Undefined Conference 2020 | Biblical Mindset on Romantic Relationships - Pastor Marty Ocaya

[Music] now as we close this entire undefined conference by the way are you blessed so far bless my oh I really hope that all of the things that you're learning whether canny nigh on and it's not just about the identity but we also talked about overcoming your addictions regarding pornography or whatever that is so I hope that somehow this will carry over as we go on with our life to protect us from unnecessary pain and Laluna Renuka nina before me was about emotions i hope that we learned that so that again we will not have the experience necessary pain now before we go on and dive into this last session why don't we join our hearts why don't we pray and let's commit this time to the Lord let's pray father God thank you so much this has been indeed a blessed conference we have been learning a lot Lord God and I know you're speaking to to the young people who are here you are somehow sharing your heart to them so that all of us Lord God will learn all of us will grow all of us will be protected and hopefully no undefined relationships and hopefully Lord everything will be clear so that we will please you in every way so as we go on with our last topic we pray for your presence once again that all of the things that we will learn will take it into heart hopefully Lord the leg on me I know coming my embrace and apply in our lives and so that our lives will be pleasing to you overwrite everything speak in and through me in Jesus name we pray amen and amen all right so now the question is what do I do now right since after this one what I don't among seminar you're gonna be on your own you're gonna go back to school make it aa little crush team or you're gonna be in that waiting stage and the Dunbar a new feelings and it seems so hard but in to control that so what do I do now as we conclude all of these things now I know a lot of you have heard messages from me or here at elevate about waiting about not now about managing your emotions about choosing the right person or being the right person but as we close God has been impressing in my heart that I believe you need to learn this or we all need to learn this and I know a lot of you maybe know these things already but I want to teach you biblical mindset on romantic relationships okay I want you to have the biblical mindset on romantic relationships now I'm not gonna go into detail for example like purity I'm not gonna discuss that because it was discussed earlier I'm not gonna discuss managing emotions because it was discussed also you message the master ball so I'm gonna skip over that because those are also biblical mindset but I'm gonna focus on five things that hopefully sauna at the end of this conference you will fully understand and hopefully it's gonna guide you so can you ask you seat me reading about in Telugu kissing in my kissing man ready gonna battle again I'm not saying ready kinda bamaca romantic relationships but are you ready to receive these biblical mindsets I pray okay my prayer is that these mindsets will be your mindset as well cuz I'm problema if you need own mindset more like what masterball earlier said your emotions will take over I pray Nepal making conviction small I pray that these convictions mindsets will be in your heart as well so that you know what you need to do so what are these five mindset some are very familiar for a lot of you already but maybe for some hindi gonna come familiar hopefully it's gonna impact your heart so number one first might say that I wanna teach you is this mindset when God allows me to like someone which I believe more or less non yet elegant it's an opportunity to trust him here's the question Synod ito you like someone in your raise your hands so telegin and I'm in a Goliath oh hey Lance so I totally understand but I believe la hora de Lancie nidito Nagar unum crush or not you like someone when I my own Mehran before come on raise your hands I believe the heart you need one male it's not wrong to like someone if you like this girl if you like this guy if you like this person it's not wrong but I want you to understand that when God allows that and the truth is he does allow it's an opportunity for me to trust him where is the trust factor there because here's the thing especially a lot of you're still studying or maybe all of you here are still studying when you like someone there will be times that it's not the right time like right now so what are you gonna do about that that's why trusting God comes into the picture Kasinga it's not yet the right time I know it's very basic but I realize some people they're not exercising trusting the Lord so that's why when he allows it cuz he means a new Manama página de su batalla gain Tao and it's not wrong the mantle again when I was in high school Manami on again crush in the gua woman I'm in a shocking pero Mira me on again crush right when I was in college gun and then my mana gusto and inaho it's not wrong to like someone waiting kappa b mu englishman better india alarm okay so don't say it right now hey so I'm not saying that but that point is it's an opportunity for me to trust God why to see what if it's not the right time for a lot of it's not at the right time so it's an opportunity for me to wait and the Tres God second what if there's no blessing from the parents let's say you've graduated already from college let's say you're already working payroll just like what happened case ROG okay so well I'm a divine intervention piranha SLS Allah but you know what I'm talking about what if there's no blessing from the parents people et moba god oh my English Domo ksama Dona okay I need to trust God because he allowed authorities to come into the picture of my life to guide me I need to converse with authorities with my parents you have conversation with them Bhagwan upon blessing I need to trust him the union process yeah Casey I'm gonna listen I began in the pastor boom and I'm never nothing in time I came upon una okay Lambada hindi Christian you wanna for a lot of you who goes to church you know already the answer Hindi collimating the apparent not even ability Eva alumni monotony and problem is what I thank you Allah hey Lloyd and problem is I don't trust that it the youngest only God in Key Largo Ponte pocket evil on see Lord on so if there's no blessing I need to trust God if they don't like you back Milligan gusto and they don't like you back of course they're Spain there's hurt that's when again you trust the Lord maybe it's not the person maybe there's a better one or it's the wrong time or maybe Ireland Pelican Lord cannelloni and so I need to trust him he allows those things to happen so that I can trust him that's why he allows it another one what if it's against God's will right la la chica and gusto mo la Kelin young nanny Lord John Cassian design iya is for a man to marry a woman that's the design of God that's how he created all of these things to be for a woman to marry a man and for a man to marry a woman that's the design of God it's like if it's against God's will of course we get hurt but again comes the trust I need to trust God in this situation and what if it's the right time already all the more I need to trust God cassini pick Sabean come right time Papa's alcohol God cannabis on right you need me to be next man Castle hyolyn or next week on sand Ohio it doesn't mean that way but I need to grow in the way I trust the Lord I like this passage let's read this together one two three go trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding what the writer is saying here is we have certain understandings about life for me this is how I need to live I should live my life for some people this is how I should live my life for the others ganito unseen a subpoena writer know I need to trust the Lord with all my heart and not depend as the word lean not put my entire trust or faith