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would you be the jerk for refusing to eat a  meal your girlfriend made we'll get into that   in a bit but first am I the jerk for telling my  daughter she's living outside of her means and I'm   not bailing her out with her credit card debt my  daughter is 24 and living on her own she has a job   that supports her well but she's living beyond  her means I have told her so many times to cut   back and even offer to help make a budgeting plan  every time she tells me she knows what she's doing   I got a call from her and she's 3,000 in credit  card debt and was panicking since she didn't have   enough to make the minimum payment she asked me  to lend her money to bail her out I told her I   want to see her transactions of the credit card I  was going to help her if she was doing essential   purchases she wasn't it mostly consisted on Amazon  shopping eating out and clothes stores I told her   I will not bail her out of that debt since she's  living beyond her means I also brought up that   she's planning a vacation that she can't afford  instead I told her that I'll help her make a   budget and it will suck for a few months but we  probably fix her debt she got ticked at me and   this started an argument I won't bail her out and  she thinks I'm a huge jerk I told her it's her own   fault for living outside of her means and a few  sandwiches would drastically cut down on what she   spends I think Opie's being a very responsible and  honestly really great parent by helping them fix   this thing and get a budget plan going I think  the only way you can prevent them from getting   in this situation again is for them to understand  what it does take to not end up in that situation   especially at this point when it's not I would  say too far gone like at that point if you have an   average salary it might suck for honestly a while  but you can definitely budget and get that 3,000   paid off you don't want to reward bad behavior by  just wiping it for her also hi I'm Steven and if   you guys enjoy getting to decide whether or not  all of these people are jerks why not hit those   like And subscribe buttons down below that said  our next story is am I the jerk for ruining at   a family dinner because of my Golden Child sister  I female 17 have a younger sister Emily female 16   even though they don't say it explicitly Emily is  clearly my parents favorite child I can understand   why they're proud of Emily she's a straight A  student has the lead roles in student theater   swims competitively is popular at school and very  very goodlooking I on the other hand am probably   more plain I work hard at school but I'm not as  outgoing or intelligent as Emily and don't sell   at any extracurriculars like she does my parents  always celebrate Emily we have certificates of her   work on the fridge always have outings and meals  to commemorate her achievements and attend all   of her swim events and plays I know my parents  love me but I don't get close to the level of   attention even when I work hard the other night  we went out with my parents uncle aunt and cousins   we just been to one of Emily's shows and she'd  recently got accepted onto a summer scheme she was   wanting to complete the whole meal revolved around  disgusting ing Emily and how proud everyone was of   her accomplishments I don't think I was mentioned  once I'm usually more reserved or just bite my   tongue but Midway through the meal I shouted  out maybe if you paid more attention to me and   not just your Golden Child you'd have more things  to celebrate everyone just went silent and my mom   said we discussed this when we got home and not  to ruin the meal Emily looked shocked and close   to crying to see the rest of the meal was awkward  would be putting it lightly when we got home my   parents shouted at me for embarrassing them and  said that Emily deserves to be celebrated and   that if I did something that merited celebration  I would receive the same treatment I said how   unfair this was and nothing I do gets recognized  regardless Emily joined in and said she works hard   and deserves to be recognized for that and as the  older sister I should grow up and actually work   for once if I want her success I haven't spoken to  Emily since then and my parents are still annoyed   at me for ruining the meal am I the jerk I mean I  guess to play Devil's Advocate the problem here is   Opie didn't explicitly list anything that they did  that they weren't recognized for I mean when Emily   does good at her swim meets or does have some  kind of major accomplishment she does deserve   to be celebrated for that stuff right I mean  obviously you don't want to feel like you're   being ignored but if your main argument is we  went out to a celebratory dinner for something   Emily did and they didn't talk about me I think  it gets blurrier to say whether or not that's   actually an issue our next story is am I the jerk  for not returning money my ex-husband sent to me   mistakenly a few days ago my ex-husband mistakenly  transferred two payments of 8700 and 9275 he did   this at around 7:40 a.m. in the morning and I  didn't notice because I just worked a double   SL nightshift and was getting ready for