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u/LogicalSky6901 8 hours ago
Gold AITA for not letting my SIL add my kids to
the chore list? My SIL lives in a fairly large 6bd farmhouse
on 10 acres. We are building a home across the street and
in the mean time, we have a camper parked on SILs property. The only time we go in to her house is to
use the bathroom or shower (we have electricity in the camper but no running water). The rest of the time we are across the street
building and our kids (14m, 12f, 8m) are with us helping. We pay SIL $180 a week to park our camper
there, which is campground prices. Late afternoon yesterday my SIL asked us to
all come inside to talk and she pulls up her chore list, with my kids names added to it. Things like laundry, dishes, cleaning the
living room, sweeping, mopping, cleaning table + countertops, garbage, returnables, even
helping cook meals (we do not eat with them), etc. She said "Does this work for you? I won't let anyone clean the bathroom because
I'm the only one who does it properly." I immediately said no. My kids don't even go in her house unless
they are showering or craping so if anything, I'd make them clean the bathroom, not the
rest of the house that they don't use. I'm not going to be making them do chores
to that extent for simply using the bathroom, after they've been helping us all day with
building our home. My SIL, who works all the time, says "the
kids are in here much more than that because all my snacks are gone and I always come home
to a trashed house and I didn't before you guys started staying here". She's clearly not putting two and two together
with the fact that her own daughter (12) has had consistent friends over for the past 2
weeks since school let out and her husband (46m) does nothing to parent. Which I brought to her attention. My kids don't eat her food at all either. I've made a point to preach to my kids about
minimizing our foot print here for this specific reason (her trying to blame my kids for her
trashed house). My husband is saying that maybe I should just
allow her to add the kids to one or two chores a week to keep his sister at bay but I've
refused. We pay to be here and we do not go indoors
at all unless it's for the bathroom, as I've stated. My kids are not going to be scrubbing her
house top to bottom for using a restroom and I have since told my husband we need to create
an outhouse system (on our property) so we don't have to go in there at all. He says I'm making things more difficult when
in reality, I'm protecting my kids from being used. AITA? Posted by
u/Valuable_Frosting812 6 hours ago AITA for not wanting to play a game my girlfriend
created? My (27) gf(24) has been working on a visual
novel game as a side project for almost 2 years and recently finished it. She wanted me to play it but I initially declined
since I'm not into visual novels or reading long stories but after she begged, I gave
it a try and played for a good 15 mins. Now I can tell she put in a lot of effort
in the writing and the art and it was a good start but I just got tired of reading and
stopped. She asked what I thought and wanted me to
eventually finish it and tell her what I thought about the choices and the endings but I told
her I had no plans to. She looked shocked and asked if it was boring,
I told her no, it's just that I'm just not into this type of genre and she knows im not
into reading but asked me to make an exception this time since she made it. I got upset because I think she is being childish
and wants to blackmail me into doing something I don't want. After I made it clear I wasn't continuing,
she hasn't talked to me. I already know that she is talented and smart
so just because I don't want to play it doesn't mean I dont support her. Some of my friends agree she's being immature
but others think I should be more supportive. So AITA? Posted by
u/Adept_Conclusion_551 6 hours ago AITA for yelling at my brother-in-law after
he woke me up and told me to make dinner while we were staying at his house? I 39f my husband Tom 37m and 2 sons 12m were
recently in a house fire and lost our home but luckily we were all out the house when
this happened. Tom's brother Sean 40m and his wife agreed
to let us stay at his place with their kids while we sort out insurance. I don't like Sean as he believes in a traditional
gender roles in a household. We have had issues since he realised I would
keep my maiden name at work, which I informed him was none of his business and my personal
choice. He works full time and his wife is a housewife. When we had our sons, Sean thought I would
quit my job as a doctor and become a SAHM. However Tom became a SAHD instead and then
went back to work after our son went to school and doesn't share the same thought process
as Sean. Sean clearly disproves of this and me and
vocalised his thoughts about the situation. I got Tom to speak to Sean and he has left
us alone since, but occasionally used to make comments at holidays and birthdays about it
which I ignored. They stopped when Tom returned to work and
since then Tom says Sean has grown as a person. Tom and Sean are very close, and I would never
tell him to stop talking to him, but I personally interact as less as possible with Sean. My sons' school and Tom's workplace is walking
