Al-Adab Al-Mufrad | Sheikh Assim Al-Hakeem | D01S04

hadeeth number 293 not this one and this one I will must rule that I'm sorry may Allah be pleased with him said that the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said before your time a man was called to account and the only good and the only good found with him was that he was a rich man and used to mix with people he ordered his servants to those who couldn't pay him back on time the translation is not correct he ordered his servants to overlook those who couldn't pay him back on time to over look and to pardon to postpone and delay so you may add this into your notes I don't know if the the book is like this ok so the notes are from me probably just to show that I'm human being so panel I'm not perfect that's good that's good I need few Corrections like this so this was his only good character or treat in him that he used to lend people money he used to deal in transactions selling and buying in credit but he would not insist on his workers that they asked for the money to be given back on time if the man is poor he says postpone and delay Allah as I said we are more entitled to do that then he was so Allah for gave him what do we learn from this hadith the virtue of being kind to people Allah will fit you in the same fashion and more if you're kind if you forgive if you delay people as ordered in chapter 2 in the end Allah tells you if you lend someone money and he has no means of paying you back delay him wait until he is capable the people nowadays are quite the opposite I'll give you money I sell you on credit and I give you a deadline you don't meet the deadline I take you to the police and throw you in jail and this is all over I don't know about here in Saudi Arabia this is all over I'll take you to court even if the man is truly and sincerely in debt I don't care I'll take you from your wife I'll take you from a children I throw you in jail six years ten years until you repay me is this Islam if the man has money and is delaying paying me back though he has the means to yes but if the man is totally broke what is his best for him to stay back out and try to make something and pay you or throw him in jail until he rots and Allah knows when he can pay you back therefore it is how you treat people that Allah will treat you in the same fashion and this hadith is authentic since I hear Allah forgives those who forgive others and the issue of that is a very long issue that unfortunately I don't think we have time for because of the time restraints do you imagine if I tell you give ten thousand drink it's in charity a lot or little a lot of money you can do this without any problem how the Prophet said that is awesome in an authentic hadith whatever you lend twice Allah will record this as charity once someone comes to me she'll give me ten thousand ingots here you go for one month after one month he returns it another one says I need ten thousand for one month here you go he returns it Allah who will register it 5000 5000 in my hasanat charity and the money where is in my pocket not only this the Prophet says that a solution if you lend someone money and you put a deadline and the deadline is due and he apologizes and says I don't have money give me another deadline and you give him another deadline Allah would double the amount you have given as charity so the first deadline this is half of a charity the second deadline is the other half not only that the Prophet says if the second deadline is due and he says I don't have money every single day a charity is recorded to you the same amount you mean that ten thousand ingots after two deadlines are over I get ten thousand charity yes now each day is a ten thousand by itself so he's late for ten days this is a hundred thousand Ringgits given in charity while the money is still with him a month a year every day you are waiting and patient Allah gives you this in charity so would you give money in in debt of course I have people in Saudi and I was shocked a brother came to me in the Masjid and he's an expert he's from Pakistan Salam alaikum I love you I love your lectures okay that's good he said share this is thirty thousand three hours approximately 35,000 ingots I said for me should know Wow okay what is it for he said check this is to be kept with you for lending people money I just wanted to recirculate so I give this brother ten thousand I take a paper for one year after running he brings it back to me I give it again to a third person a fourth attempt and the guy is sitting home his thirty five thousand is being invested in solving people problems and it's coming back it's no surety but he's being he warded how much now the amount has been with my wife it's not me I gave her the money because she's taking care of all the charity I don't deal with financial stuff and she has nothing she said I don't have anything except my children and my children half of them or more are married I have nothing to do I'm old I know tell me about it and now she said I have nothing to do she has this briefcase with envelopes with money this is for so-and-so this is for the Chadian poor woman who has this in this this is for the orphans and she collects money and distributed and I hate this it's so much responsibility and she loves to do this so I give her the envelope and she keeps on keeping record giving this person five thousand ten thousand calling them getting it back again and give it to so imagine this Pakistani brother who's sitting in the comfort of his home sleeping and the meter is ticking mashallah he is getting money we're getting reward from Allah because he doesn't want anyone to know about this between you and me and share don't tell any what no one knows him course except me but Thank You Pamela there are people who are doing this so the issue of debts and credits to others is something that beyond your imagination and you will get you did for that insha'Allah hadeeth number 400 live no 309 yeah hadith number 300 in the chapter the one who is secured in his property this hadith is very very beautiful and it summons it summarizes our life if we have belief the prophet alayhi salatu salam says whoever is secure in his property this is number one being secure in your property healthy in his body this is number two and have his food for the day it is poisonous it is as if he owns the entire world what is this this hadith is what opens our eyes to the reality of our life so many of us think that happiness is interpreted in the car you drive in your bank account in how successful your children are or how healthy in how beautiful your spouse is or handsome but this is not true and happy life the Prophet says whoever is secured in his property those who are securing their property raise your hands you all have to raise your hand who's under fire here who's in worse all of you in Malaysia Angela you're secure bright you go to your bed nobody is outside with a Kalashnikov ak-47 waiting to kill you to shoot you nobody's wanting to rob your money you're secure in your property and Angela healthy in your body healthy ones raise your hands handle that we walk we talk we eat we sleep we are healthy masha'Allah we have everything then the Prophet says and has his food for the entire year the entire month the entire week the food of today why because I