I'm looking which is the fastest car me and I'm looking stupid car as Group Play continues with a happy and involved Tegan Daisy is yet again drawing attention to herself through her stroppy meltdowns born when she struggles to verbalize how she is feeling [Music] Daisy he's got this beautiful way of looking like she's not paying attention I think she's learned this is a good way to get attention it's a good way to get my needs met yeah Dave I think it's time now for you to pass that glue over for someone else to share it lovely no no I think it's time to stop with the glue and share it oh they're beautiful what do you need oh should we have a little thing about how we're asking see what you can do with that and the minute Davey doesn't get her own way she immediately drops into a sulk I think scissors but this hasn't fooled Jules Daisy's got her head down on the floor yeah looking like she's about to cry who's taking a tactical ignore method to defuse her strop which eventually works and Daisy is quick to recover by herself we've noticed that Daisy has a meltdown when she's finding hard to verbally communicate but she needs help to understand that this is not the answer tactical ignoring has proven to work and Mum Kelly is going to have to work really hard at this to make sure that this doesn't become a learned behavior so after catching up with Jules Laverne and Jess bring mum Cali up to speed with their observations they've noticed that she often uses her body language to communicate how she's feeling yeah so she's quite quick to tears yes but conversely quick to recovery but I think her preference is not necessarily a verbal comms just yet we noticed a lot that if she's getting frustrated she'll you know um maybe curling yeah and it's a clear symbol yeah that something's maybe not going her way or yeah feeling upset and what the the nursery team have found is helpful is allowing Daisy time to work through how she's feeling when that's finished back to the table yes okay that that frustration is in a way inevitable part of um kind of learning to tolerate things not going your way yeah um but just giving her a bit of time to kind of work through that yeah yeah it's quite a roller coaster for her in a way isn't it each day yeah now armed with the understanding behind Daisy straps Cali needs to tactically ignore Daisy and let her ride out those meltdowns by herself it was good knowing how to deal with one she's on the floor crying in her eyes out and screaming at you but I feel like we are getting somewhere as we have the chance to observe them and their children it's much easier for us to spot some of the difficulties in their children's Behavior now we need to work together on those parenting skills so that when they leave here they've got the confidence to implement these changes at home [Music] this week the naughty Nursery has opened its doors to Three Families all trying to get their Tearaway tops back on track psychologist Laverne amtrabus and Jess Alma along with expert teachers have been observing the children giving their parents advice and new take-home tactics on how to control their unruly Behavior [Music] with their time at the nursery coming to an end Laverne has got a final team building necklace making activity to test what lessons the parents have learned about dealing with their kids Behavior Tegan arrived at the nursery withdrawn and completely dependent upon her comforters presenting catastrophic Tantrums when they were taken away with primary school fast approaching mom Shannon was at the whip Sam but since her stay at the nursery when given fun Alternatives Tegan thrived without her comforters [Music] and Laverne believes that receiving more one-to-one time with Mom can further Tegan's confidence and involvement in group play [Music] important moment for [Music] the end of her time in the nursery understanding like a lot of parents she's not completely sure about how to help Tegan when she has her moments of distress so to help Shannon best deal with Tegan's Behavior Laverne has asked Jules to share a few simple techniques picking up on chicken fights at heart and then it really becomes a quite a big dysregulational Tantrums um something that we would suggest is almost to try and stop things building chat through you tell her I get your behavior you don't have to show me any more you don't have to go any bigger with this I understand talk to her how could we how could we fix that now if as yesterday the reaction is no get off me guess what I'm gonna do I turn my back I carry on ironing and I'm watching it prepared yes yeah I think that for Shannon it will be a moment for her to realize actually when Tegan's distressed I can offer a little bit of help but if it doesn't look like it's working I need to back off parenting is never easy particularly when you have a child with challenging Behavior if mum Sharon can really follow through and give Tegan this one-to-one time that we've really seen her thrive on than the new sociable Tegan could be here to stay why we've done it all done a really really good job with the final team building activity coming to an end but I think the winner for me is Tegan and her mum it's clear that special one-to-one time with mum and when distracted from her comforters Tegan thrives with her Tantrums hopefully a thing of the past Tegan set up for a positive start at school at the end of Tegan's time in the nursery Laverne and Jess are Keen to hear how Shannon will tackle any challenges in the future when she is having a tantrum to step back and give her time hopefully I can manage it before it gets to that point by just stepping back and saying how can we resolve this Tegan I think what you're saying is I'm going to help her to know that I'm available to help you and her husband earnings of one-to-one time was also going to be really helpful yeah the way you and Tegan work together on the task it was beautiful to watch it was it was absolutely beautiful and it was clear that Tegan really enjoyed that time so well done you it's made me think a lot about how I deal with Tegan I do shout a lot because she's naughty quite a lot so I'm going to try and slow down and breathe myself and just kind of take a step back and be like right Shannon how can you deal with this better without shouting at us foreign [Music] [Music] Daisy had numerous dropping meltdowns leaving her parents not knowing where to turn to [Music] we realized that they were just a means of getting attention slightly looking up to make sure she was getting noticed after being tactically ignored and now not getting the desired effect she was used to Daisy was able to quickly snap out of them and Laverne believes that this new technique along with guidance from Jewels will help Daisy if she gets tempted to bite during a strop so Daisy's moving on from the nursery today I mean it's quite a key moment for her isn't it we've seen the sort of highs and lows of her behavior these sort of emotional moments what I think is so crucial