Stephanie Buttermore "ALL IN" Update & Interview on Gaining Weight | Intuitive Eating in REAL LIFE

I'm sharing my wedding day review on Stephanie better mores all in diet I received tons of requests for an update now I actually don't watch a lot of YouTube myself unless it's for research and for work but I have been religiously following Stephanie's journey because a I think it's amazing what she's doing and I believe she is a huge asset to the online fitness community and B I just love her personality I think she's fun and obviously super smart and her and I also share a deep love of all things Donuts so for this video I'm gonna be sharing some of my insights into Stephanie's all-in journey and let you know what I am really loving about this transformation that I've seen also a heads up that I am wearing my caffeinated and motivated shirt from my new merch line so definitely hit up the description for a link on where to get it now before we get started a reminder that this information is for education and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe and they you should always speak to your health care provider about your unique health needs now before we get to chat with Stephanie better more herself let's do a little bit of a recap if you're just kind of checking in about nine months ago Stephanie who is a really huge Fitness youtuber and influencer and now says she was going to be going all-in in an effort to help restore her reproductive hormones reach her natural setpoint weight and regulate her hunger and fullness signals the plan was to allow herself to eat to society every single day no matter how many calories it took so at first coming out of a restrictive fitness competitor diet this looked like around 5,000 calories a day but as we've really watched her updates and journey over the past few months her weight gain has slowed and she's finding herself satisfied on closer to maybe 2000 2500 calories which I would say it would be a totally average amount of calories for an active young woman like Stephanie now while Stephanie's all-in journey stemmed from kind of physiological concerns like her bottomless pit Ariane's and her skewed hormone levels I have to say that what she is describing to me is really like intuitive eating just with another name I'm seeing so many of the principles of intuitive eating in really effortless display throughout her videos that I think she really serves as a fantastic amazing role model for those of you who maybe want to eat more intuitively but who are nervous or don't really know what it looks like in real life so today I want to walk through some of the principles to see intuitive eating in real life action so principle number one she's rejecting the diet mentality know where my headspace is at this time of year I'm just making sure that I just like to stay in my own lane so I'm just doing my own thing I'm doing and following the journey that I've set out for myself and not revolving around like getting shredded and lean and losing weight so that's where I am right now I hope that you guys can appreciate that and understand that and I'm sure you guys do yes okay so I get this is so hard when dye culture is ultimately everywhere and particularly for a fitness influencer like Stephanie as dieting and the pursuit of weight loss or physique goals are really a particularly huge huge part of this world but I love love love that Stephanie is explicitly announcing that she is trying to kind of quiet the noise so that she can concentrate on what actually matters to her most and that is doing what is healthy and best for her and her body principle number two she honors her hunger [Music] which I finished that and I want to miss Joni miss John it's cold outside okay so this is so simple but I love that she ate her oatmeal and then she checked in with herself and was like yeah I want soup as well even if the things don't necessarily go together cravings and hunger do not discriminate and I love that she's serving herself up round two without any judgement at all okay so principle number three she's making peace with food so if you watched Stephanie's recent videos you'll see a solid balance of really kind of healthy foods juxtaposed against bites of donuts and pizza it isn't a video of kind of bodybuilders diets on day one and then a cheat day on day two like we used to see a lot of Stephanie's videos show but you also will hear her talk about food as being good or bad you know it's just food I can only imagine it has been an ongoing amount of work to truly believe that after operating in the fitness world for so long but I am really so proud of her for finding that piece principle number four she challenges the food police again I am sure this journey has not been easy as an influencer let alone a fitness influencer and I have seen her mention multiple times on her Instagram that you know people frequently call her obese or shame her for perpetuating obesity with her all in process I know how hard it is to deal with trolls especially when you're already doing something that is kind of outside your comfort zone but I really applaud Stephanie for acknowledging the occasional blip in her confidence but then just tuning in and really remembering that hey this is a process that you're doing for yourself and not to make anyone else happy principle number five she understands the satisfaction factor normally what I used to do like cheat days like having a bite of free donuts would only like trigger my appetite more like I would be like okay now they made me more hungry for me now like of course like my capacities real hi so I could eat a lot of food I could eat all six of these donuts but I have no desire to his mom made us turkey soup last night we have leftovers and that's what I want right now like I'm in the mood to have some turkey soup maybe I have a little bit more of these later okay so in this how much do I want to eat video Stephanie is like trying all these delicious looking Donuts sidenote I am also a dulce de leche a girl but she says that in the past having a bite of something really delicious