r/AITA GIRLFRIEND ANNOYED CAUSE SHE’S NOT MY MOM’S FAVOURITE!? - Reddit Stories

would you be the jerk for telling your parents  and pregnant sister that you will not baby proof   your area of the house we'll get into that in a  bit but first am I the jerk for telling my sister   she was being very obvious when trying to hide her  pregnancy my sister Amber is currently 3 months   pregnant with twins she's already begun to develop  a bump right now she's only told myself our   parents and our brother as well as giving myself  and our brother permission to tell our spouses   we've all agreed to keep it a secret until she's  ready the issue is is she's become very obvious   about it to the point where she's doing near  comical things to hide it when we're around family   which has been frequently as of late picture the  stuff people do in sitcoms when the characters   aren't pregnant but the actor is covering her  stomach with her purse holding her older daughter   in front of the bump wearing much bigger clothes  when she's typically the type to wear things that   show off her figure Amber has always been pretty  fit as she's a gym rat the bump itself doesn't   even look like extra fat or anything thing just  a very pronounced baby bump if she ever has to   move something from her stomach she's very quick  to hide it so obviously many have caught on but   for the most part we're good sports no one ever  directly asked us but would make hints I never   entertained them we all gathered on Sunday for a  family dinner Amber was holding her 2-year-old for   a bit when the little one wanted to go play Amber  then tried to cover herself with a blanket my   cousin 30 said all right Amber cut The Dramatics  we all all know a few instantly reprimanded my   cousin Amber turned bride red she refused to  say anything in the moment though later quietly   confirmed to our Aunt telling her to spread it  around Amber is now very upset I agree our cousin   was obnoxious and shouldn't have said anything  I've tried to be supportive and comforting however   Amber kept saying I don't know how they figured  it out I finally said sweetie you really weren't   trying hard I respect why you wanted to wait but  by this point it was quite obvious she got mad   and tried to insist it wasn't obvious I said  it absolutely was and she didn't help matters   by acting like she was in a sitcom I stressed our  cousin was wrong but she wasn't as stealth as she   thought edit I wasn't saying she should have done  more to hide it I also don't think she was wrong   to hide it I'm just saying the sentiment I don't  know how they figured it out doesn't work when she   was being obvious now she's being mad at me and  says I'm victim blaming I said I'm absolutely not   no one should have said anything but she was being  obvious and she shouldn't pretend otherwise am I   the jerk this isn't like it's somebody telling it  like it is just saying the cold hard truth this   is just actual truth they tried to hide it and op  tried supporting them but it's just a simple fact   that they couldn't hide it very well it was  just an obvious thing I mean at some point it   actually just kind of gets insulting to think that  people can't notice it also hi I'm Steven and if   you guys enjoy getting to decide whether or not  all of these people are jerks why not hit those   like And subscribe buttons down below that said  our next story is am I the jerk for not letting   my relatives stay in my house when they visited  without telling me I live by myself and I travel   a lot for my work about 8 hours ago I came home  and took a nap which turned into a 4-Hour snooze   Fest I woke up to knocking on my gate and yelling  I went to see it and it was my cousin Ed and his   siblings along with an aunt and her kids and  grandkids it was about a dozen of them all   smiling at me Ed told me there was going to be a  little family reunion and they needed me to let   them stay at my house because it was the only  place that had enough room I said no and told   them I had no prior knowledge nor did they inform  me beforehand I also told them the reason I live   by myself is because I don't trust most of my  relatives Ed told me they have no money and   other relatives can't host them as their houses  aren't big enough I told them they could stay   with another aunt but her house is unfinished and  has major leakage They begged me and I still said   no I offered to let the younger ones stay with me  but that's it they swore at me and left instead   Ed told me I was a jerk but I shot back that he  didn't inform me and he should know I won't let   anyone else stay at my house because he was one  of the reasons for it he threw a party got drunk   started a fight and destroyed my TV am I the jerk  I feel bad for turning them away but they should   have asked me first I don't think go is the jerk  here and I'm willing to bet that they showed up   expect expecting that op would say no and that's  why they didn't ask first you know they tried the   whole let's show up and just hope that they're  kind of a pushover I guess cuz we don't want to   leave here with a no I just see this as them  shooting their shot and very clearly getting   rejected for good reason our next story is am I  the jerk for buying my youngest a car and when my   oldest told us we never spent that much money on  her I pulled out receipts my oldest daughter