Posted by
u/lenaaa555 5 hours ago
Facepalm AITA for outshining my husband at his birthday
party by announcing my pregnancy? The title says most of it. I(24f) found out a day before my husband's(29)
birthday that we're expecting our first baby. I wanted to make it special for him so I decided
to tell him the next day. He does not really like to celebrate his birthdays
but this year his family is moving abroad so we decided to throw a party where all close
family and friends can gather before they move away. All of them were the people whom I knew were
gonna be really happy by this news. So I decided to announce it in front of everyone. My husband was of course the happiest one
but after that, the rest of the party was all about me and the baby. Some even forgot to wish him because they
were busy congratulating me. I kinda felt bad for taking the attention
away from him but he didn't even seem to mind it. Later that day, his best friend came to me
when I was in the kitchen just to say that it was very selfish of me to announce my news
when it was my partner's day, he said that my partner does not even celebrate his birthdays
and now that he decided to celebrate one, I shouldn't have made it all about myself. He even accused me of doing it on purpose
because according to him I can not stand it when all attention is not me. I decided not to argue with him because he's
never liked me but I can't help feeling awful for taking all the attention away from him. He has not hinted that he is upset at this
and I haven't told him yet what his friend said. Edit: Afterwards, husband told me it was the
best gift he received and it made his day even more special however he did not mention
anything about announcing it in front of our families or not telling him first in private. We are a very closely knitted family and I
believe telling them this soon shouldn't be an issue. AITA? Posted by
u/ThrowRAlying 7 hours ago
All-Seeing Upvote AITAH for “locking” my gf inside for her
own good (22M) So my gf (21F) has a bit of wanderlust. I’m almost positive she has some form of
ADHD because she is incredibly forgetful and at times careless. She’ll do things like leave her purses,
books, phone, and at times keys in the car. Boil an egg on the stove and only remember
once the water has completely evaporated and is burning, as well as other appliance related
problems. She always talks about how she’ll get around
to getting diagnosed and medicated but never does. Apparently she’s been like this her whole
life. Anyways, we recently moved in together( a
house that belonged to my grandmother but we both pay utilities/tax/bills) and it’s
been great honestly except for these little problems. The major point of contention rn is how she
will at times leave through the back door, IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT on “walks’,
and be gone for hours. We have had disagreements about this multiple
times in the past where I’ve told her that her walks are dangerous and make me uncomfortable. She will leave at around 1 - 2 am to walk
around our rural neighborhood for hours at a time, sometimes when her phone is on low
battery. I have no idea why she does this. She’s told me that it’s “exercise”
and she enjoys the solitude but it makes me uncomfortable af. I worry about what could happen in the middle
of the night with no one around, and she doesn’t appreciate me coming with her too much. Worse yet, she will leave the back door unlocked
because she still hasn’t gotten her own set of house keys. So it is up to me to readmit my wayward gf
every few nights. I’ve decide to draw my line. I’ve refused to unlock the back door and
had it locked from both ends so she’s forced to use the front door for her trips. Not even she would dare leave the front door
unlocked to go gallivanting into the night, so I’m good on that end. The only thing is that she got incredibly
frustrated at me and called me a controlling AH and hasn’t been talking to me. I don’t think I am when she refuses to behave
like a literal sensible adult. So yeah AITAH? I find it ridiculous cause she could simply
go out to get her own pair of keys to thwart me, but she’s the type that can’t have
too many errands on her mind. She will have a list of five and then feel
overwhelmed and tapped out after completing one. I love her but she is insane. Posted by
u/evie_huntress 5 hours ago AITA for refusing to stop dogsitting for my
ex I have been dating Mark for 5 months. Prior to meeting Mark, I was in a casual relationship
with John & developed a bond with his senior dog, Luna. Though I stopped seeing John more than a month
before meeting Mark, I still dogsit for Luna if I'm available when John goes out of town. Luna can be boarded, but it's very stressful
for her bc she doesn't get along with other dogs, and I enjoy spending time with her,
it's good easy money, and John appreciates it. John doesn't have a couch or guest bed so
I sleep in his bed when I dogsit. John and I don't see or talk to each other
except about Luna. Because I had a casual relationship with John,
Mark is upset that I continue to watch Luna now that he and I are dating. I am currently dogsitting her for a week and
a half, and this is the second time I've watched her since we started dating. He feels disrespected bc I won't leave Luna
alone overnight to stay with him and bc I sleep in John's bed. I can't bring Luna to his house bc he has
a dog. I'm having a hard time understanding why he
feels so angry and hurt that I won't stop watching Luna, and I view it more as jealousy
