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hey everyone welcome to mountain view we're so glad that you are joining us for church today it's gonna be so good yes so if you're watching online we would love to know where you're watching from drop it in the comments from all around the world we know you're there so let us know put it in the chat make sure you share this celebration don't do church alone no yeah you can text it out you can share it on your facebook page for all your friends to see yes and welcome to all of those in the room also we're glad that you are joining us today we're starting a new sermon series we are it's called squad goals love it everybody has a squad that's right it's all about relationships all about yes friendships marriage kids parents everybody yes it covers everybody so make sure you keep joining us um throughout the series yeah and we we have a video we want to show you guys but it's about coming to visit in person so if you have only watched online and you're hoping for a church to come to we are here for you we're ready for we love to see you in person face to face yes we would love to meet you whenever you're ready we're here so check out this video real quick churches in queen creek mountain view church now that looks so much fun i know i love someone showed everybo how we have a place for everybody in your family so if you have kids teenagers they can come to sunday is 9 10 30 and noon we'd love to see you here yes we also have students on wednesday nights we do the movie through 12th grade incredible such a cool atmosphere they take over the auditorium and have a full-out celebration just for them yes so today we are having communion we are and um so if you're watching online we would love for you to head to your pantry or your fridge yeah grab something that you can make goldfish crackers at my house yes um juice something that you have that you can participate with us this is just a way that we can remember um what jesus did for us on the cross dying for our sins and then if you're in the room you will have give it been given one of these today as you go in um so we can celebrate communion together later in this celebration it's so good yeah so we're in september we are in september and that means season of generosity has kicked off this is the best four months of the year really it's my favorite season not only is it fall but more importantly it's season of generosity yeah so every month we are highlighting a different way that we can give back to the people in our community and so um for september we have blessing back we do it's so incredible we had our outreach team put together over 200 bags that will meet people's physical needs but also hopefully sow a seed for their spiritual need as well so as you're walking out you guys can pick up those bags keep them in your car pass them out as you see people in need that could use something like that and if you're online we still have a way for you to contribute to you can go to our give page and go to scroll down to outreach and you can give there that will help with our season of generosity yeah so that giving can continue through october we support hope women's center which is a local non-profit uh in november we do thanksgiving meals over 200 families get a full thanksgiving meal the turkey the fixing all the pie all the way to the pie is so cool and then december is christmas christmas angels over hundreds and hundreds of kids in our community gets christmas because yeah so we can support them by giving christmas gifts and it's so much fun so today and next week you can come out to the lobby and grab a blessing bag that's right so uh in a couple weeks we have marriage conference coming up it's september 25th that's gonna be an incredible day just for you and your spouse to grow and have fun together there's many breakouts gifts a full celebration it's going to be incredible yes and then this sunday right after that the next day is a baptism class that's right because we have baptisms coming up in october october 3rd and so we want to make sure to have you sign up for both of those you can download the mv app or you can head to envy.church events yep and if you're here in the room stop by the connect booth outside on your way out yes so we have the connect tent outside and we have the new hereta if it's your first time we would love to meet you and get to know you and give you a gift that's right yes the celebration's about to begin thank you for being here wherever you are why don't you stand together and worship with us hey mountain view i'm so excited that you're joining us today whether you're online or in the room will you stand in worship with us because it's a good day put your hands together let's sing this out there's no shadow [Music] that could ever stand against your mind you've always been with us every battle you've already won you've already won aren't you so glad you've already won the battle let's sing that again [Music] there is [Music] you've always been with us [Music] show me one thing he can't do show me a mountain he can't [Music] is move yeah show me one thing that's too hard show me [Music] is [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] he is [Music] [Music] he's the god of the breakthrough [Music] put your hands together [Music] a victory shake off shake off show me one thing show me [Music] [Music] show me [Music] to celebrate our jesus we're gonna sing this song together about our jesus blessing this together this is the word here in the flesh living among the meek and lonely the voice of god is every breath salvation [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] this is his heart is [Music] [Music] [Applause] lift up your eyes [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] this is his home here in our chest come on church at every door our shavers [Music] is oh jesus christ [Music] oh [Applause] foreign [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] you surround me with [Music] is [Music] [Music] [Applause] you have chosen me love has caught my name i've been born again [Music] to your family your blood flows [Music] [Music] is [Music] i'm no longer [Music] a child of god [Music] [Music] hallelujah mountain view i want to tell you that christ has risen he's risen from the grave and that's what we celebrate each and every opportunity that we get a chance every single day that we arise and we're able to inhale and exhale i challenge you to celebrate that christ has risen we celebrate the power and the breakthrough that we receive because jesus paid the price in his death his burial but most of all his resurrection i don't know about you but i want more of the lord each and every opportunity that i wake up every time that i get to see your smiling face i say i want more why because on the night before he died jesus shared a final meal with his disciples and during that meal jesus gave