was   a lot of work and we spent so much money getting  her help she was very destructive growing up and   we were doing everything under the sun to try to  help her I will not share Her diagnosis but it   was one they don't diagnosed kids until their  late teens after that she got much better and   is won the FasTrack to go to college at 22 her  younger sister Sally 18 is also going to college   Sally had it extremely rough growing up with her  sister they do not have a good relationship but it   is a million times better I'm in Family Therapy  with her Sally has a lot of resentment of being   in a shadow for her childhood we both agree with  this she brought up many times we would drain all   our money to help her oldest that every time we  drained all the money on her sister and she was   left with scraps my wife and I talked about it  and agree she is right we decided to gift her   something she wants Sally when we offered this was  shocked but really happy we are much closer and as   she explained later us offering shows her we were  willing to put her first for once our relationship   has greatly improved s finally asked for a car so  we got her a car my oldest has been upset since   she keeps making comments that we never spent so  much on her so Sally must be the favorite we've   already talked to her about it I got tired of the  comments and made a list of how much we've spent   over the years in from every program special  events and so on I also brought up that we're   still supporting her even though we could have  stopped at 18 this resulted in a huge argument   where she called me a huge jerk and it's unfair  Sally gets a car I can only imagine for somebody   like their youngest who saw their older sibling  get all of the special treatment because of their   conditions to the degree of tons of money being  focused only on them to try to get them along I'm   sure this was a huge turning point for them and  it just reeks of jealousy from the oldest I don't   think Opie is the jerk here Saint and villain  said not the jerk your oldest needs to grow up   and realize that she's gotten a lot of advantages  that weren't provided to your youngest it sounds   like she's so used to being first that she can't  handle her sister being put first for once also   at the age of 22 if she wants a car she can get  a job and get one zookeeper 0304 said this LOL   at 22 I had two kids and was living independently  I wasn't in a great spot but I worked my butt off   and managed to get myself a vehicle the summer  before my boy started kindergarten she's pouting   because her sister has Justified feelings and is  being compensated for being a ghost in her own   home while her sister ran the roost albeit not  necessarily because she wanted to she needs to   realize that her issues though not her fault  contributed to her sister's childhood being   garbage because their parents were having to focus  on her and that she's making the choice now that   she's better to be a petty jerk she'd do well to  do some serious introspection and try to see how   her sister felt this entire time it sounds like  her sister just accepted her situation and didn't   add to her parents load when she could have  started acting out and being attention seeking   too our next story is am I the jerk for telling  my sister that if she doesn't like the living   conditions of my place she should leave she's  technically my steps sister but we're basically   sisters and I treat her like one I 29-year-old  female live on a tiny Farm Off the Grid in the   middle of nowhere the only livable building on  the farm is a small trailer and there's no power   I have to use the generator or Plumbing I have two  kids 8-year-old male and 6-year-old female their   father isn't in the picture and won't be until the  end of fall 2032 I'm fine with the lack of basic   necessities as I live off the land and I don't  need much in general my kids are homeschooled   and I plan to do so until middle school at least  recently my sister 33-year-old female got divorced   and evicted from her ex's place she has three kids  5-year-old male twins and a three-year-old female   she had nowhere to go and I invited her to live  with me not even a week had passed and she started   complaining about having to use the ouse lack of  water we have a well with a pump and a propane   heater that is small so not really accommodating  for a large family and the fact that the drinkable   water had to be carried from another well in  buckets she also complained that we live far   away from any civilization the nearest hospital  is 20 mi away and if anything happens there's a   chance we won't be able to get there on time  her biggest complaint was that I asked her to   help around the farm with small chores and that I  asked one of her 5-year-olds to bring some water   from the well and gave G him a small bucket I see  nothing wrong with children doing age appropriate   tasks around the farm I was raised the same  way until I was 12 I told her that if she's   dissatisfied with the way I live she's free to  leave I'm not locking her up to be my slave around   the farm I provided her with Free Housing and food  she said that I'm trying to use her children for   child labor and that I'm endangering her life we  had a nasty verbal fight that ended up with us   exchanging some really unsavory words and now  she's still sulking