Trevor Noah on Real Talk with Anele

[Music] [Music] good afternoon and welcome to real talk on three right here on acbc 3 my name is anelia and I can see things are a bit different right you can also see things that are a bit different usually we come from stain city today we are in New York City with Trevor Noah hello sir hello did you see I called you sir cuz you wear a very formal introduction I know you're wearing a suit is this how you talk when you're on your show yes this like TV an yes cuz you're wearing a suit suit I just came from work I feel like I'm requesting a loan I and I'm going to deny you I know deny this is the thing even your body language wait are you asking for the loan in rans or dollars in rans after what happened I'll give it to you gladly you just like T so you want two peanuts and and and and a trop for yourself thank you for having me on the show at my show I told someone that I was interviewing you on your set and they asked me they was like you know when was the first time you met Trevor and you know that I I don't remember when we first met I remember when we first met tell me the first time we met was in our circle of friends and that's honestly one of the the greatest blessings I have is the fact that we I I remember all my friends by how horrible their cars were okay that's how I know all my friends are real cuz you know when people go when did you meet I can't tell you that but I can remember what people were driving okay but I was driving an A3 then I don't think it was all that horrible yeah it wasn't the new A3 it wasn't a nice one no it wasn't it was a bit it was a bit B enough as well old three and you had bumped everything on the way you look like you had stolen it let me put it that way like it wasn't you know how you know your car is bad when no one describes you by your car if it's a nice car they go oh A3 that's what people say oh the A3 no one said that about you they're like don't know the Gap you see your Gap was the thing the Gap was The prominent thing I don't I don't remember when it was but I knew you you I've known you for long I know are we 10 11 years now more maybe more a little bit but I do remember that that day where we we MC together for New Year's Eve that's the funniest that's the story I go back to yes and and I laugh at because you left before me after the gig and then I was like okay bye bye and then you left and then 5 minutes later you came back running cuz some guy was following you I don't remember that I came to you for help yes and I thought it was so strange and then and as I I recall that story I'm I'm like Trevor doesn't know how to fight actually do you know how to like to stick stick them up and I actually do really yeah the problem with fighting is though you must remember I used to be a boxer and a taxi driver wow this is true people forget this about me okay but like I'm not a professional boxer but I used to box and then like also as a taxi driver you can't afford to now be afraid of things people are fighting with you about change from the back seat and what you have to afraid yes but the thing with fighting is you don't want to get involved in anything that's celebrity related you realize that fighting there's no winning so if I win the fight I lose and then if he beats me I lose so now there why am I fighting so do you have a person that you know that if if a fight's going down or if somebody's following you to your car per se that you can just call them like a cousin who everyone a cousin who's called Kila you know we all have that cousin you who's got he's got a name like he's a dog killer or or dang yeah or danger News Cafe I need you and then you you have to sound angry on the phone so that the people who are trying to mess with you they just like you know just wait well like Pablo Pablo comes Pablo guys as soon as Pablo gets here you think someone's gonna like Pablo's now thing now I actually knew a guy who was Pablo and he he was like the fighter amongst the the friends until we watch until we watch him get beaten up and then it was it was awkward for everyone shame so do you have a person that you can call like that I do have a person who I can call like that I feel bad saying his name my friend like okay if if that situation you know when there's people where you go like you're going to get it no it's fine it's fine do your thing there uhhuh do your thing and and but I never used to fight you know what I honestly used to do no joke what I used to do to avoid fights is I would try and be as colored as possible in those situations because everyone was afraid like everyone so like something would happen and then I'd be like and then like people would be like like people were scared yeah so afraid of colored people like when I was growing up there I was like oh this is the thing out of jail immediately why why is that why do you think we we with that scar is it cuz like you talking like you've got nothing to lose like I'll die on top of you you know what it was I I think it was two things it was the fact that colored people because of gangs at the time colored gangs were considered the most dangerous gangs in South Africa the numbers gangs you couldn't like everyone was afraid of them and on top of that how do you threaten someone who doesn't have teeth you your mind you're laughing but your mind goes this person already has nothing to lose because what's the thing you're scared of in a fight someone's going to punch your teeth out if you don't have teeth you're like this person this person's not afraid of me was also you like maybe they lost they their teeth in a fight you don't know so they experienced or maybe they took them out themselves and what either way either way you don't want to mess with that person either way you're not there and mentally people would just be afraid so I was like this is the thing so when people you know speak about people uh especially successful people they always want to pinpoint you know where the well is right where did it all start you know what did you do so much that you ended up where you are you worked hard at what I worked a lot I would say so do you think that everything that you did like being a taxi driver or when you were selling CDs in high school everything that you did you did it with such a lot of work ethic which is why you're here or is there something that you specifically did that got you exactly where you are I can say what got me where I am today was taking a chance and doing what I loved I think too many people focus on on doing what they think is successful versus doing what they love mhm so people go I want to be a doctor or an accountant or a lawyer or in entertainment I want to be famous why because of the money but you don't realize life is so long that you're going to live this life hating it for the