to his disciples for all times the special way of remembering him as bread is broken and shared and juice is poured out we celebrate the lord's supper because jesus commanded us to do so in remembrance of him now when we break the bread into pieces it is a sign of jesus's body being broken on the cross and when we drink the juice when the juice is poured it is a sign of jesus's blood on the cross both the bread and the blood both the bread and the juice actually point to the reality of a deeper salvation in him now i don't know about you but i truly understand that jesus sets us free and because he has i desire to celebrate him every way that i can however jesus death his resurrection is a symbol for us to be reminded that he loves us so much now i have a question for you do we really know and understand what communion is because communion is an act of worship and remembrance it's a deeper level a deeper relationship it's a deepening of our salvation and accepting the fact that jesus paid the price the ultimate sacrifice was given for both you and i now i don't know about you but i don't take it lightly what god is doing in this house in your house in the white house in the outhouse or the penthouse i believe that there's a purpose for each and every one of us if you would take this cup dear heavenly father we honor you we glorify and magnify you above all things and we thank you for sending your son jesus to die on the cross for our sins if you would simply peel that first layer back i want to read to you luke 22 and 19 and it says and he took the bread gave thanks and broke it and he gave it to them saying this is my body given for you do this in remembrance of me would you hold that piece of wafer up and break it and take it and eat verse 20 says in the same way after the supper he took the cup saying this is the cup in the new covenant in my blood which is poured out for you would you take and drink dear heavenly father we love and appreciate you we thank you that we are no longer slaves lord god but we are someone in you and because of the work that jesus did on the cross we are now part of the family we thank you for the opportunity we love you with all of our heart and might in jesus name amen [Music] uh oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] is [Music] let me see [Music] you rescue me am [Music] on church we should celebrate that we are children of god we are no longer slave to fear or anxiety or depression or doubt anymore because our god tore the veil on the cross and made a way for us amen he made a way for us that's why we had communion today we're going to give in just a second but i want to share a verse with you it's matthew 18 20 and it says when two or more are gathered in my name i am there when two or more are gathered in my name i don't know how many people are in this room but this is two or more and we are gathered in his name and jesus christ is in this room i feel it i know it there's anticipation and he is ready to do something super awesome in our lives today something else that's super awesome that we get to do for other people's lives is today you get to take home a bag it's a blessing bag and i'm going to share with you why giving is so important to these blessing bags because when you give every single sunday in your giving it is not an obligation it's a blessing that you get to give because there are people that have worked so hard during the week to put these bags together so that you can take these bags home with you in your car and when you see a need it might be in walmart it might be at your work maybe on the side of the road maybe it's your job you know someone that's in need that needs that bag those simple little things in that bag are going to make a difference they're going to bless someone's life you may not know how it's going to bless someone's life but it's going to because they're going to look at you and go i see christ in that person something's different just by you going here i know you need this because of your giving i think that's really awesome to see your giving come full circle around now you get to give to the community outside of this church can we celebrate that for a second because people's lives are going to be changed this week because of you you're gonna change someone's life because christ lives inside of you and is inside of you and you get to pour that out on somebody else and this next song actually says pull your spirit out pour your spirit out and god is continuing to pour his spirit out on you well now you get to take that and pour it out on somebody else this week i'm so excited i cannot wait but we're gonna jump into giving in just a second but i want you to remind yourself of why you're giving because these little seeds that you're planting are making a difference so if you're joining us online there's going to be a link that comes up on the screen we're so excited that you're with us online it's going to be with our text and online giving options if you're here in the room can i give a shout [Music] you guys are awesome there's going to be ushers that come down the aisle with buckets for you to give but if you have your gift in your hand or it's on your phone or whichever way you're giving today could you just lift that up or your hand up however you're giving and we're just going to pray over those gifts today lord i just pray that you would bless each and every gift that is given today you bless the person that is giving today that you would move and you would speak to these people this week god in obedience they would step out in faith and uncomfortable situations and have conversation with people not just giving the bags away but have conversations with people who need you who need someone to listen and care for them god thank you for the people in this room thank you for our community thank you for our ministry here thank you for your kingdom of god that we get to pour into jesus it's in your name that we pray amen come on church we're going to continue to worship by giving and asking god to pour out his love and his spirit on us through this song together [Music] [Music] as [Music] come on church cause we need a fresh win the fragrance of heaven will pour your spirit out on us [Music] oh [Music] strength come on [Music] is [Music] [Music] the power of your presence pour your [Music] for your spirit eyes oh foreign [Music] [Music] is [Music] church we can feel the wind is [Music] [Applause] for your spirit eyes [Music] [Applause] for your spirit [Music] amen you know i used to pray that the holy spirit would feel me and i think it's a great thing to pray but there's almost this hidden implication that if you're filled then you can become empty right and i kind of found myself operating in that way it's like i'm filled up on sunday and you're getting so excited because you're you're in church and god's really moving in your heart you're filled up but then