I'm wondering whether I'm   the jerk in this situation 100% not the jerk  here I don't think Opie's described anything   that I would deem out of line here and it's very  understandable especially when they're moving into   your place and they know fully well how your  life is and what they're getting themselves   into moving into that situation our next story is  am I the jerk for not wanting to let my autistic   brother live with me and my husband I 29-year-old  female got married to my husband 29-year-old male   last month I have two older sisters 33 and 35 and  younger brother 24 who has autism I don't have a   good relationship with my mom and brother became  my whole life I saw how she was spoiling him for   the cost of me and my sisters like blowing candles  and unpacking our presents at our birthdays buying   whatever he wanted but we had to earn the money if  we wanted something even cancelling plans like my   college graduation trip because he wanted to stay  he also was never taught any chores and through   a tantrum when he was asked simple things like  cleaning dishes the argument was always you must   understand he has autism so I was happy to move  out and live with my partner at my wedding my mom   took me to the side and said how happy she was  that my brother will live with me and my husband   I don't have to say that I was shocked no one ever  told me or my husband about this plan I asked what   she was talking about and her answer was isn't  that obvious he likes you the most and you have   the money I was Furious it was my wedding and she  was trying to force me and my husband to take care   of the brat that she created I said that I won't  let my brother ruin our lives and she can forget   about this nonsense now she and part of my family  are calling me a selfish jerk but on the other   side my husband and friends are on my side am I  the jerk edit one I checked this post on my break   at work and I wasn't expecting so many responses  in such a short time I really appreciate all your   opinions and suggestions on what to do I won't  change my decision but I'll try to somehow help   my mom I'll try to convince her to go to therapy  first and maybe we'll talk it out I don't know   if I'll be able to cut them from my life they're  still my family but if nothing changes I'll keep   it at the minimum so overall I especially don't  think op is the jerk here I mean even if it's   their parents that have some kind of disability  you're not like obligated to take care of these   people and especially not when it's a situation  where you've grown up feeling second rate and you   kind of despise the person whether realistically  it's well-founded or not they shouldn't just try   to pawn somebody off on you like that and there  shouldn't be any expectation that op is all of   a sudden going to take them in and take care of  them themselves Dragon Celica wrote not the jerk   I've heard of some thoughtless wedding gifts  but your mom takes the cake by trying to gift   you the problem she created she didn't even wait  until after the honeymoon any chance she's tried   pawning him off on your sisters previously to  no avail and now you're her last chance to wash   her hands of him your mom didn't do right by your  brother with you and your sisters being Collateral   Damage I don't know where he falls on the Spectrum  but it doesn't sound like she helped him learn how   to thrive instead of working towards a solution  she's trying to drop him at your door and bailing   sounds like she has no long-term plan which means  this is going to keep escalating prepare to put   up whatever barriers you need to for you and  your husband to survive the oncoming mess our   next story is am I the jerk for telling my dad  I won't be the babysitter this summer or anytime   after that kind of feel like I'm a bit dumb for  talking to him but want to know if I'm the jerk so   I 17-year-old female have been forced to babysit  for my dad and his wife of 5 years for the last   four Summers the kids are my dad step kids who  are currently seven six and five no the kids are   100% not my dad's kids and yes I am positive that  they're not his kids doesn't really matter anyway   but I wanted to put that out there because I know  the ages would make it appear like at least one   could be but no my dad was never a very good dad  to me when I was a kid he was really absent from   our house he left raising me to my mom and would  show up when others were around to make it look   good but he never got involved or cared about me  or my life actually the one time I was always sure   to see him was his birthday when he would get Mom  to cook his favorite meal and open gifts he never   failed to show up when it was about him my mom  got sick when I was eight and my dad bailed and he   filed for divorce he left me to deal with my dying  mom and unfortunately for her the divorce didn't   go through before she passed so he was still her  husband and yeah he wasn't emotionally present for   me then or physically he dumped me on a babysitter  until I was 11 and then I was seen as old enough   to be left alone when I was 12 he moved in with  his wife who was still pregnant at the time and   they weren't married then they got married when  her youngest was about 5 months old they told me   I was going to level up and be a good big sis to  her kids so that they could live their