like a doughnut would trigger her hunger for more donuts but now since going all in she's realized that she can have her like her trial bites enjoy every second of them and then she would kind of like tire of that flavor or that sweetness and move on to what her body was really craving and that day it was actually for turkey soup she also mentioned that she might have more donuts later when maybe you know she was more actually hungry for them or that flavor of sweetness was more satisfying and enjoyable and pleasurable again which to me is really great it's a great example of giving herself unconditional permission to eat you know a lot of people find that when they have a binge let's say on an entire box of donuts the last few bites are definitely not as satisfying or even delicious as the first few bites when our taste buds are actually primed and excited for them so I think Stephanie has built enough trust in her body and herself that she knows that she can wait until those bites will be flavorful and delicious and satisfying again because the food will still be there when that interest comes back principle number six she honors her fullness even if something tastes great let's take a look well in the morning and I usually don't eat my first meal until 11 or 12 o'clock because I just honor my hunger whenever it decides to come around okay so a lot of people ask me if they're not eating intuitively if they skip breakfast now I have to say some people are just not breakfast eaters end of story and as long as that doesn't prevent you from eating enough in the day then I don't really see anything unintuitive about pushing back your first meal of the day until ready if you're struggling with hunger cues however as we talked about in my honor your hunger video it may be a really good idea to try to schedule regular meals and snacks even if you're not particularly hungry until that sensitivity really does come back but it seems to me that now that Stephanie's kind of gone through that process she absolutely is more in tune with her just natural hunger cues and and those rhythms throughout the day and for her it just means hey maybe she's not that hungry early in the morning his slices of toast and that fruit I feel pretty full like I'm not gonna lie I don't have any desire to eat anything more like I could of course I could eat more if I like force-fed myself but I have known as I already ten ething else and I think that that just shows how much like I've improved and how much my appetite has improved so it makes me really happy that I can eat a meal like a normal person and not still feel like I could eat the exact plate of food all over again so I love how unbelievably happy this progress has obviously made her feel that is so incredibly encouraging it would have been the same thing that I was thinking if it was eight months ago before I went all in and before I ate to satiety every single day before I gained 40 pounds I would have easily been able to eat that whole box of cookies like you guys have seen my cheat days you guys know what I'm capable of but I think it's kind of a misunderstanding or maybe a miscommunication on my part to explain to you guys why I'm capable of only wanting one or even two cookies at this point now that you know I've gained 40 pounds and I've gone through this whole all-in process just to quickly summarize the idea is to eat to satiety every day then after that like your satiety cues and your hunger regulating signals in your body and in your brain kind of tell you to chill out so after you eat as much as you want every single day and I've been doing this now for at 8 months I have no desire after I eat one cookie to eat a whole box of cookies my body is where it's at right now it's doing really well like this whole process has worked so well for me I have very normal hunger regulatory signals if you watched my all in like science video where explain you know leptin and ghrelin and how that kind of is regulated in your brain especially when you gain weight and you have more body fat on your body and your body kind of tells you that you don't need to put on more body fat when you're really lean and you're super hungry it's because your body wants you to put on more body fat it's gonna tell you that you're hungry all the time even though you just ate that's just not where I am right now and I think it it took me probably two to three months of eating a lot of food like you know up to 5,000 calories a day to get to that point and since then I've been like slowly getting better and better so after a month for I have just been progressing even more like I feel like I need to eat even less every single day to feel satisfied okay so I think Stephanie does a an amazing job explaining how going all-in and specifically gaining weight has positively impact her hunger and fullness cues largely by regulating leptin and ghrelin so she talks about when you're super lean you have less leptin in your body which that's the hormone that tells you that you're full so basically you just never get that fullness signal in an attempt for your body to naturally weight restore another important consideration that maybe didn't affect Stephanie so much is that for a lot of people who chronically diet there's often a huge psychological piece here as well so when you restrict and then cheat or accidentally eat something that's forbidden even if you're physically full already it's hard not to blast through your fullness cues because your brain remembers the horrible restriction that you've put it through in the past and will likely be subjected to again in the future but when you allow yourself unconditional permission to eat and you put intentional weight loss on the back burner accepting that hey you might even gain weight in this process you learn to actually trust your body and Trust food and trust your access to food so Stephanie doesn't need to eat the whole box of cookies in one sitting if she's not hungry for because she knows that tomorrow she will be hungry again and the cookie will be there and they'll taste even better because she's