r/AITA I REFUSE TO SHARE MY HUGE INHERITANCE! - Reddit Stories

could you possibly be the jerk for not sharing  your inheritance we'll get into that in a bit   but first am I the jerk for dropping off my step  kids with my in-laws and saying that they're not   my problem anymore my wife passed away just before  last Thanksgiving it came out of nowhere and I'm   somewhat broken to make it worse my step kids have  decided that since I'm not their father they don't   have to obey me anymore they are teens and they've  never been my biggest fans they love their dad and   I was only ever their mom's husband however when  Dina was alive they treated our home well and me   with respect after she died they became jerks  yes I know their mom died it sucks but that   was my wife and the mother of my children I'm  also having a tough time dealing their paternal   grandparents are also crapping on me for not being  more understanding of all they're going through   I've tried I've offered them counseling I've given  them space I've been there for them I'm at my wits   end the last straw was when we were over there  for supper last week I said it was time to go   so I could get The Littles to bed my step kids  said they didn't didn't want to go and that I   should leave them and come back for them it is a  2-hour Drive I said no their grandparents said I   was being too hard on them and that I should let  them stay I'm having a hard time with two small   children the loss of my wife and two teen jerks  without having my in-laws pile on to make my life   more difficult so I did I also packed up their  stuff instead of coming back for them I dropped   off their stuff at the grandparents house I have  two kids under five to take care of I don't really   have time to baby two teens that are are just  making my life harder my house is clean for the   first time in weeks my kids are sleeping through  the night my step kids are living with their uncle   in the same city as me so they can finish high  school with their friends everyone on their dad's   side is against me I really don't care I was told  by both of them and by their father that I am not   to try and parent them so I'm not I actually do  not have any parental rights over them their dad   was not even okay with me being a contact for them  at school so his parents are the contact my wife   left behind a small insurance policy which I will  divide between the four kids but I was the bread   winner in my house I bought pretty much everything  there for the last 8 years so now it's all mine my   in-laws are calling me a jerk for abandoning the  kids but I have two kids that need me more the   older two have a dad as well as grandparents  to help them my kids do too I guess but they   also have me and I want them to have a peaceful  home I don't think op is really the jerk here and   I'm wondering considering everything that went  on here and op these responsibilities or should   I say lack of responsibilities why are they the  one even expected to take care of these kids if   the father of those kids doesn't want op to have  any parental responsibilities doesn't want them to   be a contact for emergencies why aren't they just  living with the father that should be the priority   regardless shouldn't it also hi I'm Steven and if  you guys enjoy getting to decide whether or not   all of these people are jerks why not hit those  like And subscribe buttons down below that said   our next story is am I the jerk for being mad at  a friend who wants to propose on my wedding day my   fiance and I have been planning our wedding for  a year and a half now we've had our date picked   out since the week we got engaged and even had a  long engagement my fiance has told his friends on   multiple occasions what day we're getting married  now friend a has sent a message stating that he's   planning to propose to his girlfriend the same  day my fiance told him that's our wedding day   again he claims he doesn't remember my fiance ever  telling him well we all went to eat one night and   I distinctly remember mentioning our wedding date  friend a wanted to have an engagement party right   after the pictures and proposal his friend said he  would just do proposal and pictures and then come   to our wedding when he can if he doesn't move  the date my fiance's friend just sent another   message saying he's not changing the date but  he will be at our wedding whenever he can make   it well personally I feel like that's pretty low  of someone to propose on their friend's wedding   day and I really don't want them invited to our  wedding anymore there are 365 days of the year and   you choose our day no I guess it depends on like  what activities are going on in that day for the   friend like is there something that you literally  cannot reschedule otherwise if it's just oh I have   a dinner reservation on that day and I don't want  to push it to any other day I mean it's kind of a   jerk move I think ultimately either way op should  try to take the high road and say listen I wish   you the best of luck focus on you and your big  day and I hope it turns out the greatest for you   our next story is am I the jerk for telling my  brother's fiance that she and my wife are not in   the same situation I started dating my wife Anna  in Middle School we've been friends classmates   roommates everything to each other and given  our long history she's obviously very close to   my family my