on my own understanding kinda feeling Gautama in a circle because maraming basis died in a camel a dial stealing that an oar means a in a Carolina technically not intimate io we got hurt already we experiment that's why the writer is saying trust the Lord with all your heart and then he continued in all your ways what do we do with all our all our ways submit after the Lord and any promise to God he will make your paths straight under them testimony candy name when she forced her relationship and crooked on path but when she's decided to trust God then God slowly but surely fixed her life we see that so if you don't want to experience that crooked path and Gulu Gulu and Kahlan and Obama break para McMurray saying then right now as young as you are learned to submit to him so he must have to be much submit Kanaka say hey shadow comicality away so no we need to submit to him because I'm promised ya as I submit to God he will make my path straight this is very obvious for a lot of people who grew up in church but again sometimes Canada and Ana we started off with identity and then we talked about emotions because again I'm getting the emotions not them to deceive us and now here's the writer don't lean on your own understanding but submit your ways to him and the promise is he's gonna make your paths straight and even Jesus look at what he said therefore I tell you do not worry about your life what you will eat or drink about your body what you will wear seguro una unions in Avila Jesus kindness single kappa do not worry why is not your life more than food and the body more than clothes your life is more than relationships have to understand that so do not worry in a single kappa didn't wake up the Mamu single pas you know got a little began worried the worried behind now do not worry look at this statement look at the birds of the air they do not sow or reap or store away in barns they don't do that but your heavenly Father feeds them he takes care of them hindi sinhala go worry knocking down a monkey banana go worry nakooma alabama query anyone it but they don't worry at all and look at what he's saying here Jesus is the one saying this are you not much more valuable than they the reason why we started with identity is because if you don't see yourself the way God sees you that your valuable insecurity will hit you and a lot of people who are insecure goes into our own relationship let me repeat that a lot of people who are insecure goes into a wrong relationship pocket they use relationship to feed them their ego they use relationship so that they can have identity listen to me here don't let relationships define you get your identity in the Lord do not allow relationships to define you some people do not know how works a relationship and it's it's understandable because maybe for some of you you grew up in a home now your parents are not that loving you grew up in a home that maybe separated a very small you grew up in a home now part of me no bully kutta mockup I did more or you grew up in a home the pattern walang made time for you so now you're longing for that attention you're longing for that acceptance so you go from one relationship to another relationship to another relationship just to get that acceptance I realize how important it is we get our identity in the Lord not in people because people will disappoint you you've gotta be more height moving Nabatean midi disappoint ghazan tina mama again midi disappoint cat allegation that person can hurt you that person can will disappoint you sometimes that person can cause pain in your life but if you get your identity in the lord listen to me if you get your identity in the Lord it's a fun kinda magnet ow you are absolutely secure you understand that even if you get hurt disappointed by other people your Security's in the Lord stronger you're not gonna be so down to the point in the parable of the Picasa because your security is in the Lord can you first point not and when God allows you to like someone we grow in our trust we trust him it's an opportunity for me to trust him okay Lord I like this person better in deeper right time Sabine and the group leader koakuma non-legal one young paula kassig who stood in general the indian chocolate in India winning LCOE as a elevator but anyway let's just say she not be hasty nabhi okay maybe she gonna go there come on you're still studying so I need to wait I need to trust God you tell again it's very basic but that's really what God wants us to do when I was in grade school I liked this girl I didn't trust the Lord so I courted this girl and God allowed me to experience pain a bastard aho I don't know see guru Bullock sure but anyway so that's what happened the bastard aho I still continued you know getting to know this girl but I realize God was teaching me you have to trust me in this area Marty I don't want that girl for you I wanted to just walk closely with me so that you know where you need to go when we trust God will walk closely with him we read this word we study his word we be be with Christian family with other people who can guide us with other people who can rebuke us who can remind us because they will protect us from making wrong decisions that's someone who trusts the Lord indeed aluminio I realized to say when we don't trust God people eat in Malaga nothing you say nothing for example you are part of a small group they are telling you already that relationship is wrong if we trust God we'll listen to them and stay in a group if we don't trust God you know what we do you know at indeed though I only ever I understand ministry near I only like oh just a leave in the end and KJ bow Almaguer on a relationship copernica our ALPA Eva because we don't trust God and if we don't trust God we look for other people who will agree with us even if you don't agree a green amount of group not to say any who in the peanut cream parents gonna guess the sailors our relationship and that mean going on they will use the parent Authority Weepu microcell are you belong in deep intelligible Magna period la well I'm divine intervention okay appeal Atlanta leg are passing on business economic our Aloha booty epic my girlfriend neva neva mahogany they manipulate the system so that youngest Anila Hume Purina motto pod that's not trusting God if it's just in God and God says no God says wait God says it's not the right time God says through your parents that's not what I want God says it's against my will then okay I will push back I will go back to following him and I'm not gonna force it if you want the biblical mindset when he allows you to like someone you grow by trusting him it's an opportunity to trust him number two second biblical mindset that I wanna teach you is this when God allows me to get hurt and a lot of times he will allow you to get hurt romantically this is about romantic relationships it's an opportunity to grow because I realize a lot of times the reason why we get hurt is because it's our own fault I repeat that I realized a lot of times the reason why we get hurt it's because it's our own fault so in other words the hill nagamma Leah ho I need to learn and to grow pag nagamma like as a school say some example if you want to pass you need to study that same subject so that you can pass it if it's a key subject in your course you need to keep on studying so that you can master it so that you can graduate on time right you know what I'm talking about so it's the same thing with life because you see God happen in deepen our dinner to to dawn on your lesson but all it iliyan is ascending lesson incident if we don't learn the lesson even if you've learned the lesson he will keep on sending opportunities for us to grow in patience for us to grow in joy for us to grow in kindness for us to grow in trusting him because it's an opportunity to grow all the more pondus expand God when we get hurt we need to learn look at David David got hurt why