- Steve, I've been with my
husband for about 19 years and we have two children together. He's the disciplinarian in the household. However, at times when
he's going in on our boys I'll chime in because I feel like he's being a little
too rough on them. He feels like I'm making them soft. How should I respond to this, or how should I act in the situations when he's disciplining our boys? - Well you don't have to
agree with everything he does. But why don't you just stay out the way? I mean, and I'm not being
sexist, but listen to this. Why did you marry your husband? - Because I love him. - Is he the man of your dreams? - Yes he is.
(laughing) - Is he the man you hope
your sons will grow up to be? - Yes.
- So why would you stop him from raising them into that? (applauding)
- I'm not stopping him. I'm not stopping him, I just feel at times he's a bit harsh with the punishments. - He is hard on them, 'cause they boys. Undisciplined boys grow up
to be undisciplined men. Do you know the problem you gonna have? - Yes.
- Undisciplined men end up in the hospital, or in a prison. Or, they end up in a grave. That's what happens to undisciplined men. I got four daughters and three sons. I raised my sons entirely different than I raised them girls, 'cause I had to. 'Cause it's a different set
of expectations on the boys. Now do I want my girls
to be successful, yes. Do I want them to get equal pay, yes. Do I want them to be treated fairly, yes. Do I let men run over them, ain't no way. I raised by daughters to be strong, independent and all a that. (applauding)
All my girls got college degrees. But them sons of mine, and they mothers know,
let me had these boys. I ain't over here tryin' to
turn the girls into women, 'cause I don't know how. I know nothing. But I know 'bout these boys, and I know what it take to be a man. So I got 'em. Now my wife has told me,
you too hard on them boys. - That's what I think
he is, he's too hard. But they play us against each other now. So they know mom is more laid
back, dad is more strict, so they play the role of if
my husband's yellin' at 'em, my 11 year old will say, well
momma said I could do it. - And why do you think he does that? 'Cause momma said. - He's playin' us, but
he's playin' us, Steve, I don't know.
- Because kids are manipulative.
- Yes. - They are master manipulators. They don't mean no harm, they
just doin' what they can do. Kids are slick. Now they playin' y'all
against one another. Marjorie and I came to a conclusion. When the girls come in
there and ask me somethin', or the boys come in there and I know that I got a
feelin' they've been upstairs. I say, go ask your momma. When they go and ask her,
they say, go ask your father. Now, they go, well I already asked momma. Well what did she say? And whatever she said
upstairs, I go along with that. Now if we disagree.
(applauding) Marjorie and I, our kids are older now. Marjorie and I never allowed them to see us disagree in front of them. You can disagree with your husband you just can't do it in front of the boys. Because once they see it in front of each other, then they got you. And here they come 'cause you done stepped in too many times. (applauding) Have you picked up anything? - Yes, yes I have. - Thank you very much. Let your husband raise them boys. You might mess around and
have two fine young men like the one you married. - Yes.
(applauding) - [Steve] All right where's Reyna?
