Wife Cheated Everyone's Telling Me To Take Her Back | Caught GF Sending Photos.. RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

[Music] relationship advice first story is titled wife of seven years cheated on me now everyone in my circle friends her parents and my parents are suggesting i take her back don't know what to do i met my wife ten years ago we both were in college dated for three years and married for seven she is beautiful and amazing person and everyone in my family loves her four months ago i found out my wife was having an affair with a mutual friend of ours it was a one and a half month affair she was acting very shady at that time she would ignore my messages turned me down every time i tried to initiate s i thought something was wrong i did some snooping but found nothing eventually i hired a private investigator and within one week i got proofs she was having an affair with our mutual friend i immediately confronted her she confessed to having an affair immediately she started crying begging basically all classic cheater moves when they are caught i asked her for all details with detailed timeline at night gave me everything basically she was using another phone for having an affair she told me she had s with him only four times and the rest of the time they were just hanging out and having fun three days later more crying and talking crap about herself she told me that she had deleted all contacts with him and do whatever it takes to make our marriage work she suggested marriage counseling i denied it told her to leave me alone i was hurt betrayed humiliated she moved out to her parents she started texting me every hour about how much she loves me and how she regrets this and will do anything to save our marriage after completely ignoring her for two days i texted her that we are getting divorced she freaked out and started having an emotional breakdown my phone started blowing up with her parents sister friends telling me not to end our marriage and at least give her a chance later that day she made a long post on facebook explaining how she messed up and how she has destroyed her marriage basically admitting her affair publicly but i was rock solid in my decision she even insisted to have a lie detector test to clear my doubts that she never cheated in the past blah blah blah i asked her for some time alone to process all this we have been living separate since this was all four months ago last week i asked her for divorce and she started crying begging for another chance after that she visited my parents and asked them to convince me not to divorce last night my parents and her parents tried to convince me to work things out and after she made her facebook post almost all of our mutual friends were telling me how she was brave to admit her affair and that she loves me and i should at least give her a chance i'm on an edge of having a breakdown she is truly remorseful and regrets this i can assure you this i do love her and her cheating on me hurts the most i don't know what to do anyone who has reconciled how are things going on now let's read the top advice if you would have never hired a personal investigator this would have gone on indefinitely she's only upset she got caught ignore everyone else you're the only one who is going to have to live with a cheater for the rest of your life if you accept her back it's not like she came clean anyways this will probably happen again as soon as all the drama dies down from it stay the course get divorced and find someone who doesn't cheat on you best of luck to you buddy it just blows no way around it bruh don't ignore everyone else take serious note of their complete and utter disregard of your well-being and happiness and seriously consider finding a new social circle i get it's tough to be in between something like this but god damn have they no empathy not great company to keep in my opinion don't take her back stick to your guns this my dude this don't let up and make sure that she only can't contact you from your lawyer also warn your family if they interfere anymore then it will be immediately cut without any hesitation your family and friends can take their opinions and show them you are the one going through this and you can decide how to move forward i'm assuming the main reason she made the facebook post was for sympathy now somehow she's the victim in this for lying and screwing your friend love to reap but hate to sew take more time and really choose what you want to do here not what other people think that's the end of the first story the next one is titled my 28 male girlfriend 32 female was laying on the couch and i saw a scent photo on her screen hello all this just happened about an hour ago so i'm trying to see if my thinking is in the right place after supper tonight my girlfriend of 4.5 years was having a nap on a couch so i went to squeeze in a little xbox before bed got off about 45 minutes later and she was awake on the couch i came over to sit down beside her and saw a sent photo a selfie of her curled up on the couch in a conversation looked to be instagram and i said offhand that's a good angle can i see it she locked the screen and said i was just trying to take one and i said well i saw you take one and send it let's see it now i'm at about a2 on the controlling scale i have never asked to see your phone never have any problems with any of her socializing etc she never has an issue letting me use her phone slash look or anything she said no you can't see it i said what do you mean i just want to see the pic and she got up to go to the bathroom and start doing laundry i walk up to her and said you realize this is a massive red flag and she said i don't know what you want me to say why would you think i would cheat on you i replied i never said anything about cheating i just want to see the picture and the way you're behaving right now is extremely concerning you've never had an issue with me doing any single thing on or with your phone or your laptop and now you won't even open up your phone at all she said can you please just leave me alone so i can go shower i replied so you won't let me see what the picture was and she said no now this is all well within her rights but she has never acted like this whatsoever there's never been any significant issues few small things here and there of course between us she does have quite a few male friends but it's nothing i get jealous over once she was done in the shower she went straight to bed and i went in and said this is a very serious thing for me if you want to deal with this right now we can but otherwise this will destroy our relationship for me and there's a very good chance we will not be together by the time next month's rent is due and she just said i don't know what you want me to say i didn't do anything wrong so i took my pillow and i'm on the couch now i've had issues in the past with exes cheating on me and she knows this that's why it's been great that i've not had a reason to worry until this just a completely different person during that discussion and i have a very bad feeling in my gut and not sure what to do edit she texted me yes texted me from the bedroom saying i was just in the bathroom for one minute looking at my back on my phone i didn't want you to make fun of me for looking at my back this is literally zero to do with what happened and seems like