don't know if I'm going to live for tomorrow or not so if I have the food of today I'm secure I am healthy what else do I need the Prophet says whoever has these three things then it is as if he owns the entire world not the country not the city not the continent the whole world all of us actually possess the whole world in our hands but it is the heart that is sick some of us it is the heart that is totally dead when we are not grateful to Allah so when we fail to see the good we have I tweeted some time ago maybe a couple of weeks ago something that I read and I felt profound while reading it before you raise your hands to ask Allah for what you do not have look down and be grateful that the things you have how many good things do we have subhanAllah what do you want more no I need this I need that I need this your needs never seem to end yet your gratitude is zero so many things you have and you're not grateful to Allah the earth before you ask for something you don't have show your gratitude to the things the millions of things that you have if we succeed in implementing this hadith wallah we will be really and truly content and happy pay Hadees 411 and this is on page 275 is it Oh 276 and the chapter is hatred out of Allah so Abu Hurairah said that the Prophet Allah Salim said the doors of paradise are opened on Monday and Thursday what does it mean to say that the doors are opened on Thursdays and Mondays it means that on these days Allah would admit in his records more than the other days in another hadith authentic in the cessation the Prophet was asked Oh prophet of Allah you often fast Mondays and says this why do you do this the Prophet said my records and the records of all the Muslims and that the people are displayed to Allah on Mondays and Thursdays so I would like for my good deeds to be displayed while I am fasting so these beautiful two days Mondays and Thursdays through Muslims often fast them every week sure every week these are what eight days a week eight days a month multiplied by 11 this is almost 88 days a year almost three months Muslims fast other than Ramadan these Mondays and Thursdays is it mandatory share no I don't need it this is wrong you want to enter Jannah with the Prophet Isis on you have to try your level best to do this but share it's difficult is it difficult is it difficult to fast it is difficult when you don't fast but once you get it in the system Mondays and Thursdays it is as sweet as it can be I'll share I have to have my coffee no hands I'm not hinting I'm just saying I'm just saying see they're saying not me so share I need to have my coffee I cannot tolerate yeah how do you faster come about the first day of Ramadan two days of Ramadan are difficult and then I wish all the year was run man seriously most of the Muslim say this when it comes to the 30th of Ramadan they feel depressed why tomorrow's the aid we're going to eat fasting it's beautiful after five days of eating I don't want to fast until next summer them once you get this into your system fasting Mondays and Thursday is a beautiful Sunnah that would get you closer to allah azzawajal closer to the prophet sallallaahu Selim in paradise and it would cleanse your system I know brothers who play sports who go to the gym who play tennis in the afternoon while fasting for two hours no problem and they are in their 60s my brothers they do this and they feel normal no the hydration no after half an hour we shower we break our fast with vigor what a house with this gold so it's not a problem the problem is in here once you get this in the system the open the the gates of paradise will be open for you so the Prophet said as a sauna the doors of paradise are opened on Mondays and Thursdays every servant who does not associate anything with Allah is forgiven except except for him who sustains odds between himself and another it is except the one who has enmity or dispute or hatred those allah azzawajal delay them allah awj says keep them out until they reconcile and this is something to do with what with the hearts because the word is a Shanna Shanna is like stress or tension so if I have a tension between me and my brother this may not show but it's in the heart it would lead to seeing my brother and giving him my back why because I don't want to speak to him there is something between us so the Prophet is Allison tells us that Allah says leave them I don't want to see their records book I don't want to approve their good deeds until they reconcile how many of you have problems with brothers how many sisters have problems with sisters the biggest problem is when brothers have problems with sisters I get emails from sisters saying I have a relationship with a brother and now he doesn't talk to me how can i reconcile with him may Allah kiss a breeze why do you want to reconcile of them so I love him Sheikh just love me allah azzawajal what do what do I say people have their Islamic thinking distorted and crooked yeah they think that it's okay to have a relationship with a nun maha only on share can I take him as a friend on Facebook can I send him Twitter a tweets and emails and blog what is this so the problem is with the same gender we're not talking about the opposite gender and always consider this when you come to the hadith of the Prophet don't misinterpret it the Prophet says smiling in the face of your Muslim brother is a charity he says brother so the sisters would not meet me on the corridor says this is a charity shake smile what are you talking about there has to be a barrier between men and women don't mix things together the Prophet is addressing the same gender so you reconcile with your brother the sisters reconcile with their sisters now what is the ruling on not speaking to one another same gender of course the Prophet said item it is not permissible for a man to abandon or to cut off his brother more than three days and this is it shows you that Allah Azza WA JAL considers our human nature you might do something that offends me this is natural for me to become angry it is not natural to expect me to tolerate all your abuse and your shortcomings so Allah gives us a buffer zone gives us a way to vent our anger and that should not exceed more than three days you do something wrong to me I can by caught you not speak to you for three days after the heydays it's over you have to reconcile how you have to give Salam this is the minimal requirement if I see you the first day it's okay for me to see you and just give you my back I don't want to see you I don't want to give you soon on second day no problem third day no problem after 72 hours if I see you if I give you my back or you give me your back then both of us are sinful Allah will not look into our good deeds unless we reconcile and the minimum of reconciliation that is accepted is when you give Salam the best of us who initiates the naam so I hate your guts for what you had done but when I see you say salaam-o-alaikum you see why they come Solara have to love Ricardo Ali has I did the minimal requirement we're still Muslims not data we have to you know hang out together and hollows the minimum is Salam and replying to the salon now with the exception is it permissible for me to buy cut a brother who is sinful we have a big chapter in Islamic book that deals with with by cutting those who