money why do you want money so I can enjoy my life what if you could enjoy your life doing what you love if your job was something you love you don't need as much money as you think you you do but the thing is everyone tells you that money is what's going to make you happy and it doesn't make you happy money gives you choices though yes money gives you choices but I mean then choose to be happy money also gives you like sometimes it's the Paradox of choice now you have too many choices now you have too many ideas now you have the fear you know the one thing no one talks about with getting money when you've been poor and you get money do the fear of losing it people who've been Rich Forever don't know what that feeling is like people who are poor unfortunately don't know what that feeling is but when you get money and you come from a poor family you know how you are so afraid so whenever someone says come do something for money then you go like I have to do it because tomorrow I need to stack it up tomorrow I need to increase the the distance between between poverty and me everyone do you have that yeah all the time I had a conversation with Will Smith he had that oh wow then I I was like then he told me he had it with Oprah you see I was going up he went up I was like Wow Will Smith has that and Oprah's like she haded with Buffett Oprah told me that she's still afraid of if you've been poor you'll always be afraid of being poor so for me it was always just doing what I loved I took a chance I was at I was at a radio station yfm and at the time they were revamping everything young people were coming in and there was a chance that I was going to be one of the new young people who was going to take over and I I had a like a chance at a good future in radio and then comedy came and then I literally had a choice one day as either I go and it was to go and work for one week or to and do a year at at Radio at ym and I chose the one week in comedy everyone thought I was crazy people were emails and everything successful wise the radio people were were the successful ones that was the most staple job so to go and and risk it on that side it was quite a crazy thing to do it was insane radio was where the rock stars were AB fresh you know what I'm saying GTH Cliff Glen like all of these people Bad Boy T you know what I'm say like come on for you to say I'm the one who's not going to do this I'm going to go and do like that was crazy at the time all right we're going to take a quick break I want to give you a question and on the other side of the break you can answer it out of everything you've just said now and think about all the things that you have done what was a complete waste of your time ahuh you'll answer that after the break [Music] and welcome back to real talk right here onc3 earlier TR said I'm being formal so like let me can I can I just slouch down no I'm not saying that I'm just saying when you know someone personally then you see them at their work yeah you know how it is doesn't matter if it's TV or if you work at like or the bank or anywhere there's office voice yeah you know when your friend comes in and like then you're like hello I'm at work hello how are you you know your friends are like oh you sh hello how let me talk to you afterwards I will convene with you afterwards like it's that type of thing don't mess with the paycheck thank you for coming I'm already on apprais thank you for coming that's what it feels like so before the break I asked you a question yes of everything that you've done what what do you feel like was a complete waste of your time nothing was a waste of my time I was hoping you wouldn't say that I'm genuinely I try to think hard and long then I go there is nothing that did not help me get to this point everything that didn't go well became a story to talk about when I went well everything that didn't go as I planned made me what I am today and then everything that went well is why I'm here so and maybe it's also as a comedian it helps a lot oh cuz then you've got stories yeah then you go like oh this was a failure so as a comedian what's great is if I go on a date and then it doesn't work then I'm like ah I've got a show now it must actually suck to go on a date with the comedian cuz you cuz you're just like I want this to work out but they'll be happy if it doesn't work out cuz they're going to go talk about it but that's great it's freedom freedom now you want I must be must be indebted to you on a date yes you have to you have to make it work with me no no so when I was reading your book there was a point when you said that your mom say she used to eat like the mud like on the banks right because she was she'd get that hungry when she was living in the Eastern Cape with family and I read that I was like yo I know now things are fine and all of that but that's that's a low moment yeah my mom yo my mom has lived I you know what was funny cuz I used to think I had a tough life in my family I used to complain I was like I remember when there was a time when for months all we could afford was my like and and I could only eat Ro you know Ro spinach like that's all we could eat I was like what a tough life then my mom told me her story yeah and she said when I was a kid sometimes I would get so hungry I would go to the river take the clay just to fill up my stomach eat the clay and the clay would fill me up then I would go and eat with the family and that then I would feel full because I I wasn't going to get eat with the with the pigs like which is funny because my mom till this day loves amak yeah because used to feed pigs and then she's like I love this it reminds me of my childhood and I never knew keeps had that I was just like ah these things are nice Millen and she told me pigs eat those things and I was like no then you know so I always appreciate those moments and those stories where you realize how far your family has come and we're not talking about hundreds of years just this one South Africa is a country where this generation just one generation before you the amount of change they can talk about in their lives is so extreme so extreme we take it for granted so if that was your mother's low point the the eating clay and I'm I am now assuming on her behalf maybe she's got lower points that she hasn't told you about what would you say is your low Point wow like is it like the day you ran out of petrol and you couldn't make a gig is it the day I I mean I assume you couldn't take a girl out on on a date because you didn't have money I was lucky those low points for me were overshadowed by by just food for me you know one thing I've always loved is having food I still love you know better than anyone yeah I love food I know like my grandmother till this day OKO calls me the rubbish bin of the family I've