- [Amanda] Hey there, Psych2Goers. Welcome back to our channel. Have you heard of the
narcissist and empath duo? These people fall under opposite sides of the axis of empathy. The narcissist craves excessive
admiration from others and has an inflated ego, while the empath is
someone who can perceive and even take on others'
mental or emotional states as their own. More on that later. Before we begin, please take note that
this video is not made to attack anyone who
may display these signs, or anyone diagnosed
with a related disorder, but rather to understand
them and bring more awareness to the topic. So, what makes this dynamic so painful? Let's explore this together. Number one, who are
narcissists and empaths? First let's get to know
the two main protagonists. Narcissists are people with inflated egos and zero empathy towards others. They have a high sense of self-importance, an excessive desire for
attention and admiration, and a tainted view of empathy. They crave special treatment and will react in rage or outbursts if things don't go their way. Empaths, on the other hand, are highly sensitive people, owning an overabundant supply of love and admiration to give. They absorb the emotions of other people readily and compassionately. What's more, they're
also incredibly gifted in connecting with another
person's thoughts and feelings. Number two, the empath and
narcissist at first sight. Opposites attract, or so you've been told. At first contact, it may
feel as if the two of you complement each other's needs perfectly. An empath is a natural
when it comes to sharing and finds the narcissist
as the perfect source to attune their emotions to. A narcissist loves someone who
would tolerate their actions. They find in the empath an eager ear, a constant source of
appreciation and attention. A narcissist excels in drawing the empath, who's willing to listen, all starry-eyed. An empath's emotional needs
are completely ignored, projecting only themselves
onto the empaths. An empath is a giver,
and they give generously. A narcissist is a taker, and
they always want it their way. The imbalance has begun
to show already, right? Number three, the poisoned apple. So, why fall for the wrong sort? Narcissists hide behind the
mask of irresistible charm. Their charisma and conduct
on the surface level can draw all sorts of people under their spell, especially empaths. This facade attracts the empath, as they find an avenue to
pour all that compassion into. A narcissist seems to take an empath's genuine
empathetic world by storm. As emotional sponges, they play right into
the narcissist's hands. Once a positive first
impression is formed, the empath becomes incredibly
loyal to the narcissist, loyal to a fault. Once a narcissist picks up
on this, they start to reveal more unpleasant sides
of themselves, uh-oh. Number four, trouble in paradise. What is essential for love to flourish? Is love the only ingredient
for a happy relationship? Both these individuals speak
different love languages. When put in close affinity, one has the potential to
become almost parasitic for the other. In a healthy relationship, empaths are one of the
best types of people to foster a relationship with. They care for their partner
with all their heart, and they always communicate
their feelings openly. But for a narcissist, it's not so easy to take into account
the feelings of others. Unknowingly or otherwise, they're capable of hurting the empath as the two operate on very
different wavelengths. One is ready to bring down the stars, while the other is only interested
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advantage of empaths? One tactic is a full
revelation of their bad side. They start to take advantage
of the empath in abusive ways, realizing that their harmful tactics aren't met with any
strong opposing reaction by the empaths. Empaths are forgiving beings, willing to be patient with
someone else's personal growth. The second tactic is more sinister. Some narcissists are strategic, and weaponize their use of empathy, sprinkling small doses of
their artificial love and charm that the empath first fell in love with. They offer their love only on
the condition of compliance. Soon, they begin to blame the
empath for not being perfect, but empaths believe they can fix and heal anything with compassion. Saying things along the
lines of "I'm not perfect" tugs at the heartstrings
of the over-patient and loving empath. This hope of change is enough to keep an empath strung
along for a long time. For empaths, removing
someone from their lives can be an extremely difficult undertaking. They're true believers of growth and hope, even at the expense of their
own well-being at times. Number six, recipe for disaster. What makes it problematic? What an empath needs to
know is that narcissists are not people that need to be saved, nor are they people that
an empath should adjust to in hopes that they can still change. Narcissists can actually
be perfectly aware of their actions, and when they realize that they no longer need you, they'll find it easy to step all over you. They keep track of when the time's right to employ a show of empathy to keep an empath from finding a reason to step out for good. This makes for an extremely
problematic relationship that's founded not on
healthy, growth-filled love, but rather on a constant
push-and-pull trauma bond. Number seven, it all ends with self-love. So how can empaths deal with a narcissist? The key is to understand
that each is responsible for their own personal growth. The first way an empath can
shield against a narcissist is to say, "No." This in turn establishes boundaries. Boundaries are healthy
for all relationships, even if they feel harsh for
an empath to build around. It gives them the strength
to protect themselves from those looking to
take advantage of them. This helps build faith in yourself and gain independence emotionally. Emotional independence can enable empaths to spot signs of abuse and
gaslighting from the onset, helping themselves save themselves from impending heartbreak. Despite being wrong in all the right ways, the narcissist-empath
duo is all too common, but that does not make one
at fault for being taken in. With all the forces against you, what you do to get yourself
back at the first hint of it is what counts. Narcissistic abuse is one
of the hardest to detect, but once you do, you owe it to yourself to
acknowledge and deter it. The question here is
not why you fell for it, but what you can do to rise from it. Were you aware of this tale? Are there some chapters
you think we missed? Feel free to leave a comment
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