Self-aware Female Narcissist Confesses it All | Shocking Revelation

hi I'm Danish a narcissistic abuse recovery professional today's video is going to be a little different because in this episode we are going to watch a video together a video of a self-aware female narcissist whose name is Lilith in this video Lilith confesses everything she has done in her past she talks about her abuser personality how she used to manipulate people how she used to guess light people how she used to elicit certain emotional responses from people and then weaponize them to get what she wanted she talks about how predatory she was in the past and how it impacted those she was in a relationship with now before we begin here's the word of caution this video is very intense because it confirms everything that we have been talking about when it comes to narcissistic abuse she exactly says what we have been together trying to understand about narcissists and how they function and why do they do what they do so it may be a little triggering you may need to take a little space here and there to kind of just get it all together before I begin I have a special gift for you I have created a free guide for survivors of narcissistic abuse and this guide answers top 10 questions that every Survivor of narcissistic abuse asks you can access the guide instantly the link is in the description and the comments as well now let's get started with the video can I ask what's one of the worst things you've done to a person physically or mentally so yeah you can so someone is asking what is one of the worst things that you have done to a person mentally or physically now pay attention and this is going to be gross and it's embarrassing and I know that like it doesn't matter that it's embarrassing to me what matters is that it's wrong so I'm prefacing this what this is wrong and you shouldn't do this to people and if you find yourself relating to what I say then maybe you should get some help that's all so I always view relationships as like mental chess is she used to their relationships as a mental chess we always say that for a narcissist it is a game they always and already know what they want out of a relationship the agenda is already set they know what they are in for so it's that loud bombing and everything they do it's all fake that's why we say it was a lie right from the beginning I was always doing everything that I like everything that I said and did was planned and thought out to get reactions and to like get people to do certain things so I push people to really bad places do you see that this is exactly what I was talking about so she was already aware of what she wanted out of her relationship or a situation or out of a person and she says she used to push people to really bad places which is the sadistic element of this personality type if she does this now or not it seems like she doesn't but she used to do it so this tells us that she was aware of what she was doing because we tend to think well maybe it's subconscious and they're not aware and it's trauma yes it is trauma but see there is awareness there is a thought process that is backing these actions up this behavior is thought informed and a person I mean a narcissist in this case exactly knows what they are trying to do and why they are trying to do it like I would push people mentally to very distraught places to very traumatized places to like I would pull them into their trauma like I would figure out their trauma and their triggers and then I would slowly dose them with their triggers and their traumas to put them into fight or flight modes a narcissist studies you in the beginning I've been I mean many people who are in this field have been saying this again and again that a narcissist studies you and studies you thoroughly when they ask you about your past it's not that they want to know you they want to know what you have been through so that they can use the exact pain points that they find through your history and push those points push those buttons to elicit similar responses why because these responses work for them they can get them what they are looking for emotionally or in any other way possible now here is this the sheer lack of empathy is spine chilling it is nerve-wracking to see that someone can be so unempathetic that they are feeding on someone they are preying on someone and they don't care and this is not a judgment this is just an observation if you can look at her face you can clearly see there is no true remorse yes she's a little bit shaky which maybe is a sign that her shame is getting that but look at her eyes they're cold there is no true remorse no true guilt that is being felt while she narrates her story and what she used to do it just kind of she's saying it and just she is putting it out there for which I really appreciate her but you can you can see that you can see there is no one in there so then I could uh have more control over them um this is terrible oh my God one person I had so stuck on me that he ended up sending me like a hundred and fifty thousand dollars during the pandemic and he was also like not getting anything from me and I was like telling him to kill himself and I oh my God oh my God I mean I am sorry this is so triggering she was telling this person to kill himself what can be worse than that what can be worse than that oh my God I mean poor person you can imagine as a Survivor what he would have experienced the kind of pain the kind of Agony would he would have experienced back then when he was being abused by her but do you see the absolute lack of reflection