dad is the oldest of three siblings  I'm one of three brothers my uncle has two girls   and my aunt has one girl obviously growing up my  female cousins had no elder sister type family   member to look up to then Anna started coming  to to my home for dates our parents wouldn't   let 13-year-olds go out and eventually my  brothers and especially my cousins got very   close to her Anna was the elder sister they all  wanted and Anna has over the years spent a lot of   time with them helping them navigate being a girl  their words and with other girly stuff she's also   been very close to my brothers basically Anna has  had years to become a very special and important   member of my family she even had my cousins as her  bridesmaids at our wedding 3 years ago recently my   brother Blake proposed to his girlfriend of 2  years Laura they started planning the wedding   and Laura started complaining that our family  didn't love or care about her and Blake because we   weren't making an effort she wants my cousins to  be bridesmaids help plan and organize the wedding   was hoping we'd throw her a bachelorette party  Etc basically all the things she knows they did   for Anna and so far no one has shown any interest  or done anything frankly we don't know Laura very   well she lived lived in another state and it was  mostly Blake visiting her all these years also   Laura doesn't share the same interests as Anna  and my cousins and often rejected their offers   to hang out she's not very family oriented either  has said she feels uncomfortable during family   gatherings whereas Anna has always been the helper  and is generally very friendly so understandably   my family is treating this wedding as any other  wedding everyone congratulated them has rsvpds   are willing to buy gifts that they want and not  much else and Laura is very angry about that she's   saying that she feels unwelcomed she was openly  complaining and making everyone uncomfortable so   I stopped her and said she cannot compare Anna's  role in my family to her role as the situations   are very different I don't know why she took  it to me I'm saying she's less worthy than   Anna she got mad and called me a jerk and Anna a  pretentious bench before leaving everyone is on   my side but Blake has told me he was a bit angry  with with me Laura has been giving him a hard time   over not defending her Anna is very upset I can't  help but think I shouldn't have said anything and   just ignored the tension like everyone else I just  don't know how to think am I the jerk I just can't   blame op because if somebody doesn't know another  person that well they're just not going to be that   interested in going out of their way to do all  of these extravagant things for another person's   wedding right unless there's like some documented  history of them purposefully leaving Laura out or   willfully choosing to exclude them from things  that otherwise are the norm for the family I   don't think gopi's the jerk our next story is am  I the jerk for not telling my mother I was getting   married I male 31 came out to my mom female 54  about a decade ago she didn't handle it well at   first we had a big argument which she apologized  for but she said she didn't feel comfortable   talking about my sexuality and asked me to not  bring it up again I hoped this was temporary   so I tried mentioning if if I was dating someone  new over the years but she always got upset over   it so I stopped bringing it up we don't talk  much because of this recently my husband and I   got married I invited the rest of my family but  didn't invite her or tell her about the wedding   everyone in my family knows the situation between  us so no one was surprised she wasn't there a few   weeks after the wedding my uncle mentioned it  to her since he assumed I told her about it   apparently she was really upset I hadn't told her  and ended up crying on his shoulder I found out   about this when he called me angry at me for  putting him in that situation since then the   family is divided with half saying it was cruel of  me to not tell her what was happening since people   in my family are evenly split I wanted to get an  outside perspective on whether or not I screwed   up so am I the jerk I can't fault op here I mean  time and time again even just like light things   about you dating someone or seeing someone made  them just utterly shut down and and not want to   talk about anything so I can completely understand  why the idea of you marrying your partner would   be such a nonstarter in your mind for your mom it  got to the point I imagine for Opie where it feels   like it's a better and safer idea to just not even  approach it than try to invite her she had never   been supportive of op in that way in the slightest  so why is it different now our next story is am I   the jerk for getting my friend's title of valid  dictorian removed my friend Janie and I are in   the same Senior English class Janie is very smart  and when our semester ended a few weeks ago we   found out that she was the valid dictorian of our  class My Best Friend Sophie was second so she was   a bit disappointed in English we have vocab tests  every other Friday with 40 words on them these are   usually very hard and Janie always gets the  highest score in the class last Thursday my   computer was dead so I borrowed Jan's to turn in  an assignment when she gave it to me it was open   to asside with vocab