In Step With The Spirit | Lisa Bevere

hey radiant church I love David and Ranade not John and I have had the privilege of knowing them for a really long time we actually knew them when they were newlyweds before they had any children and it has been such a joy to see both David and Renata grow and flourish in their calling and now to plant this church and so I am very honored that I get to come to you through a message that I believe is a crucial message for the body of Christ how we navigate anger so you're thinking I'm not angry well I was so I hope this helps you I hope it actually brings some healing and strengthening to both your marriage your individual lives and your families thank you radiant church for opening your hearts and opening your house of worship to me I'm going to show you my family again that was just like a quick blur of family okay so these are my grandchildren my beautiful Texas daughter-in-law my firstborn son we're gonna be talking about him tonight my old man husband who is very cute who I've been married to for 37 years please do not tell him I said that he gets really mad when I say he's old my youngest son who is married to a girl named Christian in case he forgets who he is me my mother-in-law my only other single son again I've got my second son and his beautiful wife Jessica do you see everybody looks normal do you see they all look happy okay I just want you to look at this because this is the redemption of God in this photo and I want to do something I'm going to be talking about being angry and not sinning because a lot of us know how to be angry and sin but I'm gonna talk about how to be angry and sin not and I'm gonna talk about it from my own life I grew up Sicilian I don't know if you know what it's a seeing is anybody here know what a Sicilian is wave at me okay so see ins are Greeks Arabs and Italians mixed we are the ones that gave the world the Mafia you're welcome it was our contribution everybody has a contribution the Mafia is ours I hope you enjoyed the movies anyway I am Sicilian then my mother is French and Apache Indian I'm just kind of putting together a little bit of a package there my dad a hundred percent to saying my mom French Apache Indian and thank God a teeny bit of British because that just kind of helps with some stuff and I grew up in a very angry household I got saved in 1981 the majority of you are not even born then but I was born again in 1981 married John Bevere in 1982 became a pastor's wife in 1988 and in 1988 because I was sitting on the front row like you guys I prayed a stupid prayer I said God I'm just about perfect God I'm a pastor's wife I'm sitting on the front row singing Hallelujah falling down once a month god I think you are so pleased with me so I'm going to just pray a prayer that sounds good father I want you to come into my life and excavate it just go in I have been singing over and over an old school song take me in to the Holy of Holies take me in by the blood of the Lamb take me in to the Holy of Holies take your coal cleanse my lips Here I am thought that I would go to bed that night and it angel would tap my shoulder here's your call but there was a very different process that began in my life see before that prayer just once a quarter I would maybe freak out on my husband I would maybe call him names I would maybe say things I shouldn't say but it was just like maybe four times a year but after I prayed that prayer it was now once a month that's when I learned about premenstrual tension I was like until the Church of Jesus Christ puts all the women into the spa for that week of course they are going to be living on the edge but now if John would say honey are you getting ready that's not it but it always was it then it went from once a month to like every single week that's when I figured out you'll understand this crispr youth pastors probably all of the witches in Orlando have targeted me and they are praying against me I am under spiritual attack that is why I'm angry not to mention all of the other things I've already said Sicilian Mafia vendetta's Apache people stole my land all this stuff is going on I began to be afraid to open my mouth and I have one of those husbands that you know like does not let something like stop so like if we were having a fight and it was nighttime and we went to bed now we were word of faith people so I would say to my husband I forgive you by faith I don't even know I don't even know what that meant but if his leg happened to come over into my space after I had forgiven him by faith I'd kick him back I'm like roll over cuz off the edge of the bed and then John would say no he'd flip on the lights rip off the covers and say we are not doing this we cannot let the Sun go down on our wrath but see I think he was wrong because we had started fighting when it was dark out so I felt like we had until the next day sundown we were in a disagreement in the kitchen I felt like my idle word account was getting high I was like I just need to not talk and John was pushing me pushing me pushing me and before I knew what happened I turned and I threw a plate at him it was thrown like a frisbee my husband ducked missing decapitation and it hit the window went right out the window that was not open I shattered our apartment window now when you do something like that everybody comes to attention and John was like I can't believe you just did that I said I can't even throw a frisbee I can't believe I did that John's like no seriously Lisa you just broke the window in our apartment complex it was a huge big picture window