watched you eat half a sheep literally the side of a sheep by himself at my house like gone an I eat I love food so much because food for me always meant the family was doing well till this day there are many things I don't care for but food oh man food if I go out I want to order more than than I need I want to order for everyone I want the people to eat because for so long we couldn't my lowest points was honestly I remember for months of my life every day was Moro and maybe it was like Mor and and mas and mor and but like for months you know when you like one day I went to my mom and I cried and I said please please can we get pchs please wow so that was a a celebration like when you get p was luxury are you playing Lucky Star look I like fil I like it to Star spicy yeah ah no that was I was gone I was watching this interview and they were they were speaking to you about the first year on The Daily Show and they asked you you know what were you hoping for what were you hoping for and you said and I actually paused after you said that and I was like oh what you said I wasn't hoping for anything I wasn't I I I just I didn't want a specific reaction I just wanted to do well so you weren't you had fabricated a reaction that you were going to get no no I why here's the thing like with hoping and I think sometimes and that's maybe it's a weird thing to say you know people go Reach For Your Dreams yeah I sometimes think even your dreams will limit you cuz your dreams are limited by the world and the reality that you can conceive so if you grow up in a world where for me my dream growing up my dream was to have a house full of food was to drive a nice car BMW or Mercedes and was to have a double story oh wow if I could just run Upstairs Downstairs oh please black kids didn't call it a double story we called it upstairs yeah Upstairs Downstairs it's just like a convertible is a drop top Upstairs Downstairs Upstairs Downstairs okay that's all I wanted in my life so when I was able to achieve these things then it's like now now what do you do cuz I never people always get I never wanted Fame I still do not care for those things that that much I know yeah my dream was always can I AFF to pay things can I eat can I live a good life that was my dream so then when that was achieved I was like so now life like where do you go from there is that why you very and I know this cuz I know you personally you're very I don't want to say blaz you you're not phased about you know positive reaction yeah and you're not phased by negative reaction cuz we'll be like oh wow look at this article Trevor they saying all these things and you're like yeah sure it's fine you know because as good as comes is going to be as bad as it can come I appreciate positive feedback yeah I appreciate negative criticism because you need both what I don't do or I try my utmost is to not allow them to dictate how I feel I believe as an artist as a Creator as anyone even in your your whatever area of the world you work in you should be able to know that you are doing the best that you can do you should be your only gauge so when I get off a stage doing comedy I go that wasn't good enough for me I can I always try and maintain a certain level of consistency so that even the audience can say no that was a good show I go yes but for me I could have done better okay for me I could have done better in that in that show for me I could have done better doing that TV show for me I could have done better whatever it is I could have done better so if I'm critical of myself the thing you're going to tell me will not change that you know if you say yeah Trevor you are horrible then I'm like I knew that don't worry about it and if you go no you were good then I'm like no but I wasn't so you don't know what my good is then so I can't use that I can appreciate and and I genuinely do but you must be careful if you are happy when the people like you then that means you must be sad when the people don't like you and so if you have to ride with the people people are fickle people say one thing and then go another way and then now I must be yeah ah yeah ah you you'll never be stable you'll never be consistent when I watch your Show Now The Daily Show and I mean you in and doing very well I I I kind of appreciate the fact that you you did get like negative reviews because I find that now you are kind of molding the way people think you are you you questioning them and you're shaping them so it shouldn't be easy for you to be in that position no so it it has to be difficult you have to be cuz you're a Jester right you have to be the jester that gets gested if you're going to be given such a platform of power and influence would you agree well I I I will say this um um one thing that is nice about negative feedback and not being liked I spent my life not being liked I grew up not being liked I only know how to be an outsider so in my world I was the kid growing up ESO where everyone was looking at me going what is this thing of yours we alino when now what's going what are what are you what are you I grew up in a colored area in Eden Park where all the colored kids were like why do you talk funny you get what I'm saying I grew up when I went to school now I was the kid I was lucky that I could go to a private school but I didn't have the money of a private school so now the kids were like you're in but you're out so now the kids were like why don't why don't you get picked up by your mom why are you walking what what's your story how come you can't come to the mall on Saturday who are you so I was always out I've only ever known how to be an outsider so what what life has forged me into is a person who knows how to exist Beyond being part of the club so with negative criticism and those things it doesn't trick you into being liked because the danger of being liked is you you do the thing because the people like you and you want to remain liked now you're not doing what you want to do you're doing what you panding to the crowd you're doing how do I keep them liking me whereas think of it like a relationship a lot of the time when we meet people in relationships we give them the impression of who we want them to think we are so you have two people dating each other who don't know who the other person is so you go I fell in love with him oh I fell in love with her and the two of you don't know each other then in the relationship you you changed you changed yeah not you changed you've become yourself if you if we met each other from the beginning and didn't like each other or did like each other then we now know where we stand so if I meet you from the beginning and you go I don't like you then it's fine I don't like you now we can go from there now we can grow from there exactly and so for me you go also like it's the most