questions I wasn't sure what  it was but I took a picture of it last Friday when   we took the test I noticed that I recognized  a couple of the questions I found the picture   I'd taken and went to the URL and found all the  questions from the test and going back through   all of the tests all of the questions were there I  emailed my picture to our English teacher and let   him know my concerns that Janie was cheating  he had a meeting with her on Monday and she   is ticked at me because they're looking into  giving her an academic Integrity warning which   may invalidate her from being valid dictorian she  told all of our friends what I did and they all   sided with her because she says what she's doing  is technically not cheating I have basically been   ostracized from school except for by Sophie  who is still talking to me I don't really get   what op got out of this and I think op is the  jerk because if the teacher is super lazy and   just uses some online resource that somebody can  Google find and use to study for the test that's   not cheating right I mean if you go somewhere  and you see all of the answers online and you   study that are you cheating can you really get  in trouble for that because you found it on the   internet I mean I get if they were pulling it up  in the middle of the test and stuff but you learn   it by heart off of the computer it's not like they  uploaded it and have this secret database they're   pulling everything from and even if this was like  some sneaky way that they found to get the answer   Banks or whatnot ratting on them would just not  be something that I would think to do I don't know   if I would have the courage to join in or try to  ask for something like that but I kind of respect   the hustle and kind of understand and especially  in the first place it was only found out because   they were kind enough to share their laptop with  you somebody that was willing to help you out in   that time you turn around and go hey let me rat on  this person as soon as possible is it really like   an upstanding thing do you walk away from this  feeling like yeah I did something or is it coming   from an insecure place where they're jealous that  a person like this is just always getting first   I got to take them down and knock them off their  pedestal they can't get away with this Injustice   our next story is am I the jerk for call calling  my sister a fat bench after she insulted my son   I male 44 have a 19-year-old son who I'll refer  to as Max Max has always been slightly overweight   not fat but not skinny either weighing around 250  lbs at 6'4 he was incredibly active in High School   playing football as well as wrestling for his  school he has always been a little embarrassed   by his extra chub but has been slowly growing  more and more confident as he's gotten older   which has been incredibly encouraging to watch my  39-year-old female sister who I'll call Beth and   I have never had a strong relationship during  our childhood she was often given preferential   treatment due to minor health conditions she had  which led to her constantly tormenting me until I   was finally able to move out at 18 after I moved I  went limited contact with all family however when   I began to have children my wife encouraged me to  be more involved with my family for the sake of my   kids my children became very close with my nieces  and nephews over the years so I continued to keep   the PE peace for the sake of my kids all of this  leads to today my niece's 22nd birthday of course   my family attended the party which was held at  Beth's house in the beginning everything was   going fine the kids were spending time with their  cousins while my wife and I were enjoying the   party as well Max was sitting on the couch in the  living room playing a game on his cousin's Xbox   along with his younger cousin when Beth decided  to provide The Unwanted comment of you know max   if you spent a little less time on those video  games you could probably drop a few pounds maybe   find yourself a girlfriend the party fell quiet  as Max sat there embarrassed by Beth's comments   I responded to Beth by saying don't be ridiculous  this is a party we're all sitting around eating   and drinking having a good time why are you trying  to embarrass him to which she replied I wasn't   trying to embarrass him I was just trying to offer  him some advice it's not my fault he so sensitive   after I heard that I snapped back at Beth saying  who the freak do you think you are to be be giving   my son advice about his weight max goes for a  run every morning and works as a carpenter when   was the last time you climbed a flight of stairs  Beth looking offended snarled good Lord I was just   trying to help him out and you insult me like  that you always did have an anger issue I feel   bad for your wife after that I snapped I yelled  back you're just a fat bench who try to embarrass   my son in front of all of our family just so  you could get some attention then you have the   balls to try and insult me go freak yourself you  stupid bench after that my wife and kids and I all   left since then my phone has been bombarded with  texts and calls from family members telling me to   apologize I spoke to my wife about it and while  she agrees Beth was out of line for saying what   she said I took it too far and need to apologize  to Beth and my niece for causing a scene on her   birthday so am I the