you go to work on monday and and now i'm empty so i kind of live this life like i'm filled up and i'm excited that i'm empty and i'm more out and i'm tired and i was reading in the scriptures in the beloved apostle john he says in john chapter 3 verse 34 that god gives the spirit without limit and it kind of dawned on me maybe i need to stop praying that i'm just filled that way i'm not empty and pray the holy spirit would flow flow because that's what he told the samaritan woman at the at the well remember that he said it's life-giving water and from this well the water never runs dry so instead of just getting filled up on a sunday getting so excited and then being empty by wednesday is i'm going to ask that god would just flow through me it's a constant and consistent awareness of his presence of his empowerment and his equipment and that's what i want to tell you today that that if you believe in jesus christ as your savior the holy spirit dwells you he's the pericle he comes alongside to help you he doesn't just feel you on sunday mornings he flows through you at all times in all ways how many of you believe that today church said you can fan that plane not just on sunday but consistently by prayer and by praise we just keep fan of that flame god flow through me lord just flow through me today lord my words and my actions and the meditations of my heart so god i pray and i pray so let's lean in just move and don't stop moving come on church just sing that today like it's a prayer [Music] [Applause] is [Music] is [Music] and that's not just the song it's our prayer it's for your spirit and flow consistently unequivocally just flow father tomorrow tuesday wednesday thursday friday saturday through our posture of our heart and the empowerment of the spirit just flow through our words and actions when we're down and we're out or we're walking through the valley of the shadow of sickness or death the euro and your staff would comfort us your goodness and mercy will flow as they follow us [Music] be the wind lord it just moves consistently through us we thank you for it lord that that promise of scripture is so amazing that god is with us and god is in us and got us for us and he flows through us we thank you for that lord because that's where we stand today and that's what we need more of as your presence your presence change this thing so that's why we're here lord is to prayer to have prayer and have praise with your people this family this body which is life-giving and it's encouraging and we pray that'll be the posture of heart lord today we love you and we're thankful for all the promises of scripture that have come to pass and that will come to pass because if you said it we will see it and all of god's people shouted as loud as they could amen amen be so be it if god said it we'll see it that's what amen is that's the posture of our heart go ahead and have a seat it's we're just anticipating god's word to come to pass in our life amen lord amen whatever it is that you want for our life we are ready to receive it today let's greet all those watching online hey such an honor that you take out time from your day uh or this week or on the road traveling or just driving to and from work i know some of you i'm your your monday morning pastor and that's all right with me some tuesday night it doesn't matter i just get to get this privilege it's humbling and it's honoring for me to have that and we just hope that you love being a part of this this family we are a crazy family but we are a family and we love it we love it hey man did you guys like there's like an all girl front up here today you notice how the ladies were like you know excited i was cute they did a great job and so thankful for them man all of our our band uh they're just they're just great and and we got the holy spirit keys up here behind me he's gonna be flowing the entire time because anytime you bring the keys you bring the spirit you know that right it's like the holy spirit instrument all right hey we're starting a new series today called squad goals and all of us have a squad the way that's your family or your friends your co-workers or your neighbors and and we really want to get our mind right is how can we pick the best squad and i'm going to preach a message today that i have never preached on this subject even when i was a youth pastor i never preached on this subject and that is the subject of being single single that's right ms audrey is receiving that in the lord back there amen never never too old to find your future boaz we appreciate that how do i know that i've never preached a message on this because all the single ladies love to tell me pastor daniel you've never preached a message on those and they send the best emails and sometimes they're the cat ladies who send the best emails and they're the single ladies i don't know if there's a correlation between the two but you do remind me quite often that i do not speak upon singles and i want to talk about this subject today because it's so important and i understand that 90 of us 91 of us will be married or have been married before uh i get that so i want you to put this in the context of your life or your situation maybe it's your children that you're thinking about or your nieces or nephew or your grandchildren i'm going to ask you to take notes today because i do think that this message is really really important for us today especially as a body of believers because before there was ever a person on this earth in fact before there was even an earth there was are ready a relationship we had god the father and god the son and god the holy spirit existing as three persons in one now i cannot fully explain to you the trinity because it is our beyond our ability to comprehend but the bible makes it very clear that the three persons of the trinity dwelt together forever meaning that relationships were they are and they forever will be and one day the trinity got together and they had this conversation they said hey we got a good thing going on here we need to create man in our image and that's what genesis 1 26 says now here's the thing they didn't they didn't need us now i know that you're important and i know that you think that you need to be needed but the reality is they didn't need us they were already in a perfect complete and fulfilled relationship just within themselves but out of the overflow of their love they decided to speak humans into existence to create humans both male and female and the first human adam lived in the garden of eden with god as his homie from very first day in other words adam had a relationship with god before there was even another human being to get to know and then we get to this picture in genesis chapter 2 and 3 that god and adam really were homies they were friends they would hang out together in the garden they would talk about this and they would talk about that and they would