Real Talk with Anele Season 3 Episode 29 - Thembisa Mdoda

with over 500,000 trees and shrubs already planted and growing it's easy to forget you are in the city we don't just say we juice it's the same 50 way [Music] [Music] good afternoon you are watching Real Talk with me I nail on a CBC three with the stage is yours so my guest today is a some favorite of your Sunday evening viewing pleasure just by me saying Waseca a born our chat is surely you can give who she is she recently bagged the best presented Golden Horn at consensus you may have heard her voice on touch HD during a thing during the lunch much and she's appeared on theater stage TV adverts TV shows and some international films she has been through it all seen it all but her charm and bubbly personality has won over many hearts this is a treat for me without a doubt today I'm handing over the stage to my big sister my best friend my confidante the alter ego - might be dancing today you're watching Real Talk with awesome daughter sisters and Nina and Theresa oh you've never seen that it Oh why were you avoiding watching it I don't know first of all because I don't even know what I said yeah it's I just went update because I was literally I was very shocked I know that's all thank you keep it together and that's all I could hear walking back okay and I see it cuz I'm like if you cry we're not going to hear it on eBay because I know you okay you were full of emotions I'm like shoot what a family keep it together even getting emotional watching just watching I think I put I understand when you say you haven't watched it because you just like did I thank the right people do that but you felt like you felt you thank the right people yeah I felt like at that moment I said what really needed to come out of my heart at that point and I just said it I didn't realize and my over for 30 seconds am I not is a music starting I was just yeah okay so here's the thing for the intro that I gave I will I grow did many times because I had said this is how much introduce you yeah she used to hide food in the drawer because she didn't want to eat it I remember - pumpkin she'd literally hide it in the in the drawer in the kitchen I didn't know and we play dress Melling for days mhm yeah thank my moms a back bar room with nail polish and they would all get beaten up yes I used to take the money for the bus and then spit into my friends and walk home I marry all the troublesome child my gosh and you used to just survive on tomato and salt good yes that's what that was my favorite thing too much and salt and then mom would find it next to the date in the morning when you wake up but that bit of tomato that gets left over and the hook or the other meant just after you stash in your food away yeah cuz it wasn't a fan of food I would you still not a fan of sweet though you fana like yeah like you have ribs and wings but like I just I don't see you as much of an eater it's not your thing no actually nah yeah I'm not gonna lie yeah not it's not your thing yeah what's your earliest memory of like us growing up as kids like I want to compare now yeah my earliest memory I think it has to be in touch 16 atomic Donna and and we used to watch the ball in the beautiful yeah and then we take the wheelbarrow and would reenact all of the things in the garage and we've had like very the broom as the boom unlike a little camera they get last camera action when we run 12 faces I remember that I remember the peaches moms peaches the peach trees or the various trees there you had to clean those and then we had to watch the other boys coming in to steal the peaches and throw stuff a pair and then we attack them for Chinese two pieces of you yes yes so when it was time for us to move from home tactic of ours six so obviously you were eight yeah right yeah when it was time for us to move what was your anxiety about moving did you have any because like I decided to move to Joe good luck you know what's happening Joe packets lights and it leaves you you and we're going I don't know where we were why were you not asking questions like I do not pronounce questions because it all happened so fast I get inside universe really late at night no the soldiers no there's no that wasn't touch at that time was very volatile yeah we've enlisted three a.m. in the morning with an advisor as she saw Gia so now IPV into the transplant a strain so we had to wait then hide and then get into the bus and then all the way so I'm like I'm never going to ask because these two mom and dad look like they a lot of internal right are saying the questions gonna get in I asked where we going to say Joker hello Jay okay let's go to Joker's because life no I did not fly over fictive old lying anybody hey I don't know who was going so like David but in the face who you were in a production you played turkey Lurkey yes would you say that where the drama sing start well it was in preschool when it didn't appear again and then like then it just after after mitrik it just came out of nowhere and like totally embodied itself in you I think um in preschool I was I think was a little quiet but I was bossing in that production I remember very clearly and even when I took my bow it took me longer than everybody else yeah you know and I really I enjoyed it because I think those people that I worked with I mean it was a pretty cool production yeah there's a lot of fun but I don't remember you guys name signing out because you were changing Lakey Tencent or goofy only random Jay cooler yes yes and I also remember it very vividly and when I was in high school sports took over and I became very competitive yeah and I would go