because he forced a relationship marriage and a Keaton girl Nana Lily go and then P natal Elizabeth Sheba and they were in their immoral relationship Nalanda ganya and a Bathsheba is married and her husband is one of the soldiers in David but she forced the situation they committed adultery he murdered the husband of Bathsheba and as a result of that god rebuked him but he learned his lesson how do we know that he learned his lesson he wrote Psalm 51 What did he say in Psalm 51 let's look at verse 1 mercy on me Oh God so he realized he made a mistake because there's this prophet and named yeah Nathan he went to David rebuked David and told David David you did something really really really bad you're the man this is what you've done and now he said have mercy conventional Oh God according to your unfailing love so he acknowledges god you're so loving God you are very gracious I have sinned against you please according to your great compassion and only question could you remove this in this transgression in my heart could you forgive me against you look at this admission against you Lord you only have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight I realize this is from Peru Peniel it cooperate Lord I am really sorry so he had to learn this lesson and look at what he said after that please lord anacostia create in me a anniversa in the bus and i think any 'no the heart is what he acknowledges what I'm really sorry I realized my heart is very deceitful that's why from now on please God create in me a pure heart because whom I hold on people eating go talaga change my heart radically renew it Lord renew a steadfast spirit within me and look at the next part restore unto me the joy of your salvation because he was so sad of what happened and grant me a one Ksenia holy link go away that's what they've been sitting here if Akana I'm not willing I'm not gonna be able to sustain this I'm gonna give in to my own desire so please Lord restore to me the joy and give me a willing spirit and then look at what he said my sacrifice O God is a broken spirit a broken and a contrite heart I know promise you Lord God what even that despise because of David's humility he learned his lesson he confessed he repented of course God was gracious that's why at the end of his life he was still called a man after God's own heart some people would be saying would say are you panicking ok policy David even if he seen like that nagging okay policy but do you know that even if God was so gracious by restoring him he still face the consequences he had to learn it by God allowing him to experience more pain how do I know that look at the consequences of David what he experienced because of that sin all right listen to me here because of the sin of David he committed immorality he murdered the husband of Bathsheba Tina meaning array number one no matter him baby in Bathsheba she not being a prophet Nathan your baby will die not just that but Simon that they said they may get tired but because of this word first let's read it together this is what the Lord says out of your own what household I am going to bring calamity on you I'm gonna explain that later on before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to one who is close to you and he will sleep with your wives in broad daylight look at the consequence after tano immorality but because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord what's gonna happen to the Sun the Sun burn - you will die that's what Nathan said the Sun died the baby died not just that number two he's after to Allah afternoon immorality first consequence the son died second consequence one of his sons Colin Amnon rape young daughter Nia see Tamar because they even had many wives during that time okay how to be more chose go Sonya maraming wife's a so because of that this is what happened so one of his sons Amnon raped his daughter Timur make up a teensy Tamar next symposium Ursula Padilla unparallel acaba Tennessee Absalom so his other son Absalom megalith after several months killed Amnon when David found out that Absalom killed Amnon penalization see Absalom you go to exile but then the Mishnah see Absalom so something is a general can you give a bring back Absalom here when the general brought back Absalom to Israel he was not in talking terms with his son the garlic can see Absalom why did my dad ever bring me back here if he's not gonna talk to me so he decided to rebel Absalom rebelled David almost lost his kingdom this is the point of the story of David when Absalom was able to garner so much support from the Israelites that they supported him over David so no lumic ma armenia 'no lamina David and on General Nia and pursue goodness a Lhasa Kingdom me David Oh Melissa David McTaggart a desert he almost lost his kingdom why because Sabini Nathan out of your own household I am going to bring calamity on you before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to the one who is close to you you know that this really happened Absalom when he went inside the palace of David he knew honey my wives and concubines David come here let's go up to the roof I'll make love to you committed sexual immorality with the wives of David in broad daylight you see that way for all people to see why because God was saying to David you did this in secret I will expose it in public look at the consequences you know when I saw this I realized you know what I realize the price we have to pay to force what we want is never worth it yes you might say now Wow God was so gracious to David of course sovereign gracious and God gave David to the point is son enough me Bathsheba illumi Paulo Nissan about Shiva David Solomon Sina see Solomon he was the next in line King after David that's how gracious God is but he had to experience all of these things because he forced what he wanted so the lesson there creanga when God allows us to experience pain we have an opportunity to grow to learn not to do it again and problem Satan means alpha olie polie tae-young nasa certain because parolee taught nothing in ago Emily Tillman kitabi Mahalo police and onion right I mean I've counseled some people I've counseled some people for example there was this guy he was in his in this relationship so in guiding upon the nasa relationship not oh he already knew now i oh my lord your relationship man so he told leader this is what's happening I'm this relationship with this girl and the leader said I don't think that's what God wants so he forced the situation eventually after several months like you well I say that because it was not working so the guy cried really heard I know it was wrong and now I learned my lesson but then after several months of that breakup another girl came into the picture same situation but I hombre something that's not pleasing to the Lord and then see the Biennale shouldn't lead there Nia what are you doing why are you in that relationship I mean it's a different girl and the guy knows the script already hindi chaya hodo hua hai of this time Ala Moana this time I know what I need to do after several months and break a lip because she was not working it was not beating to god and then the third relationship came into the picture same situation another girl among different girl very same parent but only only and that relationship also didn't work alongside me problem I don't think the girls were the problem she need common denominator to set up look she new common denominator you lelaki pretty pessimistic oughta be mo Alamo mission Eco Telugu my problem is that in a the sometimes paella gave me fruit plate away KC for only two nieces have become why does God allow pain why does God allow pain in your life why does God allow pain in my life especially when I say pain I'm not saying sickness coronavirus you Margaret what I say pain is young romantic relationship in a pain you like someone and get it in an ER a you had to break up the relationship and