take long walks looking at the new plants and animals and they were enjoying the cool evening breeze together just the two of them and no matter what other relationships we have or we don't have the important thing is to understand every single one of us can have a relationship with god that through christ he too invites us into the same connection that he has with the trinity a loving life-giving relationship and even though the top relationship goal that you and i probably have is finding or keeping or improving the human relationship it's important to see how relationship with god should come first and above all other relationships it is the ultimate relationship in all blessings flow out of our relationship with him in fact one of those blessings is that god now enables us and empowers us to do our other relationship at their highest possible level in other words if you will put god first and he will be your most important relationship he will bless all of your other relationships now i'm not naive enough to think that your other relationships aren't good i understand they may be but they'll never be the best they can be until god is in the center of it now let me break that down for you you will not have the most fruitful blessed kind of relationship if god is not in the middle of it now let's go back to the beginning god made the sun and the moon in the sky and he took a step back and says it's good god then made the water and he he made the dry land and said hey that too is good then god made plants like spinach and kale and for some reason i don't know why he said that's good and then all of a sudden he put all the delicious ingredients for a southern soul-filled soul food supper he was bringing greens and okra and he was making some some some some onion rings and put that all again he said it's good i'm like yeah amen jesus that is good and then he made the sea creatures like willie and nemo and flounder and jaws he did he said it's good and then he made all the wild animals like timon and pumbaa and simba he said it's good then he made adam and said oh it's very good in other words it was all good in the hood but pretty soon thereafter god for the very first time says it's not good no it's not that god messed up god never messes up but he knew something was missing so the lord god said it is not good for man to be alone and all the ladies in the room said yes it's not good for a man to be alone we leave our little boy alone for five minutes and he breaks everything yes amen it's not good for man to be alone and the principle is true not only for adam but for adam's children as well which you and i are the seed of it's not good for me to be alone it's not good for you to be alone because when we set up a life that is guarded and gated the enemy comes in to attack us and now when we're isolated we are more at risk at listening and believing the lies of who we are and now coming to believe those lies as truths we all need relationships with people who remind us of the truth of who we are in christ and dispel the falsehood that this world says about us we need people who will show us the love that our hearts need and that can help us along the way and god knows this and that's why god wants relationships for all of us now i know that it's hard for some of you in here today to believe that a major part of god's plan for your life actually involves relationships it's hard to believe that god wants you to have a best friend even though your last friend best friend stabbed you in the back it's hard to believe that god wants you to have pastors and mentors who create a safe place to grow when other pastors and mentors have let you down it's hard to believe that god wants you to be in a marriage that is marked by love and honor and respect a marriage that is fun and flirty when you look at all of your other relationships and they have not been marked by any of those things they've been the opposite but god is a redeemer and we know from creation that god wants to redeem what is broken and he wants to redeem what is jacked up and he wants to use it for our eternal good when solomon was writing the book of ecclesiastes he said this two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor if any of them falls down one can help the other up but pity the fool who falls i'm just seeing if any mr t friends are in here today i feel like i lost you bring you back but pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up also if two lie down together they will keep warm but how can one keep warm alone though one may be overpowered two can defend themselves and a cord of three strands is not quickly broken you see i think that all of us in here today would agree yes it is better to be in a relationship but what about those of us who aren't and the reason why i'm talking about this subject today is that the church is now comprised of almost 50 percent singles and that's not just mountain view that's the american church in general and let's just get real and some of y'all will holler at me and agree with this that this demographic or this group of people has largely been ignored in the church uh if you were of this this this vein or of this genre or age group uh and you agree with this this just raise your hand or shout at some point that when you and i were growing up in church uh while we were single we were equipped with just one rule and that one rule is don't have sex with anyone until you get married anybody remember that like that's the only thing they taught us right you want to be a single right don't have sex with anybody get married and then they taught us when you get married they all gave us one more rule don't have sex with anyone else did anybody remember that like that was it they just like broke down humanity into those two things and the church did like you know a phenomenal job at creating and crafting messages for the families and the church did a phenomenal job of meeting the needs of children and teens but then we started asking the questions if half the church is made up of singles where do we fit and i think it's my job as a pastor to have these conversations i think they're very important that i'm in tune with you and what god is doing in the church and i care about you in every season of life because you might be single today or unfortunately you might be single again and i believe that the word of god is applicable to every area of your life so if you don't mind i'm going to speak real quickly to the singles in the house and and if you're not single and you're married amen praise the lord for that but i want you to take notes for your kids or your grandkids which coincidentally i thought this was weird this week as i was studying for this message amy looks at me and says i think it'd be fun to get married and go on a honeymoon again i said i hope with me i mean she didn't clarify that he's like this is strange i hope you done about