natural thing for humans to do you've been through this I've been through this take over a new show on radio take over take over any show forget radio just any show forget even shows yeah take over in a family see what happens here's your new father children your new dad come here's your new dad see what kids kids even though they go that person my mom loves them I we don't like new things that seem to replace something that we love and so that's the same thing I went through here took over something that people loved and I understood why they have to be angry cuz I do the same thing when they changed aim Mora's love life in Generations I will never forget where I was like that woman there I don't know that's not Priscilla I don't like her when Tina was out I was like God that's not Priscilla I go back and whenever a character changes in a soapie remember when B kept on changing back and forth they changed Thorn and they changed Bridge you just like I'm out is gone yeah now I have to stop you cuz we have to go to an a break on the way I know I've been speaking about this book and you're panicking right cuz you don't know about the book you're like what book what book uh it's called Born of crime he has released a book we're going to chat about it don't go [Music] [Music] anywhere [Music] and we're back with Trevor Noah born a crime at your book yes is it the first of many I don't I don't know it depends if the people like the book or not if the people don't like the book then why would I make another one because maybe you're thinking I'm 32 and maybe it was early for me to write a book about myself but if people go don't write anymore then yeah then I won't write thank it's like yeah I'll be like okay sorry guys enough from you it's fine I I don't know I told my stories I've told like I've shared a lot of myself my life the life I shared with my mom the world that I grew up in uh it's a very candid book very candid stories um because a lot of people don't know how you get to places a lot of people don't know who you are you know and I've never been a fan of the facade I want people to understand that we are all capable of any anything we are all from the same we can all get anywhere some are going to have a tougher Journey than others but it's not magic it comes from somewhere I read such a cool quote on a car in Nashville we were in Nashville before we came to New York and it said everyone is that kid from somewhere yeah you know and and then it reminded me of your book but obviously before you decide you're going to write a book something happens it could be a lot of things like five of them or one thing or or somebody says something what are the events that led to you saying you know what I'm going to put this down in a book it was telling people stories telling you guys stories friends then people go man that story Trevor wow tell us that story again what happened that day tell us the stories tell us and everyone has friends who have those stories and then the same thing when I got to the US people like that story that that's a wild Story That's a crazy then they were like why don't you write these stories because you don't tell these stories on stage then I'm like yeah cuz these are not comedy like stories you know I haven't turned them into standup comedy and then they were like you should put them in a book then and I was like it's a different way to communicate with people did you grapple with the fact that you you're naming it the same as one of your as uh one of your DVDs no I didn't mind that cuz Bor of crime wasn't in South Africa where no there's no DVD called Bor of crime isn't there no there is no there's no DVD called that a show a show that sorry my mistake I did a show in Edinburgh called Born of crime why do I know about that show then if I wasn't in Edinburgh [ __ ] okay you know things you're not supposed to know I know right I'm like an Insider so this is the thing now I'm just like you know things you're not supposed to know okay so those a show in Edinburgh yes you you were a DJ but you never gave yourself a DJ name no right y I thought hard about that e but then why didn't you what's your DJ name I was the dominatrix of the airwaves are you being serious I promise you for exactly 3 weeks and then it sounded silly so I stopped it I never what did I have no I didn't can we can we give you a DJ name quickly what's my DJ name I think you would have been like DJ pretty [Laughter] boy oh that's funny when I was a DJ I wasn't pretty okay uh think about it no like it was just DJ Noah DJ Noah yeah the arc it was Noah's AR that was the name of my show okay then you're fine then what it went how did it go again it was Akin 's voice and then he went um is this the radio show on ym okay yeah then what did he used to say for for to introduce my show 2 by two no yeah he'd say something like that he'd go um uh when the lights go down and it's after dark they come in two by two into Noah's Ark and then I'd play like a little introduction of all like the DJs who wrapped about Noah make it like V was in the mix there like just all the rappers who were like my man Noah then I was like yeah yeah that's me that's me and what what type of show did you wish to do cuz now I'm digressing radio yes cuz I want to talk about your book but let's talk about radio quickly I I just like to talk you must remember my show was at 3:00 in the morning on weekends on I've been there yes so I was talking to people you know when you know all of your callers personally cuz it's all for people are phoning we're going to take calls hello Trav oh Javas how are you my man ah Trevor I'm fine Trevor so you remember last week when we were talking about he like yes I remember Javas Javas you need to answer the question which which um song by noty by nature is your favorite yeah dval I'll answer that one after but listen you know last week TR with and then you like you know the people personally but you know them they became your friends the phone lines you knew exactly who was calling where then I was just like I'm just doing a show I always thought my show was just a show to help drunk people get home safely you were like uber yeah basically I was there was no Uber you were Uber before Uber get you home safely that's that's who I was I was like I'm going to get you home I used to say to people guys if you're drunk please stop for a little bit relax in the car drink some water lie lie down in the back seat and then rate me when you give me five stars give me five stars when you get home St Javas is going to get your book give me five Javas you better wherever you are you better go and get born of crime so I'm one of the people who got to write a I reviewed your book and then I had to like write is that called a blur that thing you write on the back it's a blur n so I wrote