MOM Demands I GIFT My Little Sister's Inheritance To Her BOYFRIEND'S Kids - Narcissist MOM Stories

why you cut contact with your mom i am 32 female i grew up with a narcissistic mom i have never met my dad the first hug i have received in my life was when dan my mom's boyfriend hugged me when i thanked him for a gift my mom had my sister a year later my sister was the perfect baby sister anyone could ask for mom and dan split and at first mom had major custody of my sister mom did the same thing to my sister she did to me doesn't even acknowledge us in the room if she was not in the mood not feeding us dinner if we made a mistake made everything our fault when dan found out he applied for full custody for my sister but my mother fought and somehow wrangled fifty percent of custody things got real bad for me and the only silver lining was my sister despite being only four years old she would sneak in snacks from her dad for me to eat anything dad bought for her he also bought me he wasn't wealthy by any means but it was the small things and any time he dropped my sister he will take his time to talk to me he was the only father i have ever known dan died of cancer when i was 16 and my sister five he lived only three months from the diagnosis but settled everything financially as able as he can for my sister he split his assets 75 for my sister and 25 for me to be given to me when i reached 18 knowing my mom very well he made me the executor of my sister's fun too to say my mom was furious was an understatement she literally made the next two years of my life and my sister a living nightmare when my mom started dating brad he already had a daughter three years younger than my sister my mom had made it absolutely clear that my sister will be allowed to go to college only if she shares her trust fund with our stepsister brad is a piece of work and me and my sister never really bonded with our stepsister she refused to sign anything related to my sister's education unless i give my word that i will give my step-sister equal half of the trust fund this is where i think i was the idiot i held the trust fund above my mom's head to treat my sister fairly i repeatedly told them i will give my step-sister half the fund until my sister was 18 and moved to college once she moved out we both cut any contact we had with our mum and blocked her i made my sister give her the wrong college info so our mom couldn't contact her i have found out through a few friends my mom didn't know that i have that my step-sister couldn't get into any college because she didn't want to apply for any loans and she is very depressed i know i misled them but i honestly wanted my sister to be safe am i wrong for causing my step-sister's depression and robbing her of college you are not wrong that money was for your sister from her father there was no reason whatever for you to share it with your mom's new guy's kid stepsister is not going to college because she didn't want to apply for loans is on her i understand the blow of learning that she isn't getting money that you told your mom she would receive but you did that to try and keep the peace in what sounds like a nasty home doing the math here you are 32 and 11 years older than your sister so she is 21. your stepsister is three years younger than your sister that makes her 18. you didn't rob your step-sister of college where is brad your step-sister's actual father in all of this why wouldn't he be responsible for helping her in her education she can start with community college and have her father sign for financial aid neither you nor your sister have had anything to do with your mother and her family since your sister left for college right your stepsister was a casualty to your mother's narcissism and her father enabled it you are not wrong so i'm a mom of three kids my oldest kid is my daughter 23 and she's four months pregnant right now with her first baby she and her boyfriend are really excited to be parents and are preparing way ahead of time they've made a birth plan they're buying baby clothes in talks with a doula and midwife etc she's the first of any of her friends to have kids so she's been coming to me for advice recently we sat down for a mother-daughter lunch and were talking about her birth plan she asked my opinion on it i pretty frankly told her my honest truth she was being unrealistic with her expectations my first pregnancy didn't go as planned she was a breach which ended in an emergency c-section with my last two i wanted a home birth but with a vbac that's risky and i was advised against it none of my pregnancies were comfortable all my kids liked to kick the crap out of my insides and i had gestational diabetes with my last so my daughter asked me to elaborate more and i told her about the tearing the episco peeing yourself hair falling out postpartum how much breastfeeding can hurt i didn't sugarcoat i went into pregnancy blind and had a rude awakening when i started having kids she got visibly nervous during our talk i assured her none of it was unbearable i got my kids out of it after all but it wasn't an amazing experience and forgetting about the pain wasn't accurate in my experiences i told her she needed to be ready she asked if i was trying to scare her off a home or natural birth and i'm not i just wanted to let her know things don't always go as planned we didn't fight but she got huffy and started saying i wasn't helping she just wanted some advice not scare tactics my husband thinks i should have been more tactful as well but i think she needed the hard truth about it all no one is wrong here she asked and you gave no holds barred if you sugarcoated it she would have come back to you after and said why didn't you tell me i'd poop myself during birth in my opinion honesty is the best policy agree with the no one is wrong here judgment i don't think the daughter is an idiot at all she is unprepared and i'm sure she will be glad of the information in the long run however your first pregnancy is a scary time with tons of anxiety it was probably a lot for her to take in and process all at once that she wasn't expecting from the story it doesn't sound like she was an idiot your husband was probably right he probably didn't need to dump all of the cold hard reality on her all at once met my girlfriend's parents today she had been stalling for the longest time and today i finally saw why as soon as the mom opened the door and said to my girlfriend with all sarcasm oh wow i can't believe you finally decided to come and see me i knew it was going to be a long lunch my girlfriend's mom criticized her for everything stand up straight you're going to ruin your posture no not like that now