The Silva Family - Season 2 Episode 12 | Full Episodes | Supernanny USA

hi we're the Silva family I'm Danielle I'm Tom Tom and I have seven kids when Tom and I got married Tom brought in two children from his previous marriage Megan who's 17 Allison who's seven I brought in Cheryl who's eight McKenzie is six and together we have Riley is two casiah is one and a half and Kaden is 6 months I work full-time for the Army National Guard my current Duty assignment Takes Me Away From Home I leave Monday mornings I come home Friday nights so I'm gone all week what are you guys doing people don't really understand what it's like with seven kids the step sisters and we hate each other you're not going outside yes I am no you're not yes I am husband's gone all week and seven kids you've got your hands full here will kill you ID every single child in this house swears you shut oh my what Megan her oldest child there is some distance growing between us the relationship between my father and I has kind of been indifferent sometimes I just don't feel that that Megan and I are even on the same Planet go in the other room and play I yell a lot at the kids get your butt back in here hang it up where it belongs I think this is going to be the worst have super nny has gone to stupid like idiot I'm going to be deployed to Iraq for a year and a half Danielle is pretty much going to be on her own with these kids super Danny please come here and help out my family super Danny I really need your help you guys are in a crisis I'm on my way [Music] well this is going to be interesting to see exactly how Mom copes with seven kids while dad's gone for the whole [Music] week hello come in hi pleased to meet you hi Joe I'm Danielle hi and who's this little one this is casaya hi casiah say hi how are you when I first saw Joe the first thing I thought was her kids please behave don't get me started off by yelling at you when she first walks in the door and who are all these children over here that's Riley can you say hi let me have this say hi what's your name Cheryl hi Cheryl please to meet you and I first told her I was like oh my God she's finally here what's your name McKenzie McKenzie hi MacKenzie please to meet you I'm JoJo hi Allison please to meet meet you how are you good she look Scottish Scottish this is baby brother baby brother he's the handsomest little baby I've ever seen and the tiniest yeah he's about like this big do you want to quickly show me around the house so I should get a rough idea where everyone sleeps mom was giving me a tour of the house and all I could see was just clothes everywhere they were in the cupboards they were sping out of the drawers they were on the beds there's a great big p in the hallway I mean you just had to kind of shift through the clothes to get from one room to the next half the time I think I am washing clean clothes cuz I'll look at something and go I just folded this no cleaning's been done at all and Mom is obviously finding it hard to keep on top of this situation when we finish the house tour I wondered where the rest of the girls had gone I found it in here you know hi um Ry thinks you are she thinks you're she thinks I'm this was one to add to the list when I had McKenzie come up to me and um and say that Riley thought I was what does that mean that word that means she doesn't like you it just made me realize these children must hear this language all the time I think Mom must have panicked a little bit because after showing me how unorganized she was she went on this frantic cleaning spre in the kitchen she was scraping with her knife all the dirt and she pulled the dining table out and she said all I do is spend my time cleaning I thought there's no way normally I would be up until midnight cleaning the house Danielle was in there mopping the floor and it looks like it hasn't been clean for absolutely months whilst mom was doing her best made impersonation I thought somebody better check on the kids Mar I hate you the kids were just beating up on one another and their potty mouths a I don't I well mom she didn't care at [Music] all [Music] I couldn't believe my eyes Riley who's 2 years old was driving around cayia who's a year and a half in a toy tractor without [Music] helmets next thing I know Riley walks through the door alone and I thought somebody's missing so where's cah coming up on Super Nanny it's a mad dash to find casiah stu okay serious situation and Desperation sets in as Mom prepares for Dad's departure how am I going to do it by myself when Super Nanny returns so where's casiah she's been left somewhere so Mom and I like running everywhere to try and find Casia cas's [Music] stuck did you get left here Raley just left casiah on the back of the tractor she's only one and a half years old come on I was shocked that mom had to go look in for casaya I mean if she can't manage the kids now what's she going to do when dad's gone for 18 months stop it do not unfold those the chaos continued inside whilst Riley was putting up a fight Ry Catherine out of my kitchen now no matter what Mom said Riley did the opposite stop go play don't jump off that couch no stop it I can't just go and sit down for 20 minutes because it's Mommy this Mommy that straighten up come back here Riley I just feel like I'm always running around picking up somebody's mess hang it up stopping somebody's fight if you can't play then you'll need to come out and sit on the couch mom's definitely got a hands full with seven kids but I can tell by the way she's acting it's really taking a toll on her now actually let me grab you for a moment I pull Danielle aside because I was really curious just just to see how she was feeling knowing that Tom was going off to war sorry it's okay it's a serious situation that's about to happen and um and change the dynamic of your family and change it's tough for Mom right now she's a ball of emotions she's got her partner who's going off to Iraq I mean I get told him I got married I love having a big family I'm part of a big family I just didn't think I was going to have to raise them by myself and it's not fair to the little ones cuz they don't