- [Narrator] Narcissism is a buzzword used quite a lot in modern day. It's possible that we have
all known or been involved with somebody who has narcissistic traits, at some point in our lives. It's even possible that some of you may have had an narcissist
as a romantic partner. If you have, then you may resonate with some of the points
highlighted in this video. For those who don't know
much about narcissism then this video will hopefully
provide some insight. Here are 11 things narcissists never do. (upbeat music)
Number one, they will never apologize to
you or admit they were wrong. Since the narcissist
never takes responsibility for their actions, words, or feelings, what is there to apologize for? Some of you may feel like
you have had an apology, but you'll never get a real
apology from an narcissist. You might hear something
along the lines of, "I'm sorry that you feel that way," which puts the
responsibility back onto you. It's more likely that the, "I'm sorry," relates to them being
sorry that they got caught and that this is more
of an issue for them, than actually being sorry
for whatever it is they did. Any apology will be rushed,
and the conversation changed, so that the incident is
brushed under the rug. Number two, they'll never tell the truth. There are two different types of truth when it comes to a narcissist. Telling the truth, which they seldom do, and their truth, which is
their version of the truth. Narcissist need to convince
themselves of certain things and can get easily offended
when they get knocked off their pedestal that exists
in their dream world. They will proclaim that they are so loved, so important and so special. So when a piece of reality
reminds them of the real truth this can be quite devastating for them. They'll always have their
own version of events. Number three, they'll never
forgive or make peace. For the same reason the
narcissist does not apologize, they also never forgive. Any kind of hurt is a cause
for retaliation and revenge. The narcissist is always
fighting for their survival, as life is a battle zone in their eyes, where everybody is potentially
out to attack them. If someone apologizes to them, narcissists see it as
proof of their superiority. (upbeat music ends)
Genuine forgiveness is not a part of the
narcissists emotional lexicon, fundamentally because the narcissist cannot forgive themselves. Needless to say, they will
never win the Nobel Peace Prize in relationships. They thrive on constant, chronic chaos. Number four, they will not listen to you. Ever feel like you're
not being listened to when you're talking about your day, or when you're in an argument? Chances are you're probably right. Narcissists tend to prefer
the sound of their own voices, so they don't hear, and probably won't want
to hear you either. They know that this will make you agitated and eventually wear you down. Be mindful of circular conversations that you have with them,
as this will indicate that they have not listened to previous conversations with you. Number five, they will
not take responsibility. Ever heard, "It's not my
fault, you made me do this," and, "I would never do that." Narcissists are particularly sensitive to shame, blame, and
their identities are built against feelings of invalidation. Accepting responsibility of any kind triggers the narcissists threat
of exposure to criticism. Narcissists prefer to play the victim and will instead project
responsibilities onto others within their sphere of
power, such as a partner, or their children. Number six, they will not seek
help or professional support. Have you ever worried about
whether you're a narcissist? Fret not. If you worry about this question,
the answer is probably no. Self reflection and introspection are something a narcissist wouldn't do. Why? Well, it's possible that
there is a little child hidden within them who is damaged and experiences feelings of inadequacy. This is where the narcissist
overcompensates for them. They need this side of
them in order to survive. For the narcissist, self-reflection
is a dangerous territory to be avoided at all costs, because it represents vulnerability. Seeking any kind of support suggests that they have a problem, which is something they
do not believe they have. Number seven, they don't address
the difficulties they have with emotional stability and manipulation. There is no denying that they are clever, particularly at manipulating people and spotting their vulnerabilities. They tend to engage primarily
in black and white thinking. They tend to either
idealize or devalue others. This can lead to a
pattern of codependency, especially within romantic relationships. They're not concerned with
the emotional consequences of others, due to
impaired empathic traits. Emotionally healthy beings
will experience emotions on a daily basis. Whereas this is lost to the narcissist, who is often trapped in their own lonely, self-protective construction of reality. Number eight, they will
not act selflessly. Selflessness is the
antithesis of narcissism. This is due to their
lacking sense of empathy and inflated sense of entitlement. Narcissists, by definition,
are locked in an inward spiral, where they experience a
grandiose sense of self, putting themselves at the top
of the emotional food chain. They will do things,
which from the outset, look like they're doing a good deed, but they create the
admiration that is attached to doing that good deed. They wanna be congratulated as this feeds their need for validation. So they won't do things that
don't offer them something in return. Number nine, they will not provide you with any sense of safety. "It's me and you against the world," said a narcissist, never. This is not how a narcissist operates. They need you scared and insecure at the prospect of losing them. They'll also be using a lot
of gas lighting to confuse you and make you question yourself. They may convince us that we cannot leave, or that we cannot find anybody better. You won't feel safe.
And frankly, you're not. Number 10, they will not let you go. They will never stop
thinking that they own you, until you're replaced. A narcissist will not be done with you until you have served a purpose, it doesn't matter if you feel
like you're done with them. The narcissist needs you as
a planet, circling their sun, to feel good about themselves. And number 11, they won't change. Change is possible for anybody.
If they really want it. This is where it's difficult
for the narcissist. Unless they're willing to
accept that there is a problem with their behavior, they're
never going to address it. Simple as that. There has to
be a genuine want to change. So, did this video explain a
bit more about narcissists? If you've been affected
by any of the points discussed in this video and
feel comfortable sharing, please leave a comment or
confide in somebody you trust. It's also important to
remember that narcissist traits can also be linked to
personality disorders, which may go undiagnosed for a long time. So make sure not to make assumptions. (waves crashing) Did you find this video valuable? Tell us in the comments below. Please like and share it with friends that find use in this video too. Make sure to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification
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