bed so  my phone was charging on the nightstand at the   same time my four children were at my parents and  so I planed to sleep away half the day I guess   he realized his mistake around 8:30 a.m. and by  then I was asleep I woke up at around 4:00 p.m.   to at least a 100 missed calls and maybe 150 texts  asking and begging me to send them back the money   my initial thoughts were to send it back but then  I remembered he owed me 12,000 and hasn't paid me   back since I lended it to him 4 years ago and  he's had a million excuses why he can't pay me   back and yet I always see him living it up I kept  the amount he owed me and returned only 5,975 and   told him I deducted his debt since then I've had  him call me every book in the name because this   was apparently money he was saving to buy his  girlfriend an engagement ring the engagement   venue Etc so according to him he had to tell  her this then led to it ruining the surprise   engagement he had planned for the next weekend  his girlfriend had been bad mouthing me and it's   caused a bit of a crap storm with me having to  shut down my social media and even his parents   who I had a cordial relation ship with has been  impacted by it I discussed the situation with   a friend and colleague and it was overheard by  another colleague and he's called what I did a   jerk move and I guess he shared it with a couple  of other people and now I'm not too sure anymore   on whether I'm being a jerk or not is this a jerk  move I mean as long as Opie is being completely   truthful about those $112,000 I don't know if I  can fault them necessarily especially if they're   the ones having to take care of the four children  one journo Italy said said to be fair he has owed   you 12,000 for 4 years his priorities should  have been clearing his debt and then saving for   an engagement ring especially when he clearly had  the money also surely he can find an engagement   ring for 6,000 not the jerk you only kept what  you were owed this next story is am I the jerk   for using TSA pre-check while my girlfriend went  through the regular line so I 31-year-old male and   my girlfriend 28-year-old female recently went  on a vacation to from New York City before the   trip I mentioned to her that I would pay for the  entire trip if she applied for Global Entry which   includes TSA pre-check I thought this would be a  great way for us both to avoid long lines at TSA   I even started the application for her and all  she had to do was finish it however she didn't   complete the application and I ended up paying  for the whole trip anyway because I was planning   to do so regardless I just wanted to give her an  incentive to apply for Global Entry when the day   of travel arrived I went through the TSA pre-check  line and she had to go through the regular line   for the beginning part of our trip she was mad at  me for this am I the jerk for using TSA pre-check   while my girlfriend went through the regular  line even though I offered her an incentive   to apply for Global Entry I don't think gop's  the jerk they tried to offer a bone for them to   you know finally just go and do it if they didn't  do it or they weren't motivated enough to get it   done didn't see the benefit well that's on them  and it's not op's fault how can op get Flack in   the situation of I literally tried to incentivize  you to get it done our next story is am I the jerk   for describing my mom's second marriage and her  younger kids as her doover family I 17-year-old   female lost my dad when I was five my parents were  married but I remember dad being more present in   my early memories than Mom and when my dad died  I know my mom wasn't there for me she left me   to raise myself or she roped in some extended  family to take care of me usually grandparents   but she wouldn't always do that and I was sort  of forced to become independent and more mature   in some ways to raise myself like I had to make  sure I ate did homework got to school on time   all without my mom helping me the most she would  do is make some food but she wouldn't even tell   me she had I usually had to search the fridge  to find it my grandparents were the ones who   celebrated my birthdays with me and they were the  ones who typically went to my school for parent   conferences my mom doesn't know me she couldn't  tell tell you what classes I take in high school   what my favorite food or color is who my friends  and best friends are nothing 5 years ago she met   her husband Sam and pretty quickly like before  they were living together my mom got pregnant so   Sam moved in and my Mom married him her daughter  was born 4 years ago and her son followed Along 2   years ago and right away I see the difference in  how my mom is with them she knows them and loves   them she dedicates time to them she advocates  for them all the things I do not remember her   ever doing for me she eats with them and plays  with them and she takes her daughter to preschool   every day and takes her for a treat after it sucks  to see it sucks to see I didn't get a good mom but   I see she had it in her to be a good mom and chose  not to be Sam isn't as good as my dad was though   but he's still better than my mom ever was to me  last week my mom asked me