understand she's feeling overwhelmed with the fear that she's going to be left to raise the children for a year and a half possibly without any support and I can't blame her for feeling scared and anxious how am I going to do it by myself you know I'm not going to have that's 18 months no break nobody else to be responsible for him and it's going to be me later on Megan got home from school and I managed to say hello yeah please to meet you Joe I love her accent just meeting her she seemed really nice right off the bat how was school was three finals today Megan is 17 years old and I know she doesn't have the best relationship with her dad but I wanted to know how she felt about it hi let me talk to you while we've got no interruptions what's that like then your relationship with Dad we don't usually talk so not very understanding I don't like talking to him because he doesn't grasp what I'm trying to say it likes twisting it around which really irritates the crap out of me what do you need from your dad Megan I not really want anything from him but he's going away and he's going to be gone for a year and a half and if I could turn around and say to you that I could make a difference in being able to change your relationship with your dad dad what would it be I don't know if anything could change she was one of the most stubborn people we're both stubborn people that's why we can't get along we're going to improve that Joe was definitely someone that I felt I could trust I mean she seemed like she genuinely cared to hear what I had to say so I found it easy to confide in her see Megan's relationship with her dad clearly needs a lot of work but I'm committed in making sure that before I leave these guys are talking to one another and more importantly before Dad goes off Ry look hi girls baby I to spent the whole day with Mom observing and for the first time just before we sat down to talk I met Tom nice to meet you Joe Tom nice to meet you which is different for me I would love to just grab the pair of you and go through the issues that I feel need to be addressed hopefully we can do that now and sit down and have a talk right sure yeah let's get straight to the point because we don't have time Tom you're off to Iraq very very soon yes it's in 3 weeks Danielle you're going to be left to look after and raise seven children for how long Tom a year to 18 months and I'm not going to pull any punches with you guys I walked through the door Danielle and I was shocked shed absolutely shocked there is food all over the place there are toys in every corner there are clothes from one room to the other you've got seven kids it's not a choice it's mandatory you have to be on top of things I agree we both agree but it's not happening why isn't it happening I just don't get any cooperation from the kids and other than yelling at them or swearing at them I they don't listen what part of you as parents think that it is acceptable to swear in front of your children well I don't think either one of us view it as acceptable and we don't want our children to use that kind of language while I was observing McKenzie came up to me and what she said to me was Riley thinks your that would be Riley Riley thinks everything as I tell you what it's totally unacceptable in my book everything you're teaching these children when you swear at them is how to communicate with others it's not right is it no it's not you guys need to raise the bar you don't see the potential in any of your children at all you just see the bad things that they do all the time I want to I really want to fix it and I go to bed and cry cuz I don't know how to fix it and that's what I'm trying to bring to the for front you will need a strategy of how you are going to cope for when Tom goes off to orac and you need to be pulling out that strength from somewhere Dad what's Megan like Megan is a lot like me I see a lot of myself in her a lot of my virtues and a lot of my faults you got to open up the gates she wants to be able to receive your love she wants to be respected by you you you have the power to resolve that and to make that better she was very insightful in just a few short days of observation she knew my family so you guys really willing to put in all of that strength all of that courage that determination to be able to turn around your family yes I can see that there's hope and she really can help us and there's things that we can do we're not a lost cause and I'm ready to go I want my kids to get all they deserve you ready to start some good hard work then yes we are let's go no time to mess around coming up on Super Nanny any Trash Talk you're going to lose one of these and they're going to end up in here when Joe puts the lid on the Family's trash talk I don't know it's just not that fun to just sit here mom's not in the mood to play your kids want you when Super Nanny returns but first a tip from Super Nanny parents and child carers be mindful of the language you use negative phrases like you're horrible you're just stupid are all demeaning words that will break a child's spirit and self-esteem so make sure that you set that example and use positive language around your children this house seriously needs a routine it doesn't have one any shape or form and if there ever wore a house that needed a routine it was this one come over here come on JoJo's got something I want to show you I'm willing to try what Joe's got and I'm really hoping that um you know with the advice she gives us we can get some kind of routine going and survive until Tom gets back and not just survive but flourish while he's gone so let's move on now that we have that in place where when Joe walked in with a plan and said this is our schedule and this is what we need to stick to right away the sergeant me is going yes yes let's go do it everybody happy with [Music] that I can't sugar coat this that has a mess mom's overwhelmed she can't do it alone so the kids are going to have to step up and help her get organized what we're going to do is have a big clear up okay we're going to get organized then we're going to use these name cards and we're going to place