distance from Sean's house which is why I agreed to stay, and suck it up while we get
back on our feet as it is temporary. Yesterday was a very hectic day at work, and
I was exhausted. My shift ended midday and I went straight
to bed. Everyone was out the house; Sean and Tom went
to work, the kids were at school and Sean's wife went to see a friend. Sean got home first and woke me up. I was upset and still tired and when I asked
him why, he said I should make a start on dinner as it was getting late and his wife
was out and not picking up her phone. Usually I do the cooking in the house with
his wife, but I was upset that Sean had woken me up and yelled at him to not disturb me. I kicked him out the room and told him I was
going to back sleep and he could sort out his own dinner. When I woke up that evening, Sean told me
that while I was under his house I needed to respect his house rules. I told him he could've cooked himself, heated
leftovers in the fridge or got takeaway. Tom thinks that Sean did overstep by waking
me up and making demands, but I shouldn't have yelled and escalated the situation. I don't think I am TA but I could've handled
it slightly better maybe, but want to get someone else's perspective. Posted by
u/No-Seat6918 5 hours ago AITA for not watching my nieces and nephews
at my house? Throwaway to avoid family stuff. I (M32) have been with my girlfriend (F29)
for 8 years. From the very beginning we have been childfree. My girlfriend isn't a big fan of kids, and
while I love being the fun uncle, I love being able to give them back. Some background - My girlfriend is incredibly
introverted and suffers from anxiety. Because of this, she is definitely a homebody
and prefers hanging out at home with our two dogs. She likes things quiet and calm and definitely
thinks of the house as her safe space. I completely respect that. I watch my 2 nephews and my niece, 7, 5, and
3, once in a while for my sister and brother in law. I always go over to their house to watch the
kids. Partially because all their stuff and toys
are there and it's just easier, and because I know my girlfriend wouldn't enjoy having
them over at the house. Plus she didn't agree to watch them so that
wouldn't be fair. We've had some really lovely weather lately
and my sister and BIL have been asking me to take the kids over to my place to watch
them instead. They live in a townhome and don't have much
of a yard while we are pretty lucky and have a pretty large backyard. I've offered to take the kids to the park
instead if they want some outside time. Neither my sister or BIL like this much. They say that they would rather have the kids
in a safer fenced in yard to run around and play then at a public park. It all came to a head this past weekend. My BIL called and asked if I was available
to watch the kids. I told him sure that wouldn't be a problem. He, politely at first, asked if he could drop
the kids off with me for a change. I told him no I would come to them. He got a little frustrated and said the kids
really needed some fresh air and to get their energy out. I said Okay we can go to the park. He exploded at me and told me I was an jerk
for never letting the kids come over. He said nevermind he didn't want me to watch
them because I was too selfish. Posted by
u/Savings-Basil2035 5 hours ago AITA for calling my SIL a medication queen and ultimately
slamming her parenting? My SIL is very much so the "if there's meds
to help, take all of them" type. This ranges from OTC meds to narcotics. The type who tries giving you her prescribed
tramadol if you say you have high anxiety that day and gets offended if you say no because
she "would never give you anything that would hurt you". I've gotten in to it with her so many times
because she thinks I'm ignorant for refusing to take meds if I don't need to. So, needless to say, she's had her kid heavily
medicated since she was 5 (she's now 12) for her ADHD and if her kid so much as exhibits
a single sign of energy, she's calling the doctor to up the dose because it's "not working
anymore". Now, since our son started school he has been
off the walls and getting in to trouble for not sitting still and disrupting class. The school pushed for an evaluation and we
agreed to it no issue. But where it was so close to the end of the
school year and they kept pushing it out, the evaluation was never completed. We just pushed it out of our heads at this
point because it's summer and made the decision to have him evaluated a month or two prior
to returning to school so next year he will be all set to go with no issues. But where it is summer, our kids have been
hanging out with SILs kid a lot, since the yard is conjoined. SIL has mentioned to me several times that
I need to get my son medicated because he's "too much of a handful" and he "needs help". Most of these comments are made following
my son screaming through the yards while the kids are playing tag or when he randomly stops
what he's doing to start dancing. He does stim a lot so he squawks and randomly
starts singing made up songs but it's in no way being over the top disruptive for a mid
summer afternoon and it in no way affects anyone other than my SIL. He's just playing. Well, SIL came here yesterday and said she
needed to express a some "tough love" and basically flew off about how we weren't helping