are sinful and some of our brothers expand this so much to the extent that maybe you find people not giving me Salam why share handsome is not Salafi by who standards by standards of our ulema or our Samaha or so and so ok so I cannot give you Salam I should boycott you and shun you for the sake of Allah what did I do so no you're not Salafi so Oh Muslim no no we have to stay away from you we have to do this is not permissible so the concept itself is founded in Islam when someone is an innovator or an openly sinful person it is permissible to buy caught him to abandon him providing that this is beneficial so Islam deals with the scale if I do this the benefits over way the disadvantages or the opposite whatever overweight Islam tells you ok for example my brother is an innovator or is an openly sinful person so I decide to advise him he doesn't listen I've I caught him he doesn't enter my house I don't speak to him until comes back to the straight path there are two choices either he will feel remorseful repent and come back come Dalila then the benefits are more or he would say the hell with you there are so many bad influential people who are taking me in and instead of doing alcohol now I will begin to do drugs so now the shortcoming and this is Maja's way more so you have to be smart and always weigh the consequences in every decision you make everything you make in Islam look at the consequences oh this is something that I have to speak out speaking out and forbidding evil is a good deed but if I see someone with half a bottle of vodka empty his eyes are red he's totally wasted and drunk and has a 9-millimeter in his hand ready to fire and he's figure pitching like this and I say I eat tequila fear Allah this will take you to hell what you are doing is a sin and a major sin and I know he's going to shoot me in the eyes then I am crazy simple as that the disadvantages over way don't do it Islam tells you measure the consequences don't be hasty don't rush into things without thinking of what will cause so you should know whether to buy caught someone or to talk to them and reconcile with them and in reconciliation it is always best to do hadith 442 you page 297 okay this does deals with extravagance in in spending and property I think we will postpone it to later and we will begin our Q&A okay Shalala and if you don't have you may we continue no problem if there are questions yes okay Barbara is this obviously our time is limited so you refer to the sheet below here phone number zero and three triple three nine five zero zero at the bottom is a sheik and whatever questions they have getting to the subject of discussion please SMS or what's up for the number in Shaba okay so first question regarding the hadith where I sha for Allah and her has no food that some dates and did not cook forward two months did any other Sabha knew about her condition and if they did anything about it okay first of all do you mind if I answer you're sitting down that do you mind yes or you do against it cannot hit I'm going to continue to sit down both wait but this is out of courtesy see my good character is mashallah overwhelming I'm learning a lot and learning a lot at ham dinner first of all the hadith goes through the serie in very different stages before the seventh year of hijra there was extreme poverty among all the companions on the seventh year of hijra allah opened the city of hiber to the muslims and everybody became rich so these hadith that show us where poverty was prevailing are referring to the times of this there are so many hadith among them a man comes to the prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam and says o prophet of allah i don't have food and i'm a traveller so the prophet sends to all of his wives that give food to my guests they all come back to him say we have no food it is possible suggest so the Prophet says to the companions who will host my guest so Abu Talha the husband of I'm so lame says your guest is my guest o prophet of Allah so he takes him after Isha to his house and he says to him Celine bring us food to the guest she says well why we don't have food except little for the children he said we have a problem so let the children go to sleep without do anything give them water give them toys and prepare the food little food you have and give it to me once I put it in front of the guest turn off the lamp so she does this and he turns she turns off the lamp and they pretend to be eating and and the guest is eating but they do not touch the food because not enough after they pray Fechter the Prophet said listen to that man Allah is admiring your deed of yes of last night so the Companions did not have food and there were times when the Prophet Ali Saleh - Salam did not have food but would not tell we all know the hadith that the Prophet when he died where was his shield that is thought o sanam with a Jew he gave this he pawned his shield with a Jew in return for some barley to eat and he died with his shield with the Jew we had rough man the richest man among the Companions we have Abdul Rahman even now if we had Abu Bakr the Prophet would never ask so many incidents we learn in the Sunna Abu Bakr and Umar were starving they went to the Prophet a some old said o prophet of Allah we starving and they exposed their bellies and their tying to their bellies a piece of rock why do you tie is it exercise when you are hungry you are walking like this your stomach is so empty your back is bent so you tie your stomach with a stone or a rock so that you can walk straight they complain to the Prophet that is awesome that they don't have anything to eat so is starving the Prophet unveils his stomach to Soames because he's more hungry than they are so this was the norm and the profit would never ever tell anyone and the company did not know they used to send him food as gifts every now and then but this was not the norm because some of them thought that he had enough some of them themselves did not have enough money and Allah knows best he said with regards to duty being dutiful to one's parents does it extend to the in-laws and a second follow-up question is if one's parents passed away can being dutiful to the parent in loss compensate for the plans this question is from the sister I can tell by the handwriting on the SMS this is the lie you know that this is a lie but I'm joking so that those asleep can wake up your in-laws whether for you men or for the sisters I'm not related to you yesh would you mean Adam if a sister does not meet her husband's parents until she dies she doesn't visit them she doesn't call them Allah who not question her if she sees them she gives them Salam and if they say Salam alaikum she is Riley who's Salam but she never meets them she's not sinful at all likewise if I never see my mother-in-law or my father-in-law or visit them in their house I am NOT sinful because Allah ordered me to connect to my next of kin and they are my in-laws and not - next of kin having said this do not think at all I am promoting it why I'm just giving you your rights yet you do not want your rights you want the highest level possible which is forgiveness pardoning being kind tolerating look any to postpone people so if you are tolerant if you are respectful if you are obedient though it is not mandatory your father in law