own lives   and the kids kids would have someone to look up to  then came the forced babysitting during the summer   all summer long I always tried to find ways out  of it but I felt like I had no options at least   no realistic ones my dad's wife is kind of better  than my dad she isn't very involved or directly   caring to her kids but she will often bark at me  for not being more sweet to her kids and saying   how sad her kids look when I don't interact with  them it's more than my dad would do but she's not   exactly getting involved with their own kids I've  been planning for over a year to get out I turn 18   in May and graduate a couple of weeks later most  likely I'll go to stay with friends on my 18th   birthday I will be totally gone and never return  I won't babysit and I know they expected that to   happen and I don't know that they would actually  pay for someone else or if they'd maybe leave the   kids without someone watching them so I decided to  tell my dad I won't be babysitting this summer or   at all in my head at least if she cares a little  she might get someone else in my dad told me I've   been the most consistent person in the kids' lives  and I'm a butt for dismissing them like that he   told me I should be staying and doing what he and  his wife want because they put a roof over my head   for so long now he told me I'm going to cost him  money with this his wife started yelling at me   for leaving her kids behind and how sad they'll be  am I the jerk honestly I feel bad for the kids but   that's just because they're awful parents and it  shouldn't never be in that situation to begin with   with Opie's absolutely right to get the heck out  of there as soon as possible lest they allow their   life to become just controlled babysitter person  for these people for the rest of their life it   always makes me laugh too when a parent like I've  done so much for you over the last 18 years as if   they're not legitimately legally responsible to  do so first of all you didn't ask to be here or   for them to have that responsibility to begin with  and Uncle Sam said it's not a nice thing to do for   your kids it's what you literally have to do our  next story is am I the jerk I 20-year-old female   refused to stay at my boyfriend's 26-year-old male  Hotel on my girl's trip a little backstory to give   everyone some context so me and my girlfriends  are planning to go to London at the end of April   because one of the girls has a birthday and for  that case we decided to go to London since she   always wanted to go there we've been planning this  trip since last year December 2023 and I made sure   to inform my boyfriend of the trip and he said  it was fine I then informed him that we might   stay at a friend's place since hotels in London  are a bit pricey or we might stay at a hotel but   it all depends on how we feel fast forward to  this month March 2024 me and my friends were on   FaceTime trying to decide which hotel to reserve  for the trip and we decided on the hotel but we   were still considering staying at a friend's place  still I told my boyfriend all of this and that's   when he told me that he was also going to London  with a friend of his but he doesn't doesn't want   to sleep in the same hotel room as his friend  which I understood fully and he went ahead and   asked me to reserve a hotel room for him as  well and I accepted but I reminded him that   me and the girls weren't sure if we were going to  stay at the hotel like I mentioned they're pricey   and we're traveling on a budget so staying at a  friend's place is going to save us some money but   we reserve the hotel just in case of anything  then I asked him which dates he was going to   London and he mentioned the same dates as me but I  just didn't think anything of it but it was such a   coincidence he then told me that he wants me to  stay with him at his hotel during my girls trip   since we're a couple which I understand but like  I mentioned from the start this is a trip that I   planned with my girls since December and it would  be rude of me to tell them that hey I'm going to   stay with my boyfriend at his hotel during our  trip yet we planned everything together but he   said that during the day I could go and hang out  with my friends and then at night I go to his   hotel to sleep and that he doesn't think it makes  sense for us as a couple to fly out in the same   city and not stay at the same place but I said no  cuz he wasn't in my plans since the beginning and   I can't just start to change everything just  because he feels like he also wants to go to   London on those exact dates I'm pretty dubious on  the whole oh hey also I'm going to London on the   exact same dates too why don't you just stay with  me I don't know if it's like attachment issues or   what but it seems kind of clingy to say the least  and also like I feel like part of the fun of a   trip like that with some of your pals is kind of  the experience of just splitting a room together   is that weird is it not like part of the fun of  the experience of going on a group trip like that   somewhere with a bunch of your friends to be left  in this situation where who's arguing who's going   to sleep on the bed who's going to sleep on the  floor like it just feels like he's invading on   the girls trip this next story is am I the jerk  for not giving my younger niece a nickname I have   