our kid because we "refuse" to medicate him and help him regulate his emotions. I simply got up from the table and said "we
are done here, you can leave". She kept pushing and she wasn't listening
to my husband, who kept telling her to mind her business. So I said "just because you are a medication
queen who would rather see your kid doped up rather than handle her does not mean we
are those parents. Leave." My MIL called and said I was a "freaking expletive"
for bashing my SIL for "doing right by her kid and is trying her best". Posted by
u/unknown_poppy 5 hours ago AITA for introducing myself as my husband’s
friend to his family and forcing him to explain the truth while he’s in the hospital? I married my husband 4 months ago. He’s never introduced me to his family before
because he said things were complicated with them and he didn’t want them to ruin things
between us. After we got married, he kept promising he
would tell them but he continued to put it off. The first time I met my in-laws was in the
hospital after my husband was involved in a serious car accident. It was already a stressful situation and I
didn’t know how to explain to them that he had been lying to them and that he didn’t
invite them to his wedding so I told them I was his friend. My husband was asleep at the time but his
best friend was there and he wasn’t shy about letting me know he thought it was my
responsibility to tell them the truth and I was throwing my husband under the bus. At that point, it would’ve been worse if
I had told them the truth and I felt it was something my husband should tell them himself. After my husband woke up he had to tell them
the truth since they repeatedly referred to me as his friend and he knew he would be digging
a bigger hole for both of us if he didn’t correct them. He was mad I didn’t at least say girlfriend
so it would’ve made it easier for him to explain. His family were upset with both of us but
since he was hurt and I'm a stranger, I feel like they were mostly taking it out on me. My husband, to his credit, did try to defend
me but he’s still mad over me saying I was his friend. AITA? Posted by
u/Sad_Subject2779 12 hours ago WIBTA for not inviting my parents or siblings
to my wedding after what they said. My (25F) fiancé (28M) and I are planning
our dream wedding but want to keep it small. From the get go, my fiancé and I both said
that we do not want any children at our wedding due to a number of reasons. We want to get married in the bush somewhere
where wild animals roam freely, and the age limit is 16 and up. (This is non-negotiable because small children
are at risk -Venue requirements) We both know from personal experiences that
one person always ends up looking after the children and do not enjoy the wedding. We want to have just adults at the wedding
so that we can celebrate the day properly. My parent and siblings explicitly stated that
my nieces and nephews will be REQUIRED to go to the wedding and I have no choice in
this matter. My dad even went as far to say that if my
nephew will not be allowed to go, he will then also not go. This broke my heart as I am the only girl
in the family and now he doesn't want to even attend. My brothers said "I do not care what she wants,
my children WILL be there". Take into consideration that all my nieces
and nephews are under the age of 7. My fiancé's family has been supper supportive
and respects our wishes of not having any children at the wedding. They even made arrangements up until this
point to have the little ones taken care of. Now I am honestly considering not inviting
my parents anymore because they are forcing me to do something that is not part of our
wishes. I love them al dearly, but I feel they don't
want to make the sacrifice for me and my fiancé's big day. As I ultimately mean, it us getting married
and not them. So WIBTA for telling them that I will not
be inviting them as they want to rather spend the day with their grandchildren than celebrate
the day with me? Posted by
u/accountaita 15 hours ago AITA for leaving my sister in hospital while
she had a stillbirth because I had to do my MCAT? My sister Mia and I are usually close but
this is really causing some issues. I didn't think I did anything wrong here,
but now I don't even know and I'd like some third party insight. This happened in April. (Also if anyone's curious I'm 22 and she's
28.) Mia had a high risk pregnancy, placenta previa
and some other issues. She eventually had to get a c-section a week
earlier than expected, but the baby was stillborn, which was terrible. I had my MCAT the day after Mia delivered,
and she'd told me before that she wanted me to stay with her, we talked before they took
her in and she was a screaming crying mess. I ended up leaving since I had my exam early
morning, and I came back to the hospital as soon as I finished. I did hear the awful news that the baby was
stillborn before the exam but I didn't go then. So a few days pass and Mia's super ticked
at me, saying I ditched her during the worst time of her life. I told her I was really sorry but I had to
do my MCAT. I know she's going through a really difficult
time, but she completely went off at me, saying I could've just done it another day and I
