When Love is Gone | Marriage Today | Jimmy Evans

and this is what people say all the time we're out of luck we're just out of luck and we were out of love I mean smack out of love and it's overridden I mean how do you ever get you can't get blood back I mean we but you can't get the love back what I'm here to say to you you control this thing it's not luck it's not fate it's not fickle it's just it there's a explanation wherever my treasure is there's my passion we also so what I've realized is there are some things in my life that are out of balance I'm giving too much to my friends I'm giving too much to work I'm giving too much to other things and there are things that belong with God and belong with my marriage so now I'm conflicted I'm conflicted because what I really want to do are these things over here I feel more passionate about my friends that I do about my marriage I feel more passionate about my work than I do about my relationship with Jesus but Jesus is griping and my spouse is griping and let me say this they won't stop until it's right won't stop so what am I going to do I'm out of love I'm going through a dry spell somebody hit me I'll just have it up I don't know what to do tell you what to do you don't have to manipulate your emotions and you're not helpless and you're not a victim so don't act like you remember the way you used to treat your spouse and the way you gave to them and you sacrifice for that relationship now then you have taken what belongs to them and you're giving it over here and this is what you're passionate about now because that's where you're getting the harvest because that's where you're sowing stop it and go over here do whatever you need to do to get your other relationships and priorities right and go over here and take what you've stolen from God in your spouse and come back doesn't matter what your emotions are and begin to bring it back to the source now when Karen and I fell out of love I told her to leave I told her to get out of the house a sick of her dropping she went the bedroom crying and it was the night before it healed our marriage but the way healed our marriage was he healed me and when she was in the bedroom crying I didn't want her to leave but I didn't want her to stay I mean I just I didn't wanted it but I did want to go on like this anymore because we were at a point of damage of each other and she was in there crying and I said there and literally it was like scales fell from my eyes a second before I didn't see it the next second I just saw what kind of a man I was and I wasn't a good man I thought it was a good man but I wasn't good man I was a chauvinist I was selfish and I went in to Karen she was crying in the bedroom and I walked in the bedroom I said Karen I'm sorry and you know and I apologized to her and I told her this and this is this is when she really responded I said I'm gonna hang my golf clubs up and when I said it her head turned and she said what and I seven hey my golf clubs up you're more important than that and I want our marriage to be healed for several years I didn't play golf with several years later when our marriage was healed Karen walked up to me one day and said why don't you go play golf and I said did I just hear Jesus I I heard a voice fell bus say come hit her but see she didn't mind me playing golf she minded taking her place she minded the energy and the time that I was giving it that kept me from giving to her a hill the marriage and the next morning when I woke up I didn't feel love for Karen I want to say that very honestly I didn't feel love for her I didn't really didn't feel anything and I was still battling feeling like I'd made a mistake and that we should not be married I'm being honest with you I was battling those feelings and thoughts in kind of this feeling I'm trapped in a bad marriage with the wrong woman and I know that it's not right to leave but what do I do that's what I was battling and I woke up the next morning and I made a decision of my will my emotions were checked out I made a decision of my will and I said I'm going to do the right thing and I'm going to love her the way that I should and I began to be nice to her I began to come home earlier I give more to the relationship when I came home I was more helpful she always wanted to go walking and talking and so I began to do some things like that after several days of that we began to like each other there was a there was a friendship that was that was born after several days of that after several weeks of that we were in love again I mean we just had good will and we were having fun and we had intimacy and back in our relationship after several months of that our marriage was healed and we had passion in our relationship and I'm not saying we've never had any troubles it's always been hunky-dory but I'm saying if you're out of love you know I've been there done that you can get it back remember the way you used to act remember the way you used to treat each other now repent 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Length: 7min 59sec (479 seconds)

Published: Mon Apr 09 2012