The Perfect Character (Al-Adab Al-Mufrad) | Day 2 - Session 2 - Sheikh Assim Al-Hakeem

smilla hamd allahu allah allahu allah hadith number 218 page number 155 chapter the one who does not thank the people aloe vera said the Prophet SAW Allah knows I'm said the one who does not thank the people is not grateful to Allah okay this hadith might confuse some see very bad that are divided or let's rephrase that the actions can be forms of worship and can be not forms of worship so asking is a form of worship when you ask Allah but asking people is not a form of worship when the people can do something for you so if I ask you to help me in what you are able to help me come and help me carry this table and you are capable of doing it is this no because it is within your ability but if I ask you to bring life to my dead son then this is not in your ability if I ask you to tell me what will happen in the future if I ask you to make rainfall all of this is because you're asking other than Allah over things that no one is capable of doing except Allah now in this hadith the Prophet is telling us about expressing your gratitude being thankful so one would be asking is it permissible to thank other than Allah or is this shirk no it's not shirk on the contrary it's part of worshipping Allah so Allah Azza WA JAL wants you to express your appreciation to your fellow Muslim brother who has given you or who has done you a favor otherwise Allah will be angry with you this hadith shows that the one who does not thank people is not grateful to Allah what does this mean that does this mean it can be either one either it refers to the person who does not show his gratitude to people such a person most likely will never thank allah azza wajal by nature a person who has this built in his nature not to thank people for doing him a favor usually the high percentages such a person would not show his gratitude to Allah would be always complaining and not thankful to allah azza wajal and the second interpretation would be that Allah the Almighty even if you thank him and show appreciation to him will not accept it from you unless you express your gratitude to others and this shows us that we do not live on an island we live in a community so we have to show our appreciation to others we have to show them that we do understand the effort and the lengths they had taken in order to do us a favor how do we thank people it's very easy express your feelings payback by doing good things to them saying a good word the hadith the Prophet says RA salat WA Salam whoever does you a favor repay him as much as you can and if you cannot repay him then make dua for them until you feel this suffices make dua how easy is that very easy and the Prophet said alayhi salatu wassalam whoever does you a favor and you say to him jazakallahu khayran then he has exceeded in thanking and appreciating him the word is very little er jazakallahu khayran what does it mean may Allah reward you with goodness this is dua so you give me a favor you do me a favor you help me change the tire thank you this is not any bringing satisfaction but when you say may Allah reward you Allahu Akbar that I would expect my compensation to come from Allah if you compensate me peanuts but when Allah compensates me and rewards me this is beyond my imagination and this is why it is an old habit of mine that whenever someone does something to me I make dua for them and I say it without intending it ah sure this is not affordable but we coming back to the same problem the issue of reward and intention the brothers have any confusion in it maybe I did not display it correctly maybe people have sensitivity towards it let me go back to my topic later on we will discuss it Hashanah so it's a habit that whenever someone does something to me I thank them by giving dois and I intend the doora but I don't pay attention to it but it has an overwhelming impact on them and when I consider what I say that's nice I would love people to say this to me I say Allah who I'll take over Allah Allah may Allah have mercy on your parents and forgive you for anything and the people take a step back and say just how come here may Allah reward you for these beautiful words I don't pay attention to saying it and having this impact but believe me a word has a strong impact on people so showing your appreciation especially to the nearest and closest people to you has a profound impact whether it's a child when you encourage them whether it's your wife imagine in Ramadan how long do our wives spend in the kitchen not less than 3 hours 4 hours when you break her fast with the dates what's the first comment the soup needed some salt the sambusa is overcooked and this is that in this it this is devastating no matter what praise your wife's cooking seriously my wife knows I'm a big liar whenever she cooks food and I've been married for 33 years whenever she cooks food she usually makes mistakes either it's burnt too salty too raw I eat and I speak while eating if it's bad I eat three morsels for morsel I eat a lot of salad and hamd allah may allah so shall grant you Jenna beautiful food in Arabic we say this lemon I added may your hands be healthy and to and she looks at me while I'm eating and she says you're lying the food is horrible why don't you say so what did you speak I said how long have you spent in the kitchen cooking it did you intend it this way it so happened and if it happens I appreciate your effort not the result because I have so many shortcomings if you start picking them up I'll be doomed I never take you out see this I'll never take her out at all we never travel I don't take you to restaurants I don't buy you gifts I don't say good words and you want me to complain about your cooking or about the house or about my clothes not being ironed I should be ashamed of myself so this way of reciprocating of appreciation you live happy life you don't eat well but you live a happy life because we all have our shortcomings you must show your gratitude to others in order so allah azza wajal would grant you or would appreciate and reward you for what you do 258 added 258 page page 181 you change chapter consultation al