What Are You Willing To Do To Achieve Your Dream? | Lisa Nichols

this is the year for reset this is the year for restart this is a year for reignite this is the year for repeat the things that you love this is the year for recommit this is the year for redesign this is the year for re-engaged this is the year for restart this is that year [Applause] [Music] hello everyone hello hello hello I feel like them the words to say is thank you I love you too I feel like the words that I love to hear when I come here as welcome home because it's home ten years ago was it ten years ago we said in Canada ten years ago this man had a vision to create this epic experience I think I just gotten offstage just spoken I don't know where we were Calgary and he's talking ambition when he's excited talks fast and I'm a vision ear so I love vision he's like we're gonna do this we're gonna do this is gonna be ever gonna party let's go it's not as much party as like content I was like is that possible we're gonna do it and he got a yes out of me and it was one of the best yeses I've ever given because for a long time I saw myself touching people from all walks of life and I've been doing it I've been traveling the world but I didn't have an intimate connection yet because of the way traveling and speaking Matt has managed you just kind of whisk in and whisk out and mine Valley was the only place where I would come and stay put and I would stay out of my room and I'd go to every party and I'd get on the mic and I'd wrap my version of rap it wasn't like what y'all just saw but my valley was that place where I got to see people melt bridges of melt walls and built bridges and so I just want to acknowledge your brother I'm proud of you because this part of the journey feels good and looks good but there's so much more under the ground to grow this kind of fertile soil and this kind of harvest all the plowing that you've done all of the lonely nights all of everything I'm with you and I love you and I try to say yes before he finishes the question and man that questions he asks as you can see so I love you thank you I'm excited to be back home my alley you guys ready for an experience I am just going I am just going to continue what my brother started I was over to the side like Oh oh my god this juicy where's my note battle it was just you see from abundance no matter what some mindset to asking the questions 2020 is a reset year 2020 is about it's not by accident that it's 2020 in a new decade it's 2020 vision for 2020 and beyond this is the year for reset this is the year for restart this is a year for reignite this is the year for repeat the things that you love this is a year for recommit this is the year for redesign this is a year for re-engaged this is the year for restart this is that year this is that year yes yes yes yes now let me ask you a question how many of you are hearing me not the ones from yesterday we have a lot matter of fact my sisters and brothers from yesterday was that not an amazing day together man it was off the chain I'm just super excited how many of you other than outside of that group how many of you are hearing me today for the very first time Oh hands up Oh good stuff so there's just a few that I need to set some of the guidelines with so and I say this and I said this yesterday I'm not saying this because it's a shtick I'm not saying this because it's the thing I'm saying this because it really helped me move my life forward I've been practicing cognitive dissonance for years and that's what vision was speaking of it's when you see yourself where you're not yet and you got to do something different to get there that like that has been my mo I saw myself I used to stand in front of my bathroom mirror and I would deliver him the most amazing speeches ever and I made myself cry I assumed ever everybody my audience was crying like that was good now I just got to go get books and make that happen so I was doing this a long time ago I would tell my son I never used the word we can't afford that I never ever use it I would say oh my god Jelani that's not a financial priority in our house so when he was 13 and his friend was in the backseat of the car and it goes shelana you don't get them the new Xbox 360 I knew it'd work when my son said no I'm sure that's not a financial priority in my mother's house yes he got it when I decided 45 days ago that I would pack five big bags full of my most fabulous clothes and shoes and I moved to Nassau Bahamas and I knew my son had taken on the journey when I said Jelani I was prepared I was waiting for him to do all the sagas of mom don't leave me and I was already ready to go look I did my job you're 25 I'm gone I said Jelani I'm moving to the Bahamas he said it's about time he said mom you've loved the Bahamas for a long time he said the world is small you made the world very small for me I have a passport passport and a credit card I see you and Nassau and so when Mission talked about these things in his mind said it's generational when you live it you leave it when you live it you leave it yet what you're saying is wonderful but what you're doing is penetrating it's shaping the lives of those who are watching then I realized that the bigger I dream the more contagious I became and so 2020 is not just about you dreaming