How To Use The Law Of Attraction To MANIFEST ANYTHING In 2023 | Dr. Tara Swart Bieber

once you understand that you can literally change your brain at any stage any age any mindset it's life-changing isn't it and you do that through I think you gotta have a dream the school of greatness what is manifestation in your mind and how do you use neuroscience and neuroplasticity to manifest what we want yeah so I mean it's so aligned to a lot of things that you speak about because at its most basic manifestation is setting a goal and achieving it yes um or you know what I like to say is it's making into reality in in the tangible World your dreams and desires and I'm not the kind of person that you know always said I'd like to live forever or you know live till I'm super old or whatever but once I discovered neuroplasticity I thought I wish I'd known about this when I was 18. really you know it's literally life-changing I think I was naturally manifesting from about the age of 18 anyway but I didn't understand the science behind it once you understand that you can literally change your brain at any stage any age any mindset that's like it's life-changing isn't it and and I feel that you know one of the things we were sort of chatting about earlier is that just because I'm a scientist and an MD it doesn't mean that in my real life it's easy for me to just Channel neuroplasticity it's still it's still hard you know I've been through a divorce I've been through grief I've been through career change and those Hard Times taught me resilience and neuroplasticity but the hard times were almost the opportunity I didn't want to go through those things I don't want you know our listeners to go through hard times yeah pain but you can take that as an opportunity and I think if you really understand neuroplasticity then you can make the worst times in your life the start of the best time in your life and that's what I love about neuroplasticity that it's that ability to change to grow to regulate your emotions which I know you're really into and and build resilience I mean an example of neuroplasticity that I would share with with you with our listeners is gratitude lists so for years in my journaling I would write 10 things I'm grateful for every day and they were always external things friends family travel you know um Financial Freedom whatever and I literally just got bored of writing the same things so I thought okay what what else could I write so I started writing things like my creativity my vulnerability my resilience internal things and that was a real game changer really what happened when you started doing that it made me think that whatever life throws at me I've got the tools and resources within me to deal with it um and and I didn't always have you know in my 20s I wouldn't say I was very emotionally regulated but learning that whatever happens the sort of the pendulum swing for your emotions the higher it goes the lower it goes as well and and bringing that to like parameters that you're comfortable with is that gives you sort of autonomy and agency in life sure um and and again that's the thing I love about neuroplasticity I want to get to back to manifestation in a moment but you're talking about pain and grief and career you know changes and health challenges that come up for people if someone is going through a really hard time pain suffering their you know Health relationships breakups death anything how can they use neuroplasticity to make it the greatest thing that ever happened to them even if it's the most painful thing they've ever gone through that's um you know it's such a hard thing to answer because obviously people go through pain and sometimes the end result isn't good um but I think just doing what you can during the process so I think visualization is really really important we we know that that you know can actually cause cellular changes in your body really yeah so so first before you go further I've heard you talk about manifestation gratitude lists and visualization and you're starting to sound like the woo-woo self-help industry not a MIT uh Professor uh medical doctor scientist but what I'm hearing you say is that there's real benefits scientifically to these things yeah and I think when I wrote my book The Source which which sort of married together science and spirituality there was a risk element to that um a little bit like when I left medicine and started coaching and speaking I I look back and I can genuinely say to you Lewis that the biggest risk in my life would have been not leaving medicine and changing my career really not kind of merging the spirituality with the science those would have been the biggest risks like not not doing those things staying only in the science and in the medicine yeah why do you feel like you needed the merge both you mentioned that I'm sort of done with being defined my by my job titles and qualifications and that's a journey I've been on for quite a long time I would say pre-pandemic I had a conversation with someone at a dinner party where I said you know who am I if I'm not a doctor or a neuroscientist and she said to me because you're so much more and I just burst into tears wow so that Journey you know has been quite huge and um I would say that I'm I'm on a journey of continual reinvention and that neuroplasticity underlies that so the ability to to be someone new to be to be reborn but all absolutely based on absolutely based on science I know you know you were right to call me out and say it sounds a bit woo-woo um I mean what do your colleagues think about this when you speak about manifestation gratitude list visualization meditation when they're like well that's just some like personal development self-help talk you know where does the science prove and show evidence that these things are effective in fact I mean I think I think I would like to say to you and and and have you reply to is in that it's in the doing um so if I you know I've been doing what I call Action boards but they're like vision boards for like 50. it's not super woo-woo now you know dream boards the vision boards yeah I love this stuff I mean for me this is stuff that I love MIT you know you can't talk about those things can you and I think actually that's probably what my colleagues at MIT love about having me I don't look like an MIT Professor I don't dress like an MIT Professor I'm not afraid to speak about those things um if you challenge me I can always give you the science um you know one of the things that the the um Vice Dean I'll probably get his job title wrong but he's a very good friend of mine said to me after a few years was oh yeah the brain Body Connection really is a thing isn't it and I just find that so frustrating because it's so obviously is a thing and there's still this perception that there's a cut off at the neck that what goes on psychologically isn't related to your physiology you know um and and another neuro myth is that emotions are bad you know you shouldn't have emotions at work sure dysregulated emotions are not good but emotions are good we need them to survive um and being able to express them in a healthy way you know yeah the full range of emotions to have them to understand what they are to feel them to be able to name them yeah their signals everything yeah they give you information but you know another thing that gives you information is is your gut and that connection between the gut and the brain is we've known about it for a while you know sort of there's a big neural connection between your garden and the limbic part of your brain which is the emotional part of your brain but it's actually bi-directional so if you're stressed that has an impact on you or got it and you know if you're if you are malnourished or you eat processed food or you drink alcohol or you take antibiotics then the impact that that has on your gut then affects your brain and it's not just through nerves it's through chemical messaging it's through hormones it's through other nerves and the sort of you know the ones that we classically know connect the gut and the brain so that comes back to what I was saying about visualization having an impact on yourselves and your gut bacteria are very in integral to all the cells and the rest of your body so your immune system is connected to your gut and then that's connected to your mental state it's connected to your brain it's connected to your skin um and I like to speak in normal words but that is psycho neuro immunoendocrinology there you go so did you call it vision boards or did you call it something else I call them action boards action boards okay because I do not believe that you can create a fantasy of what you want your life to look like without action yeah I agree so what is the okay can you break down the signs for me a little bit on visualization and action boards how did these scientifically support you know is what's the evidence behind how they actually work with connecting the brain to getting the results you want in life so um you'll understand about mental rehearsal absolutely and biofeedback which is listening to messages from your body which we sort of touched on with the gut brain connection so if your brain has seen something or experienced it through mental rehearsal then when it comes across something similar in real life it's less threatening so uncertainty is the most threatening thing to your brain anything new is a huge threat to your brain which is kind of counter to neuroplasticity right because with neuroplasticity I make myself do something new every year so I've learned several languages really yeah how many languages do you know now um I've learned five in my