Hello! Ok. Now I get it,
I really am enlightened. So... youâve seen how we improve,
right? There's a surprise. Did you know there was a surprise? Yes? You're too clever! And I wanted to give you a surprise. Never mind, the surprise is that thereâs a phrase,
behind. I just want to say
that when it comes to the signing if you want me to sign this later,
I can do that. Ok? Right, where were we. So what weâre here for. For me, this talk is a turning point. It's very important for me. I can only see up to the fifth row. The rest of you are shadows. And I really like being able
to see people's faces, at least I can see some of you. Well, as I was saying. These talks... When I started giving talks about... it seems so long ago,
but it wasn't that long ago, obviously, I had no idea
that I'd be having these experiences for a very simple reason:
I didn't set myself any expectations. In fact,
I remember when they said to me, âCan we put it on YouTube?â I said,
âDo you think anybody will watch it?â And it turns out, according to the latest data
I've been given a couple of months ago, that my talks have had
more than 18 million views. When they told me that I was like,
âCome again?â So all that's left for me
is to live this experience. What I do know
is that in all these years Iâve realised that everything
has an overarching theme. An overarching theme. And I was asked to do this talk
quite a while ago. But I didn't feel
like it was the right moment. And it has a title that, I don't know if people can imagine
what Iâm going to talk about. Maybe it's a surprise. This talk â and this is more relevant
now than ever before â obviously, Iâm the representative
of Enric Corbera Institute but Iâm going to give it
as an ambassador of peace. Itâs a title that was conferred on me
a few years back by Mil Milenios de Paz
and the PEA Foundation in the Argentine Senate. And Iâm going to read a little about the flag of peace
and the peace symbol, which you'll no doubt have seen. I donât know if there are people
who know what it means but I've found that Iâm asked about it
and people don't know. Itâs not a random symbol and don't let them
tell you itâs for whatever... I remember when I was given the title,
I was a bit innocent and I asked, âWhat do I have to do?â And they said to me,
âNo, it's for what you're doing.â Thereâll be people whoâll pick
something up from today and say, "I came away with this.â And others will say,
"I came away with that.â Youâll see comments
from three or four people and each will give their opinion
on something. And some might even say,
âDid Enric really say that?â And thatâs how it is. That's how it goes. I am simply, as they say in America,
a spokesman. Iâm a messenger. And donât mix me up with the message. So, the flag of peace, a universal symbol that symbolises unity in diversity. Sound familiar? Ok. It was accepted only
by the countries in the Americas on 15 April 1935
at the White House in Washington, leading to the signing
of the Roerich Peace Pact, with the aim of preserving
the cultural heritage of mankind. The meeting was chaired by the then
President of the United States Franklin D. Roosevelt
who, referring to the pact, declared that it held
a great profoundness that went beyond its wording. In 1937, the Roerich Pact
was amended by countries that made up
the League of Nations, precursor to the United Nations. The symbol, as you know, a circle with three spheres
that form a triangle between them, appeared on the planet
more than nine thousand years ago, in the Palaeolithic period,
and in Neolithic pottery. Both Eastern and Western cultures have respected it
as one of our emblematic symbols. In India it is known as "chintamani", and is said to have the power to give happiness through peace. It is known in Tibetan culture
as "the dissolver of darkness". The current Dalai Lama
is an honorary member of this committee and expresses deep respect
for the peace symbol, together with other
Nobel Peace Prize winners. The flag logo is also
part of Western culture; the Crusaders bore it on their shields. And the symbol of the three spheres
even appears in gold on the visa of the Holy Sepulchre
âMissale Sacramentaleâ from 1130 with the energy emanating from
the index and middle fingers of Christ. Many Popes through the ages
have included it on their coats of arms as a sign of compliance and respect. Christian art often depicts it
at the feet of several virgins, and with Saint Nicholas and Sergius,
patron saint of Russia. And that's how it meets its vocation
of achieving unity in diversity, a reality that we need to build on
in all areas of our life if we want to achieve stable peace. There's much more. But it asks
that we all become this symbol. And for all of us to become this symbol each sphere represents something
that Iâm sure you're all familiar with because I've said it many times,
and I said it before I knew this, so, there it is. First, the sphere of thought. Pay close attention to your thoughts. If we are conscious that our thoughts are patterns of electrons we will put greater care
into our mental creation. And if we come across
any negative thoughts in this exercise, we must replace them
with thoughts of love and harmony. First towards ourselves
and then towards others. Secondly, the sphere of the word. The second sphere of the symbol
is equivalent to the spoken word. Let's start paying attention
to our words in a bid to achieve deep peace through the logo of the flag of peace. Note that we tend to lean
towards negativity when we talk. We see ourselves as clumsy, unworthy
of prosperity and illumination; we waste time on our
critical conversations. Our teacher Jesus was very clear
about how careful we must be when we speak: A man is not defiled
by what enters his mouth, but by what comes out of it. To live out the second point
of the triangle in harmony, we must eliminate
from our vocabulary phrases such as: "I can't", "I don't deserve it",
or "I am unable". Letâs be humble in our thoughts about the people
with whom we argue with our words. And thirdly, action. Finally, letâs look at the third sphere which appears in the top corner
of the peace flag. The third point of the triangle for
achieving the sought-after deep peace. It represents our actions. Are these congruent
with our thoughts and words? Or do we think one thing, say another, and do something else very different? If we act like this, we are in total disharmony
with ourselves and thus we disintegrate. Thanks a lot. Ok. There's more. Much moreâŠ
Right. Unconscious limits. If you remember, not long ago,
we gave a talk in Madrid entitled âUnconscious beliefs". One might think
that our unconscious beliefs and unconscious inputs
are the same thing, well no. Beliefs, more or less,
we all know we have them and we are reaching consciousness
of the beliefs we have. But behind these beliefs
are some unconscious limitations that feed these unconscious beliefs. The purpose of today's talk
is very simple: it's about reaching the consciousness
that we live in hypnosis. That we are all hypnotised. And you cannot imagine just how much. Iâve been seeing this for some time. One of the first things we do is... Human beings, some might say,
are talking statues; we talk a lot and say nothing. When we think we are communicating
with people, we talk in symbols but the symbols
have many interpretations and each person interprets them
however they like. For example, you bump into a friend
who looks very down in the dumps and you ask, "Whatâs wrong?" "Oh, my husband and I,
we're drifting apart." Now, if you're a close friend
you can say, "But what's really going on
with your husband?" But if you don't know her that well,
you don't want to ask whether one of them lives in Madrid
and the other in Barcelona, You get me, don't you? So the two friends go off. And, of course,
they've each heard the same thing. But they are going to interpret
what they've just heard based on their own mental maps. You're with me, right? But the two friends will have their own particular
issues with their husbands, which is logical and normal,
human and biological. But each will consider
the idea of distance in their own way. And this is how we talk to each other. I see this every day at my visits and I ask my clients,
âHow did this happen?â And people have real problems
explaining what is happening to me. And the world communicates like this. We talk in symbols,
we speak in metaphors, we talk and talk
and say nothing at all, it's about leaving a good impression
without anybody realising. Be conscious of this please. The problem is that people
do not communicate with themselves. There's a barrier. There's a barrier preventing us from expressing ourselves
freely to others. Itâs a barrier of... we create a mental defence. What will they think?