big for you it's how contagious can you be because when you're contagious you are forced to be reckoned with a force to be lived with you are a legacy living and so I love everything you said because that's that's living legacy that's saying hold on I'm gonna design what's on my tune here lies a woman who here lies a man who and oh by the way there's not enough tombstone to write it so our agreement our guideline is when you hear something that resonates with your soul you already know you want to say it already but we gotta tell the newbies about it well something resonates with your soul I want you to say yes but I want the second yes to be higher than the first yes I want the second yes to make the chandelier shake on the count of three we're gonna try one two three only at mine Valley do you nail it the first time I'm just telling you I'm just saying now that first yes is the yes to everything you know you can do but the second yes and I and I promise you I don't care how many times I have you do this don't let it ever get old let the second yes beats are the thing that's being born through you and it's gonna cost you something it's gonna cost you more time than you thought you'd have it's gonna cost you way more money than you thought you would invest it's gonna cost you some friends who couldn't make the entire journey with you it's gonna cost you that that sense of oh my god I gotta leave I gotta die to the old me to allow the new me to be born to my future it's gonna cost you something so the second guess has to be higher than the first let's just try it again one two three let's try it again one two three every time I say something that resonates with your soul I want you to say every time you hear your truth I want you to say even if it stings a little bit I still want you to say even if your neighbors not participating yet cuz they still too cool I still want you to say I still want you to say and when you leave this place and you're giving your vision birth you're giving your vision air and oxygen in life and no one else gets your vision I still want you to say I still want you to say now the next time someone asks you to lunch still say now they're gonna say why are you saying yes twice you went to that weird thing with all those unicorn people and now you can't say yes once you say yes twice and I want you to reply and say if you want to get something different you have to do something different even if it's just one extra yes with a lot of extra juice yes yes yes yes now don't wait for me to do this I'm not doing that all day I'm a trust that when you hear your truth tell your cells I hurt my truth because this is about discovering more of you who you've always been and who you're becoming this journey is not about the person sitting beside your behind you're impressing anyone this journey is about working to blow your own mind yes yes with the way you love the perceiving the unlovable the way you forgive the perceiving unforgivable the way you bounce back the way you're you're not worried about not getting knocked down please don't do that because you want to build your muscles so when you get knocked down don't sit down don't take out real estate and down some people get knocked down and they talk about it for the next ten years you know you could have got up right there just sitting there I can do this for awhile by the way they're just sitting there it sure bounce back because when you bounce back you bounce back with something you didn't have before so I came here and I'm grateful to be a part of the tribe I came here to not make it easy for you to sit down to stir your soul to stir your love soul to turn up something to tillis oiling you that says I am forever transforming in this moment the woman you've seen before the man you've seen before I'm no longer than I am transformed that to have you fall in love with yourself in such a way you only give yourself the best version of everything and everybody see I I stopped by to to poke you to prod you to make it mildly to moderately to significantly uncomfortable for you to sit in any form of mediocracy for you to to make sure you don't look at 20/20 when you get to 2022 and say damn there was more of me to give back there and I didn't to make sure you're not keeping score keep track but don't keep score make sure that you trust your picker again oh I didn't stop by for our I stopped by to call for two and bite out into the universe the very best version of you I stopped by to ask you are you willing are you willing to do what you've never done before say what you've never said before so you can be the man the woman you've always known yourself to be are you willing are you willing to tell any part of you that doesn't serve your future any party you know the procrastination and the and the worry and the doubt and the am I good enough anybody know what I'm talking about yes yes and who can I be over there if I've been this person over here if you're willing to stop and look at all of it and say I appreciate you you got me to this point but in order for me to go for that I'm gonna have to leave you here because you limit to thinking you doubtful Debbie you and the naysayer you vision buster you can't quite fit in my future I have lives to transform I have people to inspire I have children to ignite