The Weight of It All

well if you have too many snack students it may lead to you gaining like she said a few extra pounds EXO if you notice that your loved one has gained a little bit of weight should you guys talk to them about them would you ever like confront somebody and be like hey wanted to talk to you about this in an article posted on CNN dr. barbara Berkley suggests people can't resist intervening in other's lives that is very true she says everybody does it so the question is how to do it effectively is there a way to tell somebody hey you know you're gaining weight not offend them and actually have a good time on this one cuz I want to hear what you guys have to say I know yes oh no I don't know I hear and you'll be good at all I said I feel like a person don't ask or don't come to you and say you know okay to wait you should say nothing - exactly that's something very sensitive and very this comes from the big girl true but what if they've actually explained their concern about it then I think if they explain it ya know well even when they do it's kind of like oh gosh what do I do but usually right I think it's like if I come you know said I really did do something myself and then you come you like well let's work together let's hike and I'm like no I was just saying that that was it what I want to know is if someone says to you do you think I'm gaining weight do you think I'm getting fat what do you say the truth yeah yes I think you you guys know what I always say it's not what you say it's how you say it right how do you say it so I have a friend who has gone through this yeah I kind of made it funny and real and compassionate at the same time what you say Lani okay so she used to always take pictures of us and then cut herself out one day I was like girl you cut me out too and I had a really cute outfit on they ate her laugh and then that opened up the conversation and I okay I don't like you feeling this way about yourself so what can we do about it and can we do it together yeah awesome but I can treat you mostly people be a big person we know that we fat okay we don't need you to tell us the thing is is that when it's our time just like when I said you know for the season I said I'm gonna do something but I didn't tell nobody no I just did it on my own maybe most big people they do it on their own we did it together I but I told you you didn't come to me now I told you I I'm gonna do something and you said well I'm gonna do it with you and I'm like I didn't need you do it with me but okay so I wanted to keep me accountable at you now you look if you want to do it let that person eventually they'll come around but when you hear one little hmm yeah I done it I definitely act Jeannie and you got all of you that I have a certain you know place that I want to be I want to get back to and you asked me permission Jeannie which i think is great do you give me the right to smack snacks out of your head do you give me the right that if I see you reaching for pizza I can say no Adrienne you cannot have that and not be offended and not feel a way about it and I told you absolutely not you guys have the right to say no Adrienne you cannot have that you shouldn't be ordering that I can tell you that has not worked cuz I've seen you with snack I know she hates oh my gosh we're cheating Robin water and anything people and the reason why I say that is because I come from a family I don't know if anybody else has that family have do you have family members where they point out to you that you've gained weight even when you home yeah oh yeah and then yeah and I definitely like sit there like oh girl you get in them curves you get nice and thick they like it it was the opposite when I was younger it was you need to eat something you got it okay out there happy and I'm not this is Britt glad no and then they go on talking about you as if you're not sitting there like look at her look look like she looks a little bigger yeah yeah you think so look at her but it chick now no no before I had not checked it's checked now look look she bet and see you shake and I'm like I'm sitting right here it's like what are you doing and so I I love that because that's what they do to me they're like hey you one diet no eat cuz I used to wait 50 heavier and so I that helped me so I love that you can my mama is like that that's why I'm talk to her about my way she looked always on TV you know you're getting a little big no no yes she does that oh that's this honesty that's just how like a lot of family members are cuz they date you know but I'm telling them eventually a person knows when they're big yeah and they're gonna do something about it but just wait for them to tell you the rights I said are you telling them and how they feel [Applause]

Channel: The Real Daytime

Views: 687,985

Rating: 4.9423437 out of 5

Keywords: the real, daytime, talk show, women, tamar braxton, tamera mowry, adrienne bailon, loni love, jeannie mai

Id: cUvtDqiJkK8

Length: 4min 59sec (299 seconds)

Published: Mon Oct 17 2016