is that Daisy's mum Kelly gets to spend some time with Jules to help her feel a bit more confident about what might seem like ordinary behavior and what she needs to concentrate on the one thing I have noticed is very very quick to remedy and once is up and it's down and we're back in the game yeah and that's huge yeah we've had lots of fun with her I can imagine lots and lots she's been biting herself as well right and Kelly's worried about the way in which she sort of can attack her arms a bit and you know bite herself she did she's actually doing it already this morning I think Daisy if she's given something else that she can whack around yeah we've all got those things that we do when we're in a little bit nervous yeah so that's her thing so we can offer her Alternatives it has mainly been for instance when she's angry yeah and that's when she does it all when she's upset that's when she does it in a restaurant I might give her a napkin yeah and and a commentator through it I can see that you're angry let's scrunch our anger up into this and we're gonna throw it away and you know it's okay to be angry yeah definitely yeah foreign we've spoken to her about trusting really trusting her own instincts I think to know that this will move on you know it's quite of a developmental moment in Daisy's life so I think for Jules really to spend this time saying to mum you can do it in these moments I'd really like Kelly to go away knowing that she can help Daisy before Daisy leaves the nursery Laverne and Jess want to know how Cali will apply her Newfound techniques to stop the straps so I've just decided you know I'm gonna just just leave her just leave it to it just don't do it and then she'll snap out of it it's made me realize that actually I don't need to be stressed with that your confidence to think actually this is what my child needs to do she's going to do it and then we're going to move on yeah I'm trying to sort of change her from biting herself to try and think of other things she can do over this morning don't need to bite yourself you know what should we do instead and she was like I'll build a towel outside okay that's fine yeah so yeah so stick daisies are really she's a bright girl so the idea of giving her an alternative yeah she's be a child that is up for for trying yeah absolutely yeah I guess if you're feeling confident in what you're doing then that helps to move away from some of that stress as well because you can connect with because I'm like yeah yeah exactly it's like yeah you know I can do this yeah yeah leaving with the insight to find Daisy an alternative to bite and with the confidence to ignore any strops Cali is optimistic about the future it's been brilliant it's I've like I've come out I feel a lot more confident and know that what I am doing is the right thing and knowing what I'm doing is is good [Music] Frankie arrived at the nursery unable to sit down and focus his hyperactive ways had left his mum exhausted Frankie Frankie no not again but weren't given a structured task in a calm environment Frankie was engaged and applied himself with Incredible Focus nice to be able to watch him like this it's really interesting yeah to help mum Natalie keep his hyperactivity in check Laverne and Jules have organized a structured challenge showing how simple daily tasks can be applied to help Frankie Focus guys what we've noticed with Frankie is he loves a challenge so um we've got a little mission for you Frankie in this room somewhere is an envelope with your name on can you see if you can find it it's hiding just for you quick it's Frankie's last day at the nursery I think he's had quite an interesting time because we know that Natalie's quite worried about his behavior we have seen him get quite anxious haven't we and sort of not know what to do with himself and you're getting hotter you're getting nearer cooling off move that way a bit Frankie nearly they're all good looking good looking this hide and seek exercise has shown Natalie that with a focused challenge Frankie engages and his behavior Settles has that got your name [Music] open it up I'm gonna open it to see him be able to settle which I've never seen because he's always running around and it's nice to know that he can focus and that you'll be able to at school I think this is going to be really really helpful for Natalie isn't it but what's important is nothing has that opportunity to practice and keep going and having the confidence to keep going with that idea but really then what it's about is giving him an enormous challenge but having little games like this around the house when perhaps he hasn't been stimulated will help I think Natalie's beginning to see that she might have a role in helping him to manage that by using structured games to engage Frankie Natalie can regain control and get Frankie to cooperate keep him engaged but working with you very calmly and build that from a task like this into real life put your shoes on okay you do you need help what can I do to help you now armed with new techniques in how to cope with Frankie's Behavior La Verne and Jess are Keen to hear how Natalie is feeling so there's been a couple of things I think that'll be really good for is Jill's earlier I just I felt relieved to be honest to see that something just a little thing like that might work something that's centered around him it seems to like really slow him down a little bit I think children of Frankie's age need somebody close by to understand that for them giving him extra reassurance would definitely helped by me saying to him oh can I help you put your shoe on would be better than me just gone for you too I did this morning when he just wouldn't put his shoes on well I think you've realized that your words are the next layer yeah that really Soo I think yeah I do feel like that will help a lot well done thanks thank you Natalie has certainly grasped how to channel Frankie's hyper behavior and that her words and actions are key in calming him down as well I feel like I've got something positive out of it some ideas to challenge him to keep him occupied [Music] I think it'll take some practice but yeah I feel good I'm not so worried about him to be honest I feel a bit more chilled out we met these parents when they felt there was nowhere else to turn but today they're leaving confident and armed with the tools that they need to improve their relationships with their children thank you very much Jason's had a great week I definitely think the future's looking brighter just because I've Come Away with a lot of ideas and things I'm going to try [Music] everything my relationship with Frankie seems a lot calmer overall it's definitely been a good week I do it all on my own with two kids whilst working and most of the time I do think I'm failing but maybe I should praise myself a lot more and actually realize that I am doing my best and I'm not such a rubbish mum [Music]

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Published: Sun Feb 05 2023