and ego that he needs to deal with. AITA? Posted by
u/Powerful-Bat-8287 17 hours ago
Bravo Grande! AITA for not giving my son money to buy his
own ticket? I took my three kids to the movies with my
husband. When we arrived, my oldest, 15, said he wanted
to watch a different movie than the rest of the family. I said that was fine, and we would meet him
at the ice cream place across the street (his choice would start and end later). We started to split up, and then he said I
forgot to give him money for a ticket. I asked why I would give him money for a ticket. He said he needs the money to buy his ticket. I said he could use his own money. He said that wasn't fair, because I was going
to buy a ticket for him before. I said I was going to buy tickets for the
whole family for a family outing. If he's doing his own thing, he needs to pay
for it. He said he didn't want to pay and would just
watch the same movie as the rest of us. He was grumpy afterwards, and my husband said
I was petty. I don't think it's petty. I think it's a life lesson. People are more than piggy banks. Posted by
u/JacketMaterial6832 19 hours ago
Take My Energy AITA for kicking everyone out of my party? Not the A-hole
My wife has been depressed lately losing her well paying job in November of last year. Her unemployment ran out and she’s now an
assistant manager at a fast food place. She had a 3 phase interview for a job last
week and didn’t get picked at the end of it after almost a two month process. We decided to go through and host our 4th
of July bbq and pool party. My brother is a jerk and my parents enable
him. My wife and I has her degree on our livingroom
wall. My brother told her “you might as well shred
that experience piece of paper because it’s doing you no good” My wife started crying
and that’s extremely out of character for her. She goes to the bedroom and locks herself
in. My brother said it’s a joke but I had enough
and told everyone to go fu..ing home the party is canceled. My parents started arguing saying some people
drove a few hours to be here and I said have the party at your place. I told everyone to grab whatever you came
with and leave. It was about 20-25 people and my mom said
I’m a awful host and an embarrassment to my family and I said the same thing about
my brother. He started it. So I made everything leave. I’m getting mixed text messages about either
checking in on my wife or being jerk after kicking everyone out over one little comment
my brother made. Posted by
u/Live_Appointment4219 20 hours ago
Stonks Rising Facepalm
[deleted] AITA for refusing to pay for my daughter's
wedding because she won't let me walk her down the aisle? Not the A-hole
I'm a 48-year-old man and my 19-year-old daughter has always been an independent thinker. I raised her to be independent and think for
herself, which I've always appreciated. However, we recently hit a bit of a snag. She got engaged and decided that she doesn't
want me to walk her down the aisle at her wedding. She argues that her mother and I don't "own"
her, therefore we have no right to "give her away". I feel hurt by this because we never treated
her like an object or piece of property, rather we've tried our best to provide her with a
wonderful life. Her stance seems extreme to me and despite
discussions, she's refusing to budge on the issue. I respect her choices, but I feel she's disregarding
our feelings completely. As a response, I told her that if she feels
that way, then I won't be paying for her wedding. I don't want to come across as controlling
or manipulative. It's true, I don't "own" her, I also don't
owe her a fully-funded wedding. She can pay for her own wedding if she's insistent
on this stance. I'm feeling quite conflicted about this. AITA? Posted by
u/ImpossibleTough2666 20 hours ago AITA for
letting my daughter be kicked out of a wedding since she wasn’t modest enough
Not the A-hole My daughter is 18, Emma. Before she turned 18 we had a rule that I
could ask them to change if the outfit wasn’t appropriate. Rarely happened because I truly didn’t care
as long as the main parts were covered. Now when they turned 18, they are an adult
and most of the house rules didn’t really apply. We were invited to a wedding to a close friend,
my daughter is friend with her daughter and I am friends with the mother. They are religious, I know this and she knows
this. It was a church and the invite said modest,
no cleavage, knee length and so on. I didn’t expect anything else. Well a few weeks ago Emma showed what dress
she was going to wear and I mentioned that it won’t work, the dress was cute but strapless. I thought she would change it but didn’t. So on the day of the wedding she wore that,
I even commented that it won’t work again. She said it will be fine. Well we get there and her friends brother
stopped her at the door, she tried to argue but got kicked out. I still went to the wedding. I got home today and she called me an butt
for not defending her and staying at the wedding with their old school dress code Posted by
u/Last_Interaction_762 20 hours ago AITA for not wanting to dedicate half my wedding
to my fiancé’s sister? Not the A-hole
I (29F) got engaged to my boyfriend, Peter (30M) in early 2023 and our wedding is scheduled
for early 2024. Peter has a sister, Olivia, who’s 15 and
was recently diagnosed with leukemia. She’s receiving chemotherapy and as far
as I know, it’s not terminal. One of Olivia’s dreams in life is to get