jerk I don't know I don't  think I can blame op too much for what they did   but ultimately they did help in causing and adding  to this scene I would apologize to both kids Max   for having to have experienced the whole thing  and also the niece for having that whole thing go   down at their birthday party our next story is am  I the jerk for calling out the obvious favoritism   in my girlfriend's family my 29-year-old female  girlfriends Heather 26-year-old female parents   were hosting a family dinner with her two older  brothers and I as well as her brother significant   others and families we've been dating for 9 months  Heather comes from a family of doctors parents and   brothers and is the only non-doctor in the family  she's an interior designer so she sometimes talks   about how she's been treated like the biggest  failure ever and looked down upon by her brothers   as they got into med school and she didn't it  also didn't help that she was into women and that   became a whole thing Heather mentions how it was  difficult at first but it all eventually worked   out I'm a lawyer from a family of quite well-known  lawyers and I believe that's the sole reason why   her family likes me they've met me a few times  before and we're all quite nice but only on the   surface as I could tell the other day as we sat  down for dinner Heather's brother made a horrible   comment to her along the lines of at least you  did a very good job with being with OP given you   made poor choices in your career this really  upset me Heather loves her job and lifestyle   and doesn't deserve to be put down by her family  so I said it's odd that you said that Heather has   her life figured out much better than everyone  at this table myself included the whole table   got silent and everyone stared at me her dad said  I took jokes too seriously and needed to be more   relaxed I said I knew what jokes sound like and  that wasn't one so the night went on but there was   this tension Heather said I needed to just let it  go and that I created unnecessary drama I'm amazed   that she lets her family treat her like that so  I'm wondering if I was the jerk today was I I mean   was it necessary to have this whole thing no but  it's not like op or their partner ever asked for   it and if it's being aired out there and they're  trying to put your wife down I think it's fair if   you say something to stand up for them and point  out hey they're happy and they've got their stuff   together so stop projecting as long as op doesn't  overdo it or keep bringing it up on their own end   unprompted they're not the jerk they brought that  crap to the dinner table op answered it shut them   all up and they moved on this next story is am  I the jerk for not punishing my daughter after   she made a younger kid cry my 41-year-old female  daughter 10-year-old female an has a friend group   of girls they're all 9 to 10 years old except  for one who's seven let's call the younger girl   Sarah an has told me that Sarah tends to lie a  lot mainly about vacations and cool experiences   for example if one girl says their family took a  vacation to XYZ location Sarah will say she's also   been there maybe even three times an was talking  about how she bought an oyster with a pearl inside   and Sarah made up the story about how she once  found nine or 10 oysters on the beach with pearls   inside them according to and Sarah does this with  literally every vacation or cool experience any   of the girls mention the girls were buying this  at first but over time it became obvious that   she couldn't have possibly have been to every  single vacation spot of all four girls combined   some even multiple times another girl in the group  Diana 9-year-old female went to Paris over winter   break the other day and Diana and Sarah were  hanging out and Diana was talking about her   vacation Sarah immediately said that she's also  to Paris I guess Diana could tell she was lying   and had enough of it apparently she called  out Sarah while Sarah kept insisting she was   telling the truth then Diana started to question  Sarah about the major tourist spots in Paris and   Sarah couldn't answer anything both Diana and  Anne were frustrated with Sarah's lies so they   decided to hang out separately the following day  Diana's mom and I got an angry text from Sarah's   mom alleging that our daughters made her kid cry  because they were bullying her she admitted that   Sarah lied about going to Paris but insists that  since our girls are older they are at fault for   calling her out so harshly look I know Sarah is  Young and can empathize with why she feels the   need to lie she probably feels not as cool as  the other girls since she hasn't been on those   vacations I honestly feel kind of bad for her  however as much as I acknowledge that this feeling   is terrible especially for a kid the truth Still  Remains that lying isn't cool no matter what age   you are another thing to note is that our girls  never talk about their vacations in a bragging way   but more in a let me share this awesome experience  way and trust me if Anne ever did put down another   kid for not having been somewhere I would punish  her instantly however this wasn't the case and I   really don't think an did anything wrong Sarah is  the one who lied to her friends and got called out   because they were annoyed and hurt by it Diana's  mom agrees with me that our girls aren't in the   wrong we