me anyway i don't know what has to do with anything but i was thinking about this without hope i'm never single again that was just weird did you just said that to me it wasn't with me right i'm just making sure okay just check it so if you're single and uh uh you're here today you you're watching online you're probably gonna find yourself in one of three categories uh number one you're single ready to mingle like a sour cream and cheese pringle you're like yeah yeah today is my day number two you're single by choice like no no i'm not ready i just choose to be single so this is this is where i'm at and that's okay too or number three you've been single for a minute and you're doing all the right things like you praying and you fasting and you believing for your boaz and your eyes on christian mingle and he harmony and farmers only but you're still single and you're stuck so wherever you find yourself on the spectrum today i need to say this to you this is so important i think you need to write this down you do not need a significant other to be significant let me say it again you do not need a significant other to be significant because you're seeing your significance is not predicated on whether or not you have a ring on your finger singleness is not a downgrade in getting married isn't the prize there's nothing wrong with you no there may be for some of you but for most of you there's nothing wrong with you and i don't want you to treat your singleness like a prison sentence that you are serving and i know way too many people who are way too eager to get out of their singleness way too soon and that's a disaster waiting to happen now yes god said it's not good for man to be alone but he didn't necessarily say it's bad to be single single was adam's first relationship status and we really don't know how long that status was and the problem is the church hasn't helped jolly because the church is just like pushing people on you and if the church didn't help you we know your parents ain't helping you because they look at you like you got something wrong with you oh when am i gonna get that grand can you come walk in like i don't know those eggs nobody working right now we're gonna have grandkids sometimes you better find you a man to get married too am i just being right they judging you every time you can walk in the door i understand those things so before long being single can now well you start to feel shameful but if you don't understand dating and mating and god's timing you will compromise and hijack god's ultimate will for your life you see getting married is not the gift because you're more pretty or you're more holy you have intrinsic value just because you're you you are perfectly perfect just the way you are jesus lived a significant life without a significant other and i hope that that gives you hope today that singleness is not a curse because if you're looking for somebody else to validate you or somebody else to make you whole or somebody else to fix you you're gonna be sadly disappointed the only person that can make you whole is god in him we are complete in him is the fullness of life the significance that you crave is not going to come from a significant other the significance that you crave has to come from the one who made you have you ever heard the term soul mate yeah we just all run around like oh i gotta find my soul mate well the term comes from actually platonic uh philosophy and plato taught that there is one person in the universe that can complete us and make us whole and then jerry maguire is like oh you complete me and then we all fell in love with it well plato had a cohort of learners and thinkers and playwrights one of those was aristophanes and aristophanes wrote a fable which is a fictious story saying that the gods were upset with humans so they cut us in half and they split our soul and in that story it said that our souls wonder the earth looking aimlessly until we find our other half who now completes us and ever since stories from you know like disney fairy tales to rom-com movies have us give us this idea that there's one person out there who completes us the problem with that is it's a lie we are only complete in christ and if you don't understand this concept we're going to be running around asking is this my soulmate is that my mate is that my person my soulmate is that person and you just go round and round around is this person to fulfill me and make me whole and if they don't because they can't well now you just you move on before long they're stacked up like carnage and your landscape is littered with the wrong people you see not understanding that true marriage isn't about marrying the right person as much as it is about in becoming the right person we're all going to be fooled so i want to make sure today that we have a clear understanding of our soul the definition of soul is the invisible intangible psychological and emotional part of our existence and the bible says the soul is super important jesus asked this question is anything worth more than your soul the beloved apostle john said beloved i pray that in every way you may prosper and enjoy good health as your soul also prospers it's john writing to the church and a group of believers very much like you and i and he says as it is with your soul so it is with your life if your soul is good life is good and as the pastor or your pastor i want to make sure that your soul is healthy why so you can find your spiritual soulmate a spiritual soulmate is someone that you're attracted to physically supports you emotionally and is suited for you personally they're not a roommate they're a spiritual soulmate so can i give you a few ways today to set some boundaries or maybe help you date for your may or your date for your spiritual soulmate and the first one is this intentionality intentionality intentionality is having a plan with a purpose first you should not date someone that you would not marry because i believe when you marry what god has joined together let no men separate you are married for life and i told amy this week when she was talking about this other honeymoon i said listen you can leave but i'm coming with you baby you stuck with me we like peanut butter and jelly song of solomon said this in 1-3 he said how fragra or she said how fragrant is your cool water how fragrant is the smell of your ck1 your name is like it's spreading fragrance and no wonder all the young women love you now let me break this down because i know you guys are completely confused right now at this particular time baths were hard to come by this is the way that the culture that they have so they would take some purified oil they would take some skin so soft you know what skin soft is uh avon used to sell it sophisticated people we say avon now you're like avon like no no no no i got a sophisticated palette it's avon you know our moms used to put like skin soft on