What will they stop thinking? Etc. Fortunately, those of us who can read
non-verbal language know that people lie
and don't stop lying. Someoneâll say:
"How are things with the wife?" âFine.â But his shoulders are telling
that it's not going well. Or you bump into someone and... âOh, I want to tell you something",
And you say, âWhat?â... "Go on, tell me. I have to go". We are a bunch of hypocrites. And itâs high time we started
to acknowledge the fact; it's ok. Because precisely
the basic aim of these talks is to wake us up, to reach consciousness. To get out of this hypnosis. I've come to realise
that the purpose of these talks is to dehypnotise ourselves. Now, in the short time we have
I'm going to dissect it all to give you an idea of how these unconscious limits, these collective hypnoses instilled in us from a tender age, force us to live in a world
that is always at war. Note the working hypothesis. I am going to demonstrate this
with the little time I have. But we are at least going to make sure
that it is understandable. Let's see if this works. Iâll do it right. There we are.
I don't know where to point. There it is.
Limitations. Ok. Itâs clear that, with limitations, I didn't put collective hypnoses or individual hypnosis, but youâll reach consciousness,
don't worry. I only make four points. First: have you reached
the consciousness that you repeat
many patterns of behaviour? I don't want answers,
just think about it. Number 2: have you reached the consciousness
that your words, your advice, or your orders
put limits on your children? I will always remember,
Iâm speaking for myself here, that my parents would say to me, "Enric, do you think money
grows on trees?". Now, it so happens
that my grandfather was a farmer. And he had fruit trees. And of course,
the man earned his living from trees. For the unconscious
picking fruit is money, agreed? Just think, thatâs what my mother,
who was the farmer's daughter, said. But it really was true. In her house,
the money came from the trees. But imagine,
if I'd been a farmer. And Iâm under this hypnosis that tells me that money does not grow on trees
and my unconscious registers this. Well, my fruit trees,
given that everything is connected, the quantum field would make it
so my trees bore no fruit. That's how it goes. We are not separate from anything. Everything is information. You can probably already see
where Iâm taking this, right? Because youâre all very clever,
I know. So, have you all reached consciousness of the fact that many of your beliefs
are dogmatic? Have you reached consciousness
of the fact that your acts and words reveal
your limits? Iâm no good with computers. Iâm not a good speaker. Iâm no good at... whatever it is. Are you reaching consciousness? Because I can guarantee
that they put something in the seed and put the seed inside your mind. "Careful, don't make me look bad." âBehave yourself,
what will they think of us?" "Don't touch your nose." âDon't scratch yourself.â "Donât annoy people." Are you with me?
No, no, no, no. And they say it over and over again: "Careful, dear daughter,
men are all the same.â The little girl has no bloody idea
what that means, but it doesn't matter. "Honey,
men only think about one thing." There we are again,
itâs what I was saying before. And now I think, because I've been educated,
that I was hypnotised, deeply hypnotised, I think, "What do they mean by that?" I still remember with my friends... "Hey listen, I've been told this." And you can't imagine the nonsense
we'd come out with. We had to confess,
I always remember. One day, I was at confession,
because it was compulsory, and I said to the priest: âI don't have any sins.â
"Now that is a sin." And me being naive,
I told my mother. "But don't you know
that we were all born with sin?" Now imagine a child of four or six
hearing this. Think about it. Think about how it's been drilled
into us and how we've been hypnotised. These are hypnotic orders. Indeed,
they are hypnotic orders and, to boot, the person saying
it is someone with authority. Our father, our mother,
a teacher at school. Nowadays,
school teachers arenât that big a deal, but they were. Theyâd give you a hiding
you wouldn't forget in a hurry. Nowadays,
theyâre not allowed to touch the kids. Anyway... you're all following, right? Ok, let's carry on.
We've got a lot to get through. Ok. Limits and violence. Yes, in today's talk we are... we are going to be talking
the whole time about violence. And it will become very clear
that slapping somebody around, thatâs a type of violence. There are lots of violences
that are far more serious than a simple kick up the backside or a slap across the face. There are lots of far more serious
violences that weâre going to cover. And then you can think
about them at home, search and think. Now then, our unconscious limits
manifest themselves, obviously,
in the circumstances of life. Because that's how it is. They manifest themselves in our words, in our beliefs, our behaviours, our relationships, our vocations and our stances. I could talk about each of these things
but weâll develop it as we go. Now, though, Iâd like you to do a little exercise. Starting from now,
I'm going to make you feel awkward. You're going to feel uncomfortable, Iâm warning you. Look at yourselves.
Be observers of yourselves. What is your reaction
to my presence here and my words? Observe. And observe without judging. Observe without adopting a position
because now than ever I want to do one thing: bother you, make you feel uncomfortable. Because if I can't make you feel
uncomfortable, somethingâs wrong. If I make you feel uncomfortable
I know that you're moving. I know that you can see it...
weâre dusting off a lot of things. A lot of things
that we've kept hidden away, that we can't touch. They are like commandments. Right?
They are like commandments. Because when they tell you
the commandments and they tell you them
at a certain age, I can assure you that where I come from nuns in their time
and priests in theirs wanted children
and theyâd say to you: "Bring me your son
and Iâll give him back to you a man." I'm old, you see. âAnd Iâll give him back to you a man.â That's where the brainwashing starts. âDo this, don't do that." âIf you do this, youâll go to hell." "God is always watching." You can't imagine
how Iâve suffered with that scumbag of a God watching me all day... you can't imagine. Iâll say it loud and clear,
you cannot imagine. There I'd be with my friends
and, damn it, of course... We lived in the countryside and there were some peaches
on this hot afternoon. I remember...