y'all remember I was only 28 only 28 59 now it's a long time ago anyway through it and he said you know what when they come to fix this window I am NOT gonna live for you and I said you know what you're a man of God and I don't want you to lie but I will not be here when they fix the window so I get in my car and I am praying in the spirit I am like God you are the god of the impossible it would it would be so easy for you just to reassemble that window it would be a miracle I can just give you glory off all of my life just it's just like a flinch of your eyelash the entire all the pieces of glass would come back together I prayed and I prayed when I saw the maintenance truck I said nope not going home yet just kept circling circling circling and when I came in my husband looked at me and he said you must have really been praying I was I prayed for everything I could possibly think of and he said well the maintenance man came in while I was on the toilet so your two-year-old son let him in and when he walked in he saw the broken window and he said whoa whoa what happened here and he moved the sofa away from the window looked down and there was a metal Tonka truck he picked up the truck looked at my husband and said say no more this is why we have insurance we understand that two-year-old do things like this these kind of things happen and John said I just decided to follow his instructions and say no more so I went from broken I'm so sorry God imagining people seeing me in church youth pastor's wife breaks picture window at post Lake Apartments I always knew she had a problem I am went from shaving myself to justifying myself you were gonna uncover me and see what God did I remember no longer feeling quite so bad about it yeah I probably shouldn't have thrown the plate but you shouldn't have pushed me that's the way I began to reason I know nobody in South Africa would ever think like that then I had my second child now I want to explain something one child is an accessory you take them out you dress them up they behave well it's all a trick to get you to have more children when I had my second child I remember thinking I will never brush my teeth before noon again every single day was just chaos and mayhem and we only had one car John would take the car to work and then come home look at me I'd be standing there with one baby in my arms another one on my leg a spank spoon in my hands my nursing slaps down and he would say what have you done all day and I'd say I don't know I don't know what I have done John but I have been busy and he was I think people are calling me saying they want to commit suicide and I am offering to join them I'm not saying it's a good technique but it did it did help people like oh no we need to rescue you now I was like what wait what maybe so don't every single day I was failing failing failing because my oldest son might perfectly well-behaved firstborn now refuse to take a nap because he is a justice child so if I kiss the baby I had to kiss him what was I doing with the baby if he was sleeping I might be doing something with the baby that might not be equal for him and so I would put him down and he would get up a lot of times he would hear the phone ring yeah I was a mother in the day without portable phones and he knew she's trapped he would come out of his bedroom I would be in the kitchen he would be playing in the law I'd be stomping my foot and waving the Spanx put at him like get back in your room all of these motions while I'm praying for some over the phone and my son would just be like I see your hand I see your hand but I'm not going anywhere I'm not I'm not doing it I tried putting the Spang spoon on the threshold of his doorway he just stepped right over and he's like I need to do this and one day my son came down the stairs and I came running up to meet him I no longer saw him as a child I saw him as an enemy I thought this is the one stopping me from getting anything accomplished I was a sleep-deprived crazy woman I'm stomping up the stairs with Addison I walk into his bedroom I'm looking around I'm thinking what can I do and I hear a voice say lift him up and slamming into the wall and put him on his bed and I thought to myself that should work I lifted him up and I was just getting ready to shove him in the wall when I saw something I had never seen before see my son was not afraid of what I was going to do he had no idea what I was going to do he was afraid of me and when I saw the fear and my son's eyes I remembered my own growing up in a physically and emotionally abusive household and every time I was slapped and every time I was kicked and every time I had been shoved into a wall I made myself a promise and it went like this I will never treat my children this way but there I was a born-again pastor's wife getting ready to slam my son against the wall and it broke me I had put him down on his bed I said Addison I'm so sorry I'm so sorry mommy scared you I went running downstairs and I hit the carpet and I wept until my entire being was empty I said God it's not the witches in Orlando God it's not the Apache God it could be the Sicilian but you're bigger than that God it's not my mother God it's not my father it's not John it's me I have a real problem with anger and I don't know how to be free wept and wept and then I heard the Spirit of God whisper to me and he said because you're no longer justifying this I'll take it out of your life you see what we justify we buy we say I have earned the right to be this way because of what was done to me how many times do we hear this and yes