r/Trueoffmychest My Husband's Cheating with My Best Friend

welcome to R/T true off my chest where op discovers that her husband has been having an affair for over a decade our next redit post is from lovecats I recently found out that my 42-year-old husband is cheating on me with our married best friend who's 32 she's the Godmother to our four children they don't know that I know but I caught them making out at the end of our driveway when he was seeing her off after dinner with our family we live on a small acreage and the driveway is a long way off from the main house she had forgotten some Crockery at the house and I decided to walk it over because for some reason the two of them always took a long time to say goodbye now I know why that's when I saw them lit up by her car's headlights making out in the front seat with our best friends straddling my husband in shock I didn't know whether to throw her Pyrex at the car or just walk away I decided the ladder I was too shocked to cry or be angry when my husband got back back I had to pretend like everything was normal I know that it's stupid but I couldn't sleep last night and I decided to go through his phone she was obviously under a pseudonym but I found a handful of their messages dating 2 to 3 years back her husband doesn't know he's currently posted overseas as a diplomat I'm sick with rage and betrayal I'm lost and I have no idea what steps to take next then Opie posted an update as to what I'm going to do now a part of me went to confront my husband and see what lame excuse he has but I need to get away from him this level of betrayal physically hurts I can't help but think of all the times that we spent together over the years and for how long our families were fooled my mind is going crazy when she was single he would rescue her from some bad dates or the times they were alone in my house when the kids and I were out I remember how irrationally angry he was when he found out that she had a boyfriend and then chose to marry him thinking back on it the two of them disappeared at her wedding when I asked him where he was he said that he needed to reassure her that she had done the right thing I feel so so sick thinking of these things then op posted another update while my husband is out of town for the next few days my husband's sister who's the only other person who knows will help me pack up my important documents and store them somewhere my husband doesn't know about I've organized my kids to stay with my sister-in-law for a week while I saw everything out I've spoken to a family lawyer and they've told me that the best way to start the separation procedure is to no longer be living under the same roof I'm fortunate in that most of our assets are also in my name and the land our house is on was gifted to me by my parents I'm planning to kick him out after his trip but before that I want to catch them both in the ACT again I want to have some hard proof send it to my ex-f friend's husband and get the ball rolling from moving on with my life then op posted another update my husband came home two nights ago from his trip I had packed up all my husband's things and he's been really good at keeping his tracks clean because there was no evidence of his affair within his stuff I placed all of his belongings in the garage and I was ready for a confrontation with him I was super nervous because I wasn't sure if I was making the right decision once he came home I remembered seeing him kissing our best friend and I remembered the Deep hurt they' caused I was in our kitchen when he came came home and he knew straight away that something was wrong during that week I had been distant and had barely answered his text and screened his calls I did answer every now and then and I gave the kids a chance to speak to their dad he asked me why I hadn't been responding to his texts and he tried to kiss me but I turned away and before I knew it the first things that came out of my mouth were I want a separation I have to admit that he didn't look very surprised when I said it he nodded his head and said said what do you know which was just a punch in the gut because I wanted him to deny it or say something like it was a one-off thing I asked him to tell me everything like when did it start he said they started 10 years ago at first it was flirtatious messaging and a sneaky kiss in the office when they briefly worked together and the affair was on and off she apparently always felt guilty and her way out of that was to marry the next man that was interested in her and proposed he admitted that they pass ly hugged on their wedding day and whenever he's out of town they meet at this point I couldn't breathe and I was sobbing I hated that the next words out of my mouth were did you ever even love me he hesitated and said yes of course but I was never in love with you the way that I am with her I cleared my throat and told him that he should tell her husband there's no point hiding it anymore I told him that all his stuff was in the garage and he can find somewhere else else to stay I let him know that I had spoken to a family lawyer and I told him that when I feel ready and only when I feel ready will we see each other again to talk about the future arrangement with the kids I said that any future communication can be done through my sister-in-law or my brother I said that he's allowed to see the kids but only at their place I of course want full custody of the kids because it hurts too much to give him anything at this point he agreed to All Points because he knew that he was in the wrong he tried to say sorry