all of those things why does God allow those things to happen because he wants us to grow he wants us to learn if we're not gonna learn the more is gonna send those lessons into our lives until we learn and I yo c'mon Harrison yo is you have to pay a high price just because you're forcing something that you want that's why a biblical mindset of okay Lord when you allow pain in my life especially in romantic relationship I need to learn I need to grow up when you allow me to like someone I need to trust you when you allow me to experience pain or hurt I need to learn sanim a totodile so that in deeper Iko Iko human our lessons our life nothing okay so are you still with me all right so first is I need to trust the Lord trust or say it will be trust the Lord trust the Lord second I need to learn when he allows pain I need to learn I need to grow number three third mindset is this when God makes the waiting long which for you sometimes you are feeling that right now it's a time to hold on to God when God makes the waiting long in today's generation telega mean sent in a potato like a tire before I can say you can get married at age 14 Diana age 15 you can get married that's why Mary I think she was 15 years old your virgin birth Nia I don't know 15 or 16 years old they were quite young because during that time at the age of 13 year already an adult you can start working already let's change the onion because of the Industrial Revolution akasaki tamanna' bata so they coined the term they call the teenagers before well Adam until the teenager say so right now either way it has been longer but it has a benefit for us we grow in our faith we grow in trusting God but when the waiting is taking so long it's a time to hold on to God not on your own desires and problem because it's sometimes because of our impatience means that guy in a team awaits me nothing let's say you're waiting for a month yes I often go in Lord you do matting the support in the pattern para una under this a girl the mummy said Papa socks our picture your name no mean bond makes us amulet oh lord please so much about mom and Ellie can I so the next my pattern d'emic moves non Conde right so no go hold on conveyances a really more instead of holding on to God and it's still a trust issue trusting God I need to hold on to you so don't hold on to your desires but hold on to God don't hold on also to your preferences but hold on to God why because here's what I realized God will listen to your preferences to my preferences but my preferences should it be my god when they see preferences you type of person that you wanna marry it's not wrong to have a desire to marry someone it's not wrong it's not wrong to have qualities like this go write it down but don't make it your god some of us can sit for the guys I don't preference nothing but angling yeah no way nummy Lila I wanna seek out the girls I don't know kilala do so for some guys I think this is your preference because organic dog so cute yamaganda for the girl Samantha Selig anyon / ha heon a preference yo it will I answer Pilipinas India type wait a moment a Korean I own a so funny mama Mimi yeah I mean no offense I know a lot of you you like these kinds of people but don't make your preference your God I know of someone I know this story I thought you story toe so there was this girl and then when I leave your son ethicacy surfs in a boat ah don't worry they're not from elevate or but they're they're part of CCF so there's basically this stories gusto young guy young girl young girl I own I own you're looking guy Linea pipe that's not her preference in the past success standards yeah Paris Oberon persistent non guy after several I don't know how long maybe a year or something eventually not soften your heart none girl but the key is the guy was just so persistent and also the guy was trusting the Lord eventually they became together and him boyfriend/girlfriend Salah and they got married so when we interviewed the girl what happened the girl was just so sensitive to leading me God because he sometimes you I owe nothing waha universally Lord the point is do not let your preference be your God do you understand that can see I know a lot of us want to get married param problema knotted at home preference not in Wolong Maha break known preference but Hindi my break and I tell you I don't know if you're gonna get married but seriously if it's not gonna be broken I don't know if you're gonna get married because sometimes God is teaching us Oh Anna ashhadu Matta ass well I'm Korean II disability ninis Machado no no seriously you have to mean so much happen what I said we need to have open heart I'm not saying okay so he picks a beating my own boy Oh Marty bah bah bah no I'm not seeing my bar my standard okay look hey I see now because God will listen to your preference go Samim oh my god gentle pacman Pacquiao Bennigan's day ready come back part Party nominee got Indian bar Sao ready GABA are you ready to change your desires to align it with God basically that's my point because he will indeed listen because in some people that I know that like a needy man Tina you know this is it go super tall dark and rich okay well the hands of it but here's the thing I thought at the observation call about it this is what I've observed in today's generation and this is what I realize now for example preference the looks for some people they don't care about it break for example there's this girl need to store it or just hypo along just embed telling a story there's this girl and sometimes you can see this happening all over the world upon preparation when she was in high school at the in preparation when she was in college so of course goes in you're handsome and beautiful young girl at oh but then something happened in the family the Quran and socket you know either both of her parents or one of her parents and they don't have much money guess what happened mainly go Saarinen upon yet pero sobre Yemen because of me no a lion preference and eventually they got married no one is struggling but Sabina I do it and I'm Erin I do okay Larry Berra but somehow we know as the years went on he she fell in love and eventually they became together and telegin they got married and they were happy what's my point when the going gets tough marketing preference nebula najiba perfect that things a good study god for us Iona then we believed another when you look at history well Adam Amana prefer I'm gonna show that to you later on well I'm a map reference unit they all had to trust the will of God in their lives so when he allows us to wait he wants us to hold on to him look at what happened to Jeremiah in lamentations chapter 3 this is a story of Jeremiah when he was waiting for the Lord not a romantic kind of waiting but he was waiting for the salvation of God why was he waiting for the salvation of God because he was being persecuted left and right in that in that city he was preaching the Word of God he was rebuking people telling them to repent nobody was listening so sorry Lord Lord grab a memento I've been waiting for your salvation I've been doing your work and up to now I'm suffering that's why he wrote the book of lamentations can I see lamentations he was lamenting so What did he say I am the man who has seen affliction by the rod of the Lord's wrath meaning to say God was punishing the people of Israel during that time and since he was staying with the people of Israel he was also experiencing the punishment so imagine you're preaching and you're also experiencing the punishment and look at the next part even when I call out or cry for help Lord you shut out my prayer why are you doing that and sometimes you feel that way when we're waiting so long when the going gets tough when we pray we ask God Lord what's happening and it seems like he's shutting it down that's what Jeremiah was experiencing I became the laughingstock of all my people imagine Enoch Tata 1 and