life I'm not going to pretend um are you fluent in any yeah so I was very lucky I was brought up bilingual in English in an Indian language and then from the age of nine I learned French at school wow um and then as an adult I learned three other languages at different times um probably not so good at those as well um yeah so during the pandemic I I actually made a statement in the beginning which was don't necessarily put pressure on yourself to like start a new career or learn a language then it went on for longer than we all thought it would um so I was actually on an Instagram live saying that I'd always wanted to learn the piano and somebody sent me a DM and said Dr Tara you can use the flow key app to teach yourself piano Loki huh yeah um it's a really really cool app and I'd been gifted a piano keyboard for Christmas by my husband I am ashamed to say a year or two earlier and never used it um so in the pandemic I did I did use the Floki app and teach myself um now you know how to play piano yeah and um my husband gave me tennis lessons and then I thought okay if I can learn piano and I can learn tennis and I can see how much I improve and I can see the muscle memory from when I played tennis from when I was at High School can I apply that to looking at life through a happier lens so it's a natural default for all of us to you know loss aversion is one of the biggest gearings of the brain and is essential to survival lost aversion yeah so avoiding loss and uncertainty like I said we don't like that so we like things to be safe we like them to be the same you know we like to know what's going to happen and and equally we like you know the brain wants to look out for danger to protect us and during the pandemic I'd been speaking for a few years about having a sabbatical and a few people said to me oh now you can have a sabbatical and I said you know I'm locked up at home I can't travel I can't see my friends I can't hug my stepson it's not a sabbatical it's not the sabbatical I dreamed of and also the mental health requirements were so vast that I felt I had to do my piece and really you know speak to that through Instagram through zoom and try to help people so I was actually busier with work than ever before trying to help people yeah but I did start you know I saw a lot of relationship breakups I saw a lot of people get sick you know a lot of people that I personally knew died during the pandemic and it was easy to start to feel like to focus on things like you can't see people you can't travel and I didn't I didn't want to see myself go down that road so I actually I got a coach you know I believe in having therapy having coaching having supervision I love it um and I worked on on that and she actually said to me why can't you apply neuroplasticity to being happier and because it's intangible it's you know you can make a vision board with a house and you know a a dream holiday and vacation and all that for the material world exactly how do you create one for the emotional world I think there are and that's why imagery is important because it can evoke a feeling um but I remember the moment I was standing sort of at the door to my garden and a really small nice thing had happened and I thought isn't that lovely and and I I actually checked myself and I thought I notice when something goes wrong all the time I don't always acknowledge when something goes right or is really good and happy and so I could tell that I had I had changed that I was noticing those things you didn't notice that before I mean I'm sure I did sometimes with like big things but it was a little small just like oh this is a cool little moment yeah or a beautiful flower or you know somebody sent me a lovely message or I just feel happy today you weren't aware not as much interesting until when recently a couple years I would say during the pandemic wow and you know what happened to me during that time is I also naturally learned and then read the research which I always do that it's a thing um prior to that I was living my life you know 23 and a half hours a day and doing mindfulness for like half an hour a day or whatever and in the pandemic those things merged and they were never separate I stopped doing meditation formally I lived mindfully all day um you know I cooked mindfully because of my Indian culture we I always ate mindfully yeah but it kind of really leaked into the rest of my day I remember because I used to work from the kitchen and I had to move in the end but if you're sitting at your kitchen table your family don't think you're working even if you're on your laptop so you know I'd be in the middle of an email and my husband would come up and start talking to me and I'd sort of think like you know I was just focusing on this and you don't think I'm working because I'm sitting in the kitchen and then I was like well actually what's more important this email or giving my husband my full attention and so you know I sort of thought okay the email can wait I'll put it down I'll turn to him I'll give him full eye contact and I'll be really really genuinely fully interested in what whatever he's got to say that's beautiful and that was in the last couple years so the mental rehearsal I learned a lot I learned this in high school and in college I used to practice as an athlete I would rehearse okay the game coming up this weekend the game coming up tomorrow and I would be and I remember when I was learning the decathlon when I was a senior in college I decided to do the decathlon which is 10 events so I had to learn a lot of new events quickly and I was an athlete so I could pick things up but there was very technical things with pole vault is extremely challenging and I remember watching this highlight video of the top pole vault athletes in the world at the time this was back in 2005. and I would watch this tape on repeat like an hour before I go to sleep every night and imagine myself and then actually practicing it in bed as I'd watch it myself doing the move like putting the pole in going upside down inverting and flipping over as they were doing it I would try to visually mentally rehearse myself being that person going over the bar going over the bar with this technique and then the next day I would go practice what I was rehearsing in my mind than I before and I saw incredible results from the mental rehearsal because it just allowed me to get familiar with what was unfamiliar at the time in my mind like you talked about and that's something I've implemented in the business world and in life is using that but what is the research show on why this is so powerful beyond what I've seen personally from my own results but why is mental rehearsal powerful and attracting what you want so the first thing I'd like to say is that I really admire that dedication of doing it for an hour a day every night you know that's the difference between people who say I want to I want to get X or do X but they won't spend an hour a day doing it and that was just an hour day rehearsing it I know I wasn't actually practicing implementing it then I'd get up at six a.m and train for a few hours yeah and I think you know it's really important to say that I was on an Instagram live with a friend who you know owns a huge shoe Empire and said that at some point on her vision board she wanted a house in the Hamptons and there were so many comments that came up saying yeah I'd like a house in the Hamptons but the thing is you've got to put in the work to earn the money to get the house and Hamptons it's not you know sort of it doesn't come so so basically believing that something's possible or having had an experience of of doing that thing or even imagining that thing um makes it more possible in your brain so there are amazing studies um I I literally don't know where to start I think I'll probably start with the most exciting one which is that if you do weight lifting and you separate people into two groups so the group that actually lift weights and the research study was on finger weights and elbow weights um I won't get the percentages exactly right but with um two weeks of doing these weights I was like a 30 to 40 increase in muscle mass with the you know the finger or the elbow but there was a group of people who only imagined lifting weights come on what happened about a 15 increase in muscle mass no way they imagined that they were lifting yes were they actually like squeezing their muscles they just thought they were lifting yeah without moving yep and their muscles grew yeah come on really that's crazy about research um wow study is quoted in my online program at MIT Sloan wow um so I can't like recall it the actual like name of the study but we can find out and put it in the show notes it's crazy yeah there was a there was another one that um something similar where they had people I can't remember exactly the the layout of the study but they had two different types of groups of people one group practice free throws like 100 shots a day or something like this trying to get like improve their percentage their free throw percentage and then they added others uh just imagine that they were making it and something crazy like the ones that just imagined that they made the perfect shot every time had like the same amount of improvement or more or something like that where they were mentally rehearsing in their mind not actually physically doing it and they had some crazy results similar to that but it's fascinating but when you can couple both of them if you're lifting I can imagine and you're imagining and putting the intention so strongly into okay I'm lifting this weight my muscles are getting stronger they're getting