Posted by u/WesternLetterhead186
5 hours ago AITA for not taking the
baby as soon as I was asked? Our daughter is 7 weeks old. My wife is a
full time SAHM (both of us want this until our daughter is at least 5, starts school and
can openly communicate with us). I work full time making $25 an hour and while the pay is
good, I've been looking for something a bit better just so we have more fun money, basically.
I get home from work today at 3pm and she asks me to take the baby. As soon as she asked though,
I got a phone call that I suspected was from an interview so I said "hold on a second" and
took the call. It was an interviewer and he wanted to do an over the phone interview
and asked if it was a good time. I said yes. About 40 minutes later I go back in and
my wife is cooking dinner with the baby strapped to her chest. I said I could take the
baby now and she said "looks like I've got it" and dismisses me completely. She then turns off
the stove (dinner was done) and goes in to the bathroom with the baby and takes a shower,
with the baby. I go in and say she's being ridiculous and that I had to take a phone call
and she snapped. She said "I take phone calls while holding the baby all the freaking time.
I cook, clean, shower, crap and shave while holding the baby. Your excuse is pathetic."
AITA for not taking the baby immediately? Posted by
u/familyfallingap 10 hours ago AITA for telling my sister it’s her own fault
her family is a mess because she wanted to adopt? My sister “Lucy” (38) has always wanted a
big family. She and her husband “Tom” (40), had their son “Logan” (now 9), but due
to complications Lucy couldn’t have more kids. Lucy was devastated. About three years
ago, she and Tom decided to adopt. Tom never outright said he didn't want to go through
with it, but it was clear to see he didn’t care one way or the other and just wanted Lucy
happy. Logan said he didn’t want a sibling. Lucy brushed over all these concerns with the
“they’ll get on board eventually” attitude. Long story short, they were eventually
matched with boy, “Jack”, who is now 11. Lucy said they all bonded, but Jack had
behavioural issues and whenever I saw them, I picked up on the fact that over time Tom
seemed to be getting less and less keen, and many times when it was just adults he
commented on his worry that Jack had latent issues because of his traumatic past. Lucy
adored Jack and rubbished these concerns. I brought up Tom’s hesitation but Lucy said
it was just taking longer for him to bond. They officially adopted Jack about a year
ago, and since then things have fallen apart. Jack’s behaviour has either got a lot worse or
Lucy wasn’t speaking about it as much before, but it’s clear Tom is at his wit’s end. According
to Lucy he works late constantly and whenever Jack has a tantrum he helps Lucy calm him down,
and then takes Logan and leaves the house. Logan now hates Jack and won’t play with him
which causes more issues, and he’s started to act out. He spent his last school holiday with
my family and is set to spend Christmas with us again because even the family therapist
says it’s good for him to have some space. Having seen this all unfold has been
heartbreaking. Tom and Logan look more miserable every time I see them and though Lucy
would never admit it, she does too. Whenever I speak to her she talks about how hard it is
but always has Tom and Logan at fault. She has never taken any accountability for the fact
that she didn’t listen to anyone’s concerns. She called me a couple of days ago to
discuss plans for Christmas and when Tom would be dropping Logan off at my home. She
again started ranting about Tom has basically shut down at home with her and Jack and how she
thinks he’s going to leave. She was calling him every name in the book and then started saying
she was disappointed that Logan doesn’t love Jack and she can’t believe she raised a bully.