them on our drawers where our clothes go let's go girls okay are we ready okay let's go have some fun we already know which room we go and we already know what chubby we have ready let's go the time is there so when they clean it's an incentive to beat their best time the next time it's important that they get lots of Praise from you Mackenzie keep going come on Mom was having a real hard time trying to Mot at Mackenzie she doesn't want to pick up anything she wants to sit in the middle of the floor and sit there and P you know why cuz this is all so overwhelming for her because since day one they've never picked up a thing I hate cleaning up so the way about doing this is to be positive as long as you can take care of your stuff all your other sisters are going to have to do that job too let's make a Headway okay not it took a little nudg in but the kids caught on and mom did did really well at encouraging them good job give me five yay let's face it these are children who have never picked up after themselves I think they did well so let's go outside and have some fun with the [Music] kids after the kids had done some cleaning I asked Mom to take the kids out to have some fun but I was so surprised because whilst they were playing she was on the side just watching I'm not used to sitting outside with them it's just I don't go to the park I don't sit there Tom does I just don't have the patience just not that fun to just sit here right so if you don't like sitting here why don't you get up and play with the kids then they've got like $2,000 worth of toys sitting in front of them yeah good I'm really pleased about that not anything to do I'm really pleased about that but you know what your kids want not 2 G's worth of bikes your kids want you what do you expect from them because they're giving you Danielle everything unconditionally right now but you're giving nothing back this materialistic thing needs nothing you can't buy what I'm giving you Danielle because it comes from in here if you don't step up to the plate and be the mother that you know you're going to have to be who is going to do it for these kids what kind of mom you going to be Danelle the kind of mom they deserve she's not here to tell me I'm a bad mom or do everything wrong she's here to help the one I want we to start today I really want to make it better for my [Music] kids learning to play on their own is not the only thing they've been taught by their mother their language is atrocious JoJo's brought this into this house because there is too much bad words I'm putting a stop to this immediately with a trash talk technique 10 mouths any Trash Talk bad words cursing you're going to lose one of these and they're going to end up in here we want everybody setting good examples here I was pissed I just use another word is that does that count is that a bad word first and Mom and Dad are going to give you coupons to do very special things as rewards come on not being a to say shut up without getting one of your mouths taken off this is for a week so if we see these mouths on the board then Mom will be dishing out these coupons if you lose one of them you don't get it back and you don't get a coupon she you need to go take down a mouth and put it in the jar right away Allison lost a mouth for calling somebody a name 7 8 n n everybody else has 10 that's because we didn't say a bad word she called her a name and so I made her take down the card you got to think about what you say before you say [Music] it I noticed that Riley loves her Binky she's got tons of [Music] them to wean Riley off her Binky I told Mom the story about the binky fairies who need to give the Binkies to the babies who need them more are you going to tell it all right remember it's big it's big Riley guess what paci fairy came there's Babies that need Pais and you got lots and lots of paes you don't need anymore huh can you help mommy collect all the paes and put them in this bag okay let's go look look what I found yay put it in there and rnie got really excited she ran around the house looking for all of her Binkies hey is that all the paes there are now we got to take this is outside and we're going to go tie it in the tree and the beaky fair is going to come and get it tonight I really honestly didn't think the one that was in her mouth was going to be given up but Joe told her to put the last paci in there want to put that pinky in there too good go for cleaning it all right oh good job oh for the binky fairy and when you're sleeping the binky fairies are going to come and they're going to take the Binkies and they're going to leave you a special present are you excited let go swe come on let's [Music] go the next morning we went out to the tree and then she saw the binky fairy had left her her reward and she [Music] was it says Riley She's So Excited her little face oh good job wow what's inside what's inside and get it that's for big girls and you're a big girl when Riley saw her new doll she completely forgot all about the Binkies and I think Mom started to realize the little praise and encouragement will go a long way coming up on Super Nanny come on get those knees up knees up you're slacking dead Aces Joe's basic training daddy your turn but misses the target when it comes to compliment wding Megan tell me I'm pretty or something nice when super nny returns even though things have started to change there's been an overwhelming feeling of negativity in this house so to boost the positive energy these children need to hear a lot of praise and encouragement from one another as well as their parents so I'm sending them out on an obstacle course and we're going to cheer on the person that is going to be doing the obstacle course and you know what we're going to get Daddy to do it first come on get those knees up knees up you're slacking if Joel was never in the Army she certainly could have been you're slacking come on I knew they would be really excited to do this obstacle course and they were cheering on each other and Mom and Dad got involved it made me smile because they're not normally cheering each other on we all had fun and the most