says don't do this it's not his right you don't you're not obliged to obey Him my mother in law says don't go and eat out today with your husband my son you don't have any control on me you have control on your son you have control I'm talking to my mother-in-law on your daughter not on me we have to segregate this but being a good Muslim does not end at obligations and rights no it ends it never ends you always kind you're always dutiful this is why when sisters call and say I don't like my mother-in-law and I live with her in the same house and my husband is refusing to take another house he's sinful it is your god-given right to have a separate home not necessarily a palace or a mansion can be or even and an extension or a suite in the house totally blocked so that you don't see them if they do not see you one room one kitchenette one bathroom this is sufficient if he provide this this is his obligation but she says he doesn't want to do this what should I do you have two options one which is highly recommended you stay and be kind to him try to be kind to his wife to his mother though you hate her guts but being kind to her makes him love you so it's a win-win situation and eventually after 2030 years you will become a mother-in-law and you will be treated exactly the same fashion second option opted for divorce but consider the consequences sisters are impulsive yes I'll go for divorce wait wait oh I cannot tolerate this he's not giving me my right I'm not happy I'm depressed I'm yeah octi or my daughter wait let me talk to you if you get divorce sinc rational you have a number of scenarios one you live on your own you will provide for yourself you're a rich woman and you have no problem in that it's good for you two you're not rich most likely nor have a job most likely and you will go back to your parents house and you will feel suffocating because before you were free to do whatever you want you had on your husband and children to care of now your father is suffocating you what are you going who are you talking to on the phone you're divorced now you have to be careful watch out no you don't go out you know you don't do this no you don't see people let them come and see you this becomes a prison what is the third option there are a number of scenarios you have to lay it all down on the table and think before you make a decision but if you make a decision and then whoops now we have a problem can you reverse it no you can't so my advice is know your rights know your obligations and think for the best and inshallah this make easy is it sufficient to obey my parents in law my father and mother in law at this amp am obeying my my Paris no there is no resemblance at all being kind to them is a good deed but it is not an obligation like it is with your father and money circle certainly topic of in-laws this question always be one sister in the other we basically what if a sister whose husband forbids her to see her own parents what should she do first of all one of the main rights of the husband is that his wife cannot go out from the house without his permission and she cannot invite anyone into his house without his permission this is the saying what who did such a marriage don't ask me this is Islam these rights are made and given to the man so that he governs his household Islam focuses most on the benefit of the community not on the individual so the majority of men are men no one would reject or refuse his wife to go and see his parents do we have any of the sisters the men don't look at we don't want divorce to happen any of the sisters does your husband prevent you from going and visiting your parents raise your hand okay Tom DeLonge we don't have any problem the sisters are doing like this serious there are I know there are but it's maybe one in a thousand or five thousand that would do this they would prevent and in 70 percent they have rights why because I've touched and seen and communicated in situations where the wife goes to her parents house come back with Shaitaan Devils Djinn possessing her and the man is complaining share every time she goes and meets her mother and stays for six seven hours she comes a different total person I love her I care for her but her mother brainwashes her she comes with a different face and it takes me like seven or eight days until she goes back to normal this is why I say no more going to your parents so what I say that he's wrong no he's not wrong he's had the full right to do so yet maybe there is one in a million whose abusive he says I don't want you to see your parents this is his rights he has no right to stop her from communicating she can call she can meet them elsewhere if she sees them in the market she will greet them if she sees them in a wedding in a relative's house in an occasion no problem he cannot tell her not to meet them but he has the right to tell her not to visit them and they are not to come to his house because the Prophet said a son that one of the man's right not to be admitted to his house without his permission anyone so if we manage to do this and the woman and women have the power in their hands to manipulate men like dummies you know they have the strings in their fingers she when she talks to the man in a masculine way he will never concede but when she exposes her weakness and feminist side and say please honey do this do that the man melts like butter in the Sun whatever she tells him he does it she has to know the scar tissue sometimes the strategy is through his stomach make a good meal and then ask whatever you want approved he has no prob sometimes by being kind and by not retaliating or responding to his abuse some men may shout and why did you do this and the woman does not speak after half an hour he became he becomes regretful what have I done so he tries to fix it up I'm going out do you want something from outside no thank you now she's making me feel more and more guilty to three similar requests and then she presents her case ok ok no problem he agrees you have to know the strategy how to come but this is this requires another lecture a Sharma check what is the Islamic explain point on foster parents or step parents assuming without suckling and would this person have to give service to them islamically type you own oh no obligation to your stepfather he is the husband of your mother he has no responsibility obligation of obedience or anything he's a complete stranger to you you respect him because you love your mother and if you think that being kind to him is being dutiful to your mama not your mother then do this but there are no obligations no rights at all he's a complete stranger sure I've been living with him for 25 years same thing islamically he's not your blood foster father if I understand this is the one whose wife settled you right is this a foster father huh basically adoption the question is in a line of adopted action we don't have a doctor in exactly this is the question okay it's done for adoption so if a person adopts a young child there is no adoption in Islam there is supporting and sponsoring an orphan but he doesn't become your blood child he does not called after you I can adopt someone who is five six months old but he doesn't become my child I cannot give him my name chapter 33 sure that it adds up in the five six beginning ayahs