The Non-Negotiable Of Forgiving Yourself

[Music] morning everybody good open your Bibles to Genesis 16 we're talking about the non-negotiables and we're just going to continue today on the non-negotiable of some things that God said that we can't change and this might seem kind of elementary to some but I think it's something we got to keep coming back to because if we don't have good foundations you know we can build a house that's pretty bad and we've got to check our foundation and make sure it's good and one of the things that I really feel is a problem with a lot of Christians is they don't know how to forgive themselves and you know we've heard you got to forgive but do you know how important it is to forgive yourself because we got to get the skeletons out of the closet and dig them all out and lay them at the feet of Jesus and if you don't deal with stuff head on and face it it creeps back and the devil loves to throw guilt and the only way to get rid of guilt is through the cross and through Jesus and we've got to learn no matter you might have forgiven yourself but this is a new week we we got to forgive ourselves again and maybe you got to forgive others so next week we might continue this we'll see how we go but forgiving yourself is probably the hardest thing you'll do because you expect more you set standards and as your Christian and you blow it and you miss it you're even harder on yourself but if you don't forgive yourself correctly you can't forgive others because you will constantly project bitterness perfection on people you'll constantly set up a goalpost that you're not meeting you didn't meet in yourself so you know you get critical and the most critical people usually when they're criticizing everyone else really it points back to them they have a heart that they haven't really cleansed and the Bible says when you stand praying forgive if you have aught against any and that that any can be you we know and next week we might go on but we'll see we see where we go but this is so important because if we don't know how to forgive and lot of people how do I do it how do I do it we got to know how to forgive ourselves so this is to me is something I've preached for years and I've had to practice for years because we all blown it and as a Christian you set higher you know you don't think you'll blow it but how many know we still missed the mark we missed the mark and so if you know how to forgive yourself it's I'm not saying excuse yourself I'm saying you face it and you deal with it but you deal with it in the Lord and you deal with it right so the accuser of the Brethren doesn't come and constantly because what he does if you don't put stuff under the cross he's gonna constantly bring this up and he's gonna constantly and he might even after you have been forgiven but when you've dealt with it right at least you know how to how to rebuke him and how to push him back but if you don't really know how to which most people never have truly learned how to forgive themselves and if you don't know how to forgive yourself through the Lord in the cross and the blood and what he's done for us you can't properly forgive others and there's so much bitterness and strife in the body of Christ and it all comes back to not knowing how to forgive so that's kind of where we're going to end up but to start with here we're going to talk about Sarah and how she kind of abused Hagar and one of the things I want to start off saying right away is that I'm not for abuse in any way shape or form and you as you know that if you've most of us have been through narcissistic abuse not once but many times especially if your mercy motive type personality you kind of attract them it's like a magnet and so you have to learn what and I've been teaching on that so I'm not talking about today running from hard places that God's released you from but there are some people and sometimes we run away from God we run away from ourselves we run away from correction we run away from change now we're all changing this is a world that's changing constantly and the things in the church are changing and we have to know what changes will allow and we'll say okay gods with okay with that and there's other changes as no we are not going that way we have we are not you know we are released from some of these places so I'm not talking about places God's released you from and what I want to talk to you the next few minutes but it's about places we run from places we run from because we don't like to face hard times and the Bible talks about we are supposed to be warriors and if we don't know how to stay in a hard place and not run receive correction and do everything gods we're going to be wimpy and this is what we have we have many people now in church that as soon as Corrections given they run I'm offended I don't want to deal with that we've got a bunch of spiritual babies basically that are in their diapers they have pacifiers they don't know how to change themselves they're they're constantly wanting to be spoon-fed they don't know how to read the study do any research on their own they get easily tossed to and fro by every new wind of doctrine I mean if I tell you I went to heaven today and my lunch break you'd all say oh what God say we have to learn that this stuff is being really played on our emotions and you know people are at you just say you went to heaven and whatever they say out there you bring it back and people are like oh really so they don't even believe their Bible anymore they want outside of the Bible experiences which is the day we're living in which is very dangerous because they all they have