texted her back defending our girls and  suggesting that she have a talk with Sarah about   lying she just got more angry and insists that our  girls need to be punished the thing is I know that   Sarah is significantly younger and as an's Mom I  may be biased in her favor so I want more opinions   am I the jerk for siding with my daughter I think  it's pretty clear op is not the jerk I would be   pretty surprised if there's really just about  anybody out there that would seriously say that   op or their kid are the jerk in the situation  I mean the kid lied over and over again at some   point you're just like let's just disengage from  this person who doesn't seem entirely truthful   could the kids have been nicer yeah should they  be taught about being more gentle with somebody   that's probably just really wanting to fit in and  trying to find a way to do so absolutely but is   op or their kids the jerks I don't think so 9 or  10 years old it's totally understandable why the   kids acted the way they did our next story is am  I the jerk for forcing my way into my boyfriend's   house to get my best friend's [ __ ] to hello all  I 24-year-old female am very unpleased about the   whole situation my childhood best friend Libby  22-year-old female has a red tailed black coatu   named carrot cake she's had him since she was  five so she's very attached to him only went   to a community college to just stay home and near  carrot cake all of our mutual friends love carrot   cake so do I we all used to just hang out at  Libby's house mostly when we were kids just to   be by carrot cake my boyfriend Lincoln 26-year-old  male loves Birds he owned a few small ones I   did tell him about carrot cake he did get really  intrigued and interested he wanted to meet carrot   cake we' only been dating for 2 months at this  point and haven't met Libby only a few of my other   friends he did ask questions I assumed he was only  intrigued and didn't think much of it Libby did   ask me to watch carrot cake as she's visiting  her grandparents in another state I did agree   this wasn't my first time Libby dropped carrot  cake off and he's been doing great he's very   loving he's been very active I let him fly around  around I did invite Lincoln over as he was staying   the night he did invite his best friend Maxon both  were playing games and doing their own thing I was   napping during the whole thing until I heard loud  squatting and wings flapping like crazy I woke up   and walked into my office to see Lincoln trying  to grab carrot cake Maxon was standing there   just watching it was very obvious that carrot cake  was stressed I scolded at both of them asking why   were they in my office and why are they bothering  carrot cake Lincoln told he wanted to hold carrot   cake I told him he's not familiar with you or  Maxon so he's scared Lincoln tried to argue but   I told him to go in the living room I told Maxon  to leave I had made sure that carrot cake was okay   and he was I put him in his cage and made sure to  cover his cage so he can sleep I locked my office   at this point and had the keys in my room with me  I told Lincoln not to go into my office without me   I just went back to sleep and asked Lincoln to go  to sleep so we both did I woke up to my boyfriend   gone and my keys misplaced I did try calling him  he didn't answer my phone call I went to check on   carrot cake to see that he was not there I freaked  out and just knew Lincoln had him I called and   texted him until he answered I told him to please  tell me he has Carrot Cake and he did I asked why   and he said he wanted to watch carrot cake for a  day I just hung up and drove to his house once I   got there I knocked like crazy and told him to  open it he opened it a little bit but I barged   in and got carrot cake Lincoln was just telling me  I couldn't barge in I just walked by him and drove   back home I did tell Libby about the whole thing  and she was grateful I got cared cake back safely   but also very distraught about the whole situation  Lincoln and his friends did message me that I   couldn't just barge into someone's house I feel  like I did the right thing though am I the jerk   does OP have to remind Lincoln and their friends  that they can't just steal property from somebody   else that bird is not cheap literally depending on  the breed that could very easily be grand theft so   he needs to shut up about you barging into his  house to reclaim that property and honestly be   grateful that you didn't get the cops involved  for him stealing something that's worth $600   plus dollar easily I even just Googled it and  most black cockos are worth easily thousands   of dollars if not five figures our next story  is am I the jerk for not sharing my inheritance   hello all I 50-year-old female brother 48 sister  5 3 our parents got separated after 43 years no   one told me anything they see me as persona nrata  for living my own life I called my daughter 24 she   told me of the separation 4 months after I reached  out to Dad he was happy to hear from me and told   me my siblings have cut him out of their life I  eventually talked dad to moving to where I was to   be closer and I could help him out I talked to Dad  every day we started going for rides together on   weekends motorcycles bonfires and cooking outs or  just an invite for home-cooked meals it was great   one day Dad called to cancel our weekend ride and  said he wasn't feeling