two brothers who I hate very much my older brother  has a seven-year-old daughter Lana and my younger   brother has a 14-year-old daughter Tori I like  tor's Mom so I stayed in contact with her even   after the divorce this way I was involved in tor's  life we are very close and I adore her however I   was never involved in Lana's life because I don't  get along with either of her parents for me she's   more like a stranger kid not my niece I have  a few nicknames for Tori but I mostly call her   noodle because her hair is Curly a few days ago  my parents invited us all over and when Tori and I   were talking I called her noodle a couple of times  my older brother asked to talk to me in private he   basically called me a jerk and said I need to find  a nickname for Lana as well I said sure how about   devil spawn he called me a bench and started  a long rant about how I'm showing favoritism   towards Tori was the devil spawn comment really  necessary probably not I get it though it was   supposed to be a shot at the parents it was never  anything actually about the seven-year-old girl   being involved here op is not a jerk for refusing  to give a nickname or some some kind of term of   endearment to the kid but I also kind of hope  that it doesn't go around that op called them   devil spawn even if it was meant more for the  parents not the kid I mean I bet there's people   out there that would say op is the jerk just for  the devil spawn comment alone our next story is am   I the jerk for telling my parents and my pregnant  sister that I will not baby proof my area of the   house and saying that I'll be locking them out  instead my parents live in the in-law suite of my   house they pay rent to help me cover the mortgage  but the house is completely mine their rent is   $600 a month that includes all utilities including  internet and streaming services my older sister is   pregnant again yay and she needs a place to stay  as her baby daddy bailed out and moved back to   Romania without her my parents agreed to let her  stay with them they didn't ask me but like I said   they pay rent and can do as they wish with their  living area my parents have full run of my house   except for my bedroom and my office my dad likes  to putter in the garage and plays with my dog my   mom likes to bake in my kitchen and work in the  garden the basement has a kitchen but it's small   and mine is just better all around nope they want  me to Baby proof my levels of the house I asked   why I would need to do this as the kids will 100%  not be in my area my mom said that it would not   be fair to keep the kids cooped up in the basement  all day I said that there was a huge yard and sun   room for them to spend time in if they really  wanted my sister said that she couldn't spend   all her time cramped up like that with three  kids I asked when she found out she was having   twins she shut up I dragged it out of them that  she was planning on watching her friends toddler   for money I said I didn't have insurance for her  to run a business out of my house she said it was   all under the table and that she needed money this  was when I said that I would be taking the keys to   my area back from my parents and I was also going  to change the locks I said that I agreed to let   my parents live with me to help them out they AG  to let her move in because she's an irresponsible   wench that can't understand birth control I never  agree to let her use my house as a day home I know   I don't want three kids here along with four  adults well three adults and a pregnant idiot   I thought this but didn't say it my mom is mad  that I'm going to lock them out of my area but   my dad understands the thing is I would let him  keep a key but my mom would get it from him and   she would give it to my sister I said I would  leave the garage locked the same and that was   good enough for him my mom and my sister are upset  and giving me the silent treatment my mom got my   dad to ask me if they paid for the insurance if my  sister could watch her friend's kid I agreed but I   did say that they should get my sister to pay it  100% not the jerk op knows their boundaries and   they're enforcing them and I say good on them for  doing so they knew when the line was being crossed   and they locked down their property to make sure  that line is not being crossed honestly I've heard   too many stories on r/ entitled parents where  they allow somebody like the sister to move in   the parents still have the keys and the inevitable  that op is preventing here happens they bust in   and take over the whole house and it's a daycare  our next story is am I the jerk for telling my   neighbor I'm not her babysitter over the summer  I 38-year-old female have a neighbor we'll call   her Sarah 38-year-old female I'm married with two  girls 8 and 11 she has two boys 8 and 12 Sarah's   married but her husband travels a lot for work and  she works from home I'm a teacher so I have school   breaks and Summers off over winter break Sarah's  kids kept coming over to see if my kids could   play play means they've been sent over because  they're annoying mom and she's trying to work   backstory the kids were friends when they were  younger but as they got older they don't really   have much in common and they've drifted apart her  kids go to a parochial school and my kids go to   a public school so they don't