and in addition for maybe a musical I'd get in and then they say you can't really do both if you want to do first in label and do musical trio I was like I need to beat willow reach Perseus so you guys can sing by or Denzel okay oh I never knew you were picking between the two yes of course I really wanted to do it I went to about two rehearsals and it was so much fun I think we're in Sound of Music yes Freccia and it was really great but then they were like because we'd virtually certainly poor you practice everything yeah and you play provincial netball yeah so then that would pick up the words of your time yeah but now the language thing yeah sounds like he's gonna be so smart my words how is the bed we moved to so many places I'm going Petersburg we were we were everywhere and you pick up the languages and none of us did added to the course you should ask yourself I will show what the thing is you're so good at my drama and Sookie and everything else I can try like I can hear but something like you you speak it like you embody it like that I'm saying because we woke up in the same arm and went to the same places and yet it's cut what me what is that if you are you just like naturally limited love languages I think I just I just any way that you can express yourself and be heard by everyone that for me is a great thing and I like the way they express different things in different ways I mean because I will express it in different than so on I wanna in baby you know windage everything I think anything that that comes with the bit of effort a bit of performance I I tend to to get attracted to you know so basically saying you're dramatic hell yeah I don't where is that moving around a lot this is before go to an ED break I just want you all so we moved around a lot geography like you were bullied anyway yes um Petersburg I have felt bullied because I'm indicating it's ten six grade eight okay every day whatever you know and they made me carry their bags and like totally toothbrushes while they come be here cuz we were in hostel yeah and I would never understand it and there was a time wave the son of neither member tricks would be like no we pick on criticals and for me that didn't make sense at the time because I'm like I'm pretty privy I don't understand doctor like abuse you know I'm I just feel that I was bullied and I felt that it takes a long time for me now to get to know people and and to be comfortable in spaces because of that yeah interesting time for quick break when we return we will actually not we cuz I know her ready you will get to note if you say a little bit more don't forget that today is the last day that you can enter our weekly competition the winner will be announced tomorrow will be back I love the material talking studio with me today is my personification of black blue English level echo metrics is one of my mother's children my own sister 10 B some data graphic design so you matriculate and quite well you know yeah and then you pick graphic design I'm not gonna lie I saw that coming out of Norway I just like dude one minute you wanted to study radiology yes do you know what happened my dad was really thing my dad is right there so your dad my dad yeah say no you're very good with computers and all things technological but you you creative as well put it together let's do something like informatics when it takes me all the way to tax some walking them dragging people I can learn all about informatics and is like nothing I'm like oh my gosh and then is that also but you like radiology because you know all over the pole and then I was like I'm really I want to study fashion design in exactly there's no money they don't even don't stage and drama we all believe us to sketch dresses all the time when they went to functions out sketch their dresses and in bed Gail had been made and his shirt and mom's dress and everything so I'm like he's gonna be okay with this so he said no he said no and then he said okay let's put together something technology computer was creative size you like graphics I'm like okay fine I wait I studied I graduated came back and I said hey go can I go to drama now how long did it take you to convince him the whole drama thing because you worked a little at aggressive design campaign and and I was just like wall she's making money and then the next when you came home you like enrolled oh I would say for about 3-4 months yeah and then I wanted to go to the Grahamstown Festival and they were like no you won't be a performance of like sending my check cake and you know where to send good stuff and I walked out of it I got on a bus to Grant's out and then I went to watch and the festival I came back a few days and I was like said my dad out and I said I want to be on stage okay what did something happen in grandson we kind of what happened um the friends that I was with were all it Pachauri taken Rove doing graphical and high okay and then we went question asking about the truth and there's a scene where dr. John Carney walks into the stage and just financing oh is that the obsession is but Kenny started who fishing he not get to it or get it yeah and now so if he just walked and you sat down newspaper and that's when I think Cameron invited in yeah I was a resident in I don't remember the time and the the atmosphere everybody was just silent there was no one choking those one looking at the falls were naturally odd was just silent and watching this moment and and even the priests it was just falling together how and then I was like suppose what I want to do personally oh that's not yesterday and then I went home I was like that's what I want to do and then