bigger and you're putting the emphasis as opposed to just going through the motions this probably has an even more powerful effect as well yeah so you're absolutely right that was a really great Point um to raise which is the sort of the intentionality of what you do so you can do the same thing like okay so intermittent fasting is a great example there's a huge difference between between people who say oh I forget to eat breakfast and people who eat like me which is only between 12 noon and 8 PM every day because of the intention it actually has a different effect on your body yeah it's like your body's like burning more because you're intentionally doing that or you're losing my weight or something I won't go so far as to say it's burning more or you're losing more weight but there's so again in Neuroscience there's a difference between um intentional mind wandering and just slipping off into daydreaming and so if you slip off into daydreaming that means your attention isn't the best and it's actually kind of a bad sign in terms of your focus and your concentration but if you intentionally let your mind wander then actually that leads to more creative thinking I call that strategic messing up messing around yeah yeah you're like strategically not working on something and you're just kind of daydreaming you're thinking you're pink playful in your mind about possibilities yeah and um great things usually tend to happen exactly when you give yourself the space for that as opposed to I'm just going to scroll on Instagram or just mindlessly do some activity or even do an activity and try to do too much like multi-task so for example a lot of people when they go for a walk or listen to a podcast um because of the science I try to never multitask so if I'm listening to your podcast which obviously I do all the time then that's all I'm doing if I'm going for a walk I'm not listening to a podcast at the same time no and I also do doing nothing and that is not going for a walk or listening to a podcast or scrolling on Instagram it's actually doing nothing sitting not turn the TV on it's sitting and doing nothing yeah what does that do for you um so it can be partly mind wandering you know leading to that creative sort of more creative thinking it's it's being Lewis and like we're not doing that and I think you know the thing that's not doing being yeah and during the pandemic but also since and I think there's such a unknown huge consequence of what we've all been through mentally that I just I see people they don't like themselves they don't like what they're doing they maybe even don't like their partner and they don't think that they can change and that's why I'm so passionate about neuroplasticity and mind over matter and you know when I was telling you about the weightlifting then you went into your story I was just looking at you and smiling and thinking can you see now why I'm so obsessed with you know like it's I know that those people can change I've I've done it myself it's I haven't just done the research or read the research or taught about it I've done it many many times in my life and so I know that people can do it and I that's what I really want people to to hear and you know you you you talk about greatness I don't think people understand how great they are and neuroplasticity basically tells you that you're you're amazing your brain is amazing what it can do you are not doing a tiny percentage of what your brain can do right um I've got so many other stories I want to like loop back yeah so um a group of people in their 80s so there was one group that just lived their life like normal they were the control group there was one group that were moved to retrofitted homes that looked like their homes did 20 years ago so when they were in their 60s they had photographs of themselves when they were 60 in the house they read newspapers from 20 years ago and so by the end of one week you're not like you're literally I can't wait to hear like how you react to this they were taller come on no way they had better musculoskeletal coordination wow they in before and after photos that were shown to people that didn't know them they were rated as younger in the after photos um so The Talk The tallness is to do with posture rather than yeah yeah like growing taller but um just like the way that you hold yourself because you believe that you're younger and there was a third group that were the reminiscing group so they didn't live in retrofitted homes we stayed in the same home stayed in the same home but they thought about being 20 years younger and they also got improvements not as much WoW I believe it you know there's uh my mom she and I'm gonna butcher this birthdays were never a thing of mine so I've never really paid attention to age um she just turned 70. I can't remember it was a year ago or two years ago but I think it was two years ago with the pandemic I think it was two years ago my mom and I were like why don't you say every year moving forward that you're a year back now so this year she's 68 I think yes I love it I'm saying she's 68 yeah she's saying she's 67. and there's probably some psychological emotional and you know neuroplastic connection to it as well just like saying no I am younger and just believing it living it stepping into that as opposed to oh I'm getting a year older and older it's probably something too then yeah based on This research study it sounds like there is and you know I do it too so I'm not going to tell you how old I am but it's like getting that's getting serious um but from when I was 30 I started to reverse aging diet um and it's not really a diet it's just a way of life so you know it's basically healthy eating and I don't eat smoked food I stopped eating smoked salmon um luckily Sushi exists yeah um and yeah I just I I sort of don't think about the number that my age is at all and um if I dare to tell you how old I was then I think you would be surprised you look very young thank you you look like you're 30 something you know you're 30 still thank you yeah you're definitely my new best friend it's interesting I saw this video clip of Jamie Foxx recently online where someone was interviewing him and they were like it doesn't look like you've aged in 20 years she was like I'm looking at photos of you from this movie 20 years ago you look almost the same how do you do it and his response was you know something about being in this industry where I'm in this imagination world this playful Make-Believe get out of myself and step into different characters he's like we're constantly playing you're you're you're playing constantly you get to be silly and goofy and and um you know try new things and he goes I think that's part of it I feel like I've never gotten older because I'm always acting young and you know I think I think what you do leaks into the rest of your life and has a huge impact on you I interviewed Professor amishija for my online she's awesome yeah Peak mind yeah yeah pink mind um she I love her research on the U.S Marines and mindfulness and so I'd followed that research for a long time and I reached out to her I think just through Linkedin or I found her like an academic email address and she started replying and like sending me hearts and I love hearts and flowers so um I was like wow I'm like so grateful that she wants to be like on my program and she was sort of saying the same to me like of course I would want to be on your program I love your research too when I interviewed her the way that she was so um the attention that she gave me when I spoke with her and then the way that she flipped into recording mode when I asked her a question I just looked at her and I thought if that is what decades of research on attention gives you I would like a piece of that sure um but I would say my version of the answer to Jamie Foxx is what what I say to people who say you know how how do you stay young how do you say looking young you know they want to like do that I say do all the things that I speak about sleep eat hydrate oxygenate you know but don't stress about it because it's the stress that will kill you and Aid you in the end really yeah stress about what specifically anything aging live you know just being stressed because being stressed so a big area of research for me is mental resilience being stressed is pro-inflammatory in your system and if you've got inflammation it's aging it makes you sick it's you know bad for your gut it's bad for your brain so basically living an anti-inflammatory kind of kind of Lifestyle yeah is important and stress causes inflammation is that right yeah yeah and what we saw during the pandemic was um because it was chronic stress on a scale that pretty much no one that's alive now has has been through before you know it's it's similar to the world wars in terms of the stress the impact that it had on people and we're quite good at dealing with acute stress you know we were wired to deal with running away from a saber-toothed tiger or um but this chronic stress it was pro-inflammatory and it made our systems really dry so people had frizzy hair they had skin problems and what was super interesting to me as well in terms of neural wiring is that the wiring that's placed you know into your brain from childhood is obviously the deepest and the strongest or often unconscious of it because it's been there for so long and there's research called ghosts in the Executive Suite or ghosts and family systems that looks at things like values roles that you play boundaries secrets and the family expectations um who you identify with and Boundary issues became a really big thing during the pandemic people don't have boundaries