The Duan-Ahn Family - Season 4 | Full Episodes | Supernanny USA

[Music] let's see what I'm in for this week hi we're the D family I'm Forest I'm Angela we have five kids Christopher who's nine I'm don't you dare Christopher Isabella who's 8 years old sitting in car set of twin boys Lawrence and Benjamin 4 six me you stupid idiots and little Charlotte who's just turned five the Dynamics between the three boys is just constant fighting just very [Music] tense stop now that's bullying did you see that go to the car the toughest time with the children is right after school they go to Chinese school they have soccer golf tennis they also have art class the older two have private piano lessons Christopher also has another writer Workshop there's a lot of pressure in getting them to the next place on time I'm constantly on the road driving them around here's the plan kids when we get home you wash your hands and do your homework and I'm going to make dinner and then I'll put your dinner in containers and we can eat on our way to go pick up brother okay guys go get in the car we're going to eat so do these kids live in the house all the that so many kids so little time so many things to do I end up having to yell and scream before they'll actually listen Lauren stop it I mean it stop it I mean it you don't hit your mother stop it mom looks stressed forest and I are both dentists and we own four offices my working schedule is from Mondays through Saturday and I wish I have more time to spend with the kids to watch them grow hello hi Honey [Music] hi because of his work and the other projects that he's doing he is really hardly ever home okay and I'm going to go upstairs as soon as Forest finishes dinner he'll be like okay I'm done see you guys kid and then just walk into the computer room and finds himself with things to do up there we've built a house 3 years ago and we haven't moved in because Forest is afraid that the children will tear up the new house like how they've torn up this house Christopher there there's really something wrong here I'm always mad at them and I look at their little faces they're mad at one another I need a miracle super nny we need your help come now five children overscheduled and stressed yes you do need my help and I'm on my [Music] way hi Joe welcome hi come on in hi nice to meet nice toet you thank you pleas to meet you Forest nice to meet you when I first arrived I met Angela in forest you have a beautiful teeth oh thank you that's the first thing I noticed a smile yeah beautiful smile there you go thank so you're going to be on your way then huh yes bye and Forest was on his way to work Mom then informed me that we were all going to pick up the kids and so I got in the back of the car and decided that I would meet the children on their way home from school she was a little bit worried to say the least here we go we pull up by the school and I wait patiently in the car close your eyes mom asked them to put their seat belts on and to turn around and nobody listened Benjamin sit down Lauren sit down Sit turn around you know why Charlotte sit down put down the seat belt please don't exit that way so I sat there patiently watching them all sit down hey you sit down first a and then they really started to mess around you're theayer you're not Lawrence if you're not going to Buck her you're getting out of the car I told you hey the car is fine because I could do everything I [Music] want with that Mom tries to distract them with a box of pears mom mommy don't grab it from your sister B Lawrence give it back don't do that in which they start throwing the pears at one another and I realized this woman had no control you're not you know what we need to go would you guys buckle up so we can leave it's 15 minutes and we're still stationary stop it and then she starts to shout at the kids and tell them to behave themselves and they end up laughing stop when you've got your child at school all day and then having to race from one activity to the next it becomes very tiresome day in and day out Christopher is nine after school activities a week golf soccer maths Chinese class piano and Club Scouts that's 16 additional hours on top of school plus homework that's so too much honey it's not this backpack it's the other backpack going from activity to activity is um quite stressful I didn't say it stop looking at me and then I see Christopher arguing with Isabella and he spits straight into her face Christopher don't spit on your sister she just broke down in humil ation so upset at his behavior and Christopher really didn't have any remorse why did spit on me cuz I kept my hands to myself Christopher still count no it doesn't Isabella just ignore him and yet mom did nothing mom just continued to drive the car stop I was just wondering you spend so much time looking in your rear mirror but how much time do you spend looking forward and driving do you feel safe I feel safe really yes because right now I [Music] don't get it off I saw the kids in the car behaving the way they were and so I wasn't surprised when we got back to the house because their behavior just got worse and Mom did nothing about it nothing I don't think that Forest really knows how hard it is for me because he has gone to work most of the day just rinse it all stay right here rinse it off you're feeling frustrated you're feeling angry angry I'm feeling helpless there's something very important from this piece of paper that's missing so what kind of happens now it's like 9:00 and what would they do finish the homework finish the homework and I get them to bed and then you get to bed right right so no real kind of schedule it just finish the homework and then ideally I like them to go to bed right about now 9:00 8:30 9:00 that would be ideal but we always seem to run late and so it probably gets really done about 10:00 right I think we can say that Americans are extremely enthusiastic in making sure their kids do far too many