to say is an angel I had a dreamer I went to heaven and then people go okay and then what do they do they swallow it and we are not to swallow this kind of poison right so anyway here Sarah you know God promised Abraham and Sarah they're going to have a son and took too long so what did Sarah do she goes I'm going to take my egg my handmaiden Hagar and we're gonna have a baby through her this whole story we're not gonna read it but she did in verse four she conceived and when she saw that she had conceived her mistress was despised in her eyes and Sarah said unto Abram my wrong be upon me I have given my mate into thy bosom and when she saw that she had conceived I was despised in her eyes in other words she was like a spoiled brat that went nananana I am pregnant you are not so here's no if Sarah's getting upset because you know you know there's a lot of things we would understand about the customs of their days but this was not totally not normal for this kind of thing to happen to have children through their handmaids but definitely an issue Melanie a fleshly thing definitely not a promise of God being fulfilled by God but by the flesh trying to fulfill itself right so there's always trouble when we try to do things in our own strength trying to help God out you ever done that well God you're just a little too slow so I'm gonna help you out so those help you out called Ichabod Ishmael's we've all had golden calves so Sara Abraham basically says you know what she's your lady you deal with her the way you want to and so Sara's upset so she deals with her harshly she dealt with her probably in the wrong way she probably buked her she's probably jealous she probably did him out of a wrong spirit and hurt and wounded her I kind of feel sorry for her sometimes I do I feel like God she kind of got used and now she's being abused and and so she runs and so that I want to share a little bit about running from a hard place she ran and she fled and she went into the wilderness and the angel of the Lord found her by a fountain of water in the wilderness by the fountain and the way to sure and he said Hagar Sarah's maid whence he called her Sarah's maid notice that when you have an assignment even if you don't like it it's still an assignment so he didn't call her head you just Hagar you're Sarah's maid I know who you are you are assigned to Sarah would you come forward were you going and she said I flee from the face of my mistress Sarah and I want you to see verse 9 and the angel of the Lord what do you say sat down said I feel so bad for you you've had such a rough life I I kind of would kind of I don't know I don't blame you for running out here in the wilderness because you know you were treated bad and what'd he say return underlying that in your bio return to thy mistress and submit thyself under her hands we're gonna stop right there we think just like she did that we should never go through hard times if you hear some sugar-coated teachings you're gonna think that Christians are born to be rich and famous and to never have a bad day and never their dogs never gonna get sick and their cats not gonna get sick and you're not gonna have in measles and you're not gonna have any trouble and if they do there's something wrong with you well we've been talking a lot about these doctrines that are adding to the Bible and definitely many Christians now our backslidden won't go that most of the people I deal with on YouTube are people that don't go to church they don't go anywhere because they've been hurt they feel like they've been lied to they have been sown a message of ease and prosperity and it didn't happen for them and God will never allow you to get sick and they're sick so then you know they throw their everything away but you got to come back to the God of the Bible and so the God of the Bible doesn't tell us we're always gonna have it easy sometimes he tells us you got a return it's just like football you know if you fumble or if you get out of out of sidelines or whatever what do you do you got to go back to where you drop the ball so he tells Hagar here you drop the ball you dropped your assignment just because you were treated wrong doesn't mean you run from this assignment so sometimes we have to know we don't run from a hard place and I'm not talking about abuse there are times God will tell you to leave and I've seen this a lot of times where preachers they'll tell people they have to stay in abusive situations you don't with God's telling you you have to leave there's many things here at stake rather than just the outward appearance of things you know that right so we run sometimes from the correction from conflict how many don't like conflict so the people that love conflict are usually the weirdo they're bullies they just want to plow you over but most people we don't like conflict we'd rather just you know not deal with that and sometimes we put things off too long anybody ever done that and then if you put things off too long you have a bigger mess to deal with because you should have dealt with it up front we've all can see ouch hallelujah to that one we run from change stretching into new things because fear is there and I'm sure Hagar was dealing with fear here she was afraid of what's gonna happen to me am I gonna be treated badly now now that she knows I'm pregnant with her husband's son now am I gonna be she just wanted to flee she just wanted to run and that's what our flesh wants to do whenever we're faced with something we've never dealt with before the first reaction is fear it's like and then we have to come back to the promises of God he always goes fear not fear