well we were we were restricted we were told not to go outside not to mingle with people they had certain boundaries but then they also didn't yeah yeah when you didn't have privacy in your own home I guess right exactly you're on Space um and your skin is the physical boundary of your body obviously but it's also psychologically very related to boundary transgressions interesting oh my gosh it's so fascinating saying this because about two years ago I was in a different relationship and I started to get this like kind of skin rash right here like a little bit like a little patch of like this redness right here and then I started to also get it right below my belly button like it's kind of like red ration I'm thinking like something wrong with me do I have some like disease or something and after I ended this relationship literally that week it went away so I was in this relationship that was it was a challenge for me and a lot of it was based on my values I was abandoning myself and my boundaries were being crossed almost daily and I kept giving in to try to create a peaceful relationship but then me giving in to myself was crossing my own boundaries was abandoning my values right to make someone happy and so and I and I started to do a lot of healing and therapy after the during and after this and I was like man this is going away and she's like well you're reclaiming yourself you know you're you're creating your boundaries again and you're not letting someone walk over your boundaries and you're not abandoning yourself so it's like my skin because I did all the tests I did like every allergy test no allergies no nothing I go what is this like little rash thing I go what's going on you know I cut out Foods I was like sleeping the right amount all these things but it was like the skin still had this irritation I don't wear creams I don't have anything like change the shampoos all that stuff and it was my internal psyche emotions that was screaming at me it was literally like screaming stress and inflammation yeah and it was fascinating to see it go into I guess remission or just leave my body as I started to create more peace inside of myself it's fascinating and you know just going back to what you said about as a scientist as a professor at MIT how do people view the fact that you know you talk about spirituality I talk about spirituality or the thing about that is if I was your coach and I would have known that was psychological straight away right um and so looking at a person holistically is important um and that's why I'm very lucky that I have the privilege of having a PhD in neuroscience and an MD from Oxford that I can say those things um because because you studied medicine you studied the body you studied all these different things and you know there's loads of people out there saying great things but they can be slammed down as woo-woo really easily but it's harder to do that to me because you know the science too yeah and and I know the science and I've implemented it in my life and I have so many stories of people that I know that I've worked with that I could share with you you know who've changed career changed relationship change where they live um you know made the things that they want happen in their life come true and so I'm going to go back to another give it to me um you'll know their story probably but you know Roger Bannister was the first person that um ran a mile in under eight minutes four minutes four four minutes um once he did it several people then did it in the next few months just because they knew it was possible because we thought it was impossible before that right and so what I sort of say to people is if you are embarking on something new think about your own past successes the chances are you've done something similar before so then you can tell your brain okay I am afraid of this or I am you know not sure that I can do this but I've done it before if you haven't yourself done whatever it is that you want to do find somebody preferably like you or just somebody that has done that thing before and tell your brain that it's possible Right and then there's two other layers the science behind you know sort of that maximizes that I would say and one is your negative self-talk so you know the inevitable voice in your head that might say who do you think you are do you really think you can do that you can't do that you know that's for other people that's not for you what happens to the body in the brain when you put those thoughts in your inside and you say those things to yourself um it's basically your brain's protective mechanism you know your brain wants you to survive until you reproduce it doesn't care about anything else your brain isn't here to make you thrive it's literally here for you to pass your genes up um so and and in cave times that helped us to survive as a species in modern times it's it's no longer helpful and that's why we talk about positive affirmations and you know you might again say that's that sounds woo-woo but in in Buddhism they say replace any negative thought immediately with a positive thought and the neuroplasticity says the same thing because neuroplasticity is amazing but it can be bad if you have a breakup and you obsess about the person you're wiring that deeply into your brain um so you have to direct your neuroplasticity and if you do get that voice in your head which is normal for all of us you need to you know override that with um a positive statement so what what I say to people information and positive stuff yeah and you know we could do this together so if you have a recurring doubt or negative thought then go one step below that and ask yourself what the belief is that's driving that thought what do you believe about yourself you know you've mentioned today and I've heard you speak about this before about being abandoned um and that usually relates to deserving love um so you could create a positive statement that is the opposite of the belief that drives that negative thought and keep saying that to yourself until the road in your brain for that belief becomes stronger than the one that's been wired in since you're a kid what if someone's like okay I can say this but I don't believe it because it hasn't happened yet and essentially I'm lying to myself like you know so how does someone believe it even though it hasn't happened yet so I don't love the statement fake it till you make it I don't like it either but I will like face it till you make it I like that too I would say um believe it until you are it you know that's kind of what neuroplasticity would say so with with neuroplasticity it's psychological work right but it's actually not it's actually physiological work and so I work with a lot of guys in financial services who you know emotional intelligence is a big thing that we need to work on and I've had you know these people who are very very successful genuinely be so frustrated I don't understand like what am I supposed to do people say I'm not nice to them you know um what what am I actually supposed to do so this is what I say to them imagine you imagine a field of grass and on day one you walk through the field and the grass is high and you know you're sort of flattening as you walk and then you walk there every day until you've trodden a little path into the grass and then you keep walking there until it becomes like a muddy path then you might lay some paving stones um and then you build a proper path that's what you're doing in your brain when you change any behavior and I remember when I learned Danish which was super hard yeah um and I you know I've mentioned to you that I prefer to eat healthily but I was literally taking like a can of Coke or like a bag of maltesers to the Danish lessons and it was 90 minutes and by about an hour I would feel so tired and so hungry exhausting it's exhausting yeah I'm learning Spanish right now and I'm trying to change my language around it being exhausting yeah and being hard yeah because I think the more I say that it's going to continue to reinforce that it's exhausting and challenging so I've been trying the last few months to say you know what this is a fun experience you know this is an experiment it's it's challenging but it's a good challenge and I'm learning every time it's hard for me and it's trying to add a positive reinforcement as opposed to is hard because I I it's it has been challenging up until now yeah to learn Spanish fluently and I also think I have this huge expectation like I'm going to be able to speak like a native uh you know Mexican speaker but um and I think sometimes we forget how far we've come you know yeah acknowledging that is so important yeah can I give you a bit of inspiration give it to me so search of lessons I then went to Denmark for some holidays and I came back and had a lesson and at some point she said okay great you know see we're done for now see you next week and I was like was that 90 minutes and so basically the 90 minutes have got I hadn't got hungry I hadn't got tired I'd got through the lesson and I realized I've gone past that Tipping Point of neuroplasticity you're at the point where you're digging for gold and you you'd like to give up and you just have to get past that point I think I've been there for like a year but you know if you think about I'm genuinely sure this will help you going forward and please let me know if it does if you think about it like building that pathway building that brick wall like that then you know you sort of acknowledging that it's physical work sometimes takes away that frustration that you think you should just be getting it and you're not because I don't think you