I lost it. I told her the really bully was her, she bullied her family into adoption
as a form of wish fulfilment and Tom shouldn’t have indulged her but most of
the blame falls on her for destroying her family. She screamed and cried and
eventually called me evil and hung up. My parents are now saying I was
an AH for telling her that even though we all think it, but I
think she needed to hear it, and stop blaming her own child for being
unhappy living in the chaos she created. Posted by u/NiorNightingale
4 hours ago AITA for brushing my daughter’s friend’s extremely
matted hair out so she avoid a drastic cut? My daughter has a friend, A (13F), who has
been going through some health issues that I don’t want to put here. A’s mum passed
away when she was little so it’s just her and her dad. Since he has started
dating his girlfriend (we’ll call her C) A’s needs have been pushed to the side
a little and he’s just not noticed that A has been struggling. She’s doing better
now after getting the help she needed. However, A’s hair has been extremely matted as
it had not been brushed for months. A had been hiding her hair under hats and hoods at home
and trying to disguise it at school in buns. She stayed over at the weekend and I only found
out about her hair when they came downstairs after getting a comb stuck in A’s hair trying to fix
it. I comforted A as she was ashamed about her hair but had hoped that she and my daughter
could fix it. My daughter convinced her to tell me about it as she had been scared to say
anything to anyone as she thought she would be judged as her dad’s girlfriend has made comments
about her appearance when she was going through her health issues. When A was going through her
issues, I made it clear to her and my daughter that our home is a judgement free zone and if
she ever wanted to come to me or my husband for help then she would get it. A then asked for
help detangling her hair. So that’s what I did. We put on some films and worked on detangling
A’s hair. It took hours, but it was doable. When A went home on Sunday, her hair was
completely detangled and neatly braided into two dutch braids. She was happy and thanked
me for helping with her hair. Then Monday I got an angry phone call from C because she was meant
to be taking A to get her hair cut due to how matted her hair was. Apparently C and A’s dad had
noticed how bad it was and C had told me that she would get it sorted. C is mad because the salon
they were going to had charged her a cancellation fee for cancelling the day of the appointment. C
wants me to pay her back for the cancellation fee as it’s my fault for fixing A’s hair when
they were going to get it cut out. I told her that I wouldn’t be paying it, I just did the
right thing by A instead of going to the extreme option straight away. C then said that A was no
longer allowed to be friends with my daughter and they would sue me for the cancellation
fee. It was £60 (half the cost of the cut). My daughter told me that A knew about C wanting to
cut her hair and A didn’t want the hair cut which is why she went to my daughter for help.
A like my own daughters has long hair, so cutting the matted hair out would have meant her
losing well over half of the length of her hair. AITA for brushing out A’s hair so
she avoided getting a drastic cut. Posted by u/Ok-Combination7341
13 hours ago AITA for siding with my daughter that she doesn’t
need to invite her sister to the “popular table” Both of my daughters are in highschool,
my oldest ( Cindy) is 16 and my youngest (Emily)is 14. Now Cindy is quite popular, she
is on the volleyball team and has a huge friend group. My youngest isn’t very popular and her
friend (Beth) is her main friend or ex friend. It also doesn’t help that she is into hobbies
most other high schoolers don’t care about. Emily and Beth got into a fight and Beth is not
speaking to her anymore. She is sitting alone at lunch now. This came out yesterday and
my husband wants Cindy to invite her to sit with her group of friends at the “popular table”.
Cindy refused saying she doesn’t want to do that. My husband was mad but when he tried to
get me to back him up I told him Cindy has ever right to not want her little
sister in her friend group. That you can’t do that do her and Emily
needs to make her own friends. My husband is ticked at me and Cindy. Emily
is super upset that she doesn’t have people to eat with and I am wondering if I made
the right call or if I am being a jerk. Posted by u/Glass_Tear_2525
16 hours ago AITA for not wanting to eat street
food on vacation with my wife Ok so me and my wife are currently on vacation
to her home country here in south east asia and she really wanted to take me to a street food
stall which I would normally never eat at but she convinced me to go with her. When we got there
it was really unhygienic like the guy wasnt even wearing gloves or anything so I refused to eat
it cause well who knows were his hands have been. This cause my wife to be mad at me for being
to "posh" and refusing to eat something cause the guy wasnt wearing any gloves which she
claims is perfectly normal. She brought up a couple other times I refused to do
things with her cause they weren't upto my normal standards. However I think I
was correct in this specific scenario cause well Im not eating food that some stranger