sha they mock me in a song they even composed his songs he could apparently list all day long they were mocking me I will well remember them in other words I really remember these sufferings of mine and my soul is so downcast within me but after lamentations 320 lat the next verse yet again this is a Vinita this is the central passage of the book of lamentations if you read the entire book Parimal unquote except you next verses that I'm going to read to you if you read the entire book on monocot because it seems like Jeremiah was complaining but at the centre of that book it all next verses what are these verses I call this to mind therefore I have hope what's his hope I have oh because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed because his Compassion's never fail holding on to God yes North Braddock oh yes they were laughing at me yes I'm being persecuted but I have this hope that's why I'm holding on dear Lord your love because of your lap I'm not consumed I'm not yet dead because of your compassion it's still there it never fails every morning when I wake up I have seen that great is your faithfulness Nikita Nigeria my and that's why I say to myself look at what Jeremiah saying the Lord is my portion except in a portion you are my blessing Lord it's not the security miracle it's not my beginning God's visco it's not the same anomaly or no you are my best my portion therefore Corrina Maggie and I see you I will wait for you Lord why because the Lord you are good to those whose hope is in you to the one who seeks you that's why I hold on to God always that's what am I saying here because it is good to wait quietly you weren't quietly without complaint quietly it's with joy in your heart quietly it's with holding on to God for the salvation of the Lord that's why when God allows the waiting to take long we are to hold on to him now I've asked my sister to share her testimony how God mightily work in her life some of you have heard this already but let's all welcome mrs. binky o kaya done hello everyone good afternoon Alamo I wanted to look cool pero hindi Telugu hiya so I need to wear my glasses growing up I wanted to do many things travel to different countries go out of town with my friends get a good job with a high pay so I can shop till I drop and many more but in all these I was set on one thing I wanted to marry at a young age I should already be a mom by 28 years old and that was my dream I was so sure that it will happen years passed and I was still single at the age of 30 I wasn't that worried yep because at the time I had the boyfriend deep inside if I was going to be honest I know he wasn't the one because I wasn't I didn't have peace and I wasn't happy but I was willing to accept peril and must have been my boyfriend Nicole if there's one thing I feared I don't want to be am attending Galaga or old maid my boyfriend and I broke up two years after and I saw myself single at the age of 35 I remember singing back AHA single / and I'm 35 I will beg God to take me home in dqo hyah but lo and behold I am 35 and very much alive and single I would hear this advice over and over again mostly from my Christian friends that may be the reason why God is not granting my desires because I'm not willing to give it up they tell me that I should forget about my desire and just focus on the Lord huh focus on the Lord give up my desire a feeling Kamala got an economy a gusta la Cambodia Sawa what amazed me though was that yes I was older with the same desire but I was sincerely happy I was full of hope that one day I would still be a wife and a mother he Nina along Yang and so I waited and waited to be honest every Christmas was the loneliest time for me then the year 2011 came to welcome the year my brother announced that he's going to and to propose to his girlfriend just imagine Here I am nurturing my own desire of marriage no boyfriend inside not even a prospect and here comes her brother who by the way of yes ba he's 13 years younger than me and gets married ahead of me of course I was sincerely happy for him but at the same time I was crying inside and telling God pathognomonic oh Lord a few months after that I had to resign from my job Wow single naina well upon trabajo and to make things worse I was 10 years passed non-aligned Arianna I was thinking maybe something is wrong with me maybe I am not beautiful or who would want to date an older woman when most men would go out would look for someone younger these were the thoughts that would fill my mind plus vana I would hear comments from people and pilly pilly Maha say and oh what happened to you binky that and domina Lily go say yo as much as I want to be hopeful when you get comments like that you get discouraged I often ask God why are you making me wait when I am obedient like I am part of a ministry I am part of Adi group and I'm being discipled the man intentionally discipled and I am even leading my own group of ladies in short I was doing all that not because I love God but because I wanted something from him my desire to get married took a backseat when my papa was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer I was lost for words this I think was the lowest point of my life literally every day I was on my knees begging God to heal my dad I thought being single was my greatest fear in the Pala it was the thought of losing Papa waiting for his healing was the longest wait in my life but God did not make me wait for long in September 2011 after just a month my Papa passed away this very painful incident changed my life I was devastated why wouldn't a good God heal my dad when I know he can easily do so I feel he is not answering my prayers after my Papa died mom and I decided to spend our first Christmas in New Year out of town we went to Cebu and stayed there for a week while in Cebu with just my mom God spoke to me in ways I could not explain he made me realize that while all good things are from him he is closest to the brokenhearted he understands and know exactly how I feel so I can pour out my heart and be honest with him and that he loves my Papa more than I more than I do he also opened my eyes to the reality that he is the one in control of everything that no matter how detailed I planned for my future he is the one who will make it happen therefore I should intentionally choose to live for him one day while having my quiet time by the beach waiting for the Sun to rise I will never forget this day it was January 1 2012 I was telling God maybe you forgot about me the whole 2011 then he spoke to me through his word and in my heart saying if I forgot about you you would have been dead by now I am alive because he still has plans for me but I still need to learn a very important lesson you see all my life whenever I would have problems I will say to people that I am ok because God is with me but that is not exactly true for me everything is going to be okay as long as Papa is well and Allah while it's true that God can heal my dad and his sovereignty decided not to God wanted me to experience this truth that my future will be okay that I should not fear about my tomorrow not because of my Popoff or anyone else I will be okay because he is the one who will and can take care of me whether I marry or not God gave me my God's best almost five years after after almost five years five when Papa died he wanted me to experience that life with him is the best and marriage is literally just a bonus was it worth the wait oh yes he gave me the best husband more than I can ever think or imagine he's here right now is there standing hi honey but you know the best part in all this it's not really that I am married but it is the realization that my life past present and future is already in the hands of someone who loves me the most I am binky opieop an to the one who makes all things beautiful my reason for living my Savior and my Lord Jesus Christ to you I give all the glory