actually hungry for those cookies principle number seven she's coping with emotions with kindness not food there have been a few super vulnerable moments in Stephanie's videos over the past few months but I've never gotten the sense that she was dealing with the Downs with food let's take a look or was really expecting I've never talked about this on my channel before but I'll say it really briefly my mom is mentally ill I don't want to get into all of it but she's been sick my whole life and it's part of why my sister and I take care of her and I guess I should have been I guess I should have been more prepared for her to have an opinion on how not being herself because how she normally is she had a few things to say about my weight gain and expect it to bother me I guess I didn't imagine it would affect me so badly she's really off right now and she's live in her own world but it didn't really bother me I guess and the things that she was saying was basically everything that I'm feeling and I do want to give myself a little bit of credit I think I was handling criticism from strangers pretty well it was just that when it's somebody that's close to you that made it really hard and I felt like the best way to deal with it was just to move on otherwise it was just going to consume me honestly Stephie you are so strong I'm sure so many of my followers are watching this thinking holy I would crumble how did you make it through but I feel like you've really proven to us what an incredible Rockstar role model you really are and I'm so appreciative that you've shared your experience so openly with the world okay so principal number eight she shows her body respect in total I've gained 35 pounds interestingly my weight kind of capped out at the three month mark and it really hasn't changed in the past month and has more or less stabilized now that isn't to say that I won't gain any more weight because I don't want to be tempted to have feelings of oh my weight has plateaued so now I can't gain any more weight which could bring me to a dangerous restrictive mindset so even though it's currently plateaued it doesn't mean that my weight won't continue to fluctuate so I am so amazed and so proud that Stephanie has really made an effort not to have expectations on this process you know not to have any strong hope that this is it for the weight gain or okay I'm done I've gained enough really quickly I know you guys lost if I'm going to die like if there's ever gonna be a point where I'm gonna diet and just a really briefly explaining because I hate saying go watch this video go watch that video because I don't think you will or I don't want to make you do that so I'm just gonna say that I don't need to diet and I won't because after I eat less and I continue to eat less my body is way above its set point it should go back down to its set point so there is scientific evidence to support that people have a set point and my body is above that so slowly my body should come back down without any weight to diet now while I appreciate that this may not be for everyone I love that stephanie has found that all the benefits of this olan journey and gaining weight far outweighed any future benefits of dieting for her so clearly staying on this course is really an act of self-love and ultimately body kindness principle number nine she continues to move her body where did I get done however on a positive note I do feel like the goal of building up my strength and making strength improvements was definitely achieved I felt way more energetic and just better in the gym like even more than my first month so everything related to my training and my training recovery only continues to get better the longer I've been all in which is amazing however another challenge I was dealing with that was way more prominent in later months than the early months with that the weight gain that I had experienced was becoming a lot more noticeable so stephanie has actually used her own journey to optimize her exercise regime and fitness rather than letting her kind of changing body prohibit her from working out not surprisingly when she's not under feeding her body can better recover from her workouts and she can actually see some of those measurable changes to you know her strength and energy levels now I don't want anyone watching this to think that you need to work out like Stephanie to be successful at intuitive eating or going all in but I actually get a strong sense that weight training and exercise is something that brings Stephanie a lot of joy and pleasure even if it does look pretty intense for those of us who prefer like Pilates or yoga I personally am also someone who really does love heavy weight training compared to like cardio for example and I look at runners like they're crazy for putting their body through what I perceive as hell but in reality some people like just love love love to run and do find pleasure in that so I'm glad that stephanie has an activity and a source of movement that she really does truly love and that she can also enjoy it to the fullest now that she's all in without risking exhaustion or injury through under feeding and finally principle number 10 she integrates gentle nutrition and respecting her body really really well so as mentioned earlier I am loving the real food variety I'm seeing on Stephanie's Channel since she went all in even though she's given herself unconditional permission to eat whatever she wants whenever she wants after nine months you can see that this largely really is balanced nourishing meals with some treats peppered in No More full-on cheat meals needed thermalized onions mushrooms and a lot of goat cheese oh yeah it has spinach too so this breakfast at Korres for example looks really satisfying balanced and super tasty you know she's got protein and fat in her onlet some carbs and her toast and fruit I mean this is an awesome meal and totally something that I would order while out myself so I'm doing oatmeal vegan protein the vanilla but I added cinnamon and pumpkin pie spice so it's like banana foster II because I have bananas