I have loves to create I've so much to do I can't quite take you with me but it's been real I just stopped by to see if you're willing to do that I'll just stop by I just stopped by to see if you're willing to do that because I gotta tell you I could not stand on this stage and on all the stages around the world and touch 50 60 70 80 million not do that I could not have seven bestsellers and have lunch with Oprah and and dinner with Steve Harvey and whatever with dr. Phil and hang on I couldn't do that can I not talk to a part of me that I grown complete with I could not do that if I didn't identify something in me that was being born and that I was the Midwife to and to allow that to be born and Terrell I realized that I was impregnated with my own greatness I couldn't do that and so if God would use a little ordinary chick like me from South Central LA we know what can happen to you and what could come through you so I just stopped by I stopped by to ask you are you ready are you willing because most people sign up for the goal and this is my new awareness they sign up for the goal and you focus on the goal and you get really really committed to the goal and then you've got to go through something to get from the goal and then you set the goal down I'm gonna invite you don't sign up for the goal sign up for the inconvenience it's gonna cost you sign up for that sign up I sign up every day every day to the inconvenience the girl looks sexy the inconvenience looks costly but if you sign up for the inconvenience then the goal will take care of itself every day say yes to whatever it takes no matter what yes yes talk about love I I want to play a piece I'm gonna ask them to play this piece for you guys if you guys can prep the piece it's gonna be a familiar voice steal yourself take anything out of your hands by the way I love for you to take notes I'm a coach I love transformation I teach a lot of courses this is not gonna be that kind this is a sole euler conversation you don't even know what to write down right now like don't worry about it let yourself let yourselves take notes we'll have plenty of time if you choose we want to do that kind of learning but at some point just just a solely alert conversation so I'm I asked the sound team thank you guys for your wonderful contribution you guys already I just want you to sit still and I'm gonna take you on a journey it's gonna seem like you know where it's going initially but y'all know me those that you can you know me it's gonna have a car I want you to listen with your eyes open our eyes closed you've hurt this piece before it's familiar but it's but it's different now it's different right now in 2020 in this room with nearly a thousand people from many many different countries so just here for the first time again eyes open our eyes to close whichever you choose if you will play that piece and I'll just have a dream one day this nation will rise up live out the true meaning of it's free we hold these truths to be self-evident that all the one day on the Red Hills of Georgia funds the former please and the sons of former slave owners will be be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi of state sweltering with the heat of injustice sweltering with the heat of oppression be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice I have a dream my four little children one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character so I want you just to sit with that for a moment turn that off to sit with that take a deep breath in and ask yourself what's my dream what's my dream begin the fill your feet on the floor open your eyes come back into the room I was at a conference I told my my tribe yesterday this place is sacred to me the Westin Hotel because I started my dreaming at this hotel 22 years ago this was the hotel of the conference that I went back to 42 times this is the comp the hotel when I'd have Jelani my son who's now 26 this year I'd have the childcare pick him up right there in the lobby right before I went on stage because I couldn't afford to have childcare all day so I'd have a la carte childcare well how much it costs that much for how much it cost for two hours this was the hotel right there in the pit we used to call that the pit that's where I first learned how to do a snap right there and that that that carpet area outside by the bar I walked by the other night as our register and I stopped and I just looked at it it didn't dawn on me what hotel I was in until I got here and I went whoa that's where it all began that's where I gave myself permission to have a dream I play that song to you because in another conference room right across another ballroom that song that that speech would play and I would get out of that room get up out of that room and I'd run out the door every single time something about dr. King's voice would absolutely make me so uncomfortable and I didn't it didn't make sense because here I was in a room of 800 people less than 2% were people of color I should be really excited that dr. King's message is being played in this room but I wasn't I was uncomfortable I kept getting up and running out every single time we played it nine times I told you I went to the conference 42 times nine times when this instructor played this message I would run and finally