it addresses this issue the Prophet Aristotle Salaam adopted a child before Islam the child's name was they'd even Haritha and he's the only companion named in the Quran so Abu Bakr's name is not there Omar Othman ali every no companion is mentioned in the Quran except they'd he was known they did Muhammad until Allah revealed this ayah called them after their parents so his name was changing too they did know how difficult it was his father so there is no adoption in Islam which means this man may Allah reward him took me in his house he took care of me until I became a ground a grown-up man am I obliged to obey him like a father no but if you don't respect him and give him his due respect you're not a real Muslim taking care of you for so many years and all what he gets is foul language and mistreatment what kind of a Muslim are you if a dog is kind to you you have to be kind to adore what about this man who took you in and gave you his food and shared his home with you but as an obligation of cutting the kinship etc no it doesn't fall under this category it falls under the cattle category of being kind to those who are kind to you this question is from a river she embraced Islam how does she maintain the ties of kinship to a families who are non-muslims and obviously there are non Islamic celebrations involved as well what were your words of advice for the sister bye first of all there's no copy don't deem of quarry bismillah when you come into Islam your life is transformed Islam means submission you submit yourself to Allah whatever Allah tells you you do whatever Allah prohibits you refrain understood understood having said that Slim's in general and reverts in particular have a problem this problem is easily illustrated in the following example my life is a photograph Islam is a frame my problem is that the frame is smaller than the photograph a real Muslim puts the frame which is Islam on the photograph and cuts the edges so that the frame fits exactly on the picture this is a real Muslim our problem as Muslims that the picture is too big and I'm not willing to compromise Islam is good yes but in here no my life that I cannot cut you know sorry don't touch this what to do okay bring duct tape and break the edges of the frame and try to put it here and there until it can accommodate the picture but how would the frame look very bad so in short for you sister as a heebert your compass is Islam it tells you where is your North Pole where is the east and west where is the south and you have to live accordingly so I'm a Muslim I'm proud I call my mom I visit her I send her gifts any celebration that is related to their religion amount of it okay we have Thanksgiving can you come and eat we have Halloween can you give chicken please no we have Christmas on our doorsteps can we put a tree light and you come and visit no new year no Easter no a Bock nothing because it's a different religion Mother's Day Father's Day all not Islamic stay away and these days are 10-15 days a year you have the rest of the year to show your obedience respect love go out of your way make the line clear to them I do not cross the line of Islam being dutiful to those who are mom to you your father your siblings your uncle's but you don't deal with your cousin male cousins they are not related to you so business as usual no it's not as usual it's a little bit extra you have to have the edge because before you are not a Muslim you call you don't call everybody does this now you are a Muslim you have to cross the extra mile so you have to add so much strength and power into getting closer to them portraying to them that this is Islam they abuse you they will attack you they will talk negative to you big smile one year it comes in when it comes out no harm done this is how a Muslim should be even with parents when they are saying bad things to you big smile as if they're not talking think of something else think of my lecture so your father is nagging and you do this you do not lawfully he's abusing your mother is doing the same think of my lecture think of my you know a joke in DSS yeah I will try my level best don't let it stagnate in your heart let's go you feel better and you feel safe ishyama there's a question where it also had it bought Levin does it apply to a non-muslim enmity towards a non-muslim a captive or is it specifically for the believers and so laughter that is what other guidelines for is to have socialize and have non-muslims as friends this needs Eric Eric lecture okay but in a nutshell this hadith deals only with Muslims because their deeds will be displayed to a lot the Virgin a non-muslim doesn't have this luxury because as long as he is non Muslim he has nothing Allah says in the Quran baka demon ulema I may do a minimal Raja Anna who haba and man fula and we come to whatever deeds they have done and we shall make it as katha dust the non-muslims nothing is accepted from them on the day of judgment whatever benefits and favours from Allah they get here in compensation to their good deeds we see a kafir doing good deeds we see a kafir holding a bland mind a bland a boo-boo let me move you see a kafir holding a blind man's hand crossing the road this is ever did this was his dinner tonight Allah gives him a dinner in return for his good deeds all the goods he they find is in compensation for their good deeds once they die Hamas because Allah created this world for attacked and you will live 70 years 90 years and then its death eternity heaven or eternity hell and all of those living on earth say that we are the right one as Muslims we know that we are the right one so we have to sit with the non-muslims and convince them that this is the right tradition it's very easy to convince no problem five minutes and they'll convince it's logical but in order for you to understand this hadith the enmity is between and hatred that is prohibited in between a Muslim and another Muslim this does not mean that we encourage people to have hatred and enmity and being stressful and tense with non-muslims for no apparent reason a large audience were to Montana tells us that there is no problem in having good relationship and affection to the non-muslims who do not fight us and who do not take us out of our lands now the question is can we do friend depending what do you mean by befriending them if it means that he's my colleague in school or in the office and I go and drink coffee which I don't have and I said you would like some coffee on the way he says SP this is duck Allah here and I bring him a coffee this is okay there's no problem in that he's not befriending the prohibited befriending in Islam is to take him close allies to hang out with him to share with him my secrets and my feelings and to prefer him over the others this is not permissible in Islam but to have good relationship with non-muslims no problem at all the Prophet Isis a lamp had a servant who was Jew in his home and there was no problem so you don't know more than the Prophet as some do you the caliph al regards to a sister who has three elder brothers who resort they are married so she's unmarried and she has a choice between getting married or taking care of all parents but will be a priority to get married see the responsibility does not will depend on you sister to take care of your parents you have