everything you know what i'm saying like mama got poison ivy like that's right israel or something like no no i ain't doing that it just makes it spread even more but but just imagine like you had some skin sores off and you're putting in in your bath or you're rubbing it all over your your body now you can imagine in a day and age where they couldn't take baths all the time how valuable this was to a man oh you don't have to raise any teenage boys or how much of a benefit it would be to society and she's looking at him saying that is what your name is like every time i think of you it's like breathing in fresh air you're a good man with a good reputation you have integrity which means you are whole what does that mean that means that you are the same when you're with me and you're the same when you're without me you're the same when you're with the boys and you're the same as my boy you are the same and the first thing that every person should look for when looking for the right spiritual soulmate is somebody with a good reputation what are they known for what are other people saying about them because if everybody else says he's a psycho if everybody else says she's a crazy cat lady if everybody calls him a loser or a gold digger they probably are check this out check this out pay attention to patterns not potential cause you ladies are bad about this i'm just like telling y'all y'all ladies are bad about this this is so important because women your first kid is probably going to be your husband you're always looking for projects no no no okay it's getting intense in here today you're like i told you to pick up your trash this morning before you left the house listen if his mama and his daddy didn't fix him you ain't gonna fix him if boot camp or prison didn't fix him you ain't gonna fix him i'm so tired of hearing the ladies say oh you don't know him the way that i know him this man just needs a chance i think i can help him no you can't there's only one person who can and it ain't you you're not his savior jesus is so look for people not as a project but as a pattern do they have godly character and a good reputation and you're like okay i don't really know i just met him okay take a good hard look at his friends because you attract what you are if he claims to be mr bible man but yet his friends just all got out of prison some made it up and me and i'm just gonna tell you right now me and you need to clarify does that j-e-s-u-s on her neck actually pronounce jesus or jesus you need to really ask that question because you're like oh she loved jesus no no no no their fifth husband was jesus because if you hook up with someone of integrity you're going to carry that baggage with you the rest of your life what proverbs says a worthy wife is a crown for her husband but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones can i give y'all rebd's version of that are you sure i'm going to give it to you this is rebbe's version a spouse with character is a trophy to be proud of but one without is like a bad case of the hemorrhoids a pain in your rear and they ain't gonna go away easily if they ever do so if you wanna hope to have a godly marriage one day find someone who's living a godly life today because god will honor the promise of giving you a great marriage if you don't honor the process that it takes to make one let me give you a few little asterisks a few little intentional boundaries number one is this i will not sacrifice my relationship with god i'm just letting you know right now i will not sacrifice my relationship with god you push me away from god i'm pushing you away you want to get close to me you get close to god number two i will not ignore the scripture to violate my conscience i won't do it the bible means what it always meant i don't have the right to redefine what it says i believe it from genesis to revelation if the bible said it i'm going to believe it in my life i cannot redefine what god has already defined i'm not going to violate the scriptures i'm not going to violate my conscience number three i will not let anyone treat me less than a masterpiece those of you are single you need to say this before anything gets too serious listen i need you know something i think you're cute hey man i'm talking to you right there the big beard i think you're cute you're really good in those glasses you look really good in those wranglers oh you look really good in that dress i think you're special and i enjoy spending time with you but you need to know something we're going to do this god's way because i know what happens when i try to do it my way i'm going to honor the process and if i honor the process god will honor me you're not going to test drive me because i'm a masterpiece this body is a bugatti and if you can't see that from where you're standing move on down the road and find some other used taurus for sale cause this one ain't feeling good up in here andy number four i will not give you what you want until you give me what i need love affection protection commitment communication safety and a ring all the single ladies you put your hands up you put your hands up in there today let's just start that dance right now like you like it you better put a ring on it time magazine found that 70 percent of couples don't get married until they first live together right now the study discovered that couples who live together first get divorced at a higher rate than those who don't a researcher at the university of virginia found that the brains of married couples respond differently to stress than the brains of cohabiting couples cohabiting couples have a higher stress level because they know at any moment the other person could walk out married couples and their children have less stress than those who are unmarried oh but pastor this is 19 this is not 1921. this is 2021. shouldn't we see if we're compatible physically are you serious the fun is in the figuring it out practice makes perfect so if you're not good i'm gonna keep shooting lower layups and practice till it gets good because they say something doesn't get great until you do it 10 000 times i don't even know that's physically possible but it's worth a shot secular psychologists realize that pre-marital physical intimacy is really really complicating things when there is physical intimacy chemistry occurs and chemistry is a very interesting thing because you can have chemistry with anyone or anything a toxic person a crazy person a married person a person in prison you are literally joining with that person and you always leave a part of yourself behind there is no such thing as casual sex it is a physical and a mental emotional impossibility because our brain is filled with dopamine and serotonin when we experience intimacy it's like our brain is on drugs well guess what happens over time well those drugs begin to subside if you're married you think you've lost that loving