activities the reason these kids are up so late from finishing their homework is because they don't get home to at least 8:00 p.m. from all their other activities that's way too late what do you do when you're not doing your homework I don't not play you get much time to do that no no why is that my mom gives me too much stuff to do she gives you too much to do I'm always worried that the next day when the homework is due but I can't finish it because I have other activities that the teacher might get really mad at me so do you get to do what your friends do do you get to hang out and have play dates as well uh only sometimes seeing the kids so stressed out with so much work that they had to do after doing a day at school was a real concern for me because I could see the impact it was having on the kids with the Tantrums the attitude the the tiredness the crying there's no room to [Music] breathe hello hi kids how are you I wish dad didn't work so much So eventually dad comes home and Dad becomes the human jungle gym and it's nearly time for bed a lot of times say pushing us late finishing homework and finishing all the work that they need to do before they can go to bed go finish your homework I'm not going to pull you go finish your homework the kids have so much activities so when they came home they still have to deal with a lot of homework then create a lot of uh emotion a lot of temper the kids are not [Music] listening I can can I ask who who disciplines then when it's the pair of you but you don't discipline you do then I really usually do what do you make of what she's just said I don't see them that much yeah I only see them like a half hour or an hour each day so I think uh they might have some excuse to be a little bit wild he told me how he doesn't have the time time is something that you have to carve in and I don't really feel that Forest understands that okay honey I'm going to go do my do my paper work okay because you said you w and you did [Music] it it's 10:00 already an hour past their bedtime and they still haven't even finished their homework yet it's going to be a late night for this family so I'm heading out now so guys I'll see you all tomorrow okay see you good night good night good night good night good night Angela thank you very much Forest see you tomorrow spent a day with this family mom's stressed out the kids are stressed out there's no discipline dad works too longer day and the schedule is ridiculous absolutely ridiculous and these guys need some structure and a good framework and I can't wait to actually get talking to them and straighten this [Music] out the first thing that I do want to discuss is the behavior is out of control in this house completely out of control they won't listen they smart mouth they have attitude they hit they punch they do what they want all of that's got to stop traveling in the car yesterday was the journey to hell and back Christopher spat in Isabella's face yesterday and it turned my [Music] stomach there is no discipline there's no technique in place that follows through the lessons to be learned you act like this this is the consequence because that is your job as a parent and you're not doing it right now we already know Forest that you've said it's because there the last thing you want to do when you get home from work right is discipline the kids you work very hard you run your practices supporting the family financially what are you giving emotionally try to show them as much love as I can and I try to put in as much time as possible as soon I get a home those kids don't get that time from you they get half an hour if they're lucky how much time do you spend sitting down with them how much time do you spend up in the office when actually office should be finished and now it's about you being home I just need to cut back my working schedule I think that's only thing I can and that's what's important here priorities Forest right evangela why is it so important for you as a mother to have your children do so many activities in one week each child only has a few activities Christopher has nine okay and Isabella has seven we both would like them to be um exposed to extracurricular as well as Sports it is good that you are exposing them to the opportunities that the world has to offer for them but you've been unrealistic with your expectations the kids get stressed out we didn't realize that we putting the pressure on the kids we we started we're doing them a favor make sure they total occupied making sure they're occupied so that we don't have to do what's expected of us as parents you've used the classes as substitute but let's talk about the new house not the one we're in now to work so hard and to not move in to your dream home for 3 years is ludicrous I think it's kind of a crazy yeah but I I really feel the reason behind that is because of how things are at home I'm asking you to admit things about yourself right now that you need to change so I'm here to help you and support you guys in doing that if you are ready for it I'm ready definitely right let's go and start some work I think it's absolute Madness these parents are afraid to move because of their children's Behavior so this morning I've got a big surprise for them hi Hi how are we all really good are you ready for some news yeah yes this is what we are doing right [Music] now we are going to move into the new house all right good fresh change new house going to fear the fear and do it anyway I know that you know we do have to move it just seems like it's such a huge task um I'm just dreading it so what I have brought for you all are these These are GetGo bags all right and this one's got Benjamin's name on it you all have one what I want you to do is to put your special things into this bag so that tonight when you're sleeping there okay at least you have the familiar things around you that are special to you until all the rest of the boxes get unpacked moving home