another instructor found out saw me running out she saw he saw this consistency he ran out behind me he said what are you running out for and I kept searching and searching and searching I couldn't figure out why and then it came to me I said I don't know if I'm willing to pay the full price for my dream the way dr. King was willing and I can't shake the dream though anybody know about that I can't shake the dream but I'm scared of the dream anybody with me one hand one hand up - hands up yes yes I can't shake the dream but I don't have the details for the dream I don't quite know how to make the dream happen and it's quite lonely on the journey to get to the dream so the cost of the dream seems really high but the dream won't go away and every time he plays that that goal message I'm shaking again about the dream because dr. King showed me to have a dream as powerful and do anything for it fast for 13 years true story 13 years later I'm driving down the highway 405 freeway headed from LA to San Diego I have a speaking engagement didn't really look at all the details of the speaking engagement I'm in my convertible with my girlfriend music is playing we're playing ndre going down I got my afro rockin my shades on my girl now this is my girl that when we don't know to this day who had $10 but by the end of the day we both have five that kind of girl and all of a sudden I'm like 20 minutes from the 20 minutes from the event and there's a traffic jam in the traffic jam just stops I kid you not I'll stop you for a moment and I'll take you on your own journey close your eyes take a deep breath it's five years from today 2025 the end of February and every say every say every every single one of your desires and intentions have come true as a matter of fact you've surpassed them the number in the bank account see a number now double it the house picture it now add two or three acres the family add three more levels of laughter to your husband your wife or your children's voice feel it in yourselves feel it take a deep breath feel it now I want to take you on a journey and this is your journey this is your life this is your truth five years from today five years from leaving this event you walk out of this event and you get busy like you've never gotten busy before you produce like you've never produced before you inhale you exhale you breathe you expand you can track you play full out and now it's all double what you thought it would be I want you to see yourself in a car if we can play a little background music in the background to help us a little background music I want you to see yourself in a car driving to your home now this is your weekend car I told you that it's better than what you thought and you drive up to your home you push in the code in the gate opens and you drive another you drive another half mile up to the house I told you it's better you pull up to the front door I want you to see yourself what car are you in what clothes are you wearing how does your skin look you're so healthy you're so fit you're powerful on every level you get out your car you go through the double doors you look down at the tavern teen floors you look up at the at the cathedral setting chandelier you smell the lavender smell the lavender smell the lilac smell the lemon smell that aroma that rosemary that gives you that sense of ease you hear the music come on you guys create your future create your reality you immediately hear laughter laughter is coming from the other room you sit down you're your goods and you go into the other room and in this dining room that seats 20 people your dining room all your family members laughing and talking see you have them over for just another family gathering and then they gather around the table and oh by the way the family member that you have the biggest struggle with they're right beside you because you've healed that you're now in harmony breathe that in take a deep breath in and your family begins to tell you thank you maybe we want to toast you because you did something five years ago and nothing is the same and all of a sudden you are accelerated your your pace of success and growth and joy and abundance and now we get to witness food is all across the table you sit down at the table with your family look at the food and everyone made their best dish so you know it's gonna be good and all of a sudden ten minutes into eating you realize oh my stars I have to go to this event you guys stay here at the house you can sleep in any one of the ten bed 10 bedrooms that I have I have more than enough space for you family you get back in your car you drive up the highway and as you're driving up the highway you run into a traffic jam you're like oh my god I got like 15 minutes to make it fill your urgency feel the frustration building in your body you know traffic jams stop and go red lights feel it see it and you get really nervous and you get really frustrated you get ten minutes out and you're like I don't know if I'm gonna be on time I think I'm gonna be late you call the host of the event you said I think I'm gonna be late they said that's okay we're gonna wait for you you're the one we're waiting to hear you arrive to the event about 15 minutes late you walk out on stage and you look out at the audience and there are 10,000 people waiting