in it so it's really good okay so ditto with these post-workout protein oats so Stephanie definitely knows what helps her recover from her workouts best and this meal has the perfect post-workout combination of protein and carbs it's also super nutritious but obviously something she truly loves I mean she has it all the time and she always just talking about how delicious it is and it really does look good we got pizza I got the veggie pizza with chicken I didn't realize that it gave they put an entire tomato on top but probably eat that first okay so even her personalized pizza looks super balanced and delicious we've got chicken for protein and tons of veggies piled on and she also doesn't leave out dessert I mean she still enjoys some vegan lemon ice cream and a chocolate cookie without feeling the need to necessarily eat the entire box all of these meals are selected and chosen because they feel good to her they're truly just what she finds enjoyable and satisfying and there is no you know I'm being good or this is the healthy choice or whatever Stephanie appreciates that they're just really tasty and this is what her body is craving and I just think that really reinforces how far she's come on this journey so now that I've given you my two cents I want to loop him Stephanie butter more herself to tell you about her unique experience so Stephanie thank you so much for joining me oh thank you so I think you do a really great job at answering a lot of the big questions that everybody has on your channel so I want to ask you a few that I had myself first of all being how has your interest in cravings in sweet foods changed since going all-in that's a really good question because so much has actually changed and I like to think that I had a good understanding of what cravings and what interesting food was prior to going all-in but I don't think that I did so just to kind of quickly define when I was super lean there was no such thing as like interesting cravings because you just want everything it's like broccoli looks good to you yeah so so these words have different meanings to me at that point in my life and I think that they take on an entirely new meaning now and I think that for the most part you don't also have to kind of dilute between one month all in Stephanie and like nine month olives and two because even fully like one month in things like crazy they're like my you know like a obsession with sweets would kind of like deep it to decrease like a bit after one month but now nine months in it's like completely transformed so now nine months in if you were to think of my cravings or interest I I would you know say that they are pretty normal I still have a love for sweets I am sure most people do and and I just think that now is just my my cravings and interests are much more normalized where before it to satisfy or the cravings that I would have it might be on like a much larger scale of like I'd walk into a donut shop and feel the need like I could have all I could eat the whole shop know now I feel like oh like I would love to try one or I would love to try two or something like that or after dinner like a normal person I would crave something sweet and it would be instead of an entire box of Oreos I would just want one so I do have them they have so the short answer is absolutely has changed and now I had like a true understanding of what those words actually I think that's so fascinating and and I think is really gonna resonate with a lot of my viewers who are are really trying to embark on a similar journey and and find that satisfaction with not needing to kind of go overboard and binge and then feel sick afterwards so I think that that's really amazing to hear and and yes to some people like nine months might seem like a long time but in the context of your life like how amazing is that that you've completely transformed your whole life in really just a few short months oh yeah that's fantastic now in one video you mentioned how your body is above its set point and that you think it's going to come down so I'm curious why you believe or how you know that it's you know it's your way it's going to come down then it's not at its natural set point at this moment so if you were to have asked me before I went all-in I would have like most people thought that like if you eat indefinitely as with high calories you would just eat yourself into obesity so you have to first to understand where my thinking is you have to first like kind of throw that idea that we know because it's not true it's known in in many studies that it's just not true so there are two different reasons I think that I believe that this phenomenon kind of happens so the first is just scientific evidence and the second is more like what I feel in physiological papers but the first thing like if you have soul is first to just kind of like explain what like setpoint is means some people like don't like they ask me all the time what do you mean by setpoint or like so that's kind of how it's described in say like literature they usually use the word like natural weight and there is a theory that most humans genetically have a predisposition to be a certain body fatness and they like their body of genetically hovers around a certain weight and there's a lot of banter in the scientific community because you have to also incorporate environmental factors so there's also a prevention model but a lot of people really discussed the the set point theory model and how your body kind of regulates body fatness kind of like a thermostat so the way that it's generally described it's like it's you know you were born us or in way of your physiology is a certain way based off of your ancestry as well if your backgrounds with the way that you store body fatness but somebody from up north is gonna store body fatness very differently in so many South Africa and so all those things are inter individual or based on your background but your body likes to sit in a range I wouldn't say in exact weight and this range fluctuates throughout your life so this is very fluid range so I'm actually