hassan said people never seek advice without being guided to the best possible possibility available to them then he recited and who whose affairs are a matter of council chapters 42 Ashura verses 38 okay so consultation who's that hasn't mentioned here the companion of the Prophet is Alana the grandson or the Tiberi he's al-hasan al-basri one of the greatest of the tabi een whose words they used to say resembles the prophets hadith because he was brought in the house of the wife of the prophet alayhi salatu salam Salama if i'm not mistaken consultation in arabic is st shala al-shura this has a great role in Islam there's an old saying for the scholars some make it a hadith but it is not a hadith it is a famous well-known statement man Adam a Manish - our woman harbor manis Taha he who seeks consultation will never regret it and he who prays this Tahara will never fail now is the Shara or Shura is mentioned in the quran allah azza wajal says so big so by the mercy of Allah you were lenient with them and if you had been rude and harsh in heart they would have this banded you from about you so pardon them as forgiveness for them and consult them so Allah is ordering who the messenger Allah is Allah - Sam - consult and also Allah says and those who have responded to their Lord and establish prayer and whose Affairs is determined by consultation among themselves so it's part of our Deen to consult to seek guidance and this is an Amana what is meant by Amana it is something to be entrusted with why because when someone comes to you and seeks your consultation you have to be fearing allah azza wajal and give them the right consultation you must not consult someone who is inexperienced and you must not consult someone who does not have the piety and righteousness why if you ask and consult someone who is inexperienced what will happen he will give you the wrong consultation imagine you have stomachache you have pain in your stomach and you go to a dentist what will he do for you he will extract your wisdom tooth and charge you for it but your pain will remain so you have to seek consultation from an experienced person in marriages so many times people when they have problems they go to someone who is inexperienced a man comes to me share my wife did this and this in this in this in this I say I will not divorce this so-and-so divorcer this is inexperienced a woman so many women come to me and say my husband did this in this in this at please advise I said I will not advise you why should I have to listen to his side of the story sometimes I listen to the sister I say your husband has to be hanged but then the husband comes in the afternoon he says my wife did this in this industry I said your wife has to be put in front of a firing squad at night I bring them both together and I listen to them half of what he said and half of what her set of she said where lies they do not repeat them in front of each other whenever I present my case I always tried to show the good points in my side and my favor so you should and must ask someone with experience you know whatever you do you want to start a business you don't go to someone who has no experience in business you want to start farming you don't go to an expert in industry he doesn't have any knowledge in farming and he has to be righteous and pious why because he might cheat you go to someone and he doesn't fear Allah and tell him you you know that sister masha'Allah Tabarrok Allah she knows the or an by heart and she knows the six books of Sunna and she has great knowledge in Islamic studies and by the way she's a revert and before she accepted Islam she was a beauty queen and she knows how to dance ballet and plays the violin and she speaks seven languages and she is this feature and so so do you think it's good if I proposed to her what would he say to build up a woman like that with such a past and history yeah I fear Allah marry someone who is pure and Muslim thank you he goes and marries her so consult someone who fears Allah and who is experienced now if you've managed to do this you will find that there is stage 2 so I consult I take feedback from people from the elders from the experience what is stage 2 what what you do next hmm SD Hara you praise the Hara and the issue of Sahara will come in Sharla later on hopefully before the day is over and there is a lot of talk about it how to do it the results do we see a window opening from the heavens saying do it or do we see a dream or what what so people have confusion about SD Hara we were coming to that insha'Allah the following a hadith 277 277 page number 192 chapter the contentment of the self and I said I served the prophet salaallah alayhi wassalam for ten years he never said o to me and he never said about something I had not done why didn't you do that or something I had done why did you do that authentic now this is a hadith which is well known in the fire we all know it by heart and this shows us the personality of the prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam in commenting on this hadith I made only four pages believe it or not and I was thinking of tomorrow's lecture you can make a difference should I put it until now I haven't decided is I need 24 hours before now it's 20 like 8 or 30 so it's not time yet for me to think about either to have it on this topic similar to it you can make a difference in your life and the people's life on the personal level or to expand it and talk about our difference that we can make in the society in the Ummah can we make a difference in the level of the Ummah so until now on I decided maybe Hodja would help me later on say this is a long topic very long topic I will not go through it because we have to cover the material but I'll just give you a hint if one of your employees does a mistake do you look the other way or interrogate him this is a personal thing when your wife does something wrong okay let's help the brothers when your husband does something wrong do you nag on his head and you remind him for the next 30 years you've done this and this and this and this 30 years ago why did you do this I tolerated you I forgave you what forgave you at reminding