you can say that but what was done for you is greater than what was done to you and so I had a memory see my mother is the one who took out most of her anger on me she was married to an absent alcoholic adulterous husband and I acted more like my dad then I acted like my mom so I grew up hearing you're just like your father you're just like your father you're just like your father so when my dad didn't come home by a certain time she knew he was in the bars and I did everything I could to stay away from her because it meant that her anger would be taken out on me but she would always find me so there was one incident that I had hid away in my heart my mom became a Christian when I was in my teens and I became a Christian at 21 my mom came to me and she said will you forgive me I didn't raise you the way I wish I would have I didn't raise you the way I would have raised you if I had been a Christian and I said yeah I forgive you I forgive you but I hid one instant in my heart one I don't know I thought maybe it would keep me safe it was the only one that when I thought about I actually felt pain and I heard the Holy Spirit say call your mother and bring up that particular instance and I was like no no I'm not gonna I'm not gonna bring that up god I have a beautiful amazing husband I I totally have compassion for her now I should I should never have held that back and he said nope you need to call your mother so I called my mom and I'm weeping on the phone and I said mom I almost slammed Addyson into the wall and she's and then I said I need to ask you to forgive me for the one thing I never forgave you for and then she started crying and she said Lisa that's the one thing I've never been able to forgive myself for well there's a reason for that remember the parable of the wicked servant forgiving the unpayable debt goes out grabs the fellow servant pay me what you owe me I was like I understand that he almost just got in trouble but no that's not what God said the other servants reported it back to the king and what did the king do he takes the wicked servant and said I forgave you the unpayable debt and what does he do throws him into prison but the other one now was in torment and so I was tormented by the very thing I refuse to forgive in my mother so when I forgave my mother we together prayed broke the curse of abuse off of our family and I just remember it was just this beautiful healing the worst day of my life became this beautiful moment in my life and then John came home and I thought do I tell him because I did call one of my girlfriends and I said you can't believe I almost slammed Addyson into the wall today and she said what you did it she said I almost slammed my kids into the wall every day see I didn't need somebody that was gonna give me sympathy I needed accountability what does the book of James say book James says confess your sins one to another that you might be what healed see I was forgiven when I confessed it to God but I was healed when I confessed it to my mother and then I was made accountable when I told my husband what almost happened and John had no problems being my accountability partner because he had been on the other side of that anger I want to reach you from the book of Galatians galatians 5:16 and the heading in the ESV says keep in step with the spirit but I say to you but I say walk by the spirit and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh for the desires of the flesh are against the spirit and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh for these are opposed to each other to keep you from doing the things you want to do what did I want to do I wanted to be a better mother what did I want to do I wanted to be a loving wife but because I was living under the law of this was done to me therefore I can do this I was not living in the spirit justifying and blaming puts all of us back under the law he goes on to say but if you are led by the spirit you are not under the law now the works of the flesh are evident sexual immorality purity sexuality sensuality idolatry sorcery enmity strife jealousy fits of Rage there I was busted well this one's misfits bangers but NIV says fits erase rivalries dissensions divisions Envy drunkenness orgies and things like these and then he goes on to say I warn you as I warned you before that those who do such things the NIV says practice this another version says live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God see that was incredibly sobering for me but I want to unpack it because I know that we have all done thanks but is different to do something and another thing to have a practice of something see a doctor has a what practice every single day that's where he goes that's what he does that's living like this and that's living a life where we say it's okay to be like this because of the other people in my world and I'm watching what is happening with the men and the women in the world I'm watching the women begin to think it's okay to have a fit of rage it's okay to act disrespectful it's okay to have a mean spirit because of something that was done to us but this is what I have learned about the genders that what wounds one wounds the other and we cannot act like the world and point our fingers one to another because we are not going to be like Adam and Eve and blaming it was never the Adam and Eve were supposed to blame each other or shut down the voice of the woman it was the Adam and Eve should unite their voice and speak to the serpent and say God is good at it is written so I didn't want to live my life according to