pretty lucky because I actually have a good idea and a good understanding of what my natural weight is or my natural step weight is because I don't start dieting at a young age and a lot of people did so they really have no idea what their natural weight is many people because of pressures maybe they did vigorous feeding or dance and when they were younger they were you know kind of pressure to be able with a smaller body and I actually played sports and I played softball I was small so they encouraged me to be bigger and I was just I was always just an athlete that never felt the need to dive it and the first time I really got into dieting was when I was like 24 so up until like 60 like after like I hit puberty and like went through all those changes and my body kind of hung around a certain weight and like kind of like a like say percent body fat not really weight that body fat up until I was like 24 where I decided to do a bikini competition and that's when everything changed so I'd like to imagine that that is kind of where my natural set weight is now I'm gonna be thirty this month so obviously time is gone by and at this place in my life I don't think that I would go necessarily to that weight but that was just that that's kind of a ballpark of where I think it is and it's where it feels happy and where I don't feel kind of how I do right now where I do feel a little bit uncomfortable and it's kind of difficult to describe so I'll use a few the way my body feels right now is uncomfortable because I'm always like like oh like so uncomfortably hot all the time so these are like kind of physiological signals to me that my body is kind of like after its peak I have come down from my peak wait which by the way I might eat weight for like a good four months and it did not move for four months and at the highest week that I got to you it's only just recently started to very slowly come down and I can tell that I don't think my body is but done because I'm still way above that like hypothetical natural set weight I have and but like aside from being really hot where I'll sit anywhere and I'll just sweating through my pants then it's just crazy all the time I also feel like my appetite is just it's just like so low to the point where sometimes I like make myself eat because I like don't want you know I would tell them they might by lack of like my appetite right now but it's very low like I can barely eat before noon sometimes sometimes when I eat I feel a little bit nauseous so I feel like my body is like okay you are at a high enough body fat for a while and now like everything is functioning normally again and maybe it's it does feel a little bit uncomfortable and this is like a mental thing that I have but in terms of feeling a little bit uncomfortable but I think that my frame doesn't support this body weight either because I find that I walk very funny now hmm and because my legs are really big and I find that my gait it's just strange and awkward that could just be like in my own head but um that's another thing that I've noticed and I think that my Franca's may support this high of a body fat percentage so that that's purely anecdotal but there is obviously like I mentioned before with the 17 model Theory there is scientific evidence that like in in overfeeding studies that yes the participants will gain above there we were feeding weight but they almost always come back down sometimes it takes longer and some spits than others same thing happens when you under feet participants the same thing happens when they go back to ad libitum eating they can't less swing back up they have this overshoot period and then slowly but surely if that you ad libitum it comes back down so interesting and and I love I mean as a as a science minded person I really truly appreciate you kind of bringing that science mind to your journey and sharing that with your with the audience so that was that's very interesting and and so you know insightful as well so okay so next question this is telling I'm fascinated by again science geek but you showed us your blood panel back in the fall and I know that you weren't satisfied that your numbers were exactly where you wanted them I guess in the long term but have you had your estradiol and FSH and your LH retested since the fall so that's a that's a great question and really interesting that I actually just booked an appointment to have my blood work done on Monday when we're reporting this on a Friday because I have an update video coming up and I really do want to after you know a good almost ten months at that point know where I stand and I know that in my video that I seem to be very disappointed and I was at the time of the recording of that video but I actually had doctor Nicola Rinaldi we chat very regularly like all the time and but right after that video was recorded that was after my four month update she actually gave me a lot of like she really really made me feel so much better because she actually mentioned to me that those numbers were really promising mm-hmm that I shouldn't feel discouraged by those numbers at all she said that they were pretty normal they could be better but they were actually pretty much in the normal range and that these things take time and that after that at that time it was only four months that I shouldn't feel discouraged by by any means because it was really promising so her just giving me that reassurance made me feel so much better and of one thing that I'd like to kind of make note of to your audience this might be long-winded but I think it's an important thing to mention that if women are at all considering getting blood work because they need to they want to monitor maybe these things they're like things seem a little bit low or seem off make sure that if you have a normal menstrual cycle and I can't say this to speak people who have amenorrhea at the moment but if you are undergoing like a normal menstrual cycle you need to get your blood work done in the same space that you had it done if you're comparing numbers because your numbers just change so drastically between