thought some test was more important than her and her baby's life, and that I deserve
to fail. Mia's still saying I'm selfish and at the
least, I could've just gone to the exam directly from the hospital and stayed with her the
rest of the time. A lot of extended family know now, and some
are saying what I did was terrible. My mom agrees with me, but is saying to just
let Mia be because she went through a trauma. Posted by
u/TomHuckleberry 7 hours ago AITA for “crashing” marg Monday
My coworkers usually do margarita Monday every Monday. The same person usually posts in our group
chat letting us know it’s still going on. Last night, that person didn’t post in the
group chat so I figured no one was interested that night. My partner and I decided to go anyways since
Margs are super cheap and we didn’t have any dinner plans. After my partner and I got our drinks and
ordered food, three of my coworkers walked in and sat with us. Through conversation they told me that a former
co worker of ours invited them out for marg Monday for a smaller thing as they are moving
soon. One of my coworkers decided to post on the
group chat letting other people know that people where there and to come on out. Now I don’t know why, but the former co
worker hates me. We used to get a long great and something
suddenly changed to her hating me, always trying to get me in trouble and basically
bullying me. The former coworker isn’t exactly emotionally
stable and acts very childish. Anyways, she came like thirty minutes later
and when she saw me she freaked. She yelled, “what the freak is he doing
here?” When one of my coworkers tried to explain
what happened by former co worker wouldn’t hear it and stormed out. Former coworker later sent me a voice note
saying how much of crapy person I am for crashing her going away drinks and that I always ruin
everything for her. She is now trying to spin this into me purposely
showing up at the restaurant and purposely trying to ruin her evening. I should note that my coworkers came and sat
by my partner and me. We would have been totally fine sitting by
ourselves. Posted by
u/Time_Pin_1985 7 hours ago AITA for kicking my BIL out of my living room
permanently? My SIL (husband's sister- 29f) and her husband
(34m) rent out our basement currently. They have the entire basement to themselves,
with the exception of my laundry area. They pay $450 a month to be here and 9/10
they eat their meals with us as well (they chip in very little to food cost however). They ran in to hard times and needed somewhere
to go 2 months ago and we opened our doors to them, despite me being ready to "pop". I had my daughter 2 weeks ago. Since they moved in, my SIL will sleep all
day (she works overnight shifts) and my BIL will come upstairs to my living room around
5-6am and take over the entire space. He will put TV on and then sit there with
his laptop playing video games and he will not leave that living room at all until 8-9pm. My SIL even brings his food to him in the
living room. The only time he gets up is to go to the bathroom
or get himself coffee. Now, he's very much so a 50's style southern
boy. This man does not lift a finger at all and
has never so much as boiled water because that's a woman's job. He doesn't pull that crap with me but he does
when it comes to my SIL (who works all day when he is unemployed due to a "back injury"). Anyways, I breastfeed my daughter and I refuse
to be limited on my own space so I will absolutely go in to the living room and nurse my child. I make sure I'm not exposed. Dang near every time I go to nurse, he will
be like "ion wanna see dat crap" (think southern hillbilly accent) or when my husband gets
home he will say "she tryna whip her boobies out in my face 'gain". And I'm honestly so fed up and disgusted with
him that I snapped and told him he's not welcome in my living room at all anymore and he can
sit his stupid butt down in the area his wife pays for. SIL is trying to get me to change his mind
because they don't have a TV down there and the plug in doesn't reach his laptop and sitting
on the bed all day hurts his back but I refuse. I don't care how much discomfort it causes
him. He grosses me out and his face makes me want
to vomit and he needs to stay away from me completely. My husband is on my side, per usual. But it's causing issues for my SIL because
her husband's just a dick in general. AITA? Posted by
u/Sharp-Cabinet-7831 14 hours ago AITA for starting a fight with my wife over
leftovers? I (33M) kind of started a fight at my wife
(30F) over her wasting food. She and I had very different upbringings when
it came to food. Her family had the disposable income to eat
out multiple times per month, and her family would cook large meals (enough to feed an
army basically), and when the food entered “leftover territory,” the rule in their
house was whoever gets to it first gets to it. My family was much more money-minded, only
eating out on special occasions and cooking just enough for one or two meals. Takeout was never shared, and if we had leftovers,
it was equally distributed. Some would be surprised to learn this has
caused a great deal of dispute in our marriage. My wife does the majority of the cooking,
and she likes to order take in a lot, as we both have demanding jobs. Over our 10 year relationship, she has learned