levena mohammed mohammed dean years down so did you hear that that she had the weight and of course she was struggling because it seems like she was holding on to relationships and god had to teach her like what she said in her testimony to be satisfied on the Lord alone whether you're married or not and of course in God's perfect timing he was able to bring that best for her but here's the thing she didn't say this but before marriage similar standards did and God had to break that because I think if I'm not mistaken I'm at the mix though chai Chinese is not your standard right she didn't like Chinese but somehow a teeny tiny God Sonia and I'm really glad for that so you see what happened that's why you don't make your preference your God just connect yourself to the Lord hold on to him and be open as long as you because here's the thing some people here's that you're here to ideas a first idea before we go to number four first idea of God Smith some people say there's really that single person that's your God's best have you heard about that the by American telegin God Smith and the telegram aeroplane appear so you see Lord for some people a man another another side of this God's best fury isn't seen as a villain no anybody can be your God's best as long as they are you know connected to God as long as they love God they have a relationship here's what I realize we don't know who that God's best is for you I didn't know who my God is best will be but what I do know is this but God is sovereign and he in his perfect timing will lead us to that but we need to be open because we don't know in our case I just have to be open or you just have to be open a Toba indeed a deal on gossip waiting in it when in kappa-b Malayan you gods be small but internationally could mean God's mismo as long as that person locked at the meeting in and be provider we don't know we don't know but what I'm saying is that Patel aw heart not that sensitive Gaylord in opens we don't know it yes and no you both theories they on meaning to say see guru progress Elkin and then you will know I I totally god this is the one really for me but we don't know that so you is a theory the Turin nepai didn't this person can be the one that person can be the one that's that person is godly but I don't like his personality pero God Lisa I don't personally know he goes oh he looks then one in the godly or nah he sometimes goes ooh daddy looks and in am ungodly and in my hindi you know God's best and God's best is then again please sing K Lord that's God's voice that's why when he allows the waiting to take long we are to hold on to him here's number four so the first one when he allows us to like someone what do we need to do we trust when he allows us to get hurt what do we need to do we learn we grow and when the waiting takes so long what do we need to do we hold on number four when God allows you when God calls you to get married we have to understand it's for his glory I thought this is something maybe a lot of you don't realize here marriage is not just for our pleasure God created it yes but it's not solely for our pleasure he wants us to enjoy yes but the reason why he created marriage is for his glory why our problem right now is the world has romanticized romantic relationships too much that it has missed the real purpose now focuses our feelings now focuses aro so romance now focuses emotions now focus nozaki leg fat poor kingdom o tamanho tanto Adam didn't have a choice mirror machine choice No well as if linear never wait if I used to be in Lord vanity shadow money eat it shadow shadow palette or divine dealer well a misogynist in our be seen every when you learned you own green alone they've already well that's some choice better let me ask you did he fall in love yes when he saw Eve he fell in love they did did they love one another of course another one I stuck didn't have a choice right well that's a choice I know he needed Anja of course marriage to go to she'll finish I'm Amelia in that area sir Canaanites but what they didn't his father say Abram said no you're not gonna marry anyone here you wait for my servant my son in Ducie you don't papanasam oh so shiny meditate shining apprecia you read the book of Genesis 1 chapter Donnie was meditating because but the thing that you serve on the goodness of my name again the son of the Lord please Nikita I said it back I Wow this is the girl right and then they got married saguru Nagar an attraction better while I young so I think a second language to Munna you know of course I'm my own there's a process now but during that time no processing you want us to go back to that kind of situation I mean for a lot of girls they don't like that here's another thing the Israelite women didn't have a choice during judges 21 what happened in judges 21 let me tell you the story of course what happened here was quite wrong Baliga because that one of the tribes of Israel the Benjamites did a very grave mistake to the point that the other 11 tribes war against the Benjamites and as a result of that and damming the Medaille women were killed and only men were left only a few women left and a lot of men left there so the Benjamites surrendered they realized we made a mistake we are so sorry but here's the problem maraming the logic want dilemma by how will they multiply so the elders were crying what are we gonna do with the tribe of Benjamin God promised commanded us to keep these 12 tribes now we did something and as a result of that they might get wiped out we need to give them women he said of fighting Kohanim baba is a Canaanites these are fighting I'm gonna buy some more bites they need to get women from the Israelites in a promise my elders 11 tribes I'm not going to give my daughter or our daughters to the Benjamites because we're angry at them but then they were still convicted but still we need to help them and let me looking advice Neela so they instructed the Benjamites okay here's what we're gonna do on a Benjamites male Lakia go and hide in the vineyards why there's gonna be a parade and then you mono women but among tribes there's gonna be a parade go hide in the vineyards and watch when the young women of shiloh one of the tribe a part of the tribes of israel come out to join in the dancing rush from the vineyards and each of you sees one of them to be your wife again very return to the land of benjamin imagine moment gigatons enemy continued baba a quad I see one satellite away memory Diadema God welcome choice choice choice and here's the thing so sobbing a my elder son Benjamin hears and I know their parents will get angry but don't worry about their parents will talk to their parents can see once they marry the girl will Allen control young daddy well I'm going to Authority in Barents that's what God commanded so do you see my point about marriage that's not it shouldn't focus on feelings it shouldn't just focus on emotions my shadow in the romanticize again I'm not saying wrong man being having romantic relationship is wrong or you know man panicking romanticize the relationship is wrong I'm not seeing that but what I'm saying is the purpose of marriage is not the romance part of the purpose of marriage is here number one it's a reflection of our glorious future it's not just about the romance bonus telling your romance marriage is a reflection of our glorious future why why did God create marriage because that's what is going to happen to us when we are married to Christ how do I know that husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church it's that marriage relationship and gave himself up for her how do I know that we are to marry I am jealous for you Paul wrote this with a godly jealousy I promised you Diana guys and girls to one husband you know for the girls it's easy to receive this message for the guys Perenara the first time I understood that I'm gonna marry Christ but aha I am the bride and he's the husband