your follicular and luteal phase like after you hit ovulation your estradiol applies so like me and like Peaks plummets same with FSA chanel age they increase and decrease throughout different times of your menstrual cycle so if you were to compare two different numbers and we're taking at different times over your metro cycle they they could be extremely misleading or discouraging or like encouraging wrongly urging like all those things so if you are considering taking any measurements and having these things tested just make sure just keep those things in mind yeah thank you for for flagging that because I think that that could totally throw people off and the other thing I wanted to mention was yeah going back to your your original blood numbers I mean I remember seeing that video and thinking those look really great to me like like if that were me I would probably be so excited so I'm really happy that you know you've had a chance to kind of think oh you know maybe maybe that is a really great sign and things are moving in the right direction because yeah I was personally really encouraged seeing that and another thing I wanted to mention was that for people who are experiencing amenorrhea if you are getting these blood levels tested because that was a big question for me it's like like I myself have a men area from piece post pill PCOS and that's why I've struggled with infertility and I remember asking my nurse like how do I interpret my baseline blood levels because I don't have a follicular cycle like phase I don't have a you know anovulatory phase I don't know where I am in this point because there is no day that this was taken on in my cycle and I think always run this by your own team your own nursing team and doctor but my nurse told me that they analyzed amenorrhea results based on the follicular phase of the cycle so Jeff for those of you who are out there who don't really necessarily have a regular cycle that might be something to consider as well cool yeah totally okay so another question but one thing I was thinking about when I was think about your all-in journey is that essentially what you're describing as going all-in to me is almost like jumping full force into intuitive eating which is something we talked a lot about on my channel you were like under eating when you started this whole journey so it does make absolute sense to me that your weight would increase at least at the beginning when you kind of go all-in and you start eating more intuitively and eating two full satiety as you described but what do you say to some of your larger body followers who want to regulate their hunger and find their natural setpoint but who are worried that going all-in will cause them to kind of spiral further out of control with their weight and food in general yes I would personally say that going all-in is completely irregardless of your starting body weight and that's why everybody's journey will look very different and I know that they're probably more reluctant to kind of undergo this kind of process because they're scared of gaining weight and this is kind of why maybe that the you know they've had a lot of other issues may be going on and their self-esteem and that their body image is going to be probably even more negatively effected and that's maybe why they've gone through maybe like the vicious cycle of dying restriction and maybe binging and restriction and they've ended up maybe in this larger body or they they have other they could even have like PCOS and there's a lot of things in this so one thing is that you really have to consider that this is temporary so I know that it is difficult like I'm not gonna you know I gained 40 pounds and that's nothing to laugh at because it is quite a bit of weight and I because I started out so lean it may not seem like I am super heavy now but but it is a lot of weight and if that gives people who are already starting out a little bit larger a lot of fear that they're going to be in like 40 pounds-plus because everyone's journey looks different I think that the reassurance that they're not going to spiral out of control is really evident in like the literature and in in what happens when people that are lean go all in your appetite and spiraling out of control really doesn't happen because your appetite does regulate that and when you don't restrict even if at a larger body even though they because you have a larger body you inherently have a higher metabolism if you calorically restrict your metabolism probably has decreased a lot so you can have a heavier body weight and have a low metabolism due to calorie restriction so you need to keep in mind that this process yes will gain weight but you'll be fixing all of those things because like in the short term like I've had to say to myself I had to remember that there I have so much life left to live like you know I'm not eight years old and I'm worried about this right now I'm like but do I want to deal with this forever do I want to feel hungry all the time forever and I think that even if you are heavier you're still human this process works the same way it's just that your journeys gonna look a little bit different and that you're just gonna have to like everybody does you have to accept the weight gain because what happens sometimes when you start gaining weight you get a little bit scared and then you like restrict a little hair still there and the thickness old tendencies might start to come back and you have to if you if you do that will undo everything you've done you know have wasted all the work that you have done and so if you slowly like dive straight into eating whatever you want whenever you want whatever to find the day than it is and you will gain weight and you know it you're like okay I know that I'm gonna give me like it's not gonna be surprised like oh you know surprised you gained weight you will but it doesn't last forever and the more you go completely all-in I feel the shorter it takes because if you slowly dabble into it it'll just prolong the whole process and just take forever that's why that's what really pushed