the flesh and then it goes on to say but the fruit of the Spirit is love joy peace patience kindness goodness faithfulness gentleness self-control against such things there is no law and those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires if we live by the spirit let us also keep in step with the spirit let us not become conceited provoking one another envying one another came home told John because see I knew I was forgiven I knew that I had been healed but I had a habit pattern and patterns of habit are incredibly strong see every time I was angry I was used to stomping around through the house I was used to slamming things one time and again this is before this happened one time John did something I don't even know what he did that I was really mad and I'm stomping around through the house we had just moved into our very first house and I was throwing stuff in the dryer and I thought I'm just gonna slam this dryer door shut and when I slammed it my husband was standing there he picked me up carried me out to the garage and locked me in the garage and he said you are staying out here until you calm down it had the exact opposite effect of calming me down I was furious I thought I cannot allow this man every time he thinks I'm mad put me in the garage so I began to look around the garage for something to break something of John's that would send a clear message don't mess with this woman but I couldn't find anything that I could break because I was too poor to replace it so I remembered that my husband did all the grilling so I picked up a hammer and I thought I'm just gonna put a dent in the lid of this grill and every time John goes to grill he'll say whoa that woman's strong and I reach back and I remember hearing the Holy Spirit say if you hit this grill it's gonna be you doing it it's not the witches it's not a demon it's you I hit the grill and I said I bind condemnation in the name of Jesus brought John out to the garage to see my handiwork he was not impressed so I had a habit pattern of pitching a fit so what I started to do is every single day when I woke up I would pray God put a watch over my mouth let me be slow to speak quick to listen slow to wrath see as a Sicilian I would tell my husband hey if you want to have passion in the bedroom you have to have things thrown at you in the kitchen it's just the package deal so I had made so many excuses I was quick to speak slow to listen quick to wrath because I was fiery in my blood so I had to stop allowing that to be my normal I'd say God show me what that looks like you know a lot of times when we talk about renewing our mind people think it's just memorizing and memorizing is great but I'm not that smart and so what I do is I read a scripture and then I meditate on it I say if I'm gonna be slow to speak what is that gonna look like I'm not again to count to 10 am I gonna stop thinking of my response while my husband's talking okay one of the best ways to do that is whenever my husband said something I actually set it back to him that way I was paying attention and then I sometimes I would say so is what you're saying and then I would say it he'd be like no no no that's not actually what I was saying I'd be like okay tell me what you're saying that was being quick to listen and slow to wrath what is wrath wrath is when you think you have the right to punish someone anger has three stages anger that's that's normal it's normal to be angry about stuff rage rage is like you just put a gun on the table says now we have a threat in the air wrath is shooting somebody again I'm sorry for the mafia correlations it's just my world but we need to actually stop things before they get out of hand and one of the other steps is I had to tell my husband I don't like it when you chase me around when I'm upset about something I need to have a little bit of space so that my idle word account doesn't get too high I need to be able to step back that's what anger does so that I can return God when he was mad he would turn his face away then he would turn his face back we got to get this stuff resolved because the wrath of a man or a woman never works the righteous purposes of God another key I had was if you want to be heard because a lot of times people get angry because they feel like they're not being heard have a really smart husband and I'd be talking and I could see he is preparing an argument like a lawyer while I'm just trying to talk but that would make me ramp it I start ramping and ramping stop it and then he just argument going higher coz John would go logical so what I had to learn is if I wanted to be heard I needed to say it the way I like to hear it I don't like to be yelled at I don't like to be threatened I don't like somebody being aggressive and we are in a day at a time but our voices need to be heard so we need to learn how to speak so we can be hurt in a nation such as this poised on a threshold watched by the world in so many ways you're a social experiment a beautiful melting pot so many people are watching so many people are thinking are you going to make it now I know I know in my spirit that John and I feel very attached to South Africa it's really interesting to me when I go to my audience number one is America number two is South Africa and so I know that our hearts are connected and our messages are connected to the soil I know pastor Andre has taken our resources and pastor Wilma has taken our resources and they have scattered it a seed into your lives and into the leadership and I am here to say to you don't you allow it to be downgraded to the