to babysit for her and   Sam and I said no my mom was shocked and asked me  why I wouldn't babysit I told her I had work and I   had plans with friends she told me she would have  expected me to want time with the kids I told her   I don't want time with her doover family she asked  me what that meant and I said Sam and the kids   are her doover family she's a better mom to her  younger kids and she and Sam have created their   own perfect little family with them and their kids  but she was never that for me I told her I have   zero interest in helping her out with the doover  family and I pointed out that it was the most she   had said to me in years ears because she normally  doesn't talk to me or include me in anything and   the only reason she was speaking to me is she  wanted something she was all how dare you say   that about Sam and the kids and she told me I had  an awful attitude and she hopes the kids never   pick up on how I feel about them and their dad she  told me they deserve better than being described   that way and she told me I had some nerve to be  jealous that her kids have a happy family life   I laughed and told her she only cared about them  and that was clear she called me a nasty little   bench am I the jerk Opie's not the jerk their  mom wasn't there for them and in a lot of ways   basically abandoned them I think the truth just  hurts sometimes participant said I mean no not   the jerk you are right and we're blunt about it  your mom didn't want to hear your truth it sounds   like you have your head screwed on right but I  would start making plans for when you can get out   of there college is amazing you can find your own  chosen family Opie responded saying I plan to go   into a trade because College isn't in the cards  for me but I already have plans for what will   happen when I turn 18 in a few months our next  story is am I the jerk for telling my daughter   that she can go back to college and we will loan  the money not give it to her we paid for all the   kids college education and have made it externally  clear that if they mess up we will not give more   money on that my daughter was our middle child and  is 22 she should have graduated but she flunked   out of college and then lied to us about it she  flunked out of her first year and we only learned   the week before she was supposed to go back we  made her get a job at a local store and she's   been paying rent at home it's 300 a month for  everything we mostly started to do this because   she lied again and told us she had a job then went  broke anyways we don't trust her to be responsible   on her own she came to us saying she wanted to go  back to college we made it clear that we will not   be paying that she can get loans with interest or  get loans from us that have zero interest it would   be in writing and she will need to pay us back  I also brought up the college will cost more now   that she doesn't have scholarships this started  an argument she's ticked since her siblings are   going or went to college without any debt I made  it clear that they didn't mess up and she had the   same deal that she threw away are we being jerks  about this I think op's honestly being more than   generous a zero interest loan to get into college  I mean let's be real you're never going to get   that option anywhere else this next story is  am I the jerk for telling my mom her wedding   anniversary was not the number one priority for me  my children were my mom celebrated being 20 years   married to her husband John last weekend they were  throwing a party for all their friends and family   to celebrate my family and I were supposed to go  but I had to tell them we wouldn't make it a few   days beforehand because two of my children were  sick we live in another state so had to travel to   be there and there was no way that was happening  when I had two sick kids my mom told me not to say   I wouldn't be there and to wait and see how things  work that Saturday because maybe everyone would be   all better and we could still drive out and make  it but the kids were still sick our youngest was   actually a lot worse and was hospitalized later  that night while the party was actually ongoing   thankfully we got him home Sunday but it was a lot  my mom called me yesterday and wanted to know why   I hadn't found a way to make it work she told me  that she would have thought celebrating my parents   20-year wedding anniversary would have been the  number one priority for me I told her it wasn't   my number one priority my children were she told  me of course but she would still imagine I would   make it a priority to celebrate my parents'  marriage I told her not in those circumstances   she said celebrating your parents is supposed to  be a good thing I pointed out to her that it was   not my parents anniversary because she has never  told me her in my dad's wedding anniversary he   died when I was only six and that while her  husband is a great guy and I get along fine   with him she can't keep acting like her marriage  to my dad and my dad didn't exist for context I   said this to my mom because after my dad died  when I was six she stopped talking about him   she never wanted me to ask about him and when she  got remarried