married. Ever since I’ve known her, she’s talked
about her future wedding and has planned every last detail. Since she got diagnosed, she’s become very
worried that she won’t be able to have her dream wedding because she might pass before
that happens. Based on what I know about her diagnosis,
she’ll likely survive and go on to live a full life, but it’s a definite possibility
she could die. Peter and I are currently in the wedding planning
stage, and this is also where we might be the jerks. Peter’s parents approached us a few days
ago and asked if we would be willing to dedicate some of our wedding time to Olivia since she
might not get one of her own. According to them, Olivia wants to wear a
wedding dress, invite a lot of her friends, have a say in the food/cake/decorations, and
have a first dance with her boyfriend. They said it’s better to do all this at
me and Peter’s wedding because then the family can celebrate all together. Peter and I were shocked that they would ask
this since we thought that our wedding would be about us. I know Olivia is struggling and I feel completely
awful for her since no teenager should have their youth ruined by cancer, but I don’t
see why we can’t have a separate party for Olivia instead of having to dedicate half
our day to her. Especially since she would likely get most
of the attention due to her condition. Additionally, it would cost a lot more money
to have to pay for Olivia’s friends to attend the wedding (Peter’s parents only offered
to pay for 75% of the additional cost) and Peter and I aren’t made of money. Peter and I told Peter’s parents we would
think about it, but after discussing it, we decided it would be better to say no because
we’d prefer our day to be about us, but we’d be more than willing to pitch in funds
and help plan a separate party for Olivia. But when we informed Peter’s parents, they
were furious. They said they couldn’t believe we were
prioritizing ourselves over a child with cancer and that we were being selfish. They said this might be Olivia’s only chance
for a wedding and how dare we deny her “dying wish.” I said I didn’t understand why we couldn’t
have a separate party, but Peter’s parents said they wanted it to feel “authentic”
for Olivia, so it would be better to do it at an actual wedding. When they started raising their voices, Peter
and I left. But since then Peter’s family has been spamming
us with messages about how terrible we’re being to Olivia and how they can’t believe
we’re not being considerate of her wishes. Peter and I both frequent this sub, so we
wanted to know what the Internet thinks. Are we being unreasonable here? Posted by
u/amtathrowaway9235 21 hours ago AITA for not helping my little brother out
when he got sick at a family wedding Not the A-hole
I (M23) and my brother “Ryan” (19) went to a family wedding yesterday. To cut to the chase, he’s an over eater. This has always been an issue but as of lately
since he moved out it’s skyrocketed. During the wedding I noticed he was eating
an abnormal amount of food. First he went to an all you can eat candy
table and filled his plate to the top with candy. Then he ended up going back and forth from
the candy table to the buffet. I noticed he went back and forth at least
3 times with full plates. I decided to walk over to him and say something
because it was out of control. I went over to him and warned him that he’s
over eating and that he might get sick again like he has in the past. He got mad at me for bring up his past and
told me to mind my business. I decided to ignore him and go to the dance
floor. A half hour later I see him briskly walking
over to me with a horrified look on his face. He pulled me aside and right away I noticed
something was wrong and he smelled. He told me to follow him to the bathroom and
I realized as we were walking there that he was holding his butt walking weird and smelling
like crap. I immediately scolded him and flat out asked
if he crap his pants. He said wait until we get in the bathroom
but I snapped and started saying what the heck is wrong with you. Once we got to the bathroom he told me to
block the door and I said no other people need to use this. He said he has to clean his pants and if I
can’t block the door while he does it then to get someone else to help him. At the point I was so mad I said freak no
I’ll just mind my own business then and went to walk out. As I was walking out, our grandpa walked in
and saw him taking off his pants to run it under the sink. Our grandpa just looked at us both and walked
out. I walked out too because I was so embarrassed
to be associated with this. Somehow it spread and I heard people whispering
about it and some even laughing. He ended up leaving and not going to the family
brunch today. I never wanted to be involved in this and
I tried to warn him, I’m upset because he’s not answering my texts and just want this
to be forgotten. Posted by
u/Pleasant_Manner_2450 1 day ago
Facepalm AITA for telling my fiancè that he is acting crazy? Not the A-hole
I'm getting married soon and I want to have my little sister(9F) as my junior bridesmaid. She is in love with princesses and anything
princessy. She even has a very beautiful white princess
dress that she has always wanted to wear. She asked me if she can wear it for my wedding
and I said why not? Go ahead. She looked so happy and she has been very
excited especially because we let her buy high heels and my parents allowed her to wear
