Why You Feel Unlovable | Viewer Interview
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Channel: HealthyGamerGG
Views: 229,786
Rating: 4.9797316 out of 5
Keywords: mental health, drk, dr kanojia, healthygamergg, healthy gamer gg, twitch, psychiatrist
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Length: 114min 3sec (6843 seconds)
Published: Thu Jun 17 2021
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This hit hard. Both for the story and because I have that some βunloveableβ root deep in my psyche. When Dr. K talked about depersonalization, it made me realize that so much of what I thought was detachment that I cultivated in my unstable childhood, was just depersonalization for survival. Now Iβm stuck in this in between where nothing feels real and yet everything still feels threatening/dangerous. How do we get from depersonalization as a trauma response to healthy detachment?
I am glad viewer interviews are back. This one was really helpful.
Great video. The intro doesn't do it justice. I am grateful for it not being one of the crude moments both because it doesn't "spoil" anything, and also because it would feel kinda rude to start right of the bat with something like that but from a marketing POV I do feel like if it punched you with one of those anecdotes (if you can call them that) maybe a stat somewhere would go up (watchtime/retention/sth like that).
Holy shit, what a crazy life story.
Even though shit was crazy it didn't make me emotional per se, I mean it was tough but I was reacting like Dr K, more with surprise and such than legit tearing up, until they both started tearing up and then laughing, that was very intense and I did shed a couple tears before laughing with them hahahaha
But the part that hit me the most was Dr K's intervention at like 1:41:00, that shit did make me cry, even more than that part from before (in part because I laughed before, but also because this shit hit hard and kinda out of the blue). Because of the context, I felt doubly bad, bad because of the feeling, and bad for feeling like that even though I haven't been through shit compared to this guy. Seems weird that I'd have these same issues that someone who's not had a dad and whose mum kinda gave him away to his grandparents, it makes me feel ungrateful, makes me feel like I'm not giving my parents credit for what they did and only blaming them for what they did wrong while trying their best. Because I can't really recall anything like bullying or extreme instances of feeling left out and shit like that at school or with friends. But even still , I found that part highly relatable, that core of "unlovableness" part and "not letting myself fall in love". It feels like me, but with me being so broken that I can't even get it right, and I just fall in love anyways, and beat myself over and over because I am unable to confess that I am. It's like fear of rejection and fear of not-rejection and fear that the fear of not-rejection is actually just more fear of rejection on top of it, kinda like a shell trying to cover up the reasons for which i know i'll be rejected by saying "yea im scared that she'll say yes, because I would still fuck shit up"
You're doing great work Dr. K.
Keep it up.