she wanted me to take her husband's   last name and agree to being adopted she pushed  the narrative that he was now my dad and that it   was disrespectful to her husband and the life they  were builing building to mention my dad again she   would talk about her husband being her only love  her true love how he gave her all her kids she   erased my dad and she argued with her own family  from time to time when they would mention Dad   her family said she and my dad adored each other  while he was alive and they couldn't understand   it my mom's husband honestly didn't care about  me talking about my dad or mom for that matter   but Mom refused she was upset when I chose to use  a female version of my dad's name for my daughter   she was upset that my wife and I had a photo of  dad at our wedding she really just wants everyone   to forget about him and focus on her current  marriage anyway during this disagreement with   mom over her anniversary and after I said that  to her she told me that she's been married for 20   years and I'm almost 30 so her husband deserves  to be acknowledged as my dad and their marriage   is deserving of being a priority for me she told  me she was ashamed of my childish behavior am I   the jerk I don't think GOP is the jerk here I mean  especially after all of the backstory of how op's   Mom has treated op but especially the main focus  of this post op's not the jerk for looking out   for their children when their children are sick  the children absolutely are understandably the   priority our next story is am I the jerk for  roaming around naked in my house my roommate   20-year-old male and me 20-year-old male have been  sharing at home since the last 2 months 3 days ago   he told me that he's leaving to see his family  and would be back in in a week I had the whole   house to myself for a week today I walked out of  the shower to the kitchen naked to check on the   cake I was baking my roommate suddenly barged  in while I was in the kitchen with everything   out things have gotten very awkward between us  since then he's saying I shouldn't roam around   the house naked I'm saying that he should have  told me that he's coming earlier who's at fault   here I mean when you're told hey you're going  to have the house alone for a week and they come   back 4 days early no surprise no message I mean  real I mean realistically I mean realistically   I don't think op's the jerk and I mean I don't  know if they necessarily had to send a warning   message but I don't think gop's the jerk because  realistically they were still expecting to be home   alone for the next 96 hours the only thing that  would have made it awkward is if they had like   security cameras in the house our next story is  am I the jerk for leaving after my husband let   his buddy's wife help with our home repairs my  husband and I bought a home 4 months ago and as   friend/ cooworker lives next door with his wife  and their six kids we both have a 5-month-old   when we bought the home it was in need of repair  all the cabinets needed to be ripped out as they   were repulsive all the walls needed repairs holes  in the walls and to be repainted but my husband   dragged his feet because we just had a baby and he  didn't want to add more to our plate he decided to   do repairs this week prior to me giving birth I  was a general contractor and had been working in   construction since I was 15 I've helped build  multiple homes done flooring painting and have   even done concrete work foundations so I'm very  experienced in that department my husband is not   he's worked in restaurants since he was a teen so  he has no idea what he's doing what I had planned   to do was repair the walls and paint them when  he worked on the rugs after that was completed   I plan to build all of our own shelving as our  home has a lack of storage space of any kind   including closets along the way of assessing  we noticed some outside work that absolutely   abolutely needed to be done to prevent mold  and moisture as well which he would take care   of and as an added measure I plan to build our  bed we're currently sleeping on a mattress on   the floor because prior to us moving our stuff  was destroyed in a flood so I was going to build   us a frame like I've done multiple other times  now onto the issue my husband has decided that   I can't help him because of the baby the place  is small so he doesn't want the baby inside he   says that me building anything will take too much  time and has decided to go out and buy shelving   and bed frames at a much higher cost than I could  build one for he bought all white paint instead of   paint we agreed on because this way is just faster  and his buddy's Wife Next Door came over yesterday   with her own five-month-old to see how things were  going and asked him if she could help and he said   yes despite knowing that I'm going mental because  he won't let me do anything even though this is   literally my profession she just stuck her kid  in my kids jumper and started helping as soon as   he told her she could help I just took my baby and  left told him I'd be at my mother's he's now upset   with me because I don't understand that he's just  trying to get this done so I commented on the fact   