me five times a day like prayer without I then without a comma every day five times a day you remind me of your forgiveness what kind of forgiveness is this this is a deficiency in our character the Prophet is teaching us a lesson not to do this you remember Yusef they took him threw him in the well he wasn't present then he became the aziz of muscle they come to him he accuses his younger brother so that he can abduct him and take him in his custody of stealing and when they come and say what happened they tell them that the younger one stole because they found the measurement cup in his luggage what did they say well if he had stolen it his brother had stolen before whom are they referring to Yusef they accused him falsely forcefully false fully stealing what Allah says in the Quran for a son raha used to 15 f c/e while mu b hala home he concealed it in himself and he did not react to it this beautiful characteristic is known as a Taha for there is no word in my knowledge in English to explain it in Arabic it means looking the other way when something happens do not investigate do not insist on finding Y move on if we did like this we would be very happy no problems in our marriages in our work in our relationships when you look the other way so many examples so many beautiful things it's not the time it's a separate lecture maybe tomorrow maybe not what did the Prophet do erase a lot of cinema this is how the Prophet was whenever Anna's who was his servant for 10 years who was a child he never complained we have subordinates we have drivers we have workers how do we deal with them the Prophet said or Anna said the Prophet whenever he looked at something I did he would not reprimand me why did you do this and if I did not do it he would not reprimand me by saying shouldn't you have done so and so no the Prophet sir let it go and the people with high aspiration would not repeat the same mistake twice when I do something wrong and my boss does not talk to me about it I feel ashamed I know he knows and next time I will not do it because I don't want to bring this feeling again and I don't want to yanny make him lose hope in me in a sense now compare what we do with this hadith how many times we talk to our wives why didn't you do this why didn't you do that how many times I tell you you have to do this put this in place I know brothers that are taunting their wives well I when they come into the house I know a brother who's a relative of mine the minute he comes to the house he does this and he looks at his wife with a scary look this is sufficient why just pick it and move there are people who make life difficult to others they question them they interrogate them look at the beautiful hadith of the Prophet Allison or prophet of Allah how many times should we overlook and forgive the shortcomings of a servant is my servant so the man is asking how many times what do you expect the Prophet to say he said 70 times a day 70 mistakes a day is this logical this is Islam look the other way and things will rectify it itself but when you insist on investigating why did you do this this is wrong you should not have done this I warned you before this causes friction and tension and life cannot go on like this well so we move on to hadith number 302 I did 302 page 2:07 chapter cheerfulness and now us even some on Ellison and sorry said he asked the messenger of allah so allah wa salam about righteousness and sin he said righteousness is good character and sin is what tricks on your heart and which you dislike for other people to become aware of authentic play this hadith is a great hadith and an explanation of the concise of speech that the Prophet was given at a histological I'm very eloquent very short but very concise the Prophet Allah so sallam was asked about righteousness about Al bill and the bill in Arabic has vast big and wide meaning so the Prophet answered a lot of Salaam albero house non Hollow righteousness is good character is this it isn't salat part of righteousness isn't fasting zakat it is to highlight the importance of good character like when the Prophet said that is awesome I'll had you are offal what does it mean it doesn't mean that if I only go for a lava and then return home I have performed Hajj no there is a harm there is the offer a father there is sorry al Hajj all of these are pillars of Hajj if you don't do them your Hajj is invalid so what does the Prophet mean are a solution he means that the most major pillar of Hajj is a lava and likewise to be righteous if you pray if you fast if you give zakat the these are all righteous deeds if you don't have good character you're not righteous I could pray all night long I could fast every Monday and Thursday I could give my money in the cat but if I am rude if I'm inconsiderate if I am selfish if I don't pay attention to your feelings if I'm not generous I am NOT righteous so this hadith highlights a very important aspect which the Muslims should work very hard on this is why we have the Adam Alfred this good character is the main aspect of Adam to be kind to people you hear so many things and you have to fix your inside your heart the way you behave so many times I get people coming to me and commenting on a hadith or explaining a story for me and I know the story better than they and I can say it better than them but I have to out of good character pretend that I have not heard it and said masha'Allah so after half an hour he concludes his story feeling that he had done something good as he I know it how does he feel or if I interrupt him if I correct him so part of the good character is to fix your shortcomings and this needs training this doesn't come all of a sudden it needs among someone who guides you who teaches you who gives you your shortcomings in a way so that you can fix and help that the second part is about sin and burden what is the word and sin in the hadith is an ism which is a wider meaning of Adam sin so sin the definition of it is what pricks in your heart and which you dislike for other people to become aware of which means that even if you don't have knowledge of the Quran and the Sunnah there are things that are natural that the