a blur thank you do have you seen my blur can I read you my pleas the BL borner crime strikes a perfect balance of humor and seriousness it is wild and calming it makes you want to sit and reflect silently and also pick up the phone and question loved ones it is both tosa and swiss the two forces that created this crime Bravo Trevor this book gave me all the answers about you to questions I never knew I had oh thank you an are you genuinely moved by that are we kumb no I'm being serious I that's the thing about the book cuz I generally think I know you in fact I know I know you but then I read this book and I realize I actually don't know you but we don't know you know what I realize is this with friends and family we take for granted that we know people but we don't know people because we we don't often like ask people questions and and you can't get all the answers from asking questions I know you I know what you like I know what you don't like I know what makes you laugh what makes you not you know I Know Who You Are but there are things that we don't share with each other you know there are things that sometimes it's even easier to write it down and give it to somebody than than to say it to someone's face so I get that a lot and I you know people go I didn't I didn't know that but I've known you my whole life that happens with comedians as well sometimes some of my friends will say something in a show about their lives and I say but I didn't know that and they're like yeah I don't tell that to people did you find yourself uh A little vulnerable writing this book yeah definitely definitely because because I talk about everything one of the biggest things I've learned to talk about that's the hardest thing to talk about especially for South Africa but even in the world is growing up in a world of domestic abuse because we've gotten to the place where like for some reason the victims are the ones who are ashamed you know no one wants to say my mom gets beaten by my dad because now you were ashamed I don't live in a perfect house no one wants to say and you're not necessarily protecting your mom you're actually protecting your dad it's a strange thing yeah you go I don't I don't want to say that I have been in an abusive relationship I don't want to say that somebody you get what I'm saying and so you live in a world where women and children are protecting these men who are the ones who should be the ones who are ashamed yeah men are walking through the streets confidently prot you know yeah yeah I gave her I gave her and you're like you should be the one who's ashamed why am I I didn't do anything I'm the victim here we are the victims why are we the ones who are not speaking and I realized the more we speak about it the more we can get it out there the more we get it out there the less people are ashamed there's nothing to be ashamed about the only people who should be ashamed are the ones who are doing it because if you're a man who lays his hands on a woman you're not a man you don't belong yeah and I understand that there are many forces many men especially you know when it comes to the world that they've lived in men live in a space where we are taught not to share we are taught not to feel uh we are taught not to cry we are taught not to be afraid we are taught you must be unable must but what happens to you is you then live in a world where you are constantly trying to be more than you are or more than you believe you should be and what happens is for some men that breaks them and they can only realize their power by oppressing somebody else so I I definitely felt vulnerable writing a book because it's the truth did you have to ask your mom for permission to write it and just say listen this is what I'm going to do I'm going to say these things no because unfortunately for for us our stories in the newspapers okay you know once the tabloids have written your things there's nothing is there anyone yet to ask for permission to write this book no so you just it's my story uhhuh it's my story okay you know so so I think at the end of the day and and I've one thing I don't do I don't try to hurt people there's nothing in the book where you go ah Trevor how can you say that about that person no no no no no no cuz secrets are still people Secrets I believe in certain things where I respect you MH you know but sharing my thoughts and my life that's what's in the book all right after the break more on Bor of [Music] [Music] [Music] cry [Music] so if you've just joined us you're probably wondering what's going on here real talk with anelia I'm in New York on troa set on The Daily Show and I'm interviewing the man himself he's just released a book Bor of crime I read it I like I say I loved it I found you know answers to questions that I never knew I had about you because I would have just asked him be like hey so you know you're dead and the one thing I I took out of the book uh reading about about your dad is that I feel like he taught you patience yes he did um besides the fact you know when you went you finally found him after a few years you guys had been a strange and then you found him and you went to go visit him in Cape Town and you were firing all these questions at him you know and he was like whoa Trevor is this an interview but he taught more important than patience he taught me efficiency that's really what it is okay so he taught me in and around a lot of the time we do things yeah and we do everything we don't even ask why we're doing or how we're doing it or you know we just do it okay that makes sense now and then he goes what is the most efficient way to do it that's a swi way of thinking Precision but when it comes to the relationship between you two because I mean now you were dying to catch up on all these years where you know you guys weren't speaking well you didn't you didn't fight you just fizzled out then you find him and you're spending a weekend with him and because you feel like you've lost out you're asking him all these questions and he's like is this an interview and then you were like yeah but I just want to get to know you and then he he said how do you get to know who your friends yes you just you just talk and you live with them by spending time with them so when you say efficiency are saying spending time with purpose yes basically because if you think about it if you're trying to get to know someone yeah the most efficient way to do it is not to question them because if you're questioning them they're answering you if they're answering you they're answering you based on your questions if you merely exist with them I find that the person will be when they be you will know who they are okay so that's a direct lesson yes that was like that's you know that's for me looking at him and watching him and without him you