is one of the most stressful things a family can do the get-go bag is a fantastic idea and allow them to feel a part of the [Music] process I know that Angela and Forest are afraid to move but this is their chance to put structure into their new [Music] home look at you look oh look at Charlotte somebody help Charlotte she's struggling I'm glad to move in a new house I feel like like [Music] dancing okay you go over there and put tuck it in more I'm really excited to move into our new house because we have a larger space okay let's go over to the house rules the children are very excited about moving into the new house they don't know that we're going to have new rules and new expectations I think that the kids are are going to be in a bit of a shock this here says house rules this is what we are all going to follow in this house house in our new house this is what Lawrence lawence come here bring the children over please I'd like you all to look at me please because I'm going to say something Mom and Dad are talking to you about the house rules I'd like you to listen stay in one place and do as you're told okay this is your warning if you choose to not to listen to what I am saying right now then I putting you straight into discipline right stand up all of you please now we are going through the house rules our home you don't have to respect the exterior we have to respect every corner of this house even this corner Christoph okay how is Christopher going to listen to you Christopher listen here what I'm ask him to look at you okay Daddy and a mom look at daddy while I'm talking to you that's not right Christopher that's not right when Dad mom talk to you you don't list be this way let me give disrespectful is he being disrespectful to look you like that all right to look at your father like that and to pull that face as being disrespectful I'd like you to look at me please you're going to end up sitting on the reflection chair and being disciplined Christopher still showed attitude even after a warning so now it was time for discipline come down please I'd like you to explain to Christopher why he's in this reflection chair what is it that he didn't do we want you to be a good kid we want you to grow up properly be a useful person to the for the society that is that's definitely great stuff but for now he needs to know what why he's here you stay here for 9 minutes you're here because you didn't listen to me there's your book in there I'd like you to write down why and the effects of it please you know better the children do one minute per their age in the reflection chair writing about what they did [Music] wrong after the reflection chair the children go to the communication couch to talk about what they wrote okay when JoJo tell you when JoJo's talking and tell you to do something you're not listening you do your own things do you think it's the right thing to do no okay is that the same thing you want the people do to you when you're talking do you want to see that happen what do you think now and what are you going to do in the future Christopher I'm going to listen to Jojo and do what she says and what do what you and Mom says and again that's hug remember yay I'm done well done thank you that was a fantastic analogy thank you and you sat down and you explained and you asked him to look at you when you were talking that was fantastic thank you wonderful communication couch wonderful wonderful with the rules and discipline firmly in place in the new home it's now time to tackle the schedule this Mom she's so overstressed and over scheduled that she doesn't even realize that her kids have over 40 activities a week that's the next thing I want to address you see that big mountain over there I tell you what we're going to do we're going to see if we can hold what we do during the week so Mom and Dad I want you to take what you see here and whoever it belongs to you have to give it to the child and you have to try hold it okay ready Let's Go Mama dad [Music] you're keeping me quiet I can't hold it Daddy come on Charlotte when Joe had the kids get all piled up with their activities and I looked at these poor kids and I said to myself what parent am I overloading the kids with so many things to do this exercise was to set up exactly how many classes you put your kids through every week can I ask you a question do we need to change the activities okay let's drop the stuff then so the next thing I wanted to do was to come up with a new manageable schedule we are going to strip some of those activities to create a new routine a schedule that allows some fun time some downtime some family time some rest no stress okay okay but there will be some that you will have to keep and they'll be important that you do keep and Mom and Dad will explain why okay I'd like to ask you both to decide which are the mandatory ones the ones that they must do I think in Chinese you should keep [Music] Chinese I hate Chinese school we are going to keep Chinese because it is hard one day there thank you for it one day they really want their kids to go to Chinese school so they can learn Chinese language and culture and be in touch with their Chinese Heritage so now it's time for the kids to choose a few activities for themselves Isabella what are the lessons that you want to keep ballet you like ballet what would you like to take up yeah I like drum you want to do drum you guys doing CB Scouts yeah I'm doing CB Scouts and SC even though the schedule's going to make everybody's life more manageable mom's still struggling one thing we haven't discussed is the tutoring the language art tutor which I think is important it's all too much work in top of eight hours of school work for him his his his English is pretty Advanced but when it comes to individual writing nice sentences descriptive paragraphs he's not doing it I know but he's 9 years old he's not even in middle school yet you needs some breathing space as much as your