to hear you you open up your piece of paper and you begin to talk and the first thing you say is thank you and before you can say another word someone from seat number 7850 yells out no thank you and then another person from seat 660 yells out thank you and then seat 425 thank you seat 51 thank you row one thank you seat 7850 six thank you and then one by one every single person I want you to picture this yells out thank you thank you thank you thank you for doing the work thank you for dreaming big thank you for walking alone thank you for investing in yourself thank you for being will to be talked about ostracize and judged thank you for spending your last dime on you thank you for dreaming thank you for praying thank you for the tears thank you twenty five minutes go by and you never get a word in and you realize that you didn't come to speak you came to hear them say thank you to you and when they finally stopped twenty-five minutes later you say I'm gonna close every door in this stadium and I'm gonna leave one door open and I'm gonna stand at that door and I'm gonna give every single one of you a hug before you leave now it's gonna take a while but if you're down I'm down and everyone says in unison yes yes and you stand at that door and you hug that sixty year old woman and as you hug her she says thank you thank you for letting me know it's not too old I'm not too old to dream and the next person in line you hugged that 15-year old boy and he says thank you for letting me know I'm not strange and then you hug that 40 year old woman she says thank you for reminding me to put myself first come on you guys hear yourself and you hug that 50 year old man he is he says thank you for letting me know that I don't have to have my ego first thank you for letting me know I can have tattoos and still be spiritual and still be godly I can have made some mistakes and still have rich content I have I can be afraid and still be courageous all you hear is thank you thank you thank you until 2:00 a.m. take a deep breath fill your feet on the floor come back in the room open your eyes your future is an intention and a thought away I take you back to the freeway that I was on the freeway that's right here by the way I'm on the highway with my girlfriend we're literally 20 minutes from needing to be at this event but the traffic jam says we're gonna be 40 minutes before we get there true story I told this story once and one of the people that was in the traffic jam was in the audience I look at my girlfriend I said oh my gosh Sarita we're not gonna make it in time we're not gonna make it in time we're not gonna make it in time she said Lisa remember that guided visualization we did 13 years ago what if this is your traffic jam I just start crying I know it's not my traffic jam but that's amazing that's amazing thought but Dino is not but that's amazing thought and right at that time my girlfriend Sherita who was driving she says scuse me sir can we get in front of you we're really in a rush can we get in front of you and this guy waves out his hand just kind of nonchalant he goes sure we get in front of him he leans out the window he says I'm sure you need to get there because I'm going to see you I just start crying one person on the highway is going to see me oh my god that's amazing and then this woman drives up next to me and what seems to be like a 2025 Escalade and our window goes down this beautiful blonde hair and hazel eyes she says what time do you go on I was like I'm not sure I think as soon as I get there she goes well I'm gonna stay right behind you because I came to only see you and I just started crying and as we're driving down the highway people are looking and bumping their horn and waving and I'm like I'm telling my girlfriend do they recognize me I got my shades on she goes you're an african-american woman were to Auburn afro and a convertible are you are you kidding that's like but my shades I kids do not we get to the off ramp and the off ramp is gridlocked and I'm like I'm not gonna get off the off ramp I kid you guys not I don't know how it occurred but all of a sudden people begin to drive up on the embankment one by one and they cleared the path like the Red Sea had parted and as I drove through I'm just staring left and right and all I could hear them saying thank you thank you thank you for your work in the secret thank you for writing in the book thank you they were thanking me for their thing but I promise you it was as if it it was divinely appointed I get to this arena and there's not 10,000 people there there were eleven thousand four hundred people in the arena waiting on me so when I tell you what you think about is your future waiting to come forth so manager thoughts mind your thoughts I had no idea that that highway was going to be my highway you have no idea of the breath-taking future that's on its way to you that's asking you please let me through please let me through when you decide that you are good enough when you decide you give yourself permission to have it all have all the love have all the health have all the wealth have all the abundance have all the prosperity when you give yourself permission it's like the inside of your champion us and let me out oh let me out and when you let me out I ain't ever going back in and and