three siblings so it is shared this is wrong to think that all my three brothers are married and they have their own life I have to sacrifice my own life No this is communal obligation not only that financially it is 6 to 1 2 to 2 and your share the sister is one so there are six shares they have to provide financially and one share from your site so even if you get married the four of you must provide service to your parents if they're crippled they're too old they cannot take care of themselves yes it becomes responsibility of all four three brothers and sisters and if they cannot do this physically because she's married and they're married they're not at least of hiring someone a man and his wife to take care of them to serve them to provide for them but to sacrifice your life not to get married maybe postpone it 5 or 7 or 10 years until they all died and then you end up with no wife sorry let me rephrase that after a long day I tend to make mistakes I do not promote gay marriage so don't coat this up and after 5 or 10 years the sister is 35 or 40 years of age the demand and supply applies here who will come and propose to her or marry her very difficult no Sam doesn't tell you to destroy your life kill yourself or your parent it's good but it's not your only responsibility there are three boys who are also obliged to take care if you get someone proposing get married and pray to Allah that your husband gives you a shot a lot opportunity to serve Him this his brother married a river and she has a child from a previous marriage they obviously both Muslims but the child is basically non-muslim below the age of puberty is he allowed to force the child to convert the slum or practice Islam la ecological deep there is no compulsion and religion you cannot force anyone to become now the scholars say that when a child is born he follows the best of the two religions what do you mean by that the father is a Muslim the mother is a Jew the best of the two religions is what Islam a father is Christian and the mother is Jew the best of two religion is Christianity so by default if he marries this rebirth and she has a child who did not reach the age of puberty it is the responsibility of the mother to up bring him as a Muslim because by default he should be a Muslim the problem is if you live in a non-muslim country if he is in Saudi Arabia he is Muslim for sure he cannot do anything else he is mostly me where he will he go he is Muslim but the problem is if you run a non-muslim country where they have the issue of freedom of religion etc and everyone else the brothers are doing this as if we're in the ecumene now steam coming up please the problem is when you go out this is I know this because I come from Saudi Arabia with temperatures of 54 outside celcius in cold weather if you go out and you see the humidity and the heat immediately you'll catch cold because we're used to it our bodies are used to it you know air conditioning extreme oven and often on off and on in the house in the car in the gym so we use with you guys I don't know how will you any reciprocate but may Allah make it easy so I hope this answers your question not my questions where we check where guys to a person who lend don't money to someone is he or she obligated to know where the money is being spent and what happens when that person refused to pay after certain PFI what is a Hispanic approach if you are the FBI or the CIA or the KGB yes when someone wants alone from you is it where do you want to use it in Y how much you're going to and can I see your says ability study but if you are a normal Muslim and you trust a brother no this is not of your concern the Prophet said are they full of some interest me is level mark Takuma lyonie a sign of how good is your Islam is that you do not engage in something that does not concern you it's not a good business okay I want a thousand ringgit why why it's not your business he gave me oh don't give me so he's entitled to give you without any questions when returning the money if he does not return it you may demand that he gives you the money but you may not investigate where did you spend it why did you spend it this is not your business [Music] listen to it law and is it considered birth in Islam to be spat to eat what no the first one I understood the second one to eat a lot to it same thing is it is sin to eat a lot you can eat a lot but not these are the same point to be fat to be fat is not within your reach no one said oh I'd like to become fat nobody does this it is something that Allah created some people with it can be a result of overeating but it can also be a result of the hormones and your genes not your what you wear your jeans you mean in your blood this is in Allah's hand now over eating is prohibited and the prophet alayhi wa sallam and this was authenticated by a half of the 130 Bukhari a man burped in the presence of the prophet alayhi salatu salam you know burping so the Prophet said restrain and keep away your burping because the longer people are all in this dunya are the longest in hunger on the day of judgment the more you eat the longer you will be hungry on the day of judgment and this is pretty scary the Prophet Allah so Allah said in an authentic hadith it is sufficient for a believer to eat a handful of morsels that would straighten up his back meaning that it would not make you starve and then the Prophet said if you must eat if someone says o prophet of Allah few morsels here at least we have a subway like this not half no complaint I'm full terrified Elizabeth so the Prophet he says if you must eat then consider one-third for your food one-third for your drink and one-third for your breathing for air who does this I've seen few scholars eat like beasts and he leaves some meat for us the whole sheep you're eating it and the chef is eating eating is eating masha'Allah hooted and I tell him share the Prophet says one-third for your food one-third for your drink wants it for your breathing he said I know my cert maybe he has auxiliary tank Allahu Alem so yes eating a lot is against the Sunnah unless it helps you worship Allah how is that Sufi an a study one of the great great great scholars of Islam his name is well known he used to eat like a beast he he used to eat a lot and the Companions his companion used to describe him in this but after he eats and take the Swedes and masha'Allah he says to himself and to those around feed the slave then make him work and he spends the rest of the night pray the hatchet now this is different the guy is using what he's eating to what to worship allah dhu-l unlike us when we eat we have siesta then we have fiesta then we have all night long everything nothing is for Allah nothing's eating a lot makes you sick in the mind a lot of the scholars would not eat a lot they say it affects your memory it's affects your intelligence and it's a waste of time when you go through how they used to live well why you feel so little some of them would only eat cake because he can dip it in water and does not need to swallow to shoo it like meat and vegetables so that he would not be deterred from reading a lot of the hadith and the books and compiled they eat anything just not to feel start we masha'Allah what is the topping what is the dressing do we can pickle the do put this put that and after we