I was about five or six. I remember...
my friend's name was Thomas. I haven't seen him in years,
but he's called Thomas. Good times... And we'd say it with such certainty: "Oh man, we're being watched." Catholicism is one of the easiest
religions to follow. Do you know why? Because you sin, you go and confess
and it's all sorted. And he said to me, imagine how we thought
when we were five or six, he said: "Right, Enric, but you know that you go and confess
and it's all forgiven." And heâd walk by one and go âBam!â. And if it fell to the ground
we didn't consider that a sin. Because it was already
on the ground. And as it was on the ground
it could rot. Because the farmer wasn't going
to come, being the weekend, he wouldn't get there till Monday
and by then the ants would have come. If you grow up in the countryside
you know how all this works. I remember a wasp stinging us
and us wetting ourselves, and we mixed up some mud to a paste and stuck it on ourselves
and it worked like a charm. You could tell we were country boys. We were very sure about everything. Otherwise, one of us would grab
a stone and make like it had fallen. Bam! And it would hit the tree
and one would fall down. And the other would say,
"Throw another; only one fell." Ok. I remember it perfectly,
like it was yesterday. Everything gets recorded. The information is never lost. We can't forget, but we can transform. When we laugh, we are forgiving. When we are resentful, we project this resentment on to others and we carry on doing the same. If not with fruit, with something else. This is called "violence". Ok? Just observe. Great. It is violence
because it stifles our freedom. And that of others when we project it, which is what I was just explaining. When you can really laugh
about something like that, obviously you laugh and thatâs it. And it gets stored in your memory,
but the chest has changed. Now we're
in the chest of laughter, not the chest of sin. not the chest of âwe are badâ, not the chest of whatever... Because when you're in that chest
and there are lots of these limits, I repeat:
we project them on to others. Not with the exact same words,
though sometimes, yes. But often with the same meaning
and the same intention. Ok, family? So, moving on... let's have a look
at some of the features of violence. Some are very subtle. For example, a mother says to her daughter, "Youâre not going out like that!" It seems silly, doesn't it? But you say that
to a five- or six-year-old girl. Or you start telling her...
You dress the girl like a "poupée". Yes, yes; this is violence. And do you know why it's violence? Because I am programming my daughter
that she has to go out dressed a certain way. Still with me?
Itâs not an innocent thing. Obviously,
I'm not saying that the mother is bad. Because,
whatâs the mother herself doing? Projecting beliefs that she received. They are very subtle. It's like the ads that we see on the TV, these size-zero-minus-three girls. Whatâs that all about?
My wife â and I love my wife â that dress...
she can't even get one leg in it. And then there's the other one,
a guyâs looking for a car. And they put this "girlâ in there,
sitting there. And the guy says, "Shit." The unconscious is perfectly clear,
I don't know about the car. If I can get that with this car, then I'm gonna buy the damn car. And we're laughing,
which is what I want: I want you to laugh because
when we laugh we reach consciousness. "Ăndale", as they say in Mexico. âGet out of here!â But it's like this. All this is violence,
making girls believe. And then you see it on the street,
girls walking like this. And your unconscious says to you:
"Not that one." Programmes...
Dance for this... Eat this,
Fight for that. What do they think they are? Alignments. Violences are very subtle. And men get used. And don't get me started on perfume. I could do a PhD in that. Perfume. What amazing marketing! It's important for your perfume
to project your personality. And because
some people have a shit personality, they put this perfume on that knocks you out
when you walk down the street... Or you get in the lift,
one day I got in with this woman who must have felt
that she had a fantastic personality. So I got in and when I tried
to get out again, I couldn't. That's violence too: having to smell
a perfume that I don't like. Are you seeing all this violence? It's everywhere, everywhere. That's how it goes. What Iâm saying... we consider it normal, itâs hypnosis. We have to smell. One time, I dropped one of those
scented potpourri things, you know, the ones you could set fire to
with a match, We've only done three slides
and weâre already stuck in. Do you see? Weâre really getting stuck in. I've been mulling
over this talk for a while. Shall I say this or not,
and then I say it anyway. Over with. Now, Sara,
the girl who came out before told me, "You have to talk about violence", Sara, give me time, I need to feel it,
and okay, there it is, I can feel it. Because I wanted to make it fun. Do you see? I want us to see our pain
but I don't want us to start crying. Ok? All clear, darlings? Ok. It can be sugarcoated
with love and affection. Oh, now that I've found you,
I can't live without you. I've already messed
this woman's life up because, naturally, this woman,
who initially was maybe like, "Oh, listen to what Enric told me!" But when she starts to take stock,
she says... There comes a day that she gets
bored of this guy because he's really annoying, because his feet stink
and she's sick of it, and he burps and farts... I thought I was really happy
with this guy and I want to leave him,
but she says without knowing why, "But I don't want to hurt him." Sound familiar? Because you were hypnotised,
my love. Donât let them say to you,
"I can't live without you." Say, "Hang on a minute." You live with you and Iâll live with me and when we agree,
weâll have a little tumble together, but then everybody goes home." Let's take it step by step. Everybody with me?
Yes? There are many types of violence. People think that youâre
foul-mouthed because you say, "You're a gitâ. And they say "You're so lovely,
when I see you I get all..." And you say, "Ooh, great."
But let's see... It's true. This is the greatest form of violence. They give it to you with Vaseline. You don't realise but it's already
in, and you say, "What the..?, What just happened?" And bent over, as you say. But then you say, "But I'm not telling him to get it out because I don't want him to get mad, especially after the compliment
he just gave me." You're with me, right? Iâm doing this to make us laugh. Itâs like the "comedy clubâ in here,
isn't it? But I havenât rehearsed. I didn't know
how I was going to give the talk. I just thought, âLord, enlighten me,
so it's not too dramatic." Let's carry on. And oh, by the way, always with the best intentions,
of course. Because, naturally, darling son,
this hurts me more than it does you, but I've just given him
a really hard slap. Remember though,
it hurts me more than it hurts you. Thanks. "Son, I don't think
that girlâs right for you." "It's for your own good, you know." âWell thanks so much, Mumâ,
or "Thanks a lot, Dad". "Thanks for letting me live
my own life." This is violence. Still with me? Weâll come to it, we've just started. People who project the beliefs
of the parents. "Your Dadâs this...", "Your Mum doesn't do that", And you're four years old
and "Tell your Dad...â "Tell your Mum...â. And I've met people who are 50
and theyâre still the same. They say, âI just don't get it.â
âDear, you're hypnotised,donât fret." We're great dehypnotisers here, which is what Iâm doing now. Still with me? But all that "Tell Dad" or "Tell Mum",
"your Mum's this" or "your Dad", where do I begin? It can be coated in suffering. "Son, don't come back so late,
I worry so. I worry so,
I can't sleep, I can't sleep." And when the child gets home,
the Mum itâs usually the Mum, or the Dad, comes out: âHow are you son?â
And the son... "Did you have a good time, son?" And the son says, "Yes." "Iâve made you omelette
and chips. Because I thought, ' Oh, my poor boy,
all night without eating, my boyâll have to eat something'." And the son, "No, don't worry, Mum. Iâm going to bed." "Oh, how we worry
and look at how they treat us." Sound familiar? âAfter all Iâve done for you. Look, after I gave you my youth. And now you're running round
with that slag of a neighbour." Ok?
Good, right? Sounds familiar, right? I could go on for hours. People who demand
a lot of love and affection. âOh, honey, come and see Granny. I'll give you a couple of Euros
when you do.â And then... "Where are going, love?" "I'm going to get a couple of Euros,
sorry, to see Granny." Now, this is really funny, but the kid is going to grow up. And heâs learned
that to get or receive affection he has to pay something. Are you with me? This is violence. And the person
who does it is not conscious, because these are
unconscious limitations. Are you with me? The projection of guilt...