majority of human beings agree upon so even Muslims and non-muslims agree that killing is unlawful you don't need to be a rocket scientist to know this stealing people's property is unlawful lying is unlawful slandering cursing beating being rude all of these are what universally known to people not to be lawful so the Prophet is directing us RA his salatu salam that if this feeling of sin being ashamed of it this feeling that pricks in your heart it doesn't feel good and you don't want others to know about it so maybe I do something and I'm doubtful whether it is a sin or not but sure enough I don't want you to know about it then this is an indication that it is what this is a sin when I don't want people to know about it and I'm hesitant to acknowledge that it is a sin then it is a sin this feeling this natural feeling of concealing it makes it a sin hadith number 313 this 313 page to one tree [Music] chapter chapter the believer is not a Defamer okay Abu Hurairah may allah be pleased with him said the prophet sort of I never said I'm said a person with two faces cannot be a trusty authentic and sound so a person with two faces what do I mean by two faces and like putting a mask what is meant by two faces two faces person is a hypocrite who comes to the sinners and he enjoys sins and he's having fun and he's saying you're the people to hang out with then when he goes to the righteous people he pretends that he is righteous he holds the prayer beads stuff or lost or lost of Allah so such a person is two-faced person and he also or this also can refer to a person who transmits chit-chatting and gossips so he goes to this group and talks to them and listens to what they have to say then goes through the other group and says they said so and so on so about you so they retaliate and say bad things about them he goes again to them and say well are they responded by saying this and this and this he causes what because it's enmity he causes friction he causes tension between the Muslims and this is why Allah Azza WA JAL cannot or this person cannot be trusted how can you trust someone with two faces not only that the Prophet said in the authentic hadith alayhi salatu salam whoever has two faces in this world on the day of judgment he will have two tongues of fire this is his punishment that his father his tongues will be split into two and they will be a fire torturing his interior his inside because of the lies of the deceit that he used to do now we have a question we have a hadith in sahih al-bukhari where the prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam was sitting among his companions when a man sought permission to enter so they told the Prophet as salam so-and-so is seeking permission to enter shall we allow him in the Prophet said ah rule of Allah in a sense and translation roughly the worst of the tribes son or the tribes brother is so-and-so naming him by name allow him in so he came in and to the surprise of mother aisha she said that the prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam smiled in his face made him sit beside him talked to him and then the man left now you can see the difference the Prophet said the worst of the people's son or tribe is this man who's coming in but then he met him with a different face if she said o prophet of Allah you said so-and-so and then you dealt with him in a different fashion the Prophet said or Aisha the worst of people is the one who people protect themselves from him fearing his evil and foul language now this hadith caused the come that the scholars to look into it by no means it is two faces from the Prophet Allah so salam is the prophet can be that like that 'we know Muslim would think of this so how can we interpret how can we understand this the answer is meeting people with kindness is something that you do of your own good for example he took my money and I said keep it I forfeited my right is there in Harlem in it is it in Harlem no he insulted me I said I forgive you is there in Haram on me no he is drinking intoxicants in my presence and I remained silent is there in Harlem on me yes so this is an Arabic called Buddha Hana and Madara muda Hana is to give in in the Islamic aspects this is prohibited Allah mentioned in surah and palem what do lo to the he know Fayed he noon they wish that you compromise your religion so that they can compromise and you come to a mutual ground this is not permissible in religion you have to draw the line when it comes to your own favors and your own rights and your own possessions islam tells you give away so what the Prophet did that a his salat wa salam was this type when the man sought permission to come the companions were sitting around the Prophet noticing every single thing he does the Prophet feared because of his nature of meeting people with a smile being generous to being kind to he was afraid that the Companions would think that this person is a righteous is scholarly like so they would think great of him and would be mislead so he had to make it clear to everyone that this man is one of the worst people on earth but because it is my nature that I do not reject people or treat him treat them rudely I'm giving you this warning so when he came he behaved as usual this is not two phases the two phases is the one who causes corruption who meets a righteous and pious person and he talks with him nicely masha'Allah and he goes through the other to say this guy is evil he does this it is that just to cause problems between people so I hope this makes sense to you the following hadith in the notes is 361 I think we will pass this because yeah I think it is not of great importance as it is not a hadith of the Prophet SM but rather it is from the companion so we would like to focus more on the prophets sayings hadith page page 260 chapter the person who is patient when people injure him abner omar said the prophet sallallaahu sallam said the believer who mixes with people and puts up with the abuse is better than a person who does not mix with the people and does not put up with your abuse authentic so the prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam is telling us that there are two types