would blame yourself in the same way if it was like a sport no exactly right but it's like a physical workout yeah why does it seem like a physical workout when you're just thinking something and speaking and listen because it is physical work you're you're building a pathway in your brain you're not just thinking thinking doesn't happen without neuronal connections so you're You Know You're Building sign up you're connecting neurons through synapses your myelinating Pathways you know all this stuff um and so what does that do to the body when you're doing that to the brain it's the same as doing a workout it's using up glucose yeah which makes you hungry or tired or whatever it might be and frustrated at points as well you know because because once you've made enough synapses and connections and maybe myelinated the pathway so there's three physiological aspects to neuroplasticity myelination is literally just making a pathway a faster faster pathway so for example we have myelinated Pathways to snatch our hand out of fire but we have non-myelinated Pathways for pain because if you immediately you know felt the pain you wouldn't be able to remove yourself from the danger and the most com what you're doing in your brain now with Spanish is you're connecting up neurons that already exist through synapses so you're making a new pathway for Spanish um judging by how hard you're finding it it's possible that you are in the memory centers of your brain actually inducing neurogenesis which is embryonic cells becoming fully formed neurons and then connecting up through synapses with established neurons and then maybe getting myelinated okay um what does that mean it's that's really hard work so in the adult brain so you know children can learn like five languages at the same time you know from a young age um and if you do have kids and you want to bring them up I want to definitely do that for sure yeah yeah so you have to have a different parent speaking a different language or a different you know a grandparent too interesting nanny or whatever so that they understand Daddy's English mummy Spanish interesting um so otherwise they muddle up the words and that can be that's interesting so yeah so kids can do that easily because they've got lots of embryonic neurons that you know in the first two years of life it's amazing they go from being completely helpless to walking talking um for us it's harder but it's possible right and neurogenesis which is literally embryonic cells becoming neurons may not be happening that much in the adult brain but the synaptic connection is happening a lot what's interesting I've never felt like I've had a good memory when it comes to books like things I'm really in school I think it's because school was so challenging and I always the belief was I was tested poorly and so I just reaffirmed that I wasn't good at it right um based on the way that that school was created for for us but in sports I could remember really well right so I could remember other things or if I'd meet someone and they told me some weird thing about them like I would remember this right and I could remember 10 years later something like that so when it was more physical and active I felt like I had an incredible muscle memory right and I felt like I had incredible wisdom but I didn't feel like I was smart I feel like I understood people but I couldn't remember something I read in a in a page two seconds ago yeah like I'd have to repeat reading something over and over again to be like what just happened what did I just read I couldn't comprehend words but I could connect with people and emotions and you know movement and things like that so I'm trying to figure out what's that way to learn Spanish through that way or anything new because I think one of the greatest Parts about life especially uh you know after childhood is like creating new adventures and not staying stuck in the same routine but having new experiences new adventures and learning new things I love that you like to learn something new every year I think that's secret to keeping you young and Youthful and looking 31 you know thank you um so two things I'd like to raise about that one is that you've obviously done the work and become very successful but there are a lot of people who would be stuck in that I'm not smart and I was stuck in I'm not creative till I was 35 starting to give the numbers Away lyrics like two years ago um so I was told at high school because I wasn't good at art that I wasn't creative and I completely believed that I wasn't creative I didn't think I could do anything but be a doctor for the rest of my life and through a series of events um you know which even probably I am not aware of the complexity of I woke up one morning and I thought I never chose to be a doctor my parents told me to be a doctor yeah I was told at school I was smart I was so smart that I didn't just do an MD I did a PhD as well and I said to myself that morning if I'm so effing smart what do I actually want to do with my life yeah um and so you know that was the start of my life and and in within a short period of that I realized I'm creative I you know I might not be able to do a good painting although I actually can now um so the belief you know also changed me I started doing more art and stuff as well but you know I created a business I created you new life I created a home I when I do my cooking I'm creative um I've even you know I mean there was a time that I looked in the mirror I had this narrative I'm not a writer I'm not an author because my PhD was so traumatic writing it was like really what the worst like thing in my life um and I looked in the mirror and I was like Tara you've got a best-selling award-winning book that's translated into 38 languages you are a writer no it's crazy right um so so there's that whole narrative that even you and I have got things in our head which are like I'm not smart I'm not creative so you know think about people that haven't had the opportunities that we've had or who don't know about neuroplasticity that's that's why it's you know my passion and my heart because I just believe that that's such a key to unlocking things for so many people yeah um and I think I have forgotten that the other thing I was going to say I said two things right so one was The Narrative about not believing that you were smart I think the other one you know was this sort of understanding neuroplasticity to to become things that you maybe think you are sure so what is happening when we are in the field in our mind and the grass we start walking in with the grass and then we start putting you know then it's muddy then you put stones down and then you have a paved Road what is happening to your brain when you start to learn something new that is challenging and you get to a level of Mastery or close to Mastery on this what is happening to the brain what is happening to the body and everything else so what's happening to the brain is that you had a pathway that was established either from childhood or later in life and the Brain is obviously a small percentage of your your body weight um like two to five percent for most you know generally but it's a very energy hungry organ so it's using up 20 to 30 percent of what you eat wow wow and again it looks yeah and so you know I think you know having been a sports man you would think about what should I eat so I can have big muscles or you know what should I eat to have lovely skin or whatever but actually you should be thinking what should I eat so I can make the best decision today wow interesting um so when you're asleep your brain is using up 20 of the glucose that you have ingested that day when you are focused on a task it's using up 25 of your dietary intake when you're stressed it's using up to 30 so you know in terms of you know I sort of like to live in a brain first kind of way because if you're doing that everything else is going to fall into place your cardiovascular system your gut um so you know hydrating foods good fats all that kind of thing is is going to feed your brain and so you know what's happening in your brain and body is that you are creating the pathway that dirt road into the paved Road that should become the default pathway for your brain so your brain is going to go down the most energy efficient route because that's that's easiest and what it knows and what it likes and it's using up less glucose so what you have to do is build the pathway so that it's so strong that it's stronger than the pathway that's been there since childhood how do you do that okay you're not going to do that with Spanish because you're never going to be better at Spanish than you are English right but in terms of things like emotional regulation if you were the person and there's so many people like this who would cry and yell and slam the door and walk out and then come back you can actually change that you can become somebody who's got good boundaries who's got self-worth who feels that they deserve love um and you do that through neuroplasticity and building the pathway giving yourself the examples and acting like that in life until you do believe it um and just going back to the two things I remembered what the other one was which is what I have found personally is that when you have no choice but to do the thing that you have to do you do it so I would say I would ask you have you gone to a Spanish-speaking country on your own to a village where nobody speaks English because I really did I've been I mean I have been on my own in Mexico recently where when my girlfriend speaks Spanish and so I'm like I practice with her but this is the thing when I go to Mexico with