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because sometimes existing is exhausting. My name is Anthony Padilla and I spent a day with
people with Down syndrome. We'll hear how bullying and use of the R word
has impacted them to this day and how a drive to live fully enriched lives has resulted in independence,
romantic relationships, and even starring in a major feature film. By the end of this video, we'll find
out if living with this disorder has led them down a thriving path of love and self-acceptance
or if the harsh judgments and assumptions forced
upon them have broken their hearts and pushed them to feel
isolated from the rest of society. [music] Hello, Kennedy. Hi. [music] Matthew. Hello. [music] Zack. Hey. [music] Can you define what Down syndrome is? Down syndrome
is the most common genetic disorder. Down syndrome affects
the third copy of the 21st chromosome and affects 1 out of 700 babies. How does Down syndrome
affect you personally? For me,
it takes longer to to do and learn things. I work at a slower pace. People with Down syndrome
prefer to have more of a routine. What are some of the ways that Down syndrome has affected the way you look? Smaller bridge on the nose,
short neck, almond-shaped eyes, and a single crease in the palms. One crease right here instead of two? Yes. The cool thing is that these traits
help us identify each other. When you see someone
else that has these traits, do you feel like you're part
of a secret club with them? I think so. [chuckles] Since we wear our diagnosis on our face, people tend to have low expectations
until they get to fully know us. Do you remember when you first
discovered that you have Down syndrome? I was seven. My mom walked up to me and she said,
"You have Down syndrome." The first time but then in first grade,
I repeated first grade. My mom,
she told me before I was three years old. Do you remember what you thought when your mom told
you that you have Down syndrome? I was so scared. I was so anxious to have-- That I have Down syndrome. My mom just keeps saying
that word in my head. That gets me really uncomfortable. In middle school, I knew
I had Down syndrome but I didn't know how it truly affected
me until freshman year. I have a friend and I kept
talking to her in the hallway building everything
out on her and she helped me through. What do you think
is the most difficult thing for you to do in your daily life? To find better jobs. Most people doesn't feel
like to hire a Down syndrome person. Transportation. People with Down syndrome tend to rely on their caregivers for transportation. People with Down syndrome
have a slower mentality, so I don't want to risk in crashing. [music] Have you ever been bullied
for having Down syndrome? No. I think that's partially because I've been fully
included in the school system. They usually pick on me
and take off my glasses and stomp it in and just break it. They are not very nice people. "Shut up" or "retarded" and "oh, he's always wearing
a hearing aid or wearing glasses." For me, it eats my stomach
and they don't apologize to me. I was trying to be their friends
and they didn't go for respect. That must be heartbreaking. You were trying to be their friend and then they disrespected you like that. Yes. Did you try to report it? Did you try to do anything about it? I always go for teachers and principal and they did not solve the problem. They always have something [?] I don't get any of the respect from them at all. If they won't be your friends,
just do it without them. Just keep on going forward. You keep going forward toward a happy place, you don't get caught up in the past and your memories
and what things used to be like, you keep your sights forward? Oh, yes. How do you feel when people use the R word? It's really hurtful
because ever since I was in middle school always some people are bullying me,
they said, "You're retarded." "No, do not say the R word.
Change that to respect." I think that word is a no-go word. It basically implies
that people with any intellectual and developmental disability are stupid. The truth is that we and I are not stupid. Anja wants to know
how you feel about the assumption that people with
Down syndrome are always happy. We have the same emotions
and feelings as everyone else. We're happy, we're sad,
we're excited, we have our off days. I get sad, I get angry, I get mad,
and when I get hangry-- Because I eat. Did you ever feel like you had to try
to fit in with other neurotypical kids? At first, in freshman year, I felt isolated
and jealous of what everyone has. These people are just doing
stuff that I wish I could do. Pursuing a higher level
of education doing more, pursuing a career,
and I felt like I couldn't have that. Do you think
that you were jealous of the fact that people could do those things or do you think
that you are more jealous of the fact that those things seem
to come easier for other people? More naturally,
and it felt that I wanted to do more. I felt like I wanted to be like them. How has your perception of yourself
changed from when you were younger? Totally. Have confidence and plenty
of friends and they always support me. I have a very strong network
of friends with Down syndrome and a really good network
of friends that don't have disabilities. I have a very strong
commitment in wanting to do more. I always say that I want
to be a better person than I was the day before. How much independence
do you have in your daily life? I just do my own things. I make my own stuff like money. I made more money than my mom last year. How does that make you feel knowing that you made more money
than your mom last year? Freaking awesome. [laughter] My life is good because for me