without gloves or running water cooked. So aita Posted by u/RoyallyRestless
22 hours ago AITA for going to my sister’s competitor when
my daughter wanted to take ballet classes? Jerk
My (34M) sister (28F) is one of the owners of a local ballet school
where she’s also a teacher. My daughter (5F) was interested in trying ballet, mostly from
seeing her aunt dance and talking about how she MUST take ballet. However, I chose to take my
daughter to get a trial class in another school. A brief context: my mother is a piano teacher
and she decided to teach my sister and I when we were kids, and it was a terrible experience
(to me at least) because it was clear that she couldn’t separate her role as a mother and as a
teacher, and she’d be hard on me in a way that she wasn’t to her other students. That’s not to say
I think my sister wouldn’t be able to keep things professional, it’s just that I thought it was
important to create a distance in this context. I didn’t think to let my sister “know” beforehand
about this, after all it was just a trial class, and my daughter could not even be interested in
continuing afterwards. Yet my sister found out that I took my daughter to her competitor
(it’s not that big of a town and there are basically two schools around, so news fly
fast). My sister called me to clear things up, and I could tell she was very hurt. I
tried to explain my reasoning, and she said the right thing would be to call her so she
wouldn’t need to find out from somebody else. She also says it creates an image
that her own family doesn’t trust in her abilities as a teacher, which
I think was nonsense. AITA here? Posted byu/[deleted]1 day ago AITA for wanting my gf to cook for
me after I gave her food poisoning? Jerk
My gf and I have been together for 3 years and we moved in in April. She is a great cook and learned
from her Italian grandma but she can make almost everything under the sun. She travelled a lot when
she was younger and loves Asian food the most. I thought I was a good cook but she says my cooking
is terrible. She took over the cooking now that we live together and tried to teach me but then got
impatient because she thought I wasn’t trying. I am but she gets mad when I don’t get it the first
time. I don’t think she’s that great of a teacher. She got mad because I didn’t check if my
chicken was done by cutting into it and making sure it isn’t pink. I usually just
poke it like she does but she insists I should cut into it because I’m not very
experienced. Recently she’s wanted me to cook once a week and I’ve been trying even
though it’s clearly not coming out very well. She is a way better cook why doesn’t she just
cook? She clearly enjoys it but she insists I have to learn. I can feed myself but I don’t
feel the need to get as good as her. Clearly her food is better but I can survive on
my cooking so it’s good enough for me. Anyway I cooked chicken and broccoli and she
ate a few pieces and then got up and cut up the chicken and it was pink. She got really
angry and yelled at me for trying to give her food poisoning. It’s clearly just a mistake and
I apologized but she had diarrhea for a few days and had to miss work. Now she won’t cook for
me and just cooks for herself. I usually eat out now that she doesn’t pack me Tupperware
and it’s really sad because it’s one of the things I really enjoyed. Sitting down for lunch
and seeing what she made for me. I told her she is punishing me for no reason and she’s gotten
mad and told me I intentionally didn’t cook the chicken right and Im always expecting her
to cook like Im a kid. Im pretty ticked by her comments and we’ve argued over it but
I guess it’s her right not to cook for me. Posted by u/Frosty_Care_2341
1 day ago AITA for refusing to go in another room so
my fiancé and the baby could sleep alone? Jerk
My fiancé "Jen" (29f) just gave birth to our daughter
2 months ago. She strictly breastfeeds, so as you can imagine, she gets far less
sleep than I do. During the day I help with changing or holding her but all feedings
are up to Jen (the baby outright refuses a bottle- we have tried several times, but
ultimately we are both okay with this). Anyways, I'm kind of a independent start up
video game developer. I did make one video game 2 years ago but it honestly wasn't that
great. So while I do get revenue from it, it's definitely not much or even a liveable
wage. This time around however I'm working with 4 other people and the game is turning out
great. I also work a 9-5. But after getting home, having dinner with my fiancé and looking after the
baby for awhile, I jump on and work on the game. For the past 2-3 nights I have been up til 1-2am
working on the game and I have been ultra tired. I snore like a maniac when I'm tired. It's super
embarrassing because I truly sound like a mack truck. But yesterday the baby had her 2 months
shots and she was so fussy. Cried way more than normal. It was super hard for my fiancé to get
her to sleep. I finally went to bed around 2am and my fiancé immediately asked me to sleep
on the couch so I wouldn't wake the baby with my snoring. I said no. I was so tired and the
couch is not comfortable at all. I had to work early. I wanted to sleep. She didn't fight
it but she called me a "freaking prick" and walked out of the room with the baby. I woke
