r/Bestof My Boyfriend Got My BFF Pregnant!

Welcome to our best of redditor updates where op's boyfriend impregnates her best friend our next Reddit post comes from our slash relationship advice I'm a woman and 15 years ago when I was 18 my best friend who was also 18 got pregnant by my 20 year old boyfriend who I'd been dating for three years my family knew about it but didn't tell me so I ran away from home now we're back in contact after 15 years and my mom is demanding that I'm in my relationship with my ex-boyfriend and my ex-friend when I was 18 and in my senior year of high school I really believed that my life was on a good track I live with my parents and my four siblings and spent most of my days hanging out with my best friend Ashley and or my boyfriend of three years Kyle both Ashley's and Kyle's parents were best friends with my parents so I knew both of them since I was in diapers we spent holidays together birthdays and visited each other all the time since we lived in the same town Ashley's been my friend for 18 years and she was truly the person I trusted with everything sometimes our parents would joke that we're connected by The Hip because we were together all the time I had been dating Kyle for the last three years I believe that he was the love of my life and the one that I would eventually marry we were quite serious and even talked about getting married after he finished College he was a sophomore at that point even though I had every plan on going to University I was quite content with the idea of being married to Kyle and being a stay-at-home mom my parents loved Kyle and supported our relationship I really was happy I think I should note here that my 20 year old sister was also dating Kyle's brother who's 23 and that all of our siblings were very close one day at the beginning of the school year I noticed that Ashley was being very melancholic and detached after a bit of prodding she told me that she was pregnant I was very surprised because I knew that she and her boyfriend broke up a while ago and I didn't know that she had anyone else like that in her life I asked her who the father was and she said that she didn't want to talk about it but she said it in a way that implied that her ex was the father she was absolutely distraught so I dropped the topic and just consoled her I was with her when she told her family and while her parents were disappointed they promised to support her in whatever she decides they tried to make her share the dad's name but she refused and made me promise to stay quiet they didn't know that she had had a boyfriend at that point I was there for her for the next nine months I went with her for her ultrasounds and doctor's appointments I was there for her when she was bullied in school for being pregnant I helped her set up the nursery I was there when she was sick or just felt down I held a baby shower for her I went shopping with her I even took some parenting classes with her we chose names together and she even asked me to be with her in the delivery room I noticed that the pregnancy was really taking a toll on her emotionally and physically and I tried to support her in every way possible she was my best friend always there for me and I loved her some two weeks before her due date I went to the mall to run some errands and I ran into her ex although I promised to never contact him the knowledge of my friend's emotional state sent me into a fit of anger and I confronted him I gave him a piece of my mind told him what a piece of garbage he was for leaving his ex pregnant and alone and not caring for his unborn child he was shocked and said that he had no idea what I was talking about Ashley never told him about the pregnancy and when I told him that she was nine months pregnant at the time he said that it wasn't possible for him to be the father as they broke up over a year ago and they had had no relation since then I was confused but apologize for yelling at him in the middle of the mall all after that he became snarky said some nasty stuff and mentioned that maybe I should ask Ashley's friend Kyle if he's the daddy I didn't really think too much about what he said Kyle and Ashley have been friends their entire lives we were always very close because of our parents relationship but they never showed any sign of being anything more that evening my 14 year old younger sister and I were preparing to have a movie night I began ranting to my sister about confronting Ashley's ex and the things he said my sister who's usually very outspoken got quiet and didn't really respond to anything I said after a while she excused herself and went to the bathroom I decided to go and get some snacks and I went downstairs to the kitchen and I heard my younger sister berating my mother my sister told my mom about me running into Ashley's ex and told my mom that she no longer wanted to hide from me the fact that Kyle was Ashley's baby's father I was shocked absolutely shocked I stumbled into the kitchen and demanded an explanation both my mom and my sister became White as a sheet when they saw me and my sister started crying her eyes out my sister explained to me that during the end of the summer break Kyle and Ashley attended the same house party got drunk and slept together Ashley got pregnant and told Kyle but they were both ashamed and afraid of telling me they also didn't share this with their parents Ashley however couldn't keep the secret and told her mom and dad who told Kyle's parents and later mine as well this all happened when Ashley was in her first trimester by the second trimester all of my siblings Kyle siblings and Ashley's siblings knew about this everyone except me I simply cannot explain the way that I felt I was physically ill for the next three days and I couldn't speak to anyone my parents were apologetic but explained that they didn't want to see me heard or ruin everyone's relationship I didn't speak with Kyle or Ashley although they bombarded my phone with messages and calls and also came to my house I refuse to see them at one point Kyle's mom came to our house and my mom allowed her into my room while I was lying in my bed still sick and just emotionally drained from the Betrayal she tried to convince me to forgive them and how Ashley and the baby need me I said nothing two weeks later Ashley went into labor I learned from my parents that she had a hard delivery she lost a lot of blood and needed an emergency C-section Kyle apparently was at the birth I was distraught inconsolable I had planned to be there but because of the Betrayal of both of them I physically and emotionally couldn't but I had been looking forward to this moment for months for so many reasons my older sister immediately went to the hospital to be with her boyfriend my other siblings weren't at home so I was left alone with my parents all I wanted