Where do I begin? Ok. "Who do you think you are?
"Don't you know I've done this?" âYes, great.â Or as one woman said, "My kids, really, my kids...
they just do what they want." And I said, âWhy?â "I cook their meals
with all the love in the world." "As you should," I say. "Yes, but they don't say anything." And I said,
"But do they eat it?" And she said, "Every last bit."
"So?" "What more do you want?"
Besides eating it, should they say, âGreat Mum! Well done Mum'?" The kids eat the potato omelette
or whatever you've made because you do it out of love.
Thatâs what you said. Do you want them to applaud
you every time? Suffering. Suffering and they suffer, eh? Oh my kids... and there was one who said,
âMy husband's worse." âWhy'?"
"He doesnât buy me flowers." What? "If my husband loved me
he'd buy me flowers." And I said,
"Well, you buy them." "No, no, he should know..." Oh... that âhe should knowâ. That âhe should knowâ,
that's a lot to know. "He should know that I like flowers.â "But I'm sure he loves you very much." And she said,
"If he loved me he'd buy me flowers." And I couldnât snap her out of it. "Why don't you buy them, honey?â, "Why not buy them yourself?" Another one. They try to control.
This is a good one...control. "Hi, daughter, how are you?" "Good, Mum.
Same as yesterday, no news." And after a time the girl or the guy gets sick to death of the motherâs daily phone call
at eight oâ clock in the evening. Conversation: "How are you, Mum?" "Good, good." "How are you, son. Everything ok?" "Yes, everything's fine."
And the next day, the same thing. We have a rule in our house:
no news is good news. When someone calls, you say,
âOh God! What's happened?â And that's it. "And do you want to talk to Mum?" And they say, "No, but it's my Mum.
And I don't want her to feel bad." When you were little, Mum made
this emotional dependence her business. This is called "violence". When my children go away, I say, "Just let me know when you arrive...
when you get there. And when you come back, just say
"I'm on my way back." And if thereâs nothing else in
between there's nothing wrong at all. Moving on... Those based on distrust. We could write a book about these. The violences based on distrust are: I tell you one thing,
but I believe another, because I think whatever...
right? And we start to create
an act of violence: saying things to someone,
things we donât believe. And we don't want to do. That is, we say weâll do them, we make a commitment
but we have no intention of doing them. Right? Great, let's carry on. Some examples: people say
"Enrique, give us examples." I can't give examples here
because thereâs no time. But Iâm going to give examples of some of the ones I've got here
in case I miss one out. So, coating things in suffering. These are all real-life examples. I don't tell them word for word
for obvious reasons. So any resemblance to anyone
is purely coincidental. But I talk
about the most important things. Now, a client comes to see me
and they've had a stroke. Ok? We know that stroke
has to do with a lot of control, as if thereâs a situation
bothering me incessantly and I can't find the solution. So, the issue is this: take note because thereâs
lots of violences in this example, loads. I've already introduced you
to the topic, youâll start to see them. One: the parents; the father is an alcoholic and abuses the mother. Ok, clear enough:
somebody's abusing someone else. The problem is
that the mother throws him out and takes him back a few months later. All with me? And this goes on for years. And the child, who was a child,
my client, is now an adult, but he was a child,
and he's seen this since he was small. And the child takes his mother's side. Still with me? Because his mother complains: "Look, what your father does to me." Now, if I climb down here and kick this gentleman in the leg, the guy's going to think,
"Enric didn't see me." But if I get down three times
and kick him three times, he has a problem. He has the problem. Carl Gustav Jung said, but from a quantum
and holistic perspective, the two have the same programme:
to devalue, as we know. So, here thereâs an excess
on the manâs side, called excess positivism, and the woman usually has
a deficit in positivism or affection. For the moment this is how it is. Now we're coming to a crucial point. This goes on for a long time and the child grows up, always suffering for his mother. He worries about her so much that he dare not leave her alone. Everybody with me? This is violence. Because his Mum
allows this man to come in, but the man doesn't just come;
she calls him because the poor guy's
an alcoholic and all that, but when he comes back,
he slaps her around. And he feels this great
resentment towards his father. Still with me? And he wants to get on with his life,
but he doesnât dare to. You're with me, right? In the end, he meets a girl
and heâs more attracted to her. The problem is that this girl
has the same pattern as his mother. And she also exerts
violence on him. Note how subtle it is: they are sitting on the couch
watching TV and she says to him, "You haven't kissed me today.â It seems silly, doesn't it? For God's sake! You want a kiss from your husband?
Go over and snog him! You haven't kissed me today. And whoever says you didn't kiss me
today says you didn't do X today. So he reaches awareness of the fact
that his wife is very demanding, like his mother. He has this project, I canât remember if it was studying
or going away to study somewhere, but heâs hypnotised again by this, "I don't want to leave my mother,
etcetera.â For the unconscious, my wife
and my mother are exactly the same. Still with me? Right?
And there it is. Stay or go?
Stay or go? Stay or go? until you end up staying. Get the picture? Ok. As I was saying, he searches
and searches, and he feels trapped, because he wants to get on with life
and he doesn't. He was hypnotised as a child. Do you get what Iâm saying? Ok, hereâs another. Coated with love and affection. This one's great. A lady comes to see me
because she's got this kidney problem and they don't know
if she needs an operation, And she says
"And at one point I put on 30 kilos." "Really?" "It was like from one day to the next.
"Bam! Bam! 30 kilos." And I asked her,
"When did this start?" "My husband died;
he was 30 years older than me." Right? Remember that. Thatâs an excess, right? â30 years older than me." "Her husband dies aged 84",
when she's 54. And she goes to the notary
to get "the thing" and it turns out that he left it all
to his ex and their kids. After living with him
for a tonne of years. Still with me? Ok. When she reads the will,
she has a funny turn and faints. And then her bloods starts to boil. And from then on,
it turns out that she only inherited a house that she and her dead
husband bought God knows where, I say,
"Listen love, you've been hypnotised... you're in a state
because your life is an excess. Tell me about it.â "Well, when I met my first boyfriend,
when I was 16, my Mum said to me, 'I don't like that boy. I don't like him, I don't want
you to go out with that boy.'" Of course. The first guy, what you expect,
I say this because I have daughters, for your dad to say âGreatâ. I remember my daughter was going out
with this guy and I said to her, âLook, love, Iâll always be by your side. If you mess up, Iâm there. If you get it right, Iâm there.
Iâll always be there. But I won't deprive you
of the experience", and I said, "I don't think this boy's
the one for you, but if you love him
you have my blessing. Just do me a favour,
a small favour. Wait till you've done Erasmus. Go on your Erasmus trip. And when you come back from Erasmus,
which is the equivalent of Orgasmus, if when you come back from Erasmus,
you want to marry this guy, Iâll be the first to give my blessing.â She hugged me and said,
"Thanks, Dad". And there was a pact.