feeling so now you go look for somebody else who can meet that or you just have to realize i'm gonna have to work to keep it fresh and passionate no matter who it is that i'm with because it's not magic that makes two people work it's the way that we work at it that makes it magic so if you're looking for someone else or you go from person to person waiting for that same feeling to come back you're going to end up feeling used abused or misused now as a result because of your brokenness because of your pain because of the trauma that has happened to you your picker is now broken so now you pick what is easy rather than what is best and if you are not whole or healthy you don't even know what that looks like because your brokenness is attracted to someone else's brokenness and that's why it's important that we spend time looking in the mirror at ourselves because that's going to save us so much pain later when there's now another person or kids in the picture with you so you need to know what is it that i want and what is it that i really need because relationships will push you into your purpose or they will pull you away from your purpose so the second thing that we need is clarity what is the goal of this relationship if you don't have a goal then what good is the effort most relationships look a lot like the urinal on the wall of the junior high boys bathroom there's a lot of activity but there's not a lot of aim so it ends up being a big hot mess to clean up and a very stinky situation to walk into because when the damage is done and attitudes have formed and innocence has been innocence has been stolen questions now begin to flood our mind is love even real are all men and all women this way because if so what's the point in all of this and too many singles don't have any goals therefore they don't even know what they're aiming at when it comes to finding the future mate so now you just take whatever comes and you do whatever's comfortable you don't even know where you want to end up but in genesis it says the lord god took the man and put him in the garden of eden to work it and take care of it you see adam had a purpose before he had a person god gave him work before he gave him a wife and that was true for women as well ruth was working the field when she met boaz and rebecca was carrying water when she heard about isaac so the lord god said it's not good for man to be alone so i'll make a helper suitable for him you see eve was a partner who helped adam fulfill his purpose and the goal of a partner is to help us fulfill our god-given purpose because if they're not helping you fulfill your god-given purpose they're probably hindering you from fulfilling your god-given purpose so before you find the right person you need to find your purpose because the right person is on the other side of the right purpose and when someone gets and understands your purpose and they believe in it now they fit right into your life but it won't be another person who gives you purpose only god can do that and that is why singleness may actually be the most important part of your life it's the best chance that you'll ever have on working being uniquely you it's prime time for god to reveal who he actually created you to be before someone else starts to manipulate that dating a mating will come but you got to focus on being you and truly you and you got to get the shadows of your past which we all have them out of the past or bring them into the light so you don't carry them into your marriage you got to work on your weaknesses and build on your strengths find out your purpose and what god has actually planted in your heart that's why you can clarify the type of relationship you want and then you'll be able to see clearly who is just right for you because too many marriages aren't whole because they've got a lot of holes secrets and pains and scars and fears and insecurities and we're all hoping that there's one person out there this spouse can desperately feel our holes but they can't so singleness is the time to heal and develop and mature before we get married because two halves don't make whole two halves make hell so now we need number three and that's strategy in first corinthians it says love is patient love is kind it is not envy it is not boast it is not proud it is not dishonor others is not self seeking is not easily angered keeps no records of wrongs does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth it always protects it always trusts it always hopes it always perseveres love never fails do you know what first corinthians 13 really is at its core it's a strategy paul is showing us what a godly relationship in a godly marriage should look like and if you're single in here today again there's nothing wrong with you and don't feel like elijah like i'm the only one left no no god's got somebody reserved for you there are there's somebody out there that whose parents have been praying for you and you've been there's god has got somebody and now is your time to imagine what that somebody will look like it's time to imagine what your life will look like it's time to imagine what you want your marriage to look like what could your life look like tomorrow if you actually started today it's also time to invest invest in ourselves invest in our finances invest in our health and our spiritual and our emotional health asking myself what areas of my life do i really want to grow in where do i want to be one year from now if god gave me the right person one year from now what would that even look like how do i want my life to be set up listen there is a time to date and there's a time to make don't rush that time or you will ruin it being a single really is the most important part in the relationship process because you you can't figure out how to love someone else well if you've not figured out how to love yourself well you don't stumble into a relationship that honors god you need intentionality you need strategy and you need clarity i want to say this again you aren't single because there's something wrong with you you're single because god wants you to be in this season have you ever thought that maybe god is so madly in love with you that he's a little bit selfish right now and he just wants you all to himself for a minute you see marriage is not a hideout from our singleness it's a haven for building wholeness we're not just looking for the right person we want to be the right person the first verse of scripture that i ever memorized was matthew 6 33 and it says seek ye first the kingdom of god and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you you know i went through a period of my life which like all of us will or if we haven't and and that is you know longing for companionship you're lonely you're like i feel like god wants to bring something to life and you start looking you're serving and landscaping again you're like i'm the only one