you enrolled into it I actually I decided I would surface and I applied and they called me in for an audition I auditioned they asked me to sing and I sank and then they said okay go to the main theatre and they're like basically you've made it oh wow they told me that day anybody else I think a lot of other people had to wait they told me that day that I waited for like and I was on my birthday as well as the 16th of November I remember quite well 2003 that's when I went and so I went home and I fit my dad listen before you see my dad again listen I want to do this you know just allow me to would you say then that the scene that you did in the road where you were kneeling on the on the ground and would twice and you were channeling the spirits I have to say it so anyone can understand yeah that was like the culmination of years and years of everything you'd learned everything you were everything you've been through it literally lived through that scene because I I didn't recognize you and I usually I can go to my system not go okay that seems I should give you but that moment I didn't recognize you I didn't even visit myself I actually ran away from that scene for about three weeks really and this Gibson and Desiree and kukuana would be like what are we doing to see and I'm like no okay you know what guys okay then we like we have to bring in someone because the spirits and the ancestors are something very very special and very sacred you know if you really grow up around it yeah if you go to call them if it needs to be a reason and if you go to call any ancestors also that's not right even for the sake of acting so I said if I'm going to do this I'm going to do this right and also my training had to go in there because I can't go too far I need to be able to say my the lives that I have been given and also draw from from the moments that I'm given as well and also draw from from the set around me and know which cameras are where and where the director is to point me to turn in what so it's very technical but I had to be in the moment in order for it to work Wow okay you know you never save these things during Sunday lunch now we just get under there and say all right God and say that you like to look good you traced very well you always have like the nicest bags and all of the stuff but you're not driven by money you don't strike me somebody who like life money do you know anything so I can never balance the two I'm like which is always wearing all these amazing things and yet like I mean dad used to like leave his card with us and sign checks mean just you can whatever you need money and you go good and it's not like you know there was a beauty did that teach you like the financial freedom and just being okay with money here I think because of the way we were raised I mean in terms of money and like material things yeah I mean alcohol there's nothing that we've ever abused and because they they've taught us those fundamentals and so I I don't think money is an important thing I want to make lots of it because I want my children to have the most amazing life I want them to have all of those things but I love I love to look good but I don't think you just spend a lot of money to look good you know what I mean did you have a dress or is your end this dress was a hundred fifty right all right I'm going to it and it looks like it was like the face no that's no no you know so then if man is very important looking good is what else is important to you besides loan Abu Nabil I mean the kids will get you later and I know that there are your absolute life but what else is important to you art I think art is important I think and art because it's such a is our world and everything is inside it it doesn't matter if you think you are not doing something that's artistic you are what are you doing accounting there's an art to it oh you know so everything has an art to it and for me everything I do and is some sort of art and some sort of performance whether I am on radio and performing somehow stage TV you know but it's a Miss with jinhwan all time and you basically ticked all the corners of it because you you know you've got the graphic side to it thanks to your favor informatics you've got the dramatic side to it because you've done drama adverts you've got the presenting side said because you know you've done our persuading you've got deny on radio so you basically like doing this full circle in the circle of odd mumping a continue to presenter long ago all matter of the continued to be later on what was before is ABC one would look after Tolan and I'm a lawyer LVT ddv another Wednesday when would sit and mom would make us paper every night and then should come back and cut herself yeah work a fix us where we get it from when you see mom on TV was there anything in you and I think you have our 1011 the indented I want to be on bed verses it says yeah I loved it do you know she did of such easy Impala and and the rapport she had was with her competitors and the love tight it was so it came so natural to her yeah and I think that's I think that's just a woman that she wants you know that's that's just who she was and I was like you know what that even if it's not presenting that if people can see that on me through the TV 20 I'm done listen it's it there's something about losing your mother that is so finite and inexpressible a wound that will never heal after the break my an item such at about grieving the loss of our mother what that lost taught us her journey to healing and ultimately indirectly affecting my journey to healing as well we'll be right back and welcome back to realtalk with myself on a