eat I need a drink to digest what you do eat in the first place it lifts him so I hope this addresses it regards to the sister knowing that father earns Haram income and he gives her maintenance from father to daughter what did she have to do and the follow-up to that question if a person knows that their parent their father earns ah-ha-ha-ha become what happens to the inheritance the the money that they inherit this is $100 bill I had it for two years I'm trying to exchange it I did don't get the chance but it's becoming high in value if I earn this from Haram do i have to burn it does it become Haram this 100 bill No the value is Haram this 100 bill if it fell on the ground and somebody took it they can buy or and with it if I give it to someone it becomes halal to him it's Haram to me I'll give you another example in the Authentics under the Prophet al-assad salaam came home and he found a plate of food so mashallah now you're colder I don't feel my limbs now fellas I think my nose is gonna fall do the eye but we can ice-skate here no problem hamdulillah so the Prophet came home hungry so the food he said bring the food to me I want to eat so mother Aisha said o prophet of Allah this was given as a charity sadaqah to the slave woman valeera you know but IRA she is the one who was a slave and Aisha water and set her free a long story short so someone gave this as sadaqa now does the Prophet eat soba ha ha Barrera brought it to the house of the Prophet re salatu salam as a watch as a gift so i she said o prophet of allah don't touch it it's such charity given to Barilla he said I know it's a charity given to Barrera which is a gift to us the food is the same food now if the food was given charity to the Prophet would he had eaten from it why because column for him due to the change of direction it became a lot if your sisters your father's income is haram he works in a bank whatever he provides for you is halal for you because the earning is haram for him but it is his responsibility and obligation to provide for you so it becomes halal to you then there is no problem if he dies you inherit the there is no problem unless our share why do you have to spoil it because this is knowledge we have to be clear in giving fatwa the earning is dividing the two types earning that is Haram in the ways being earned and earnings that are Haram in their self oh sure this is too complicated it's too late now and we're getting sleep can you make it easier don't worry this is why I'm here earning that is Haram due to the means of earning it such as RIBA I gave you one thousand you give me a thousand and one hundred this is RIBA I sell televisions that can be used mainly in how I sell things that can be so and so the earning itself is haram through the process but the actual money is Halong the other which is Haram in itself if I steal your mobile phone so if your father deals in stolen mobile phones and he gives you a mobile phone what's your ruling the item itself is Haram you cannot possess it oh but he earned it no he did not earn it he stole it likewise your father is a drug dealer selling drugs can no way be halal is not a mixed income it's completely totally prohibited so this income itself the whole thing even if he gives it to you it's Haram you cannot inherit it you cannot utilize it so I hope this answers you the quicker regards to earning Halasz income can you explain how to differentiate between working a company that is Haram their business is Haram and a company that the business is halal but there is a bid of Haram in how they operate for example interests or pre-mixing on so and so forth okay life is difficult I think I'm going to use this to cover up a little bit this is embarrassing the company line of work is important in deciding whether the income of the person working for it is halal or Haram it can be totally Haram it can be partially Haram and it can be Helen halal company such as a diary product company a daily product company they sell milk cheese the butter any problem does it intoxicates you know teller the cows are halal are they married legally Monhegan excuse me oh who cares I'm just doing this so it's halal product no problem with what is the financing the financing is in house no loans no Reber nothing colors your work there as a driver as an accountant because there's no ribbon as a production manager as a laborer as a cow is Helen no problem we come to the far right a Haram company that produces movies and music nothing is halal at all totally Haram or a financial institution that deals with River so a bank 90 percent of the bank's earning comes from RIBA it's not that I'm giving you a bank account and that's it they have a Treasury Department they lend short time and a long time loans with percentage from 0.5 into 2 T or 15 depending on the time and the duration the amount so the majority of the income is totally Haram a tobacco company oh sure we have cigarettes low tar and nicotine it's all Haram so whether you're a driver whether you're an accountant whether you are a cook in the cafeteria the whole thing is Haram you're not allowed to come close to it we have something in between this is a gray area the gray area is the project is halong we sell pens we sell stationaries all Halla the problem is with financing so as a company I don't have money so I have to go to the bank and get a loan interest based this is a gray area scholars say that if the financing is less than one-third so it's less than 33% it's halal for you because my job is to manufacture pens I have nothing to do with Haram income it's the owner job to do this they say and this is something I wish he had there's no black and white in this this is what scholars come up with they say if it's more than 1/3 the financing then it becomes similar to a bank an institution it's best for you to leave working there and on my husband well the guys to a person just pull up that where does the person who works in a bank and then wants to basically leave that job but also you cannot do it overnight yes time the children what we advise this person every night okay see the issue is do you trust Allah or not Yeshua is a liar provider or your company is my provider then resign what share ah what do you mean but we have a problem if you convinced that it is Haram design who will feed the children Allah what happens if you die who will feed the children who Allah as does it as long as you know that this is how I'm resign and quit what should I do with the money share the end of service indemnity if I leave the bonuses if I resign they give me money if you just came to know that this is Haram the previous savings and money you have is harder for you no problem take it and enjoy it because Allah don't does not hold you accountable and kill you know before knowledge you have no problem once you know it becomes Haram that you have to look into how to segregate it Allah knows that with regards to the father has access or can take the welcome the son can he ask the son to take his law and basically give it to other his other children or the sons I answered this but you will not hear maybe you busy getting any more efficient yeah so though I said that when a father asked for the sons wealth to be given part of it to one of these siblings the son is not obliged to do this and it is prohibited