her she's a crutch for me yeah right because I'm like I gotta order this thing and then I'm just like I just want the chicken and vegetables can you let us and and there was some days where I was alone because she was off working and I was like okay this is an opportunity for me to practice to mess up to be embarrassed you know and be okay with it and just and by doing it I felt like I was getting way better because I was forced to practice and try and ask questions and and listen intently and not just speak in English and translate it exactly it's powerful I mean at your age you will always the way that your brain will speak Spanish is to translate it from English so there's three types of being bilingual um and one is you know if you're bilingual from the time that you start speaking and one is if you learn it so for me the Indian language in English and then the second one is a language that you learn as a child but you're not you already speak another language so that's French for me and then my adult languages and um so I learned Afrikaans when I was about 25 which is like Dutch um and then danish when I was a bit older and I was saying to my friend who's a professor of Neuroscience in London but when I tried to recall a Danish word and I'm struggling to recall it I always think of the Afrikaans word but never the French or the Indian and he said isn't that fascinating that your adult languages are stored in a different part of your brain and you know so for a neuroscientist to understand that my adult languages are stored in a different part of my brain to my childhood languages that that's you know at a certain point with Danish I reached that Tipping Point where I wasn't tired and hungry from you know trying to do it Emma I'm going to admit um that I then gave up Danish I was like but I've I've changed my brain yeah and that's actually what I wanted that's why I was doing it sure um so yeah and with so many things in life like you know when I gave up the regular paycheck of being a doctor in the NHS a lot of people said to me you could just go and do a Locum for one weekend and you'd be able to pay your rent and your bills a what for a weekend a local means when you just do like a temp temporary job you know you just go and like Sub in for a weekend or a day sure yeah at night um for me that failure because it was going backward and I had to force myself to make the new business work you had to burn the boats yeah you had to burn the ship that got you there so you couldn't go back into the old you know the land and that's not for everyone I'm not saying that if you want to start up your own business that you shouldn't have another job on the side but for me I had to I had to burn my back I was talking to I was watching this Ted Talk recently of a guy who was teaching about how to be fluent in a new language as an adult and why it's so challenging and things like that and he said listen the reason why most people fail is because they keep speaking their native language so frequently and they you take a 50-minute class three times a week you're not going to become fluent and he's like the only way that I was able to do it and he's like I tried this for years and all these things until I finally went into a program where I think it was three months something like that where you get kicked out if you speak any other word other than the language you're trying to learn yeah and he was he's like if you say a word in English at all you're gone so it's like total focus on okay I just need to learn how to survive yeah yeah and this is not even allowed and if I'm doing this for three and he was like I was completely fluent in three months or something quick like this three maybe six months but it was like a full immersion program you can't translate anything maybe the teacher is able to but you're not allowed to say anything in your language and he was like it's because I was forced like you were saying to go to this other country essentially by myself I had to learn how to survive and it was faster because I couldn't just go back to the place where I was comfortable so uh I don't know I haven't had the time to do that yet but I still need to use my language but yeah um but I'm sure it'd be it's amazing what the brain can do under these types of conditions I'm assuming yeah and none of us want to go through hardship we don't want to see the people that we love and care about go through hardship but it can be taken as an amazing opportunity um and even with the hardest thing that I've ever gone through in my life that there has to be an opportunity that comes out of it otherwise it was for nothing right what is the thing you're learning this year what's the new thing so I think a person 's journey and I want to do some different things with work so you know I was a I I had a break and it's so tempting to go back to doing the keynote speeches and taking on the high net worth clients and you know I've been tempted I have sort of like done a little experiment and gone down a keynote and you know sort of met a new coaching client but I think this you know belief that I had for a long time that I'm not creative it's really important for me now at this stage of my life to to live that dream and be the creative person I've always wanted to be um so I've actually co-written a song with my colleagues in a music studio yeah look at you look at you and the CEO of the business said to me you know I need you to sign a document because you're a songwriter now and that was like I never ever thought I would hear those words you know when you go to medical school when you're 18 and the Arts are not in your cards yeah and you know I get why and I'm very very grateful for my education but my parents were immigrants from India to England and they wanted me to get an education and be professional I'd never had the luxury of being creative or doing sport you know I I was like always in my sports clothes once I was an adult but that wasn't something that was valued by my parents so it wasn't a big thing for me at school um at high school so yeah art creativity sport I'm the trustee of a charity for gynecological cancers that's you know again something that I sort of thought that you know you have to be a very privileged person to be able to to do that so yeah I think this constant journey of reinvention of really being like the maximum that I can be and in my book The Source I talk about the six ways of thinking which are logical emotional in intuition physicality creativity and motivation you know trying to have trying to build all of those Pathways in my brain and not and I I think it really comes back to like where we started with you saying about the wuru which is that my logical pathway is well built I don't need to build that pathway anymore you've got that um but you know I really want to explore I have worked very hard on emotional regulation myself but um you know and I think my motivation is good but it's kind of you know having a strong work ethic was still a part of being a doctor and being a scientist and so really taking the opportunity now to not do the things I could easily do that would like make lots of money for my business but do finding creativity yeah things you love yeah what was the biggest challenge for you the biggest trigger for you that you had to learn how to overcome and emotionally regulate was it that you would get frustrated or angry or triggered in certain ways by things in life or was there another trigger that kind of blocked you emotionally I would say two things so I'd say one was being overly defined by my job title that was your identity yeah um and you know because I went the system is a little bit different in the UK so at the age of 18 I went to medical school so my whole adult life I was this medical student or a doctor and you know it was sort of you'd call up and you'd say oh I'm you know I'm Dr houses you know Junior I'm the junior doctor belonging to him kind of you know you were it was almost like you weren't a person um wow then I think the other thing is probably quite similar to yours which is like fear of Abandonment um so just the way that you behave emotionally if you believe that you might be abandoned wow that's a huge thing to wow yeah when did you start to become aware of these things and start to kind of rewire your brain yeah and and regulate your emotions so they connected I would say mid-30s a couple years ago are you doing that to sort of like flatter me or to make me give away how long ago um you look in your 30s though you look young thank you so yeah I mean sort of my my life changed a lot around that time in that I got divorced and I changed career at the same time right so it was a big transition it was a big transition I had already become very interested in spirituality and read a lot of like jungian psychology and Buddhist Buddhism and things like that um and sort of mental training books but I'd read them but not done the work if you know what I mean you understood them but you didn't understand that exactly um you didn't experience them no and I I remember a point being like at the place that you had to sign the document for your divorce and I mean I'm still very good friends with my ex-husband he was he was with me but I remember just thinking I have to dredge to the bottom of the barrel to get a piece of resilience to even like go through this next 10 minutes and it was after that that I started you know changing my gratitude list to things like my resilience and my creativity and so that point of hardship definitely taught me a lot and something I'd like to share actually which I experienced during the the lockdowns was that all the work