know interacting with you and talking to you what's an indirect lesson that you've learned just by watching your dad wow that's an interesting one that's an indirect lesson that I've learned just by watching him yeah he's content in himself know he's not doing it for other people he's not just to look at me he's just doing it sometimes we get tricked into that you do it for the people you're not doing it for yourself like who are you by yourself when no one's there when it's just you at home when you look in the mirror who do you see who do you want to be and that's something that I I learned from him he's not doing it for anyone or anything he is who he is because that's who he wants to be what's the nicest thing you've heard him say about your mom the nicest thing oh you know is that like she could light up a room always he was just like is your mom he always asked me go like so your mom is she still making the people happy huh she's still yeah she's still running she's still he always talked about her life you know her her energy like her zest and her energy yeah and what's the nicest thing you've heard your mom say about him he's great with money that's like the can I tell you something that's the biggest gift my dad gave my mom and the family okay he taught us the importance of money and how to manage money you know because we were living in a world where where unfortunately it's it's the Trap that a lot of black people fall into we get money thing we want to do is where's the car where's the house where's the clothes we we never think of the tomorrow we know we haven't had for long enough so in your book you say your mom taught you how to talk to wom you'd walk into the house and then you wouldn't look at her in the eyes like yeah hi Mom bye mom and she's like Trevor look at me in the eyes yes and talk to me because one day you're going to live with a woman and you need to be able to look her in the eyes and talk to her and tell her how you feel and tell her that you love you have to see her uhhuh you have to see her men and women communicate very differently very differently for guys we value different things than what women value most of the time you know so for guys like we'll like a guy will go like you know people get into fights and be like we haven't spent any time together then the girl be like we spent the whole weekend together then the woman goes no but that wasn't quality time you were on your phone your friends were here the other day went there there you were playing on Playstation you were watching soccer you were doing this then like but we had a bride together yeah but that was with everyone your woman will appreciate it more if you spend one hour with her in a day where you just look her in the eyes nowhere else just in the eyes the whole time tell me baby tell me everything how was your do don't look at your phone don't look just 1 hour every day your woman will appreciate that more than spending a whole day with her doing this talking uh and then my mom taught me these things she was like you know communicate differently a woman and a man don't use the same languages of love in the same way so you learn these things my mom had to raise me you know to be a man exactly and I mean she was a single mom raising you to be a man so she had to you know practice the tough love on on you so I don't I don't I think she is but I have to ask this is she is she like asking you when the grandkids are coming and oh really yeah of course you never speak about that of course so is she like just I don't care if you get married just bring me a kid now my mom is like where is he where is the child huh and what was funny is my whole life my mom was like if you get a girl pregnant you leave this house this house you're not coming in m mom used to say I'll take the child and you'll go oh wow You'll swap runes that will be my child and then you'll go find your way in the world I you're a man now so go and be a man so I was like my whole life I was like yo okay okay make sure Trevor make sure make sure no mistakes no mistakes no mistakes no mistakes Safety First no mistakes and then now my mom is like and then she's out there pricking I will get a grandson sending me those government condoms stapled the stapled ones sending me stapled condoms so when are you when when when are you getting a child yeah I don't know it's not like I like I'm trying so you're not Curr I understand why everyone just wants children cuz I my son needs a playmate oh so this is for you it's going to be a long commute though this is now I'm like hey Mom I'm going to Uncle Trevor's house I'm just going to take this 19 hour flight w w no that's the thing sometimes I wonder why people have kids I'm like you just so we're just making them V we're just all going to make them why because you need to use there's no SP yeah you leave something behind build a house you you live in New York you know how to live with no space okay don't come here and say there's no space no but there's no space though like sometimes I wonder I go like maybe I'll have a kid maybe I won't maybe I'll adopt maybe cuz I'm like there's so many people so you really want to make more you no man tror reading your book and the way your mom described having you that she wanted something that was her own yes you have to want a little bit of that yeah well sometimes sometimes I go y it would be cool you know you're like yeah little man I'll have a little version of myself then I see that then I see a kid yeah at the shops with their [Music] mom then I'm like I don't want those things those things I don't want them you'll change your mind you will change your mind on the way uh I asked our friends to send questions in for you oh wow yes so our friends uh we'll see if they still friends after this right on the way you want to hear all about that stay with [Music] [Music] us and for the last time today welcome back to real talk on three I'm with prevor Noah his friends who are also my friends that's why I could email them and ask them this I asked them to to send you questions uh so once again like like in your book where you're giving us answers that we never knew I wonder if some people think we're like like TV friends cuz you know like there's people I remember when I remember when I was when I was first in TV my mom used to ask me questions about other celebrities like as if we were friends yeah so my M would and then' go Trevor what's this in Sunday Sun then I'm like what then she'd be like no I heard Kenneth and go is doing drugs then I'm like Mom I don't even know Kenneth that way I don't is he not right next to you yeah then like everyone thinks so I wonder if sometimes people think we are TV friends when in fact we really are friends real friends no no we are really friends this is this is just not you know