it doesn't all come out at one time you become the Midwife or the mid husband so parts of it two pieces of it it's not all in one I look at the woman I am today I look at the people that I sit in my counsel I look at the accolades I look at the sizzle reels I look at the I hear this stuff my life is different for me now when I walk through the airport I look at this life when I go that's a long way from being right here on century Boulevard just about three miles up the road right past Crenshaw in the government's assistance office right on this street it's a long way but it was just one little leap away each leap and so I ask you who is trying to be born through you that when you love you more when you turn up your love when you turn up your forgiveness forgiveness of self forgiveness of others when you unhook the shackles to blame shame guilt regret and anger when you say you don't fit in my breathtaking future what occurs what occurs when you turn around and you say hold on I want to meet all 360 degrees of my fabulosity and I don't say that in a braggadocious way I say that in the way of servanthood use me use all of me I don't want to leave here with anything in me take all of me take everything I want to leave here absolutely empty and tired after all I want to rest in peace what happens what happens what happens when you play like that what happens when you're willing sir can you come and help me down off the stage please sure he's like can I do it yes you can thank you so I just came here I came here to find out what are you willing to do that you've never done before what do you willing to say that you've never said before everything you've already done has already been done so Oh 8 what can you do that you've never seen how can you love what words can you discover go study the lexicon and the source use all new words this year expand expand the way you love expand the way you love yourself expand how quick you bounce back to sell expand how how fast you press pause on any negative self-talk how can you ask for your me time how can you ask for you recharge time how can you celebrate what looks like a failure but really is a lesson wrapped in sandpaper how can you how can you cause me to want to be a better woman because I crossed your path that because we sucked up oxygen in the same space I want to be a better person because I witnessed you from a distance in the grocery store how can you be unapologetic and non-negotiable see so many of you want to play big in the world but you keep making it optional and every time it gets too hard you sit it back down the moment you make it non-negotiable not in options slide every option off the table you're not wondering about the mountain and how big it is because you said you must bow down you have to have a level you have to have a level of certainty for you you gotta believe in you Bank on you trust in you like you never had before and every single thing that you've ever done every single thought you've ever had every single decision you ever made built you for such a time as this and you are perfect for the job perfect no one has your unique unrepeatable fingerprint no one can do it like you and if you sit down and you sit down on all of us I am NOT here to let you off the hook because we need a lot more people like us doing this work I don't look at the world and get frustrated I look at the world and get busy I don't get frustrated what's going on I just tone up [Music] hi we got everything we need and you and I I stopped by to to touch your heart crack your heart check lens your heart open up your heart I stopped by I stopped by to ask you are you willing to walk by yourself knowing I'll walk no one else will walk with you are you willing to do that are you willing are you willing to change the way you show up change the way you strut are you willing to say well maybe I can't walk forward maybe I gotta do it sideways for a minute maybe I gotta do a backwards for man are you willing to be radical for yourself yes yes I just stopped by to ask the questions my brother opened up with questions it's the quality of your answer lives in the quality of your question people want to make me extraordinary I'm not extraordinary I'm an ordinary woman who chooses to make extraordinary decisions every day all day now what that means is if we all woke up ordinary we are off to the same start and how you gonna end your day and what you're gonna do today so I just stopped by I stopped by to remind you that you woke up with everything say everything with everything you need to do everything you need to do with everyone who needs them have it done with that you can't pick anything up from mine Valley you didn't come here to get something you came here to have everything and everything you've always been be affirmed I just stopped by to ask you so if you knew all that what would you do how would you play as if you couldn't fail how would you love is if you've never been betrayed how would you leap is if you've never busted your chin before how would you invest in you as if you've never lost any money how would you do it can you do it so fresh so new so amazing can you just be you in a way hold on I gotta stay in the light it's all about the lighting chocolate will completely disappear over there in the corner I love y'all but