Do you get me? I can't tell you how many times
she's thanked me. But I didn't stop her, you see? Do this and if you want to marry him
afterwards, well go on, get married,
without thinking. Still with me? "I just don't like him.
Have you taken a proper look?" But she canât see; sheâs in love,
she looks at him funny. But she doesn't see it,
it's all related. Of course, when someone
falls in love they go all funny. So, anyway... this girl has her story. And she falls in love with a spiritual
leader and goes off to Switzerland. And she said to me:
âItâs not a sect." And I said, "There were lots of women in the group
you shared, weren't there?" "Almost all." "And what did you do?"
"Me, take care of the kids." "The leaderâs kids?"
âOf course.â "And what were you doing there?"
"I wanted a baby with the leader." âSo what happened?â One day he said to me,
âSorry, the tap's been turned off." And there was no baby. The thing is that she goes. She meets this guy. And you all know the outcome. Why am I saying all this? Because during the visit,
she remembers her mother saying, "Daughter, you're stupid, you're never going to find
a man who loves you, even as a mother you're no use." Still with me?
What was that woman projecting? Her projection.
Everybody with me? That is violence.
And with that hypnosis stuck in there. In their family tree, the men died young and the women of the clan
practically had to become men. So she had this real need for a father. Do you see? Do you see
that what weâre told as children we end up living out as adults? Everyone lives in their own
way, thatâs clear. Not everyone lives life the same,
thank God. Now, coated with protection. This is a good one too: a client
comes with a lump in her throat. She lives with her mother, grandmother
and sister, four women from the clan, And I say, âWhere are the men?â
"The men..." The men have never been around. She's 15 years old
and she comes home. Sheâs started seeing this guy. And the three witches, sorry,
the three women are waiting for her. Nine o'clock at night. In the kitchen. The kitchen clock:
tick, tick, tick. Until four in the morning,
going on and on and on. "I just don't know about this.
And men are whatever." Now thatâs brainwashing. So she gets this lump and has an operation and fifteen years later the lump
comes back in the same place and thatâs when she decides to end
her relationship with her husband. Because she does not know why but
she can't carry on with her husband. And I asked her,
"Why don't you want to carry on?" âI donât know.â Well I know. "Men are useless and all that..."
Everybody with me? Do you see?
Ok. Meanwhile, she works with a girl
giving talks and so on. And she has a problem with a girl
and wants to finish. She wants to end a relationship.
And she says, "And at four day", which must mean
four in the morning, "and at four day we sat down
to work out how to wind up the company and at four in the morning
we were still talking, and I stayed silent, because thanks to you, Enric, now I have reached consciousness
that one of the things the three Marias told me is, âYou canât talk; be quiet, your opinion doesnât count.ââ I wasn't conscious. That's why, at four in the morning... And she couldn't because when she
wanted to say something she was told, "Be quiet." When I wanted to say something,
"Shut up." Six hours: "Shut up." Waiting for the time to pass. A lump, here. Because the thyroid is related to time. Do you see? Let's see another. Coated with control. This is a lady
who comes to me and says, "I have episodes of dry skin." I'd never heard this. âLet's see,â she says,
"I have dry skin." "Well, I can see it's dry,
but do you take care of it." "Yes, but depending on what happens,
in a matter of minutes, it turns dry, really dry,
and gets all wrinkled." Let's take it step by step. Well, it all started like this, Iâm talking about when I was a child,
what's going on. Because I realised:
what is the seed they put in you? The time of the seed
is when they start training you. When we are still delicate,
are you with me? and they start telling you things
that are the law for you. Because the people saying these things
are people you give power too: your parents,
it doesn't matter if they're hooligans. And then she sees that her father
had a problem with image. With image. And she starts to go out with a guy,
at the age of 24, she meets a guy. "What are you doing aged 24
with a guy?" "Well before they said
I couldnât because of our image, what would people think,
âmen, women...?â" She goes out. "Oh, don't go getting pregnant,
you know your father's image... and all that.â Everybody with me?
Conclusion: she has no kids. And she works as a teacher. Why? Because for her unconscious
she should have children. But the real stress,
when all this starts, is that her nephew dies. A son of her sister. And he was like a son to her, And her programme,
her information, is that she could not have sex
so as not to get pregnant. And you might say,
"But she's married." No, the order doesn't come. "Careful, don't get pregnant." "Don't go getting pregnant." And for the unconscious
"don't get pregnant" means don't get pregnant ever. Is this clear, darlings? Thatâs violence in its clearest
form. Thatâs called "screwing your life up". With a lot of love and affection
and with every good intention, because the only thing I'm doing
is projecting my fears, my shortcomings and my frustrations. Weâre here today
to reach consciousness. Are you with me? Not to do harakiri, don't worry. There are no guilty parties here
but we're going to reach consciousness because if we reach consciousness
we can laugh at it and we will change
how we express ourselves. Yes? Good. Ok. The stress also appears when they try to promote her
to Director of such and such. And then it's,
"Will I be able to project an image?" "Will the teachers
who are my friends now still be there?" Are you following? She felt the same stress. She didn't dare accept the position
for her image. Do you see the extent to which
we are hypnotised... Another one. With every good intention. All men are pigs. Have you noticed?
Don't worry, more than one. So a girl comes to me
with human papillomavirus. HPV, and she comes and I say, "Normally HPV is associated
with dirty sexual relations or âI feel dirtyâ, or âmy husband went off wit
someone else and then slept with meâ. âI feel like a prostituteâ.â
In short, everyone has a story. But the thing starts like this. And I said, "When did this start?"
âWhen we decided to have a baby." âWhat happened?â He said, "Well... Three or four years ago
I had genital herpes.â He said this to her. And she said,
âWhy didn't you tell me before?â âBecause
we didn't know each other then." "I had genital herpes
with a girl before I met you." "You should have told me this
before you met me." Now, that's exaggerating a bit but,
do you understand? And he said, "It's alright,
my Dadâs a gynaecologist. And he told me it's ok." But it turns out
that her Dad is a doctor. And he says the opposite,
"No, you can catch that." So we have two doctors
and they don't see eye to eye. But thatâs not the half of it. The thing is that the father and the two grandfathers
would go out on the prowl. They'd take their penguin out. And all the women in the clan
put up with their husbandsâ prowling. Still with me? Because they are long-suffering. Because the men are the pigs. But they put up with the situation And to whom
do they pass on the situation? The daughter. When the daughter hears,
âI had genital herpesâ, itâs like someone pushed a button. Ok. There it is, human papillomavirus. I ask her, well, I say to her, âI'm sure
your husband is super faithful." And she says, âYou have no idea. Heâs totally, totally faithful.â Of course, youâre making up for the fact that all the
men in the clan were unfaithful and you went looking for a totally,
faithful man. And she says, âI hadn't looked at it like that.â
âGo on, get home.â âYou've got a faithful man, honey,
who loves you.â Still with me?