for the father to ask for it why because this would cause enmity I work I collect money and my father gives it to my punk brother who doesn't work who doesn't do anything this is unfair of course if you have a lot of money by default you should not leave your brothers needing money you should just throw it to them and give them a good life sure as a father how would you advise another father on who he should look for or what he should look for in a person who he will give his daughter married Sunday you know this is very difficult because you're putting toys it is difficult to look for a good spouse to your daughter and the opposite it's difficult to look for a good spouse to your son because it is like watermelon you get a watermelon you open it it's white you get another one you open it it's red and sweet it's the same thing here now with boys it might be easier why because the boy will get married if the girl is not good he divorces her and marry again and again and again that the supply is far greater than the demand so many around them with women it's difficult because they're fragile they are breakable so if you give your daughter to someone who does not fear a large divergent or you don't do your due diligence in investigating and exerting all the effort you can just to be safe but again you cannot guarantee this then you have a problem because once she is divorced to get married again is not an easy task unless she is with qualities that people hunt after and if she had these qualities she would not have been divorced to begin with so unfortunately the supply and demand is difficult what - look I personally would always look for someone who is practicing but again this depends on the level of practicing of my daughter so if my daughter is not that practicing I would not choose an imam of a Masjid because she may not be able to live with that standard indifference of practicing he has to be kind not in not the type of person who gets angry he has to be generous not necessarily at all rich I gave one to three of my daughters two people whose salaries were below five thousand reals barely enough which is not a lot in Saudi standard but because they're masha'Allah righteous practicing knowledgeable kind I've asked around in their neighborhood in that workplace in education wise they teachers the first thing I would ask how many times do they fight with people make problems and always positive no they're nice hearted they don't fight they don't curse this is a very big important characteristic in a Muslim more to me important than having a long beard because sometimes you have a person who looks practising like myself long beard short so miss Walker in my pocket and I think wow this guy is the best of Muslims I will accept him but having the worst of character I don't want to give my daughter to someone like this who prays night prayer and abuses her and curses her and says bad things to her no I don't want my daughter to be married I'd rather her marrying someone praying on time not that committed not that knowledgeable but gives her a happy life of course if I combine the two mashallah it's a win-win situation but they are as rare as the red mercury to find people practicing hand with good character and being committed to the Sunnah very hair but you will find them if you look and the topic takes too much time so let's move on sure can you briefly explain what does the word man Hodgman and how does the widest man hatch and heads and how they differ with Mother Language is a new terminology used by the what we call the new Salafi or the super Salafi or the extreme Salafi who are they they are our brothers they share the same Akita they follow the same fake books they appreciate the same shared embarrassment as a means of banning unfortunately in the nineties they went a little bit to the far extreme to counter-attack the brothers who went a little bit to the left and they started clashing in number they are decreasing decreasing decreasing until you barely can see them they focus on al-qaeda which is good but to the extent that they may fall into what is known as Asia so they think that following the ruler is to heat oh now they turn off the air conditioner because there aren't us to be no problem I'm not leaving until I get warm so they think that obeying the ruler is the most but most important thing in life after the heat this is not not right obeying the ruler respecting the ruler is part of a religion but not to that extreme and they believe that they have four or five and Lama they call them the well-established scholars four or five of them that's it and they criticized heavily all the other scholars all the other to ads and try to tarnish the reputation in saying bad things about them so that people would not listen or follow or learn from them only to learn from their four or five and Amma's they came up with an issue because they found that our Ikeda is the same way we pray is the same the fill we follow is the same so what is the difference are you have the man hatch then hatch even from a medical man hatch but what is then hash it is nothing look call that man has gender or a no in the Sooner said yes but the Salif say you have to follow the methodology the men - what is this - I had no only Ikeda this is all what I know so no no no not everyone who follows the Salafi al-qaeda is on the main hatch so now they brought this description to segregate between the Ummah so whenever you have someone who's Sarah P calling for the Quran or sent action excellent Ikeda this is I think his man has is not good you think okay can I have something in writing what is the man has to know this is something you may you may not detect it has to be something you feel panama they tarnish people's DNA Ikeda and reputation because it doesn't follow their manners therefore my advice to you do not consider this what they call man hatch as long as you have a firm strict updater you're following the Sunnah of the Prophet i sir am don't listen to anyone follow the scholars great scholars of Islam should have been Bassman SME ensure Albani in F whatever they say according to the Sunnah not to follow them blindly they're human beings they have mistakes and shortcomings as well so my way my akkada my religion states that I have to follow the Quran and the Sunnah with the understanding and the comprehension of the Salafi of the Companions of the terrain of the tablet today I'm okay they're sitting there not leaving because they are afraid of you haha last question where regards to a person has 1000 Ringgits for example is it better for this person to loan it or give it a surety so Daka of course lending it is better then sorry let me rephrase I think we have to give please I'm making mistakes usually I don't make mistakes that is of course giving it as a charity is better because the charity you have no interest no string that things attached in lending you are looking to get the money back and reinvest it again and again giving it one go a large that will just multiplies it up to 700 give it giving it in an alone it will be ten thousand four five thousand ten thousand for 10,000 but not to buy to be multiplied up to seven hundred and larger innovation is a common hurshe okay guys hamdullah so that concludes day one

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