I always have apartments. You live completely independently? Yes. How long you've had that apartment? 15 years. I do like living by myself. My middle brother and I just moved out on our own together in an apartment. I have now independence. Do you remember the feeling
of when you got those keys for the first time that this was your place? It felt awesome. It felt like a renewed person. It felt like I was Matthew 2.0. Matthew 2.0, what's up. [music] Some people might assume
that people with Down syndrome can't or don't have romantic relationships. Are you currently in a relationship? Yes. I want to live in Malibu
when I get married to my boyfriend and [?] because I need someone to live with. Who do you think that person might be? My boyfriend. [laughter] We started developing
the relationship in December of 2013 and I just loved her ever since. She and I have been doing a lot of stuff together to further our relationship,
in fact, it was actually her idea
and she wants to Dancing with the Stars. I was like "Wait a minute,
I can see myself doing that with you." The first day we got in,
we just learned the basics, and then she and I just fell
in love with it. We were addicted to ballroom
dancing and over a year later, we've done two showcases. I can't believe people underestimate you. I don't know anyone that could
ballroom dance, to be honest. I don't know anyone who can. [music] You said you want to have kids but then there's some things holding you up? I considered that in freshman year in high school
where you have to do that baby project and I regretted doing that. [laughter] It's just too much because the baby
would have Down syndrome because of our genetics including
our Down syndrome genetics pass down to the child
and they'll be the same deficit. It would be tough for you with limitations to help a child with limitations? Yes, and then I can't do that without adding stain to my parents. [music] What are some of your passions? Dancing [?] since I was five years old. I know how to learn to dance
a lot sometimes but it's really cool. Theater is part of my passion. To show the people just
how I would become a pretty good actor, I always go through that script, I always remember all the people's lines. You knew everyone's lines? Yes, everything. [laughs] You act like that's easy. You know that's not easy for people to do,
right? I know yes. If someone else forgot their line,
would you say, "I know it." I would say "Monkey uncle." I want to say, "Hey.
Hey, please don't do that." Then I would say, "Oh, I am a jerk." I was asking you what you would say
when they needed help, and you literally pulled
the line out from 20 years ago, and you said verbatim what you would say
to help them with their line. Why, because I always end up being-- I'm smart. I always keep on reading and reading,
I just got it. So humble, our humble king. Oh, yes, the humble king. [laughs] [music] You have multiple jobs, is that right? I'm an entrepreneur. I have a public speaking business. With that, I was able to do a TEDx Talk. The others are more part-time. I work out 321 Coffee, a coffee shop where individuals
with IDD run the coffee shop. We do everything. People with disabilities
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about the world of Down syndrome. I don't get a stutter at all. I always keep on reading my script. I want to let you in on a little secret. Come here. We have a couple other episodes
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so be quick and nimble, please. Now back to the world of Down syndrome. Do you feel like you are representing
the Down syndrome community
whenever you're out there entertaining, starring in a movie with A-list actors? Yes, I am. For me, it's about one thing. Be yourself. Does acting help or change you in any way? I would say about my acting, I don't get a stutter at all. I always keep on reading my script. You only stutter when you don't quite
know what you're going to say next and you're trying
to process the information, but when you know exactly
what you're going to say with a script, you can just say it straight through? Oh, yes. Juliet, Juliet, Juliet. My love. Juliet. My love. Is that the scene in Romeo
and Juliet where Romeo dies? Yes. I know everything about my lines. [music] What is it about having Down syndrome
that brings you the most joy? I just love myself because I want
to be a really cool independent woman. Sometimes I get pretty
happy when I'm different and I always say, I'm glad to be different. Down syndrome is a gift. It feels like an added part to my life. If there's anyone watching
who has Down syndrome and is struggling to fit
in or to be understood, is there anything
that you want to say to them? Be strong, be brave, and be fearless,
and be capable to be independent. You can do it. Talk to your parents and find
ways to help each other out. If you're an adult, advocate to your parents
that you want to do more stuff and that will prompt
your parents to give you or find any necessary resources. All right, you got five seconds to shout out or promote anything
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to watch Anthony Padilla. All of his videos are awesome. Well, there you have it. I spent a day with people with Down syndrome and I realized how much I could
learn about effortless self-compassion and focusing forward rather than focusing
on hurtful memories of the past. If we could find a way
to truly absorb these lessons, maybe we could experience
more of what life really has to offer. [music] My mom walked up to me and she said,
"You have Down syndrome." She just walked up to you and told you? Then I said, I was like, "Wow." Then the other time,
my mom knocked at my door and said, "Clean your room, Kennedy," and I said, "No, thanks,
I have Down syndrome." [laughter] You found a way to make
it a good excuse not to clean your room.