good I told him to go to   the hospital he insisted he was fine I tried  to call him on the next day he didn't answer I   drove out to check on him I discovered him on the  floor I went to the hospital every single day my   siblings and mother eventually showed up to visit  him I stayed in the hall after the hospital and   Rehabilitation he was sent to a skilled facility  after only 3 days he started making comments about   the staff there about a week later he asked me  to get a camera to put in his room 2 days after I   installed the nanny cam I caught them abusing him  horribly I called the state county and filed every   report I could I hired dad an attorney after the  attorney was hired my siblings started to visit   about every month I thought the family was healing  we started doing things as a family dad got his   Justice he received a settlement with the help of  a realtor I I found him a small house and started   working on it to bring him home Dad's health was  getting worse he entered hospice I had the hospice   case manager helping develop a home plan Dad's  health started declining rapidly not long after   hospice said it would not be advisable to move  him I sat with Dad continually hired sitters to   stay with him when I had to leave when Dad passed  I went home and cried my dad was my best friend   I pulled out my dad's will and took it to the  county courthouse to probate I was told there   was no need probated that the will was my deed to  Dad's house dad had filed a pod payable on death   at the bank listing me as the sole beneficiary  our mother kept on telling me it was not right   I needed to give my siblings equal shares of  the money she guilted me to share some of it I   gave them each 15,000 but apparently it was not  enough this was 4 years ago fast forward August   23rd 2023 I received a letter from an attorney  demanding I will the house to my siblings that   if I didn't they would sue me to compensate for  the money I did not give to them I did reply to   the attorney I sent him the Pod form from the bank  listing me as sole beneficiary I reminded him he   had a copy of the will and asked him to look over  it again and he would see my siblings had no claim   on anything I have yet to hear a response from  their attorney so op's definitely not the jerk   I surely hope that they're not going to try to  take op to court just for the Hope alone that   op doesn't want to put up the money to fight  this and just gives up house needless to say   I would not consider any of these people family  our next story is am I the jerk for stealing my   ex's attention at his girlfriend's party when I  was dancing with our daughter my ex male 27 and   I female 24 broke up over a year ago but we have  a 2 and 1/2-year-old baby girl together so we're   still close and have a good relationship well  there's not much else to say he's dating someone   new female 27 it was her birthday yesterday and  my ex invited our baby and me since it was in   his backyard he invited his family as well so  I was mostly chatting with them my daughter was   playing with her cousins and some other kids from  his girlfriend's side of the family it was quite   okay really he was playing music and the kids  were dancing and playing my daughter and one of   her cousins came up to where we were sitting and  asked us to dance Too I went to dance with them   then my daughter called her father and we started  dancing with her we weren't added for too much we   were dancing and so were the kids and other adults  but his girlfriend got ticked off and called the   party off she then personally attacked me telling  stuff like why did I leave him if I'm not over my   ex and that I'm an attention seeker [ __ ] that  she knew I'd act like that when her boyfriend told   her I was coming a lot of stuff and it caused  a family fight too her and her family left so   it was just us my ex and his family were quite  upset after his family left my ex and I talked   more calmly and he said he was disappointed in his  girlfriend's reaction so well some people see it   as I was looking for this kind of reaction when I  went to the party but I was not I was invited and   I went I think it's so important to have a close  relationship with my daughter's father what would   be the alternative her having to see us fight  all the time but I don't know maybe I'm off I   think this whole thing is just kind of wreaking  of jealousy pretty clearly I feel like the ex has   to talk to their partner about their deep rooted  feelings about op existing and op still being in   his life not as anybody that's interested in  each other but solely for the sake of the kid   that is inevitably going to be a part of his life  at least I hope my next question would be did the   girlfriend even want the 2 and 1/2-year-old kid  there it just sounds to me like she's the kind of   person that would be more than happy for op's ex  to just dump and flush any responsibility for that   kid any communication they have with the Rex and  just move on with them and run off into the sunset   together but with that being said that's all the  time we have for today now if you want to hear   another crazy am I the jerk here story check out  that video on the left or if you missed my latest   video check out that video on the left that said  I'll see you all next time with some more stories

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Published: Wed Feb 07 2024