anger of people don't allow judgment to come out of your mouth make sure you bless rather than curse that you do good rather than despitefully you go to those who have despitefully use and abuse you with a crowd like this just as in America there'd be people in here that grew up in similar circumstances to me maybe way worse there would also be mothers and fathers in here that found themselves on the edge and were afraid of what they thought they were potentially capable of there would also be parents here that went over the edge and they did things that they're so ashamed of so afraid that sometimes they'll even justify it I remember my mother used to always say I'm sorry I hit you but you made me so angry that's an apology and an apology is the defense of a behavior apologetics is the defense of Christianity we are not called to apologize we are called to confess and a confession is I'm sorry I was wrong here's what I love there's always new mercy there's always a new beginning there's always a fresh start there's always something that God can take and redeem it do you know my testimony by accident my son happened to see it on TV now I didn't do it two weeks afterwards it was probably five or six years later I had Christian television on my son walks into the room and he is watching the TV I'm out of the room I didn't even know I was going to be on TV that day and my son is listening to me tell the testimony of me almost slamming him into the wall not something I wanted him to hear and when I walk into the room panic hit me but my son turned and looked at me and he said I can't even picture you doing that that is the redemptive power of God so I want to do something I want to set something in motion I believe that I need a lot of mercy so I have learned to sew a lot of mercy I have learned to forgive people that have never asked for it I don't believe there's anything more supernatural that forgiving people who do not deserve it it is how we are the most christ-like when we say Father forgive them they didn't know what they were doing what a powerful message let's take a moment and just respond father in Jesus name we as radiant church ask that you would help us to walk in step with the Holy Spirit God we ask that anger would not mark us father we ask Lord that in our marriages Lord that we would be transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit into the image of Jesus God we ask as we parent as we serve as we lead Lord would we look like you we pray that these ideas that we've heard even some of these practical ones we ask Lord that we would be slow to speak god we pray that we'd be different as a result of what we've heard today can we apply it in our lives we pray for your help god we honor you and we love you in Jesus name Amen hey if you heard this message today or maybe you're just in a position in life where you're facing a new day you're looking at a world where things are challenging and you're saying I need God like never before doesn't matter what circumstances you're in or what you've done you can have relationship with God so I'd like to lead you in a prayer if that's you today and you'd like to begin your journey with God this isn't all that you need to say to God but this is the first thing and this will help you get started in your journey so just pray this prayer with me father in the name of Jesus I come before you and I give you my life change me make me a new creation I don't want to go my way I want to go yours give me a fresh start I choose to follow you come give me new life I want to spend eternity with you I choose to follow you save me in Jesus name and then if you prayed that prayer you have begun a new journey with Jesus and this is the best decision that you'll ever make I want to invite you though to take a step I want to invite you to get connected in relationship maybe even if you're willing let us send you some resources so depending on the platform that you're watching this on which you just comment direct message just let us know if you're watching on the website right there there's a place for you to tell us that you decided to follow Jesus and you can just hit that right there on the website and let us know that you have decided to follow Jesus we're committed to you to help you on your journey hey radiant let's take a moment and let's pray over our giving and let's give today father we thank you for the opportunity Lord to give so we give cheerfully we give blood ly we thank you Lord that you are using radiant church to make a difference in the lives of people here in our church in Kansas City in planting new churches in America and really all over the world and father we ask Lord Jesus that you would use what we give today to make a difference father we ask Lord Jesus in the middle of the season of unrest in our nation God we ask Lord Jesus that we could be a radiant light here in Kansas City Father we ask Lord Jesus that you would take what's given multiply it God let us do new things God let us make even a bigger difference here at Kansas City we want to plant more churches God as we prepared for kids to jump online from across the nation and maybe even across the world this month we pray that a hundreds Lord Jesus would join maybe thousands we pray that many would give their life to Jesus Lord and we've done this whole bold conference for free God we ask Lord Jesus take what we give and use it to make a difference we love you we honor you in Jesus name Amen you

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Length: 38min 9sec (2289 seconds)

Published: Sun Jun 07 2020