The Blame Game - Part 1

the year was 1980 I was driving a 1979 Silver Anniversary Trans Am t-top with the infrared - yeah I was cool back then having driven back and forth to the embryonic Church that I was starting up in the hills of West Virginia Montgomery specifically I was coming back down the road from my hour or so trek up there to minister and was just coming up over the hill when I came up over the crest and there was a horrific car wreck a terrible car wreck I don't one was coming eastbound the other car was coming westbound somehow they've gotten and one had gotten in the other was laying I don't know what happened exactly but it was a terrible car wreck just on the other side of the hill I hit my brakes to avoid being included in the car wreck pulled over to the side of the road and ran over to a victim who was slumped over in the seat I was a young man I had never seen such a horrific car accident and I ran over to the window the glass was shattered glass was everywhere the man was bleeding his head was against the steering wheel and I asked him a question I said do you want me to call the police and he turned his head blood running down his face he said No call an ambulance I ran away and I thought yes I'll call him and I said I did exactly what he told me to do I never forgot that moment I knew when I asked him did you do you want me to call the police I knew I had said something foolish but I didn't exactly know why have you ever said something and as the words were coming out of your mouth you thought catch them they're getting away they're getting away they're getting away sitting your horses out and bring them in so nobody will know that you are stupid I did not I did not realize my in my youthful exuberance in the lack of experience I'll blame that I did not realize said to a person who is bleeding on the side of the road it doesn't matter who was at fault why call the police he wasn't concerned about who would get a ticket or who was responsible for the accident but the level of accidents that I had experienced had afforded me the luxury of being preoccupied with who was at fault but when the injury is severe enough when the damage is overwhelming when it is intense and life-threatening no one cares really about who is to blame they want somebody who is solution oriented who can solve the problem and I didn't understand but I came to reflect on that statement I can still see him looking at me saying no call an ambulance the curse to me are we calling the police to hand out citations when we should be calling an ambulance this is the posture greetings in the name of the Lord we have been talking about blind faith and we're gonna continue that conversation today but we're going to take it on from another perspective whenever things get derailed and they go crazy the first human propensity the question that we ask more often than not is Lord why I want you to understand that some things are unexplainable so you cannot waste time blaming this one or that one or whose fault it is you've just got to deal with it and go forward I'm gonna be talking about the blame game watch those toes I'm gonna step on some today take a look there are some things that just happen beyond reasoning as much as you wash up your intellect and your ability understanding how smart you think you are and how much you think you need to understand there are some things that just happen that are beyond intellectual resolution you will not get closer trying to understand it there are some calamities disaster destruction hurricanes tornados calamities that just happen the Bible says indiscriminately it falls on the just and the unjust it doesn't matter how holy Yuliya is that matter how while you're some stuff just happens to you stop trying to rationalize everything they looked at this man born blind and they says to Jesus who sinned this is the human attempt to rationalize how did I end up like this if my father would erase me I wouldn't have been like this if if my mother would have given me to my grandmother I wouldn't you would be surprised at the questions looking over the heads of the people in this room about how did I end up right here and you'll be surprised how many people get the blame from the disappointments you face every day and for your lack of vision that's one of the great things about getting older you get to go to the adult level of having children and watch them blame you like you blamed it funny when the shoe is on the other foot yeah you can't say anything just that's gonna have to soak in on you see laughs they are having this discussion about a blind man who has said nothing at all this this blind man is not to be confused with other buying men in the scriptures father Brian men's cried out Jesus thou son of David me that I might receive my sight but this blind man said nothing he didn't even ask it in the Bible says Jesus just came upon him it's almost like he stumbled up on him the blind man is standing there in his blindness and they are having a discussion about him that does not even include him have you ever had people have a discussion about you that doesn't even include you like you're not even there and they're having this big debate they're standing there now the man is blind but he's not my death and they are having a discussion about him as if he could not hear what they're saying Hoess in heaven they're having a discussion a earning moment about a personal crisis in his life even if funny how people will banter easily about things that cost you great pain and they'll discuss with frivolity things that put you in a crisis mode and they'll do it so cheaply as if you had nothing invested in your whole life what gives him the right to have this conjecture as to how I got there have you ever been blind what did your mama do what what gives you the right to make assumptions about my mother but you have not even met my mother and father how dare you being Authority is an expert on everybody else's life except their own and Jesus rebuilt dim hey tell them you don't know what you're talking about look at your neighbor see you don't know what you're talking about you think you've got my situation all figured out you don't know what you're talking about I don't even know