that I had done since then came to help me and serve me when I needed it so what I learned was that even if life is fine you're plain sailing you're happy everything's okay keep doing that work because when you need it then it'll be there it's so true I'm in uh you know every two weeks I meet with my therapist coach and uh well that's pretty good right now I feel a lot of peace I'm not liking breakdown I don't feel like I'm there's definitely challenges I need to overcome consistently but it's not affecting me emotionally where it's like exhausting me right every day there's a challenge in business but I'm not taking it personally I'm not like affected by it you know I'm gonna I might be frustrated or disappointed for a few moments than I get back into my mission but the reason why I continue to do therapy when things are good is because I'm like I want to have this for if there's some big breakdown that I need to be ready for yeah so I think it's important to be practicing when things are good totally rehearsing when they're good to stay good yeah and I think a lot you know I felt like the pandemic I was going through more personal relationship challenges during the pandemic but I feel like the pandemic itself kind of like the economic breakdown and all these different things that were happening I felt like I was training and preparing for because in 2008 I had nothing when the economy crashed in 2008 in the U.S um and I felt like I was not prepared and so I told myself when this happens again in life no matter what it is I don't know what it's going to be yeah I'm going to be financially prepared mentally prepared like have my life in order and so I felt like okay let's go it's time to like use what I've learned for the last whatever 12 years to put into practice I still haven't figured out the relationships out of things but everything else I was like ready for so this is fascinating stuff I'm curious on action boards mental rehearsal visualization gratitude lists practicing just manifestation in general which of these do you feel like is most crucial for someone to start implementing right now okay so there's there's crucial and then I would say impactful so they could be different so if there's one thing that somebody listens to this podcast and goes away and does in the next two days I would say an action board really yeah what would they put on this action board so I prefer to do it by hand you know create a collage you can do it on you know digitally but I think if you've never done one before it's really good to do it by hand and to look through magazines and the reason I say that is that if you go online to look for images that you want you're limiting yourself to what your brain knows it wants if you are open discovering yes yeah then you might be drawn to an image that you wouldn't have thought of um I actually leave quite a lot of space on mine because I like to leave room for magic like I manifestation is so incredible once you go go down that road and backed by the science that you start you just almost start to think be careful what you wish for because it's yeah it's gonna happen yeah and um I don't like to limit myself to only things I can consciously think of so I like to leave it a bit open as well um so when after I got divorced I basically became a workaholic and my vision boards were all about business and travel and money and I got to the point where I admitted to myself I'm using work to run away from letting my heart ever get broken again and so in 2015 I made a vision board that was business and travel and money with a tiny heart on it you know not really kind of yeah and you know had another successful year and I was still you know single um so for 2016 I thought okay let if I believe in this stuff let's see if I can really do this so December 2015 I looked through magazines and newspapers and I found a picture of a massive engagement ring and I put it on the top left corner of my action board I saw an advert that said Joy comes out of the blue and I didn't know why but I just liked it so I put that in the center so there were some other things there but they were sort of like house things and travel and um so February 2016 I met the person that was going to become my husband on a plane Joy comes out of the blue wow cheers and we were engaged six months later oh my gosh wow so that was that was a big one for me you you asked like what's been what you know what's been the biggest challenge in terms of emotional triggers I think getting to the point where I remember thinking to myself this person could break my heart and I never thought I would let that happen again but I'm so proud that I did wow that's beautiful so where does the science from action boards to actually manifesting these things on the board when you discover something in a magazine and you see it and you cut it out and you put it up on a board and you have this Design This map of a future thing that you want to create for yourself where's the science say that this actually works and it's not just woo-woo yeah so to you obviously I believe further than that that it should be in like a place other people can see it because a lot of people gather the images but don't stick them down or they hide it you know inside their wardrobe or somewhere and I believe that equates to believe to not believing that you deserve those things so when I had actual amounts of money on mine it was in my bathroom so anybody that came to my apartment and used the bathroom would see it and wow yeah obviously you know only people that I knew were coming into my apartment but still it had a natural amount of money on it it's very unenglished to talk about how much money you want to earn um so it was the boldness of that and it was repeatedly looking at it obviously has an imprint on your brain so there's something in your brain called value tagging which is how your brain prioritizes what's important um so today if you were to read the LA Times you would receive more information than somebody would receive in their lifetime 100 years ago so we are bombarded overly bombarded with data and so the brain naturally filters out things that aren't important to us like you're not aware of the clothes on your body um so and again the brain is wired for survival so I thought you know it'll prioritize things that are important to your survival and it does that in a warm and a cold way so it does it both emotionally and logically so if you repeatedly expose your brain to the images of the things that you want you are more likely to notice things that are related to that in your day-to-day life but because they're more likely to be things that will make you thrive you might not have noticed them if you weren't intentionally repeatedly exposing yourself to that visual imagery on the negative side of that another demonstration of neuroplasticity is that people who repeatedly looked at images of the Twin Towers falling in night in 911 who had no personal connection to New York didn't lose a loved one or you know anybody that they knew could get PTSD just by repeatedly looking at those images yeah so the power both for good and bad of neuroplasticity is is that you know is that huge so if you Channel it proactively for the things that you want then you're more likely to both notice and grasp the opportunities that come up in your life interesting yeah do you do one once a year or twice a year how often do you do it once a year once a year and do you pretty much manifest and attract everything on that action board every year or are they so big sometimes they're like uh I don't know sometimes under orange so sometimes it's not everything doesn't happen in that year um it happens and I'm you know I do remember in 2015 the same professor of Neuroscience that um talked about my adult language is he said well you said you were going to find husband number two this year and you haven't but it just leaked into early 2016. and I think when my when my book came out the managing director of penguin Random House in the UK gave this amazing speech and he said you know the only thing that's left on her vision board is um Netflix and I remember going like this because I was so embarrassed that he told everybody that I wanted to do a TV show and so that's 2019 when my book came out in the UK um and now it's 2022 but you know this year I'm working on a TV show that is amazing patience is important too you know yeah like even with a language there's that kind of hard part you know when you feel like giving up and so with something bigger like maybe having a TV show or you know I'm launching my podcast it might take a few years it might take you but that year you're setting an attention you're starting to walk over the grass you're starting to lay the pathways uh in different areas of life to to make it available for you is that right by having that clear intention yeah and so so again in the book I write about um abundance so that's overriding the negative thinking manifestation which is bringing into reality the things that you desire patience is part of it Harmony and um Universal connection a part of it so it can't be something that's like bad for other people sure um and then magnetic desire is probably the most important part which is what is that it's basically the emotional intensity so neuroplasticity is grown through repetition and emotional intensity so if you know sort of even a traumatic situation can Bond people right we know about that so it's a similar version of that which is that your your emotional intent is so strong and so aligned and your motivation is so strong that you don't give up that's magnetic desire yeah that's what I called it