But she was hypnotised. I don't know if I'm explaining myself,
yes? She was in hypnosis. âDoes your man mess around?" "No way! You loves me
and he treats me like a princess." "So what do you want?" Here I've written,
"The past always comes calling." Ok. Overprotection. I know a thousand people
with alcohol problems, men and women, practically all over the world,
they are over-protected. Theyâre emotionally immature. Normally, the characteristic is: the mother has a husband
who is never at home and she projects
her need for a man on to her son and overprotects the child, making him an emotionally
immature individual; in other words, people with very weak reactions
to any frustration. Like in today's society...
if you press play... You know like when children press
for something and they don't get it? Yes? Ok. Overprotection is one of the biggest
violences around because we incapacitate our children and prevent them, as adults, from being able to overcome the mental and psychic difficulties of life. And when they can't,
because they just can't, they feel helpless
and take refuge in drink. Ok? And women usually
have the same problem, but itâs called
"Mummy-itis" or "Child-itis". I once met a guy who's now a fantastic person
and does wonderful things out there, but when he was a child,
his mother would say to him, "If I could, Iâd keep you in a closet
full of cotton wool and never let you out." She never let him play out
with his friends. "No, you might hurt yourself." "No, youâll get dirty, I donât want
anything to happen to you.â This guy was a drug trafficker. Ok? Easy life. He was lucky he met me,
he always said that he was lucky. And today he's a good man,
he gave it all up. He said to me,
"I met you and I went broke." Because he earned
wads of cash every month and he ended up
on a thousand or twelve hundred Euros. He used to say,
"I met you and I don't know... You've not ruined my life,
but you've ruined me.â He's a really nice guy,
this was quite a few years ago. I'm talking about 25 years ago. Iâll always remember this person because he has the same name
as my son, he's called David. And Iâll say here and now, âDavid,
it was a pleasure meeting you, you were my great teacher.
I learned so much from you. Thank you.â Ok. Differential education, which is one
of the major causes of violence. And this is where Mums
hold the power. You educate
your sons and daughters differently. And they do the same
with their children. And then
they do the same with theirs. Fortunately, this is changing,
but we need to speed it up. So, ladies,
their early years are yours, boys and girls the same;
don't differentiate between them because then we hear things like,
"I killed her because she was mine." Ok. Parents who force their relationship, as if their children were clueless. As if their children were clueless. âNo, I put up
with my husbandâs bad attitude because he's the father
of my children". And I say, "And thatâs the father
you want for your children? Thatâs the model
you want your child to learn? For him to shout at you? What's your child going to do
when he get married?" Shout! Everything is imitation;
everything is learned; this is known. They are called âmirror neuronsâ. And we put up with harassment,
abuse, shouting, fighting, flying plates, for the sake of the children. For the sake of the children
or for you? Are you with me, darlings? You have a face on you...
I'm making you uncomfortable. Right? Of course, I'm very observant. Fraud and speculation, thatâs violence. This is violence. Deceiving people, speculation, for the Government to do it, itâs violence that there are people
who have stolen millions and they are put in prison
as if they'd been put on a spaceship. Make them give the money back. Come on! Make them give the money back. And all us little people
here, paying our taxes. And it turns out that, well,
there you have it: speculation is a great violence. So somebody, say, in Ibiza today, because they used to say that people
who work in Ibiza can't work, because if they want to work in Ibiza
they must sleep in overcrowded flats on a mattress for 300 Euros
a month or else... If you donât, you don't work. Oh no, and the Government,
which watches out for us all, allows this speculation. This is violence.
Does everybody understand this? This is violence. Yes, you pay
a thousand Euros less in income tax and only 20%. But the guy speculating
doesn't even pay tax, and he goes on TV, and they show these flats and it all continues. This was on TV3 today,
you can see it on TV3 a la carta. And the journalists go there
and they show it all, they don't even have to look for it. They just ask one of the
waiters where they sleep: âMe? With 200 others, one metre each
in a 300-square-metre flat." For 300 Euros a month.
Yes, darlings, this is real. This is violence. Allowing this is violence.
Everybody with me? I explain lots of things
about violence. Ok. Different treatment due to religion,
skin colour, culture... This is violence. There are many types of violence. The irregular distribution
of taxes in a country, thatâs violence. Still with me? That on the regional railways
of this country the trains are running today, tomorrow weâll see,
let's toss a coin to find out. Itâs called violence. For there to be no money in the
health care services in Catalonia, thatâs called violence. Yes, darling. It is. For a Minister to use things
that are prohibited by law and remain a Minister...
this is called "violence". What are they teaching us? That stealing is natural? OK. Am I making you think? Yes, yes, thatâs all I want.
For you to think. This is our society. Itâs a reflection of ourselves. Someone said that every country
has the ruler it deserves. So letâs reach consciousness. Now, sport. What about sport? Nationalism, flags, graffiti, pitched battles. This is what we teach. Police in the street. Have you seen the spectacle
of the European Cup? Today,
because everything is small... And work, the abuse of power. Abuses of power in the workplace
itâs shocking. Really shocking. Differential treatment where
a woman has to earn less than a man. This is violence. Allowing this is violence. At least in my company,
the majority are women. The ones in charge, female. I don't choose this,
it happens in my life. If she does it better... Right? It's violence. You get the point, don't you? We complain about violence:
"But she killed her husband." There are lots of ways to kill
lots of people: by shooting, by nipping them. Moving on... And in the workplace it's horrific. I wonât talk about "bullying",
I don't want to get ahead of myself. Letâs not get ahead,
donât get nervous. And then thereâs the
most hidden violence of all. Suicide. Did you see the lady's face? Itâs as if I'd said,
"It's raining in Madrid." Suicide. Itâs a disgrace for any country. Psychologists and psychiatrists
are in two minds about whether or not to report it because they are afraid
of the issue: if we report it people will get ideas. And they're right. If you say it, why do you say it.