torn's sitting there thinking I need them to do this I need them to do that if if we go ahead with that we're going to be back to square one again it was a bit hard to give up a lot of these great activities but we're both willing to give it a try you know it is going to create more Harmony not so much stress for all of you and you know it's not something that you're actually going to see in four weeks or 5 weeks you going see that straight away and you're allowing space for you to spend time with the children so they can be around their mother so that you can enjoy motherhood you know enjoy it because he wasn't enjoying it MH with the activity sorted out the family is going to be spending much less time on the road but the kids still need to behave with the time that they do spend in the car so I introduced mom to the car drill why do we need do this you need to do this because your behavior has been incredibly naughty and very unsafe in the car when Mom's been driving you to your lessons so bad that you are very lucky that there has not been a car accident so with good behavior and you listening to the car drill it means that we'll be able to have safe Journeys to wherever we're going okay we're going to do one at a time number one where the kids sit okay I'd like you to give direction to the children where they to sit Lawrence I want you to sit and the seat behind mommy the main goal of the card drill is to make sure that Mom's in control of the journey from start to finish and you establish this by going over the routine over and over again once that's done the children will know what's expected of them and they'll start to behave better number two take one game or toy with you okay parents should always make sure that they've got something to keep their kids entertained when they're in the car full stop okay number three is seat belts on and no standing up so back in the car we're going to do one two and three right the next one is going to be for you okay you're going to lay down the expectations of behavior once you're in the car all of the house rules apply in the car as we are at home can somebody else have any suggestions no you have the suggest they're your rules you're driving there's no suggestions coming from them it's all coming from you you need to make sure that you take your five kids to where they need to go safe they do as they're told do you remember how manic it was mhm do you remember how unsafe I felt mhm the idea is that setting rules will help the parents regain control but of course these parents have got to step up as well you're only in control if you behave like you're in control the last one is for you Mom okay stop the car if you are losing control so if these kids are kicking off in the back and you need to give warning you're going to stop the car and you're going to turn around and look at whoever needs a warning all right so that they know okay okay listen have fun whilst JoJo's away for a few days okay I want you guys to implement everything that we've learned make sure that we are following the routine that we have down take care and I'll see when I get back now it's in their hands whether they step up and take control it's down to them [Music] after a few days without me I'm really excited to see how well they've done with the kids I hope that the new home has given them the fresh start that they've been waiting for are we ready to take a look yes right [Music] okay I think what we should do is we should we do five of them we should make this really really thick dough I think it's not too wet now we should probably put more flour in it there's some more flour at the botom the wao look at it's erupting baking soda and vinegar that's fantastic the kids had fun they were able just to come together as siblings and hang out with you guys it's a lot of fun I haven't done this for a long time quite a long time so you felt very rewarded yourself yes made it all worth it I feel like have a family life back there's a a massive difference in the children's Behavior we've seen a dramatic improvement with Christopher's Behavior because the activities have been taken out of the schedule which has created a lot more contentment and yet let's not forget about the major major reasons that brought this all together and that is because we are now in a new environment as as well we are now in the home that we wanted to be in you can just see you know how much more relaxed the kids are for it and you both as well and it's really made a difference You' be very proud Florence next time I do not need your help Christopher when people have intention coming to help you you don't talk you that way you tell them nicely say w l i can handle it it's okay hey bu you need to take a deep breath what did you say if her eye is at the front of her eye this eye isn't under the don't mom a little bit this way no we're not joking Christopher you need to go into the reflection chair okay go okay maybe more consistent you talk to him it's fine I don't mind to do it but if you Lawrence need reading okay I'll go upstairs so you party home love it you're both working together here you're both coming from the same place and Christopher is able to see that in full force which is a major step for the perview so well done to the perview I'm very proud I'm just reminding about what we do when we get into the carun Benjamin now we have gotten into the car what do we do next you can read this book or you can wait until your sister is finished which one would you rather have okay I'm liking this you've kept nice and cool here there was some praise in the beginning and you've given the Children Choice which is lovely Christopher was she grabbing the book away from you okay Charlotte that's a warning for you Charlotte you need to ask nicely okay good to see good to see straight away you nipped it in the bud and you're giving a warning what can I say fantastic well done let's move on to the next bit in a reflection