not fear not because he said I'm with you no matter what you're going through and sometimes we've been through the stuff we never thought we'd have to go through but you can honestly say he's always been with me right and that's our promise he said I will never leave you I will never forsake you so that gives us comfort in hard times but sometimes we run from God we run from God because we think what he's asking us to do is too hard and this is where again we have to know how to submit like he told her just submit that doesn't mean sometimes that you agree that means you come under you come under the authority of somebody else you know I submit my little granddaughter can't wait till the day that we have to submit to her because mommy and daddy's why I'm a teacher they should listen to me we go through this back and forth no you listen and obey because because you know how kids are they want to be able to be the authority and that's how our flesh is we want to tell everybody what to do and God will say you got to submit to me you got to submit to me so it's hard on our flesh but the more we submit to God the more we stop running from him and then we know he really has our best interests in mind but when you're young and you're rebellious and you're wild you think he's an old fogey and he doesn't want you to have any fun so a lot of people today they're running theirs they're Christians a lot of but they're running they're running from the word they're running from correction and then what happens to us as Christians it's what happened to Hagar she ended up in the wilderness now the wilderness is a place where there's no water the wilderness is the place God doesn't really want us to go but we go there when we run from him let's look at Psalms 106 Haggar ends up in the wilderness and it's that dry and withered place and God wants us to be planted by his waters no matter where if it's winter whatever season were going through and stay connected stay connected to him and we've taught a lot about thank God for his teachers and whatever but we aren't connected to them I mean we are but we're connected to him first because he doesn't want anyone to replace him he doesn't want to substitute for a relationship so he wants that intimacy with him because then you'll have better relationships you'll have more love to give others you'll have more peace you'll have more joy if you're connected to him but men can't give us that men can only give us a relational relationships and those are important but you know I'm saying God's the most important so what happens is Psalms 106 God will give them their requests but he sent leanness to their soul and I love this story about the he rebukes the Red Sea verse 21 they forgot God their Savior which had done great things in Egypt what happens when we get leanness of soul and I see this all the time in believers it's they seem like they're just living for this day living for this hour they don't have any real deep roots in the Lord they might have roots in their church you know I'm saying but it's like they really are they're getting spoon-fed and if it comes from their leader that's got to be God and they don't test and the Bible says in Book of Revelations that they were praised for testing and trying apostles see if they were true or not God wants us to check everything that's being taught us we have to test it out ourselves right so here because they forgot the Lord that means they neglected him we can just be so filled with the promises we think everything is fine or just until something happens now usually that's when I get phone calls from people everywhere Tim will say probably when something happens you get phone calls because people just all of a sudden other like 911 they have a 911 if something's dramatic now I got to get a hold of God I got to find someone that I know can pray and and that's fine but you can't live from crisis to crisis you've got us someplace get your own walk with God because if you don't have it you're gonna need that in the hour that we're coming in we've got to know how to hear from God and get connected the simple things that we've heard we've got to be doers we've got to do them ourselves or we'll end up neglecting the Lord and they says verse 13 they forgot his works in other words we forget all the good things God's done for us if you get caught up in the spirit of the world you forget all the good things that God has done for you and they waited not for his counsel in other words they didn't listen for his advice but they lusted exceedingly in the wilderness and they tempted God in the desert and he gave them their requests this is one thing you have to know about God he's a gentleman he's gonna give you what you want he's not going to be abusive he's gonna warn you but if you don't listen to his warning we had to warn somebody about a situation and it's like they didn't listen to the warning so if you warn somebody that's all you can do then they're going to have an experience and it's experience or an event God didn't want them to have so when we go into the wilderness we start having temptations we go places God didn't want us to go he doesn't want us to hurt he doesn't want us to be abused but if we don't listen to his warnings and we can all say we haven't have you all we have you ever missed a godly warning we could write books on the godly warnings I missed then you end up in the wilderness and you're wondering well God why did you allow this to happen to me but if you look back somewhere along the line you'll see somebody was sent to tell you this was wrong but then you know what happens with us we think we know