important part was the point that Joe made of everybody encouraging each other we need to do that as a family good okay so let's have a circle let's just on our knees so we can form now that the family have had a taste of encouragement I think it would be really good for this family to start saying nice things to one another because they need to hear it so I'm going to sit them down for the circle prase we're going to say one thing okay something really nice in a nice tone of voice and we're going to take turns in doing it I set the example by passing comment to Cheryl Cheryl you're a fantastic listener and I love those Inky frankal on your nose and your cheeks Riley you're a very good dancer KY I like your hair okay Daddy your turn you have to actually pretend you like something about me tell me I'm pretty or something nice it was awkward you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife and I thought time out these two need to talk come with me come with me take a Pew this cut to the Chase your dad's going off Tyra he's going to be away for a year and a half Life's too short and I want you guys just to sit and talk about what you feel needs to be resolved these two had never sat down and communicated with one another so right away all of Megan's builtup emotions just started to pour out I don't even know how I'm supposed to feel about you leaving I can't can imagine what kind of what kind of anxieties you're going through right now what kind of worries you have knowing where I'm going I mean that just tops off everything else that I worry about and think about all the time I mean and as As Nice it as it would be to go and you know talk to you I can't because every time I tell you that oh I made this choice and it kind of wasn't the best one it's oh my God what a bad kid I am and that's not fair that's it's not the message I'm trying to give you if I disagree with the choice you make it doesn't mean that I think you're a bad kid I have to hope that everything I've taught you about life is going to apply you know you will always be my baby girl uhhuh sometimes I [Music] wonder today was a very important moment for me with my daughter Megan and I both said things to each other that needed to be said for a long time and if they didn't get said today weren't going to be said love you I love you too girls come over here come over here and say goodbye to me with Joel leaving I'm going to try to get the kids to keep the positive talk up I think we've all gotten so used to her being there and kind of being a you know cheerleader okay take care of yourself I'm going to do my best to keep it together remember this is about empowering you so use everything who knows but I tell you I just hope that Danielle just sticks to everything and puts 100% [Music] in coming up on Super Nanny open the door when mom thinks the cameras are dark instead of unlocking the door you stood there and went pleas it her true colors come to life you know that I'm watching you when Super Nanny returns but first a tip from Super Nanny parents it's so important to spend time bonding with your children so for example take one night a week where you all stick to that date and come together as a family but remember turn off that television and your computer and switch off the cell phone and and start having some fun mom's going to be on her own for 18 months so let's just see how she gets on with this practice run you did it in 33 minutes yesterday see if you can get faster You Ready set go great you're using the task timer technique white baskets are clean laundry come over here and put your clothes in the basket Mom keep it up be try and make it real fun for them please don't this is yours excuse me did you just say a naughty word did you just say a naughty word you need to go take down a mouth and put it in the jar right here put your mouth in that jar good stay on top of that trash talking hurry way to fire up the kids Mom hey 30 minutes today that was pretty good I love that positive energy that was very impressive let's just see if Mom can keep up that enthusiasm I don't care what you want they're hers can I I open it what's going on here where are you in the routine Danielle mom you've been on that couch for hours that's ridiculous oh I think that Danielle's forgot that my surveillance cameras are still [Music] running Danielle is that you banging the door open the door I cannot believe what I have just heard from you Mackenzie I don't want to hear you you are just as guilty because instead of unlocking the door you stood down with who is it who is it you both are grounded you're scary mom and you've lost it I asked her what the was going through her head to lock the door with that baby inside in front of your 2-year-old my trash talk thing going right out the window Tom's leaving soon and your lack of effort is not helping you or your children [Music] okay let's take a look at the footage and see what we've got here we're going to pick up all the toys in here and then we're going to put our clean clothes in our basket okay 30 minutes today that was pretty good yeah much more cheery mom there which is marvelous good to see Open Door you both are grounded I mean is that what goes on then the fact the cameras around cuz I mean you know you know that I'm watching you not normally I have surveillance cameras in this house so I I watch you when I choose to do so you were scary and if I were them I wouldn't have opened the door cuz I don't know what I would have got I was very angry and you showed loss of control there and that loss of control made you very mean very angry and it was a very ugly picture I should have calmed down first and then dealt with him McKenzie I don't want to hear you you are just as guilty because instead of unlocking the door you stood there and went who is it like it mattered who it was I will not allow you you Danielle to continue like this with the children and think that it's okay you are going to make an emotional scar on these kids if you do not change your attitude I know it's not okay Tom I'd like to hear what you're saying because I'm sitting here talking to Danielle very straight