up this morning to the baby in the crib in the nursery and my fiancé asleep on the floor with
no pillows/blankets. She still won't talk to me. Posted by
u/Virtual-Goat4355 1 day ago AITA for telling my brother the reason his
kid is bullied and unpopular is due to him Not the A-hole
My brother is the type of person who decides to be their true self without anyone’s
opinions. He expresses this a ton with clothes, he will wear outrageous stuff often and his
job is online so he wears his clothes often. Think lady Gaga type of clothes. One day he is
in a dress and the next he is wearing skin suit. This wasn’t a problem until recently,
when he started to drop off his son for carpool. My daughter goes to the
same school and I used to drive both of them. Ever since he started to do
this he just embarrassed his kid. My daughter refuses to car-pull with
him and wakes up early for the bus. Now what I got from my daughter is he
is know as the kid with the weird dad and bullied for it. She also informed me
that she will not be helping him since she doesn’t want it coming onto her since
it’s her uncle. I’m a little disappointed she won’t stand up to them but I also don’t
blame her for not wanting to get involved. It was bad today and my brother
called me ranting that my daughter should stand up for him. I told him
the reason his kid is bullied is due to him and he needs to send him on
the bus or stop embarrassing him. He’s ticked I blame him and being against his
artist freedom. He thinks I am a huge jerk Posted by u/NoNinhongo12345
1 day ago AITA for pretending to not understand
Japanese and making a kid cry? Not the A-hole
Throwaway For context, I(20f) am an English teacher in Japan. I love
my job and I absolutely love teaching kids. I’ve never made a kid cry until today. I have a
student, let’s call him Sam who’s 12. He’s the class clown who absolutely loves attention and
will do anything to get his classmates to notice him. Now, I have experience with plenty of goofy
kids and I adore them. I let them joke around all the time unless they disturb other students
the way Sam does. Sam is super disruptive and makes other students uncomfortable to say the
least. I tried telling my boss and coworkers about this but they basically told me I’m on my
own. Not even a call to his parents was made. Recently, I rearranged the seating so that Sam sat
far away from the other boys as he does not do the same to the girls. This worked for a couple of
weeks. He spent most of the class complaining in a mumbled voice but he didn’t touch anyone. But I
guess he got bored of complaining because today, he spent most of class hurling insults
at me in Japanese. The class is mostly second English learning Japanese kids
and since I’m hired as a foreign teacher, I am strictly forbidden from
speaking to the kids in Japanese. Anyways, when Sam starts calling me “disgusting”,
“a stupid old lady” etc., I admit I got a little upset because I know for a fact he would not speak
the same way to the Japanese staff and I knew telling him to stop would only make him want to
do it more because I have tried multiple times in the past. So instead, in a loud voice I said “What
did you say? きもい(disgusting)? What does that mean? Cute???? You think I’m cute??? Thank you!!!!”
The other kids laughed a little and Sam got angry but he kept trying to insult me throughout
the class. I kept doing the same thing, pretending to think his insults were compliments. In the
end, he got so frustrated he burst into tears. At the end of class, my coworkers saw
that he was crying and I explained what happened. I got chastised
for making a student cry. Aita? Edit: I'm getting a lot of
comments asking how I could be teaching abroad at 20. I respect
the hustle so here's how I did it. My birthday is in December so I'm almost
21 if that makes it better lol. I graduated high school in 2020 and started college
during the fall. My degree required me to take 120 units and I already had AP credit
but the max amount I was able to use for my school was 6 units. So I had to take
the remaining 114 units when I started. For each Spring and Fall semester, I took the max
amount of classes I was allowed which was 18 units each semester. I also took winter classes (6 units
each semester) and summer classes (12 units each semester). That allowed me to graduate early last
December. It was a lot of hard work but summer and winter semesters were cheaper and I had to pay my
way through college so it made all the difference. On top of this, I also taught ESL classes
part time during winter and summer break when I didn't have nearly as much school work.
My professors and counselors at school got me the job so that I could pay off the remainder
of my school loans and boost my resume. About a semester before I graduated,
I applied to my current teaching job in Japan (along with many others). A lot
of schools in Japan and Korea only need proof of a degree in progress to consider you
for a position. After a couple of interviews, I was accepted but didn't get a job placement
until late December, after I officially got my degree. I moved to Japan and started working
in January. Hope this clears things up! Posted by u/RoosterNo3701
1 day ago AITA for telling my family I’ll wear what I
want to my sisters wedding because I’m not in the bridal party?