me to like really not restored at all if no restrictions because I just it was just going to prolong this and I just don't want it to do this forever right yeah that's so so interesting and and absolutely true like you said this is what the research shows us and and you know the interesting thing is for a lot of people who maybe are in a larger body who have spent their whole lives kind of dieting and binging and restricting and kind of going up and down like that that yo-yo dieting ends and weight cycling is inherently really bad for your health so if you're able to stabilize your weight even if that means you're still in a larger body that is a really healthy place to be especially in comparison to kind of going up and going down and and really kind of damaging your metabolism in the process so I think there are just so many benefits regardless of the size of your body to begin with this is not just like you said for inherently like really lean women who have really dieted down to very small sizes so this is a process that can ultimately help everyone repair their their relationship with food and do it relatively quickly I mean it's it's quite amazing the transformation that we've seen happen here so thank you for sharing that journey that's so interesting and for those out there who may be chronically under eating or dieting regardless of their size and shape do you have any mantras or you know words of encouragement that really helped you push through some of that kind of fear to just like jump in and change your diet so drastically when really you had no idea how your body was going to change yeah so I would consider this in two different camps so the first camp would be for a mantra for women who have not yet done this who are thinking about it you know like they need to they're like I'm so hungry I feel so tired I lost my period maybe your hair is falling out maybe you're just so cold all the time but many different things or even some of those things they feel like this might be what they need to do to correct their to normalize their hunger again and to find their natural set weight and for those people who haven't yet done it because they're too scared it's kind of the same idea that I was thinking of for the larger body women this is temporary and you have to remember that this is temporary and if you can like my only witch in the world when I started was that I could fix my hunger I didn't know how long it was gonna take but it was so bad and I felt hungry so like all the time that it made life so miss your full that if I knew that I could fix it I would do it and I thought that to myself like you know gain weight is something that many people fear the it's very obvious I mean it's a reason why people have you know developed eating disorder you have disorders in the first place but if you can make this really like this promise to yourself knowing that this is going to actually fix it it's not like it might it actually will if you do it right maybe something would be a good idea maybe to hire somebody who specializes in this and it in it's only temporary and it's a temporary thing and you throughout the process and after the process you will be hungry anymore to me that was the biggest draw to other people they might have other things on their mind but to me it was just to not feel so hungry all the time to not go to bed hungry I know that you have talked about your struggles with insomnia you cannot sleep to that point you know it is the worst feeling in the world even if you like used to sleep just fine before you dieted and working your sleep is likely not the best because you just feel hungry and will wake up hungry and and it can be fixed by something that is temporary and there aren't that many repercussions the weight gain is temporary it's not forever you might have to accept buy some larger clothes like thrifting larger clothes accepting that you may not be as lean as you once were but you're not going to be hungry anymore and you're not going to feel tired and you're gonna improve the relationship with your partner because you're not as frustrated you don't watch your partner and envy you all these estate and you can't and and that is really that makes you almost mad at them they didn't do anything mmm-hmm mad at them for no reason so that's like the first camp of women to say that to you but the second camp of women I kind of want to reach out to is for a mantra it's for women who have decided to undergo this journey maybe if they're the beginning at the middle even towards the end they've gained weight and they're uncomfortable and they want they want to quit like they feel tendencies and maybe restriction coming back and and the thing that I sure cuz I journal very regularly and I've journaled I every single time to venture on twice a day at the beginning because I'm a journal in the morning how I was feeling it at night I was very religious with it every single day and the one thing that I made sure to remind myself every time I had to put these bones of doubt was that I needed to remember my why and I made my why extremely clear at the beginning I wrote them down over and over I said them over and over in videos I said them over and over to people who just didn't get it like my parents didn't get it like I've said them over and over so I knew exactly what my wife was so all I had to say to myself was don't forget why you're doing this but remember your mind remember your wife and it would just be something simple that I would go key to myself like the moment that I would look do you stay in your own lane and remember your why and and that's what really kept me in it and I think that you know like for it doesn't really matter if you're in the public eye in my opinion or not because people think just as harsh in person your family your friends and co-workers they're gonna be just as harsh so I was in a unique position I was but I don't think it's any easier for women that are not public at all I'm thinking sometimes even harder because those relationships are very intimate and you're hearing these harsh words from