What type of sex is allowed in marriage?

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What's okay in a marriage bed? What is not okay?  Different positions in sex, people say sex toys,   oral sex, all of these things. What is biblical?  What is lawful? What is okay? This is what we   wanted to address. We're going to highlight  four things that are not okay in a marriage   bed. First Scripture that we would like to read  is Hebrews 13:4. "Marriage is honorable among all,   and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and  adulterers God will judge." The Greek word   translated "undefiled" is usually used in this  exact form four times in the New Testament,   and it means uncontaminated or set apart.  There are many sins, but we're gonna share   four things that are not okay. Sexual immorality  is having sex with someone other than your spouse,   and here are those four things. Number one is  adultery. So it's when you are having sex with   somebody else while you are married. Yes,  including spouse swapping. It's adultery,   and it's very common in our culture. It is  becoming common in our culture, where people   switch spouses or swap spouses temporarily to  have better experiences. It's not biblical,   and it's an adultery. The second thing that's not  okay in a marriage bed is threesomes. Threesomes   is when you bring one more person into bed. I  actually have seen Christians justify that and   say, "Well, Jacob had Rachel and Leah. So he was  married to two women, and therefore it's okay to   bring one more person into bed to practice  threesomes." Well, you have to understand is   that Jacob did practice polygamy. It's not God's  original intent, but Jacob did not have sex with   Rachel and with Leah at the same time. Threesomes  is sexual immorality. It is wrong. Even if your   spouse agrees with it. If your spouse agrees with  it, they are crazy, and if you think of that idea,   you are also crazy. And if a third person is on  board with that, you have three of you that are   crazy. Yeah. The marriage is supposed to be  between two people, not a whole neighborhood.   Now the third thing that's not okay in  marriage is watching porn, pornography.   Watching porn with your spouse is a virtual  threesome and virtual adultery. Now, I have   mentored or prayed for some couples who one spouse  came and said, "We want to introduce into our   marriage pornography." So usually it's a husband  who forces a wife to watch pornography, and then   to reenact that in their marriage bed. It's wrong,  it's a sin and it's an open door to demons. And so   watching porn to spice up your marriage bed is  you're inviting demons into your marriage bed,   you're inviting fantasies. It's not real, and I  have an interview with an ex-porn star. You can   watch it and this is not, this is not how real  sex is. These are called performers. These are   not spouses, okay, and so it takes you know days  to make a 40 minute video, and there's a lot of   editing that's involved. It's not real. It's not  how marriage is. It's made for entertainment,   godless entertainment but it's not made to be an  example. And so and if you take that as an example   for your marriage, just pretty much a sure way to  destroy your marriage. It's literally trying to   fix a porn problem by reenacting pornography in  marriage, but it's wrong. The fourth wrong thing   in a marriage bed is rape. All non-consensual  sex is rape, whether in marriage or not.   And I've mentioned 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 deals with  giving satisfaction in sex, not demanding it,   or forcing a spouse to have sex with you. The  Bible does not give that permission to demand sex.   Yeah. Now, when it comes to things like different  positions in sex, people say sex toys, oral sex.   All of these things. What is biblical? What is  lawful? What is okay? This is what we wanted to   address. We want to pretty much give you three  questions to ask before; if it's not adultery.   If it's not adultery, if it's not bringing  another person or bringing a pornography,   or it's not a rape or you're forcing somebody,  what about some other sexual expressions in bed?   And so we want to ask you to ask three questions  if you're thinking, well should we? Can we?   Three questions to ask. Question number  one. Is it prohibited in the Scripture?   If it's not, assume it's permitted. If it's not  prohibited in the Scripture, and it's between you   and your spouse, you can assume in a marriage  bed, it is permitted. So if it's not adultery,   if you're not bringing some sexual fantasies into  a marriage bed, if you're not forcing your spouse,   and if you're not bringing somebody else, you can  assume it's pretty much permitted. 1 Corinthians   6:12. It says, "All things are lawful for me, but  all things are not helpful. All things are lawful   for me, but I will not be brought under the power  of any." So Paul is pretty much saying that okay,   things are lawful for me. Is it lawful? So  that's what the first question we ask. Is   the Bible against it? Is the Bible very  clearly against it? If the Bible is not,   in the area of marital sexual intimacy, we have  freedom. Now the second question we want to ask,   and that is this. Is this beneficial? Does it harm  or hinder sexual closeness between two spouses. So   does this act, does this particular behavior,  will it bring us closer or will it actually   pull us further away? That's a good one. And  that's what Paul says, 1 Corinthians 6:12. He says   all things are lawful. But he says, not all things  are helpful. Yes so okay, what does the Bible say?   Is the Bible clearly against it? If not,  we are within our Christian freedom,   but then we have to ask another question.  Not just are we free to do it but should   we do it based on this, based on this. Is this  gonna help our intimacy or harm our intimacy?   And usually one spouse suggests maybe something,  and the other one will say, you know what,   I don't feel comfortable, I feel, and stuff.  So and then what that begins to happen is that   then this helps you to know if this is helping  or hindering. Yeah, and if one spouse may say,   "Oh, it's gonna help me in our intimacy,"  and another spouse will say, "Oh, it's not   going to help me for sure." That means it's not  going to be helpful for the marriage itself,   and this is where we are shooting at. For both  people to come closer. Not just for one person   to feel like, "Oh yeah, it's gonna help me." And  then the third one, and that's the biggest one,   and is there a mutual consent? So,  what does the Bible say? Is it lawful?   Is it beneficial? And thirdly, is there a mutual  consent? Is the spouse being forced, coerced into   what he or she is not comfortable with? Or  manipulated into? Yeah. 1 Corinthians 7:5.   "Do not deprive one another except with consent  for a time, that you may give yourself to fasting   and prayer; and come together again so that satan  does not tempt you because you lack self-control."   Yeah, so we see pretty much here that the Bible  says that there needs to be consent. Yeah. Even   to withdraw sexually, there must be consent, and  so that means that God wants us to have a mutual   consent. God wants us to have is it scriptural,  is it beneficial and is there mutual consent?
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Channel: Lana Savchuk
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Length: 8min 57sec (537 seconds)
Published: Wed May 24 2023
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