what I'm talking about I can't figure it out and I'm the one living in it ain't no way you could know me 2 or 3 years then figure out something that I'm still scratching my head trying to figure it out the truth of the matter is the answer to the mystery of how you came to be where you are is not in your head nor in the heads of the people who speak into your life but in the mind of God there is an answer to every situation that you face in your life that's why you don't have time to wash up me or him or her because they don't know what they're talking about only God knows how you ended up where you and there's nothing like being victim of somebody else's rage misallocated toward you because they want to blame you for their dilemma you'd be surprised at the people in this room who are living with somebody else's blamed subtle subtle blame subtle blame not the kind of blame that causes a fight it's just the kind of blame that makes you know not to stay over there too long on Thanksgiving cuz ya'll said y'all could enjoy a meal but if we stay over there too long somebody's gonna say something that sets it off in here well nobody knows what I'm talking about that's all right god bless you see you they said naw I'm the only person who understands these careful little relationships where you got to tip on anything have you ever been in a room and you wanted to say something that you went because if you really said what you really thought it would turn the entire evening these little relationships are laced with this freak 9 of secret blame you can't taste it you just feel the effects the loss of intimacy the lack of connectivity the loss of genuine love and admiration swallowed up because you blame me for something that I should not be blamed for who said who said his mother or his father that he should be born well if sin would make babies go blind every kid in here would black out let's see people don't like me cuz I tell the truth every kid in here would be walking around talking about all my life yet people can become so self-righteous then how can you say that my parents say it made me blind your kids boy still to come on the POTUS touch if you got too much going for you I can't show off but when all hell is breaking loose and you're down for the count and there's no way in the world you can get up God said that's what I saw the emptiness of an open heart creates a cavity for God to feel but a closed mind never receives anything the only difference between you and the person you admire is the perspective they have on life when the one who gave you sight says follow me let me lead the way it's time for blind faith don't allow people to anchor you down as an albatross around your neck and leave you limited so that they can have fellowship and you can have failure if you are disciplined in your perspective you will be victorious for helping us reach others with your best gift we would like to give you blind faith for insightful messages on DVD and as a bonus receive pecking orders on DVD with a 2013 photo calendar reminding you that God wants to position you for in fact expose you to powerful experiences give the courage to step out in faith and the knowledge to make a difference just visit our website or call one 800 Bishop 2 today it is arrogant for a finite mind to think that you understand an infinite God you must go back for the second touch and sometimes the third touch if you think about Jesus going back into the Garden of Gethsemane over and over again so that he could walk away saying to his disciples sleep on I've got it we can't go in and pray one time and walk away and think that we've got orders from headquarters you have to really go before God every day to get new information and new insights and more clarity because sometimes you walk away and you heard what he said that she didn't get what he meant and I encourage people to be humble enough to admit you don't know everything the emptiness of an open heart creates a cavity for God to feel but a closed mind never receives anything from God going back a second time and a third and a fourth is what separates champions and conquerors from failures and defeatist and by the way you want to be blond to come on to your mama I'm sorry I'm guys whoo come back that got away I have to catch them whereas I dread you they won't run away from me Jesus says Jesus rebukes the accuser there there are always accusers in your life now you must understand that the spirit of accusation does not start with men it starts with Satan because Satan is an accuser of the Brethren and you must understand the spirit of accusation hovers over the head of every human being in this room accusing you of something blaming you of something creating suggesting sowing seeds in your mind for which you have to deal with guilt over things you had no real control over who are you anyway are you God that your actions could control somebody else's outcome but when the spirit of accusation comes people will accuse you as if you had more influence than you actually did maybe you contributed to the problem but there are other people who contributed in like manner and they didn't turn out right there there are other people who walked away there are other people who were irresponsible there are other people who didn't finish much time with their kids and their kids turned out right y'all don't want to talk to them y'all don't want to talk to me it's so easy to say I'm like this because and as long as you assign blame to other people you can never regain control the moment you say that is something his mother or father did then he cannot do anything to fix it now the miracle must move from the blind man to a discussion with his parents because if what they did cost him to be blind they're going to have to do something non do it I hope you brought your brain with me this morning because I just said something too heavy if you ended up where you ended up because of somebody else then you can't fix where you are they have to fix it it not a lot of power to give to somebody else Jesus rebuilt them recognizing the spirit of accusation comes from the spirit of Satan who is an accuser of the Brethren and there is an accuser in your life right now accusing you every time you get up