of people type one who mixes with others interacts with them answers and accepts their invitations invite them to their or to his events yet through the process he is tolerant because when you mix with people inevitably you have to get harm this is a well-known fact if you befriend someone you will benefit but you will get some harm if you mix with a group of Muslims you will see things that may not be appropriate you may have to bring it to their attention they may attack you accordingly because when people are advised they are a little bit more or less defensive they don't accept you would not accept if I say why are you doing this immediately we become defensive but if I speak about the same sin on someone else although you're doing it you say people behave like this because it's not you it's someone else and this is why the best form of advice is the advice that comes indirectly the Prophet when he used to see something wrong he used to come to the pulpit and say alhamdulillah wa salatu was-salam ala why do so-and-so people behave in such a fashion and he does not address that individual this this is the best way of doing it so that you can break the ice and make people accept your advice so this is type 1 type 2 are those who do not want headache so they say listen if I mix with people they cause problems we fight they don't like me they back bite me and I buy buy them tell you what I will stay home I will not go out I will not answer any invitation and this way I will be safe now this is your right you can do this no one is forcing you to come out but what is more rewarding to Allah Azza if you stay back home and pray or if you mix with people and advise them and teach them and tolerate their abuse definitely the latter so in this hadith the Prophet is highlighting that you have to be active have to be tolerant have to be patient because life is not easy is it is life easy would you like to stand up just to shake up some of the sleep let's stand up stand up stand up stand up the weather is mashallah fine it's not cold yet I see a lot of the brothers as asleep so let's stand up stand up stand up masha'Allah okay I'll sit now I'm joking okay just you know stretch do something useful check your SMS what's up utilize your time don't waste your time yeah bismillah sit down okay so this is an encouragement for you to mix with others to tolerate to be patient however there are other hadith that go against this this is in the times of tribulation and fittin the Prophet tells us that there will come a time when the best of you would be a man with few of his sheep at the top of a mountain eating and drinking from these sheep and worshipping Allah staying away from people so how can we understand this we can understand that it depends on what the pros and cons someone says Sheikh I have a rage problem if I open my mouth ten seconds later I'm end up beating the man anyone who says anything I cannot tolerate I know people like this I know practising brothers every other week he's coming with a black eye or what is this well I met someone I told him a hit is haram he said it's none of your business I spanked him and we had a fight we ended up in the police station oh well I I tell him that he I don't I will not tell you shave your beard because this is a sin but what you're doing is more sinful you're giving us a bad reputation is it what can I do I cannot tolerate this some people when they say evil when they see evil they forbid it which is good condom hire Oh Martin or rigidly an ass the more honorable Marouf was in Hana Hana monk er this is excellent but if it's going to cause a bigger problem don't do it Allah says do not curse the idols if it would lead for the idol worshipers to curse Allah cursing the idols is good they are false they're nothing but stones but if this would lead them to curse Allah which is bad then refrain don't do it so measuring the consequences is an extremely important aspect in Islam therefore this hadith is general individuals who fail to comply we would say stay away if you open your mouth you caused devastation shut up sit back relax extend your feet watch television or the news don't go out but generally speaking no you have to train yourself life is not paved with flowers and roses there is hardship if I come and tell my wife to do something Islamically she says look at yourself do this in that first this happens you come to a brother or a friend okay you're doing this sin this is not permissible Allah says so and so so and just giving you advice in the cause of Allah is Jessica mahir cut your nails first oh sorry I didn't know that my nails were long but what does this have to do with that to shake your so many mistakes I saw your mistakes what what kind of Muslims are you once you get the advice a cycle ahead take it accept it implemented why must it be personal if you see my mistakes I see your mistakes okay assume I did not see your mistakes or brought it to your attention then I will hush hush subhanAllah then your intention was not for the sake of Allah when you corrected me it was just to get even and this shows you how bad Muslims can be when they do not do what they do for the sake of allah azza wajal [Music] okay 420 222 page 282 to a to chapter providing water lathe reported that follows said that Ivanova said I think he ascribed the prophets of Islam the doubt was from Layton there are 360 joints in men in mankind and each of them old Soraka every single day every good word is sadaqa amen a man's helping his brother is sadaqa his drink of water which he gives his sadaqa removing something harmful from the road is sadaqa authentic due to supporting troops okay this hadith is one of different versions the prophet alayhi salat wa sallam said that there are 360 joints in a man [Music] in a person in a human being so this is a joint there are 360 of them I'm not a physician but if you go to doctors Muslim doctors they can manage and find the way and the count and we believe this even the doctors say not we believe the Prophet what he had said that a salat WA Salam and we are told that every joint requires a charity so we have to pay 360 charities a day if it were in Ringgits how