And, if you don't, why not. But there they are, all the data,
which are official, so naturally
well below the real figures. 800,000 people in 2012, and I repeat: that is what they say,
Iâm talking about Spain, which is one of those countries,
according to official figures, the lowest,
but the number of suicides in Spain is double
and almost triple the accident rate. Ok? And it says that there are more
deaths than in traffic accidents. Spain is the third country in the list
in Europe, starting from the bottom. Weâre at the bottom end. I think Italy, Switzerland
and a couple more are ahead of us. There are lots of factors, obviously. A society that has little toleration
for frustration. In Spain, thousands of teenagers
try to kill themselves each year. In Madrid, 1,900 attempts were recorded over 4 months
in 4 hospitals in the Madrid region. 1,900. Ok? Iâve witnessed this first-hand. I've rushed a sister of mine
who tried to commit suicide to the hospital
and did mouth-to-mouth on her. I know what I'm talking about. Agreed? With problems of bulimia and anorexia. But Iâm not surprised. With the hypnosis we were subjected
to in my house where everything was a sin
and my sisters, when my mother got home,
"Did you go to mass?" Me, I had a pair of balls, and when I came in I'd say,
âNo way. Iâm not going to mass." "Don't you know that God
sees everything?" "Well, heâll have seen
that I haven't gone to mass then." And she'd say, "You know youâre going
straight to hell?" And I'd say, "This house is hell." That's how I answered
when I was about 14 or 15. And my mother would say,
"You're the devil incarnate." Well I must be. So, ladies and gentlemen,
the insults uttered in this world against my person, can do no harm because as a child
I wrapped myself in Teflon. As a boy, I wrapped myself in Teflon. Iâm telling it like it is. Thanks
to these truly special situations, I have the strength that I have today,
the confidence I have in myself, and I thank God
for the parents He gave me. Let that be clear. Because I've decided to be the master,
not the victim. It was my decision. Is that clear? Things never happen just because. Ok. Different types of suicide,
there are lots here. Eating disorders. I lived this at home so I included it,
my sister died from this. Risk behaviours. We see young people constantly
putting their lives at risk in cars or doing sport where they seriously
injure themselves for no purpose. What for? "It makes me feel alive." And I say,
"Dead is what youâll be." Oh, youâll feel something alright...
the pummelling youâre going to get. That's not biological,
no animal says... A deer, "Watch, my beloved doe." And jumps five metres
when it can only jump four. We confirm that it's very macho
and it takes an almighty fall. Deer, possibly roasted. We do crazy stuff. And Iâm not even talking
about drug addictions like alcoholism. When people go out to celebrate,
to have fun, which in Spanish comes from the Latin and
means "to change direction", because they have to enjoy
and they have the right to, but they couldn't give a damn
about the neighbours. Until four in the morning. Drinking and drinking... If they were to pick it up and take it
with them when they went home, but,no the next day they have to go round...
I don't get it. Barcelona celebrates
the Feast of Saint John. Tonnes and tonnes of waste. So why don't they put bins out? They do; they empty out the bins. This is violence. Because we all pay for the guy
who comes and cleans up afterwards. Sweeties... There are people that go round
thinking that the woods must have a mouth that swallows up all the shit. There are people who go there with a bed... a bed to the woods. I live in the country and I find
toilet bowls, beds, mattresses... People must think
that a monster comes out at night but, instead of the cookie monster,
it eats beds and all this other stuff. This is called "violence". And don't get me started on the ones
who take their dogs out and you go out after them and...
I could go on but weâll leave it here. But youâre all following, right? That's how it goes. Well, weâll continue with this. Sexual violence
against women or in women. This is abstract data from the UN,
on women. It's official data. I don't know if itâs true,
but at least what I say is official. 35% of women around the world have
been subject to physical and sexual violence by their partner
or a person other than their partner, like a cousin, uncle or whoever. Ok, different types of sexual violence
within marriage. There are lots. I can testify to that. Sexual harassment in the workplace. Sex in exchange for favours. Child sexual abuse. Forced marriage. Still with me? Even with children, 250 million females under the age of 15
are forced to marry. The other day, I was reading a column
in "La Vanguardia", I think it was, about a girl who said,
"I was married as a young girl and the men would beat us,
the husbands would beat us so that we were well-behaved." Note: the twenty-first century. 43% of women
in the European Union have suffered violence
at the hands of a sexual partner, in Europe. Femicide:
âI killed her because she was mine". 1 in 3 women are the targets
of violence by their sexual partners. And there is no difference
in social class or education. There is no high social class here,
none at all. Moving on... Working hypothesis. We're here to put things right. Ok. What I've been explaining. The problem is
that we project ourselves constantly. It is a matter of projection. We blame others for our shortcomings. If someone insults me
I say that they've insulted me. I don't think
âWhy is this happening to me?â and as is written
in the most sacred books, "In the universe, as in life,
nothing happens by chance"... Nothing; no encounter is casual. Everything is synchrony, everything is resonance. When you meet someone and say
how good you feel with him, it's because you are resonating
with that person. We say things like,
âWe have this 'feeling'â, âWe are tuned inâ. And your friend says... You're all with me, right? âI just canât breathe.â "You've only gone and fallen in love
with that muppet..." "You just don't see him the way I do."
âI swear it's not true.â We all do the same. For example, you donât meet
someone just because, and you don't relate just because,
itâs all resonance. So,
letâs stop projecting ourselves. If I go through life
feeling that Iâm worthless, that I was taught
that men are worthless â still with me? â I'm going to find men that devalue me. It's as simple as that. If we think in dual mode
âwhat bad luckâ, we fall into the trap of victimhood. At the Institute we teach
that victimhood does not exist; it is a choice. Here, as other authors would say, âWe have to learn to be adults of God." Emotional adults. We must be responsible
for our thoughts, feelings and actions. And one way to change is to realise that we constantly project and that when we choose
a friend or a relationship, we are actually projecting ourselves
on them. And I am projecting myself thanks to these hypnoses
that I received from my mother. For example,
there was this lady, here she is, I have it here, this lady came to see me with
an anal cancer that she no longer has. And she said, âLook, Enric, I have a really swollen
reproductive system, so swollen that I canât have
sexual intercourse.â Perfect. And I ask her one thing, "Have you got a problem with a man?" And she says,
"With my brother." It came straight out: my brother. "What's wrong with your brother?"
"Heâs an alcoholic." Alright. "How does your mother treat
your brother?â "She's always been..." âHow about you?
"Ignoring me?" Ok? Alright. Solemn words from the mother. "Men are good-for-nothings." âWomen don't need men." She's had seven partners. Seven partners. And I asked her, "Did you have sex?" And she said,
"In the beginning, but not later." "And how did you punish them?" I'd be like this all day: "You're useless,
you do everything wrong, and so on." She'd say,
"Men are useless", life brings her men
to tell them this... This is called "violence",
got it? "And your current relationship?" "My current relationship
is with my husband." And she said, "Don't even go there.
I love my husband very much." âCalm down, calm down," I told her. "What's wrong with him?" "We don't have sex because of how I am, but I love him very much,
I travelled here today from the city and I left him his lunch,
clean underpants, shirt, pants, everything." And I say, "As if he were your son." And she says, "Yes." "You love him like a child because
your mother taught you one thing: that men are only good
when they are little; when they get older,
they're no good any more. So, the only relationship
that you have with a man is mother to child." And there's more, "For your unconscious
you and your mother are the same, and your husband and your brother
too." Everybody following? That's how it goes. That's how it goes. So, you can't have sex
with your children. Simple as that. The solemn words of her mother. âMen are all the same,
theyâre worthless." "We women don't need men." She'd heard it since she was so big.