because it's basically emotional intensity it's about scientific speaking so it's it's connecting the emotional desire internally to the the idea of something of having something or wanting something or creating something yeah and what rehearsing that desire and rehearsing that kind of emotional intensity thinking about it is that what it is so I'd say the final piece is create the action board look at it daily because that's all the value tugging and the selective filtering of data and then the final piece is and feeling the experience of it's happening it's already happened exactly there's something to that you know and this goes back to gratitude I just feel like because I'm a grateful person all day I mean I guess I have challenging moments but I mean I'm intentionally in the morning in the evening and throughout the day speaking of gratitude to others and to myself and I think because of that more good things continue to come into my life they just happen and now I'm I'm actively working to make them happen but I'm also actively grateful for what I have and I will think about with the mental rehearsal I think is really powerful when I would do this I would imagine how I would celebrate when I would win right or I would imagine how I would react when I'd go over the bar at a new height in the in the pole vault I would imagine like how I'm going to compose myself as if it already happened so I would rehearse these these feelings and emotions Amy Cuddy talks about this as well I'm not sure if you're familiar with Amy Cuddy's work but she you know really talks about the body positioning and also the body posturing and imagining yourself in these these moments being this certain way and I think that's really important to do is to feel the feeling of gratitude that the thing you want is here and what is that feeling start experiencing it consistently it's because you're going to start to magnetize that thing to you I think it's really powerful um interestingly a friend sent me um on Instagram a thing that was exactly about that which is basically the things that you want will already start being grateful for them is exactly what you've just said I I just absolutely loved it as well what how does that connect to the science um so what I was thinking as you were speaking was that it was similar similar to that you know coaching that I did for happiness or you know gratitude is that you notice the good things more so noticing it is basically reinforcing to your brain that these good things can happen and so sometimes now I actually do my action board on Pinterest and what I do is I when I manifest something I move it to a separate section called manifested so that I'm actually seeing but you know I'm checking these things off because that makes me more likely to believe that I can tick up the bigger things that might take longer oh it's cool yeah so it's basically just reinforcing to your brain that good things happen that you can achieve the things that you wanted and it's that self-belief isn't it that if I've achieved that then I can achieve the next thing the action boards I love it manifestation gratitude list visualization action boards and the action board is to create the action board look at it daily and then the third thing was to feel the feelings as if that thing is already here now well I feel like we've made up a new thing which is better which has be great at it it's definitely it's hard existing yeah it's here yeah being grateful feeling the feeling and then being being grateful that it has happened right and I think it's hard to attract and manifest what you want if you're not already grateful for where you're at with what you have currently you may not be satisfied with your life but you got to find the things you're grateful for why would life bring more goodness into your life if you're not grateful for what you're currently having right so the Gratitude I think is is key if you're ungrateful that you're not accomplishing this every day that you don't have the house or the car whatever it is you're trying to have I don't think it's going to come faster no and remember you know that what we talked about loss of aversion or loss avoidance is that the natural gearing of your brain is to focus on the things that you don't have so overriding that is a really really healthy and powerful thing to do in modern life because it's more likely to make you get the things yeah um because we're trying to thrive not just survive right this is powerful what else do we need to know anything else any other interesting facts you'd think would be powerful for us this has been inspiring so far but is there anything else you think we should share I think this team we'll have to do another part in the future um I want people to follow you they can get the book which is on your website or on Amazon or anywhere you want to get your books um that's called The Source I think it's really powerful I think you guys should check that out you've also got a new podcast called reinvent yourself with Dr Tara and it's a deep dive into your message on self-actualization and transformation so it's you working with neuroplasticity and working with other celebrities and Executives and everyday individuals on how they can improve as well so very excited about that Tara swart.com uh Tara swart on Instagram Twitter and all these different places on Instagram on Instagram Dr Tara Stewart not the titles meaning thing anymore but you know Dr Thomas taken let's see in here um this is powerful anything else we can do to be of support to you today besides checking these things out oh that's oh that's kind um you know just being with you is really a dream country it's something that I've manifested and I definitely change my language around it from I can't believe I'm going to be on Liz's podcast too I'm so grateful I'm going to be on this podcast and so that's a little example of um of you know that in action and I think I do think of myself as like on a continual journey of reinvention based on neuroplasticity and I am so grateful that that's literally now my podcast from my TV show and my work yeah it's amazing well when's the TV show coming out is that and now since I can't say it can't say yeah check you out on social media we'll see what we'll follow along there yeah you'll be the first um just a question I ask everyone towards the end called the three truths so imagine you've accomplished everything on every action board for the rest of your life right and you have lived the life of your dreams it's all happened but for whatever reason it's the last day and you've got to take all of your message and your work and your knowledge with you to the next place so we don't have access to anything that you've shared before your book this interview it's all gone for whatever reason but you get to leave behind three truths to the world three things you know to be true or lessons you would share with the world and this is all we would have to remember you by what would those three truths be for you the first one jumps to mind immediately is you are so much more amazing and powerful than you believe you are um the second one would be about sort of resilience and internal tools that that's that you know who you are inside and what resources you have gained through wisdom are more important than any qualification or job title or a lot of money [Music] um and then one thing I've you know I've been following your podcast and I know the particular message that you are trying to point out about romantic love but I would say that love true love like living with love as your primary motivator um is the most important thing yeah beautiful well Dr Tara I want to acknowledge you for the incredible transformation you've had you know you you went into your life with your parents wanting you to be a certain thing and you did it to the Perfection I'm assuming of what they wanted you to be the standard and then some right um and you had lots of different challenges that you've overcome but you keep Reinventing yourself to learn new things to tap into your creativity and to be more expressive which I think is a beautiful thing so I really acknowledge you for not being stuck in a box that you felt like you were supposed to be in transforming even at the young age of 37. and and overcoming a lot of personal challenges as well in your life you know you've gone through a lot of personal loss and grief and challenges and and it's hard to leave an identity as a doctor as a you know Professor all these different things it's hard to have these big titles and say I'm going to walk away and and do something to try to reach more people so I really am inspired by your work your message and how you keep showing up to be of service so so thank you so much for your gift final question what's your definition of greatness neuroplasticity totally I mean it is it literally is the definition of greatness which is that you have the power at any age at any stage with any mindset to change to train your brain and become you know everything that you want to be that's greatness and it's in it's in everyone yeah there you go Dr Tom thank you so much appreciate it we've got to allow our kids to say I am feeling depressed the other day someone said how do I help my child not be a professor of depression and it was quite an interesting way of phrasing it and my response to that was well help them process it if they're a professor depression what can you learn from them if they if you feel that they are so good at depression there is that's a symptom or a signal

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Length: 83min 53sec (5033 seconds)

Published: Wed Oct 05 2022