limb daughter so eight years ago on January the 4th our mom lost her battle to pancreatic cancer leaving us and daughter goes to pick up the pieces with the help of our dad was always said that as a unit we can survive anything you we were in Cape Town and then dad cold is like I figure I should come home yeah so I left on the 3rd and then you couldn't get a flight in you came back on the horse in the morning in the morning and then you know the day happened but mamas in hospital yeah I went to see at 10 a.m. that morning 8:00 yeah and then we were all at home and they deadlift yeah cuz I was sleeping downstairs by the couches by the bomb the by uh any witnesses no I need to go see a mom I have a feeling and then he left ok so he told yet yeah nobody just said you're gonna go see it was strange to me because dad would never go see mom with other yeah that kind of felt kind of strange that it's going to see here with others yeah and then been on his way back grandmom mom's mom kind of read it up into ten minutes room and there was like a meeting bit and then I thought okay - clearly there's some medical decisions to be made because I did not see that one coming also you didn't see the bomb coming so when dad walked in and was sitting on the carpet all of us yeah did you look at his face I think when you started speaking on you he's not highlighting his feet right because out and I just need when I was waiting for him to confirm it because I was like maybe I'm no no it can't be it can't be you know uh-huh so and then once he said my mouth she Amy I can't tickets okay after that like after I said mama has left us could you hear anything upset because it was ringing okay look like silent right I just remember what it was sorry onaji what photo we're not being inventive you're an idiot no but I'm I'm painting the picture yeah okay falling to the floor and also I was on my knees and then I just sat down there was just a lot happening at that time and I think in my mind it was just trying to sit in and I was just feeling pain all over my body just like okay it can't be you know after that like emotion and like that I just think it was I couldn't share anything I could see a lot of things happening yeah and I was just sitting they looked at everyone and I couldn't hear anything like my ears just went blood like we're on a plane right yeah the what what sentence capital for you because I have I have the first thing I heard in my head do you remember what the first thing you heard after that the first thing I heard was grandmama saying no but guys she was sick you know you know it was bound to happen when we just went over her yo cool super sensitive house day and so obviously no they left and the anger because it goes to the first person to say something kind of done I think the second person to say something kind of done with me you remember when we came back from the hospital and by then the house was full yeah and we have to make tea and coffee for people and then and then we're running out of cups and coffee yeah but my mom had like these sacred Catherine coffee that you couldn't drink from like so reinforced so the waiting for the Queen of England to arrive before we use them so then I sit so then some is that what we need to use them I said you can't use those mom would die you use up you actually did say that and then everyone in the kitchen of junk fried it looked it again I was like I'll let myself out and also people attacked they were like okay do we look at her do we look sad yeah do we laugh because you know I think I saw it oh yeah this is like okay do you remember the right so obviously after dad told us were been in cutting two cars dad drove with Grandma Malcolm liberate us from her and then we were in my car and I was driving and I got in Vienna is yes so they were going to the hospital do you remember what happened at hospital I do because when we got there they had covered her with a sheet up until here so that we don't see the blood and well the way they've been working as they were trying to save her life yeah and I couldn't stay in the room I couldn't stay I couldn't breathe and I just I just it was something in that room that I just couldn't deal with so I went to go get some air outside and then dad brought me back in is I don't know you have to go through this and that's when we said goodbye to her we just just obey I remember just standing Lee and and you can't really say goodbye in that moment no you have to say everything you ever wanted to say you know what what do you feel like you had not say to mom that you still want to Phaedra I said you I love you there's a lot there's a lot but because I think for the longest time um I would speak to dad about a lot of things because I I think I would I would think that me and mom our personalities clash yeah but it was just because I wouldn't allow her in you know and when she wanted to speak um I wouldn't I will be open you know and and that for me I wish I spoke to her yes I was a little in more I wish I laughed of her more I wish I wasn't in my mind so much that that I didn't get to know her I got to know a lot about her and a lot more of her after after I passed away you know and because I speak to her every day without fail I will say my prayers I speak to her since the ancestors and I get to know so much more about her I don't know how and I'm open now as a person you know so I hope she's probably but do you not think that because mom was such a strong woman like she was always so strong like over to never showed weakness area we were trying to emulate that that then we were always have to be strong ally and the one person was a