who's doing it right there's nobody else out there and she just kind of just stopped and uh the lord kind of said if you'll focus on me then i'll take care of the rest so i made a commitment in my mind that i'm gonna go through a prayer to fast it's when the first fast that ever went through and i set a date to it i said okay here's what i'm gonna do lord i'm gonna pray i'm going to make sure that i'm emotionally healthy i'm going to make sure i'm mentally healthy make sure that i'm saving money financially and physically getting myself right and i'm just going to focus on you i'm going to focus on on your plans for my life i'm not going to focus on another person now i said a time the date that i would end this fast was july 1st and the last week of of june i got a phone call from my brother and that's a it's a long story but but my brother didn't live with our home anymore he's older than i am and he was off and he just happened to be at her home it's late one one evening and he calls me and i was out of town uh playing ball and he called me said hey there there's this girl at our home and i think that you need to meet her i don't know her but i think you need to meet her i'm like okay what's her name he told me her name and like i know she is but it's been a year ago i don't really know anything about it i said do whatever you can to keep her there of course he couldn't keep her there i was playing out of uh out of the city and by the time she got back um i found out who it was again and kind of uh found out a little bit more about the information and it come to find out to be this little girl right here on the bottom right that was me on the top left there and miss amy is on the bottom right this is the first time i ever met miss amy and this is the last the last week of june and my commitment to to the lord was july 1st and i got to talk into a little bit and anyway i had i had gone had read a book called dare to win by jack canfield was before the chicken soup for the soul books and in this book he talks about how it's important that you know who you are but you also it's important to know who you're looking for so i took out a piece of paper and i had written down everything that i was looking for in a future mate that i think god had put upon my heart for what this person would look like and i met amy this this last week of june and miss amy was every single thing that i had written down on that list with the exception of one thing and i don't know why i don't know if it was the dixie chicks were cool during this time but i had written down i wanted somebody with with short brown hair and i didn't tell her this because that would be stupid right i'm not that dumb but the next week miss amy shows up looking like this and we've been together ever since the point is you got to know who you are and you got to be secure in who you are and you got to know your significance is not found on a significant other and if you will get that right and you will focus upon the lord and you will give him everything when you're ready he'll send you your mate because if you're not ready for it you're gonna mess it up when you get it and we don't want that for you now there may be some of you in here today and maybe you're starting out or starting over i want you know that god can forgive you and god can redeem your story just like he did with ruth and her story with boaz it's a great story there's a redemption there and god can do the same for you but it starts when you put god first put god first and when you're ready he will send you the right person father we come before you today and i'm praying there's forgiveness i'm praying there's repentance i'm praying there's reconciliation and everything in between but i pray that it starts when we realize that you have to be first in our life if not we're going to mess it up and i don't want these people messing it up the right person at the right time equals the right relationship so lord give us wisdom to focus on you and to really commit our lives to you and our appear to you all these things and the rest will fall into place you've got somebody out there for every person in this room i believe that i believe that so lord give us healing and give us wholeness and we just want to make sure that you are first and sinner in our life and it's in jesus name all of god's people said come on mountain you put your hands together thank you pastor daniel for another powerful message you know i'm a person who loves to take notes and you know something that pastor daniel said that makes so much sense to me is that intentionality is having a plan with a purpose now i don't know about you but i live in a household with three women so i've got to be intentional one of the things i really love is you know as he was speaking today women don't look for the potential look for the pattern look for the pattern in the track record of someone who really cares and loves you because that's what really matters now i gotta say to you mountain view i hate missing parties last week i was out but i heard that we had a fire time for a praise party was anybody there now the other thing that i don't like missing out on is firsts now i was told that they released a song called glory days and i don't know about you but watching it from afar really touched my heart there was really some heat on that song you've got to believe that your words do matter now here's a few words that i really want you to lean into today i want you to be blessed and i want you to know that you are blessed simply because you're a child of god but one of the things that i know about mountain view is we are a generous people oh here's dr verne he's going to ask us to give and do something no i'm not all i'm asking you to do is partner with us and as you leave the auditorium go straight out into the lobby and grab a generous bag because we have started our season of generosity and we want you to pick up a bag or two because somebody that you're going to encounter maybe this week or next week is going to need a blessing and within the generosity is what i'm calling it generosity bag i know she doesn't like that it's a blessing bag it's a double b and i'm asking you to partner with us by taking a blessing bag and be generous to someone who may be in need is anybody willing to do that today i challenge you to be generous beyond measure because we can't out give or outdo god so i thank you for taking that challenge and i thank you for being a blessing to someone matter of fact god is gonna give you a specific individual that needs that blessing bag and we'd love to hear about it i pray a special blessing over each and every one of you your households your finances and your relationships and i tell you that it's time for you to have the best week that you've ever had in your life god bless you mountain view have a great week you

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