accusing you every time you have a happy moment that you don't deserve it that you have no right to it that you should be ashamed of where you are there is an accuser that rings on every good day threatening you of a bad day holding you hostage in your own mind bringing up things for which you cannot say and have no control over in your life to torment you and every time you go down there is an accusers and you brought that on yourself there's always a boys that you wrestle with see I don't have time to fight with you I gotta fight off all invoices that are talking in my telling me to give up and die but I'm so glad that the blind man didn't have to rebuke the accuser Jesus revealed the accuser and said you're wrong I have an attorney that will plead my case when you make up some assumptions about me I don't have to fight for myself Jesus rebuked his own disciple said neither sin watch this but it was done for the glory of God how can God get glory out of blindness I made him like this so I could be glorified in this my strength is made perfect that's what God said my strength is made perfect in your weakness if you're too strong I can show off if you've got too much going for you I can show off but when all hell is breaking loose and you're down for the count and there's no way in the world you can get up God said that's what I can show and show them I thought when God got ready to show his glory he would show it to perfection perfect stuff I remember when he called me to preach I said Lord you should get one of the good people don't be calling me cuz you know you don't mean and come on man you know me you know I'm not to mess this thing up real good fashion up in here get one of those good people one of them little goody two-shoes nicer people who you know one of them that was back when I still believed that they existed uh-huh yeah I did not know that God could be glorified through something that was not beautiful to something that was not perfect he said this man is like this not because of what his mother did not because of what his father did but I planned his blindness for my glory that's why you singled so I could be glorified in your singleness that's why you're married so I could be glorified in your man that's why your home isn't perfect so I had to be glorified in the imperfection I've made it what it is so you could see glory in a way you couldn't see it don't fix it be glorified in it Oh y'all don't talk to me I wish I had some help this water I was ahead some help I wish I had some help the only reason we have a need to blame is because we're disappointed in the outcome and the disappointment in the outcome suggests there's something wrong with where you are so the way you cope with the disappointment with you is by blaming me so you make me your scapegoat but Christ already is that's to theological I'm not gonna bother that I'm not go I'm not gonna drop over into that Christ says don't blame his mother don't blame this father whatever was wrong with him I could have made that work he said if you don't blame anybody blame me because I'm gonna use his blindness for my gloat I'm gonna use her brokenness for my glory I'm gonna use his emptiness for my glory I'm going to use her thirstiness for my glory don't make them over leave them alone stop trying to fix him that's my child leave her alone I made her this way because I have an appointment with her and when the time is right and the stage is set I'm gonna heal her where I could get the most glory somebody help me pray them just 10 seconds ten five people say you have an appointment you have an appointment you have an appointment you have an appointment you have an appointment you have an appointment you have an appointment you have to point yeah you have an appointment you have an appointment you you don't even know it you don't even know it you don't even know it you don't even know it you just sitting on the side of the world minding your own business not even realizing that you have an appointment with destiny you don't have to fast for it you don't have to pray for it you don't have the baseboard all you gotta do is do you and while you do you I'm gonna meet you in the middle of the road I don't know who this is for but this is for somebody sit down shut up we just talked about it we just talked about it I don't know why y'all keep jumping up but I feel the anointing of the Holy Ghost I feel the Spirit of the Living God I feel the glory of the Lord the blind man said nothing and the miracle came to him we'll be right back after this the emptiness of an open heart creates a cavity for God to fill but a closed mind never receives anything the only difference between you and the person you admire is the perspective they have on life when the one who gave you sight says follow me let me lead the way it's time for blind faith don't allow people to anchor you down as an albatross around your neck and leave you limited so that they can have fellowship and you can have failure if you are disciplined in your perspective we'll be victorious for helping us for each others with your best gift we would like to give you blind faith for insightful messages on DVD and as a bonus receive pecking orders on DVD with a 2013 photo calendar reminding you that God wants to position you for impact expose you to powerful experiences give the courage to step out in faith and the knowledge to make a difference just visit our website or call one 800 Bishop 2 today the world is in chaos our churches are under fire our leaders need a new set of tactics and strategies let them know it's coming coming TD jakes presents pastors and leaders 2013 no church left behind sign up today I'm out of time I have to stop there but it's been delightful to share the word of the Lord with you I'm excited about where God is taking you I believe God is going to do great things in your life and I don't want you to deter your steps by getting caught up in excuses and issues and problems of the blame game you've got to get beyond it and start walking out your destiny even when you can't see your way clear this mind faith thing is for you thank you now

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Length: 28min 30sec (1710 seconds)

Published: Fri Jan 18 2013