much a month would that be like approximately eleven thousand eight hundred maybe I'm not good in math that's a lot so the Prophet is opening other venues for us for means of charity so he says every single day okay so a good word is Sbrocco a good word when said is a charity then he says a man's helping his brother is sadaqa a drink of water which he gives is sadaqa and this is what is related to the chapter the virtue of providing drinking water and what else removing something harmful from the road is sadaqa let us get back to the issue of intention maybe just to clarify it and to try to ponder upon it what I say might be right and there is a possibility that it is wrong we said that whatever you do has to have what the intention in order to be rewarded but come to think of it this might be looked into from a different and what is that the things we do are either transitive or intransitive what do we mean by this is from my map from my head I don't know if the word even apply or not transitive intransitive are used with linguistics and grammar and I have a BA in linguistics so I could not find a better way in Arabic it's less my mo tidy and it's the same words are using grammar so the verb I sit is intransitive because it doesn't have an objective afterwards I write a letter is transitive because the objective is a letter in a by that it's either intransitive such as praying I pray for myself such as reading the Quran I do it for myself or transitive I give you water I help you carry something I teach you an ayah or hadith so it seems that if it is intransitive it requires an intention to be rewarded but if it is transitive it is helping someone else there are two degrees and two levels of reward whatever good you do with the intention of pleasing Allah and for the sake of Allah your door did what twice but if you do it because it's a good deed not intending it is for the sake of Allah you will be rewarded but far less than the double reward so this seems to be any the most suitable answer to the issue that a lot of the brothers maybe asking about which his intention when you look at it from this aspect therefore if I was walking on the road and I found a branch with thorns in it and I remove it is this a good deed if I do it for the sake of Allah because the Prophet told us a little of some that a man is 70 plus branches the highest is what la ilaha illaallah and the lowest is removing harmful things from people's way if I'm doing it because of this I get what to rewards if I do it without anticipating the reward I just do it for it's something human something good something beneficial but not for the reward I will get adjure but much and far less than this analogical knows best so 360 joints we have to give water is providing water a good deed how good would I be exaggerating if I say it is the best charity no the Prophet said that is salat wa salam in the authentic hadith authenticated by sheikh al albani Afflalo sadaqa Sakuma the best charity is to provide water and more providing water it's the best charity so if you want to be part of that look at the places where they don't have wells and help digging provide water I feel so happy when I see Muslims in Ramadan providing water of course not in daytime huh after futur for the worshipers when they're doing taraweeh in Saudi this is a habit do you have it here huh in Saudi you get after Maghrib loads and loads of boxes of cold iced water and they place it in front of each one and the worshipers during terror if they consume two or three bottles and we never know who brought them in and in the Masjid I pray in we never know who brings in them we just find trucks and trucks bringing bottles of water and masha'Allah providing it so this is a charity but what about the remaining 359 and this is everything what every single day alhamdulillah Allah Azza WA JAL had made an easy way out for us the Prophet said race on an authentic hadith whoever prays to records of Doha this suffices for the whole 362 records of Doha a lot of the Muslims I was one of them never prayed it 23 years ago I was a preacher I was an imam I've been an imam for the past 30 years that Hamed Allah giving hotbar every single Friday requiring the research and where I get my knowledge from on this feature research and 25 years ago I was a teacher every single day at 10:00 10:30 one of my colleagues in my office who has no beard Saudi who has no beard he's not practicing you know long soak normal Saudi he goes and makes woudl puts his prayer drug-crazed Taraka folds the super Arab rock and sits with us day after day after day I felt ashamed of course I did not ask him because I know what he was doing it struck me that why am I not doing this good deed and since that day with the grace of Allah I prayed every single day and now I'm envious I'm thinking of stopping he's getting the rewards for nothing so I'm thinking but none this is Shaitaan this is Shaitaan do not underestimate a good deed because someone may learn it from you and while sitting home it generates and generates and generates so much reward beyond your imagination six years ago I started my website and it's not profit oriented of quest is just a normal website for almost 20 years I was envious of Sheryl Minaj it he is a personal friend how much father Majid you know the owner of Islam Q&A website one of the most reliable and trusted website on Islamic ever I worked with him maybe for 20 years ago on solving questions and cue a name we know each other I was so envious and I'm saying he goes to bed every single night and hundreds of thousands are benefiting from his website this is not fair it was mind-blowing why five or six years ago one of the Romanian sisters melih reward her contacted me and she said I'm one of your students why don't we make a website and post your questions and answers in it I said ok she did all the dirty work and she is still doing it I never contacted her I never heard her voice I never seen her I don't know where she is what she is but may allah reward her sh t when you have a soldier for Islam doing something for Allah and no one knows about him how beautiful would that be today the website I think has maybe