more so we have to deal with it so this is lessons and as we find out these aren't lessons to kill us these are lessons we've got to learn to get the devil off our back though and forgive ourselves because otherwise you'll stay stunted you'll never grow you'll never want to venture out again because if you don't get healed from that last event you're going to be crippled and you're not going to love you're gonna have this edge on you you're gonna you know we all get rejected but if you don't get healed of that rejection you can't have proper relationships going forward so we constantly have to guard our heart from all bitterness guard our heart diligently check and make sure you know you've repented and not condemned and I'm going to share the difference there's a difference between condemnation and conviction do you know that the devil will condemn you he will say you first he'll lure you to do it you're gonna have such a great time it's gonna be so op and then you go and you do it and then you're like this isn't any fun I mean wow it was the fun for a season but now that's over and then what does he do he's like you idiot God will never use you you're done you're finished you're a failure and those voices and those spirits you've got to know how to get them off of you and a lot of people live in those places they're just like I'm just no good I'm if you listen to them the self-pity comes out of them all the time Self Self Self Self so to me that that really is a form of pride self-pity because all you're thinking about is yourself so you got to get your eyes off of your failures and get your eyes back on God because the devil has tricked you into condemnation and now you're living in it and the Bible says in Romans 8 there's therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus who what walk not after the flesh but walk after the spirit so if we're walking after the the flesh we're gonna live in condemnation because we're always seeing stuff we missed it but when you're living in the spirit you're always looking at how Jesus finished it and you're complete in him you don't have to give $520 for seeds of completeness you're completing him and it's not by our works it's by that's where faith comes in not a word the word of faith message we've been talking about the pair of physics of faith faith is simply trusting in God it's not trusting to yourself to go do and say a thousand things and do a Hail Marys and till your fingers are worn out and you got to go here do a it's simply putting trust and Jesus said it's finished so there's a rest and Lord I blew it but you didn't so I just thank you for forgiving me and you have to humble yourself to get to that place because many people just won't have a walk with God they don't they don't want to face it they don't want to even do worship music because the worship makes you too vulnerable stay in the outer court let's just do all this fast stuff don't get too close to my heart because then I'm gonna have to have God speak to and you might have ego forgive somebody or you might tell me to do this so that I want to keep them at it they're running from God they're running from that intimate place that makes sense so then what happens we get leanness of soul and we've all been there at times so if you're there now don't be condemned pick yourself back up we got we're trying to get you back in the race today comfortable without his presence we've got to be never comfortable without his presence you know Adam lost the glory in the in the Garden of Eden the glory was God's physical presence and now you know when we're born again we want it we want his presence we want to constantly and I found out way by walking with him and worshiping him he loves that when when you worship him he just manifests you cuss and you swear you won't feel God at all he he rejects that atmosphere so you want to have a presence of God then you know cultivate that you know that word life you know I'm saying but here they're just comfortable without it they don't care watch youtube videos of all this stuff going on the church and they're there they're in entertainment they're doing all this stuff of the flesh and god's not his presence isn't there because he only manifests himself where he's welcomed they don't even ask him they just you know they're there in a different atmosphere of entertainment now so they're lean in their soul comfortable without his presence the outward looks fine but the empty is hollow it's like those cactus you know you touch them and you're like they fall over they're dead wow they look so good my brother yourself tons of cactuses and weed and they'd be dead and we got him for my grandma she had this cactus collecting thing and they were dead over overwatered probably and that's the way a lot of Christians are they look fine on the outside but if you go find some stuff there's nothing they can't talk they can't connect they can connect on the latest People magazine or the latest show that's on TV but if you want to just talk to vote what the Lord's doing in your life they don't have anything to say you know I'm talking about leanness of soul so they're comfortable they're they they have no appetite to grow you're sick spiritually if you're not hungry blessed are those that hunger and thirst after righteousness for they shall be filled so if you're not hungry you know if my boys were home and they weren't hungry I knew they were sick there's something tyrone 6:9 i say six eleven but they can't register him anymore he went off to church so long ago but whenever whenever he was not hungry I'd fix a big meal in one hour later what's to eat I just