you're walking like a man swing your hips a little more never mind keep practicing you'll get it and what did you do with your hair on and on and on and on and the dad just sat there in his chair reading his newspaper not saying a word the entire time i even walked up at one point to shake his hand but he just looked at me with a blank stare then went back to his newspaper so we're sitting there having lunch me my girlfriend and her mom dad didn't join us and the mom starts asking me questions how did you meet my daughter you look like a handsome guy i'm sure you have beautiful girls throwing themselves at you why my daughter and my girlfriend is sitting next to me with a head down just wilting like a flower i reach over and rub her back and her mother says oh she'll be all right she's always been like that she just gets embarrassed so easily i think she gets that from her father they're always both so quiet the mum gets up at one point to go to the kitchen and i lean over and whisper to my girlfriend do you want to go let's leave but she just shakes her head and says i'm fine and bends her head over to her father who was still sitting on the chair nearby she later told me that her father listens to everything and tells her mom later and this is the part where everything goes to chaos the mom comes back with some food and sets it down on the table and says here we go eat up i know my daughter doesn't make food like this at your place does she i tried to teach her when she was younger but you know how kids are one ear out the other but i always told her the way to a man's heart is through his stomach if you were my boyfriend i would be making food like this for you every day and i said to be honest i wouldn't date you it went dead silent for a moment i didn't even know what i said for a moment because i was already reaching for the food but then the mom explodes how dare you and she screeches at my girlfriend are you gonna let him talk to me like that the dad jumps out of his chair and shouts don't talk to my wife like that get out of my house we left but my girlfriend is being attacked by her family now because the mom said she brought a guy to the house who insulted her and i was wondering if my comment was a bit too far we really need a justified idiot option was it a horrible thing to say obviously was it the right thing to do 100 you were the hero your girlfriend deserves you are not the idiot you're the hero your girlfriend needs to add i'm 40 and i've seen women like this the narcissistic queen bees who have to have every man around at their beck and call the brides at every wedding and the corpses at every funeral do not give her even one more second of your time tell your girlfriend how much you love her or how much you care for her if the love word hasn't happened yet background info i 45 female was born in mumbai and moved to the us for college where i met my husband 46. we currently have one daughter my mother has moved in with us during the global situation as she feels safer here my mother is very old-fashioned and believes that a woman on her period is dirty and shouldn't be allowed to worship handle food or touch plants i am firmly against those beliefs and do all those things regardless of my period my husband also doesn't believe in all that the problem starts here my daughter started her period yesterday and told me i luckily had her prepared with information and i kept extra pads in the house for this reason when my daughter came out of the bathroom however i told her to hide her period this essentially meant that i wanted her to keep her pads in her room wrap up any used ones very tightly tossed them into the trash discreetly and take the bathroom trash out every day i also wanted her to not talk about her period near her grandmother as i know she would freak out and i started forcing my daughter to conform to all her crazy old-fashioned demands as she did to me when i was a girl i have also been hiding evidence of my period while my mother has been staying with us this made my daughter upset i know this is partly because my husband and i have both taught her that there is nothing shameful about her body and telling her to hide her period is going against that but i don't want her to become a victim of my mother's constant spewing of nonsense my daughter loves to help me cook work in our garden with her dad and she occasionally prays with my mother in the morning she doesn't need to be barred from that just because her body is functioning correctly so read it am i the idiot for telling my daughter to hide her period you are the idiot your mother is the one who needs to learn to live with you not you learning to live with her teaching your daughter to be ashamed of her body is what you're doing by upholding your mother's beliefs in your home instead of standing up to her you're ultimately choosing her over your daughter by coddling her outdated and frankly harmful views on menstruation your responsibility as a parent is to your child i agree with this and i'll add that part of protecting her is not putting your daughter at the center of this don't hide your own products and make clear that you don't follow those restrictions i 28 male broke up with my ex-girlfriend two months ago we started drifting apart and our relationship was headed towards a dead end my mum was one of the reasons my ex and i broke up she hated her and said and did a lot of hurtful things to her i did everything i could to save our relationship because i cared about my ex and i still have feelings for her but clearly she doesn't care anymore and i don't blame her at all a few days ago my mum called me and asked if i could come and spend a few days with her and family because she said i was stressing myself out with this breakup that i'm taking too much time with i drove eight straight hours to be with my family and be out with friends i haven't seen in a while my mum started telling me about this girl she sees at the church i'll call her olivia she's the daughter of a friend of hers she told about her voice is beautiful and her personality is way better than my ex basically comparing the two she said that i should meet up with olivia and get to know her soon i just shrugged it off because i wasn't interested in getting into another relationship so fast and especially not like this my mum saw through it so she took matters into her own hands she's invited olivia and her mother to the house twice in one week had me sit with her and talk i made it clear that i wasn't interested though olivia seemed clueless or maybe i don't know what lie mum told her she kept smiling at me steering the conversation towards personal stuff that i thought was inappropriate