and then I absolutely lost my mind and screamed no effing way are you sorry for 10 years you've deceived everyone we know please just take your stuff and leave and tell that woman you've been screwing for 10 years that I don't ever want to see her effing face again it certainly wasn't my Shining Moment it was a culmination of all the hurt and anger that I felt over the last few weeks that they've caused I have no intention of talking to my ex-best friend or really to my soon to be ex husband until I've had the time to grieve man I feel really bad for op I do don't get me wrong but my God my heart hurts for the Diplomat the husband in the situation this guy marries a girl and on their wedding day the bride sneaks off to sleep with someone else that is brutal it's brutal for the wife too don't get me wrong 10 years is Savage it's just God I can't stop thinking about that wedding that's awful I don't understand why they didn't just break up and be with each other other if he liked her that much and she liked him that much why did they both marry other people huh people are so dumb and weird man I don't get it our next Reddit post is from kuty signature I hate to admit that I didn't see this sooner my boyfriend has never liked to clean or been particularly good at it he doesn't cook either when I was young I figured that all men were like this I now regret moving in with him and getting serious I actually like cooking and cleaning so at first I didn't mind but I've been absolutely taken advantage of my meals are mostly made from scratch and I sometimes spend 3 to 4 hours in the kitchen prepping and cooking my boyfriend never has to make his own plate I bring it to him at the table along with his condiments and whatever else I clear the table and do dishes after I cook he never offers he is nice enough to buy me an extra meal if he gets fast food but he's never cooked at home it goes unspoken but I'm also responsible for all the house chores if I don't do them they simply won't get done this includes picking up after my boyfriend's messes cleaning his trash cans clothes Etc of course I try to address this with him but it turns into a heated argument every time I ask him why he expects me to split bills 5050 and do 100% of the housework he then says you're lucky that I'm not charging you the market rent which is $1,200 to be clear that's the amount of his mortgage and his car loan he claims that because I was p paying less than I was at my previous apartment where I lived alone that I should just be happy if I push the arguments any further he just gets mad and starts yelling on the other hand when I tell him that I want to leave because I don't like our Arrangement he backpedals and tries to negotiate not only have I been very stressed and overwhelmed with my workload I've been disgusted with his attitude about the situation thus I've stopped being intimate with him I just have no desire he then started making comments like you should worship me as a man and I should be able to F you whenever I want I'm over all of it so I'm taking the rent money that I would have given him and leaving with it next week we had no formal long-term agreement thankfully hopefully he can find someone who can keep up with his needs our next Reddit post is from the Shelby s show I'm in shock my date died I'm a waitress at a restaurant and there was this guy who started coming into my job about a month ago he just moved from California California to my small town he was cute funny sweet and we really hit it off he turned all the other girls down at my job and everyone started teasing me saying that he was my boyfriend last Sunday he finally asked for my number after weeks of chemistry it was so exciting we would go on smoke breaks together and we talked every time I worked he became a regular we started texting consistently to find out that we had the same music taste Hobbies he drew me and we just talked we shared a lot of the same interests he finally asked me on a date Thursday night but he drove a motorcycle and it was raining so I asked him to reschedule he wanted to take me to a nice fancy restaurant for our first date he said that I was beautiful sweet and worth it I was so excited so we rescheduled for the next day around 5: he asked me if he could bring me dinner I was grocery shopping and I said that I would let him know at 519 he said that I was worth it then I texted him to try try to get a time for our date the next day no answer I asked him are you okay no answer the next morning I texted him no answer later my coworker let me know that at 5:30 on Thursday night he was hit by an SUV 10 minutes after texting me he was going straight and the SUV ran the light it was a horrible wreck I went to work today and I had to take breaks because I couldn't look at his usual spot without tearing up he kept telling me that he liked me and he wanted to take me out and just couldn't wait I'm having such a hard time with this oh that's awful just in the early stages of Young Love Now not only did someone lose his life but op has to spend the rest of her life wondering what if our next Reddit post is from Fitness Taco in my mouth yesterday I cheated for 9 years I've been strictly monogamous I haven't even entertained the thought of someone else my barber has been trimming and shaping my beard since I started growing it he knows me he knows my needs his work on my beard has even won me awards at competitions yes beard competitions are real because he's such a wizard at his craft he's also very difficult to get an appointment with and sometimes I have to wait a month before I can