I'll go I'll disappear I just want to know how are you willing I would you hold that for me sweetie I I wanted to let you know that dr. King dr. King Marcos is running Thank You Marcos dr. King gave that amazing speech but what many people don't know is he also wrote this letter and I love reading this because it reminds me that I get to be a super Shiro I get to have an S on my chest just remember that the S is in Creole ah you get to put it on every day but your humanity is important to remember that you are choosing to be super and you're ordinary you're choosing to have a perfect life experience in the spirit of imperfection dr. King says almost immediately after just listen to this I want you to listen to that's the same man who who made it possible for us to be here but listen to this many people don't know about this as the best-kept secret almost immediately after the protest started we begun to receive threatening phone calls and letters they increased as time went by by the middle of January they had risen to nearly 40 threats a day from the beginning of the protest both my parents Carretas parents were always they always had unconscious and often conscious fear that something fatal might befall us and I want you to hear this man's commitment to the dream they never had any doubt about the rightness of our actions but they were concerned about what might happen to us my father made the beaten path between Atlanta and Montgomery throughout the days of the protests every time I saw him we went through this deep feeling of anxiety together because I knew that my every move was driving him deeper and deeper into a state of worry see we make dr. Martin Luther King dr. Martin Luther King but we forget he's Martin someone's son he was someone's father during those days he could hardly mention the many harassment that Coretta the baby and eyes were subjected to without ending up in tears as the weeks passed I began to see that many of the threats were real so I felt myself faltering and growing in fear it's the best part he said one day a white friend told me that he had heard a reliable source had plans to take my life for the first time I realized that something could in fact happen to me one night at mass meeting I found myself saying if one day you find me sprawled out there I do not want you to retaliate with a single act of violence I urge you to continue protesting with the same dignity and discipline you have shown so far estranged silence a strange silence came over the audience one night tour at the end of January I settled in bed late after a strenuous day kureta had already fallen asleep and that was just about to doze off when the telephone rang and an angry voice said listen we've taken all we want from you before next week you'll be sorry you came to Montgomery I hung up but I couldn't sleep the fears had come down on me all at once I got out of bed and began to walk the floor I heard these things before but for some reason that night it got to me I turned over and I tried to go back to sleep I couldn't I was frustrated I was bewildered so then I got up I finally went into the kitchen and I heated a pot of coffee and I was ready to give up you guys dr. Martin Luther King he said with my cup of coffee sitting untouched before me I tried to think of a way to move out of the picture without appearing to be a coward i sat there and thought about the beautiful little girl who had just been born I'd come in night after night to see that little smile I wanted to see her grow up something said to me I asked God can I quit I'm afraid if I quit that other people will quit as well but I'm afraid I cried out to God God please let me quit and then God said to me you can call on me but you've got to call on that something in you you got to find a way to make a way out of no way with my head in my hands I bowed over the kitchen table and I prayed out loud in the words I spoke to God and midnight and a very weary voice Lord I'm down here trying to do what's right I think I'm right I'm here taking a stand for what I believe to be right but lord I must confess that I am weak now I am faltering anybody been there yes yes I read this to you because this is dr. King's voice so I asked you if dr. King can have a dream and have fear then what can you do that's our leader who are you dr. dream has dr. King has asked us to pick up the dream and to have a dream in the next level and I'm gonna ask you are you willing to do that how are you willing are you willing to do that thing you've never done before are you willing to stand at the edge of your own greatness are you willing to look at your fears are you willing to recognize that you can be afraid are you willing to look at the fact that there is always healing to come there's always growth to come there's no arrival are you willing and then in the space of that are you still willing to lean to the edge fill the breeze of possibility not knowing if you will fly or fall are you willing are you willing to not quite know what's there but that something is there is greater than you are you willing to say my life has to make a huge difference you've heard me say this before that there's a birthday and a transition day and in between that is all the opportunity in the world that's that - that - that says are you willing to