cleaned up after food but you know how boys are that are always hungry so if if we're not always hungry that's a spiritual sign there's something wrong with you why aren't you hungry well so-and-so turned me off and that preacher makes me I was talking to a guy this week it doesn't matter what all you got to forgive those preachers that are preaching error that's no excuse for you to lose your hunger just say Lord I forgive that and I've had to do this myself I forgive that leader I thought what he was saying was true and I he probably deceived him thinks it's true too but I found out through studying now but that was wrong that doesn't give me an excuse to not walk with God anymore because somebody else was deceived and was teaching wrong doctrine right so you got to forgive them otherwise your own spiritual hunger is going to be affected so forgiveness it says when you stand praying forgive if you have ought forgive those leaders forgive those pastors forgive yourself otherwise you'll have no appetite to grow in the Lord no hunger your hunger when you lose your hunger bless it elicit hunger once you lose your hunger your we're in trouble because then we start hungry after the wrong things you're always going to have an appetite for something where's your appetite the Israelites in Exodus 14 12 they wanted to run back and serve the Egyptians they didn't want to go through a hard time and now we're coming in a church the church we're coming in to some new things that have never happened before to churches and a lot of people don't want to face they're like ah they want to run back to the world running back to the world isn't the answer the devil doesn't have any new apples they might look different but now there's more Satanism in the world there's more I was seeing something on TV last night victoriously Bible living or something some new series it's on all making fun of Christians as they're sitting at the bar drinking and they're all making fun of Christianity is like that they're trying to program people's minds into what real Christianity it looks fuddy-duddy and you know I couldn't even watch more than five minutes I was like I just wanted to see what was out there it's like living by biblical living it's like no this isn't biblical living but if this is this is going to be harder for people to get saved I think when they see these programs and they get conditioned to think I don't want to be it I don't want to be that so we got to keep praying that God will send his laborers out there and we are a part of that army Elijah runs from Jezebel and Ahab now when we run from a hard place that God's in we lose things it says there that he left his servant you lose relationships no I don't say this to grieve you because I know some of you are going through some hard times right now but we believe God for to restore but what you what you lose you lose things that God gave you he gave Elijah a servant he didn't eventually give him another servant but he lost some things that God didn't want him to lose and every time I look at where I miss God somewhere I lost things that God didn't want me to lose and then you're like how did I lose that or how what happened here is because we ran from a warning we ran from correction we reran in a way that we thought was right and we found out it wasn't the right way it's part of life so he lost his servants his servant he just left him at a place in first Peter 5:10 and you can look there if you want but this is one of the scriptures that I've kind of lived on and I want you to just look at it it's verse 10 first Peter 5:10 but the God of all grace I remember he's the God of all Grace who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Jesus Christ after you have what everyone say the word suffered this is a word you're not going to hear much in our doctrines today but we cannot rip it out of the Bible after you have suffered awhile and the Greek it means endure evils hardships and troubles why we're living in a world a fallen world and we can't just control oh just call so and so she can control the weather don't get me started on this well she's doing a pretty bad job some of these people that can claim that they can control the weather you know just by their after you have suffered a while that you make them that you will become perfect establish strengthen settled you why are so many people not settled not mature not you know stable because they run they run every time they face a hardship every time they have to deal with correction every time someone tells them you know like to me it's been because I've had a woman's ministry for many many years it's a lot of women that'll come in and they want to just take over they want to prophesy over everybody and they they just they're flaky and and they don't receive correction they become martyrs it's like God told me to do this and I'm gonna you know so they take and they leave again they'll never sit down and say what did I do that was wrong they've heard from God you know they use the god card and nothing they say comes to pass but they're prophets and who appoints these people to be prophets and now it's in my day was everyone as a prophet but now everyone's an apostle who gives these people of freedom to be a Nepali you know a true apostle there were only 12 apostles they saw Jesus they were commissioned by him they were the true apostle now we have a new movement that say they're greater than those apostles lord have mercy if you sit underneath them and believe every because everything they say is going to be outside of the Bible it's going to be a rev elation from heaven it's going to be an angel