of a bride right but that's the biblical image of marriage it's in preparation for our marriage with Christ's promise you to one husband to Christ so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him and even in the Book of Revelations Messiah not end up together let us rejoice and be glad and give Him glory why for the wedding of the Lamb that's Christ the lamb has come and his bride tae-yeon has made herself ready it's an image the marriage now it's just a reflection of what's gonna happen in the future that's one of the reasons why God created marriage another reason why he created marriage it's a reflection of God's love it's a reflection of God's love for us to grow in our love for one another and for us to glorify Him as we love one another hindi and perilous emotions that in our years the parcel on crash course to go hindi and done that but the focus it's for his glory you know before I got engaged me with my wife this was before we got engaged so I was in the u.s. and then after a US I came back because there was a conference I came back and the great glamour Shah I think she got angry a little bit or offended because I wasn't spending much time chatting her when I was in the US so no offense ah and then the girl should have been a servant alone Marty Pattin opposite Nava I'm not sure if I wanna you know wait for you or something like that let me pray so me Judah Tahoe Tahoe Isis that year when I was in the US that year make parinama go pro saranya better here's her saying that give me time to break in the right but again God was giving clarity in my mind my heart now okay I need to be secure in the Lord if shuttle Agha did I know God will allow it to happen I will not hold on to her I will hold on to God and at the same time Sharon she was not holding on to me she was holding on to the Lord and lo and behold while she was doing her quiet time within learn a quiet time sir another guinea sorry Lord she read this passage Sbisa passes at Joshua 24:15 but if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve whether the gods your ancestors served beyond their efforts are the gods of the AMA writes in whose land you are living so he's talking to the Israelites he Joshua peloton expects a heart Nia like sticks heart there but as for me in my household and Sabini Joshua we will serve the Lord you have to understand one of the reasons why God will allow you to get married is to glorify Him if you miss that out then sighing in marriage if you miss out the purpose why God will allow you to meet someone and you will stay for the rest of your life here on earth to glorify Him to be used for his glory then you're missing out the reason why God allowed you to be together in the first place whether mugging full-time worker kayo where they're making businessman kayo whether you're working together the purpose is to glorify God if you don't have that idea then I hope you will have that idea why you belong while you're young because it's gonna impact who you will choose because you will not choose based on just your emotions but you will choose to glorify God because when I was courting my why this girl I did there were other girls in CCF really there are other girls there are other girls that are beautiful also shame pressure almost perfect away but during that time I'll be honest with you chambray me make it piranha waded into and then inky downward waded into uh and then during that time chamber I started getting to know other people then so but God was kept on impressing Suharto Marty who do you think will when you marry this person will give me much glory so I had to analyze that I had to be sensitive with God's leading in deal I talks English the way a Tommy Joe but I'm physically or Hanuman talaga I mean personality or Indian and a minimun telegram okay journey I mean here is in elevate and damming okay la jolla schlattman Taos a limit okay so did not rhyme Amelia but anyway bad Abajo you're still young okay but and a minimum Okita luggage at and diamond wedding band billion and question is sensitive cabassa leading me God may Hindi control emotions more to the point a la Mona when you marry this person you're gonna glorify God in the process it's the glory of God not ours I hope that sticks in our hearts that's why I'm I'm spending more time with this because I want us to understand we marry to serve God together we married to honor God together not just for romance because once it's for romance it it clouds our view of marriage that's not the purpose of marriage and number five the last one so when you know when God allows us to get married it's for his glory but when God calls me to be single second sigh man it's a supernatural blessing hey what if you're not going to get married how do I know that it's a supernatural blessing look at the Apostle Paul but before that was I not into my life is not about romantic relationship it's the same thing it's all about his glory whether I'm married or I'm single it's all for his glory how do I know it's the supernatural blessings look at what Paul wrote now to the unmarried in the windows I say I'm sorry Paul it is good for them to stay unmarried as I do LM on the first time gonna be sayin sallow blob go polygonal on non-single Baja when the first time I read that Paul II : wow I am weird all day okay so of course my qualifier see Paul but he further explained this the parent Bugbee nashua para Maggie guilty kapositas arbiter Nepal I thought Emma verse 28 he further explained its opinion if you do marry you have not sinned so clarifying it's not sin to get married and if a virgin marries she has not seen right but those who will marry with this graduation Vigna la boy anyway will face many troubles in this life and I want to spare you this but I was awesome in Wow ala moana gonna marry de barro because he has been counseling people that's what he's saying why is he saying he will face many troubles he explained it Anna Sabina I would like you to be free from concern when you're married you will be concerned for your wife you will be concerned for your kids madidus raka but an unmarried man is concerned about or the Lord's Affairs how he can please the Lord all the more swore the Lord my life is for the Lord an unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affair her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit and thence opinion I am saying this for your own good not to restrict he's not saying that but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord Alamodome a point sending such opinion and point me accompany mocking single column making single column for life okay my own better that's why Paul is saying now it's a supernatural blessing when God calls you to be single it's not wrong the point is this whether you get married or not your life is to glorify God I hope that has stick in your heart it's not about you it's not about your pleasure it's not about what you're gonna receive is not about Nana sandwich cannon crush mo or an illegal Oaxaca Schmo it's all about his glory whether I'm a you're married or not it should be about serving him not for our own sake because the world has focused too much on the romance in today's generation the world Netflix whatever social media website there are it focus too much on a page romance a Twingo a more epic mahir Sehwag Mariga you can go into this honeymoon but the young wedding I own it becomes more and more complicated during our time will happen hashtag the unpin it kanima Corona hashtag never so you might say you better hush you marriage more you waiting more before unseemly simply back right now you have to choose the food the leg and up and offer you food you design my theme my songs my video that they may well up I'm gonna gifts before the wedding right now Hume husband and wife they are forced to give gifts before admitting each other that's alter any video animal on odubajo 711 they're gonna bid you that person giving the