Raising Children

[Music] [Music] a few years later you got three or four kids of your own along the road you're still thinking what do I do how did I drop the ball my son Mohammed is now is called mom and my daughter Fatima is called Queen Latifah and I'm thinking this is the same son that I put everything in and the same daughter that I actually purchased everything for the way that I have in front of you as soon as they leave the house the jab goes off the makeup goes on the perfume goes on the high heels the bling-bling you some where's the table and the coffee as soon as he goes out he do the Jacqueline Hein inside the Masjid he's like Abu Bakr outside the match is like Abuja we have a Facebook account and he name is Mohammed Deen now his name is Diablo your own daughter Fatima she has another Facebook account called foxy mama and her job is off man and she's kissing the air in the corner will allahu subhanahu hold me accountable on Judgment Day for the Son and the daughter that I have that I lost control totally over but you still wondering what happened our master give us the gift Helena give us the gift that you didn't expect Ya Allah give us the unexpected undeserved gift what gift - Regina Vogel Yasin a paratha from our wives and our husbands and our children give us what makes our eyes so happy that religious cries [Music] so we're gonna give you some practical examples build the bridge from the past for a better future insha'Allah and how you can be a practical parent you'll find out my dear brothers and sisters in Islam the key starts with you and I usually talk to the brothers first weren't you the one that go and knock on the sisters door and ask for her hand in marriage wasn't she the fertile ground that he were told that you'll plant the seed in and then you get the fruit of that beautiful tree to be your children so if you go back you'll find out it's all about you at he how were they raised oh they were raised very well French immersion school private school they drank tea pinkier posh posh and they were OshKosh B'gosh oh my gosh what la he he were not asking me for this were asking for teddy bear teddy bear hi baby acuna Quran and Sunna get it so he started your family and hamdulillah congratulations you're now a husband he left a single hood you're in the hood and going into parenting now because you get this bundle of joy that changes your life you know why they're so special because before you had that you will just call the husband or a wife but after you have your child you call the father and a mother but you remember the day your wife came to you and says honey I have some good news doctor told me I'm pregnant so you prostrate to Allah thank him for the Heba it's a gift he's giving you you start putting your hand on her tummy oh I feel the kick you start talking now picking names picking colors picking clothes painting the wall and now you're treating your wife like she holds the future of humanity in her womb don't move too much don't carry this let me get that for you your parents the in-laws I won't talk about politics they treat her like a queen totally different now let me carry this for you will no let me cook I'll make dinner I'll clean this somewhere you sit here put your feet up foot massage no problems so you won't forget the day it's true and you won't forget the day that your wife seen death with her own eyes given your childbirth you won't forget the day that you actually looked at you for the first time and smiled you won't forget the day that they looked at you and say Baba or mama you won't forget the day they took the first step for the first time you won't forget the day they actually went to school for the first time you missed them already you won't forget the day that they gone to college things go far and then you wonder what happened so practical examples now first one you need to bring your child with you to pray fed your prayer take my son to the Masjid pray fetch dude I don't even pretty much I'm just gonna tell you you need to change that's all and there's nothing worse than you lick them astray nothing worse according to hadith it will not give a mixed message or the wrong message to your children that your school or your swim team or your soccer practice is more important than fed your prayer [Music] so from now on need to get your child at least when they get to 7 or the differentiate between boys and girls to come to pray fajr prayer with you in the masjid they should grow in the masjid step number 2 when you come to the message it will fetch or leave the masjid going home you need to say i've got a sub are together now so i don't know the earth car guess what champ you need to learn at that car we come to pray together hamdulillah we say the earth car together fantastic what happens you build upon and your wife will do the same thing at home we prefetch it together let's say their car and then when you pick them from math school you say at car and myself together it's now called the art of delegation I need to give them homework to do what we need to have a family Chanukah at home once a week my son you are going to teach us this verse next week you have one week to prepare for it my daughter you're gonna teach us what this hadith means that now the lessons learned and the wisdom behind it on top of that you need to have Dean and Dounia write a beautiful combination moderation so what are we gonna do no matter how many children have a meet to have a special date with my son or special date with my daughter I'm gonna concentrate on one person at a time what happens after you have the date you bond then raise awareness how man first thing is