of course and my goodness and it sounds so good it sounds so spiritual it's like wow they went to heaven over there their lunch break trips to heaven like it's Paul he had they can't even talk about it they were like there were no words to say they had such fear of God and these people like oh yeah I was playing with Jesus in the water and he was splashing on me to take you know no fear of God this guy that I ran into when I was first Saved very young in the Lord he so-called went to heaven and found out later the guy was living a double life and I'm really leery now and I've just so wanted to believe the people did all I'm learning more and more all these people are making stuff up profit for money Paul and all these other they couldn't even hardly talk about it it was so reverent and God doesn't just let us transfer back and forth like we're going to Chipotle I'll tell you what happened Wow anyway didn't mean to get off on that but we gotta suffer a while sometimes you hear nothing you see nothing you just go by this is what God says I don't get no words I don't get nothing I'm just reading my Bible you're okay and you're on your way you think you're weird when you just try to follow the Bible because everyone else is having angel visitations every week he came through my door and he told me this and he breathed on me now I can translate the Bible but people we fall for this why because we don't have spiritual ones among us we've got a bunch of other colicky diaper colicky babies that are waiting for the next burp oh there's a price to pay when you run especially from godly correction you open yourself to temptations God never wanted you to have you lose things you don't grow spiritually in 1st Kings 19 1 through 5 Elisha runs from Jezebel and Ahab you know that he runs because he got afraid and there's warfare there's witchcraft when you confront the devil and his demons there's work there's warfare and I think God put this in there just to let us know and What did he say okay go go on your way no he said in verse 15 first Kings 19 we're not going to go through all that but he tells him go back again in the football game where did you drop the ball what did you do that caused you to go off sidelines what caused you to fumble go back to that place where you drop the ball repent because first of all you got to know where you missed it and sometimes that takes prayer say Lord where did I miss this how did I end up in this wilderness go back he tells it Elisha go back where you dropped the ball to the place you ran from same with the prodigal son and Luke 15 the prodigal son Luke 15:11 he goes off he runs from he sees oh wow I'm gonna get all the money that I can and I'm gonna go do what I want to do and what happens when he comes to himself he faces himself which we all have to do at some point in time we have to face ourself in return he had to return go back to that place he had to go back to his father who he ran from and what happens with us just like what happened to the prodigal son we get messed up when we run so if you've got kids right now that aren't serving God just we'll keep praying for him because they're getting messed up but we trust God just like the prodigal son that father was waiting the son came home amen so we can't give up just because they're there running and doing wild things you probably all did it too and God drew you back in you had someone praying for you someone believed and that's the power of a praying mama to bring those her grandmother father bring those kids back home so he got messed up by his running but he repented and this is what we have to do to forgive ourselves we have to repent and we have to let the surgeon operate you know he is the gradient physician we have to let him shine the light on us and this is what a lot of people don't want to do because it's painful you going to a surgeons table and he shines the light on you it's really easy to jump off and say hey I'm it's not me it's you you're the one that needs surgery it's your fault it's your fault so we minimize we justify we blame because that light is so strong but there's freedom when the Lord wants to operate on us and that's what we have to know is that this is a good surgery it's a good to get this rejection if you've got a spirit of rejection in your life it's hard to have relationship with you because we keep bumping into those wounds so you got to go and say Lord this rejection is so deep I want you to you know take this out of me I want you to remove this rejection so I'm not so defensive I'm not so touchy those are not normal responses you didn't get those they were earned by your rebellion or someone else's rebellion you had Jonah's in your ship you know I'm saying rejection abandonment from your parents abandonment from a spouse abandonment from kids that caused deep deep wounds that we constantly have to give to God because if we don't we're going to try to do it in I do it myself I do it myself and whenever we do stuff in our own strength we end up making more trouble so here we see the prodigal son he returns he repented he let the surgeon operate he stopped running that's the first thing I'm not going to run some people are running from the call of God in their life they don't want to be I didn't want to be a preacher I thought preachers were weird I didn't like pastors wives either they're just you know running around with rollers and weird and not very saw I had not too many good people to look up to and I was called the minister I was like I don't want to be that but he left a surgeon operate he stopped running God doesn't give up on crazy people aren't you glad God