wants to be weak with loss nausea and you feel like to develop we miss out on being weak with yeah I think with it and and and getting to know her and and I just know sometimes when I'm telling the boys I don't do that you're out of my planner you know and they'll mom guns on you cuz mom comes out so quickly and I just smile and I minute are you signing it and you're gonna smell pee shouting you won't believe you hello what what one listen did mom teach you that you definitely want Luneberg learn I believe to know value yourself you you are a commodity you are expensive each and every smile should that put your smile to me is worthy you know um and and this is why for me I right now as a person I think I've learned that this especially after my divorce because valuing yourself and see yourself as someone who is worth with yourself who someone you can stand amongst the biggest Giants in the world and still be great it doesn't matter whether you sweep the streets or you're making tea you are the one that's making me tea you are great nobody's gonna drink tea unless you make a mess you make a girl you know favor and I used to treat everyone the same yeah the last would be the same with the guy parking a car as well maybe the president would kind of old aha come to how to do it and it would be the same man yeah and you know what I think I channel a lot of her when I'm when I'm on our perfect wedding because people are so giving when you open yourself up to them and this what I learned from mom and her style oh well well well well now where she's put together the phrase mom off the break I said to my sister Timmy's about the growing pains of adopting motherhood the choices she has made and how these have molded her into the woman she has become I'm gonna get more real stuff on realtalk and welcome back to realtalk nice vc3 weather stage today belongs to Tim be some sorta my sister is courageous is driven incredibly talented and she's a fierce lioness of a mother I learned how to be a mother from her so I mean you know listen when did you know that it was love between you and atella varsity yes yeah I think it wasn't was because you guys were in first year together I mean first Lana yeah from from the beginning I think because we were such close friends yes and and and from the beginning when he'd come over to the house mom would black that's the one yeah I know your father that's the one you know and also he and I were would we went through all of those cheesing things in trying to make this Korean tide you see I really belong this traumatic thing you know and the beauty is he had never you know it was never I am drunk any Sun you know like the dedication I used to see in you guys like you have always late on campus release it then replace it at the bottom of Lulu's always with school of art oh yeah yeah whatever that was recover though well Missoula with Allah yeah okay so and then when did you know that it just wasn't love anymore I think it was probably the the final years of years no I think yeah because we were there about four or five years and we we were changing so much and neither of us were or maybe keep it up what's with the change yeah you guys look great yeah that's a pretty safe lick okay yeah I don't know better yeah I don't know whether it was because yes yes we love each other but okay so whose we've come to compromise who is going to follow you know and I dream a lot at the first two years of varsity I was attended girlfriend and then I grew into an actress and everyone best based actress and I think this my third year and and I stopped being that person and I Sun phenom in my mind there was a change to was there was a shift and I think we all want I said have no not amber was always a shift in the change in the gear but someone is always one step is behind the one sticking flower you know your name that's very true yeah yes that's very true I think there was never a time when you guys are like like literally we made up with the coxswain cooking yeah then it was fire maybe in the early earlier but we not make the mistake of mistake in that and thinking of the passion when we're constantly rubbing up against that my name is like we passion on each other yes we do and also we real artists and so we always try to go for the passionate emotional side of things and sort of logically thinking maybe you guys need to sit down and talk the communication also was was never a strong point for us you know and maybe just sat down and talked it maybe that could help you and but it would be always that emotional um you know and then photos everybody else love of my life yeah yeah yeah but um this is the favorite time way I'd say that I didn't respect Italian artists because that's something that driving yeah a family art - so do you guys think you owe each other an apology we have actually oh oh girl not an apology sorry I'm still in fight mode you don't tell me a few things answer like in everybody's still in fight mode that's the thing there no one really asked but my whole thing is my life is not for people up there - now no okay guys hello hello you ready tonight hello guys hello hello see Emma you know I'm not that kind of person I don't I don't do that I mean and I don't I don't think we've stopped really apologizing to each other okay you know and I think the the good thing is growing out of something and that is that has happened between two people for the two people to grow for the two people to realize it it doesn't matter for the rest of the world knows of the rest of the world and is staying and saying oh hey okay they're good now okay they okay now I actually don't care what the rest