my mum embarrassed me by asking to give olivia my phone number because mum can't remember her own number and in case she needed something from her i was confused i gave her my mums eventually i was polite and kept a nice face as long as i could but last night my mum came to talk to me about how i should take a chance and ask olivia because home visits weren't working i said no had an argument and left the room the next day mum does it again she invites olivia alone to our house and stop me from going out to sit with her instead i lost it yelled at her and told her that i wasn't interested in entertaining church friends that i haven't and will get over my ex and that she should stop pushing me to give my number and go out with someone i'm not interested in i was literally yelling at the door so olivia heard the whole stupid thing mum was upset but couldn't stop me from leaving right then i got a text from mum telling me olivia had left right after i left and started shaming me for being rude disrespectful and went on about how i hurt olivia's feelings because she had heard every word i said you are not the idiot your mom clearly has no boundaries and is way too involved in your dating life at 28. that's really manipulative behavior from your mom you however were really rude by yelling in front of a guest seems like olivia's the innocent bystander in your family drama and it wasn't polite to take that out on her when you were really mad at your mom not the idiot olivia probably left because she realized what your mum was doing after hearing you although it would suck for olivia if she was actually interested in you so my 19 female dad 39 gifted me my uncle's used car as an early birthday present two months ago my parents are split and i live with my mom 39. so three months ago she came into some money and wanted to buy a better car my dad said to call my uncle because he was selling his car she didn't but got info through dad and decided it was too expensive i asked her to reconsider periodically but she stuck with her decision visiting my dad one day he surprised me and handed me the car's keys and said it's yours with two rules never let anyone else drive it and never ask for anything again then sent me home i assumed my mom knew as he never did anything without her permission before but i was so very wrong i pulled up just as my mom got home and her jaw dropped she asked me what this was i explained and she was so angry and said to stop smiling and get out of her sight she later told me to stop throwing it in her face by smiling and yelled at me on how i could accept the car when i knew she wanted to buy it she screamed at how i didn't question about her when her dad handed it to me i apologized for everything several times over she became petty and tensions were high at one point she said something about me and i broke i got up left and drove around i started crying and called my dad right then and there and begged him to take the car back he was confused so i explained everything and how it wasn't worth losing my relationship with my mom he hung up on me he spoke with mom called back and said to give it a couple more days so i did and i made a mistake my mom insisted we use my car everywhere hers isn't safe and that she drive carsick otherwise i uncomfortably agreed desperate to get back on my mom's good side at some point she was not so joking me talking about taking it to work and started driving without me i'd have to hide my keys to convince her not to she laughs when i tell her that it's my car and i ask not to use it unless it's an emergency she says i'm too spoiled and that she'll do what she wants i want to sell it now i just really need to know was i the idiot by keeping the car was it truly inconsiderate of me because i sure do feel guilty edit one my dad is no saint i don't like him he tends to buy my love eg car edit two not welcomed at my dad's and only talk to him once a year usually i have a bit of a different opinion on this one both parents are the idiots here your mom for taking advantage of you and your car and your dad for buying the car they knew your mom wanted when he'd likely knew this would set her off and cause a rift it puts you in an impossible position too because if you sell it you come off as ungrateful sorry that you're stuck in this situation i 21 male grew up with my mom 46 and my sister 24. i moved out this year and our mom calls us over for lunch like two or three times a week and it's a family time for us my whole life i had problem with my stomach gas pain and stuff like that it wasn't anything crazy but it was there my whole life i just ignored it now last night i was hanging out with my sister she told me how she doesn't like eating at home how mom doesn't care if food is expired and hates wasting food i started thinking about it and it just hit me how i never paid attention to it and how i don't have stomach problems anymore since i moved i even sleep better i was shocked i still am my mom was always cheap she never knew how to save money and would end up buying stuff we don't need just because it's on sale worst part about it we never had a problem with money we used to travel a lot she used to buy us pretty expensive and nice clothes there was never a need for her to act like this then my sister told me how once while we still lived there mom made her dinner and gave her some bread she started eating and then noticed mold on the bread she told mom about it and went to throw it away since the whole bread was rotting and mom started yelling at her and snatched the bread out of her hands and put it back to place saying that she'll give it to me and i'll eat it thank god she waited for mom to exit the kitchen and threw it away and that is just one case she told me i was horrified how i never noticed this i am so mad and confused i feel disgusted with myself i texted my mom that i will not be coming to lunch today and i don't know how to deal with this you are not wrong it's one thing to be frugal and to keep food beyond the expiration dates if it's still good it's entirely another to keep and eat rotting food her attitude on this makes me think she needs some sort of therapy to act the way she did about literally molding bread isn't healthy start having your mom to lunch at your house or see her for visits that don't involve food i do think you and your sister need to have a straightforward talk with her about this though she's lucky that you all have seemingly avoided extremely bad outcomes but if this keeps going unchecked it feels like it's only a matter of time before she gets her or someone else extremely [Music] sick [Music] you

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