No More Body Shaming

you guys remember over the summer when Playboy model Danny Mathers snapchatted this photo of a woman in a gym locker room you remember that people were absolutely outraged at her post and took to social media to air their concern now months later Danny is back on social media saying she takes full responsibility for what she did I like that she did that yeah but here's the thing we always talk about Danny mathur's and that photo she posted we never talk about the poor woman who was the subject of that snapchat shame shaming like this can actually stay with you for a long time you guys ever experienced shaming like this that kind of just sticks to your bones I think you always grow up with somebody saying something because you don't picture what looks different about you you don't picture what looks wrong about you until somebody else points out that buck-toothed or you know for me it was those skinny legs I'll never forget this kid named Fernando who really if we really think about it he didn't have good hair he used to tell me like your legs look like chopsticks can you eat with those chopsticks you can walk yourself back to China oh oh my goodness and I just I obviously there's racial things in there too but like it really I I compared my legs from then on always to other women and it really bugged me and then later on in high school I'll never forget this one boy named Chris new in and Milpitas high school he was a senior I was a sophomore and he just said in front of all these people were sitting at a party he goes dan Jeanie you got some really nice legs so it made me realize a lot of you do this now ladies out there when you get a compliment really accepted don't compliment Lonnie who can be real mm-hmm yes like so many seasons now I used to Queen when we compliment Lonnie she'd be like stop they stop it out let's go we got a show to do we got to show you you know but then now she's like you like that day you know cuz I was always the big girl you know and I always thought nobody would want me and people used to tease me and that type of shaming that's why you know I had to build my confidence but I remember one time like it was like it was a group of boys it was like three of them and one of them was like if she comes the big line that's the car big line and then one guy was like I like big line I'm one person that changed my whole attitude because I was like but then I started realizing that it has to come with their meat I can't wait for people to baby I become me very true I can remember when I was younger fun fact yeah about my sister and I is we actually used to dance like I can tap dance I can hip hop I can jazz but one of the things that dancers would always recommend to my sister and I is try ballet because when you do ballet that's when you learn you know how to be graceful mm-hmm well I remember taking this one ballet class and there was this teacher he wasn't very nice and he told me to plie plie is when you know it kind of like squat a little bit and he told me you should be sticking in your butt and I said I am sticking in my but it just happens to be you know that big and then he said you know what you're not you're not fit to be a ballerina dancer and you guys I carried that for a very very long time that I actually used to cover my butt with my hands when I walked and I remember my mom was like girl what are you doing listen mom I'm just a little bit you know self-conscious about my behind and she said no honey you got body I think you know body shaming actually didn't happen for me until I was older until recently on this show is you know with obviously I turned 30 and gained weight and people really seemed to have a major issue with it calling out everything from oh my god literally under our even the date the real date times Instagram one of the pictures I think it was what I thought was a nice picture of us they're like what the heck is Adrienne eating like just these constant comments about my weight and it sucked I mean I had never dealt with anything like that before I weigh 110 pounds I never thought that was like oh my god why is she so fat and like you guys know what yeah yeah like you didn't people think that way you guys see here that I got fat you didn't hear about it I know she did you know that was hurtful that sucked I felt like okay like yes I've gained some weight but is it that deep to go like I would never go on someone's page and say something like that about that I just wouldn't never do that okay she's gaining weight like when you talked about that girl that actually was in the picture that was snapshot and calling her the victim so to speak right of the snapchat thing you guys never know what someone's going through like I don't know what that woman deals with why that weight gain is happening you don't know and to just add that how cool that is to say you know I do suffer from a thyroid condition which has to do with a lot of weight gain I have an autoimmune disease called Hashimoto's that also has to do with my weight gain so that just adds to it like you don't know what somebody goes through why they look the way they do to add an insult to injury it's just it's just not right and it doesn't matter whether you you know have a if I like to eat I'm glad that when old girl posted it you know the loot that the Playboy model that people checked her yes that's what we have to keep doing okay we have to check people look as long as I sit next to you you go always look small [Applause]

Channel: The Real Daytime

Views: 810,264

Rating: 4.9590259 out of 5

Keywords: the real, daytime, talk show, women, tamar braxton, tamera mowry, adrienne bailon, loni love, jeannie mai

Id: LK6q_swMHKc

Length: 6min 18sec (378 seconds)

Published: Mon Oct 10 2016