of the world would think you know and I would hope that she doesn't either now okay and as as your sister I I know it but I mean all families do this I know I don't shut up okay I don't really care like what happens all I kids that I'm ready to take inside right so I never got to care like what happened why it happened there yeah I'll just like don't disrespect my sister in public yeah if you want to say something to say to her face oh yeah other families so you know watch yourself and that's what I'm here for til I will change you but now what what what do you know that like okay can you like take any ownership of the the wrongness that happened between the two of a lot a lot hey a lot of alumnus and he knows it I know it we've sat down with spoken about it there is a lot and and and I think he needed to hear it from me you know he needed to hear it from me for all those years Hawai I was closed up a while I was blocked and why this when listen this happened one day when I came home it actually really hurt me so we've had to go back and do it step by step CMO and I have had to take a lot of sponsibility because I think a lot of what happened is me just not giving him the chance to be the husband you know the and always just like especially after mom died look something's about happened look something Bad's going to happen here you know and I never fully trusted in the moments that I had and again after all it happened so then you would always want as much happen so that what you'd always have like a safety place that you go to a like a sickness or something else that's going to make you feel like you know nothing is going to happen even when I wasn't getting booked for jobs you know and and he was and he was going to work I would be like I feel so useless because we've gone through this journey together and now we're here and we have these beautiful kids and he'd go to work I'm sure he'd come back and I'm still wearing the same kind I was weighing in the morning cuz I'm like guys hi and me what's going on with me but and once I started the road I learnt so much about what the person I did not want to be and I really was that person I was that person that didn't want to be and when I was on the road I opened up completely and then going onto our third wedding I just opened up completely and now I'm over a giving person I can invert very you know and the more I give the more I do not they might get right and the more I just do not care about what people say or what people do what happens outside that used to be a thing for me you know or bubble Gmail other Pty Limited you know that company but no no no no I think I can truly say that I am free and also with Nina as a family I love always like to the point where was him so Rena Yagami present man what is she walking or not pretty but where the game is very you're the media and um for me I would be like what is my personality why don't we get me nobody gets me can t you I had to go in deep introspection and I think everywhere happened allowed me to do that okay her life mantra is woke to the sound track of your own tune after the break we find out if she's now dancing to her own soundtrack and of course I want to know what those songs are we'll be back after this [Music] and we're back for the last time today my guest is not just an actress a radio presenter a TV presenter I mean TV presenter well Q you're an idiot I mean alright so but this is happening right this has been yeah you know I want for bass you know talk show that's all of us so the cheeki media and this is like a production team the camera guys me its collective you're the presenter it's basic thing yeah you we see you see you we see you're the boss yeah the day you started out perfect waiting the first episode that flight we were flying from East London and in the newspapers early that morning opportunity scandal debacle everyone out here and of obviously at understand we address that do you think that'll strategy from these sites to release it on the day you are yes of course okay of course I think so would you agree with me if I say that it helped you um immediately no but like everybody want to go watching I think no I well let me say this because um I don't think it helped me as such I think it just proved that whatever it is that they were planning really didn't work okay it just proved that the whole thing that I've been planning because we had been planning it for a while yeah that it didn't work I think that's what it proved to me and not they say that it helps okay I see what yelling but also it just proved because I remember saying to you look in three weeks time yeah no one's what I'm talking about this people only talk about the next thing so what work are you doing with rosing with Dennis she's actually not even living in the country at the moment I think she's in Uganda working on on television look Rosie is I worked with her she brought me in to do Vagina Monologues stage production with the most amazing people who never cook with on being a liberal my Sheila was on they Wisconsin and could you could you green amazing actress she was a and we did it to a woman on stage and with just did return a monologues it was amazing and from there we her night at the relationship started speaking a lot and and I admire her on so many levels and she was there for me the most when I went through everything actually even if I didn't have to call her she called me like let us talk to sit on the ground let us talk I'll talk you through it and she was amazing and so she introduced me to the woman at power and and power is something that is very important in this country I don't think many