hitman wisdom need to speak their language [Music] understand what they go through the environment they're in and when you obligate you do it in the best way possible a love of somehow I tell a tall prophet Mohamed Salah Salaam what if you were harsh hearted you were difficult with them they would have fled away you were the most important person in his life or her life you have an S on your chests so he child thinks the most important people to me the one that you're supposed to protect me the one that nurtured is supposed to nurture me is telling me that I'm an idiot that must be an idiot I must be stupid I am worthless he is killed your child congratulations I'm happy for you so what are we gonna do man we're gonna change from now on honey I love you but your behavior is unacceptable that's a major difference you need to differentiate between the person and the action from now on it's not you I love you but your behavior is unacceptable major difference and from here on any gonna say in dr. Falana engineer falada Harvard Philander body Philander Allen for animal falada or lure Falana so and so you gonna put it on their door it's a major visual effect that will actually stick in their mind and heart and soul you raise them such that they are successful there meaning something they are worth a lot they are the world to you now as they grow you need to use the 21 theory which means the first seven years you nurture them give all the TLC you want all the tools they need the second seven years you give them the rules and regulations to what to do what not to do what is halal what is Haram the third seven years you befriend them that's the teenage years because it's too late by then spend time with your children before you have to spend time with the children you know we're in the hospital in prison in the rehab center or in the morgue take your pick which one do you want you know the story of the man that didn't see his son much his son goes up to him after he came from work is his dad how much do you make an hour he's get away from me son goes turn around in tears walk away from his father the father realized he made a mistake he was back sorry son I make ten dollars an hour the Sun goes up to him he says here you go dad I saved $10 can I have one hour of your time [Music] career mom I've seen this with my own eyes by doing woman drops off her daughter in the daycare provider by the way they don't spend time with them the whole days at work they go home somebody else takes looks after them cooks the food nurse this change that and then she came to pick up her daughter at night after well you know what happened to her daughter her daughter cried why do you think her daughter cried because she thinks that she's going away from her mother she thinks the daycare provider is actually her mother and this woman is taking her away from her mother don't be a career mom of tea this door our master give us the gift hub Lana give us the gift that you didn't expect Ya Allah give us the unexpected undeserved gift what gift - hua ji Nawaz early eighteen authoritarian from our wives and our husbands and our children give us what makes our eyes so happy that makes us cry it cools our eyes you know what that means it makes you so happy you want to cry when you listen to your child recite Quran then it makes you so happy you want to cry when you look at your wife and watch how she's raising your children it makes you so happy you want to cry when she looks at the husband who wakes up his children for budget and takes them to the much since she wants to cry she's so happy our husbands cry and our wives cry but they don't cry because they're happy we are asking the law for tears of joy we want to be so happy with our family your children should love tour they should run to you and hug you when you come home that's the relationship you should have with your children I'm talking to the fathers here you cannot afford to be authorities over your children you have to be friends and authorities with your children the only one who will give them the love of Islam is you and you will not be able to give it to them if you're only in authority if you only yell at them and tell them what to do but you're not their friend if the father's don't do this we will lose this a lot we will lose our next generation I am Telling You I'm guaranteeing you this is the door we are asking Allah to give us so much happiness from our wife and our husband and our children that it makes us want to cry out of joy how will that happen you cannot ask Allah for something and not make any effort yourself when you're a good wife your daughter will be a good wife well lucky when you're a good husband your son will be a good husband and if you're not then you will create bad families now in the future and you will be the fault you will be the reason I'm Judgment Day when I stand in front of Allah as an imam they will be tied to me and if I didn't do my job with them and they made mistakes because of me their mistakes will also cost me I will be dragged down with them but if I raise my children correctly and I did good with them and they went on to serve Allah's Deen and become good people earned good deeds then Allah raises them and when he raises them automatically because I'm chained to them he raises me Robin hobb de la Mina's Regina was URI afina Kurata Arjen

Channel: Islamic Guidance

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Keywords: marriage series, love before marriage, ideal husband, ideal wife, divorce, happy marriage life

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Length: 14min 30sec (870 seconds)

Published: Thu Aug 09 2018