never gives up on us as weird as we were as many mistakes as we made is I mean if you love the Lord he's going and you repent he will clean you up he will give you a new season he's going to give you a new start but you got to let him surge really operate you have to pick up where you left off and say Lord you know I did this I did that and own it if you confess your sins he is faithful and just to forgive you and cleanse you right what is this this is spiritual maturity to forgive yourself takes a lot of spiritual maturity in Proverbs I'm just gonna share kind of close now on how to forgive yourself this is something that if you don't need it right now you're gonna need it for somebody else somebody needs to know how to forgive themself you can tell when you talk to people if they're really bitter there's bitterness is usually a fruit of hurt and anger and anger even is some where there's a hurt inside there and that's why people that are really hurting respond to love so much because there's there's such a deep wound of hurt but proverbs 28:13 says he that covereth his sins shall not prosper that prosper there means you're not going to have a good journey if we don't can if we just cover our sins we blame everybody we don't ever take the responsibility it's a a real man or woman to own when they blown it I just love that when people say I really did this it was my fault it's like that is a mature person because they are not minimizing they're not justifying they're not blaming they're owning it so you can say that person's gonna grow that person's gonna grow because they're setting the stage for letting the surgeon operate and they're going to the root of the matter but he said he if you cover your sins you're not going to prosper you're not gonna have a good journey but whoso confesses and forsakes them so we don't just keep saying lord forgive me for this forgive me for that and just keep going back and doing it Lord I'm about to go commit adultery so please forgive me you're planning evil you know so that God knows our motives that he's not fooled but when you're really ready to you confess it and then you what you forsake it you're like I'm done with this and then you pray for the fear of God which is to hate what God hates Lord give me a hatred for the sin that I will hate it because it's not bringing you Laurie so repentance is required to close the door now this is really important not only does it give you access to God but it also closes the door to the devil how many one to close the door to the devil so when you repent it shuts the the door to the accuser those lying spirits that tell you how bad you are and how you're no good and all this and that that's what he loves to do and he loves to torment so if you haven't forgiven you're gonna be tormented so that's why it's important not only just to forgive yourself first of all but next week we'll go into forgiving others if you don't forgive other people you're still delivered over the tormentors because jesus said if you've been forgiven you must forgive others it's it's a non-negotiable with heaven it's like you have been given you should be on your way to hell right now but the grace of God hits you and forgave you now with that same grace you got to forgive others not an option not fun hard it's some suffering you don't know what they did and then God can always say I know what you did I know where you should be but the grace of God so when you've been truly forgiven you can forgive it's the only way you can you've got to be forgiven and then you can give it otherwise you're still you know it's all flesh trying to make people pay and you want vengeance you want punishment and then what that is is you're drinking the poison and you're dying and you think they're being punished it's called deception so repentance closes the door to that spirit that lying devil so that's why I love to repent because whenever you blow it you learn I figure forgive me for that it's like that spirit has to leave it shuts the door to that condemnation and when you're living in the spirit you don't have to live under that condemnation when you walk in the glory in the presence of God you live in that conviction but you don't live in condemnation conviction means that the Holy Spirit will say you did that wrong why to put it under the blood to get freedom to walk on the devil gets it to stop you touch such a total different motivation the accuser loves to parade your mistakes your sins where you missed it torment your mind and tell you how you know you're never gonna make it and always make you fearful Oh what's going to happen to you oh you're gonna you're not gonna be able for this you're gonna fall apart you're gonna have a mental break you just torments people's minds so we have to know the word enough to shut that door on him what's going to happen in the end times what's gonna happen you know what it's in God's hands and you gon stay that's why you need that intimacy with God it's like my trust is in you you're gonna show me pray for wisdom Lord show me what to do pray for knowledge pray for discernment pray weak because we and our own strength can't do it but we aren't in our own strength we're connected to him so in 1st Corinthians 11 31 judge yourself and you won't be judged let's do it now let's do it now let's judge ourselves for anything God showing us there's a freedom to judge our self you can judge yourself you can cover it up if you cover it up you know you haven't judged yourself yet and so you're gonna feel condemned again we have a choice how will we respond how will we respond proverbs 24:16 adjust man falls seven times it's