to cook in much smaller helpings as much of it would spoil. She’s not good about eating leftovers (the
small of a lot of cold food makes her feel sick), so she tries to meal prep or cook just
enough to cover 2 meals max as she knows letting food spoil irks me. When we have leftovers, I always let her know
when her portion is still in the fridge. Typically she tells me to have it if I want
it. She has said before that if she were truly
coming back for it, she’d write her name on it or tell me not to eat it as she was
saving it for later, but to my recollection she has never done that. I always tell her that the leftovers are her’s
so she can have them, and we go back and forth like that in several rounds. The other night, we had leftover Chinese takeout
(her leftovers, I ate mine). She asked me what I wanted her to cook for
dinner and I reminded her that she has her leftovers. She said “oh yeah, hand it here.” So I gave her the container and I watched
her dump it straight into the trash without looking at it. Wide-eyed, I asked her “what are you doing?” She proceeds to inform me that she has come
up with a new system: if she tells me 3 times that I can eat her leftovers because she does
not intend to come back for them, she will throw it out before it spoils. Apparently that was the 4th time I reminded
her about the leftovers so that triggered the disposal. I got quiet to process the fact that she made
this decision without talking to me about it, and finally I said she could have told
me she was going to throw it out, then I would have eaten it. She firmly thinks that the statute of limitations
expired as she told me 3 times I could have them, and she “could do with them what she
sees fit.” I would have if I had known she’d toss them
instead of conceding in eating them after understanding I truly didn’t mind her eating
them herself. I feel like she truly hasn’t listened to/disregarded
me feelings/upbringing with food. I told her “do you” and haven’t really
talked to her since. So, AITA? Tl;dr my wife has decided to throw away leftovers
after she offers them to me 3 times and I don’t like wasting food Posted by
u/Top-Trainer-7063 23 hours ago
hehehehe AITA for walking out of the kitchen anytime
that my husband or his family try to "help"? Not the A-hole
I, (F32) married my husband (M35) six years ago. I met him through a competitive soccer league. I played in university and he played semi
professional before he moved to North America. I have made an effort to learn how to cook
meals from his country and have several cookbooks. He never complains and has praised my cooking
often. We have cooked meals together for dinner parties
and no complaints. I am currently pregnant with our first child
and his mom and sister have come over to be here for the birth and help for a while. So the problem is that whenever I'm cooking
all three of them have started coming in and changing stuff around. It doesn't matter if I'm making something
from their country or not. They have started coming in and saying stuff
like " oh that heat is too high/low for this meal' and they will change it. Or adding ingredients, or things like that. When my MIL/SIL cook they get all offended
if I offer any suggestions. My husband says to leave them alone because
they know what they are doing. But he won't give me the same courtesy. So I've started walking away from the kitchen
as soon as they change anything. I will simply I walk out and go on to the
deck with a sweet tea and enjoy the sunshine until it is time to eat. Now they are complaining that I m making them
do all the cooking and just sitting there doing nothing. I said that it was there choice to help out
with that meal and I appreciate their help. My husband says I'm being petty and vindictive
but I told him he said to let them help. So I am. I am sitting on the deck right now watching
them fight because when I walked out they forgot about the roast and now it is dry AF. I'm thinking I might go for a drive and grab
a burger while I'm out. AITA? Posted by
u/Floraldress8 1 day ago AITA for wearing a floral dress to a hen party
Jerk Last week it was my (29F) friend’s (28F)
hen party, the organisers requested we all wear black & the bride can wear something
colourful of her choice & that way she stands out as the bride. I wore a floral dress with a black background
which I thought was perfectly on theme because it is black as the base, but when I got there
everyone else was wearing all black only. One of the girls in the group asked why I’m
wearing florals when we’re supposed to wear black, I said my dress is still black too
just with floral print. Then when we were having group photos taken
one of the girls who organised it looked annoyed & said the photos look off as everyone is
wearing full black & the bride is in the middle wearing colour but with a random floral print
taking away attention. Later I confided with another girl saying
I don’t see why it was a big deal, it’s just a hen party & I didn’t think it needed
to be that strict. She said it’s not a big deal in the grand
scheme of things, but it also wouldn’t have been a big deal for me to just wear black
like instructed, that everyone owns black & it was chosen to make things easy but it
seemed like I was being difficult for the sake of it by purposefully choosing a print.