husband giving the gift up in a beginning gift is a wife a future wife now and then your wife may be negating this husband so hopefully keep complicating and upon placate you waiting long but they forget that's just one event and marriage is the highlight we see that they have romanticized wedding marriage too much that they forgot it should be for his glory so when God calls us to be single it's for his glory so what are those five things when God allows me to like someone and it's an opportunity to trust him when God allows me to get hurt it's an opportunity to grow when God makes the waiting long it's a time told on to God when God cost me to get married it's for his glory and when God calls me to be single it's a supernatural blessing and it's for his glory I'm gonna end with this story there was this father he's not a well-off man their family family's not well-off and so he really kept on working so hard to give money to the family the problem with the father is because he was working so hard he didn't have time to spend with his son he's like a nickname and the son was complaining the son was around seven eight years old and the son was complaining now you see this a peace and an epoch away dad can we play because I miss you you've been out all day in the daddy I'm so tired it worked so hard you know just come on down with the mat with your mom just you just pay or just do this you just watch the vanilla almost everything everything at it they will have time on Sunday sometimes but a lot of times well that will in time in that after several months or after several years fella in the game on at ten years old my son they found out that the son was very sick that the son was dying and he needs to be opera because there was a tumor so since he was not that well-off so they went to the hospital it is a billion cost Chacal against that but I don't know how to pay for this and everything was just you know all all that the life of his son was flashing in his very eyes Nanak spent time powerful with him what if he's gonna die so he was absent for several weeks just to be with his son bringing him to the hospital so everything slowly changed but slinging concerns and it's a son then one day the businessman who owns the business Conn such a nagger work gave him an envelope and they may check don sabino businessman sonya hey I heard your son is sick I also have been hearing that you don't have time for your family now here here's money I want to give your son a second chance but here's the condition you don't need to pay for this but here's the condition once your son gets better I want you to spend time more with him I want you to prioritize him don't worry about money yes give your best to work but don't work too hard no Alan Alan time for your family and the father really got touched and got rebuked as well he used the money to pay for the operation by God's grace the son was healed and guess what changed everything he spent time with the son more he was focused on this and more on his family more not on the work he was so grateful nobody you mindset and perspective me I should change not just because he someone gave that money but he realized come on you must important thing now why am i sharing this if that kind of story can happen and can change someone's heart we should be changed as well for what Jesus Christ has done in your life and mind what am I saying do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit if you have Jesus with you your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you whom you have received from God you are not your own it's not about your life you were bought at a price we were dead we don't have a future without Christ we deserve to go to hell we deserve to be eternally being separated from God but Jesus Christ died for your sins and my sins that's the gospel you know this that's why you were bought at a price so what should be our commitment and shouldn't have been appalled honor God with your bodies live for him why I'll end with the statement I must learn to be completely satisfied with God because marriage on earth lasts for a lifetime but marriage with Christ lasts for eternity freedom indifference I need to be completely satisfied right now an Impala with Christ market and for every unmarried Sonia Sotomayor my love you're not satisfied with Christ you have a big problem if you limp along what determines your security is relationship if they open and what determines your security is the love life that you have then you have a big problem life is not about love life life is not about romantic relationships life is not about your crush nosaka timki life is not about courting someone all of those things yes God can allow that but life shouldn't be about that it's all for him to be satisfied with him my prayer is that every single one of us here will learn to be completely satisfied with God because for the rest of eternity that's what's gonna happen we will be with him forever we will be married to him the intimacy with him so on a human I hope we grow in that way I'm gonna focus little message that is really God's glory marriages for God's glory singleness is for God's glory I hope you don't depend on your Iman like smoothping Gustavo as much as possible just surrender that to God surrender all of your pain to the Lord surrender all of those things that you hope for to the Lord and just be willing for God to lead you wherever he wants you to go whether you're gonna get married or whether you're gonna be single for a knife can I pray for you guys can y'all stand up as we close this time and as I pray for you let's bow our heads and it's free I want to pray for two groups of people I want to give an opportunity for some of you who are here who doesn't have a relationship with Jesus so bow down your heads close your eye some of you in Anindita lion I mentioned earlier that Christ has bought us for a price he died for our sins you know why he died for your sins my sins because we cannot receive eternal life without him we need him that's the gospel we cannot save ourselves even if Sobran by Atma you cannot save yourself without Jesus Jesus want us to receive him to love him that's why he said for God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life so if you're in that person and God is speaking to you you don't have Jesus yet I pray that you humble yourself and you pray something like this tell Jesus Jesus I'm really sorry for all my sins I realize that I need a Savior but I cannot save myself and I realize that's why you came here Jesus to die for my sins so that whoever believes in you with all of their heart will not perish but have eternal life so tonight Jesus with all humility I receive you in my heart please me my Lord and Savior the second group of people that I want to pray for Lord a lot of us here we do have a relationship with you but somehow when it comes to romantic relationships our minds are clouded mashanda not having the influence and social media which I do not I mean the inflow instant world which I don't mean of force of feelings lord I pray that you break that that you help us surrender that you help us see why you created marriage it's for your glory it's a reflection of what's gonna happen in the future it's a reflection of your love so I pray that that's gonna be our goal Buono selling your romantic relationship bonus telling you my feelings bonusing my excitement yes I know you can give that but the focus is for you and maybe for some of the people here your calling is for us to be single for them to be single and if that's your calling for them Lord then please prepare their hearts and let them see that it sends a supernatural blessing and it's also for your glory thank you Lord for speaking to us bless us as we worship you thank you for this time in Jesus name we pray amen and amen I bless you guys

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Published: Thu Mar 05 2020