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more accessible to everyone. Now, back to the video. Do you know someone who is or might be a narcissist? Narcissistic personality
disorder, also known as NPD, is characterized by a grandiose
sense of self-importance, the deep-seated need for
praise and attention, and a lack of empathy for others. But while the disorder itself
is present in a rare few, a lot more people actually
have narcissistic tendencies. Before we start, we'd like to mention these are just some examples of what a narcissist would say. After all, there are a
variety of ways to say them. Also, if you relate to this video, please do not use the
video to self-diagnose or diagnose others. A person who has narcissistic tendencies does not necessarily have a narcissistic personality disorder. With that said, here are 10
of the most common things narcissists say and what they really mean. One: "If you could have just
one friend, who would it be?" While it might seem like
a harmless question, it's a subtle way for them to
emotionally manipulate you. They may ask this in hopes
that you'd say it's them. If you don't, they may get upset at you and give you the cold shoulder. It's a way for them to reaffirm their sense of self-importance and that you should choose
them over your other friends. Two: "We don't need anyone else." A common strategy narcissists use to keep you compliant and loyal to them is by isolating you from everyone else. While it may sound
flattering when they tell you that all you need is each other, what they're really trying to do is make you dependent
on them and them alone. They don't want to compete
for your time and attention because they want you all for themselves. Number three: "You're
always overreacting." Have they told you that
you couldn't take a joke when you called them out for
saying something hurtful? Did they say that you were too sensitive? A narcissist will never own up to the abuse they inflict
on you, but rather, trick you into thinking
you're the one at fault. They'll make you second guess yourself and, as a result, enable
their bad behavior by rationalizing it, minimalizing it, or by making excuses for themselves. Four: "Not everything's about you." With a narcissist, everything
needs to be about them all the time. You can't ever steal
the spotlight from them or they'll resent you for it. They don't care about your problems or what you're going through. Instead, they'll project
their own self-centeredness on to you and make you
feel guilty or embarrassed about taking the focus away from them, even if it's just for a second. Number five: "Wow, no wonder
nobody else likes you." To a narcissist, the key
to keeping you in line is by destroying your sense of self-esteem and making you feel like you
have no one else to turn to. The more alienated and alone you feel, the less likely you are to leave them. They may prey on your insecurities and make you think that
no one else can ever love or care for you the way they do. Number six: "I always
defend you to everyone else, and this is how you repay me?" When a narcissist tells you
this, it's for three reasons. Firstly, they want to turn you
against the people you love by saying that they secretly hate you and talk about you behind your back. Secondly, they want to play the hero and swoop in to save the day. But mostly, they want to make you feel like you need to reward their
so-called act of kindness by never speaking out against
them and by paying them back with more loyalty, praise, and obedience. Seven: "You only succeed
because of my help." A narcissist is likely to take credit for your accomplishments. They might brag about how you couldn't have done it without them or how you owe them much for your success. They want to share in your glory and remind you that you're
nothing without them. Number eight: "Don't let
this get to your head." While they may pretend that they're happy and supportive of you, deep down, they're rooting against you. They want you to fail to make them feel more
comfortable about themselves. No matter how well you do
or how much you succeed, they'll find ways to make you
feel less important than them. Number nine: "I'm the
best you'll ever have." Narcissists wants you to think that they're the best thing
that's ever happened to you. They want you to think that
they're the best friend and romantic partner
you've been looking for and that it would be the
biggest mistake of your life to leave them. Narcissists may also make it
seem like they've stooped down to be with you since
you're unworthy of them. And number 10: "I'm only doing
this because I love you." Most importantly, narcissists will try to justify their mistreatment of you by saying that they're
only doing it out of love or that they have your
best interest at heart. But what they may really mean is that they enjoy being able to control and exploit you for
all that you give them. Did anyone in particular come
to mind during this list? Do you think you might have
a narcissist in your life? Let us know in the comments below. If you found this video helpful, be sure to like, subscribe,
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