she has a completely terrible excuse and timeline of events i've texted a few friends to see if i can arrange something since things bearing a progressive discussion tomorrow or not looking good that's the main story now let's read more info and the top advice i wouldn't budge on this personally the fact that she brought up cheating on her own makes me highly suspicious plus all the other odd behavior i would not let this one go edit just want to say opie that i think you're being really strong and handling this way better than i would i hope one day i have the ability to walk away from disrespect as easily as you do that was what triggered me to go back and tell her this is realistically a relationship ender for me not the picture not who she send it to but the fact that she's being this hyper defensive and projecting onto me yes it's extremely weird she got so defensive about it considering your past it is weird she won't just be open about it if she didn't cheat then why not show you extremely weird never has an issue showing me anything on her phone i could understand a viewpoint of if i'll let him look now then he's going to keep wanting to look but even so if there's nothing to hide so what she's free to look through my phone all day if she pleases i was just in the bathroom for one minute looking at my back on my phone i didn't want you to make fun of me for looking at my back this has literally zero to do with what happened and seems like she has a completely terrible excuse and timeline of events this doesn't make sense she took the picture on the couch what does the bathroom on her back has to do with anything please trust your gut exactly my thought as well i'll likely be telling my boss tomorrow my head is not here and will be coming home to address it first thing in the morning hoping it is just a big misunderstanding so you said her behavior could spell the end of your relationship and she just shrug it off i'm sorry to say but it sounds to me like she's already checked out of the relationship her cheating on you is a possibility and it's up to you if you really want to press her or find proof of that however i would start making plans to move out and separate whatever finances or assets you share because this isn't going to end well now for the final story cheatingx got her karma i feel kinda sad though hello everyone let me just say beforehand that i owe this community big time you guys were the only ones there for me back in january 2020 during my break up that was the worst month of my life after my cheating ex left me for someone else i love this community check my post history if you want the full story i was a dumpster fire several months back and even contemplated self-deletion back then anyway i left this up when i started moving on and healing back in may if i recall now i'm back for some advice and perspective for context my cheating act still owes me four thousand dollars big deal in my country so i asked her just this september for a follow-up and painted debt since we had a signed contract that she would pay before 2020 ends she asked if we could talk via hangout so i agreed we talked last night turns out she wanted to ask for a payment date extension until next year more than that she gave me an update of her life situation she lost her two high-paying freelance jobs due to the pandemic and is now working barely above minimum wage nine to five off his job amidst a raging outbreak in my country she also lost her condominium unit it got repossessed since she couldn't pay mortgage and is now forced to live with her aunt she lost everything she down paid on that apartment thousands of dollars worth on top of that the guy she left me for was a broke musician i think they broke up last month after some friends stalked her page and gave me that unverified speculation instead of feeling elated and fortunate i ended up pitying her it was the first time i heard her say please after she cheated on me and left i ended up asking her whether she was depressed to which she answered that she was and that she was nearly at that certain point in depression no goals no more dreams just living month to month hopping dead end call center jobs i was shocked this wasn't the smart proud girl i once loved not anymore i didn't want to pry deeper my whole reaction was that of a parent scolding their irresponsible child asking her what the hell happened to her and why she let it happen i even felt a bit insulted at her job choice since it pretty much indoctrinated her into high paying freelance jobs and never settling for less than she deserves in a job market back in our heyday i've never heard such a defeated tone from her i even tried cheering her up she pretty much lost everything all that's left are her jobless relatives trying to leash off her measly income breadwinner culture in this country is insane now here i am losing sleep at what i thought would give me a peace of mind several months ago and before the pandemic i would have laughed at her for having that kind of karma now i'm just deeply concerned i even considered giving her some of my work to help her i was also dead set on giving her that extension until i suddenly remembered her capacity for lying and all the pain she inflicted on me so i just hesitated and just told her that i needed to think about that extension trauma and trust issues are still there i guess i am considering the extension and it would seem like i have no choice since she won't be able to pay on time anyway i definitely don't want to take it to court that's like kicking an injured person i don't want to drive her to be as idle because i know how that crap felt when she did it to me and i fear that she might not be able to handle it did i do the right thing in telling her i'll think about it or was i too harsh and callous this was not what i expected at all when i hoped she would get karmic justice served to her i guess i still care for her despite everything she did or at least i cared for what she once was what do i do now thanks for hearing me out now for the top comments of this post you consider extending her deadline but you asked her to a small percentage of the money she owes you and make new documents and ask her to sign it since you don't trust her 100 percent new documents are also what i had in mind and yeah that debt down payment thing sounds like a good compromise too rather than going all out legal warfare thanks the thing about being your ex is that her problems are no longer your problems you can give her an extension if that's the only way you think you'll ever recover the money but it should be conditional in her repaying some portion of it this year don't let the whole loan float until next year that's a good perspective i suddenly forgot to remind myself to not care about her anymore not like i was the one who ruined her life in the first place you're not being too harsh along with a new document i would want to see her pay stubs to ensure she is telling the truth if she questions it just be honest and tell her that you don't trust her do not give her any of your work good points opie don't forget this and that's the end of our video folks as always comment like and subscribe if you like the content i'll catch you in the next one stay safe [Music] you

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Length: 14min 6sec (846 seconds)

Published: Wed Sep 09 2020