fifteen twenty thousand cues and A's and she did old archiving all the work I have nothing to do she gets the questions from the website sends it to me and I answer them between two hundred three hundred a day and now I am gaining the same reward I'm going to bed but I get sleepless nights because of all the reward I'm getting so I'm trying now to cope and adopt never underestimate good deeds that you do or an advice or a reminder Allah so they'll may make this your gateway to Jenna so keep on sewing the ground blowing the ground blowing blowing Manish Choudhary Manish keep on plowing the ground throwing the seeds doing whatever you want you never know when this street would take you straight to Jenna never ever look down at a good deed these are good deeds that benefit others none of them is for your own self feeding a poor person taking care of providing water helping your brother all of these are good deeds that help others so keep on trying doing the best you can ok next 365 fish number 311 three one one [Music] chapter is leniency Ayesha I said prophet sallallaahu said I'm said forgive those who are virtuous they are - that authentic forgive those who are virtuous they're miners slips what is this the translation is a little bit poor but the Prophet is telling us Lamas allah wa sallim ala muhammad that muslims have categories some of them are virtuous pious practicing yet this does not mean at all that they are infallible can there be any one infallible other than our prophet allahumma salli wa sallim ala no way only the Prophet so no matter how high your ranking is no matter how strong your Eman is you still have shortcomings so once the shortcomings happen and appear from someone who's righteous and practicing as this individual what does the Prophet tell us erase salat wa salam forgive look the other way why because this is one of so many good things that he has done this is a drop in an ocean a drop of impurity does not pollute the ocean so the Prophet is telling us Assam those who the norm is that they're good righteous virtuous if they make a mistake if they make a sin neglected overlook it and forgive it and this is what they call leniency this is how we should treat those who are respected those of dignitary status that one mistake every few years is negligible it's a mistake they will overcome it because the Prophet told us assignment every son of Adam is sinful and the best of sinful are those who repent so we should not make it something that goes out of proportion however if someone is constantly sinning should we forgive him no this person has to be held accountable someone who is constantly doing wrong after wrong tarnishing the reputation of Islam causing miss heaved causing problems in the society and we say we will forgive we will look at the other way around no you have to draw the line we're talking about someone who is 99% active beneficial virtuous righteous but he made a single mistake forgive him like how to even a be belter who's he he's one of the Companions who witnessed better on the eighth year of hijra the Prophet arrested Salam told the companions that we are going to conquer Mecca he made a mistake he wrote a letter warning the people of Makkah of the Islamic invasion and he gave it to a woman and sent the messenger to go the Prophet is Salam received the revelation from the sky from the heavens from Allah telling him about what's happened the Prophet sent as Jubal now WA I leave never Talib and told them that in that particular location you will find a woman and the woman has the letter bring the letter back to me they went to that location they found the woman they told how to bring me the letter she should I don't have any letter they told her listen the Prophet told us that you have a letter he doesn't lie either you give us the letter or will strip you naked merrily so the woman was scared and she shed okeydoke she took the letter from her bun she had long hair and she gave it to them they brought it back to the Prophet Isis erm he read the letter he said hearted what is this Rahab took his sword o prophet of Allah that make a long story short allow me to decapitate him kill him the Prophet doesn't do this I some he has to investigate defend yourself give me the reason don't jump to conclusion any one of us would have jumped to conclusion whenever something wrong happens ask for justification with an open mind because you will find a reason for that how tough said by Allah o prophet of Allah I am NOT a hypocrite I believe that Allah would fulfill his promise to you and that you will conquer Mecca but because I am NOT originally from Mecca I just wanted to have a favor to them that would not avail them would not do them any good they're going to be conquered they're going to be conquered but I just wanted them to remember this favor for years to come so that it would benefit my children and my family but that's it now this is an act of treason so when Omar said let me kill him the Prophet said no allah azza wajal has addressed the people who attended better by saying do whatever you want I forgive all of your sins so this particular mistake and the only mistake we know about how that may Allah be pleased with him what did profit do so on Salem he forgave it and this is how we should treat our friends our colleagues our relatives you have a colleague for 10 years he comes on time leaves on time there's all the jobs he does or he's requested to do a week happens and he doesn't come on time he doesn't deliver on time and you sack him ten years that does not intercede for you you look into his matter maybe his father is in hospital and he's on and off with him maybe his wife is sick or divorced him and he is stuck with two children you have to appreciate and make excuses I was praying Asia in my Masjid which I rarely do because I'm not an imam I'm just a happy so sometimes I go to deliver my lectures or I don't have anything to do so I prayed Asia I was the Imam during the prayer a child started to cry miserably what is the sunnah Hostin your favorite prayer so I asked it's an excuse I would leave and so I finished my prayer in a quicker fashion than I usually do after I finished