about what I'm seeing with your children as well and I'm not happy with this we feel that that is the worst kind of parenting that was a really bad night okay but from this point on we have no excuses okay now we've had somebody come in and give us a clue let's move on with this footage why she need them they're hers open say night night [Music] Mommy that routine was placed up on your wall because you needed a routine routine is hard though especially with everybody around because have a routine before but it's it's not going to get better if we don't try lack of effort will always cause failure and that's that's not acceptable but you've got to try and we're not seeing effort here and I think this is about you and how you're going to survive with these children when Tom's gone the children never got an apology from you with the way you behave we need to change this as soon as possible so are we ready if she did nothing else in the house that was enough she made me think about how I affect my children and you close that DVD and let's go coming up on Super Nanny dad's off to war this is a watch that um that my grandfa father gave to me but can he and Megan make peace Before Time runs out when Super Nanny [Music] returns time was running out and it's important that if we're to make any progress here that mom sits these kids down and explains that she's made some mistakes the other night when Mommy yelled at you guys I'm sorry I shouldn't have yelled at you guys okay and it's really hard to admit you're wrong your kids cuz I was ashamed of the way I acted Mommy's going to try not to yell anymore okay and try to be a better Mommy I think it took a tremendous amount of Courage for Danielle to sit down in front of the entire family and admit she was wrong and then to tell them that that she was going to do better Mommy wants to be a good mommy and she wants you guys all to know that she loves you I could tell that she really had seen her faults and she really did mean to do better I have to be a better parent I have to be mom and dad to these kids for the next year and a half and that's going to be hard but I can do it I have to do it I need to do it for them I love you too I love you too the next order of business was to see exactly how the girls had done with the trash talk technique whilst I was gone yeah Ma Danielle said oo you said the word three times so I just figured it was easier just to take all the MS down at that point it's it's hard to keep up with Cheryl McKenzie me and she have all our Mouse on the board Alison you got two off yeah so you're going to try very hard next week I barely even use bad words only two times and bad words are bad that's better better Mommy and Daddy what does Cheryl get as her reward one special gift well done well done good job well done the language in the house has completely reduced Cheryl and McKenzie have put 100% effort into thinking before speaking I got a coupon today cuz I had all my mouse on the board and when I go to Disneyland on Monday I get to bring something back a [Music] souvenir Megan's absolutely petrified that her dad's going to go off to war and he's not going to come back and that must be just absolutely horrific for a teenager and I suggested to Dad that it would be lovely if he could leave Megan something of sentimental value and make her realize how much she's very much loved and how special she is this is a watch that um that my grandfather gave to me anytime that you know you're going off off to a war there's that chance that you may not come home and so for me this was a terrific opportunity knowing that this may be the last chance that I ever get to get it right I want you to keep it for me while I'm gone because I intend to come back for it but while I'm gone I want you to hold this for me I saw that watch and I knew what it was cuz I knew it meant something to him and I know he was leaving so it meant something to me it's so hard I hope you come back to be able to take this I plan on it I have so much to come back for I'll be fine if Joe hadn't come into my house and opened up that window of opportunity for Megan and I to come to an understanding with each other then I would have left not having made peace with my oldest daughter I love you I love you too Mackenzie JoJo's going home now Cheryl come and give me a hug the silver family was a very challenging family but I do feel the outcome has been tremendous because Mom has become aware of what she needs to do in order to be a better mother the children are happier because they're getting more praise from their parents and more attention dad has really stepped up be careful what's so amazing about the way Joe works there's no magic in what Joe does she comes in and she shows you who you really are and that's what I really want to thank Joe for give me a hug I want to thank Joe for coming in and showing me how to be a better mother to my girls be sa no doubt there's been some positive changes with this family even though they are still walking that long road I think Danielle's accepted the fact that Tom's going to leave and she now has found the confidence to be a better mother and she's more determined to make it work Joe gave my family the confidence to be the kind of family we've always wanted to be everybody gets one piece of paper my girls are getting along a lot better now my wife want me to show you what you can do I already see that the kids are yelling less I'm not raising my voice as much and now we got to put this back with the games there's a lot less cussing in the house no more backward it has turned into a house with more love in it it's almost like a piece between everybody my children they're Miracles I hug them more and give them more compliments and each one of them is special and each one of them needs to feel that way I should go go now I'll Spike you go I can leave knowing that my children are in good hands that's really important to me thank you Joe thank you for coming Jo bye thank you [Music] Jojo [Music]

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Length: 41min 1sec (2461 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 11 2024