make up for my wedding. When my fiancè found out he was against it. He argued that she shouldn't wear a white
princess dress for our wedding and how it's "inappropriate". I told him that I don't have a problem with
it and I don't think a kid is going to outshine me and asked him if he is worried that she
will outshine HIM? he called me ridiculous and said since my sister can wear that then
is it ok for his sisters to wear something like that? I told him that his sisters(F23, F21) are
a bit old for that but sure why not? I could use a good laugh at my wedding. I told him he is acting crazy and he called
me an jerk and he thinks since its "our" wedding, this should be "our" decision. Posted by
u/Numerous_Way9705 1 day ago
Evil Cackle AITA for refusing to help my daughter honor
her stepfather at her wedding? Not the A-hole
I have two children. Emily (30f) and Hayes (26m) with my ex-wife. She left me a few months after Hayes was born
and ended up getting back together with her high school ex Sam. Sam and my ex ended up marrying seven months
later. Emily has always adored Sam. I, however, hate the guy. For years he would work on getting under my
skin, saying I wasn't a good enough dad to my daughter because I wasn't enough and she
considered him her dad too. He'd tell me every single time she had called
him Daddy Sam or Dad Sam. When I told him he was being childish he'd
tell me in return that he knew it cut me up inside to have to share her affection as dad. He told me one day he would be walking her
down the aisle and maybe she'd even want him to do it alone and would not want me anywhere
near them for that. Despite all this Sam was never able to come
between me and Emily and we have always been very close. Sam never cared for Hayes as much. I think Hayes being gay has a large part to
play in Sam not caring for him as much as he does Emily. There are times I had to restrain myself from
exploding in front of the kids when Sam would taunt me. I knew he'd love a chance to get me out of
my kids lives. Last year Sam was diagnosed with motor neuron
disease. He's now in a wheelchair and has lost his
mobility and his speech has suffered greatly. Emily is getting married in a few months and
wanted us both to bring her down the aisle. A week ago she came to my house and told me
she wanted to pay a special tribute to Sam and she wanted my help to do it (both finance
and planning). I told her I would not help her with that. She was upset. Said Hayes refused to help her as well. She told me Sam means a lot to her and she
would have thought I would be glad that she had two amazing father figures. I told her Sam and I did not have a positive
relationship and there is no way I would ever spend my money or time doing something nice
for the man. I told her he had treated me poorly over the
years and I accepted she loved him. But he was not worthy of my money or that
effort in my eyes. She asked me if I would do it for her. I told her I could not. She said okay. Emily's fiance called me up after this and
said whatever petty issues between Sam and I, could I not do something for my daughter
when she's going to lose one of her most special people. He said I was breaking Emily's heart because
she doesn't want to be caught between us. That it's clear I am enjoying watching Sam
suffer as he is and that's proven by my actions and I'm not being a good dad to Emily. AITA? Posted by
u/Throwawayavacation 1 day ago AITA for not wanting to “vacation” with
my family? Not the A-hole
My sister bought a vacation house that was presented as a gift for the family to use. Since then she’s moved into the house, choosing
to work from home there. To me it’s no longer a vacation house but
her home and that means visiting family not vacationing. We have a lot to coordinate with kids schools
and work schedules. Whenever we find a time to go it ends up not
being a vacation and basically my sisters show. My sister earns a lot more than the rest of
my siblings and since it is her house, we end up doing what she wants to do and eating
where she wants to. Now she’s extremely generous and I love
her dearly it’s just that while there it’s not really a vacation. We cook, clean, and some even work. Unlike my siblings I don’t work from home
so when I take time off work to go on vacation I actually want to go on vacation. My husband took a new job a couple of years
ago and his schedule became more restrictive so we have been unable to go on these family
trips. It’s honestly been amazing. We have traveled to new places, relaxed, enjoyed
ourselves, and just overall been happier. Now the problem - this year everyone has been
trying to plan a trip but our schedules are not lining up. My other siblings got together and decided
on a time to go (leaving me out of the conversation). The problem is they planned it at my daughters
birthday. They know we always take off work and take
her on a trip to celebrate. Before anyone comes at me - she hates parties
and it was her idea. She gets to choose the location and what we
are going to do. They announced their plan at a family dinner
and our parents were so happy. I was too shocked and stunned at the audacity
to say much. Here’s where I might be an AH. I put my fork down, smiled, and said “I
hope you enjoy celebrating my daughters birthday without us, we already have plans.” I then picked my fork up and continued eating
while the table was open mouthed around me. I think even my husband was shocked but he
just smiled and continued eating too. My parents later told me that I hurt my siblings