not that we don't fall it's not that we're perfect people but we know how to rise again isn't that encouraging we rise again not that we haven't blown it and that we're perfect and we're holier now we haven't been deceived but that's not our heart our heart is we don't want to miss it but when we do thank you Lord and we rise again you get up again so we have a choice how you're gonna respond because the light this is why you have to know why don't you have a lot of friends used to have as you're walking more on the Lord you have more light and the more light you have brings more revelation and more revealing and sometimes you don't have to say anything but because you're walking with the Lord and light and they're not your light is convicting them not condemning them but they don't want to be convicted so run away from the light stay away from that person you're making me feel like I'm not walking where I should because they're not but that's what light does light exposes so we can stop the surgeon block out all the light by being defensive proud put down the shades no lights coming in here you're gonna tell me nothing or we can open up and say lord have your way shine the light submit to the surgeon to submit to the surgeon means we go under to submit we humble ourself to submit means my flesh doesn't get its way when you're married you have to submit to it you don't get your way if you have one mate that's always getting their way that's controlling you should submit to each other in the fear of the Lord that means you both come into agreement sometimes you get your way sometimes I get my way but you should never have one person always in control do you know that's wrong god never created one person to control the other one you're supposed to submit to another each other in the fear of the Lord okay I'm closing now I already share this about condemnation and conviction in isaiah 43:25 let's turn there just so you know these scriptures yourself when you're in you're in a battle and you're having a fight with your husband or your wife or your kids and you feel like oh I said something I shouldn't in my time you know your tone really shares to me that people's tone you know jerk meters someone's really a jerk you know it's like okay I should have said that differently isaiah 43:25 I even I am he that blotted out their transgressions for my own sake sand will not remember thy sins put me in remembrance let us plead together declare thou that they must be justified Wow so when the devil attacks you and you have blown it you've missed it you have fallen you get back up and you say because of the blood of Jesus this is the way you shut the door to the devil we're not just in power power positive thinking we take the Bible and we fight just like Jesus did when the devil attacked him he said it is written Satan is written he fought him with the very Bible it is written we say the Lord has removed my transgressions and he will not remember my sins so when the devil keeps bringing up something you've confessed 10 years ago devil God doesn't remember that that sin is under the blood and we are not going fishing we are not going to look for that thing I put it under the blood and I just want to remind you that God and I have pleaded together and he is no longer remembered my sins it is written and sometimes you have to do that when you're really in a battle you got to take the Bible and hit him and let him know we're in a warren and when we win Psalms 37 23 the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord though he fall though he trips though he stumbles he strays he gets deceived he shall not be utterly cast down for the Lord upholds him two men got knocked down I always loved to tell this story Peter and Judas Peter got back up again Judas went and hung himself so when you fall you have a choice get back up again like Peter did or don't forgive yourself like Judas Judas didn't forgive himself forgiveness was still there but what did he do he went and he hung himself he couldn't forgive himself and he went to the wrong people who you hang around and get you know get your freedom but rise up again don't throw away your faith in the midst of failure that's when you need your face Lord I trust you that Jesus on the cross paid for this failure and I get back up again so that sounds too good to be true it is but it is amen let's close you got to forgive yourself father God we thank you Lord for your word this is a non-negotiable that we judge our self when we stand praying we need to forgive ourselves if we have aught against our self and I pray not only for those here but those that are watching any skeletons that are in our closet that have never been brought before the throne of God lord I just pray for the strength that you'd give them strength after hearing your words today that you're not going to check them you're not going to throw them out you're waiting for them to come and be healed healed of that emotion of rejection healed of that emotion of condemnation whatever it might have been and for us to refuse to accept that sacrifice and try to torment ourselves or try to be mean to ourselves or put herself down is such a work of the flesh and it does nothing it does nothing but try to make us feel like we're paying for our sins when you said you've already paid for them and it takes that simple childlike humility to say it is finished so father we just pray for all the people that are listening that they would get out of condemnation shut the door to the devil forgive themselves and move on with you and everyone said [Music] you

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