people that are very close to for me like for people that I don't even know I can brush this off but like for other people when it's their family or their their friends that they just don't get why you've gained so much weight and things like that that's where it can be really difficult so you have to remember your why and if people really love and support you they will understand your wife with you yeah that is so powerful and I think that that alone will help so many people just and I like the idea of journaling too because that may just help you reconnect to it that why when when you're starting to doubt yourself or those feelings or thoughts or behaviors are starting to creep back in okay so finally last question you mentioned that you maybe want to write a book about your all-in journey I would love to know what the punchline is of course you know what are the most important things that you got out or are getting out of the all a journey that you ultimately want the world to know I do want the message of the book to kind of be a form of like self-discovery in a way because everything that I did like everything that my whole life my career what I was doing on YouTube revolved around the way that I looked and prior to doing YouTube it had nothing to do with the way that I used to be a scientist in the lab and the way that I looked was completely irrelevant and then I jumped headfirst into a world where the way that I looked and the way that my body was was all that had occurred basically and most all that gained me credibility or notoriety or trust from people though she looks like that then I could trust her even though the information could be exactly the same so I wanted it to be about what I did in moments and how I like discovered what is important to me because at the beginning you you know all these things are important to you they have certain beliefs and they changed so much through experiences quite like this one and I wanted to show like the evolution of my thoughts and my process and my confidence because my confidence wasn't even great when I was lean because I was making content to be lean because it seemed to do better when I was lean so it like perpetuated like sustained mmm and and it was this vicious like when I was like I can't do this anymore like I didn't even like the way I looked my arms were so skinny that I didn't want to wear tank tops like it was bad like I didn't even feel that great about the week like my body image wasn't great and in clothing I just looked like I was too small of a human to fit adult clothing yeah like I I didn't even really love how it looked been and so gaining weight although I've had my ups and down I did start to love myself and my body a lot more and then the king socialists focused on my body because I was like you know kind of thinking of other things and work and and I didn't want this book to the adult prescriptive like people have asked me I even talked to a publisher and they wanted it to be there like this great as I out to and I didn't want to do that because that's not my that's not my mo I'm not trying to tell people what to do I just want to share my journey because they can learn from experts and from themself like how they would want to approach like if they were in a similar scenario and I think sharing my experiences in really difficult times and sharing what I was thinking in these moments like I would a hardship or like I feeling really bad about myself like how I just dealt with it would just be really you know like relatable in a way and also just they could possibly help people who are going through something similar and any kind of recovery journey that they're undergoing although might look at looking different than mine they could still take away from what I learned throughout the process and even as I write the book I'm still not going to be done so I'm still self-discovery as I as I finish and as I go through and I started with my background and how it got to where it was so as I keep writing the cookie and I keep you know like my journey keeps on going I'll be able to talk on more current things but that's kind of what it is it's kind of like a self-discovery journey I love that and I love to hear you know of course all those physical issues that you were dealing with have resolved in our getting better every single day and that is fantastic but but just to hear that even just your love of your body and just the respect that you have grown for your body has has improved is so powerful and so helpful for for women specifically but really for anyone who is struggling in their relationship with their body and food and because we live in such you know diet culture this is an issue that really affects anyone regardless of what their body looks like so these are these are lessons that I think we can all learn from and so thank you so much for sharing your journey I mean I can't I can't tell you how inspiring this whole thing has been I can't what I can't wait to follow along and to get the book when when that comes to fruition but guys if you're not already following Stephanie I highly suggest that you do and and so we're gonna of course leave lots of links in the description so that you can hit her up and Stephanie you gotta let me know when you come to Toronto because I got all the best doughnut shops in I got I know on the mall I'm also a doughnut fimo man love it please do because yeah I think we we have a doughnut date in our future awesome well thank you again Stephanie and if you guys like this video don't forget to give me the thumbs up leave me a comment below if you have any questions about intuitive eating all in maybe Stephanie will pop by and if there's any questions specific to to her she can answer them as well but also don't forget to hit up her channel she's got so much information about this whole journey that I'm sure you will all find really enlightening subscribe to the channel and I will see you next time on Abbey kitchen bye [Music]

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Length: 50min 48sec (3048 seconds)

Published: Mon Mar 16 2020