maybe while she's narrating the story a part of her is telling her well this is this is embarrassing this is terrible but is she truly feeling experiencing the gravity of the damage the destruction and how she impacted that person like what she did what she caused I don't know it was being really mean and making him cry all the time and I would like lie to him and then I would like give him like doses of like what he wanted and but like I was just mostly just really abusive like I was like just like you're just such a piece of and like nobody cares about you and all of that because I was just wanting to keep him so I could keep using him do you see that this is what they do when you are idealized and they get you and then basically they devalue you first they give you they know what you want they give you and they kind of show you the potential of the relationship they show you what is possible but then once you are in they know you won't leave easily you're Trav abundant so what do they do intermittent reinforcement she says that she used to kind of give him you know a little bit hair and a little bit there through a breadcrumb at his face to kind of keep him there as she says but she was overall abusive most of the times she was telling him that he was a piece of wow but was he a piece of I don't think so this confirms that these people say these things yes of course it is a projection and at the same time it is a lie probably they know that you are not what they are calling you it is just being said so that they can attack your self-esteem your self-confidence break it shattering it into pieces and keep you under their control foreign and I think that that's complete disregard is like just like the worst thing that I've done like mentally is that all of that uh that I just explained I also admit there was like one point in my life where I thought that this was cool like I thought that like manipulating people and like having the ability to like implant thoughts into people's brains by like suggestive like thought is was like cool well I mean wow what do I say to this do you see the grandiosity element they think they're speedier why because I am able to do these evil things I'm able to plant these certain thoughts in your head and make you feel and think in certain way and that that makes me a wonderful or powerful human being and this explains why they think it's your fault for falling for their manipulation for accepting them for not seeing through them they think you're a fool and therefore you deserve to be treated this way they don't think it's their fault in any way but the opposite they think it's a wonderful it's their skill and you are weak for falling for all that facade how crazy is that I mean I'm I'm I'm in saying it again and again this is all crazy someone is confirming all of what we have been thinking and talking about and contemplating and here it is and she says it all and I liked doing it and now I feel disgusted and I don't think that it's right um I know that people are probably gonna like be like wow you're a piece of but that's why I'm on here that's why I'm talking that's why I'm trying to be honest so and the last piece of her video she acknowledges that her behavior was disgusting but does she truly realize it I don't know because it's just a bit it's like a glimpse into her life we don't exactly know how she functions now yes she has a tick tock and she has a YouTube channel I'm linking them in the description and she definitely talks about her awareness and how she's changing and reflecting but this is I mean I'm sorry but I have to call it what it is these actions are pure evil not just disgusting because you are destroying someone's life through your behavior and you're proud of it and yeah you have realized it now you know that it's it's something that you shouldn't do but I'm not sure how deep that awareness is to change you into a better person because surface level awareness of your actions is not enough for you to transform yourself there has to be this felt sense of remorse and guilt and this pure emotional understanding that you are doing something wrong something terrible and in case of narcissists it's like this cognitive understanding of their actions like yeah yeah this is something that I shouldn't do because it's bad how do you know it's bad because people say it's bad there is no true embodied understanding of it that's why it said that they have cognitive empathy they can only understand that you are in pain but what do they do with that understanding nothing it doesn't change anything at all it's like a tiger becomes aware of its stripes a cheetah becomes aware of the patterns on the body but what happens then nothing they just know that they have these patterns I hope a Lilith definitely sets an example for us survivors of narcissistic abuse and kind of demonstrates the change she talks about and I appreciate her and I also request you all of you to be respectful towards her because after all she's talking about these things and at some level it must have been difficult for her to do so so please be respectful if you interact with her on her Channel or on her account please be respectful on all platforms and here as well thank you so much for being with me today for watching this video with me if you have any questions drop them in comments below let me know how you felt and I'll talk with you in the next one until then let the healing begin

Channel: Danish Bashir

Views: 443,098

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Id: 1wtDy_FHRr8

Length: 11min 57sec (717 seconds)

Published: Sat Mar 18 2023