women use it enough because when you are down and you don't know what to do and you you've literally just feel like you've just been used as a scrub lap you know and what where do you go you go to people opposing women abuse they will listen to you they will take you in and do it everything that you need to do and she did that for me and someone a lot of your power in there is I found a lot of my power in that and and I think also when they searched it down and they say to you this is you are going to think that all of this is your fault you allowed to think that all of this that is happening and of course they're gonna make you sure that it because that's still abuse talking but it's not and you will stand and you'll remember this day when you're standing that you are standing now and you will not fall you're continue to stand and then when you're really going to take your step in the next type in the next step so I think it's very important to use those things that are available for women in this country and in in the darkness and everything that you went through do you when you are now standing because girl you standing or standing in my six inches you go ha ha do you not like regret not speaking to dead earlier um I do I really really do and there because is the first thing he said to me was no but I lost a sister to this how do you not come to me and tell me yeah you know and I really felt it but I thought you know the thing looked stronger in your marriage you know I actually really thought that I could fix it and there was also one of my biggest issues that justyou can be but you know we don't you Emily dad sister my aunt was murdered by her husband and when that happened I don't think mom and dad spoke to us enough about it because they didn't it was just that oh you know but she is what had passed away we go to her funeral dad was very emotional he was emotional memory I was crying at the funeral that's the first time I saw dad cry and when the priest was talking about how she had passed away that's the first time I knew what I'd have yes so then I was like oh God and then upset no one spoke to my father again so you know I think it's very important if you're going to be raising gold children you know I mean dad's an amazing father but also at the end of the day parents do you have that thing with they don't what they think they're not hurting you they don't wanna hurt you so don't tell me about things or they don't want you to fear whatever it is that you're venturing into but you need to be able to know so that you can know the fine you know what I mean yeah because it could be a verbal thing but it's the same form of these generals you need to be able to pick up when someone is coming at you sideways yes you know so that you like hey man my eggs kick the bag at me I was like I'm out of here like thanks I call them like ah you know yeah you have to be able to do to be able to see the signs and to know what it is for what it is and I'd be like no I need to you know so dad is obviously very proud of you Captain Awesome Captain Awesome is very proud of you what else can we look forward to that she's gonna be part of in the near future oh my goodness I am you've got two minutes we better start talking like I said when I said the speech I'm a Phoenix and rising from the ashes on because they tried it I'm doing two films this year alone one International one both moan oh we got it so America list are we going everywhere and it's weird and it's lovely because for this one they want me to close my gap just just for the forum so we're going to put veneers but it can be completely different person completely different character and I'm looking forward to it and then the second one I don't want to talk about it but there's two very brilliant female filmmakers selling me numbers they say oh you know stiffeners line it oh yes they are putting together the most amazing form and a female elphaba a team here for my show treetog I call this real talk I'm going to call as you know lean you're gonna follow ya Habibi yes I'm doing that and I'm working on that producer the side of things now I think we need to anything with all the time that we need to tell all the stories and tell our own stories so I'm working with a friend of mine and my I've got my production company up and running for her psycho productions and we are working on a series alo series oh wow yeah like the practice it's growing me so that archive but South African actors okay are we working on something like that and I'm looking to go back to the stage as well when I get to tell him she like that if ever loved is my passion and I'm having the best time of my life at touch HD the environment the music people that I work with touch is an incredible leader a mentor I'm enjoying myself you know the radio for side okay we gotta go now why are you wearing a ring way under under yeah you fan these rings are so beautiful I'm serving I loved them so much that I thought let me wear these rings to realtalk with I'm Amy okay and that's it from us that's it from this after winning Duras sisters you know Beyonce put it perfectly when she said cuz we a listers we paid sisters thank you too Toby Sam daughter for keeping it real with me on realtalk she is my constant inspiration and support and she has continuously demonstrated that when life gives you a bad hand what matters is the way you keep moving and playing tomorrow we back at 5:00 p.m. it's a 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Channel: Cheeky Media

Views: 515,668

Keywords: Real, Talk, With, Anele

Id: itras49nAas

Length: 44min 20sec (2660 seconds)

Published: Mon May 15 2017