see him I know I should be more proactive and plan my appointments way more ahead of time but sometimes I just forget or I'm too busy to break away and see them I to New York City Friday night because I had a ticket to a Broadway production yesterday afternoon I've known about this trip for about a month but I didn't think about getting my beer trimmed before I left until Monday last week obviously my barber is already booked up so I take the L and realize that I'm heading to the city looking like a caveman when I woke up yesterday morning I took a look at my beard and started entertaining the idea of someone else what's more New York than an old-fashioned Barber Shop trim I say to myself this is when I could feel myself slipping into a series of thoughts that I should not have allowed myself to think about I open up my browser on my phone incognito mode obviously and I start searching for someone who can satisfy my needs pages and pages of eager Barbers just wanting to run their scissors through my beard then it happened I stumbled across Eva Eva has extremely high reviews she's trained in the art of beard shaping she has a warm smile that lured me in I booked with Eva I go see Eva Eva had a warm touch she knew ex exactly how to work her scissors Eva knew all the right places to hit and exactly how I needed it Eva made me feel and look like a million bucks once we finished I walked away feeling disgusted with what I'd done but I don't care it felt good to be in the hands of someone else plus she lives in an entirely different area code and my barbar and and her will never cross paths I do plan on telling my barber next month when I see him I hope he understands and that we can work past this even if we do manage to work past this I'll still always be thinking about Eva our next Reddit post is from throwaway 11 days ago on my 27th birthday my 25 and 22-year-old brothers died in a car accident 3 days ago we had their funeral then my mother killed herself the next day my father killed himself Jesus Christ my parents never had mental illness they were just overwhelmed with grief my mom always said that if she ever lost one of us she'd end herself because she needs us my response was always I hope you don't because there are too many people who need you here she effing did it anyway and my dad followed suit I don't have friends I've never had friends the only people I ever talked to was my family I spend my free time reading through the family group chat I have their dog now and she she's grieving too which I didn't even know dogs do my parents always treated her like one of their babies I've always loved her but I don't want to keep her I'm still working I work from home and most of my communication with people is via email so I'm free to cry all day I'm supposed to move from Australia to Texas in about 6 weeks for this unreal job opportunity everything's done for it I've even signed a lease on an apartment I'm just waiting on the day to come now I suppose it'll be good to get away way I have a neighbor with a car that's a similar model to my mom's and I can't bear to look at it it's an Australian car so I won't have that issue in Texas my parents' siblings are planning their funeral now I don't know if I can do it I can't bear to see anyone ever again I don't want to hear my family's names ever again I've got a lawyer calling me every day about the house and the cars and taxes and bank accounts and all this BS people I don't know or haven't seen in years is keep sending me flowers and chocolates and I just throw it away immediately I have no idea how anyone got my address I'm forever going to be the person whose whole family died in three separate events in the space of a week I thought my life was lonely before but now I don't know what to do I have literally nothing our next Reddit post is from French fries I'm a 40-year-old man and I have three kids this story is about my oldest daughter who's 16 I've always told my kids they can call me anytime if they're in a situation or just need a ride home and I'll pick them up no questions or judgment as a teen myself I was stupid and often rode with people who were drunk or high when I should have just called someone to pick me up as my daughter got older especially when she started driving I wanted her to know that any time of day she could call and I'd give her a ride well it happened last night/ early in the morning my oldest was according to her staying with her mom until I got a a call at 2: a.m. from my daughter telling me that she's drunk and unable to drive or get a ride I picked her up and she puked in my car it was unexperienced I made her go to school today very hung over because she decided to drink on a school night my biggest issue was her lying to me about staying with her mom but I'm also proud of her for realizing that it was unsafe to drive and knew that she could call me and I'd pick her up we haven't had a conversation about it yet and I mostly said about the lying not the drinking but like I said I'm proud of her and op I'm proud of you for not punishing her because if you punish her for this Behavior then the next time she's drunk there's no way that she would call you obviously a 16-year-old girl getting shitfaced drunk as its own problem and needs to be dealt with but at least you're not punishing her for doing the right thing op that was r/ true off my chest and if you like this content check out my podcast where I publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit videos every single day

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Published: Sun Dec 24 2023