here right now because you were yelling at your brothers sisters no I'm talking to you all right I want to sit here and think about what it is that you did and how it affected other people you're going to write it down okay I need to question here because he's in the chair and you're talking to him which is not part of the discipline don't be talking with him in the reflection chair correct if you ignore what he's saying then he realizes your words final as soon as you start to talk back back you show him you don't have that control it's a power and control thing with you and Christopher power and control okay so this is our last clip I want my hostile from yesterday you don't have to push my backpack I'm already done why do Iselle only have to play once no said you could do that oh dear let's just stop it for a moment does have to drive anyone bonkers he has learned to communicate through whining and he needs to be set a very good example of how to be able to use his normal voice to communicate so how would you show him the example what does Christopher sound like when he whines mom I want a sandwich I said them in your Tong exactly right exactly as soon as they see a grown adult behaving how they do it becomes a comedy show but it allows us to set the example and show them exactly how they sound and then for you guys to only accept what he's saying when he does change his voice so having seen all of these clips today what I would like to do is to work with a pair of you and just really tweak everything so are we ready to get going mhm brilliant okay so let's go so it's my last day with the dwart arms but there's still a few things that I need to change first mom's still having problems with Christopher in the reflection chair Christopher mom I want to know what time it is there was a lot of communication happening on the chair rather than the communication happening on the couch mom was really feeding in to this back talk from Christopher at 54 he's finished so what time is it and they really struggled the PA of them with this power and control let's go to the communication couch and talk about what you wrote down today I said R things to my mom so she sent me to my reflection chair so what was the last part of that Christopher what did you write down that made other people feel frustrated and angry when I heard that behavior I'm I'm curious to know why why don't you actually want your mother to feel frustrated or angry with you because it makes her mad oh no your anger is now making people frustrated and mad so I am pleased to see because it shows me that you are fully aware this communication couch is incredibly important for the pair of you these are the conversations on this couch that allow our children to ask questions and for us to answer honestly it allows room for our children to realize that we're not unfair we're just doing what we feel is right as parents that we must do good yes I'm very impressed with the progress this family have made however just before I leave there's one little thing I need to fix what I want you guys all to really think hard about is the way that we speak to one another this is what JoJo hears all the time I want to drink I want my a I think that my kids uh sometimes do whine to get attention I mean isn't that what you hear what do you hear forest from your children what do they say mom I want a Booker but I want to wear this dress it's easy for a child to adopt that whining tone when they are emotionally feeling upset or or feel that there's an injustice going on but then what happens very easily is that the child starts to adopt that as their normal voice now is that talking properly or is that whining yeah whining so let's think about how we talk to one another and if you sound like this then what Mom and Dad are going to say to you okay use your normal voice the kids laughed and we laughed ourselves so we realize it's acceptable behavior so can I get a big group hug before I leave a big group hug thank you Joe thank you so much for helping us to make the whole family happier have more smiling on each body's face thank you so much you're welcome listen keep up the work you know you've seen what a difference that you've made already and just keep going with it look at this little one look she's passed out she's f just it Angela thank you take care you're welcome take care of yourself okay and just keep keep it up keep it up I would like to thank Joe for coming to our house to help with all of us bye bye bye Christopher bye Benjamin bye s have fun in your new classes all right enjoy them enjoy them byebye I'll miss you JoJo bye bye byebye take [Music] care dinner time when Mom syia arrives what do you say thank you Mom thank you Mommy forest and I are together on the same page when it comes to Parenting the children that there's a lot more communication we're definitely glad that we did move and everything else is behind behind us wow Christoper you have a good app time haven't eaten a so delicious thing in a long time since Joe came in the kids has been changed quite a bit especially Christopher Grandma you know what Christopher was not in the reflection chair at all today wonderful his temper is getting much better Angela and I we can see the change I think giving up those activities has has been worthwhile because the children are a lot happier and we're having time that we can spend together these are the things that we've actually never done before so it's a great [Music] experience I like Jojo I think JoJo is cool because she really helps our family to make a difference this family wanted the help they were willing to really motiv mate themselves in to make those changes so I walk away at a happy Nanny thank you so much for helping us to make the whole family happier have more smiling on each bu's [Music] face [Music]

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Length: 39min 34sec (2374 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 18 2024