that he should have let me help him but instead he  allowed his buddy's wife to do something I should   have been doing in the first place he says I'm  overreacting because I know why he didn't want   me helping but if they don't care that their kid  is around it then that's a them problem I don't   even want to go back now I'm so dis gusted that  he's even letting her help while knowing that I'm   already ticked that he won't let me do anything  am I the jerk I really don't think op's the jerk   here especially considering they have a wealth of  experience in how to do this properly honestly if   anything I feel like either he is just feeling  like he needs to be masculine and have a role   here or he doesn't want to be stuck having to  take care of the child himself like what else   could it be our next story is am I the jerk for  telling my friend that he should stop giving his   daughter juice I female 28 have been friends with  Gordon male 30 since college and I'm fairly close   with him and his family Gordon has a six-year-old  daughter who has just had her first cavity and the   dentist suggested to my friend that he should  make sure she isn't getting too much junk food   Gordon was very frustrated inv venting to me about  how it's normal for kids to get cavities and that   his daughter is very healthy this quite simply  isn't true I know that they're pretty good for   food most of the time but since the age of two  she's been drinking juice it has gotten to the   point where she only drinks juice and the only way  they can get her to drink water is if they cut it   with water she'll throw a tantrum if there isn't  enough juice mixed with her water and her parents   always end up giving her more juice I told Gordon  that he should probably cut way back on the amount   of juice he gives her and it shouldn't be the only  thing that she drinks Gordon got very frustrated   with me he told me that as a single person without  any kids that I don't understand what it's like to   have a kid and that juice isn't as bad as people  say I told them that even if I don't have kids I   know there is a lot of sugar in the juice he buys  and that it isn't healthy Gordon ended up telling   me that if I can't be a supportive friend that I  shouldn't be near him or his family this was a few   days ago and he has not answered any text since I  mean to some degree I feel like there is a point   where it's like listen he doesn't really want your  input like I get you're trying to be helpful but   clearly it's agitating him at some level that said  I don't think Opie's wrong depending on the brand   they buy juice can be pound-for-pound worse than  even like regular soda it's complicated because at   some level it's like technically not op's business  and it's getting nosy if they're like saying stop   but like op's being very truthful our next story  is am I the jerk for refusing to eat a meal my   girlfriend made and hurting her feelings so my  girlfriend had her whole family over at our place   the other day and she cooked her best recipe and  a egg casserole the issue here is that I really   hate eggs I don't like the smell the texture the  sight and I especially hate the taste of eggs and   I've hated eggs for my whole life my girlfriend  knows this and she doesn't force me to eat eggs   but she's begged me to try her casserole at dinner  I tried it and my girlfriend was looking at me and   she knew I didn't like it I had to pour a lot  of ketchup on the casserole and pinch my nose   just so I could eat it her cousins asked me what  was wrong and my girlfriend explain my aversion   to eggs and they understood my girlfriend on the  other hand sounded like she was offended and she   told me that she cooked her eggs so they didn't  taste like eggs we have a lot of leftovers and   last night I made myself some craft macaroni my  girlfriend asked me why I wasn't having any of   the casserole and I was surprised that she even  asked I told her I didn't like it and she looked   at me silently for like a minute and went to our  room where she went to bed I can tell that she is   mad at me I think most people can clearly agree  op is not the jerk here they said listen I just   have never liked eggs it's a food I've just never  enjoyed whether that's for reasons the girlfriend   will ever see as valid or not that's the truth  to op and they even tried it and proved they   really didn't like it Prime ministered wrote I  know you don't like eggs so I made an egg dish   but don't worry I made them so they don't taste  like eggs here let me serve the egg dish to you   in front of company so you will have to eat eat  it so you don't make a scene and embarrass me oh   gasp you drowned my precious eggs and ketchup in  my family is questioning you me and the stability   of our relationship sob and you quietly refused to  eat the leftover egg dish later and made yourself   something else to eat how dare you I will go to  my room and be mad your girlfriend probably not   the jerk our next story is am I the jerk for not  giving my roommate a tampon and telling her she   could no longer use anything I own this is such  a stupid post and I'm still so embarrassed and   flabbergasted that this even happened to begin  with for context I 