even have teachers  or classmates in common they don't have a ton in   common anymore and when they do play Sarah's kids  fight a lot with each other and with my kids one   day over winter break the younger one came to the  door to see if my kids could play and I told them   they didn't want to play right now Sarah sent me  a text saying that she was on a work call and she   could really use some time with the boys out of  the house I caved and told my girls to just try   and find something they could do together 10  minutes later my oldest came upstairs crying   saying that one of the boys made a nasty comment  about how boring our house was and it was dumb   that I wouldn't let him play Xbox the Xbox is my  husband's and it's in our family room where I was   doing laundry and watching a show I told the boys  if they were bored they were more than welcome to   leave now it's almost spring break and Sarah just  asked if I could watch the boys two days because   she has two busy work days and I'm off work I told  her no because we would be on vacation in Florida   visiting family she said okay and jokingly said I  guess I'll just hit you up in the summer I replied   and said that I will not be babysitting her kids  over the summer true emergency sure I said I'm   sorry but just because I'm not at school during  the summer does not mean that I'm your free child   care yes I don't physically go to work over the  summer but I take online classes for my masters   and I teach online summer school meaning I'm also  working from home she blew up at me and told me   that I should help her because she's alone a lot  and now that the kids are older it's harder to   keep them entertained all day I told her that I  didn't care if the kids played outside together   during the summer but I was not going to be a  caretaker or responsible for her kids unless   she was going to compensate me I tried explaining  to her that the kids do not get along the way that   they used to my kids don't fight with each other  the way her kids fight with each other and my kids   don't really want them to be at our house all the  time now she's ticked and not speaking and her   oldest told my oldest that I'm not a good person  because I won't help my neighbor am I really the   jerk because I won't watch her kids over the  summer Opie's pretty clearly not the jerk here   and I feel like there's just like a weird guilt  tripping trying to go on here which doesn't even   work because who actually cares about an attempted  guilt tripping from their neighbor our next story   is am I the jerk for telling my fiance that while  I love her she can't expect my mom to prioritize   her my fiance Janie and I are in the middle  of planning our August 2024 wedding we had a   longish engagement of 2 years so that we could  save my mom got engaged around Christmas time   of this year and said her wedding date for May  20124 her wedding is the last week in May ours   is the first week in August so they're just over  two months apart Jane was pretty shocked to hear   about my mom's wedding she asked me if I thought  it was weird and I didn't understand why I would   she explained that she couldn't Envision a parent  getting married that close to their child because   she would expect the focus to be all on the child  she said her parent wouldn't even consider it I   think this situation has been a bit hard on Janie  as my mom is a professional wedding planner with a   virtually no budget and the family seemingly  only cares about her wedding Janie recently   had an altercation with my mom because Janie  mentioned she was going for a dress fitting   and someone asked if my mom had seen her dress  my mom said no and Janie made a joke that she   wouldn't take my mom to any of her appointments  as she might start trying on dresses my mom asked   Janie if Janie had a problem with her and Janie  just rolled her eyes my mom's fiance and I kept   them apart the rest of the night and when we got  to the car I told Janie that that wasn't called   for she began to get upset so I reassured her that  I get why she feels this way then and I might be   the jerk for this I said while I love her so much  she can't expect my mom to feel as strongly about   our wedding or to prioritize her Janie became  very quiet and didn't want to talk about it now   I feel I may have been insensitive I can't falter  in the situation obviously it's disappointing you   want everybody to be super enthused and engaged  in your wedding and you know for it to feel like   the special day that it is I mean thankfully there  still is almost two months in between it so it's   not like it's just right on top of each other I  don't fault her for feeling the way she does but   I also don't think op is the jerk for just trying  to tell her the truth I guess the interesting   thing to consider though is although Opie saying  listen you can't expect my mom to Prior prze you   has op considered it's not just about Janie but  also not prioritizing op just a thought but with   that being said that's all the time we have for  today now if you want to hear another absolutely   crazy am I the jerk here story check out that  video on the left or if you missed my latest   video check out that video on the right that said  I'll see you all next time with some more stories

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Published: Fri Mar 15 2024