Why?â Because this lady had a husband
who was never at home and just put up with the situation. And instead of taking decisions
and changing her life, she thought, "Iâll train and play
the role of victim." And throw everything into a child
who was left immature, who could well be 35
but itâs as if he were 12. A clearly emotionally immature individual and a woman
whom she taught that men are good for nothing at all. Ok. Phrases with a backdrop of violence. I have selected these from my visits: "You make me do it.â
"I do it for your own good." âI canât live without you.â
"Iâll kill myself if you leave me." "You got what you deserve."
âYou can't do anything right.â "Youâll never do anything."
"Nobody'll love you." "Your brother is better than you." "I'd be kinder
if you were more tolerant." "You never support me."
"You only think of yourself." "You make me worry
with your attitude and friends." And we could go on. Right? So, onward towards change. Towards change. Educate and appreciate
boys and girls equally. This is the big seed. And if you ladies
have a husband who is never at home, decide whether you want
to live with him or without him, but donât be victims or lay blame
and do not unconsciously project your need or lack
of a man at home on to your child. Still with me? You will establish
a differential treatment. And you will subconsciously teach
this boy that he is special, because he is treated by women
and must be treated by women. Please listen carefully
to what I'm saying. Because we learn subconsciously. My mother treats me
differently to my sister. So,
when I am small and this is the law, then I demand it. Ok? I demand this. And they do it subconsciously. Because the mother
projected all her frustration. And,
she does it with the best intentions. Of course she does. But two wrongs don't make a right. And the road to hell
is paved with good intentions, but it still leads to hell. We are here to reach consciousness Not to do harakiri,
"What did I do wrong?â No. We are here to reach consciousness. Those of us who have been parents,
to forgive ourselves. And those of you who are going to be,
to be fully conscious. Education
no longer has to be against, it needs to be more
of a collaboration, not competition. Still with me?
We are always in competition. Our biology,
all of nature collaborates, it doesn't compete. Evolution is not Darwinian, it is Lamarckian. It is collaboration.
All of our cells work together. Imagine if the cells in the liver told the heart cells to get lost? That bloody gut
gives me a lot of work! Don't work so hard, intestine. You, Mouth! Eat less!
I have to work. Can you imagine? The 50 million cells we have,
if each one did its own thing. Alright. Education in emotional management,
what are we here for? Emotion is really â weâre getting
straight to the point now â it's not only about physical
symptoms, there's something else, in educating people,
in managing emotions. Everybody following? In teaching our children
how to overcome daily events, to turn them into emotional geniuses. Emotional intelligence. You don't get on in life
by being very smart. The ones
who triumph are the emotional geniuses. I'm a bit of a dummy, but Iâm a genius
when it comes to emotional topics. Do you get me?
And that makes me look wise. Iâm a genius emotionally,
but in everything else I just manage. The truth is that the older I become
the more intelligent I get, maybe because the neurons...
we take advantage of them and learn. Itâs true, our brain
should never age, it doesn't have that capacity; it ages because it gets bored, it thinks the same things every day,
it repeats the same, says the same, feels the same, same, same... and the neurons say,
"Come on, change the record." And nothing changes. But if you get up every day
with hope... You see, I'd get rid of retirement. Come on, everybody to work
until you die; no, no I wouldn't go that far. Retirement in the sense
of retirement here. âWhat do you do?â
âIâm retired.â As if it were something
this being retired malarkey. The retired guy,
and four of them join up... to spend the afternoon together. Iâm going to die with my boots on. I'll be here one day and say...
well, I'm off. And Iâll drop dead, thatâs it;
I've finished, the talk's over. "When are you going to retire?â
"The day I go." "Are you going to work all your life?" One minute,
Iâve never worked, because I like what Iâm doing so much that when I finish I say,
"Lord, is it already over?" No way! And something else: "Whatever you do, don't call it 'work'. "Call it 'service'." And youâll see
how you start to live another way. Itâs an opportunity
for your development. And if you're there, itâs not by mistake.
Don't have expectations in life, don't have expectations
but never lose the passion. What has got me here
is not that Iâm better or worse, itâs the passion
that I put into things. I deeply love what I do. Right? Great. The development
of a holistic quantum consciousness. Understanding
that everything is connected, joined. This is what Buddha said, so whatever we think, any thought we create never dies. Nothing goes to waste in the universe,
nothing falls to the wayside. Alright. Where to start?
As children of our parents. Freeing them of the responsibility
of the education we received. Freeing them of any resentment
towards them. Freeing them
from having to love us how we want. Freeing them from the need
that we must take care of them. Ok? In fact,
there are real active relationships where the child expects
his mother to love him as she wants him to love his mother. Do you get me? Your Mum loved you as she could,
she didnât know better. Donât get het up about it. Obviously, as parents of our children, be aware that they receive
all our information, teaching them that any relationship
is a unique opportunity for experience, teach them not to manipulate
to control others and to live in freedom. In other words, In a relationship I express myself
with it and become myself with it. I don't intend
to get anything out of it. Right? Because if I intend to get something
from it I will start to manipulate. And this is called "violence". Ok. The laboratory of life. The crucible where everything starts. The womb. But here we need to say
something very important. Very, very important. Until now,
the mother and the child... The mother and the child.
What about the father? To the father, we say, "You're the Coca-Cola,
the spark of life." No, no, no. No, no, no, no. So, you're the spark and that's it?
No. The importance of the father
is being demonstrated more and more because we are entering
an area of epigenetics, the importance
of the emotionally involved father. When a couple says
"Weâre pregnant", I say "Good, you're doing well". Not âShe's pregnantâ,
but "Weâre pregnant". The child receives this. And you cannot imagine
just how far it reaches. It is not a duality; it is the trinity: mother, child, father. If the trinity goes well,
the child goes well. If the trinity has emotional coherence, the child is ok. This is the first act of love,
the first seed to avoid future violence. Everybody with me? Here. Because although the information
we get from our ancestors is toxic, toxic, toxic, in the crucible of life
everything is purified, everything is transformed, if the parents have their children
in full awareness. Is that clear? Is that clear? Thoughts, feelings and emotions
are also the child's nourishment. The consciousness of the parents
determines that of their children. The importance of knowing
that we transmit information. The importance of transcending it
on the understanding that they too were conditioned
by their experiences and worlds. The importance of the father
during pregnancy. And thank you. Ok. I don't know who it is, but thank you. Men like flowers very much. And me, Iâm a flower geek. And I have a wonderful garden. I spend hours in it. I talk to my flowers, I motivate them. And they answer me. One day, I remember talking
to the guy that looks after my garden. "We have to pull that plant upâ,
they wanted to build this wall. And I said, âNo,
that plant's a survivor, put it here." "But, Enric, you know it can't be
transplanted now; it'll die." âJust do it,â I said.
And he transplanted it. âPut it here, on the other side." And after a few days it had dried up.
âI told you so.â âJust a minute, just a minute." And I said to the plant,
"But youâre the biggest fighter I know. You can't just up and die.
How are you dying? Don't leave me as a stupid.
Live!â And the next day,
as sure as I'm standing here now, there was a flower and a leaf. Ok? Thanks.