25-year-old female live with   roommates all are female we've all gotten close  in the 2 years we've lived together except for one   roommate we'll call her Emma 23 it's not that I  dislike Emma but we've never meshed as well as my   other roommates have the other day Emma called us  all out to the living room where she was folding   her laundry she held up a pair of underwear and  asked if it belonged to any of us and I recognized   them as mine so I said yes I apologized for the  mixup and she immediately started yelling at me   about how disgusting I am and how she wanted to  light herself on fire after touching them since   I live with girls this happens all the time  and none of us ever get weirded out by it I   can't even begin to count how many times someone's  bras socks underwear Etc have gotten mixed with my   laundry by mistake it's a bit embarrassing to  admit but I realized they were actually an old   pair of period underwear that had I cannot stress  this enough minor stains on them from years ago   when I first got my period Emma again decided  to loudly announce how gross she thought I was   and how I should be ashamed for not throwing them  out and try to get my other roommates to look and   join in on her Outburst thankfully I lived with  some awesome girls so nobody even batted an ie   despite me being absolutely horrified that someone  I live with would do something like that everyone   was quick to reassure me that it's no big deal and  it happens to all of us they tried to tell Emma to   chill out but she wasn't having it she just went  to her room and slammed the door for the next week   Emma didn't speak to me she would loudly talk to  all of our other roommates with no problem but the   minute I tried speaking to her she would just walk  away a couple days ago I was laying in bed and   Emma was the only other person home she knocked on  my door and when I opened it she sheepishly asked   me for a tampon seeing she woke up from a nap and  bled through her shorts how ironic I laughed and   told her no I don't have any left and I knew our  other roommates had some somewhere so it's not   like she had nothing yesterday she asked all of  us if she could borrow a shirt because her clothes   were in the washer we all said no and I even said  I wouldn't want her to light herself on fire after   touching any of my nasty stuff she rolled her  eyes and gave me a half-hearted apology and I   told her I don't want her touching or borrowing my  stuff if that's the way she acts about a natural   bodily function that she also goes through she  called me childish and said she didn't see the   big deal now there's this weird passive aggressive  Vibe every time we're in the same room and I'm   wondering if I should just apologize or not I've  talked to some friends and they've said I've got   nothing to apologize for but I'm wondering if I  overreacted so am I the jerk op's not the jerk and   I mean bottom line they didn't have any tampons  to give so like what can they even do and to be   fair I think a lot of other people would be a  lot more Petty than even op did try to find in   some kind of way to slip a comment about lighting  something on fire our next story is am I the jerk   for making my mom leave my house after calling  my daughter unladylike I 40-year-old female have   a daughter 13-year-old female who isn't exactly  a tomboy but does boy activities I'm saying boy   activities for the sake of this post and my mom  63-year-old female is pretty old-fashioned my   daughter isn't doing a sport right now but she  did a winter Sport and a fall sport whenever   my mom saw her coming back from basketball  all sweaty and stuff she would scrunch her   face she would tell me her being sweaty and nasty  isn't a good image but she wasn't saying that to   my daughter according to her and my daughter so I  didn't make too much of it on Saturday my husband   daughter son and I went to a semiformal sweet  16 my daughter wore a really nice green dress   but but my mom's issue my daughter doesn't wear  makeup so she wasn't wearing any upon noticing   she said Missy you are very unladylike and before  she could sit down I told her to get on her phone   and call someone because she's sure as heck wasn't  staying here after that my brother came and picked   her up now I wonder whether I overreacted because  my daughter didn't even seem to care and thinking   I should have let this slide am I the jerk  redditors even though the daughter was willing   to just ignore it and move on with it I think it's  fair that op stuck up for them in this situation   especially when your kid is only 13 years old  I mean I know like all kids nowadays have cell   phones and whatnot but like is it an expectation  for a 13-year-old to have to wear makeup now it's   unladylike if a 13-year-old girl doesn't do  a full face to a semiformal sweet 16 but with   that being said that's all the time we have for  today now if you want to hear another absolutely   crazy am I the jerk here story check out that  video on the left or if you missed my latest   video check out that video on the right that said  I'll see you all next time with some more stories

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Published: Sat Mar 23 2024