was to lay in my bed or cuddle in my bed with my mom and cry all of my feelings out my mom received a call from Ashley's mom she came to my room and told me that she and my dad were going to the hospital I was perplexed and asked my mom to stay with me instead she said that Ashley's parents need all the support they can get and that we'll discuss everything later I tried to tell her not to go and that I also need their support but she said not to be selfish and they left I was left alone at the house and I just couldn't comprehend what happened in the last few weeks I just couldn't believe that my parents would go and support someone who hurt me so much while I was also here suffering am I really selfish to think like that I don't know when but my sadness turned into rage the kind I had never experienced before and if fit of combined emotions and feelings of betrayal I started packing my bags and decided to leave home after a while I received a text from my sister the text said that Ashley had given birth to a healthy girl and that they were both okay she attached a picture of the newborn and told me they named her Sarah she sent a second text a while later telling me that she and my parents were going to join Ashley's and Kyle's parents and going to a bar in the town to celebrate I don't remember much after that I think I was just consumed by everything and my memory is very foggy so I left I took the train and left I stayed at a hostel in Phoenix for a while I got a job at a store and planned to finish High School there my parents siblings Kyle and Ashley tried to contact me my mom was sending me panicked voicemails demanding me to come back they also reported me as a missing person but I don't think it went anywhere since I was 18. anyway soon after I met Dean who's 21 he also lived in Phoenix and he had a complicated relationship with his family we really connected and became friends he helped me a lot at that time when I struggled I had no idea how to take care of myself or to literally just be an adult he introduced me to his group of friends helped me finish high school and I moved in with him and his friends he helped me deal with my pain he was there for me and supported me through everything and I don't think that I would have lasted long without him we began dating after a year he inherited some money from his grandpa and decided to move across the country to the big city even though we hadn't been together for long he asked me to go with him I was a bit reluctant because we both had a lot of emotional baggage and I was still very insecure in my situation but I did go we moved got jobs and tried to survive soon after my 21st birthday we decided to get married it was a crazy spontaneous decision but we did it I enrolled in univ diversity and Dean helped me pay for it Dean started a company which took off and we were able to live more comfortably I was in university and also worked part-time to contribute we had our ups and downs but somehow survived after University I started working in his company and we slowly built it up when I look back now I don't think that I was in love with Dean when we got married I loved him but I wasn't in love but he was there for me always unconditionally and today I don't think that I could love him more he's the love of my life we've been married for 12 years now and we have a two-year-old son and a six-month-old son sometimes I regret leaving my family behind but I just couldn't go back it was very painful I felt like my parents chose Ashley and Kyle over me I did go to a therapist when I was 25 and tried to deal with my emotions last year at the beginning of the pandemic I received an email from a 14 year old girl named Evelyn she explained that she was my niece the daughter of my older sister and Kyle's brother she said that she knew about me and she wanted to meet me although I was reluctant to speak to her we did exchange some emails let me point out that Evelyn didn't know what transpired 15 years ago so the conversations were pretty innocent we talked about her school her interests and she talked about my family I learned that I had 10 nieces and nephews I also learned that Kyle married Ashley four years after I left and had two sons beside Sarah my parents continued to have a friendship with Kyles and Ashley's family and to me it really felt like my family continued their normal life despite me being gone she tried to talk to me about what happened but I didn't really think that it was my place to explain things to her so I simply said that relationships change and things happen in life that make us go our separate ways we continued talking every so often for almost a year in an email that she sent in January she expressed how the pandemic had a big effect on her entire family and how my parents were struggling to keep their house and both my brothers lost their job and struggled to keep up with their costs I was surprised that she knew about all this since she was only 14 but the hardship was also causing tension between her parents I started to deal with a lot of guilty feelings and regrets I had also just had my baby so this was causing me lots of emotions I talked to my husband and he was very supportive and told me that he would be there for me for whatever I decide we're financially stable and the pandemic didn't have a great impact on our finances we're not rich but we are able to live comfortably after learning some more details and talking to my husband we decided to help my parents with their house a week ago we flew back to my home state and I saw my family for the first time in 15 years I had so many emotions regrets pains from the past feelings of betrayal I think my parents were relieved to see me it was just such a weird day we had a lengthy conversation and agreed to try to have some kind of cordial relationship so far I'm still very awkward with them sometimes they feel like strangers Dean and I spent a week there and we all continue to have conversations and I truly believed that we were on a path to having a friendly yet distant relationship but then my mom started insisting I have a sit-down conversation with Kyle and Ashley she explained that she wants to go back to the way things were I told her that I refused to talk to them although I moved on I simply have no ties with them now and I don't want to rehash anything with them I told her that I'm prepared to try and establish a relationship with them as they're my family but that I don't want anything to do with Kyle Ashley or their family I never demanded that they stopped having a relationship with their friends but I don't want a relationship up with them Dean supports me in this my mom called me selfish and said that I simply must try to heal our relationship I told her I will not negotiate and it's on her to decide whether or not she wants to have a relationship