it extends to this and it works in in our favor most of the time but you know real friends so one of our friends toisa says what's the thing you miss most about sa that you took for granted when you were there the thing I took for granted when I was in sa was the potential to grow that is the thing I missed the most you don't appreciate in South Africa a lot of the time people preach about how South Africa is crashing and how it's burning and it's turning into Zimbabwe and it's the worst place one thing we possess in the country if we are willing to Su it is the ability to grow there's untapped opportunities there is an untapped Market there is an untapped but both sides need to come together you know like Julius malma yeah people want to laugh at him and he says crazy things but he is right white Capital does need to acknowledge in some way that there is a black electorate that has been pushed away for so long but at the same time black people must also admit it's very hard to some for someone to just give away the money you youve got to find the compromise in every conversation you got to find and like if if people don't see it from both sides if people just go you're wrong you're wrong then go anywhere one goes move together and make there's always compromise and people go no compromise no comp then you're like you what you don't realize is if you don't compromise in a negotiation you'll compromise in war at some point you're going to get a compromise and so and when it's a force compromise exactly and so people don't real the one thing we have in South Africa man I took it for granted we have the potential to grow we have talent we have a Melting Pot of people that doesn't exist in most places in the world we have culture we have a rich history we have one of the best constitutions in the world an amazing democracy the way it's set up is phenomenal the fact people go out democracy out de no the fact that look at it in such a short space of time people going and I'm voting for The Da forget black white now I'm going this party choice this choice is now a thing Choice yeah and it's good because let's say if the ANC ruled forever that's not good because now what's happening is it's a monopoly and it's a dictatorship it needs to be a thing where even if the ANC is in power they are going we need to keep you we need to show you why you should vote for us not you voting just because this is not black party white party no we got to get to a point in politics where black and white are choosing sides you know and and you're choosing because of the party and what they represent for you so the biggest thing I took for granted you come to America they've been doing this for 200 years this democracy 200 years people fighting about the same things now there's not even a convers here people don't shift people don't go no next election I might do this no people are like this is who I am this is what I do if you're this person you go to that party if you're that person you go to that party and the country as a whole it's like jammed the the laws don't get made the country doesn't move you don't feel the same move to stand in the same place there's less growth in the economy the like with us we struggle because of corruption and because of things that you see with the president and the way the systems are run that's a that's a problem but we can fix it when it's just a problem you can't see to maneuver our I always say in South Africa we've got problems the problems involve corruption and unfortunately fixing what has happened for so long we mustn't act like now it didn't happen it didn't happen you know for years people were poking holes in black people's buckets now you wonder why they can't get the water that they need you know and yes there are some black people who are very very rich they've got giant buckets but it doesn't mean there are people who don't so that's the biggest thing I enjoy and I miss about South Africa H wow very political that answer yours I'm just like we must all be political sometimes e we must all be political I realize that why do you say that you we take it for granted political doesn't mean you're a comrade or you're not no political means we are actively involved in how our world and our lives are being shaped when when you complain about potholes you don't realize that potholes are political when you complain about load shading you don't realize that's political everything you complain about in your life is political why is the highway not being built political why is the bridge falling political why am I not getting the money I'm supposed to get at work political why are there not more jobs political all of these things political why don't fees fall political all of these things are tied in I need to move on Kaa if you could skinny dip with anyone in the world would you put on sunscreen hey cha Kaya obviously you know Kaa is such a he's such a good guy and also at the same time such a dirty mind he's a dirty ancle yes and that laugh yes I would put on [Music] sunscreen CES why do you like cars so much why do I like cars so much because uh it was the one thing I couldn't get as a kid we never had a new car my mom never bought a car on lay away lay by or monthly or none of that installment my mom bought things cash we could only buy the cheapest almost brok my car never had a handbrake did you did you ever buy a mama car when you made all this money no because my mom was like don't waste your money on a car she was like give me that money I'll go do something with it I'll go buy a house I'll buy property M's like Trevor hi you're going to waste money then I was like let me buy you a nice car I don't want nice cars my mom goes I buy old cars so if someone steals it or breaks in I don't care Oh someone like bumps in I don't care people bump my mom my mom's like I drive it's fine toisa is taking us back to politics how prepared for Donald Trump did Jacob Zuma make you yo that's a tough one I honestly say what you want about Bob J you know Jacob Zuma has not been the best shining Beacon of a leader yeah in the country uh what the ANC has done has let down the legacy of what the ANC was supposed to do you know I'm glad that voters are holding them accountable because the only way you can make people become better is by showing them that you're not happy by voting for somebody else the biggest thing like man one thing I'll say about Jacob Zuma is he's not Donald Trump is an idiot man and Jacob isn't Jacob is not an idiot he's not an idiot yeah the fact that I mean many there's too much corruption in and around his world but Donald Trump is an idiot man like we're talking about a stupid person who does not know what is happening way would Jacob people be like he can't read numbers what no whoever writes his speeches must stop writing WR