I turned around there was this man and there were two little girls one of the elders as the elders usually do unfortunately now I take about I talk about they'll there's a man elder myself I get people saying coming youngsters coming to me and I think they're gonna challenge me maybe in and some sports is there hey uncle uncle yeah I'm an uncle so what so one of the elders stood up and unfortunately the elders usually are very loud and rude and this is a deficiency the hadith that all of you know there's another version of it the Prophet says Alison whoever his life is prolonged and his deeds are good will enter Jannah you know this hadith there's a third edition that people usually conceal and not say who ever man has man Tala omorrow his age is prolonged well Hashanah a mellow and he has good deeds and has sunnah hulu and he has good character it is a well-known fact that usually the older you get the more impulsive and you're not able to tolerate and your children are afraid of you your grandchildren are very afraid of you you're grumpy you're always complaining you're always criticizing this is a deficiency you have to fix what why do we bring this issue up one of the elders in the masjid stood up after the prayer was over and started banging on this brother fear Allah don't bring your children don't do this don't do that you have annoyed us we cannot pray we cannot concentrate the man made a charade made a scene when everybody else was going he is making a scene at the gentleman took his two daughters and quietly left the Masjid I immediately opened the door I have a special door for the Imam and I went and I met him from the other way and I went to him and I said brother forgive our uncle at the time yeah he's impulsive and he didn't mean anything except good and forgive him it take it easy he's not from the neighborhood this brother and wallah he the man broke in tears a grown-up Saudi using mid-30s started crying like a baby and I was looking what did I do and the guy saying well ah he a sheikh I don't know what to do their mother left me 4 months ago and I'm the only one taking care of my two daughters she is 6 and the other one is 3 or 4 not my family are willing to take care of her not her family are willing to take care of her I leave my work I don't have a maid and I don't know what to do what law here ends the guy started to cry I felt so bad but imagine how this uncle felt when I told him the following day because I met him and he's one of my students and I told him ah he look what you have done to that brother he told me so and so on well I didn't know yeah he then don't open your mouth seriously the way the Prophet deals with issues alayhi salatu wassalam is our Sunnah you see something wrong ask then act not shoot then ask questions so the Prophet asked hearted why when he got the justification he forgave him because it was once in a lifetime a sin that was not reoccurring so he gave it away for 73 had it for 73 pitch 315 3 1 5 chapter coming the people and has been Malik said the Prophet sallallaahu said I'm said make things easy and do not make them difficult calm people down and do not alarm them like this beautiful hadith is one of the etiquettes that we Muslims must share that is to make things easy and not cult the Prophet says make things easy and do not make them difficult calm people down and do not alarm them is this what we do some of us yes some of us know making things easy yeah he don't complicate things if someone needs a favor from you do it but sometimes you go to a government office and you apply for a service and you find out that the man is causing you problems so you bring the documents is it oh no you need two photographs so you bring the photographs oh no it has to be six by four you bring bit six by four is it it has to be colored now why didn't you tell me from the beginning you bring color I said where's the file you didn't ask for one no you have to have a file you go and bring the file it says okay you have to come after one week you come after one week he said there's a paper you forgot to bring from your office say anything that you work and how much is your salary and bank statement and your wife's approval you will a min ash-shaytaan-i'r rajeem we have the same where I come from making life difficult if you're a good Muslim you don't do this you help not by breaking the rules nor by bending them but make life difficult treat your brothers as you want them to treat you calming people and not alarming them is also essential we sit with people we sits with preachers and they say all of you inhale insha Allah why your sinful you lie you do this you do that a life I'm going to help them might as well go to the nightclub part in have fun the Prophet says this is not the way you have to calm people warn them and calm them give them hope and show them who Allah is to fear actually and this is why there is an authentic hadith all of us know but we don't know the other version which is authentic the Prophet came once addressed the companions may allah be pleased with him sallallahu salim ala muhammad and he said if you knew what I know you would have cried a lot and laughed a little you know this hadith the Companions fell into tears started weeping and crying the Prophet retired to his chambers Allah revealed to him this is the version you don't know why are you intimidating and scaring my slaves why are you doing this so the Prophet came out once again to those who were crying and he said I give you the glad tidings have good hopes and aspirations and Allah and you'll find it this is Islam so don't put me down as if I am going to hell forever some of the brothers gives hope and keep some banging in their lectures and their hope bar warning people advising which is good but give us some hope no matter what we do we will not enter Jannah unless it is by Allah's mercy so we do our best we throught we thrive to do our level we strive to do our level best but we have to not all the time come alarm people but rather we have to calm them down as well and [Music]

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Length: 81min 43sec (4903 seconds)

Published: Sun Nov 05 2017