with me she agreed but two days later I received a phone call from Kyle's mom I did not give her my number she demanded yes demanded I talk with Kyle and Ashley because my return had caused tensions in their relationship and their emotional health I hung up I called my mom and confronted her apparently she gave that woman my number to heal our family bonds I told her that she is once again choosing them over me she cried and yelled at me that I'm selfish and that she just wants her family back I hung up it's been days since I spoke to any of them although my mom and Kyle's mom keeps on calling me although I think that I'm right and I believe that I should prioritize the well-being of me my husband and my sons I'm starting to have some regrets I don't know if I should listen to my mom and speak to Ashley and Kyle I'm questioning whether I'm truly being selfish for not actively trying to repair the relationship I'm so lost and I don't know what to do so before I get into the update I just want to say real quick that I think what really is going on here isn't that op's parents are choosing Ashley and Kyle over op I think what they're really doing is choosing their friendships over op I don't think they're really that invested in Kyle and Ashley I think they just really like their friends and they don't want to lose their friendship with the other parents in their friend group so that's what they're trying to protect I think now still that doesn't make it any worse they're still choosing their friendships over their own daughter which is awful but that's just what my gut's saying then two years later Opie posted an update I never mentioned my little sister in my original post her relationship with my parents went downhill after I left home and she went no contact with him when she was 20. I received her number from our older sister and although it was awkward at first it has been 15 years after all we did start speaking again she was very angry at me for leaving a lot has happened in her life and it wasn't the easiest she has a toddler and a baby of her own and I have to say that kids have helped us Bond again she's my best friend and we talk every day as for my other siblings I'm in regular contact with my brothers although we aren't close my older sister and I have a good relationship now but last year we had a longer period of not speaking since she's married to Kyle's brother it was hard for her to deal with all the family drama we're cool now and I have a lovely relationship with my nieces and nephews now to my parents my mom didn't let up with her pestering over me not talking to Kyle and Ashley her phone calls to me continued for months even after I flew back home it boarded on emotional blackmail she blamed me for not honoring her wishes for her friendship problems her health problems and even accused me of keeping her grandbabies from her last June I had my daughter and it seems like that sent her completely off the rails I'm talking a hundred calls A Day messages every 20 minutes to pester me about random things and sending me updates about people that I never want to know about but then when she started pestering Dean I was done I was afraid to block her so I spoke to my father this was probably the first time in the last 17 years that he and I had a true heart-to-heart conversation I was emotionally drained tired from caring for three children and just over everything I probably poured all of my feelings and emotions into him I don't know what happened to them afterwards he doesn't speak much about it her call slowly ceased and something else must have happened because in August he filed for divorce my father and I are in regular contact although I don't think we'll ever be back to normal my mom is devastated in August her calls became insane and apparently not just with me I've changed my number since then and ever since February she hasn't been able to reach me I've been told by one of my brothers that she has problems with anxiety and depression and lost a lot of friends I don't know about whether or not she continues to have a relationship with Kyle and Ashley's family I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore nor do I want her near my kids the things she said to me are crazy although I regret not having a mom I feel like fighting to repair the little remnants of our relationship would be a waste of my emotional energy and just pure torture as for Kyle's mom I blocked her and I've received no other calls from anyone I really don't know what they're doing or where they are I've had no contact with them the only other thing that happened is things really went out of control when my brother-in-law Kyle's brother brought me a letter that was apparently written by Ashley I haven't opened it and really I don't know if I want to I feel like I've moved on from them but on the other hand I'm curious as to what she has to say after so many years however that in itself could bring back bad emotions I'm doing okay now with my babies and Dean who's been a real trooper through all of this I'm trying to focus on my family and I really hope that this is all behind me op uh I doubt you'll see this but in the off chance you do I say burn the letter all it's going to do is just dig up bad emotions because What's it gonna do option one is she's apologetic which still doesn't change the damage she calls to you and your family or two she's mean and entitled and blaming you for everything which is just going to make the situation worse as well they say the best revenge is a life well lived and it sounds like you're doing that so just go live your life life ignore these people who are bringing down your relationship because you're better off without them Ashley is toxic Kyle is toxic and your mom is Mega toxic the only person between you and your husband who I kind of feel sorry for is your younger sister because yeah she shouldn't have kept that secret from you but at the same time she's 14. your mom expecting her 14 year old daughter to have that burden to carry that secret is awful I also feel like it's kind of unfair of her to get mad at you for leaving because I mean yeah on the one hand I can understand why she'd be upset because you leaving kind of triggered all these things in the family all this drama that tanked her relationships but I mean you're the victim here so to get angry at the victim isn't really fair but she was 14 so you know I've got mixed feelings about the sister mostly I feel bad for her because she was just too young to deal with all this stuff that was our slash best of redditor updates and if you like this content check out my podcast where I publish the exact same episode episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit 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Length: 21min 1sec (1261 seconds)

Published: Sat May 20 2023