disrupt my life you're not here you're not put here to leave my life calm you're here to be a disruption for my life you're here to cause me to wanna be someone I've never been do something I've never done because you crossed my path are you willing to show me that greatness I read that letter and I often read that letter because I have to give myself permission to play big and be afraid I read that letter because I want to see the humanity of dr. King not the giant because more days and nighttime Gilani's mom I'm Jimmy nickles daughter I'm that woman searching for love inside myself and with someone else I'm fine finding my own breath and so I want to read that letter because I want to find my edge for 2020 and I want to see who can I become and I ask you who can you become who have you been who are you now and who's being born through you and bigger than that how will you change the lives of the people who will cross your path because you decided to stand up how will you inspire me how will you show me who I can be I look at my grandmother she's 92 this year my grandmother said baby people are going right about you they like you do yourself a favor and don't read their writings don't read the press and when you get older and there's nothing to do was sit in a rocking chair like me read their writings and their opinions of you and be entertained by who they thought you were by all that while the time you knew who you were I'm gonna ask you please stand up when you look at this room when I look at this room when we look at this room there's a dr martin over there there was an effing mandela right there there's a mother teresa right there there's a mahatma ghandi right there there's a Cesar Chavez right there there's anyone that we would consider to be the solution standing right beside us take a deep breath look at the person to your left and right you have no idea who they are becoming you have no idea who they are becoming repeat after me stretch me challenge me make me all my greatness don't let me off the hook my - matters my - matters help me accountable to the change I'm to make to the inspiration I'm to bring to the motivation that I am hold me accountable I want to be held accountable I'm not afraid of my greatness I'm not afraid of my imperfections I am genius ever-evolving I am breakthrough ever happening I am enough take a deep breath I'm just sharing with you what I've had to say day after day after day because when I began to travel the world and people told me who they saw but I didn't see that person I had to borrow their lenses so if today you have to borrow someone else's lenses of you let me help you do that turn to a partner turn to a partner and totally face them and totally face them turn to partner for some of you this is exactly what you need it for others it's exactly what you need is gonna make you totally uncomfortable take a deep breath silence and for some of you this is just a journey and my brother always sets me up with the opportunity to have after parties with people and after after connections and I think today I'll be in here later for those who you want to deeper dive into this experience but right now I want you to see someone seeing you so look at your partner repeat after me you look amazing I'm so grateful to be your partner everything about you is wonderful everything about you is perfect in this moment your hair your eyes your skin your lips your hips your body its it is its own perfection you woke up this morning 100% ready and enough I want to take a moment to thank you for all you've done to arrive to this room the way you've sacrificed the way you've given up yourself all that it's cost you I want to let you know that we're grateful and for every person in your life who couldn't say thank you please allow me to say thank you on their behalf and as you move forward and as you play big and allow your champion to come out you may have doubt you may have doubtful moments you may question if you can do it remember I stood in front of you I looked in your eyes and I told you this when your faith wanes [Music] borrow my faith in you when you get exhausted borrow my strength take a deep breath repeat after me I see you I honor you I celebrate you I love you take a deep breath high-five or hug hands up keep standing now look at me talking to yourself hand over your heart 2020 was designed for me I spent all these years preparing for such a time as this I have everything I need I've grown I'm humble I'm grateful and I got a badass ride today is the first day of the rest of my life and today is the first day of the best part of my life y'all watch out cause here I come high-five your neighbors has been my time I love you appreciate you [Music]

Channel: Mindvalley Talks

Views: 350,422

Keywords: how to change a belief, The power of positive thinking, Inspiration, Self love meditation, How to love yourself, Self compassion, Deep learning, Ted talks creativity, Spirit of life, meditation for anxiety, guided meditation for positive energy, overcoming depression, power of positivity, What is fear, Lisa nichols, Mindvalley, know yourself, Self Improvement, Growth mindset, Self improvement motivation, How to Change Your Beliefs in 30 Seconds! (This Works!)

Id: NA3YxM4KTgc

Length: 56min 54sec (3414 seconds)

Published: Fri Mar 20 2020