them as the number have you ever tried to read billions try there it's not easy they must write it as words one 700 and 22 he has bad eyesight and they write for him here's another thing I always say to people yeah you know one thing we take for granted is that you have a president who's presidenting in English you know that doesn't happen anywhere in the world a president presidenting in a language that's not theirs that's not theirs I go imagine if Jacob Zuma only spoke Zulu all the time yes do we think he'd be saying the same things in the same not a chance yeah so he is funny we're going to make jokes about the things cuz he's our president you know and we mustn't let him off the hook but I also go don't make the mistake of thinking the person is stupid he's not he was not stupid to get there Everyone likes to make that mistake and he's staying there they go Julius stupid Julius is not stupid jul is one of the smartest people around Jacob is not stupid Donald Trump no guys stupid no Mish stupid M St an what are you like when you are in love what am I like when I am in love I'm like when I'm not in love really can I tell you why why because I realized that if I love myself and I have friends that love me and family that loves me I exist in a constant space constant state of love love so you don't have to like shift into this real have you never had do you know how much that thing will destroy your life now you happy things are going well at work you're walking through the streets people like Trevor hey what's happening Good Times mus is you know music's always playing in your head then that person leaves now they leave with my happiness they're going to leave with my happiness like it was a couch we bought at lbas and then I didn't pay for it and now they get to take it no guys they leave with my happiness I can't allow that but as a woman I do want to see the change that I've brought yeah you can amplify me you can amplify me but you just make me more of myself the way I want to make you more of yourself but then look I want to be like you know you know Trevor's friends say before I came along no that's artificial really no before I came along what so I wasn't a good person before I met you you you were you were you were fine you were great no people want power over each other they want to say without me you wouldn't be that mad without me no no you must be like that's who I am this person can you guys look happy together that's what I like I like that phrase when they go you guys look happy together that's nice but they must say yo before you I don't want people saying that I don't because you want to you want to know that you were like this finished product before this person came Al no I don't want people to say ever no one must ever say that to you that means you haven't worked on yourself you were relying on somebody else to complete your happiness for you no guys no the way I am in love is the way I am now I'm I'm exactly the same I used to be that person where love would change my life then I'm crying on the couch eating PR neutral watching old Africans cartoons on TV watching zet and and and zap and z mag and all y you know crying the looking at my phone on WhatsApp last scene ticks no reply blue blue no reply blue blue hello are you there hello no guys no no no no okay two more questions and then I have to let you go uh are you currently in love yes I'm very much in love oh look at that very much in love babies PE babies H last question are you happy yeah I'm I'm very happy and I work on being happy that's the thing I learned happiness is a choice happiness is hard work happiness is something you choose to be people go like I want to be happy be happy then you know you you take for granted the idea that happiness is something you can achieve is if I can just get that job yeah then I'll be happy you know if I can just get that car then I'll be if I can just get that girl I'll be happy what you don't realize is you need to be happy now and then just those things will come to you yeah just the love like Theory I like it actually you get what I'm saying be focus on being happy focus on think of all the things you know like when I go back man I think of the happiness that we achieved with nothing think about growing up in the township what like what were we doing we're just playing with what with a sock do you get what I'm saying that was the best game yeah that was the I remember in school sukuk banana a belt has never brought me Greater Joy scopal who was like one thing so much joy can come from nothing because you go I will find the happiness there was no kid in the township who was crying saying ah we don't have a shopping mall ah we no no we were playing games and we were living our life like you you can be happy in what you have you can have a family I remember visiting friends where I would visit a friend big family small house not lots of money and so much happiness Maris and then You' go to another family so much money no happiness cold you have to choose what do you want to be I want to be happy I'm not saying that means life is not tough doesn't doesn't mean you can't experience pain but you go I choose to be happy because you're choosing so for instance if you're flying somewhere and your flight gets delayed why are you angry doesn't change anything it's delayed yeah it's not like now you're going to put petrol with your anger when there's traffic why are you angry ah traffic it's changing nothing it's just your mind and you're telling yourself I must now become angry you get what I'm saying so i' I've come to realize I am happy and I work at being happy it doesn't mean I can't get angry it doesn't mean I can't get sad I'm still a human being but I'm very happy so you'll still be happy even if your book doesn't sell yeah because my book hasn't sold now think about it yeah all you can do is send me back to this place where I am now no one has bought my book right so I'm fine so if someone buys my book that's one more person than had bought my book before and that person is you so you you there please go and buy Trevor's book born of crime out at store soon Trevor thank you so much this was such a blast is this on sac3 yes I always wanted to be on sabc3 you were which my dream was to get to sabc 3 cuz it was like levels yeah was levels one and then sabc 2 and then3 all right this has been real talk from New York City thank you so much Trevor Noah once more please be the one person who does the right thing a you pay your TV license and B you go oh by the way before you say that sabc stop telling me to pay my TV license I don't live there anymore oh go away no I don't live there anymore [Music] guys but [Music] I'm my Sal how do you think I got here I have [Music] that's cheeky

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