Not the A-hole To sum up the situation, I am 29 and a
Trans Woman. I am from a Roman Catholic Family and my parents are older
(71 and 67) and my sister (32). Because of my life choices, my family and
I are fairly estranged. I do not practice their faith anymore, while they are weekly
church goers who actively participate in church gatherings and events. They
have not accepted my transition, and still commonly use my deadname (male name)
despite how I changed it nearly 3 years ago. I will visit 3-4 times per year,
and occasionally exchange texts, but for the most part, we widely do not interact
except at holidays. It’s not uncommon to go months between texts, and pleasantries are pretty
barebones and surface level. For context, I am treated as the “family secret”
or black sheep or the family. I began transitioning in 2019, and my mother did not
tell her extended family until fall of 2022. About 7 months ago, my sister announced
she was getting married. I didn’t even hear about the engagement until
almost 2 weeks after she said yes, and from my parents social media post
no less. No one bothered to tell me. She is holding a Roman Catholic
wedding, but because I am transgender, she specifically has not included me in any
bridal party activities, wedding planning, etc. No one invited me to the wedding shower,
I was not asked to participate in the ceremony, I was simply sent a save the date in the
mail like any other normal wedding guest. I was specifically told I was not
going to be in the wedding party, and my partner was not welcome either. At this point, I’m just trying to be polite
by still attending the wedding. Today, my mother texted me less than 2 weeks before
the wedding asking if I could wear a navy pant suit to the wedding. I absolutely do not
want to wear a pant suit, nor is there any time before the wedding to realistically have
an outfit custom fitted even if I agreed to. I have no plans to wear inappropriate clothing,
I plan to dress like any 30 something year old female guest would dress like normally. But
my parents are becoming increasingly pushy and hostile that I suddenly conform to a
specific type of clothing, specifically something that would make me look like a man
like a pant suit “or something with slacks”. I am very noticeably feminine. I have
been transitioning for just under 5 years, and so wearing a pant suit I’d still look
quite feminine, but I know my parents want me to wear a suit because it’s acceptable
clothing for what a “man” would wear. Because my family went so out of their way to
tell me how UNINVOLVED I will be in this wedding, I think it’s wildly rude they suddenly want
a say in how I dress and present myself. Had my family included me in the bridal party,
I would have gone along no question. But because they didn’t I think I’m perfectly in
line and my parents are going too far. So Reddit, AITA? Posted by
u/Suitable-Frosting-39 1 day ago AITA for throwing the fact that my adoptive
mom is not biologically related to my daughter in her face
Everyone Sucks EDIT: okay, I am the jerk. I will go and
apologize to her tomorrow after work. As many of you have pointed out there is
more to our relationship than what is shown here. There was never any abuse but
I was the walking “trophy” of her being a good person and adopting an orphaned child. I
had to look a certain way, act a certain way, and maintain a certain body to make sure I looked
“saved” I always did what was asked no questions, because I owed her. After I moved out we had lunch
once a month until I became pregnant. She has been highly involved since then. Bob is a saint
and I’d die for him. We’ve had breakfast every Sunday morning since I’ve moved out. I have never
viewed Linda as mom but I do view Bob as a dad. So backstory, my dad died when I was 9 and my
mom when I was 15. After my mom died my godmother adopted me. She calls herself and her husband my
mom and dad. I call them mom and dad to strangers who don’t know the story, but to them and friends
I call them by their name. They will be called Linda and Bob for this story. We generally
get along and don’t typically have issues. Now for the story. My husband (26M) and I (25F)
had our first child five months ago. We are pretty lax first time parents in my opinion. We’ve let
people hold her as long as they’ve washed their hands since she was born. We have drawn a hard
line that no one’s mouth gets near her, like I don’t even want your breath hitting her. We’ve had
issues with Linda (62F) not respecting that. She is constantly trying to kiss her cheeks or putting
my baby’s hands in her mouth. I have told her time and time again that this is not acceptable and I
don’t want my child getting sick. I’ve shown her the videos of other babies with rsv and covid. She
always agrees and says she won’t do it anymore. My daughter and I went to her house for lunch this
last Sunday and while she was holding my daughter I went to the restroom. While in there I head Bob
(64M) gasp and say Linda’s name. When I came out and asked what happened Linda gave Bob the look of
“you better keep your mouth shut”. Bob immediately tells me that Linda kissed my daughter on the
mouth. I snatched my baby back and started loading her in the car seat to leave. Linda starts trying
to get me to stay saying we haven’t even eaten etc. I refuse to stay and tell her she won’t be
holding my daughter for a long time. She then says “It’s just a kiss from Grammy, it’s not going to
hurt anything” I start yelling “ ITS NOT A GRAMMY KISS, ITS A STRANGER KISS. YOU ARE NOT RELATED TO
HER, YOU SHARE NOTHING BIOLOGICALLY WITH HER” and stormed out of the house. My husband says I’m not
wrong but I could have nicer about it. I called Bob and he says Linda deserved it and it was
the only way she’d stop. All my friends though, say I was being too mean and should have left
without pointing out she’s not really related.