feelings for ruining their surprise. I told them it wouldn’t have been ruined
if they had bothered to ask me or include me on the plan making. My siblings are calling me an AH for not appreciating
the great gift our sister gave us and not respecting her schedule. So AITA for not wanting to “vacation”
with my family? Posted by
u/Individual_Pen_9435 23 hours ago AITA for ignoring a guy that made me uncomfortable? Not the A-hole
I recently went on a trip with my friend organized by my uni class. On the first day this guy from another class
approached us and asked if he could join us for lunch. We noticed that everyone else in his class
was avoiding him, but we thought he was lonely, so we agreed fo him to eat with us. Immediatly it's clear why his classmates ignore
him: he seems to be unaware of most of social clues and has uncommon hobbies. However I try to be nice to him. My friend on the other side keeps being rude
to him, and acts very bothered by his presence. The trip goes on and the guy keeps staring
at us from afar, tries to interact with us, despite us clearly showing we want to be by
ourselves. He asks both me and my friend for our numbers,
to go out for drinks later that night. We say no. However, he waits until I am alone, and corners
me asking again for my number. I give in since professors are close by and
I don't want to cause a scene. Maybe this is where I made a mistake. Throughout the day he starts complimenting
me, specifically my phisical appereance. I do not engage with him. Then he starts complaining that I never speak,
that still he knows nothing about me. Professors jump in on that agreeing that I
am extra quiet. I admit I am sensitive about this topic, so
I start becoming extra uncomfortable. This constant bother continues, with him complaining
that I am not speaking enough, that I am not smiling etcetera. I was already uncomfortable at this point. I make a joke to my friend: I see a bed exposed
in a shop window, saying I was so tired I would gladly go sleep there. The guy chimes in, commenting that lots of
people would surely pay to look at me. My friend scolds him for being a creep and
he plays dumb. Later that night we go to dinner and this
guy of course sits in front of me. My friend sits next to me, but with her back
directed towards me throughout the whole dinner, so I am forced to interact with this guy,
while professors keep teasing me because I am so quiet. My friend even encourages the guy to keep
talking to me, despite me previously telling her I was very uncomfortable. In the end the guy asks me to go out together. I refuse, saying I am very busy (at this point
I was panicking and I was so stupid not to say I am in a relationship or that I am not
interested). He keeps insisting and I keep rejecting him. Finally the dinner ends, and I am very upset
both at him and at my friend for not helping me at all through this uncomfortable situation. The first day we are all back home, he texts
me "how are you". Ofc I don't reply, since I am still bothered. My friend however tells me I was being too
harsh on him. AITA? I feel like I gave him so many signals that
I was not interested and he actively chose to ignore them. On the other side maybe I was not clear enough
on not being interested in him. Posted by
u/Efficient-Nothing-75 20 hours ago AITA for not accepting a small amount of money
as a graduation gift? Jerk
So I (18f) recently graduated from college and got accepted into a business school for
next year and my sister was also accepted into med school. It was my grandmother's birthday today and
the whole family was around for dinner to celebrate. She opened her gifts, we ate cake, and it
was a great evening all around until we got up to leave. When we were headed out the door, she gave
myself, my brother, and my sister an envelope each as "gifts" for being accepted into our
programmes (and for my brother just to be equal). Inside was a thoughtful card with a nice personalised
message along with £80 cash. I immediately handed her the envelope and
cash back and said that "I appreciate the thought and I will keep the nice card, but
not the money". My brother reluctantly took the cash and was
very polite and grateful. My sister, however, barely said thank you
and leaped at the chance to take the spare envelope full of money if I didn't want to
accept it from my grandmother. It was my grandmother's birthday, she is getting
older and I don't want to take any money from her. She can save it for her vacation next year
or use it for an upcoming birthday or something. She was a little upset that I wouldn't take
the money, but I know she understands my position and I will speak with her tomorrow to make
sure she is alright. The rest of my family told me that I was being
ungrateful, difficult and essentially an jerk for not taking the money off of her. So, AITA here? UPDATE : I spoke with my grandmother this
morning over a cup of tea and she made it very clear she is unbothered by my refusal,
and that she half expected it. This woman basically raised me half the time
and she is the one who I learned this behaviour from, and she knows that. She is like a third parent to me and she knows
me like the back of her hand. She told me she will save it with the rest
of the vacation money which we will all use for drinks, food and travel. I told her about this post and showed her
some of the replies. She thinks it is ridiculous that people have
passed such harsh judgements over such an insignificant event. I appreciate everyone's opinions.
